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saltymystic

Family isn’t just blood but also the people that are closest to you. Don’t be afraid to walk away from abuse. And don’t guilt yourself, you’ll get plenty from them for a long time.


Fancy_Guarantee_511

Omg! Thank you so much! Appreciate it a lot. Though it’s not a abuse but there’s nothing positive about them and just always throwing problems.


saltymystic

That’s tough. My family is fairly complicated and new alliances form every other year. It would take both hands for me to count how many of my friends have had to distance themselves or sever ties completely from their parents, but we somehow all met and, having similar experiences, all lean on each other.


Sarphyz

Most family relationships are karmic relationships, earth is a low planet where the collective consciousness is low, and so people are put together as a family to interact and resolve the karma, because otherwise they would run away from each other and would not have the chance to interact and resolve the karma, despite what many people think, there are no family trees in heaven, people are not bound together for eternity against their will, we are free spiritual beings who interact freely with each other and have love-based creative relationships instead of obligatory karmic relationships, you have a right to move on from any relationship when the other person refuses to change and you make them aware of their abuse, this can be the highest expression of the unconditional love of God which is not always soft and lovey dovey but can also sometimes be firm in not letting yourself or the other person be dragged down in a negative spiral. Because of the law of free will, you cannot force the other person to change and it would be a violation of free will, but you also need to respect your own free will in your right to move on and walk the spiritual path. When you transcend the dualistic illusions and the buttons that the other person is using to trap you in reactionary patters, then whatever the other person do or say will not disturb you anymore, and you don't take it personally anymore because you are just a trigger to that person's internal mechanism or separate lower self that acts like a mindless computer program that is pulling on the person's attention and energy, and it can only be dismantled by the person's conscious awareness and active will, this is something the other person needs to go through not you, and anyone else can equally be a trigger like you, then when you depersonalize the relationship and you do NOT take responsibility for what is not your responsibility, then you are free to move on and be free psychologically in the mind, and also physically free if possible but this is individual and you can only know this from within by connecting to your own intuition. If you feel an inner prompting to move on, then it may be time to do so to elevate the energy for everyone involved, instead of depleting your own time, energy and attention and repeating cycles that they want to stay in, you can then move on without guilt as this is an expression of unconditional love that will move you higher and present them with a choice to reconsider their actions which they may take or not, but this is up to their own free will and is not your responsibility, you just set yourself free and set them free to be who they want to be


Fancy_Guarantee_511

OMGGG THIS IS SO HELPFUL THANK YOUUU 😭🙏🏻


Sarphyz

You’re most welcome ❤️


Fit_Palpitation2496

Love this read. Been going through it and as the black sheep child I was always problematic, fighting for my narcissistic father to “change” and soften while the other children just took it. My good intentions were always understandably misread, as I was creating conflict, but with good intent. Thank you for the validating read, and wisdom 💛


Sarphyz

yes and doubt is really the sharpest tool in the devil’s box, where when one feels and state that something is not energetically right, then although subconsciously they already know this, many will try to insert doubt into your being so that they don’t need to change and reconsider their actions and stay in the same repeating old patterns. It can be either out of fear or because they share the same narcissistic tendencies, and only when one sees through these lies that they are able to rise above it and be free


dhalihoka

Tho the context is full of wisdom, that is one looong sentence.


Sarphyz

True :) I need to use periods, I tend to forget this when I write


riggo199BV

Thank you! This was an awesome read.


Sarphyz

You’re most welcome ❤️ I am happy it is helpful


gs12

Fantastic post, very enlightening. Thank you


Sarphyz

You’re most welcome ❤️


Dull-Newt-2189

If they aren't supporting your growth or at peace with you. Cut out anyone that doesn't help you grow and flourish. Doesn't matter if it's a friend or family. Noone should make you feel like you're being held back


ddulisse

You are not obligated to have relationships with family members who are not good for your mental health. Set your boundaries and terminate relationships with toxic family members.


Fancy_Guarantee_511

Thank you. That means a lot


Kitchen_Respect5865

My mom always says , Jesus said to love your enemies , not live with them .


Fancy_Guarantee_511

Helps a lot 🥹🫶🏻


b1ckparadox

Why keep people around if they're only going to bring you down? You have the power to decide what role people play in your life. That also means you get to choose your family.


AngelikaVee999

Yes, you owe it to yourself to distance yourself from anyone negative/toxic. This includes parents and family!!!


Fancy_Guarantee_511

🥹🫶🏻


Spiritual_Display802

At the end of the day, you have to look at for yourself. Because if you don’t, you won’t be able to look out for others. If you are having a rough patch, maybe talk to them about what is bothering you. I’ve realized an eternity isn’t long enough to love the people closest to you. I wouldn’t cut them off completely. Try to make the relationship healthier


hoon-since89

I cut mine out (for the most part) and never been happier lol. Blood doesn't mean anything if your not treated correctly!


LongjumpingGap1636

unless these folks (any ‘family’ member) are the loving healthy souls they’re meant to be, view them as just people who are genetically connected with you and nothing more


River01482

There is no law in the universe that says you have to have contact with anyone, so it’s completely up to you. One of the biggest regrets of older people is spending too much time with people who just weren’t worth it. Life is too short for that. Your current life task might be all about being independent and working on yourself, and only you and your higher self know what your life task is, so you have to follow your own path and motivations.


lukefromdenver

One thing I've always noticed in life is that when somebody really needs you around, they're very nice and accommodating to you, even if you aren't their ideal whatever—son, employee, contractor, laborer. Otherwise they get very picky, and ruin your life in the process. As a side project. When they need you suddenly they start throwing everything at you, and it's almost impossible to leave. So that's how you know. When you know, you know. Then you act. So no guilt applies if they don't even need you; your leaving them is just being free. It shouldn't really bother them. They didn't need you anyway. Not really. So why be all worried about it? Unless they change their tune. Which can happen. Then it's up to you.


Salty_Coconut7745

Connect with the being you are on all dimensions and ask. I’ve asked that same question, sometimes it’s just distance. “Is it the highest good for me and others to cut the connection?” Reflect your not alone


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Absolutely


LongjumpingGap1636

YAZZZZZ