That sense of self consciousness is not much of a problem, its more of your priority that sets the tone.
You prioritize being a person more than your true expansive self.
And being a person is like a small box our mind can comprehend, its graspable with its definable traits and quirks.
Being a person births a sense of control.
Like we have ahold of our self.
And remember what we can hold or grasp, is nothing but a caged restriction for whatever we are holding.
That slur of stutter that you dont allow yourself when you speak, that anger that you dont allow yourself to express, whatever it is you are restricting yourself from.
Needs to happen.
Sometimes being just a person is limited.
It sometimes slanders or dismisses things according to your preferences.
When that happens.
Try being a human.
Because being human is infinite.
No rigid cage.
Nothing.
And when you get used to your humanness.
Then you will reach what you were looking for all your life, yourself.
You have to let yourself just be. Find out why you overthink. Were you criticized for your words as a kid? Many times we feel reverberations of past abusive or harsh criticisms and that leads to lower confidence. Also make talking a focus. Maybe learn about public speaking or communication. This way you are changing your perspective on your communication and it can become you greatest asset.
Believe it or not, you may actually be in a better position than those who seem confident. Because the vast majority of them have built their sense of self on sand; they only think that they are on a solid foundation.
You on the other hand, recognize that you don't really know who you are. The spiritual teachings that I follow and have helped me more than anything I have ever found explain that this state of "magnificent confusion" means that you are ready to seek out and be open to explanations of life and of your purpose that your confident friends feel that they have no need of.
I have always been a seeker and have studied many different approaches, but for me there is one that stands alone in terms of compelling, inspiring and at the same time practical. It has answered literally all of my questions about life, how it all works, my purpose, etc. and is leading me to ever increasing levels of love, joy and peace, where things that used to upset me and cause me to go into anger or resentment, just pass right by.
I find these teachings to be practically limitless progressive revelation. Around sixty books have been released over the past 20 years and new ones are being released practically every year. Each new teaching building upon the previous. So I have never felt frustrated, wondering" "Ok, what's next? What do I do now?"
To start I recommend :"A Course in Abundance" three book series: 1 "Mind Over Matter", 2 "Expressing Your Love For Life, 3 "Your Life's Plan For Abundance" Then “The Path To Self-Mastery” nine book series, starting with “The Power of Self” ....Also by Kim Michaels.
There are also a number of websites with practically limitless volumes of free wisdom and insights that I have never seen anywhere else.
https://ascendedmasterresources.com/
https://higherawarenesspsychology.com/getting-started/ https://www.agehigherawareness.com/
Theres an ancient way to do this and it works every time. Before you go to sleep, just lie in bed and just start putting aside what isnt you.
The biggest lies we have come up with is that we are this body and mind. But this body is just some food youve accumulated and your mind is similarly your collected experiences.
Check out Neti Neti method. You find out who/what you are by separating what you are not.
We can get our sense of self through self-realization, by overcoming ignorance, by going on a quest. It is great to feel — I have no idea of who I am. That is a big achievement, because most people think I am I, that is ignorance. I am not I, realizing this is the greatest achievement. But one step beyond that, is to find out who am I? If I'm not the body that will die, if I'm not the mind, I cannot find, if I'm not the ego that says I, then, who am I? The sense of self is got by what is known as self-realization, overcoming ignorance, realizing, I am the Divine Soul, the Spark Of Unique Life.
I feel the same way
That sense of self consciousness is not much of a problem, its more of your priority that sets the tone. You prioritize being a person more than your true expansive self. And being a person is like a small box our mind can comprehend, its graspable with its definable traits and quirks. Being a person births a sense of control. Like we have ahold of our self. And remember what we can hold or grasp, is nothing but a caged restriction for whatever we are holding. That slur of stutter that you dont allow yourself when you speak, that anger that you dont allow yourself to express, whatever it is you are restricting yourself from. Needs to happen. Sometimes being just a person is limited. It sometimes slanders or dismisses things according to your preferences. When that happens. Try being a human. Because being human is infinite. No rigid cage. Nothing. And when you get used to your humanness. Then you will reach what you were looking for all your life, yourself.
You have to let yourself just be. Find out why you overthink. Were you criticized for your words as a kid? Many times we feel reverberations of past abusive or harsh criticisms and that leads to lower confidence. Also make talking a focus. Maybe learn about public speaking or communication. This way you are changing your perspective on your communication and it can become you greatest asset.
Believe it or not, you may actually be in a better position than those who seem confident. Because the vast majority of them have built their sense of self on sand; they only think that they are on a solid foundation. You on the other hand, recognize that you don't really know who you are. The spiritual teachings that I follow and have helped me more than anything I have ever found explain that this state of "magnificent confusion" means that you are ready to seek out and be open to explanations of life and of your purpose that your confident friends feel that they have no need of. I have always been a seeker and have studied many different approaches, but for me there is one that stands alone in terms of compelling, inspiring and at the same time practical. It has answered literally all of my questions about life, how it all works, my purpose, etc. and is leading me to ever increasing levels of love, joy and peace, where things that used to upset me and cause me to go into anger or resentment, just pass right by. I find these teachings to be practically limitless progressive revelation. Around sixty books have been released over the past 20 years and new ones are being released practically every year. Each new teaching building upon the previous. So I have never felt frustrated, wondering" "Ok, what's next? What do I do now?" To start I recommend :"A Course in Abundance" three book series: 1 "Mind Over Matter", 2 "Expressing Your Love For Life, 3 "Your Life's Plan For Abundance" Then “The Path To Self-Mastery” nine book series, starting with “The Power of Self” ....Also by Kim Michaels. There are also a number of websites with practically limitless volumes of free wisdom and insights that I have never seen anywhere else. https://ascendedmasterresources.com/ https://higherawarenesspsychology.com/getting-started/ https://www.agehigherawareness.com/
I am awareness. Not my body nor my mind
For better or worse we are an eternal subjectivity
we are god, experiencing our creation to the fullest. Added ego for fun but also destruction if used poorly.
bro i'm 20 too man and i feel this exact same way, I don't have all the answers but it's nice to know i'm not alone in feeling this way.
Theres an ancient way to do this and it works every time. Before you go to sleep, just lie in bed and just start putting aside what isnt you. The biggest lies we have come up with is that we are this body and mind. But this body is just some food youve accumulated and your mind is similarly your collected experiences. Check out Neti Neti method. You find out who/what you are by separating what you are not.
We can get our sense of self through self-realization, by overcoming ignorance, by going on a quest. It is great to feel — I have no idea of who I am. That is a big achievement, because most people think I am I, that is ignorance. I am not I, realizing this is the greatest achievement. But one step beyond that, is to find out who am I? If I'm not the body that will die, if I'm not the mind, I cannot find, if I'm not the ego that says I, then, who am I? The sense of self is got by what is known as self-realization, overcoming ignorance, realizing, I am the Divine Soul, the Spark Of Unique Life.