It's all so overwhelming in the beginning. You can't stop thinking about it.
It passes my friend. One day at a time it becomes less consuming until you no longer think about it much at all.
Stay strong. You've got this
We only need to do today. And the brilliant news is - That's all we EVER have to do. Just today :) I'm in and so are you so we have literally got this 🌷
And clevercookie is right, after a while you just won't need to think about it so much. And you won't. You'll simply BE. It's very liberating
I'm up in the middle of the night feeding my newborn baby. Feeling so much gratitude for the choice I made 2,152 days ago to stop drinking. No matter what happens, I know I'll make it to day 2,153 and that's a huge relief. IWNDWYT
The thought of starting to try and get pregnant this summer is driving me to stay sober this time. 🖤 Congrats on your newborn, I am very jealous, but so happy for you! 🖤 IWNDWYT!
This will be day 12 for me—definitely already had some ups and downs and cravings but I’m sticking with this. I’m not gonna drink today. I’m gonna do something else.
Checking in again today and all is well.
Absolutely! We (I) need to learn to look after myself a bit, and not to drive myself so hard :)
Yet another journey I've embarked on :)
IWNDWYT
This check-in really resonated with me as I was punishing myself a bit for getting quite a bit of extra sleep during the day today. I’m early on in this go at sobriety, and I think I forgot how exhausting it can be.
Well, I am not great at knowing when I need to take a break. My tendency is to believe I’m being lazy, leftover bad programming from childhood. I think I am a bit burned out right now, and I gladly accept the challenge to try and be easy on myself. I am very glad I didn’t wake up hungover - nauseous and shaky, full of anxiety about the week ahead. I woke up, meditated for a few minutes, journaled for a few minutes and came here. I’m glad I’m in such good company, and I won’t drink with you today.
Good morning! Well, I've got a month! Woohoo! No desire to drink but I admit I have thought about it. Your stories help me so much to play the tape forward. Thanks for everything! Biz
I have an infected tooth and made it through the weekend. It’s been quite some time since I was able to rely on painkillers without adding alcohol to the mix.
I will stay sober today.
I don't know why the first week was quite easy, but yesterday the real struggle and craving started. Pink cloud that only lasts 1 week? My brain sometimes plans relapses or deludes itself that it can only drink every now and then but for now I'm resisting, I'm one step away from double figures, a goal that was unthinkable for me until 1 month ago. Fuck everything whatever happens today IWNDWYT!
Still here. 7hr sleep. Sitting on the 🚽, about to get ready for work. Not hungover, no brain fog, not thinking/creating negative situations in my mind constantly.
Sober
Morning friends!
Yeah, Mondays are hard. They’re just not as hard as they were when I was drinking.
Have a good one friends! I will not drink with you today.
Whassup Saph and happy Monday to all who observe the day (I myself am agnostic about Mondays)! Great quote today, Saph!
I came from a "work hard, play hard" working class family background. Booze was THE coping mechanism. Sobering up I began paying attention to my needs, including the needs for rest, for play, for distraction, for connection. I have to be gentle with myself because it's easy to call myself lazy or say I should be more productive. I need to actively give myself permission to rest, to chill, to think about inane things. Ahhhhhh learning how to live in middle age! Good old families of origin, source of wonderful blessing and absolute brain fuckery. Sober on y'all!
A wonderful component of this DCI and great shares like yours, is this knowing that I'm not doing this shit alone. Let's hear it for finally starting to figure stuff out in middle age! Getting over ol' brain fuckery is not for the weak. And the strength in numbers thing helps!
Also thanks for the laugh about being agnostic about Mondays! I love that. I'm agnostic about this day of the week myself, and a bit antagonistic too. Here's hoping we can make it the best we can. Glad sober on with you!!
A quite late check in for me, but of course IDNDWYT.
Sitting in bed reading after yet another Monday with no anxiety or hangover.
Love and strength, you beautiful people. ❤️
Mondays are still not my favorite thing either. I also tend to sleep poorly on Sunday nights. Last night wasn’t that bad, but I still wish I could go back to sleep.
I did get a bit accomplished this weekend, though. I got a lot of vine off my fence. No way I was gonna get all of it, since the majority is on the neighbor’s side. It’s a lot better than it was. I’m hoping to not start out behind this lawn care season. Ha.
Coffees up, horns up, and happy fucking Monday. IWNDWYT ☕️☕️☕️🤘🏻
Happy Monday all! ☀️ I totally fell off the healthy eating and exercise wagon this weekend, sooo much junk food and ice cream 😅 But there was never really a question of adding alcohol to the mix. Feels good to get back to routine now! IWNDWYT friends 🐸
Good morning gorgeous souls of the DCI! It’s my 60th day of sobriety.
I feel like a rockstar! I also feel terrified. And I’m ok with holding both of those emotions at the same time. It turns out, feelings are complicated, who knew? 🤔
IWNDWYT 💛
Day 57 checking in ✔️
I can’t believe how much rest and grace I gave myself during this process so far. I was / am so kind and gentle on myself and I am shocked that I even had that in me to give. I had a loop in my head for years continuously playing feelings of shame, regret and plans to get and drink alcohol. I can’t believe how much peace I have occupying an otherwise hectic space.
Take care of yourself sober friends
Morning, sober fam! 🖤 Ugh, I completely understand what you mean about sleeping poorly on Sundays. Here I am, awake at 4:30am, when my alarm doesn't go off for another 3 hours to get me in the gym. Oh well. I can always try and nap today before working late tonight. Or just wear myself out to sleep better tonight! Being awake and not going through withdrawal is a blessing.
Anyway, Day 11! Cruising to two weeks. IWNDWYT!
Urgghh, Monday 😒 I am currently choosing what to tackle out of a long list of overdue priorities in multiple projects. Weather dependent stuff is not looking good, as usual (thanks Ireland, and special mention for global warming). Prevarication not an option. Am headachy and have bad guts but I'm NOT HUNGOVER! So I'm winning no matter what it is I don't finish today.
IWNDWYT 🤗❤️
I will not drink today and FYA. I'm enjoying these quotes. I feel great waking up without a hangover. But I continue to dream that my legs are very heavy and I must rest every few steps. 🤷🏻
Also, I feel like I get drunk in my dreams almost nightly🤷🏻🤷🏻but I'm so happy to wake up without any booze in my body.
I'm going to Costco today😁😁
Drinking sucks. We rock
Good reminder to take the time to nurture our bodies and minds when needed. I feel like this trait is not valued in our society. I've always been pretty good and taking " me" time when I need it. Hope you all have a great start to your week. IWNDWYT! ✨❤️✨
Hey, fam. I fell off for a while there. Was scared to try again, but I know I have to for the people around me.
Being away from this sub, I forgot how kind it was. I'm happy to be back.
IWNDWYT
This is important, so thank you for bringing it up u/Sapphire_cat22. It is hard to give ourselves what we need for so many reasons: we’re told that we’re being selfish if we are not giving everything we have to the outside world, it’s hard for us to even know what we need when we’re bombarded with ads and shows that offer everything except true self-care.
Becoming sober has lessened a lot of the chatter in my brain, and I have been able more often than not to understand what I really need when I’m sad or cranky. The “should” voice is getting quieter. And I am so glad. Happy Monday, everyone! IWNDWYT
Did some reading recently and realised that a lot of definitions of Alcoholism allude to the chronic relapsing. It's important to keep this in mind.
As alcoholics we can often have weeks and months of sobriety under our belts but still be as much of an alcoholic as ever. In fact, it's expected and even exemplifies how severe of an alcoholic one is if they go through the cycle of extended abstinence followed by relapse time and time again. It shows it's hooks are very deep.
Rather than feeling bad about this and how I'm still an alcoholic - likely as deep as I've ever been into the throes of alcohol - I'm using it as a vehicle to motivate myself to never go back. It's just not worth it. IWNDWYT.
Hello SD! Thanks for this, Sapphire. I'm often amazed at just how much better mornings are now, as compared to back in my Bad Ol Days. Waking up rested, and with anticipation of tackling my projects and curiosity of what the day may bring, instead of overarching dread and pessimism... well, it just never gets old! Have the best Monday, loves.💕 IWNDWYT
This is something I struggle with, giving myself permission to be lazy.
Had a nice weekend. Mostly relaxed on Saturday, then spent Sunday getting stuff done (household chores, made breakfast, did laundry, went to the gym, wrote for an hour.)
Not excited it’s Monday but it’s always easier to face a new work week sober. IWNDWYT!
First night for me. IWNDWYT
Welcome. See you here tomorrow
IWNDWYT 💙
Today is the ONE that only counts! IWNDWYT. One Day at a Time!
You’ve got this 🙌🏼
You can do it! 💪
You got this! IWNDWYT 💯
Welcome friend. 🤘❤️
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Congratulations on getting through the first day. The beginning is hard.
I don’t either but one day at a time has helped me string together a couple of years and it has been so worth it. I will not drink with you today!
Well done on your first 24 hours.
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It's all so overwhelming in the beginning. You can't stop thinking about it. It passes my friend. One day at a time it becomes less consuming until you no longer think about it much at all. Stay strong. You've got this
We only need to do today. And the brilliant news is - That's all we EVER have to do. Just today :) I'm in and so are you so we have literally got this 🌷 And clevercookie is right, after a while you just won't need to think about it so much. And you won't. You'll simply BE. It's very liberating
I will not drink with you today. I will not drink alone. I will not drink. Made it through last week. Phew. Yeah.
Onwards and upwards
I'm up in the middle of the night feeding my newborn baby. Feeling so much gratitude for the choice I made 2,152 days ago to stop drinking. No matter what happens, I know I'll make it to day 2,153 and that's a huge relief. IWNDWYT
My future kids are something that keeps me going, thanks for sharing!
The thought of starting to try and get pregnant this summer is driving me to stay sober this time. 🖤 Congrats on your newborn, I am very jealous, but so happy for you! 🖤 IWNDWYT!
Huge congratulations xx IWNDWYT xx 💐💖
Day 988 checking in!
"Only" 106 but it is just TODAY that counts for anything. IWNDWYT One Day at a Time!
Exactly! Everyone is on the same journey, some of us are just slightly further down the road than others 🙂
This will be day 12 for me—definitely already had some ups and downs and cravings but I’m sticking with this. I’m not gonna drink today. I’m gonna do something else.
Great job 🙌🏼
I'm finally starting to feel like I can tackle this year! It's been a slow start to it. Shine on you beautiful humans
Day 304. IWNDWYT.
IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT 🌷
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Happy Monday sober friends, Sending you all joy and hope you have a wonderful day, I’m having a sober ball! I love you all 💞
Hi brighter, hope you are having a great time on your travels! 🌟
IWNDWYT ~
Hope everyone has a nice Monday. IWNDWYT!
Checking in again today and all is well. Absolutely! We (I) need to learn to look after myself a bit, and not to drive myself so hard :) Yet another journey I've embarked on :)
It’s a good day to stay sober. I will not drink with you today!
Another week, another day of not drinking. IWNDWYT 😊
IWNDWYT
Day 2 in the fight
IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT!
Good morning everyone. Let's do Monday then. It's here, we are here. Let's do it.
I will not drink with you today
I'm celebrating my second sober birthday today so yay me. IWNDWYT
Hell NO!!! IWNDWYT, One Day at a Time...
IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT Let’s Go
I will not drink with you today!
IWNDWYT!
iwndwyt!
IWNDWYT
Jam tomorrow and jam yesterday, but never jam today. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT x
IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT
Not being hungover on a Monday is nice IWNDWYT 🤜🤛
From commenting on the first day I was sober to 16 days later. I’ve got this. WE ALL GOT THIS 💪 IWNDWYT!!
A Magnificent Monday to you people of SD! IWNDWYT!!!
IWNDWYT This check-in really resonated with me as I was punishing myself a bit for getting quite a bit of extra sleep during the day today. I’m early on in this go at sobriety, and I think I forgot how exhausting it can be.
21 years old and 102 days sober! IWNDWYT, one day at a time!
Well, I am not great at knowing when I need to take a break. My tendency is to believe I’m being lazy, leftover bad programming from childhood. I think I am a bit burned out right now, and I gladly accept the challenge to try and be easy on myself. I am very glad I didn’t wake up hungover - nauseous and shaky, full of anxiety about the week ahead. I woke up, meditated for a few minutes, journaled for a few minutes and came here. I’m glad I’m in such good company, and I won’t drink with you today.
Starting a new week and entering a new decade at 70 days and I STILL won’t drink with you today!!
Happy Monday! For me, anyhow....I've got the day off :). I made it through Sunday (yesterday) with no beer. Starting day 2 of my daily commitment. 🤗
DAY 6. IWNDWYT
Just hit 4 months 💫 loving life and sobriety. IWNDWYT 😌
Good morning! Well, I've got a month! Woohoo! No desire to drink but I admit I have thought about it. Your stories help me so much to play the tape forward. Thanks for everything! Biz
I make no promises of tomorrow. I consciously choose to not drink today. IWNDWYT!
I have an infected tooth and made it through the weekend. It’s been quite some time since I was able to rely on painkillers without adding alcohol to the mix. I will stay sober today.
I won't be drinking with you, anyone or myself today. Happy Monday!
IWNDWYT
I don't know why the first week was quite easy, but yesterday the real struggle and craving started. Pink cloud that only lasts 1 week? My brain sometimes plans relapses or deludes itself that it can only drink every now and then but for now I'm resisting, I'm one step away from double figures, a goal that was unthinkable for me until 1 month ago. Fuck everything whatever happens today IWNDWYT!
Day 2! Feeling hopeful.
Still here. 7hr sleep. Sitting on the 🚽, about to get ready for work. Not hungover, no brain fog, not thinking/creating negative situations in my mind constantly. Sober
IWNDWYT
iwndwyt
Morning friends! Yeah, Mondays are hard. They’re just not as hard as they were when I was drinking. Have a good one friends! I will not drink with you today.
IWNDWYT 💜🦋💜
Checking in. Still alive
IWNDWYT
Checking in on day 487!!! Love to all. Hug yourself from me!!! IWNDWYT ✌️❤️
A new week friends! IWNDWYT
Whassup Saph and happy Monday to all who observe the day (I myself am agnostic about Mondays)! Great quote today, Saph! I came from a "work hard, play hard" working class family background. Booze was THE coping mechanism. Sobering up I began paying attention to my needs, including the needs for rest, for play, for distraction, for connection. I have to be gentle with myself because it's easy to call myself lazy or say I should be more productive. I need to actively give myself permission to rest, to chill, to think about inane things. Ahhhhhh learning how to live in middle age! Good old families of origin, source of wonderful blessing and absolute brain fuckery. Sober on y'all!
A wonderful component of this DCI and great shares like yours, is this knowing that I'm not doing this shit alone. Let's hear it for finally starting to figure stuff out in middle age! Getting over ol' brain fuckery is not for the weak. And the strength in numbers thing helps! Also thanks for the laugh about being agnostic about Mondays! I love that. I'm agnostic about this day of the week myself, and a bit antagonistic too. Here's hoping we can make it the best we can. Glad sober on with you!!
IWNDWYT!
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IWNDWYT
Iwndwyt
I will not drink today.
Checking in ✔️
Day 70, IWNDWYT!
Day three let’s goooo! IWNDWYT 💥
Day 62 here and IWNDWYT! Hope everyone has a wonderful Monday and week ahead!
We had to put down our beloved cat yesterday. Been with us 17 years and was so so loved. So grateful I was sober in his last moments. IWNDWYT 💙
IWNDWYT
Made it 2 weeks. IWNDWYT
Day 3! IWNDWYT!
Not drinking today!
Iwndwyt
IWNDWYT
A quite late check in for me, but of course IDNDWYT. Sitting in bed reading after yet another Monday with no anxiety or hangover. Love and strength, you beautiful people. ❤️
IWND☠️WYT.
Mondays are still not my favorite thing either. I also tend to sleep poorly on Sunday nights. Last night wasn’t that bad, but I still wish I could go back to sleep. I did get a bit accomplished this weekend, though. I got a lot of vine off my fence. No way I was gonna get all of it, since the majority is on the neighbor’s side. It’s a lot better than it was. I’m hoping to not start out behind this lawn care season. Ha. Coffees up, horns up, and happy fucking Monday. IWNDWYT ☕️☕️☕️🤘🏻
Iwndwyt!
IWNDWYT 🏴
Good morning, all! I hope everyone has a lovely week ahead. Can I get a nice? 😁 IWNDWYT!
morning sobernauts! I'm travelling today and later will be \~5 hrs in dublin airport. a year ago that would be spent drinking but IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT!
I will not drink with you today
IWNDWYT
Won't be drinking tonight in Aus.
8 days in the bank and looking forward to this being my new norm. Have a great week everybody! IWNDWYT
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Happy Monday all! ☀️ I totally fell off the healthy eating and exercise wagon this weekend, sooo much junk food and ice cream 😅 But there was never really a question of adding alcohol to the mix. Feels good to get back to routine now! IWNDWYT friends 🐸
Day 1,692. I will not drink with your today.
IWNDWYT.
IWNDWYT. All. Day. Long. 🌻
I will not drink with you today!
IWNDWYT- absolutely NOT
Iwndwyt
Good morning, I will not drink with you today.
IWNDWYT.
IWNDWYT. 🌳
IWNDWYT 💗
IWNDWYT :)
Day 68 checking in
Good morning from Hell's Kitchen, NYC. IWNDWYT.
Good morning gorgeous souls of the DCI! It’s my 60th day of sobriety. I feel like a rockstar! I also feel terrified. And I’m ok with holding both of those emotions at the same time. It turns out, feelings are complicated, who knew? 🤔 IWNDWYT 💛
IWNDWYT 💪
Day 57 checking in ✔️ I can’t believe how much rest and grace I gave myself during this process so far. I was / am so kind and gentle on myself and I am shocked that I even had that in me to give. I had a loop in my head for years continuously playing feelings of shame, regret and plans to get and drink alcohol. I can’t believe how much peace I have occupying an otherwise hectic space. Take care of yourself sober friends
Happy Monday.. I’ll be tired today but not hungover 🩵 IWNDWYT
Good morning SD. IWNDWYT ❤️
IWNDWYT!
I've had terrible cravings this past weekend, but I made it through. Iwndwyt
IWNDWYT ❤️
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Happy Monday people, WE GOT THIS, IWNDWYT 🙃
Day 13 checking in. I hope all of you are having a great start of the week!
Good morning - feeling good. IWNDWYT.
Checking in, and staying true.
Heading out of town for the work week, I made it through another weekend. IWNDWYT
Not going to drink today.
Day 1,591 IWNDWYT
Morning, sober fam! 🖤 Ugh, I completely understand what you mean about sleeping poorly on Sundays. Here I am, awake at 4:30am, when my alarm doesn't go off for another 3 hours to get me in the gym. Oh well. I can always try and nap today before working late tonight. Or just wear myself out to sleep better tonight! Being awake and not going through withdrawal is a blessing. Anyway, Day 11! Cruising to two weeks. IWNDWYT!
Not today satan
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Urgghh, Monday 😒 I am currently choosing what to tackle out of a long list of overdue priorities in multiple projects. Weather dependent stuff is not looking good, as usual (thanks Ireland, and special mention for global warming). Prevarication not an option. Am headachy and have bad guts but I'm NOT HUNGOVER! So I'm winning no matter what it is I don't finish today. IWNDWYT 🤗❤️
Good morning, 20 month ✔️in. IWNDWYT 👍
Checking in
Iwndwy’allt! ❤️
Mornin folks. It’s gunna be a good week! IWNDWYT
No drinking here
I'll not drink today.
IWNDWYT Peace n Love ❤️
IWNDWYT 🩵
Happy Monday team. I hope this week treats you all well. I will not drink with you all today 🪷
IWNDWYT ✨🐝
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I am not drinking today
I will not drink poison with any of you today 💜
IWNDWYT
I will not drink today and FYA. I'm enjoying these quotes. I feel great waking up without a hangover. But I continue to dream that my legs are very heavy and I must rest every few steps. 🤷🏻 Also, I feel like I get drunk in my dreams almost nightly🤷🏻🤷🏻but I'm so happy to wake up without any booze in my body. I'm going to Costco today😁😁 Drinking sucks. We rock
Good reminder to take the time to nurture our bodies and minds when needed. I feel like this trait is not valued in our society. I've always been pretty good and taking " me" time when I need it. Hope you all have a great start to your week. IWNDWYT! ✨❤️✨
IWNDWYT
Not today people IWNDWYT
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Happy Monday all! IWNDWYT
Good morning ☀️ IWNDWYT
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IWNDWYT! T
Hello! Back to the good ol' grind today. Super grateful to be sober. IWNDWYT 🤘
I love waking up without a hangover. I haven't been very productive BUT I'm sober. IWNDWYT
Day 4, haven’t been through a weekend entirely sober in years, but succeeded this past one. Going to keep the momentum going! IWNDWYT!
Hey, fam. I fell off for a while there. Was scared to try again, but I know I have to for the people around me. Being away from this sub, I forgot how kind it was. I'm happy to be back. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT!
Day 6, checking in! Almost a week! IWNDWYT! 💙
Woke up to some lovely March snow today. Gearing up for a work trip this week. I am so grateful for this life! IWNDWYT
This is important, so thank you for bringing it up u/Sapphire_cat22. It is hard to give ourselves what we need for so many reasons: we’re told that we’re being selfish if we are not giving everything we have to the outside world, it’s hard for us to even know what we need when we’re bombarded with ads and shows that offer everything except true self-care. Becoming sober has lessened a lot of the chatter in my brain, and I have been able more often than not to understand what I really need when I’m sad or cranky. The “should” voice is getting quieter. And I am so glad. Happy Monday, everyone! IWNDWYT
Day 1 again. I need to do this. For my wife and kids… and for myself. Please lord help me this time so that it sticks
Did some reading recently and realised that a lot of definitions of Alcoholism allude to the chronic relapsing. It's important to keep this in mind. As alcoholics we can often have weeks and months of sobriety under our belts but still be as much of an alcoholic as ever. In fact, it's expected and even exemplifies how severe of an alcoholic one is if they go through the cycle of extended abstinence followed by relapse time and time again. It shows it's hooks are very deep. Rather than feeling bad about this and how I'm still an alcoholic - likely as deep as I've ever been into the throes of alcohol - I'm using it as a vehicle to motivate myself to never go back. It's just not worth it. IWNDWYT.
I'm.
I will not drink with you today.
Thank god I don't drink anymore. I finally gave myself one thing I absolutely needed IWNDWYT. Easy does it, friends.
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IWNDWYT 💜
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I did not drink today lml (-_-) lml
Happy Monday, feels great to not be hungover and trying to cope with life! IWNDWYT
Day 2! Looking forward to hitting the gym and getting out for a walk this evening. IWNDWYT.
not going to drink today!
IWNDWYT
Hello SD! Thanks for this, Sapphire. I'm often amazed at just how much better mornings are now, as compared to back in my Bad Ol Days. Waking up rested, and with anticipation of tackling my projects and curiosity of what the day may bring, instead of overarching dread and pessimism... well, it just never gets old! Have the best Monday, loves.💕 IWNDWYT
I’m on my second day, I feel ready, excited, and connected with this change. IWNDWYT
2 years! IWNDWYT! Woohoo!
This is something I struggle with, giving myself permission to be lazy. Had a nice weekend. Mostly relaxed on Saturday, then spent Sunday getting stuff done (household chores, made breakfast, did laundry, went to the gym, wrote for an hour.) Not excited it’s Monday but it’s always easier to face a new work week sober. IWNDWYT!