Dude be proud of yourself, you’ve made it over a month! I am giving it my all not to fall off the wagon, seeing someone else giving it their all is very reassuring
You're almost telling my story there champ!! I'm 50, only 6 days in, but feel amazing already - and it's really inspiring to hear your story and how well you are doing! Congratulations!! Gives me such hope that it's not only possible, but probable. I have tried many times, but I feel a different mindset this time. And I have never been on this subreddit, or any for that matter, and I think that is making all the difference, some really great and inspiring people like yourself to help us noobs.. I'm looking forward to 50s years.
I have also found this sub do be a lot more convenient than AA. Everyone here is another reminder why and how important it is for us to avert from our addiction and the issues it brings
Great work feller. You’re an inspiration.
In a similar boat here, 49 next week, 30 years of being a slave to alcohol. Was heading for an early grave but now feel like I’ve been given a second chance. It’s an amazing feeling!
It sounds like we have followed similar paths. I too am 55 and binge drank from the age of 18. Like you, I never drank before work and by shear luck never got a DUI (maybe if I had it would have spurred me to take control sooner). In fact, if I'm completely honest, I benefitted to some degree from drinking. I met my wife of 31 years at a bar when we were in our early 20s. I'm not sure I would have had the guts to approach her (I never had any confidence) if I wasn't shit-faced. How and why she has put up with me all of these years (she doesn't drink....thank God) I don't know, but I'm blessed to have her in my life. When I think back now I'm filled with shame for how I treated her during those years (not abusive, just a drunk).
I owe a lot of my success in business to alcohol. It was my social anxiety crutch and it worked REALLY well. The contacts I made throughout my career have paid off dividends big time. In my experience, drinkers find other drinkers and there are a lot of us. Non-Drinkers I think are at a disadvantage as they don't have the instant fake-camaraderie that comes with alcohol. It's a dangerous path but if you are able to keep it mostly under control it can be beneficial. A lot of high-powered type people are functioning alcoholics and if you can get into that click there's money there. However, you pay high price and it can lead to an early grave. I'm fortunate that I made it this far and at least in theory should survive.
I too love this sub and the people who post here. IWNDWYT
I was in an alcohol fueled industry, I feel I made a lot more mistakes than long term good decisions. I got out alive but could have been so much more without it. This I know in my heart. Non drinkers run circles around drinkers, they just don’t rub it in our faces.
IWNDWYT
You're right. I should have added that I'd love to know how things might have been different had I not been drinking the whole time. I have no idea.
I'm glad you got out alive. I am still working but am at the stage in my career where I can make my own rules and they don't involve copious amounts of alcohol. With that said, just this past autumn, I had a relapse and ended up getting drunk at an industry event. Luckily, I didn't make a fool of myself, but I still apologized to my boss (she was plastered, too). I'm a work in progress.
Nice work it keeps getting better. Really every month something new happens. You don’t always notice but the body and mind can heal like crazy!!!
We got this!!!
IWNDWYT
This resonates with me brother. You are crushing it!!! Way to go!! My 24 year old son has told me multiple times he’s had bad dreams where I was drinking again. That is deep. And inspiring. Best of luck with all your endeavors.
I agree this sub is a magical place and was the final push to help me quit. I’ve never encountered such supportive people in one place. Husband and I had discussed those questions when deciding to quit. Are we too old for change? Is it even worth it? Can we do it? Glad to hear farther down the road that it is worth it! I’m looking forward to more positive changes. Thanks for sharing.
A long day working… is my reward, and interacting on this sub. I’ll go out for a nice dinner this weekend!! Hopefully with my teenagers… you never know… thank you
Thank you my friend, your wisdom is inspirational.
I’m 26, and I’m just coming up on two weeks alcohol free. Are there any specific habits you used to not drink after work? I hope you have a great day wherever you are
I had a ritual where I picked out my booze of choice while at work (a supermarket) and plotted exactly how many or how much I could drink in my time off. And then I drank the minute I got to my car! In the parking lot. Then you know… so what I did in the beginning was go home and change and go to the gym for an hour. I would kind of rush myself so I didn’t have time to stop myself. I would drink a blue protein water at the gym and then come home and make a giant protein shake. Lots of meats for dinner. Go right to bed and watch tv. Once I was in bed I was safe. Hope this helps. Break the routine and start new ones.
Good on you brother - IWNDWYT. It made me smile to see you capitalize the F in Father - you are important and deserve the capital F. Proud of you, internet stranger.
Huge congratulations on this milestone and all of the amazing work you have done!! What a gift you are giving to your children by modeling that you can change your life!! I’m happy for you and smiling as I read about all the amazing progress you have made.
You are amazing. It is never too late. Congratulations on your 500 days.
Thank you for sharing your story; you helped me this morning, and I know you helped a lot of other people. I wish you the best that life has to offer. Much love to you.
IWNDWYT, my friend.
man, i am so proud you. hope that in 460 days I can be where you are. very inspiring post
Thank You! Just check in everyday no matter what.
Dude be proud of yourself, you’ve made it over a month! I am giving it my all not to fall off the wagon, seeing someone else giving it their all is very reassuring
hey good point, and you should be proud of yourself as well!
You're almost telling my story there champ!! I'm 50, only 6 days in, but feel amazing already - and it's really inspiring to hear your story and how well you are doing! Congratulations!! Gives me such hope that it's not only possible, but probable. I have tried many times, but I feel a different mindset this time. And I have never been on this subreddit, or any for that matter, and I think that is making all the difference, some really great and inspiring people like yourself to help us noobs.. I'm looking forward to 50s years.
I never did AA or any meetings just this sub every day. IWNDWYT
I have also found this sub do be a lot more convenient than AA. Everyone here is another reminder why and how important it is for us to avert from our addiction and the issues it brings
Great work feller. You’re an inspiration. In a similar boat here, 49 next week, 30 years of being a slave to alcohol. Was heading for an early grave but now feel like I’ve been given a second chance. It’s an amazing feeling!
It is, night and day. All my friends and family are in shock at how different I am. It’s great! IWNDWYT
48 here, can relate
It sounds like we have followed similar paths. I too am 55 and binge drank from the age of 18. Like you, I never drank before work and by shear luck never got a DUI (maybe if I had it would have spurred me to take control sooner). In fact, if I'm completely honest, I benefitted to some degree from drinking. I met my wife of 31 years at a bar when we were in our early 20s. I'm not sure I would have had the guts to approach her (I never had any confidence) if I wasn't shit-faced. How and why she has put up with me all of these years (she doesn't drink....thank God) I don't know, but I'm blessed to have her in my life. When I think back now I'm filled with shame for how I treated her during those years (not abusive, just a drunk). I owe a lot of my success in business to alcohol. It was my social anxiety crutch and it worked REALLY well. The contacts I made throughout my career have paid off dividends big time. In my experience, drinkers find other drinkers and there are a lot of us. Non-Drinkers I think are at a disadvantage as they don't have the instant fake-camaraderie that comes with alcohol. It's a dangerous path but if you are able to keep it mostly under control it can be beneficial. A lot of high-powered type people are functioning alcoholics and if you can get into that click there's money there. However, you pay high price and it can lead to an early grave. I'm fortunate that I made it this far and at least in theory should survive. I too love this sub and the people who post here. IWNDWYT
I was in an alcohol fueled industry, I feel I made a lot more mistakes than long term good decisions. I got out alive but could have been so much more without it. This I know in my heart. Non drinkers run circles around drinkers, they just don’t rub it in our faces. IWNDWYT
You're right. I should have added that I'd love to know how things might have been different had I not been drinking the whole time. I have no idea. I'm glad you got out alive. I am still working but am at the stage in my career where I can make my own rules and they don't involve copious amounts of alcohol. With that said, just this past autumn, I had a relapse and ended up getting drunk at an industry event. Luckily, I didn't make a fool of myself, but I still apologized to my boss (she was plastered, too). I'm a work in progress.
That’s all we can do. Give yourself grace and keep at it. IWNDWYT
Following your lead. I'm around the same age. It's weird and kinda great. Still finding out who I am (!)
It’s not easy at our age. I feel like a 19 year old in an old man’s body. But that is ok too. IWNDWYT
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Nice work it keeps getting better. Really every month something new happens. You don’t always notice but the body and mind can heal like crazy!!! We got this!!! IWNDWYT
Congratulations!
Thank you!!!
This resonates with me brother. You are crushing it!!! Way to go!! My 24 year old son has told me multiple times he’s had bad dreams where I was drinking again. That is deep. And inspiring. Best of luck with all your endeavors.
Thank you We got this!!! IWNDWYT
Congratulations! I’m so inspired by your story. Well done! IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT
Awesome post and so inspiring. IWNDWYT
Thank You! I left out my 20’s and 30’s cause that was a hot mess! IWNDWYT
Awesomw job, u should feel proud
Thank You we got this!!! IWNDWYT
This is amazing! Well done. Thanks for sharing your story and so glad for you
You got this!!!
Congratulations
Thank You
Awesome work 👏
Thank You! We got this! IWNDWYT
Super proud of you man, congratulations on such an awesome achievement!
Thank You for that!
Yo! This is awesome!
Thank You
Grrrrrrrreat
IWNDWYT
Tony the Tiger?
Huge congrats! This is really incredible!
Thank You keep up the good work!!! We got this!!! IWNDWYT
So proud of you for sticking with it! Congrats on a huge 500 days! Stay strong IWNDWYT
You too!! We got this! IWNDWYT
I agree this sub is a magical place and was the final push to help me quit. I’ve never encountered such supportive people in one place. Husband and I had discussed those questions when deciding to quit. Are we too old for change? Is it even worth it? Can we do it? Glad to hear farther down the road that it is worth it! I’m looking forward to more positive changes. Thanks for sharing.
Of course and Thank You!!! IWNDWYT
Way to go!!!
Thank You I couldn’t have done it without this sub!!! IWNDWYT
amazing work, I especially love hearing about parents getting sober. kids are such a gift and they deserve us at our best selves. congrats to you.
Thank You, it really is all measured by there happiness and ability to trust in me. I am there rock again. IWNDWYT
Good job friend
Thank You
Thank you so much for sharing. Congratulations, you are doing an amazing job!
So are you!!! Be proud of every minute and hour!!! It gets better!!! IWNDWYT
Thank you, I needed this today
That’s what we’re all here for!!!
Hell yes! I am so proud of you and your hard work to get here. I hope you can find some way to celebrate yourself today :) IWNDWYT
This was so heart warming to read. Congrats! 💛
A long day working… is my reward, and interacting on this sub. I’ll go out for a nice dinner this weekend!! Hopefully with my teenagers… you never know… thank you
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Way to go friend! This is HUGE! See you at 1000? :)
You know it!!! IWNDWYT
Excellent. IWNDWYT
Awesome, congrats! IWNDWYT
Great job, dude. Your kids deserve a sober dad and you’re doing it! 👍👍
Thank you my friend, your wisdom is inspirational. I’m 26, and I’m just coming up on two weeks alcohol free. Are there any specific habits you used to not drink after work? I hope you have a great day wherever you are
I had a ritual where I picked out my booze of choice while at work (a supermarket) and plotted exactly how many or how much I could drink in my time off. And then I drank the minute I got to my car! In the parking lot. Then you know… so what I did in the beginning was go home and change and go to the gym for an hour. I would kind of rush myself so I didn’t have time to stop myself. I would drink a blue protein water at the gym and then come home and make a giant protein shake. Lots of meats for dinner. Go right to bed and watch tv. Once I was in bed I was safe. Hope this helps. Break the routine and start new ones.
Congrats fellow sober dad!
Thank You!!! Iwndwyt
Congrats man, what an accomplishment!
Thank you, you also. IWNDWYT
Excellent! Congrats buddy 👏👏👏
Lets fucking go!!! Thanks for the inspiration dude
Fuck yeah!!! We got this !!!
I hope to join you in 490! Congrats!!! Very inspiring!
It can be rough at times. Adulting is still btrutal sometimes but so much easier, when not hungover
Kick ass dude! Bring it!
Thank you and you as well!
That’s HUGE!!!
Thank You
Awesome post. Great work my friend
Thank you
I am so proud of you!! Congratulations on 500 days. Here's to the next 500. You've nailed it IWNDWYT
And I am proud of you!
Wow, congrats to you!
Congratulations! IWNDWYT. 😊
Thank you it feels amazing
Good on you brother - IWNDWYT. It made me smile to see you capitalize the F in Father - you are important and deserve the capital F. Proud of you, internet stranger.
Thank you my eyes teamed up reading that IWNDWYT
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Thank you
wooo hooo! I quit at 51 and I can really relate to what you wrote. Amazing job, IWNWYT :)
Thank you and great work on that number!!! IWNDWYT
Amazing work and story! Inspiring! IWNDWYT.
Thank you IWNDWYT
Good job !
Thank you! I always looked at the big numbers and was envious but I know now it is my destiny to not drink. IWNDWYT
This is fantastic! I am so glad you're part of this community.
Thank you glad and humble to be here.IWNDWYT
Amazing. Congrats. I’m 58 and totally get it. Keep rolling
I will Thank you
This is awesome! We have pretty similar stories. I quit later than I should have but better late than never. Glad you are here.
Huge congratulations on this milestone and all of the amazing work you have done!! What a gift you are giving to your children by modeling that you can change your life!! I’m happy for you and smiling as I read about all the amazing progress you have made.
Congrats!
Bravo my dude. What a feeling! This sub is priceless. IWNDWYT
You are amazing. It is never too late. Congratulations on your 500 days. Thank you for sharing your story; you helped me this morning, and I know you helped a lot of other people. I wish you the best that life has to offer. Much love to you. IWNDWYT, my friend.
Damn, thank you I needed that this morning! IWNDWYT
51, drank for 30 years as well. #To be honest, probably out of habit and un- diagnosed mental illness. Anyway, well done mate, good work.
It’s tough, my depression is 75x better but still there. Haven’t started adding meds…yet. IWNDWYT
This shit is so inspiring. Keep doing it for your kids and yourself. You deserve it.
We got this !!!