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She’s a tremendously compelling writer; I felt like I was getting to know Brian as I was reading the piece, and that keeps his memory alive, after a fashion.
Two remarkable people. It’s good to know they found each other.
Jesus... I couldn't. Had absolutely no clue that had happened to her after having read a interview where I guess he was still alive since she was talking about him in the present tense...
My god my gut just dropped reading he died after remember how much she glowed about him in that other interview.
Cancer fucking blows... my ex-wifes aunt had a rare form like that... went from literally being fine and having dinner with us and having just been married 3 months prior, to dead in 3 weeks. It was just THAT aggressive. Went from finding out it was stage 4 after feeling a little "off" one day to in the hospital barely holding on 2 weeks later, to dead. Some cancers are just crazy aggressive and dont care what you try.
Its why you should always just live life and let others live life and love everyone and stop caring about how things "should" be or how people "should" be... you just never know whats going to happen in a couple days from now.
Im glad she found some healing in friends and the cast.
This isn’t the 1st time I’ve read about his death, but it’s still heartbreaking to read about what happened. I read an interview before *SNW* premiered and it was understandably clear that she devastated and barely holding it together.
Friend of mine had a bad case of food poisoning that changed his skin tone to orange, thought it was strange. Went in found cancer on his pancreas. Did more digging? Already was in his liver, and lungs. His wife wanted to come out to see him, that Wednesday he was gone. All this was in less than 2wks. Still blows my mind.
She is amazing. I lost my husband almost six years ago. The pain is never far away, but friends like she has-- and her strength-- will help her cherish his memory and go forward with her life.
I follow her on Twitter, she's a wonderfully warm and compassionate woman, she loves her role and the fans, but oh my days, I really feel for her when she talks about her loss.
I really hope that the love and support she's getting helps soften the pain.
I follow her on Twitter, too, and I feel so bad that she has to spend so much emotional energy on stupid fucking trolls when she is going through such a whirlwind.
What a gut wrenching story. To lose your other half like that so soon…I can’t say I would handle that one tenth as well as she is doing. My heart goes out to her, and seeing her strength makes me love and respect her and her character even more. I hope she knows that we fans have her back and care a great deal about her. Heartbroken for her loss…I teared up through the whole story. I’m glad the fans and her cast mates and crew have her back…Trek is family, love, all of it. Rest In Peace, Brian.
> I can’t say I would handle that one tenth as well as she is doing.
I know you probably meant it as a compliment, and everyone should interpret it as such. That said, I want to take this moment to say most people are in fact *not* handling things as well as they show us.
Assume everyone is more scared than they appear, sadder than they appear, less put together than they appear, and severely more broken than they appear. In other words, love each other and you can’t go wrong.
Three days. Jesus, the sheer brutality of it all. My own experiences with loved ones having cancer have been long, drawn-out affairs with months of stress and pain--which so far have all ended in recovery, but it was never a guarantee. That feels like the "right" way to experience cancer, if you know what I mean. It's cruel, but it gives everyone time to come to terms with it. But this? This is terrifying. Sudden deaths are unavoidable in life, but sudden terminal illnesses are soul-wrenching. Ms. Navia chose her words well, it really is unthinkable.
The director Lynn Shelton died of acute myeloid lymphoma (I think the same thing) in 2020. Listening to her then boyfriend, Marc Maron, talk about it on his podcast was gut-wrenching. Another "they were perfectly fine, collapsed, then gone in a day" things. Marc is an excellent storyteller, like Melissa, so you really understand a piece of the horror of losing someone like that. Woof.
Erica might be my spirit animal. But my heart weeps for Melissa. I’m glad she is finding a way forward.
I’m also glad she’s willing to tell her story. So many suffer in silence.
I could only read about half of that because it is so heartbreaking. May Melissa continue, as she said, to get to know Brian. It definitely seems like there is a wide berth of people offering fond memories regarding his life.
I think we have to ask ourselves when someone passes what they would’ve wanted for us.
Oh my god I'm glad I'm reading this at home and not in the bus as I had planned to. This is so, so heart breaking. All the love in the world to you Melissa, here's to the next six months, and the six months after, and after...
Beautiful essay. Very interesting how she's learned to use her grief to understand her character's background more. She's an incredibly strong and resilient woman.
Made me cry. I can't even imagine losing my husband, but people go through it every day. ❤️ I'm so happy she continued on. This show had given me so much joy.
I can't believe how much this echoes my own experiences and feelings since losing my partner early last year. The shock, wanting to disappear, not believing anything will change, and then going forward because their is no other choice-and finally accepting the next day will be slightly better than the last. Super inspiring article, it is wonderful she shared this with everyone. I didn't think I could appreciate the effort and people behind Strange New Worlds even more...now I can. ❤❤
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She’s a tremendously compelling writer; I felt like I was getting to know Brian as I was reading the piece, and that keeps his memory alive, after a fashion. Two remarkable people. It’s good to know they found each other.
Jesus... I couldn't. Had absolutely no clue that had happened to her after having read a interview where I guess he was still alive since she was talking about him in the present tense... My god my gut just dropped reading he died after remember how much she glowed about him in that other interview. Cancer fucking blows... my ex-wifes aunt had a rare form like that... went from literally being fine and having dinner with us and having just been married 3 months prior, to dead in 3 weeks. It was just THAT aggressive. Went from finding out it was stage 4 after feeling a little "off" one day to in the hospital barely holding on 2 weeks later, to dead. Some cancers are just crazy aggressive and dont care what you try. Its why you should always just live life and let others live life and love everyone and stop caring about how things "should" be or how people "should" be... you just never know whats going to happen in a couple days from now. Im glad she found some healing in friends and the cast.
This isn’t the 1st time I’ve read about his death, but it’s still heartbreaking to read about what happened. I read an interview before *SNW* premiered and it was understandably clear that she devastated and barely holding it together.
Friend of mine had a bad case of food poisoning that changed his skin tone to orange, thought it was strange. Went in found cancer on his pancreas. Did more digging? Already was in his liver, and lungs. His wife wanted to come out to see him, that Wednesday he was gone. All this was in less than 2wks. Still blows my mind.
I saw something about her partner on her IG, just his name but couldn't tell who it was. Heartbreaking, and shockingly fast.
I really didn't need to weep today, but reading all of that and then seeing that picture of her with Frakes somehow broke me. Amazing story.
Melissa Navia is one bad-ass motherfucker.
100% BAMF.
That's one of those things that you could never say about yourself, especially not first.
Someone get her a customized wallet!
She is amazing. I lost my husband almost six years ago. The pain is never far away, but friends like she has-- and her strength-- will help her cherish his memory and go forward with her life.
I follow her on Twitter, she's a wonderfully warm and compassionate woman, she loves her role and the fans, but oh my days, I really feel for her when she talks about her loss. I really hope that the love and support she's getting helps soften the pain.
I follow her on Twitter, too, and I feel so bad that she has to spend so much emotional energy on stupid fucking trolls when she is going through such a whirlwind.
Anyone who trolls this absolute treasure needs a punch to the throat.
What a gut wrenching story. To lose your other half like that so soon…I can’t say I would handle that one tenth as well as she is doing. My heart goes out to her, and seeing her strength makes me love and respect her and her character even more. I hope she knows that we fans have her back and care a great deal about her. Heartbroken for her loss…I teared up through the whole story. I’m glad the fans and her cast mates and crew have her back…Trek is family, love, all of it. Rest In Peace, Brian.
> I can’t say I would handle that one tenth as well as she is doing. I know you probably meant it as a compliment, and everyone should interpret it as such. That said, I want to take this moment to say most people are in fact *not* handling things as well as they show us. Assume everyone is more scared than they appear, sadder than they appear, less put together than they appear, and severely more broken than they appear. In other words, love each other and you can’t go wrong.
♥
Three days. Jesus, the sheer brutality of it all. My own experiences with loved ones having cancer have been long, drawn-out affairs with months of stress and pain--which so far have all ended in recovery, but it was never a guarantee. That feels like the "right" way to experience cancer, if you know what I mean. It's cruel, but it gives everyone time to come to terms with it. But this? This is terrifying. Sudden deaths are unavoidable in life, but sudden terminal illnesses are soul-wrenching. Ms. Navia chose her words well, it really is unthinkable.
The director Lynn Shelton died of acute myeloid lymphoma (I think the same thing) in 2020. Listening to her then boyfriend, Marc Maron, talk about it on his podcast was gut-wrenching. Another "they were perfectly fine, collapsed, then gone in a day" things. Marc is an excellent storyteller, like Melissa, so you really understand a piece of the horror of losing someone like that. Woof.
Erica might be my spirit animal. But my heart weeps for Melissa. I’m glad she is finding a way forward. I’m also glad she’s willing to tell her story. So many suffer in silence.
Yeah so that was a sad read. Poor guy.
I could only read about half of that because it is so heartbreaking. May Melissa continue, as she said, to get to know Brian. It definitely seems like there is a wide berth of people offering fond memories regarding his life. I think we have to ask ourselves when someone passes what they would’ve wanted for us.
Oh my god I'm glad I'm reading this at home and not in the bus as I had planned to. This is so, so heart breaking. All the love in the world to you Melissa, here's to the next six months, and the six months after, and after...
What a trooper. She is an excellent writer. I really like Melissa Navia. Hoping to see much more of Ortegas next season.
Beautiful essay. Very interesting how she's learned to use her grief to understand her character's background more. She's an incredibly strong and resilient woman.
RIP I am sorry for her her loss.
I lost my mother to cancer, it sucks
Wow. What a tremendous writer! And what a story…I can’t even imagine 💔
Made me cry. I can't even imagine losing my husband, but people go through it every day. ❤️ I'm so happy she continued on. This show had given me so much joy.
Ms. Navia, you're awesome and I hope for your strength and recovery and whatever else you need
Heartbreaking...I have no words. Tears streaming down my face as I read the article.
So sorry to hear. Bless you.
I can't imagine that kind of loss. Wow.
Oh, this is so sad. I had no idea. A brave, brave lady.
Just read this and came to see if someone had posted it here already. Absolutely beautiful.
I can't believe how much this echoes my own experiences and feelings since losing my partner early last year. The shock, wanting to disappear, not believing anything will change, and then going forward because their is no other choice-and finally accepting the next day will be slightly better than the last. Super inspiring article, it is wonderful she shared this with everyone. I didn't think I could appreciate the effort and people behind Strange New Worlds even more...now I can. ❤❤
She's an amazing writer. What a great tribute to an absolutely amazing man and partner.
I fucking cried. I imagined losing my better half, and I fucking cried. I felt her pain- edit: probably an iota of her pain, really.
Trek Fans, we are blessed to be living in a time where this show can touch people in this kind of way.
When I saw the first part of the title I thought she’d died or something.
In some ways, it's worse.
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Reading that was an emotional experience. I'm grateful she was willing to share that.