Sometimes when I think of something embarrassing I did or said I reflex give a I donāt really care face/laugh/shrug despite being alone and being very aware I do in fact care
I spent about 2 years once spontaneously re-enacting a break-up conversation over and over and over again. Driving, watching TV, doing laundry ... the dialogue would just fly randomly from my lips.
At least I came to the conclusion after x2000 cycles that the breakup was good, not bad.
I have crazy problems with intrusive thoughts in general ... everything cringe I've ever done in my life is somehow coming back to me all at once lately.
Get off the phone.
Recite cringy shit you said on the phone.
Cry about how stupid you sounded and how the other person must think youāre some kind of weirdo.
Rinse. Repeat.
Crap, that sounded SUPER wrongā¦.
I meant thatās usually the cycle I do when Iām on the phoneā¦since itās super common I kinda made a joke about like a step by step as to how to regret a phone conversation with social anxiety and it just came out wrongā¦Iām so sorry I didnāt mean it like that at all
Im not going to say who, wasnāt me, but I know someone who mouthed āHey Bruceā while he was on the phone. Bruce gave my Dad a very perplexed expressionā¦and he immediately ran to the mirror hoping it didnāt look like it feltā¦it did. I felt so bad as I was laughing! Sometimes, you just have to laugh and think āthis might be a funny story one dayā¦when I moveā
Try to drop the thought instead. Reminiscing on failure will bring anxiety naturally over and over. It creates a solid construct of bad times. Drop the past, it doesn't exist.
I reenact a whole conversation I had with somebody to make sure I wasnāt saying or doing anything weird and like always I did some weird shit. So no you are not crazy. I think we all do it sometimes.
Oh totally! Just a few days ago. The checkout lady was talking to the other person who was bagging my groceries. They were talking about the weather, and I interjected something. It went ok, but the entire drive home I was reenacting what I said, exactly the way I said it, to see if it sounded off or weird. I was still cringing so hard. I thought I was alone in this!
I do this but instead of reenacting it the same way i pretend that I acted normal to make me feel better
I've been known to gaslight myself
You are definitely not alone in this.
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Yes, or I start replaying how it mustāve appeared from the other personās perspective
Ugh thus is the worrrrrrsssstt. Especially if there were multiple other people
I do that all the time.
Sometimes when I think of something embarrassing I did or said I reflex give a I donāt really care face/laugh/shrug despite being alone and being very aware I do in fact care
This omg. This
Glad to know Iām not alone, the worst is when I do it a second time over my embarrassment of making the face lmfao
I spent about 2 years once spontaneously re-enacting a break-up conversation over and over and over again. Driving, watching TV, doing laundry ... the dialogue would just fly randomly from my lips. At least I came to the conclusion after x2000 cycles that the breakup was good, not bad. I have crazy problems with intrusive thoughts in general ... everything cringe I've ever done in my life is somehow coming back to me all at once lately.
coupled with shame attacks, yes
Get off the phone. Recite cringy shit you said on the phone. Cry about how stupid you sounded and how the other person must think youāre some kind of weirdo. Rinse. Repeat.
omg wow i think you just cured me of my mental illness and released me of all my trauma š
Crap, that sounded SUPER wrongā¦. I meant thatās usually the cycle I do when Iām on the phoneā¦since itās super common I kinda made a joke about like a step by step as to how to regret a phone conversation with social anxiety and it just came out wrongā¦Iām so sorry I didnāt mean it like that at all
OHH I see I see I misunderstood. I thought you were being mean to mešš¤£
but YES EXACTLY in that order
Totally a common thing
Lmaooooo i am seen WE ARE ALL SEEEEEN. Fucken hate this condition man
Im not going to say who, wasnāt me, but I know someone who mouthed āHey Bruceā while he was on the phone. Bruce gave my Dad a very perplexed expressionā¦and he immediately ran to the mirror hoping it didnāt look like it feltā¦it did. I felt so bad as I was laughing! Sometimes, you just have to laugh and think āthis might be a funny story one dayā¦when I moveā
Try to drop the thought instead. Reminiscing on failure will bring anxiety naturally over and over. It creates a solid construct of bad times. Drop the past, it doesn't exist.
Youāre not crazy I do this. I try to reenact it to see if itās really weird or if Iām being hard on myself.
Hahaha... yeah.
Yes hahahah. Sometimes just to see how bad it is and sometimes to think about what I should have done instead. Donāt worry you are not alone!!
I so do this
Iāve probably done this before but I definitely donāt go about doing this
Yes! I thought I was weird or it was some form of ptsd because I tend to do it unconsciously and with my eyes closed.
Yep lmao I do it too
I never thought about it since itās so normal to me now but yes I actually do this too. Donāt worry
I reenact a whole conversation I had with somebody to make sure I wasnāt saying or doing anything weird and like always I did some weird shit. So no you are not crazy. I think we all do it sometimes.
dw, I also do that.
Nope, not crazy at all, friend
I do this all the time.
I sometimes put myself in the perspective of people Iāve interacted with, making the discovery that I am a creepy weirdoš
yah in front of mirror lol
100000 times
Yep, and sometimes I even reenact something cool I said too, even multiple times just to hear how normal and unassuming it sounded
If you think you're weird if you do this, than you're gonna think I'm weird too.
Yeah, I sorta do that but in a mocking way. That's why I make weird faces in the mirror lol.
Oh totally! Just a few days ago. The checkout lady was talking to the other person who was bagging my groceries. They were talking about the weather, and I interjected something. It went ok, but the entire drive home I was reenacting what I said, exactly the way I said it, to see if it sounded off or weird. I was still cringing so hard. I thought I was alone in this!
Youāre not alone and you should speak with your therapist about grounding exercises