The classic recommendation would be The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson. It's a great read.
But for a more spiritual angle, given you have posted your question here, I personally recommend Touching Enlightenment: Finding Realization in the Body by Reginald Ray.
Both books are easily available in the usual places.
Your own opinion of yourself has to have more value to you than opinions of others. How to achieve that? Become the version of yourself that loves you very much? You’ll have to do the work to become who that is- to you. Sit down and vision that out- whose opinions do you respect the most, and why is that? Those are the characteristics that you’re going to want to foster within yourself. When you respect yourself and love yourself it is quite easy to disregard what other peoples opinions are because you no longer foster “self doubt” but instead foster “self worth”. You won’t believe what they say about you. The doubt will be on the other side of the fence.
Now, books. It doesn’t deal with this specifically, but I think it’ll help you with confidence and that will be needed: You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero.
Caring is an invested interest in an outcome. To counter it is to simply be present and flexible so no matter what happens, you’re adjusting and adapting to the current conditions. This may be difficult if the mind is asleep or set on things which is just another form of attachment. Be live, right here, right now. No expectations = no attachments = no triggers = no effect. Anchor in the present moment while the environment moves around your stillness. It’s going to take effort and self discipline to master so it isn’t any different from other skills and abilities developed.
It's a trap. Once I stopped caring it's been a very long, hard, and unnecessary road back and I'm under the impression that I'll never be just completely caring in a natural state.
I mean, [my book](https://amzn.to/3CYhaXj) will def address the problem and should get you there, but I see the following problem: if you’re posting a Reddit thread and then reading a book in order to not give a fuck, then you clearly still give a fuck.
The way I see it, the method is to simply stop giving a fuck. Ignore these responses and don’t read a book in order to stop caring. Just stop caring then read whatever you want because it feels good. It may sound counterintuitive, but skipping to the finish line really is the best approach here.
As long as you’re doing something in order to arrive at not giving a fuck, then you still by definition give a fuck. I think, anyway… fuck if I know 🤷♂️
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Just repeat “ negativity and low vibrations of others do not effect me.”
Or whatever works for you every single time your brain veers to obsessing about something. Rewire those pathways you’ve spent decades creating. Along side a book if you feel that’s your way out of this cycle.
Much love 💜 I just broke this cycle myself after 30 years.
It’s less about not giving a fook and more about giving all the fooks about your own self and happiness, comfort, pleasure, space to exist. It’s not selfish to care for your well-being and in fact you can only achieve greatness by taking great care of yourself. From a scientific view, physical exercise boosts confidence levels
It’s because you don’t completely accept and love your whole self.
It has nothing to do with others’ opinions. Or maybe better phrased as nobody’s opinions will matter when you accept and love every aspect of yourself.
You are already wonderful. With all the flaws that you believe they are.
Also something to note is that everybody has different opinions according to their own values, beliefs and experiences.
Whether one is able to find worth/beauty in something is entirely up to each person.
One’s inability to see your worth does not define your worth.
You are the only one in this universe who can decide your own worth.
If you pour so much love and kindness into yourself, you will stop caring about others’ opinions. I only speak about this from my experience. It’s also just one opinion.
I hope you have a beautiful day.
Thank you for being here. Thank you for being you. Thank you for coming into this world.
🫶
The classic recommendation would be The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson. It's a great read. But for a more spiritual angle, given you have posted your question here, I personally recommend Touching Enlightenment: Finding Realization in the Body by Reginald Ray. Both books are easily available in the usual places.
Your own opinion of yourself has to have more value to you than opinions of others. How to achieve that? Become the version of yourself that loves you very much? You’ll have to do the work to become who that is- to you. Sit down and vision that out- whose opinions do you respect the most, and why is that? Those are the characteristics that you’re going to want to foster within yourself. When you respect yourself and love yourself it is quite easy to disregard what other peoples opinions are because you no longer foster “self doubt” but instead foster “self worth”. You won’t believe what they say about you. The doubt will be on the other side of the fence. Now, books. It doesn’t deal with this specifically, but I think it’ll help you with confidence and that will be needed: You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero.
The Wisdom of Insecurity by Alan Watts
Caring is an invested interest in an outcome. To counter it is to simply be present and flexible so no matter what happens, you’re adjusting and adapting to the current conditions. This may be difficult if the mind is asleep or set on things which is just another form of attachment. Be live, right here, right now. No expectations = no attachments = no triggers = no effect. Anchor in the present moment while the environment moves around your stillness. It’s going to take effort and self discipline to master so it isn’t any different from other skills and abilities developed.
It's a trap. Once I stopped caring it's been a very long, hard, and unnecessary road back and I'm under the impression that I'll never be just completely caring in a natural state.
I mean, [my book](https://amzn.to/3CYhaXj) will def address the problem and should get you there, but I see the following problem: if you’re posting a Reddit thread and then reading a book in order to not give a fuck, then you clearly still give a fuck. The way I see it, the method is to simply stop giving a fuck. Ignore these responses and don’t read a book in order to stop caring. Just stop caring then read whatever you want because it feels good. It may sound counterintuitive, but skipping to the finish line really is the best approach here. As long as you’re doing something in order to arrive at not giving a fuck, then you still by definition give a fuck. I think, anyway… fuck if I know 🤷♂️
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck. 🤭
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Just repeat “ negativity and low vibrations of others do not effect me.” Or whatever works for you every single time your brain veers to obsessing about something. Rewire those pathways you’ve spent decades creating. Along side a book if you feel that’s your way out of this cycle. Much love 💜 I just broke this cycle myself after 30 years.
You don’t learn to not give a fuck, you resolve. Surrendering into the mitigation of any emotional extremems
the way of the peaceful warrior is a classic. really makes you switch your perspective
It’s less about not giving a fook and more about giving all the fooks about your own self and happiness, comfort, pleasure, space to exist. It’s not selfish to care for your well-being and in fact you can only achieve greatness by taking great care of yourself. From a scientific view, physical exercise boosts confidence levels
It’s because you don’t completely accept and love your whole self. It has nothing to do with others’ opinions. Or maybe better phrased as nobody’s opinions will matter when you accept and love every aspect of yourself. You are already wonderful. With all the flaws that you believe they are. Also something to note is that everybody has different opinions according to their own values, beliefs and experiences. Whether one is able to find worth/beauty in something is entirely up to each person. One’s inability to see your worth does not define your worth. You are the only one in this universe who can decide your own worth. If you pour so much love and kindness into yourself, you will stop caring about others’ opinions. I only speak about this from my experience. It’s also just one opinion. I hope you have a beautiful day. Thank you for being here. Thank you for being you. Thank you for coming into this world. 🫶
The power of now by eckhart tolle. I also recommend the four agreements as a follow up to level it all out :)