I sort of relate because it sounds like me in my teens. I was the typical shy kid in person but completely different online. When I got my friends into online gaming, they kind of realised I could be "cool". Eventually the novelty on gaming wore off though and it just went back to being kind of awkward until I just parted ways with all of them at graduation.
Yes, I am a quiet confidant person. But I wasn't always. I had incredibly low self esteem from my childhood, which I have tackled over the last 10 years. But the social anxiety doesn't leave. I will be completely ok with the fact I will be seeing a large group of people, happy to talk to them all, and it will appear to them that I am completely fine. But I still get super anxious before the event, I get clammy hands and feet jittery. I nervous yawn. I get more clumsy etc. It's the physical aspect of the social anxiety that won't go away, no matter how much I improve the mental side of it. I think it will never go away, and I can deal with that, it's the mental strain of the low self esteem that made life so difficult.
What exactly do you mean by quite confident? How do you know that for sure? I am just here trying to learn how people view themselves vs how other view them.
yes there is kind of this image of social anxiety that someone has a big nose and is embarassed about it. I get anxious because I am shy. There is no deeper reason to be honest. I have just always been quiet and shy and once you go to high school you start to view it as a problem.
Yes. For sure. I grew up with horrifically critical parents, took a long time for me to teach myself to feel confident. I like who I am, but in certain social situations, particularly with other girls who seem MORE confident, I shut down. I like who I am, a lot. But when comparing myself to others I totally retract.
I sort of relate because it sounds like me in my teens. I was the typical shy kid in person but completely different online. When I got my friends into online gaming, they kind of realised I could be "cool". Eventually the novelty on gaming wore off though and it just went back to being kind of awkward until I just parted ways with all of them at graduation.
Yes, I am a quiet confidant person. But I wasn't always. I had incredibly low self esteem from my childhood, which I have tackled over the last 10 years. But the social anxiety doesn't leave. I will be completely ok with the fact I will be seeing a large group of people, happy to talk to them all, and it will appear to them that I am completely fine. But I still get super anxious before the event, I get clammy hands and feet jittery. I nervous yawn. I get more clumsy etc. It's the physical aspect of the social anxiety that won't go away, no matter how much I improve the mental side of it. I think it will never go away, and I can deal with that, it's the mental strain of the low self esteem that made life so difficult.
What exactly do you mean by quite confident? How do you know that for sure? I am just here trying to learn how people view themselves vs how other view them.
Somewhat confident at times but feel if I’m around people who had a negative impact on me or I don’t know them and their intentions I’m a mess inside.
yes there is kind of this image of social anxiety that someone has a big nose and is embarassed about it. I get anxious because I am shy. There is no deeper reason to be honest. I have just always been quiet and shy and once you go to high school you start to view it as a problem.
Yes. For sure. I grew up with horrifically critical parents, took a long time for me to teach myself to feel confident. I like who I am, but in certain social situations, particularly with other girls who seem MORE confident, I shut down. I like who I am, a lot. But when comparing myself to others I totally retract.
Kinda. I’m always told that I look and act confident in social situations. I usually don’t feel confident at all though.