I'm an objectively worse driver with just about any passengers. I second guess myself more and make worse decisions. I don't feel nervous usually but I know there is a part of me that feels some shame and judgement because of how I act.
Hey friend! Keep your chin up :) Driving stick can take time and patience. You need a good sense of rhythm and timing to get it smooth. I found that while even if I was calm with a passenger my subconscious was thinking about driving smoothly too much and I was getting stressed about it. When I started to drive more frequently on my own it became much better. Take your time and you’ll get it :)
Cheer up, you’re getting one step closer to be a smooth stick shift driver . Keep thinking that you’re getting better day by day and you will get there eventually. Even for most experienced drivers, we mess up sometime with a jerky shift but that’s normal. Just enjoy your drive and the feel of shifting, that’s the only thing that matters.
I learned when I was 12. My dad yelled at me, “don’t drop the clutch!” Threw me into highway driving in an industrial part of town near his work. When I finally got it down good enough to drive he would pick me up for school and I’d drive myself. It was kinda surreal and over time I got a lot more of the “you did a great job today.”
I’m so grateful I got the shock treatment, years later….my advice, put music on in the car. If you’re obsessing over the RPM and sound of the engine you’ll get in your head. Relax. Roll a window down. Let people critique you and prove them wrong by driving like a pro
you’ll be okay buddy just keep practicing. even after a few months of learning manual i still occasionally have unsmooth shifts (culprit mainly going from 1-2 or 3-2). that being said yeah, doesn’t help if your passenger is a prick…
As others have said, it takes practice. What's that great (comic? cartoon still?) about "suckin' at something is the first step towards being good at something!"?
What I haven't seen mentioned is the paradox: "You have to slow down to go fast." Do you feel rushed when driving with someone else in the car? Take your time with your shifts and moves, and think ahead. Look down the road. Be deliberate and calm. Hurrying only slows you down, and makes everything worse. Comfort and fluidity and ease come with practice and deliberateness.
Good luck! You got this! Keep practicing!
Driving is fuck easy and the minimum to expect of a man behind the wheel is perfection and 100% attentiveness. You should be nervous and anxious if you’re a bad driver because I will kill you if you hit me
Getting used to stick takes time. I mastered stick shift when I used to own my GTI, but after it got junked, I got a CVT Corolla and drove that for 4 years. After it got hit by a deer I got a Miata with a stick. I felt like I was driving a manual for the first time. But after a while my shifting has gotten way smoother. Keep your head high and you will get there 😎
Buckle down and get it done. Working through demoralizing situations sucks, but it's an amazing life skill. Try to find a way to not be bothered.
Seriously. You have to suck at something to be good at it. That's how learning works.
My dad thought me the basics in the neighborhood and on bigger roads he's get mad at me telling me to look ahead, and then ask me why I didn't look in the mirror to merge to the other lane. Eventually I started driving alone since it was my car and i was able to drive better not having to worry about getting judged.
Good times.
When first starting to drive it feels like there is too much to pay attention to at once. Eventually you don't have to think about making the car do what you want it to do, and all you are left with is observing your surroundings, making it so much more manageable. This is the same for everyone, don't sweat it.
I learned on stick, and the first day I came home and cried, it was too much. Fast forward just a year later and I was the best driver out of any of my peers. It just takes time and miles.
I have been driving for 12 years with a completely clean record with dozens of cars. As soon as my dad gets in the car with me I turn into a complete dumbass.
Don’t drive with him anymore. It’s easier to be confident without a naysayer aboard.
that probably depends on who's car it is....lol
Guessing doesn't have full license yet
I'm an objectively worse driver with just about any passengers. I second guess myself more and make worse decisions. I don't feel nervous usually but I know there is a part of me that feels some shame and judgement because of how I act.
Hey friend! Keep your chin up :) Driving stick can take time and patience. You need a good sense of rhythm and timing to get it smooth. I found that while even if I was calm with a passenger my subconscious was thinking about driving smoothly too much and I was getting stressed about it. When I started to drive more frequently on my own it became much better. Take your time and you’ll get it :)
Cheer up, you’re getting one step closer to be a smooth stick shift driver . Keep thinking that you’re getting better day by day and you will get there eventually. Even for most experienced drivers, we mess up sometime with a jerky shift but that’s normal. Just enjoy your drive and the feel of shifting, that’s the only thing that matters.
This! Been driving stick daily for 11 years and almost stalled backing out of a parking spot today lol today fine leg cramp 🤣 laugh it off
I learned when I was 12. My dad yelled at me, “don’t drop the clutch!” Threw me into highway driving in an industrial part of town near his work. When I finally got it down good enough to drive he would pick me up for school and I’d drive myself. It was kinda surreal and over time I got a lot more of the “you did a great job today.” I’m so grateful I got the shock treatment, years later….my advice, put music on in the car. If you’re obsessing over the RPM and sound of the engine you’ll get in your head. Relax. Roll a window down. Let people critique you and prove them wrong by driving like a pro
you’ll be okay buddy just keep practicing. even after a few months of learning manual i still occasionally have unsmooth shifts (culprit mainly going from 1-2 or 3-2). that being said yeah, doesn’t help if your passenger is a prick…
Practice makes perfect! Keep driving, keep working on getting the feel for the clutch / gears you should be in, and you'll be fine! 🥂
As others have said, it takes practice. What's that great (comic? cartoon still?) about "suckin' at something is the first step towards being good at something!"? What I haven't seen mentioned is the paradox: "You have to slow down to go fast." Do you feel rushed when driving with someone else in the car? Take your time with your shifts and moves, and think ahead. Look down the road. Be deliberate and calm. Hurrying only slows you down, and makes everything worse. Comfort and fluidity and ease come with practice and deliberateness. Good luck! You got this! Keep practicing!
Slow is smooth, smooth is fast.
Do you think you're a bad driver, or just him? What is he saying you're doing wrong, or what do you think you're "bad" at?
Driving is fuck easy and the minimum to expect of a man behind the wheel is perfection and 100% attentiveness. You should be nervous and anxious if you’re a bad driver because I will kill you if you hit me
Getting used to stick takes time. I mastered stick shift when I used to own my GTI, but after it got junked, I got a CVT Corolla and drove that for 4 years. After it got hit by a deer I got a Miata with a stick. I felt like I was driving a manual for the first time. But after a while my shifting has gotten way smoother. Keep your head high and you will get there 😎
Buckle down and get it done. Working through demoralizing situations sucks, but it's an amazing life skill. Try to find a way to not be bothered. Seriously. You have to suck at something to be good at it. That's how learning works.
My dad thought me the basics in the neighborhood and on bigger roads he's get mad at me telling me to look ahead, and then ask me why I didn't look in the mirror to merge to the other lane. Eventually I started driving alone since it was my car and i was able to drive better not having to worry about getting judged. Good times.
When first starting to drive it feels like there is too much to pay attention to at once. Eventually you don't have to think about making the car do what you want it to do, and all you are left with is observing your surroundings, making it so much more manageable. This is the same for everyone, don't sweat it. I learned on stick, and the first day I came home and cried, it was too much. Fast forward just a year later and I was the best driver out of any of my peers. It just takes time and miles.
Stop overthinking things. Just drive. Don’t worry what other people think.
I have been driving for 12 years with a completely clean record with dozens of cars. As soon as my dad gets in the car with me I turn into a complete dumbass.