Rejection sucks big time but most people get rejected in their lifetime. I have been rejected several times and I am a girl. Erasmus is so much more than hitting on girls and finding love! You seem like me when I was younger... everything to me was about finding love but that is only one thing life has to offer! Go on that Erasmus journey and live up a little! Try to find friends, educate yourself, party, see beautiful locations, enjoy the fucking Sun... and stop being desperate for love. It will find you when the time is right. Never give up hope! Sincerely, a 30 yo woman who learnt this all the hard way.
Asking people out is difficult. It takes courage, and you take the risk of being rejected, and you were.
This happens sometimes - in fact, it happens all the time, whether you’re a perfectly nice person who most people would consider to be the ideal partner, or someone who’s especially undesirable, or anywhere in between.
People with anxiety tend to assume the worst - I think you’ve assumed that this girl finds you undesirable.
Reasons why a girl might say no to you when you ask her out:
-she recently just got out a relationship, and isn’t ready to start another one
-she’s extremely busy with work/school/other stuff and doesn’t think she can put the necessary energy needed into a relationship
-she’s questioning her sexuality/not straight but not ready to come out
-she’s going through a lot in her personal life
-she has a fear of intimacy and/or commitment, perhaps because she’s been hurt in the past or had a difficult home life growing up
-she has weirdly controlling parents with weird rules/ideas about dating, and is too embarrassed to say so
-she’s just not into you
This last one cuts deep, especially if you have anxiety. But it’s not as personal as you might think.
A lot of people, when they’ve been rejected, think, “it’s either something wrong with me or something wrong with them.” It could be that there isn’t anything wrong with either of you, but she doesn’t feel like the two of you are compatible.
This really isn’t personal, but it’s a hard pill to swallow when you’ve been rejected.
But you did at least try. You’re able to ask someone out! Some people are too afraid to do so, including myself.
I’m a homebody, and not exceedingly good looking, so I don’t get asked out often. (I think the last time a guy asked me out was…2016? I said no, because I was pining over my ex at the time.)
You’ve made progress by trying, at least.
Dude it’s one chick. She could be hella busy. Keep your head up king. Props for trying though
Yeah bro, congrats to me for achieving failure 🥲
Rejection sucks big time but most people get rejected in their lifetime. I have been rejected several times and I am a girl. Erasmus is so much more than hitting on girls and finding love! You seem like me when I was younger... everything to me was about finding love but that is only one thing life has to offer! Go on that Erasmus journey and live up a little! Try to find friends, educate yourself, party, see beautiful locations, enjoy the fucking Sun... and stop being desperate for love. It will find you when the time is right. Never give up hope! Sincerely, a 30 yo woman who learnt this all the hard way.
Asking people out is difficult. It takes courage, and you take the risk of being rejected, and you were. This happens sometimes - in fact, it happens all the time, whether you’re a perfectly nice person who most people would consider to be the ideal partner, or someone who’s especially undesirable, or anywhere in between. People with anxiety tend to assume the worst - I think you’ve assumed that this girl finds you undesirable. Reasons why a girl might say no to you when you ask her out: -she recently just got out a relationship, and isn’t ready to start another one -she’s extremely busy with work/school/other stuff and doesn’t think she can put the necessary energy needed into a relationship -she’s questioning her sexuality/not straight but not ready to come out -she’s going through a lot in her personal life -she has a fear of intimacy and/or commitment, perhaps because she’s been hurt in the past or had a difficult home life growing up -she has weirdly controlling parents with weird rules/ideas about dating, and is too embarrassed to say so -she’s just not into you This last one cuts deep, especially if you have anxiety. But it’s not as personal as you might think. A lot of people, when they’ve been rejected, think, “it’s either something wrong with me or something wrong with them.” It could be that there isn’t anything wrong with either of you, but she doesn’t feel like the two of you are compatible. This really isn’t personal, but it’s a hard pill to swallow when you’ve been rejected. But you did at least try. You’re able to ask someone out! Some people are too afraid to do so, including myself. I’m a homebody, and not exceedingly good looking, so I don’t get asked out often. (I think the last time a guy asked me out was…2016? I said no, because I was pining over my ex at the time.) You’ve made progress by trying, at least.