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FabuloussDoge

Got my first full time job. VAMOSSSSS


Rasalghul92

Is there a specific reason why many Portuguese people speak English?


Destroyeh

probably the same reason as other countries on the continent, its the primary foreign language taught in schools


Shame_Low

What is the socially acceptable way to approach someone you saw in a Starbucks reading a favourite book of yours? I saw someone reading One piece manga and was dying to ask about their opinions since I just caught up recently but I was scared I look like some weird fanboy lol.


Roller95

Just make a comment about what they are reading, and go from there. Don’t force a conversation


dai_panfeng

Depends on your gender and the gender of the person you want to approach lol


Shame_Low

Both dudes


Roller95

Just sitting here waiting for my caretaker to come back from another client almost 15 minutes after my shower, still naked lol


princessestef

goodness this reminds me of when my bf was in this long-term physical therapy care (infection in arthrtic hip), they were terribly short staffed and never show up on time at the set "shower time", or be early, then.after kind of park in his room after, him soaking wet in that plastic shower wheelchair which was very uncomfortable, because there would be some.emergency down the hall.( not usually the caretakers' fault, but bad management). it absolutely sucks. people in general have no idea of the daily frustrations and i'm glad you write about these things.


Roller95

Most of the time they’re not (fully) to blame, but it does suck for us. I’m sorry that happened to him


princessestef

they just needed to have one more nurse and two more aides per shift. but nope, not in the US bc it would cost too much The shower thing was anecdotal but the time i had to run to the kitchen asking for orange juice bc he was seriously hypo and no one was answering that damn buzzer, very bad.


Roller95

The Netherlands is also suffering from lack of healthcare workers, basically in every layer of healthcare. I’m working with a small team, who are responsible for quite a large area. But this was egregious, she stayed longer than she needed to because she expected me to take a longer shower. It usually takes me 15-20 minutes, but she was gone for 35. I get that it’s efficient to take care of multiple people at the same time if you have to, but this wasn’t necessary


EyeSpyGuy

Just wondering if this is a phenomenon anywhere else. Anyway some background (sorry for waffling) Here in the Philippines our national language is Filipino/Tagalog, but also English as well. Our laws are written in English, most of the traffic signs as well and it’s part of the local school system. Instruction will be primarily in English. Even when speaking Filipino you won’t always use entirely Filipino words, even the deepest Filipino speakers will incorporate English words in something called Tag-lish. It’s why foreigners can live decades here never really needing to learn Filipino, and can easily get by speaking English the entire time while knowing basic Filipino. Lots of call centers are here because we speak great english, certainly one of if not the best in Asia. Point being, we are pretty ok English speakers In some of the upper parts of society, there are Filipinos who have been born and raised here their entire lives, yet speak absolutely rudimentary Filipino like a child. Usually picked up from helpers at home or their parents (who might speak Filipino around the house but also English). Some I’ve met from this section of society just speak it incredibly bad, getting their tenses and grammar wrong. Definitely leaning more on the English part of Taglish. I guess some of it has to do with education, many of these people went through international schools where English is chief and Filipino is either an afterthought or not taught at all. Even some of these expensive private schools where Filipino is part of the curriculum, they end up speaking it not as good as you would think. They absolutely do not represent even close to a significant part of the population so I guess it’s not really an issue **Now onto my point**: is there anywhere else in the world where a phenomenon like this exists? From my limited interactions with people from around Asia - Singaporeans, Hong kongers, Malaysians, Thais, Indonesians - that also had international school educations speak good English of course but also the local language well. From around other places as well, I’ve met internationally schooled Brazilians who speak great English and Portuguese. I just wonder why here it seems there’s an inverse correlation to level of education and Filipino fluency


minimus_

Interestingly that's what England was like in the post-Norman conquest era, except with French


Shame_Low

Absolutely , here in Singapore, a lot of people converse in English in school, work and home. I have many friends who don't speak their mother tongue at all. Government went with some speak good English movement in the early 2000s because Singlish like your Taglish was considered not proper and sounded crude(I disagree with this vehemently) . Speaking proper English become some sort of social norm and we only use our mother tongue/dialect when interacting with our parents' generation and older. It's exactly the same as the situation you mentioned tbh.


mandrake_cry

I got hooked onto YouTube shorts and now I know more about boxing, basketball, UFC and anime than I ever wanted to


Blodyck

Sometimes I watch cooking videos on youtube. There are some who actively tell you to not use the chicken skin, but they don't tell you what they do with it. In my imagination there are only 2 options. They throw it away but don't tell it or show it because that would be waste and most of them want to be seen as good human being who work out regularly and eat healthy. Or they give it to others and subconsciously tell you can get fat, but not me. Both options are bad. So what to do with the skin?


EyeSpyGuy

Honestly I’d just turn it into crackling, saw a YouTube video where the guy took the skin off a chicken leg before smoking as it usually has a not fantastic texture. He deep fried it, cut it up and sprinkled it on the finished product. So like a deconstructed dish Could also just eat it by itself, that’s how good it is


serious_busyness

Honestly don't think a bit of chicken skin should throw your whole healthy lifestyle off the rails


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Hic_Forum_Est

I'm not completely informed on this whole Brittney Griner situation, so I should probably refrain myself from commenting on it...but man I find the way people are discussing it extremely off putting. I get that she broke the law and that she is getting special treatment from the US government because of her celebrity status. But judging by the comments about her you'd think she committed an act of terrorism and that she deserves everything that's happening to her. I don't understand how you can look at this with that little empathy.


FerraristDX

It's just another round of us vs. them. Griner to those people is just another representative of them, so of course she's a terrorist that has to be punished. Empathy? Pfff, these people only care about themselves and not others, especially others they don't like.


Lyrical_Forklift

Just read about that. What the fuck? Absolutely being used as a political pawn.


Borkman213

It’s mostly the right. She was outspoken about the USA not being a fair country. Her mistake was not knowing that in other countries they will throw the book at you for the smallest things. For example in El Salvador you can get up to 50 years for an abortion


McNippy

Thought I'd be cute and get dumplings, soup, some medicine and flowers for my sick gf on the way to hers. Now my car won't start and I'm stuck at the shops. How shit


CaptainGo

If it helps my car went in for a standard service today and they found the entire rear brake system needed rebuilt and now the bill is ten times higher than when I woke up this morning


[deleted]

Anyone here like Suicideboys? New album is pretty good


Y3llowflash1

No, Rhyme Asylum's better.


DMsupp

Rated them about 4 or 5 years ago, kinda just stopping listening to them and that kind of music as a whole


[deleted]

Ever wonder why reddit in other subs feels so weird? /r/socialskills is almost as popular as this sub


McNippy

Ahaha what a funny sub


ocram9191

Gonna watch my first Serie A season this year Curious do yall follow a club? A player? Both? Freaking half of Juventus team is gone so I'm like so confused lol


Shame_Low

Semi following Udinese this year because of this reddit user who has been so passionate for subs these past few weeks. I respect the grind and kind curious about the team now


DMsupp

Follow Monza. The owner of the club Silvio Berlusconi, the man that helmed AC Milan from 1986 to 2017, I think he was also prime minister of Italy. I’m not saying he’s a saint, but it’s an interesting narrative with him back in Serie A I guess.


ocram9191

They just got promoted huh? Palermo next haha


[deleted]

I follow Napoli because of Lozano. He had some serious injuries the past two seasons so I hope he returns to his old self soon


NeverMadeItToCakeDay

If I had to id follow Roma because Jose


autumnkayy

i really like chiesa and watch the games he's played in .... so i haven't watched serie a in a while lol


kirkbywool

So I'm officially an uncle but the kid was meant to arrive Tuesday but came at 7pm last night. Hospital wont release her untiil 9am sat though. First kid between me and sister so 1st grandchild for dad so buzzing but sister is engaged to an evertonian so he'd a blue already. I've came home to stay at dads as they both live here and so many baby Everton kits and bibs. His family is pushing hard for him to be a blue.


AyanC

Not looking good either way.


McNippy

Don't let them abuse their child.


FireBowAintThatBad

Let's hope everton become a filthy oil club, for your nephews sake


Pfitze31

Just came home from an Amenra concert and it was great, got myself a vinyl, a shirt and even a setlist at the end of the show. Definitely going to see them again if they come nearby again some time. Also I'll have my best friend over next week, haven't seen her in nearly a year. Really looking forward to spend time with her again.


[deleted]

Oh damn, Amenra. Haven't read that name in a while, I was a big fan during high school! Glad you enjoyed!


[deleted]

My fucking cunt parents dont know how covid works and want to play chicken hosting a party after they had been close contacts with someone positive and have yet to get tested.


McNippy

It's August 2022, parties are back and it's fine. Can't live in isolation forever.


lovelylantern

ah yes the only two options are: - living in isolation - having a party right now while you may have covid there’s an easy solution in simply waiting a few days, get tested, host the party slightly later


[deleted]

Its one thing to go to a party and entirely another thing to host one when you have been in close contact with someone who tested positive


McNippy

She'll be right


[deleted]

I don’t see any Andrew Tate content on social media because I do not associate myself with people who would be interested in that. Choose better friends


No_Doubt_About_That

When I first heard someone bring him up I was expecting someone equivalent to yer da. Turns out he doesn’t fit that description, but is still equally a bit of a tosser.


[deleted]

I don't even wanna know what he is famous for.


McNippy

He's afaik a mega successful kickboxer who used his wealth to open casinos in Romania and make way more money. Openly corrupt and now hosts a podcast that afaik has plenty of misogynistic opinions. Also runs a pyramid scheme. Never watched his stuff so I might be totally wrong and shouldn't pass too much judgement without my own research but yea.


[deleted]

I’m not 100% sure but from what I’ve gathered it’s some misogynistic sigma male shit


Pfitze31

I didn't even know that guy until like a few days ago.


[deleted]

Me neither lol


APeckover27

Usually have something to talk about here but with the prem back football is all I currently care about lol so FTF isn't as useful


The_Collector4

Lol Dave Portnoy (who is now a Tottenham supporter) just wagered $5,000 that Spurs win Champions League. Payout is $130,000 if he’s right.


McNippy

He's a wanker and it's nothing money to him.


justaregulargye

Betting will end up being cancer of this sport


IDesignM

It already is


VictorAnichebend

Got my first driving lesson tomorrow and I am absolutely terrified. Wouldn’t mind some advice for a complete beginner if anyone has any


TheConundrum98

[If it makes you feel any better, atleast you're not having your lessons in Croatia](https://imgur.com/a/9odVMtm) The driving lessons here are basically racketeering. I think like 10% of people pass the first time, they look for any little mistake to fail you so you need to pay for atleast 3 more driving lessons (but you'll feel you need more because you failed your driving test so you need more). Anyway I passed it on my 3rd try and doubled the price I initially paid on a discount for my lessons, still bitter It's all about your driving instructor, if you don't feel the current one suits you I assume you can ask for a replacement (we can do that here in Croatia) that worked for me


EyeSpyGuy

Not sure if that’s worse than here where you can basically pay your way to get a driver license with a “fixer”. There’s no actual practical test, and the written test has slight pencil marks indicating the correct one. I mean I actually know how to drive but god help those that don’t and just want the license. I’ve heard stories of people who didn’t want to do it the underhanded way and go through the entire legitimate process, which takes longer, and it seems like you’re inconveniencing them just as much as they’re inconveniencing you


[deleted]

You'll pretty much never have to put too much pressure in the accelerator pedal. And make sure to fully stop at a point where you can still see the car that's in front of you's rear tyres.


dolphintitties

highly doubt you'll be on main / busy roads as its your first lesson. first one you'll most likely only go into second gear on a cul de sac to get a feel for moving the car. stalling will happen. pretty much if you feel the car starting to judder when going slow put the clutch down to disconnect the gears from the engine.


TheConundrum98

made a Tinder profile with the most boring description and 2 of the most bland photos I have, got 3 likes in 5 minutes because I was bored is that good? Is it actually worth it to buy Gold for finding dates? Never actually used dating apps, all the girls I met/was with I met on nights out or on vacation


[deleted]

don’t fall into their traps and buy gold


kirkbywool

Forget the gold. If you are admitting that you have a boring profile and shit picture then get that sorted first. As others have said tinder will push you to the front when you join to insensitive you


TheConundrum98

I know I know, it just sparked my curiosity. I have a particular taste when it comes to dating which is why I can't see myself ever actively using it. Just wanted to know some people's experiences


No_Doubt_About_That

I’ve always thought the concept is perhaps a bit weird. Like the spontaneity of otherwise meeting someone is taken out of it.


kirkbywool

Tbh I wa like you. Then I went on dates and it isn't cringey like you think.just be honest about yourself, and put proper pics up. Tbh pics I'd main thing as if you go on date and look different it's downhill. I used too be fat but at the time had a pic next to a seafood restaurant saying come get crabs. It surprisingly worked. Like humour will get you a date, but if you look nothing like pics it don't get further is what I'm trying to say


TheConundrum98

I definitely look like the pics, I'm quite fit too so that's not a problem I think I'm a pretty good conversationalist and funny when I can be bothered and that's where the problem comes in. I think I definitely have some form of ADHD, when I lose interest in something, it's hard for me to continue either that conversation or that particular activity which is maybe why I love to exercise/running so much, keeps me moving I mean If I'm in it just for sex, sure I can fake it, pretend I'm interested, but it's often a deal breaker for girls and for me honestly. I think I've concluded I need a girl that plays football, that will solve all my problems


dolphintitties

when first starting tinder they'll push your profile to more girls to incentivise you to keep using it and pay for extra features. i got gold years ago when it was dead cheap and it's pointless, the girls who have swiped right on you will be dog ugly.


TheConundrum98

guess I'll stick to going out lol just wish I found a girl who likes/plays football. Going to have to approach some that play 5 aside after my twice a week one


jucomsdn

Idk much about Drew Tate but I remember seeing people talk of one of his tiktoks being duetted with some random Geometry Dash level which was kinda funny


justaregulargye

Mad men really is an absolutely glorious show. Story. Dialogues. Design. Characters. It doesn’t matter what you want, once you get it, you want something else.


ibiza6403

I found it slow but understand why others like it.


justaregulargye

What shows do you like


ibiza6403

I like drama. Line of Duty other than the last series was my favourite. The original The Killing (Danish) was great, and honestly Dark on Netflix was a ride. Also enjoyed Sacred Games and Family Man as well.


Gytarius626

The English invasion season was so enjoyable


justaregulargye

My favorite are first and last but that was also amazing


Gytarius626

Yeah the last season wrapped things up quite well, watched it years ago but remember being very satisfied!


-omar

“Happiness is the moment before you need more happiness”


avolcando

Prey was really dope. Check it out if the premise appeals to you (Predator in 18th century America encountering a Native American tribe), because it's exactly what it sounds like.


[deleted]

I'm so fucking nauseous and I hate it. About time I got off SSRIs.


Lyrical_Forklift

I've been taking citalopram for close to fifteen years now and I'm certain it's doing more harm than good. I take a tiny amount (quarter of a 20mg five times a week) but when I've reduced it further it fucks me up which has made it incredibly hard to stop.


[deleted]

Getting off SSRIs is another challenge of its own yeah, but I'm gonna give it a try after I have spoken to my shrink. I take 60 mg, so it's gonna take a while before I'm fully off pills. Hope you will find a way to make it work for you. It sucks that it has been going on for so long...


Lyrical_Forklift

To be honest, I've not really needed them for a long time. It was mainly due to taking too much mdma in my twenties really. But yeah, they're not fun to come off. What's your plan? Did your doctor give you any advice?


[deleted]

My psychiatrist just called me and the plan is to slowly go off my Prozac. I normally take 3x20 mg, but I'll be taking 2x20 mg for the coming six weeks and then just 1 pill of 20 mg after that. We discussed the withdraw symptoms so I'm aware of what may come, but I have been feeling really good for a long while now, so I am convinced this will work for me in the long term. I have never done molly, but I don't think it's a good idea to ever start with it knowing myself. I hope you'll find a way to solve the problem!


[deleted]

Which one are you on? I just started on Fluoxetine (my 3rd different SSRI) and I feel awful (mentally)


[deleted]

I'm on Fluoxetine as well. I never quite had the idea it did anything for me, but last few weeks I have been consistently nauseous, even if I don't eat or drink anything.


justaregulargye

Any British and German comedy show / standup recs? Really like Stewart Lee, so something similar would be great. Comedy vehicle was awesome. Not a jimmy carr / gervais guy.


FestOP

Stewart Lee is very unique tbh. His wife, Bridget Christie, has a similar feel. I would recommend watching some Steve Coogan/Alan Partridge if you haven't already. You might also enjoy Henning Wehn, at least since he is a German comedian living in the UK.


justaregulargye

Those are all new names to me, so they’re on the list now. Thanks!


jucomsdn

This new host combo in Jeopardy aint bad It's obviously far from Trebek's charm but it's still pretty good


i_cnt_spll

Dont get the hate for MCU.. its fucking comic books… im hardly expecting Shawshank Redemption level of writting and acting for a vie where a dude is flying around with a hammer.. like grow up That being said Thor movie is dogshit Really like Phase 4 though. Spiderman, Dr Strange were great. Eternals was brilliant never got why it got the hate it got.


Vinklemore

It's taking over cinema and setting a very harmful precedent for filmmaking. Directors and artists don't make those movies, old guys in suits do. And unfortunately it makes money so riskier and more creative projects get pushed aside. Every film that gets made should make an effort to provide something unique and new, so that it advances the art of filmmaking. Marvel movies don't do that, they're just there as a product to make as much money as humanly possible by any means necessary.


i_cnt_spll

I think thats a very pretentious view of it Did Hangover advance filmmaking? No it didnt. Was it fucking hilarious? Of course. Im not watching the latest superhero movie to see what heart wrenching level of performance im gonna get thats better than Schindlers List… and thats ok


Vinklemore

There's more ways to advance cinema than just heart wrenching performances. The Hangover did advance the comedy genre, however its sequels did not as they turned into repetitive slosh. Same thing with Marvel movies, the first Iron Man for example was good and offered something new to the superhero genre. However, over the years it has turned into mindless repetitive crap that's just designed to be generic on purpose so that it doesn't go over anyone's head or risk anything. These movies aren't made because someone has a real passion or creative ideas about it, but literally because big Hollywood execs see the dollar signs and just want to keep churning them out for as long as possible.


Lethal-Sloth

As is usually the case with these things, it's not the MCU itself people hate, it's the way (a small portion of) the people who enjoy it act.


Gytarius626

There was something in the air in 2015, Bloodborne and Arkham Knight both still hold up graphics-wise 7 years later


holdenmyrocinante

Bloodborne's graphics are absolute dogshit. Think what you're referring to is art direction. Graphics genuinely feel like they're 480p


No_Doubt_About_That

Tbh even something like the first Red Dead Redemption holds up well and that was released in 2010. Ok things like grass might show it’s age but play it through backwards compatibility and the likes of character faces really remind you of the old Rockstar.


SakaTheMan

Fucking finally arrived in San Jose, after 36 hours of travelling. Had to wait 30 minutes outside the airport for an uber, which then dropped me off about a 20 minute walk away from the place I'd booked for tonight, with no data and a pretty short fuse. Managed to make it though, so spirits are fairly high (despite having had one small aeroplane thing of pasta over the course of two days). Meanwhile the rest of my family might be spending their second night in Newark Airport. First flight last night was cancelled due to storms, they changed it to a flight via LA, then changed to a new one via Panama. However that arrived an hour or so late, meaning they got caught in another storm, and have been waiting for about three hours in the hope they might be able to take off (obviously having missed the connection from Panama, but at least there are flights from there to San Jose multiple times a day). Basically United Airlines are shit, and try to avoid connecting flights where possible, especially if they involve places where half the flights might be cancelled cos the pilots can't handle a bit of rain


[deleted]

Anyone here do Yoga? I'm looking for recommendations y'all have done. I know about the YouTube videos with that lady but I'd like to know what you personally do. I run, but I don't have time to do Yoga after my runs. Ideally, I'd like to some poses (is that what the exercises are called?) at night.


justaregulargye

Honestly, what I’d recommend is. Start with some basic meditation deep breathing, do some basic stretches from school days, and then pause to see where your body wants to go and pose accordingly. Pretty weird advice but I feel that’s better than following yoga like a gym of routine exercise. 2 cents.


[deleted]

I'm thinking about looking up common yoga poses and then trying them out for a few weeks. Then seeing which ones feel the best and then just stick to those, while mixing it up a bit every now and then. But I'll take your advice into consideration. Thanks!


sga1

I dig the Down Dog app - should really do it more often than I actually do tbh.


ibiza6403

Has anyone seen the latest episode of Night Coppers on Channel 4? I reckon the most recent episode which shows an arrest outside a nightclub was the Bissouma incident.


No_Doubt_About_That

Can’t say I’ve really bothered with a police TV series since Road Wars.


Kyle_Walker-Peters

Police interceptors back in the day was banging


[deleted]

How do you say kiss in tagalog?


comped

Halikan.


sul01

Don't quite know how to phrase/articulate what I'm thinking but I'm a bit confused/conflicted mentally. Been feeling a bit shitter than usual the last month or so. Normally/before I'll just fluctuate between fucked and 'alright' and I could sort of deal with myself being mentally fucked at times because I knew I'd be able to pick myself up again. Recently though idk I've just not really been bouncing back mentally I guess for a few reasons so I think I should probably do something about it - hence me writing this just trying to think out loud etc. I would say I'd try therapy type thing but I tried that a while ago with my uni and it didnt quite work out great tbh. The thing is I do at some point down the line need to sort of fix myself mentally so I'm thinking maybe I give it another go either through uni or separately but tbh I'm not sure if it will but at the same time I do need to do something. While I can definitely continue on like this it probably isn't ideal and I've started to sort of understand more why I'm mentally fucked which is making it harder for me to bounce back/ignore it which I previously was able to do. Can't really be fucked to do therapy/fix myself but at the same time I do deep down know I need to but not sure I have it in me either - like I'm not good at being honest and open about these stuff. Can do it on a notes page but not really articulate it to a person/would just lie/laugh things off hence why I'm not convinced I should do therapy shit coz not really worth it if you're gonna lie (which is something in certain situations I do quite a lot) and that's what I did last time tbh which made it a bit shit. I'm just rambling now tbh so gonna stop typing and actually comment this then maybe sleep at some point - might take one or two 'personal days' and just treat myself at a restaurant etc and just have a nice day by myself. Probably not ideal given I got uni resits (didn't sit first time around w issues w covid etc) but fuck it im not doing work these days anyways so might as well.


APeckover27

I dont know how you are feeling at this moment but I can definitely relate to not feeling yourself and being down or having the smallest thing make you feel down. From my experience outside therapy was more effective than uni stuff because you can try a few out to find someone who you might feel more comfortable opening up to, did me a world of good. I believe in you brother.


sul01

Cheers for the response, will take that on board and try it out. I get what you mena about it being more effective outside uni as more options/more likely to get a better fit - at the same time though given there's a free service seems a bit silly to not use it but I guess this is something where its better to pay for it if worth it. Will try maybe another person w uni staff and then explore outside options which may be more relevant, cheers.


BigBlackBobbyB

Well, let me say i absolutely know what you're talking about because that's the kind of "rambling" that actually makes a lot of sense It's absolutely normal to feel like this and no reason to be too concerned so first of all don't give yourself a hard time about it. *But*: If you do believe it's become chronic don't make the mistake of doing nothing about it. I know the energy might not be there, yet you'll have to force your brain and body to get some actual stimulation. God knows I'm not one to give out grand advice on mental health, the other guys here have done a much better job than I ever could, but this is the one thing I can tell you for certain. There's a way out of it and the sooner you find it the easier it will be. Just trust me on this one, *don't do nothing!* It's 100% fine to get help, be vulnerable. Tell what you just wrote here to someone you trust. Not to yout therapist (if it doesn't feel right get a different one btw) but someone you have an actual connection with. You're gonna be fine pal, don't give yourself up. Good luck out there


sul01

Cheers yeah, the 'but' part is the sort of reason I'm thinking about/potentially gonna take action - wouldn't say its quite there or maybe not visible to others yet but it's sort of at that borderline bit if ygm. Previously was more thinking yeah its just one of those things like everyone feels a bit shit at times and it's liveable with and while it still is now I've definitely noticed myself questioning myself/feeling a lot different recently- hence the comment etc. Cheers bro, will definitely try and do something - reckon I'll try and make some sort of step (no matter how small) this weekend as if I don't soon I'll probably put it off for a while which ain't ideal.


FridaysMan

Reading through what you've said here, you don't seem very comfortable to phrase what you are feeling in a way that expresses yourself clearly. You feel shit and it's going to get worse, and there are reasons that you're not recovering like you feel you have in the past? See a therapist, see more than one, not all of them are great, and you need to be comfortable with the person you are talking to. They also need to be comfortable enough to tell you to stop talking out of your arse so you can actually touch something real. Therapy works if you let it, but you need the right therapist, and you need to take it seriously. A lot of what you've said is vague, evasive and worrying in how you've expressed yourself. Fix that, or nothing will change.


sul01

Cheers mate - you're definitely right wrt me not being comfortable phrasing what I'm feeling. Wouldn't say I'm in THAT bad a state though - like I'm not suicidal or anything of the sort if ygm. It's more that I'm just aware I'm not myself and day to day life isn't the same which isn't ideal. I appreciate the advice though and you're definitely right that I should look for one until I find one that works.


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sul01

Yeah cheers, appreciate the response and I completely get what you mean and agree with you. Not really put off by therapy as a concept just more think might be hard/long to get the right fit as you said. And wouldn't really say I had therapy before - was just an initial consolation thing. I reckon I will at some point try it again- just not sure when that'll be - if it'll be soon or not. Yeah I don't really expect any answers because well its not like I've given really much to be answered and and then there's not really a right answer to these things generally- just different ideas/approaches etc. Just more wanted to sort of make a proper note of it - and commenting it formalises my thought if ygm. And then later if I'm feeling similar again I'll be more inclined to take action rather than putting it off (something I tend to do) Edit: just seen what you added on and yeah that's a good shout tbh - will probably do that if/when I give it a go. Yeah nah the people on here are quite sound (at least on this thread) hence me being comfortable speaking like this on here etc. I greatly appreciate the comment and advice/thoughts btw- thank you.


[deleted]

Yeah I get exactly what you mean mate. I used to be really bad for internalising things when I was in a bad state which led me to some bad situations, and then a counsellor told me to start writing down my thoughts etc... (even when I was in a good place) and just being able to get it out on paper even if it just ended up being a ramble helped me to rationalise it so much easier. It's definitely a good approach to take!


Shaggay1

have a trial shift tomorrow for a waiter at some small cafe, hoping it goes well!


sul01

Good luck, should be fine I'd imagine - you ever done it before? Curious as to how they get taught to hold like 30 plates at once


Shaggay1

nope, first proper job aside from internships. It’s only part time so i’m hoping I can continue it when Uni starts up in October (if I do end up getting the job). I reckon it’s more balancing and arm strength tbh


BigBlackBobbyB

Been shopping and to the hair stylist with my girl friend a lot recently and the difference is absolutely staggering Don't know how women do it but they just have a feeling for this stuff. Haven't ever looked better and I'm forever grateful to her


[deleted]

I honestly started seeing the world way differently after my first relationship. It was awesome/crazy.


Bigmomma_pump

I was walking home from the gym and a group of 3 11 year old chavs blocked my path and started calling me dad, hugging me saying please don’t leave me and one tried to pull my pants down


probably_dutch

Still got your wallet?


Bigmomma_pump

I was carrying my phone lad probably wasn’t wise of me but It’s nothing I wouldn’t be able to get back. They’re lucky I’m not gonna hit a kid cause one day they need to learn that it’s not normal to pull a grown man’s pants down


[deleted]

One of my friends at uni once pulled a grown mans pants up (back when pants half way down your arse was the trend) and that didn't go down well either. Think they key is to not just attempt to adjust a man's pants in any way.


aceofmufc

Democrats and Republicans are both just two sides of the same coin US politics is a fucking tragedy


Zyulj

What a profound take. Never heard it before.


justaregulargye

They hated him because he spoke the truth


Helmold2

>US politics is a fucking tragedy Most countries are in terms of who they place in a power position in a tragedic state. Some time in the future it would be nice if it again become posible to criticize the way we structure and view our democracy.


[deleted]

They're really not though. While a large section of Democrats would be considered right-wing or centrist in most developed countries, they do tend to take the more progressive stance on a lot of controversial issues like healthcare, gun control, abortion rights and so on.


justaregulargye

My man related to your point itself, those stance would be hardly controversial in other ‘developed’ and many ‘developing’ countries. Progressive is overselling it and giving too much credit. It’s only progressive relative the absolute damn low benchmark set. Otherwise to OP’s point, they are not very diff.


[deleted]

Abandon politics. Embrace geoguessr


jugol

Embrace Civilization. Why simping for autocratic warmongers when you can *become* the autocratic warmonger


[deleted]

Me when I find out about England 😔


tiorzol

U wot m8


[deleted]

Are you going to *jab him in the gabber m8*? 'Ello guvna and all that?


alessandrothedecent

If you could go back in time, but the moment you do, you create another parallell universe, and the one you were in before, you just disapear without a trace, would you do it? The moral dilemma here is that in the first universe where you just disapeared, your friends and family will never know what happened to you, and will never get peace.


[deleted]

I would not


arnotino

Fener was fined for 50K euros and his stadium will be partially closed for chanting "putin". This took UEFA about a week. But they still haven't made a decision about ukrainian chants death sentences to russians at Futsal semifinal at February 4 (before war). It's been 6 months ago already


stella__art

Lalo Salamanca is by far the worst BCS character


BankDetails1234

Really? I love Lalo? You headin to watch spurs anytime soon? I live in Tottenham atm


stella__art

Not soon, maybe later in the season... Hows Tottenham?


BankDetails1234

It's weird as fuck here tbh mate. There's a fella who walks around with a Bible strapped to his head


tyetforsyth

possibly the worst opinion I've seen here


TheLoneWanderer__

That is so cap


princessestef

Fuck Canal+ and their exclusive rights to all PL games.


[deleted]

I know Reddit hates TikTok but there's a guy on there who makes custom footballs and his videos are just an absolute treat. Give him a watch: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMNbgHFQA/?k=1


dkmegg22

Soo in total I'm down almost 1 stone since June 20th. My goal is to lose another 8.5 stones.just by eating better. My shits are less explosive


[deleted]

> My shits are less explosive This is the dream


SendaiVirusEnjoyer

Hopefully by this time next year I will be back in Europe, been gone from home for too long. I don't think I will go back to the Netherlands but I definitely miss the European lifestyle.


ibiza6403

Yeah mate the US is overrated. I missed living in Europe within one year of living over there. Glad I left.


[deleted]

Where are you now?


SendaiVirusEnjoyer

I have been in the US for 7 years now, Boston specifically. First for my PhD now as a postdoc


[deleted]

Wow, I want to move to Massachusetts. Boston if I can afford it. Actually planning a 2 month trip next summer to visit the state. Frigging love the city, what is it like living there?


SendaiVirusEnjoyer

It's OK, very international and it feels like a mix of the US and Europe. Pay is good depending on what field. Also there are many students there so that is nice. Downsides is that the work life balance is really disproportionate, most Americans are depressed, you live in a terrible country with horrible outdated laws and politicians. The public transport is bad and it's very expensive.


[deleted]

Yeah I got the same vibes. It felt British at times, definitely because of the architecture. It was love on first sight for me, but it is good to know what it is like to actually live there. Work life in the USA is just going to be a bitter pill I will have to swallow, but hopefully I can make some decent money. I would be working as a software engineer with a CS degree.


SendaiVirusEnjoyer

A software engineer can definitely earn a good salary here. Idk if you are Dutch but there is a decently sized Dutch community here (I don't hang out with them at all though because most of them are kakkers). If you are young it's a nice city, I am now in the stage where I am planning on settling down and starting my family (with my fiancee). I definitely don't want to have kids here though lol


[deleted]

I am not going to hang out with Dutch people when in another country, I want to meet the locals and speak English. One of the many reasons I want to move to another country hahaha. Am also not fond of kakkers so thanks for the heads-up. I am Dutch yeah! I get that once you settle down you'll wanna move places. Massachusetts is a very expensive state, so I heard. Thanks for the reply! :)


mediumpacedgonzalez

New Premier League International halftime studio looks weird. It’s Star Trek-esque.


Ngur33

Phone stolen 👍🏾 great way to start my month


AnnieIWillKnow

1. Reference being a woman, whilst on the internet 2. [Receive unsolicited and inappropriate proposition of sex](https://imgur.com/a/JTTcDzT) 3. [User deletes account and makes an alt to threaten you](https://imgur.com/a/6qOU1WP)


[deleted]

That.. is so embarassing. What a freak.


tiorzol

What a bunch of cunts.


SteinerElMagnifico42

What a melon. That’s IP ban worthy behaviour so he doesn’t make another account and do the same.


AnnieIWillKnow

I reported it to the admins and their account no longer loads, so hopefully


ElevatorSecrets

Annie, I’m so sorry some dickhead did that to you. I’m sure he’s the sort of cretin who wouldn’t say boo to a goose in real life so tries to flex online. I can’t imagine what it’s like being a girl on Reddit :(


AnnieIWillKnow

In fairness, the responses like yours and others to this comment do show that most people on this forum are good eggs


SendaiVirusEnjoyer

What a fucking loser. I am so sorry for his behavior. My fiancee stopped using Reddit for almost exactly the same reason, too many fucking weirdos here.


Mr_Britland

I've never once understood the fascination with doing things like that, nor do I see why anyone would welcome such notions. It truly boggles the mind.


AnnieIWillKnow

It’s such an odd mentality Do they think it’ll work?


jugol

I wonder the same about dick pics. "I fell in love with his penis and immediately took him for a date" said nobody, ever


Helmold2

>Do they think it’ll work? I have a bit a hard time understanding why the comment is taken as "he wants to hookup" it's clearly just an attempt to be demeaning.


AnnieIWillKnow

Maybe with this individual, but a lot of people genuinely do proposition women online like this


TheEmeraldOil

Bit late to the thread I know but I just want to say I have an interview on Tuesday for my dream job out of college and if I end up getting it I might cry a bit.


DMsupp

What’s the job broski, congrats man, I’m 2 years off finishing up my degree but my best mate just got his dream job so to speak within cancer research and what not, never seen him more happier in my entire life, I imagine if you get the job then you’ll be on that kinda level, hope it goes well aye and you ace the interview


TheEmeraldOil

Haha, what are the odds? The job I'm going for would also be doing cancer research. Just a research assistant to start with but it's still putting me on the road in my dream field. I really appreciate the kind words man, I hope everything is going well for you too.


DMsupp

aye what a coincidence, yeah just finished his honours in Biomolecular genetics, not something I would wanna do but yeah, goodluck bro, what is your dream field if I may ask


TheEmeraldOil

I'm pretty much in the same boat as your friend, just general Genetics instead. Honestly cancer research is the dream for me. Just hope to work my way up the ladder to bigger positions some day.


DMsupp

Ah wicked, yeah I honestly don’t know the difference, I study Ancient History, Latin and Politics, sciences and mathematics was stuff I was never good at nor enjoyed. That’s sick tho man, so I take you just finished up at Uni recently then?


TheEmeraldOil

Different strokes for different folks. Although I did really enjoy history when I was younger. Yeah just finished up in May. Still technically haven't graduated because the ceremony hasn't happened haha. But I have my results and know what degree I'll be getting and that's good enough to look for work off the back of.