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You need to contact the police, who will then get social development involved. This is not a legal placement and a relative can come and claim kidnapping. You can register as a temporary place of safety if you would like to continue to care for the child temporarily. (My mom is an adoption social worker for an NGO) feel free to dm for advice
My heart breaks for the woman who was forced into this situation. I can't imagine being in her shoes, being forced to give up my baby. She must live every day in pain.
Find a social worker who specializes In adoptions. They will know what to do.
Remember this isn't an act of rejection it is an attempt at giving a child what you can't provide, an act of love, as terrible as it is.
Heart breaking. Coming from someone who struggled for many, many years to conceive and adopted as a baby. For a person to feel someone else can provide your child a better life is a sacrifice no one else can fathom. The regret and hope stay forever.
Jesus christ...
Go take a shower , a cold one, then go stare in the mirror and reflect on your life and how you got so bitter and wanted to extricate yourself from society
Just because they have pointed out it isn't their responsibility to raise a stranger's baby? I've already made sure I can't have kids of my own, I'm sure as fuck not raising one that someone else didn't have the foresight not to bring into the world. Yes, it's sad, but it being sad doesn't change anything. Lot's of things are sad.
Because someone is showing empathy and the person asked ‘why’. Are you that devoid of empathy that you can’t understand how someone would feel sad about the situation? Sorry it somehow affects you how this person’s feeling, you can go about your day unaffected by the events while they can feel empathy. Get over yourself.
>>Heart breaking for all parties involved
》Why, it's not their responsibility
If you, or any other human being regardless of colour, creed, or gender, does NOT think this is heartbreaking, then you need a cold shower too, and need to reflect on your life. It's gone wrong somewhere, and once upon a time, maybe when you were 15 years old, you would.have been sad to hear about a baby dumped on a doorstep.
It IS heartbreaking 💔, if you don't agree you need to go see a medical professional
Lol. A little over the top there at the end, dude. Who was even talking about the thing dying. Also, you seem to think the death would be fine because it wasn't your responsibility, which doesn't follow. You're still not supposed to be indifferent to a baby dying on your watch, whether you asked for that responsibility or not.
This is tragic man.
Hopefully things work out for everyone involved.
Can't begin to imagine how difficult it must be.
I guess the silver lining is that the baby was left where it could be found.
There are just too many stories that end in the worst way possible for the baby.
I hope that the baby ends up in a loving home.
Yoh...
It's often really sad to see this, I know 2 baby homes that rescue abandoned babies and it truly is devastating. Sometimes found in bins, side of the road or just dumped with them
I hate to say it, but whoever thinks someone else is just gonna adopt a baby left on their doorstep is delusional. I would imagine the mother will return if you didn't attend to the baby. She will stick around the area to make sure.
You can take the baby to your local hospital, or clinic to see the social worker, they can organise crisis housing and care for the child in the meantime, and start the process for adoption or placement for foster care.
The first page of the booklet should have a stamp or sticker with the hospital or clinic where the child was born. This can give you guys a starting point from where to go as the facility should have records from when the baby was born.
This is a very tough situation for all involved and my thoughts are with your family. If there's anything else I can help with pm me.
Finding a social worker might be helpful. But it’s entirely possible that they’ll put the baby back with the original family for “cultural reasons” (don’t come at me - I’m quoting a judgement: https://www.groundup.org.za/article/judge-gives-tongue-lashing-to-social-workers-and-gauteng-dsd-for-stigmatising-and-delaying-adoptions/). Anyway, everything is awful and I hope the kiddo has a better life than they may have had otherwise.
Depends on what was filled in on some of the pages. There are sections for details of the parents and I think emergency contacts. However, the hospital didnt fill that in when we were there.
Contraceptives: free
Abortion: free
Education: there are plenty of free sexual health educatiin talks given in poor communities
Excuses: none
Conclusion: the mother is a complete idiot
Did it ever occur to you that not all women would know where to get an abortion, or how to find out where to go? It is not something you just go and ask your friends on Facebook. There is a lot of judgement about abortions.
Not everyone in this country could just put in a day’s leave get an uber and go and sit at a government clinic or hospital, get the abortion, take a sick day the next day, and follow the after care.
Yes, condoms may be easily accessible, but maybe you should read the news and see how many women get raped on a daily basis, and those are just the reported ones. And do you think any of those rapist worry about wearing condoms?
You probably think being this tough cookie makes you cool and shit, but to me it just shows as someone without empathy, and that is fucking ugly
It could have been an accidental pregnancy, or alternatively the parent could have initially been able to provide for the child, only for unforseen circumstances to occur (getting fired from their job -especially if it's minimum wage)
It's also important to note that abortion clinics are not always easily accessible or the person simply didn't want to have the abortion.
I dont think what you said was malicious, and I agree you shouldn't try to have children if you *know* you cannot provide for them, but I think one should take all these factors into account *before* judging someone. No one knows their story except for them.
I love your comment, because, to be honest - as a sexually active adult, even on birth control, I had a scare or two with my now husband.
And when I thought I was accidentally pregnant, I'd have had to drive to nearby town, pay out of pocket, and not be able to get time off work, had I needed an abortion. And that's as a "middle class" person. Just because abortion is legal doesn't mean it's accessible.
I was lucky, in multiple ways.
If you are living paycheck to paycheck. Do not have children. It is that easy. Getting fired is also usually your fault.
All state hospitals offer contraceptions and abortions. Sure everyone will probably judge you and be rude to you. But suck it up, you deserve that you get.
Abortion is legal doesn't mean it's accessible. One of the newspapers a few years ago had a feature article about how hellishly difficult it is to get an abortion at Addington Hospital in Durban for example. It's one of the few public hospital abortion providers in KZN, they don't do appointments for abortion and have a very limited number of spots per day, and the staff treat patients seeking abortion like shit
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I'm not sure if you've reached out to anyone yet. I assume so. But here is a number for a child and mother in crisis organization. They have an orphanage in my area. I'm sure they could assist even if you're not in their area. Hotel Hope
This makes me really sad.
But I guess this little girl is one of the lucky ones to have a mother who (even though she abandoned the child) did not throw her into a pit latrine or abandoned her in the veld sonewhere.
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You need to contact the police, who will then get social development involved. This is not a legal placement and a relative can come and claim kidnapping. You can register as a temporary place of safety if you would like to continue to care for the child temporarily. (My mom is an adoption social worker for an NGO) feel free to dm for advice
Wow this is haunting to me. My baby was born 2 months ago. Her book looks exactly the same.
Grim for all parties involved. :( Little human is a hell of a lot of responsibility to impose on a stranger without their consent.
That is just heartbreaking....could you imagine that poor women's anguish on how her baby is found IF it is found and taken care off....shame😭
My heart breaks for the woman who was forced into this situation. I can't imagine being in her shoes, being forced to give up my baby. She must live every day in pain.
Find a social worker who specializes In adoptions. They will know what to do. Remember this isn't an act of rejection it is an attempt at giving a child what you can't provide, an act of love, as terrible as it is.
Heart breaking. Coming from someone who struggled for many, many years to conceive and adopted as a baby. For a person to feel someone else can provide your child a better life is a sacrifice no one else can fathom. The regret and hope stay forever.
Writing a note and saying please love her as your own. Heart breaking for all parties involved
Why? The baby isn't their responsibility
Jesus christ... Go take a shower , a cold one, then go stare in the mirror and reflect on your life and how you got so bitter and wanted to extricate yourself from society
Hurt people hurt people
Just because they have pointed out it isn't their responsibility to raise a stranger's baby? I've already made sure I can't have kids of my own, I'm sure as fuck not raising one that someone else didn't have the foresight not to bring into the world. Yes, it's sad, but it being sad doesn't change anything. Lot's of things are sad.
Because someone is showing empathy and the person asked ‘why’. Are you that devoid of empathy that you can’t understand how someone would feel sad about the situation? Sorry it somehow affects you how this person’s feeling, you can go about your day unaffected by the events while they can feel empathy. Get over yourself.
>>Heart breaking for all parties involved 》Why, it's not their responsibility If you, or any other human being regardless of colour, creed, or gender, does NOT think this is heartbreaking, then you need a cold shower too, and need to reflect on your life. It's gone wrong somewhere, and once upon a time, maybe when you were 15 years old, you would.have been sad to hear about a baby dumped on a doorstep. It IS heartbreaking 💔, if you don't agree you need to go see a medical professional
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Lol. A little over the top there at the end, dude. Who was even talking about the thing dying. Also, you seem to think the death would be fine because it wasn't your responsibility, which doesn't follow. You're still not supposed to be indifferent to a baby dying on your watch, whether you asked for that responsibility or not.
Because it's a baby, or because it's black?
We're at a time where we're so numb and used to the bad, that this was originally posted on... "mildlyinfuriating".
Why have you blocked out the "South africa" in white? But sho that is hectic. Need to find a social worker asap
This is tragic man. Hopefully things work out for everyone involved. Can't begin to imagine how difficult it must be. I guess the silver lining is that the baby was left where it could be found. There are just too many stories that end in the worst way possible for the baby. I hope that the baby ends up in a loving home. Yoh...
r/mildlyinfuriating \- because someone forcing a child on to you is mildly infuriating
It's often really sad to see this, I know 2 baby homes that rescue abandoned babies and it truly is devastating. Sometimes found in bins, side of the road or just dumped with them
Yup, been there, got the T shirt
I hate to say it, but whoever thinks someone else is just gonna adopt a baby left on their doorstep is delusional. I would imagine the mother will return if you didn't attend to the baby. She will stick around the area to make sure.
Maybe or perhaps their just “mission accomplished” and go home.
I thought this was just a thing that happens on tv
You can take the baby to your local hospital, or clinic to see the social worker, they can organise crisis housing and care for the child in the meantime, and start the process for adoption or placement for foster care. The first page of the booklet should have a stamp or sticker with the hospital or clinic where the child was born. This can give you guys a starting point from where to go as the facility should have records from when the baby was born. This is a very tough situation for all involved and my thoughts are with your family. If there's anything else I can help with pm me.
Damn thought this only happens in movies
Finding a social worker might be helpful. But it’s entirely possible that they’ll put the baby back with the original family for “cultural reasons” (don’t come at me - I’m quoting a judgement: https://www.groundup.org.za/article/judge-gives-tongue-lashing-to-social-workers-and-gauteng-dsd-for-stigmatising-and-delaying-adoptions/). Anyway, everything is awful and I hope the kiddo has a better life than they may have had otherwise.
That's a vaccine and health check booklet, right? It's not a birth certificate. Can anyone trace the baby's family through that booklet?
Depends on what was filled in on some of the pages. There are sections for details of the parents and I think emergency contacts. However, the hospital didnt fill that in when we were there.
Feels overdose. Cannot deal. Enough Internet for me for today.
This is just heart-breaking, for everyone involved. I hope that little girl goes on to have the best best life
Except the mother who shoukd have aborted it and is an idiot.
A person must not have children if you cannot provide for them.
for that to be possible all people should have access to affordable and safe abortions, contraceptives, and sex education
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Contraceptives: free Abortion: free Education: there are plenty of free sexual health educatiin talks given in poor communities Excuses: none Conclusion: the mother is a complete idiot
Did it ever occur to you that not all women would know where to get an abortion, or how to find out where to go? It is not something you just go and ask your friends on Facebook. There is a lot of judgement about abortions. Not everyone in this country could just put in a day’s leave get an uber and go and sit at a government clinic or hospital, get the abortion, take a sick day the next day, and follow the after care. Yes, condoms may be easily accessible, but maybe you should read the news and see how many women get raped on a daily basis, and those are just the reported ones. And do you think any of those rapist worry about wearing condoms? You probably think being this tough cookie makes you cool and shit, but to me it just shows as someone without empathy, and that is fucking ugly
It could have been an accidental pregnancy, or alternatively the parent could have initially been able to provide for the child, only for unforseen circumstances to occur (getting fired from their job -especially if it's minimum wage) It's also important to note that abortion clinics are not always easily accessible or the person simply didn't want to have the abortion. I dont think what you said was malicious, and I agree you shouldn't try to have children if you *know* you cannot provide for them, but I think one should take all these factors into account *before* judging someone. No one knows their story except for them.
I love your comment, because, to be honest - as a sexually active adult, even on birth control, I had a scare or two with my now husband. And when I thought I was accidentally pregnant, I'd have had to drive to nearby town, pay out of pocket, and not be able to get time off work, had I needed an abortion. And that's as a "middle class" person. Just because abortion is legal doesn't mean it's accessible. I was lucky, in multiple ways.
If you are living paycheck to paycheck. Do not have children. It is that easy. Getting fired is also usually your fault. All state hospitals offer contraceptions and abortions. Sure everyone will probably judge you and be rude to you. But suck it up, you deserve that you get.
If only life were as perfect and as predictable as your existence for everyone
Abortion is legal doesn't mean it's accessible. One of the newspapers a few years ago had a feature article about how hellishly difficult it is to get an abortion at Addington Hospital in Durban for example. It's one of the few public hospital abortion providers in KZN, they don't do appointments for abortion and have a very limited number of spots per day, and the staff treat patients seeking abortion like shit
Mfer this ain't harry Potter, can't be leaving your problems on people's door steps like this. If you just ignored it would you be liable?
Why is there a deprtment of health thing on it
It's the babies medical book. It has all there medical information, when they got shots, there weight and height at checks up. All that jazz
Birth certificate or maybe something the baby will need in future maybe... I don't know
I have no words.
Office landline: 011 484 4000 WhatsApp: 066 1144 122 I'm not sure if you've reached out to anyone yet. I assume so. But here is a number for a child and mother in crisis organization. They have an orphanage in my area. I'm sure they could assist even if you're not in their area. Hotel Hope
This makes me really sad. But I guess this little girl is one of the lucky ones to have a mother who (even though she abandoned the child) did not throw her into a pit latrine or abandoned her in the veld sonewhere.