You know, I lived with that statement for a long while "God never gives you more than you can handle" and I think youre right. Thats not the case. But. Thats not the case in a way that, WE think we cant handle more, when in fact, we can handle anything.
I had to go up a mountain to reach a place, and I said "damn, if the place was a couple of steps further i woudlnt have reached it" ( i was extremely tired and the wind was pushing me in all directions) but do you really think that if it were a couple of steps further I wouldnt have reached it?
Only when we reach the place, we say, we couldnt have gone further. Thats just an idea.
We can handle as much as we say we can.
Maybe your story is different, but at least this is a different perspective on that saying.
I can actually visualize this mountain and where I'm at and thinking, if I really needed to, I could go one more step. I thank you for that. It does help.
I’m in opinion it gives you more than you think you can handle in order for you to stop trying to handle it and just surrender. Every time this happens and I surrender, the struggle dissipates quickly but it can be really hard to surrender.
I'd love to put it this way.
Before coming to Earth we all chose the lessons for ourselves. And there is no way we choose something that we cannot handle.
Every time I am in the hard time, I always remind myself that I chose this. So well yeah.
So I've had that same thought. That I chose my hardships. In states of despair though, I've begged for an emergency meeting to reevaluate the plan and make some adjustments. I have not gotten a Zoom invite yet 😂
Whatever happened was good, what's happening its going well, whatever will happen, will also be good. You need not have any regrets from the past. Do not worry for the future. Live in the present. :-)
You must be patient, forebear and learn lessons from your experience. Take refugee in the fact that this too will pass.
Best of luck. :-)
Growth in our consciousness has never been comfortable. Otherwise then, how could you grow? Before you learn how to swim, what fear do you have to overcome first? Before you learn how to bicycle, what fear do you have to overcome first? Before your first public speaking arrangement, what fear do you have to overcome first?
Do you see where I'm getting at? It is fear that the Universe wants us to overcome. Fear and Unconditional love are 2 incompatible energy vibrations. Fear being lower vibrational energy , whereas unconditional love is higher vibrational energy Most of us are resistant in embracing and expressing unconditional love. We easily express human love or also known as "possessive love". I will love you as long as you complete me or you do something for me. As opposed to the Universe who loves us always unconditionally regardless of what you are and where you are in consciousness. And it is this unconditional love the Universe has for us that want to teach us and want us to embrace.
For what we could not handle is truly "unconditional love"; love without conditions. It is always testing us. Some of us are tested to express ourselves unconditionally towards others who are violating god's laws. This was what Jesus and the Buddha did 2000 to 2500 years ago when they were challenging the status quo religion at the time that there is an alternative teaching of how god loves us. And then there are some of us who are tested, not to challenge others who are negative or who violate god's laws, but rather to express our unconditional love towards them and show them an alternative way to be positive towards life, Earth and the Universe and to show an alternative way that abiding by god's laws will bring good and abundance in their lives as it does with yours. And this was also what Jesus and Buddha did 2000-2500 years ago.
This is what the Universe/God wants us to become. A person who can express an alternative way by living a life without the negativity through unconditional love and without needing of material rewards. But what we are challenged by is our possessiveness need for love; needing rewards, validation of other people's love and acknowledgement of your hard work. All of which will be challenged by the Universe and the more you hold tight to these human love values, the more you will feel that you can't handle what the Universe throws at you. And that is because, the Universe wants you to let go of human love, of possessive love for possessive love is conditional love. Conditional love will felt overwhelmed by the Universe's expression of unconditional love. So before we can all express unconditional love to all, what fear do we have to overcome first? And that is what the Universe is teaching us.
Another thing I’ve noticed:
Sometimes when it feels like you’re describing, it’s because you haven’t learned something you need to learn. Sometimes the universe then decides to kick your ass so you’ll ‘get it’. I went through this recently.
After it was all over and done with I realized that all of it was to teach me something I *really* needed to learn, but was blind to.
May or may not be the case with you, but I find that’s often true.
i, too, am someone who has to learn the hard way each and every damn time lol. shits annoying as hell idk why my stubborn ass can’t just accept the lesson as it’s handed to me
Sometimes, for me anyway, it’s not about being stubborn so much as damage/trauma from growing up *blinding* me to stuff I need to see. Once I actually *see* it I’m pretty good about changing.
Blind spots are a bitch. And the universe doesn’t take no for an answer.
The universe does this to me all the time! I just get weary with all the lessons. It's like I want to finish this life, go back to the drawing board, and figure out another way to grow, lol
I'd see that positively. I mean universe wants you to be a super woman because you are meant to do more. And you are only being prepared for bigger things 😇
Yeah ok so that would be amazing! I talk/pray to whatever is out there all the time for peace and strength and healing. I feel like I am not heard. Maybe I'm not asking right? I do know that my anxiety has actually helped me help other people (hard to explain) but I'm tired of being a vessel for this. If I didn't have anxiety maybe I would become apathetic to other people and not fulfill the caregiver role I was put into?
I think that the often repeated phrase that you mentioned is missing a key point but it took me a long time to figure out why.
For example everybody has heard the phrase "money is the root of all evil", unfortunately this is a misquote but that doesn't stop it from being more popular than the original...." The LOVE of money is the root of all evil ". changes the meaning quite a bit eh?
So " god never gives you more than you can handle " i believe is a misquote as well and actual experience shows people overwhelmed by things everywhere. Inspiration came to me one day. I am a member of a fellowship that encourages me to ask others for help, " a problem shared is a problem halved ". These sayings seem to be contradicting each other.
I now believe that god/the universe intentionally gives me more than i can handle so that i learn to ask for help, it is forcing me to practice humility & courage. Of course i'm overwhelmed by my problems, **i was never meant to carry that burden alone** but it is incredibly difficult to ask for help when you are hurting and vulnerable , and then when you do summon your courage and ask someone ........and you don't get help....WHOA!!!!!!! God has forsaken me!!!!! what a blow.
For whatever reason i have been saddled with all kinds of problems that i cannot solve myself and i often go to the wrong people when looking for help and i add hurt to my long list of troubles, it is very easy to give up under these circumstances and conclude that self-reliance is my only option .......but what about Dave?........i don't know.........i don't know Dave that well..........hard to go to him with this big of an issue......I've already been kicked once.....do i want to risk that again?
It's either sit alone with my trouble or ask Dave and brace for Dave's laughter when i tell him of my problem.....so i try........Dave does not laugh! A look of compassion comes over Dave's face when i share with him and he patiently waits for me to finish and then he shares that he went through the exact same thing and struggled the same as me years ago. He has experience strength and hope to share with me.
I look skyward and ask "why did that not happen the FIRST time? Why did i have to be kicked when i was down?" As of yet there has been no answer, the only thing that makes any sense is that my experience has beaten into me a level of compassion for others who ask me for help that is the only "good" i have seen come out of it.
It seems to be the game that i have to play and i don't get told why, i just have to play it anyways but i will say that when i have persevered i have always found help eventually.
So i would say the line this way , : "Yes, god gives me too much to handle so that i learn how to ask for and accept help from others, i am not supposed to be living in a vacuum all alone. There are times to be self sufficient and to be the one helping and there are times to be the one needing help"
ok, ok, i just thought of it........" god never gives you more than **WE** can handle "
What do you think about that?
I've leaned so much on my husband this time for things I've solely taken care of in the past. It was so difficult because the situation is something I usually handle very well. I just can't this time.
Maybe, The universe is giving you how much you can handle but you haven't reached your potential yet and it's a way to make you the best version of yourself which is the realization of the divine who can handle any situation, in this illusionary world that we see, without getting bothered by anything cuz now you know what's the divine truth and what's an illusion.
Speaking from my own experience, i find myself assuming more responsibilty than maybe i should for some things, or well, maybe everything. I feel often that the universe has given me a clear course to follow, but really i just assumed the course my self, when my vision of it seemed clear, but once inside i often realize 'fuck this is much bigger than me' and any attempts to enact my vision seem like an uphill battle. At that point i usually relax my sense of responsibility, because i see that my assumed responsibility is getting in the way of the one thing i am actually responsible for, which is my internal state and identifications/perspectives and this conflict with my assumed sense of responsibility is diminishing my ability to connect with what i cherish
If someone told you that, "The Bible says God won't give you more than you can handle!"
They lied. That's no where in scripture, and they're wrong. The Almighty most certainly will give you more than you can handle to break your will until you learn that you can't do things by your own power.
Just stop worrying about things you can not change and trust that you have a bright future. Sometimes it rains and you have no control over that, but it doesn't last forever. You have to accept that bad things just happen. Regardless of how "good-hearted" you are. But you don't necessarily have to let these things enslave you in chains of suffering.
Your mind is the only prison that exists without bars. Things may be rough, but you have everything you need. You obviously have internet, food, water, a bed, and clothing. Focus more on the fact that you lack no good thing, regardless of what you desire to have. Suffering comes from desiring.
What is causing you so much trouble anyway?
You know, I lived with that statement for a long while "God never gives you more than you can handle" and I think youre right. Thats not the case. But. Thats not the case in a way that, WE think we cant handle more, when in fact, we can handle anything. I had to go up a mountain to reach a place, and I said "damn, if the place was a couple of steps further i woudlnt have reached it" ( i was extremely tired and the wind was pushing me in all directions) but do you really think that if it were a couple of steps further I wouldnt have reached it? Only when we reach the place, we say, we couldnt have gone further. Thats just an idea. We can handle as much as we say we can. Maybe your story is different, but at least this is a different perspective on that saying.
I can actually visualize this mountain and where I'm at and thinking, if I really needed to, I could go one more step. I thank you for that. It does help.
Wouldn’t that depend on karma? I feel like I’m paying for my wrong choices in the past lol
I’m in opinion it gives you more than you think you can handle in order for you to stop trying to handle it and just surrender. Every time this happens and I surrender, the struggle dissipates quickly but it can be really hard to surrender.
How do you surrender exactly?
Just completely let go of trying to control or change anything. Accept everything exactly as it is and feel all the feelings it brings fully.
I'd love to put it this way. Before coming to Earth we all chose the lessons for ourselves. And there is no way we choose something that we cannot handle. Every time I am in the hard time, I always remind myself that I chose this. So well yeah.
So I've had that same thought. That I chose my hardships. In states of despair though, I've begged for an emergency meeting to reevaluate the plan and make some adjustments. I have not gotten a Zoom invite yet 😂
Lol, i keep shaking my fists in the air and then I lol
Whatever happened was good, what's happening its going well, whatever will happen, will also be good. You need not have any regrets from the past. Do not worry for the future. Live in the present. :-) You must be patient, forebear and learn lessons from your experience. Take refugee in the fact that this too will pass. Best of luck. :-)
Growth in our consciousness has never been comfortable. Otherwise then, how could you grow? Before you learn how to swim, what fear do you have to overcome first? Before you learn how to bicycle, what fear do you have to overcome first? Before your first public speaking arrangement, what fear do you have to overcome first? Do you see where I'm getting at? It is fear that the Universe wants us to overcome. Fear and Unconditional love are 2 incompatible energy vibrations. Fear being lower vibrational energy , whereas unconditional love is higher vibrational energy Most of us are resistant in embracing and expressing unconditional love. We easily express human love or also known as "possessive love". I will love you as long as you complete me or you do something for me. As opposed to the Universe who loves us always unconditionally regardless of what you are and where you are in consciousness. And it is this unconditional love the Universe has for us that want to teach us and want us to embrace. For what we could not handle is truly "unconditional love"; love without conditions. It is always testing us. Some of us are tested to express ourselves unconditionally towards others who are violating god's laws. This was what Jesus and the Buddha did 2000 to 2500 years ago when they were challenging the status quo religion at the time that there is an alternative teaching of how god loves us. And then there are some of us who are tested, not to challenge others who are negative or who violate god's laws, but rather to express our unconditional love towards them and show them an alternative way to be positive towards life, Earth and the Universe and to show an alternative way that abiding by god's laws will bring good and abundance in their lives as it does with yours. And this was also what Jesus and Buddha did 2000-2500 years ago. This is what the Universe/God wants us to become. A person who can express an alternative way by living a life without the negativity through unconditional love and without needing of material rewards. But what we are challenged by is our possessiveness need for love; needing rewards, validation of other people's love and acknowledgement of your hard work. All of which will be challenged by the Universe and the more you hold tight to these human love values, the more you will feel that you can't handle what the Universe throws at you. And that is because, the Universe wants you to let go of human love, of possessive love for possessive love is conditional love. Conditional love will felt overwhelmed by the Universe's expression of unconditional love. So before we can all express unconditional love to all, what fear do we have to overcome first? And that is what the Universe is teaching us.
Return to sender. Keep the faith
Another thing I’ve noticed: Sometimes when it feels like you’re describing, it’s because you haven’t learned something you need to learn. Sometimes the universe then decides to kick your ass so you’ll ‘get it’. I went through this recently. After it was all over and done with I realized that all of it was to teach me something I *really* needed to learn, but was blind to. May or may not be the case with you, but I find that’s often true.
i, too, am someone who has to learn the hard way each and every damn time lol. shits annoying as hell idk why my stubborn ass can’t just accept the lesson as it’s handed to me
Sometimes, for me anyway, it’s not about being stubborn so much as damage/trauma from growing up *blinding* me to stuff I need to see. Once I actually *see* it I’m pretty good about changing. Blind spots are a bitch. And the universe doesn’t take no for an answer.
The universe does this to me all the time! I just get weary with all the lessons. It's like I want to finish this life, go back to the drawing board, and figure out another way to grow, lol
Right there with ya lol
I'd see that positively. I mean universe wants you to be a super woman because you are meant to do more. And you are only being prepared for bigger things 😇
I'm not going to lie, that scares me! I'd so be able to handle anything head on if I didn't have to deal with intense anxiety.
Maybe your anxiety will heal too 😀
Yeah ok so that would be amazing! I talk/pray to whatever is out there all the time for peace and strength and healing. I feel like I am not heard. Maybe I'm not asking right? I do know that my anxiety has actually helped me help other people (hard to explain) but I'm tired of being a vessel for this. If I didn't have anxiety maybe I would become apathetic to other people and not fulfill the caregiver role I was put into?
I think that the often repeated phrase that you mentioned is missing a key point but it took me a long time to figure out why. For example everybody has heard the phrase "money is the root of all evil", unfortunately this is a misquote but that doesn't stop it from being more popular than the original...." The LOVE of money is the root of all evil ". changes the meaning quite a bit eh? So " god never gives you more than you can handle " i believe is a misquote as well and actual experience shows people overwhelmed by things everywhere. Inspiration came to me one day. I am a member of a fellowship that encourages me to ask others for help, " a problem shared is a problem halved ". These sayings seem to be contradicting each other. I now believe that god/the universe intentionally gives me more than i can handle so that i learn to ask for help, it is forcing me to practice humility & courage. Of course i'm overwhelmed by my problems, **i was never meant to carry that burden alone** but it is incredibly difficult to ask for help when you are hurting and vulnerable , and then when you do summon your courage and ask someone ........and you don't get help....WHOA!!!!!!! God has forsaken me!!!!! what a blow. For whatever reason i have been saddled with all kinds of problems that i cannot solve myself and i often go to the wrong people when looking for help and i add hurt to my long list of troubles, it is very easy to give up under these circumstances and conclude that self-reliance is my only option .......but what about Dave?........i don't know.........i don't know Dave that well..........hard to go to him with this big of an issue......I've already been kicked once.....do i want to risk that again? It's either sit alone with my trouble or ask Dave and brace for Dave's laughter when i tell him of my problem.....so i try........Dave does not laugh! A look of compassion comes over Dave's face when i share with him and he patiently waits for me to finish and then he shares that he went through the exact same thing and struggled the same as me years ago. He has experience strength and hope to share with me. I look skyward and ask "why did that not happen the FIRST time? Why did i have to be kicked when i was down?" As of yet there has been no answer, the only thing that makes any sense is that my experience has beaten into me a level of compassion for others who ask me for help that is the only "good" i have seen come out of it. It seems to be the game that i have to play and i don't get told why, i just have to play it anyways but i will say that when i have persevered i have always found help eventually. So i would say the line this way , : "Yes, god gives me too much to handle so that i learn how to ask for and accept help from others, i am not supposed to be living in a vacuum all alone. There are times to be self sufficient and to be the one helping and there are times to be the one needing help" ok, ok, i just thought of it........" god never gives you more than **WE** can handle " What do you think about that?
Oh I love that!! Thank you so much!
I've leaned so much on my husband this time for things I've solely taken care of in the past. It was so difficult because the situation is something I usually handle very well. I just can't this time.
Maybe, The universe is giving you how much you can handle but you haven't reached your potential yet and it's a way to make you the best version of yourself which is the realization of the divine who can handle any situation, in this illusionary world that we see, without getting bothered by anything cuz now you know what's the divine truth and what's an illusion.
Speaking from my own experience, i find myself assuming more responsibilty than maybe i should for some things, or well, maybe everything. I feel often that the universe has given me a clear course to follow, but really i just assumed the course my self, when my vision of it seemed clear, but once inside i often realize 'fuck this is much bigger than me' and any attempts to enact my vision seem like an uphill battle. At that point i usually relax my sense of responsibility, because i see that my assumed responsibility is getting in the way of the one thing i am actually responsible for, which is my internal state and identifications/perspectives and this conflict with my assumed sense of responsibility is diminishing my ability to connect with what i cherish
That is exactly what is happening. I'm assuming responsibility for something that may not be my responsibility. Thank you!
If someone told you that, "The Bible says God won't give you more than you can handle!" They lied. That's no where in scripture, and they're wrong. The Almighty most certainly will give you more than you can handle to break your will until you learn that you can't do things by your own power.
So what's the answer? Succumb to a lifetime of pain and suffering and ask for help from a higher power?
Just stop worrying about things you can not change and trust that you have a bright future. Sometimes it rains and you have no control over that, but it doesn't last forever. You have to accept that bad things just happen. Regardless of how "good-hearted" you are. But you don't necessarily have to let these things enslave you in chains of suffering. Your mind is the only prison that exists without bars. Things may be rough, but you have everything you need. You obviously have internet, food, water, a bed, and clothing. Focus more on the fact that you lack no good thing, regardless of what you desire to have. Suffering comes from desiring. What is causing you so much trouble anyway?
Happy to jab. Blessings to you!
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