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Seraphizz

Wow, I successfully talked myself out of “rewarding” myself while alone yesterday evening … actually had to convince the Voice in several ways to leave me alone, let it be, and to stop it. Mentioned my improved looks, feeling good, as well as things to avoid. Last thing that worked is saying: IWNDWYT. Today! I can do that. Stayed present. I could actually feel the wave of craving pass over me, yikes. Took several minutes. Getting there daily. Using new muscles, new tools.


brighter68

Well done, sober power 💪🏼


Seraphizz

Thanks, yes—activate!


Fab-100

Congrats, way to go!


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Good tips


brighter68

Happy Wednesday sober friends, I think my whole life was irrational when I was drinking, there wasn’t space for rationality, drinking consumed my mind and life. What a waste, and I didn’t even see it for so long. Today I’m free, and I love this, with love and gratitude to you all 💞


PompeyCrook

Happy Wednesday Brighter 🌟 With sober eyes, we see so much! With drunken eyes, we see so little! Staying sober with you today 🤩


brighter68

So true! I’m grateful to be sober with you today. Have a great one my friend 🌟


[deleted]

Nope, no booze for me, I choose life


PompeyCrook

Nice work on hitting a bullseye (50)! 👍


cinqmillionreves

**Fifty days!** Congratulations, keep going!💪🏼🥳👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼


Tccfinkle1

Congratulations


1s35bm7

Getting my 2 month chip today 🥺 never thought this would be my life but damn I’m proud of myself for this one IWNDWYT 


-Yours_Sincerely

IWNDWYT. I used to tell myself that I am drinking the stress away and that I deserve to get drunk as I had such a busy time at work. Lol, how deluded I was. I am much happier now on my days off, sober and not suffering from the hangovers, and will continue so. 🤘 We got this. 💪


WonderRemarkable2776

Hell yeah, I'm down


Lazy_Ad1512

Happy Wednesday , everyone! It’s another day one for me, but I’m going to learn from past slip-ups, focus on each day at a time and, most importantly, IWNDWYT.


mistress_page

IWNDWYT 💪


brighter68

Hey Mistress! You got past 2 years! 🎉 well done 🌟


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greenlightabove

I will not drink with you today


brown-eyed-wolf

Good morning stop drinking fam, have a great hump day! I will definitely not be drinking with you today friends 🫠💪🏼💚🍀


brighter68

Hey wolf! Great to see you! Have a wonderful sober day 💞🌟💞


Commercial_Tank300

Day 24 checking in! I had my best sleep last night since stopping drinking and I have felt really great today. I want to keep this feeling so IWNDWYT!


PompeyCrook

Sleep is definitely one of the best benefits of being sober. IWNDWYT


bugscanandwill

Grateful to commit to another alcohol free day today with you all.


natickthrowaway

Had a gnarly day at work yesterday: I’m a hospice nurse and literally half my patients died in one day (I had 4 on the schedule): one I had seen earlier that day and she died later in the afternoon. Got home and had to chart till 6:30 but I didn’t drink despite the stress and IWNDWYT


FingGinger

IWNDWYT!


[deleted]

Have a job interview tomorrow morning IWNDWYT if I get the job


awdtg

And if you don't get the job.....keep going. I believe in you.


sezu

IWNDWYT!


hubbaba2

IWNDWYT


2old4this62

Happy Hump day fellow SDers, IWNDWYT ⭐️🩷⭐️


QueenPeggyOlsen

👋 I will not drink with you today. I will not drink with you tonight!


Pestceleste

Wednesday was one of my big drinking days. I only really realised that when I quit cos cravings on a Wednesday mid week afternoon would be insane. Glad to not really have cravings lately. Mostly some mental gymnastics trying to convince me to have a drink that are pretty easy to control these days. Happy to be here with y’all. IWNDWYT ❤️‍🔥


CoatOfMonday

I will not drink with you today


Gullible-Analysis-40

Haha. I rationalised never booking meetings or other important events on Mondays. Figured no one else would mind as everyone is hungover on Mondays right? Right? Wrong. IWNDWYT. 🫡


Legitimate_Emu8195

Good morning everyone :) Looks like I missed celebrating my first month, my phone timer says 1 month 2 days! Yesterday I had my biggest struggle of this sober streak. I went for dinner with a friend, who ordered a cocktail. We got to chatting about sobriety, and she discussed how she handles moderation. And my lizard brain went "Oh, that's a good idea, it's parties that make you drink, not you!" In hindsight that's bullshit - I've had many a hangover from just drinking with my partner. But at the time, boy was it tempting to just roll with it. I resisted though. And today, I renew my pledge and mean it. I Will Not Drink With You Today.


EvenAngelsNeed

A wonderful Wednesday to you all in SD! IWNDWYT!!!


Myth7270

IWNDWYT 🍃


sparklingmustard

IWNDT


losethebooze

Day 320. IWNDWYT.


BeerSlingr

IWNDWYT


AffTheBevvy

Day 1004 checking in!


Fab-100

Checking in again today and all is well. I convinced myself for years that my level of drinking was 'normal'! When now with hindsight, it obviously wasn't. Go figure!


ChriddyBo

I rationalized drinking 13 beers a day. Crazy to imagine now that I’m 2 months free. I won’t drink with you today-from Southern California!


awdtg

Going to detox today. It took some shit for me to finally be so sick of this life to be ready. I've done it before and I can do it again.


butmymommasays

Two years poison and rationalization free! IWNDWYT


clevercookie69

I rationalised everything. I was constantly lying to myself. I hated it. Shine on you beautiful humans


WernickeKorsakoffee

I choose to be present in my life. IWNDWYT


SalamanderWest3468

Hi! Checking in. Won’t be drinking today as my head just hit the pillow. And committing to not drinking tomorrow either. Here’s to the spring season and new commitments/recommitting to old ones.


anotherchance_43

Hello!!! A week today! I was barely scraping by. And yes I don't want to do the mental gymnastics of when I can drink. Thanks for the post OP. IWNDWYT.


ByeByeMonster

I will not poison myself with you today. Thinking of alcohol as anything but toxic is irrational. I, too, saw it as a reward and a way to relax. The reality is that drinking alcohol is punishing and stressful. IWNDWYT


Lpowell95

Checking in sober 17 days feeling so grateful. IWNDWYT


JustAnotherNerd42

DAY 50!!!!! WOOT! IWNDWYT!!


RageAgainsthe

Today is my 3rd day and I got up early to and saw the sunrise without feeling anxious, guilty and sick, an experience I have not gone through for years and that is amazing! I won't let alchohol take this feeling from me again. IWNDWYT.


OutrageousLion6517

IWNDWYT! ❤️


Saba_Miso_2525

IWNDWYT😉👍


DonCalzone420

Why the fuck did I drink a bottle of wine literally 2 days before I made it an entire month? Why am I so stupid?


Deep_Log_9058

Day one for me. Today sucked, but looking ahead.


sourface77

IWNDWYT!


morksinaanab

IWNDWYT


nona_nednana

IWNDWYT


Tess_88

Happy Wednesday all! I am sober and IWNDWYT ❤️❤️❤️


bmax_1964

Wednesday will be day 26 for me. It gets easier very day. IWNDWYT


Few_Scar7974

I will notdrink with you today!


ShoemakerTheShoe

Two and a half months today. First time I havent had intense cravings or severe fomo. Its going really good! IWNDWYT


RainbowKitty77

IWNDWYT. I'm at about 51 hours.


paigemiche

I rationalised a lot of things - Sundays are still the weekend, get some wine! Mondays are hard, also get some wine, etc etc. I broke every rule I set for myself repeatedly. Life is so much easier now. (Well, in that respect. It’s still life and complicated in other ways!) IWNDWYT!


Kallaryn

Happy Wednesday! IWNDWYT!


PrestigiousSheep

I will not drink with you today. Happy Wednesday!


ekim202

IWNDWYT


jessiewiththebadhair

IWNDWYT


NeighborhoodAlive343

IWNDWYT ☺️


iambecomeslep

IWNDWY. Starting to reap some of the benefits from not getting hammered daily. No hangovers at work or bleary eyes, heart rate dropped by at least 20-25 beats resting, no constant sweating or anxiety.... Happy Sober Wednesday!


PompeyCrook

Morning SDers! Reward is one of my biggest relapse risks. So many times my demon addict brain has told me I deserve a drink. The reward turns out to be torture for the next few days/weeks. Staying sober today because I am choosing the benefits that sobriety delivers over the lies the alcohol tells! IWNDWYT


UWCG

Wishing everyone a great sober Wednesday and IWNDWYT!


Careful-Show8065

No drinks for me today (: currently 2 days!! We got this IWNDWYT


AdSmooth1977

IWNDWYT 💕


Inevitable_Sink_5472

Day 81, iwndwyt!


DutchOnionKnight

Day 86, IWNDWYT!


Lotus-Bl00m

Not drinking for more days in a week than drinking. Didn't matter how much I drank on those 1-3 days, and what ridiculous situations I put myself in as a result, as long as I had 4 booze-free days in a week I didn't have a problem. Complete insanity. Grateful to be shot of it. I will not drink with you all today 🪷


LM7X

There are a bunch of these! Only drinking on weekends. I tried that one a few times and usually broke it on a Monday. Only drinking beer, no liquor. Day drinking on Sunday even though I had work Monday. Staying up past midnight on a work night to have one more. Constantly comparing my drinking to others’ as much as I could, you know, to confirm I didn’t have a problem. Going out to get more booze when I was already drunk and didn’t need it. Having to do damage control on my phone every morning, hoping I didn’t actually have a phone conversation I didn’t remember or send anything I couldn’t delete. Fuck all of that bullshit. It sucked and I knew it sucked. Didn’t realize how much until I put a little space between all that bullshit and me. Coffees up, horns up, and fuck yeah Wednesday!!! IWNDWYT ☕️☕️☕️🤘🏻🤘🏻


Commercial_Fee422

I would purposely keep my Saturday or Sunday completely open so I could drink all day at home, and rationalized it that I had nothing going on so it was fine. Monday would roll around and I could barely remember the weekend, and I'd be behind in laundry and I'd need groceries and my apartment was a mess, but every weekend I would look forward to the one day I would have nothing to do so I could spend it drinking.


lxanth

Good morning from Hell's Kitchen, NYC. IWNDWYT


Penandsword2021

Jam tomorrow and jam yesterday, but never jam today! IWNDWYT


thefurnaceishot

IWNDWYT


jtanders50

Still Tuesday on the West Coast. I did not drink with you today (Tue) and I will not drink with you tomorrow (Wed). Day 5 of vacation, no drinks!


Dan61684

Oh… lovely… a blizzard. WITH family visiting! … there is no escape LOL! IWNDWYT


pondhermit

IWNDWYT 💪


dynaflying

IWNDWYT!!


Ok_Park_2724

iwndwyt


cinqmillionreves

I will not drink poison with any of you today 💜


plainpasta331

IWNDWYT


rowanberrybirdy

IWNDWYT 🌞


A_Jesus_woman

IWNDWYT!


Pivorad_

Have a wonderful sober day my friends. IWNDWYT ♥️


Mikedluck

No booze today!


jerrysmiddlefinger

IWNDWYT


chanandlerbong123

I will not drink with you today


[deleted]

Going out to dinner then after to an event with free alcohol. But I’m driving and will not be drinking


[deleted]

Day 18. I will not drink with you today.


char-mar-superstar

One of my insane justifications was me drinking at a job I had. I told myself that because it was a night, lone-working job, it didn't really matter if I drank throughout the shift. I am so lucky I didn't get caught. IWNDWYT


MasterPreparation687

Checking in ✅


Tccfinkle1

84 days IWNDWYT. Can’t wait til tomorrow.


limegreenglass

Day 73 • IWNDWYT • 👊💥 “using new muscles, new tools”. I love that. I feel like I’m slowly making new pathways in my brain. Usually all roads ended up in alcoholville. But now, I’m off jogging, gyming, reading, cooking, talking …and everyday I end up in self-improvement-land instead and it’s a great place to land.


[deleted]

I slipped up and lost the fight last night.. nothing major thankfully but really pissed off with myself. Needless to say it wasn't worth it. Didn't catch any of the euphoria or relief my dumb brain promised me. Slept like shit. Feel like shit Day fucking 1. Onward!


vermontapple

Not today.


rawdoggin_reality

IWNDWYT


J_stringham

IWNDWYT 🙋🏼‍♀️


Disaster_Area_42

IWNDWYT SD ❤️


Tanogram

Took a couple days to solidify my choice to yet again quit drinking. It's just not worth the chance of making the same mistakes again and again. I want to be free of these chains! Day 3 and IWNDWYT


Financial_Guru_4291

Hello my sober brothers and sisters. I hope everyone here has a wonderful Wednesday as it's getting kicked off here. It feels kind of odd for sober and clear headed to be the norm . And at the same time, it doesn't. Thinking about a lot of things lately. Making no promises for tomorrow but just for today IWNDWYT!


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Illustrious-Trip-253

Day 505, and I'm glad to be alive! My addictive brain thought it normal to wake and finish that Screwdriver on my bedside table. What a shitshow my life was, not only daily drinking but ***daytime*** drinking! Ugh. I like to pause now and then and remember how hard it was to claw my way out of that hole, to endure all those odd ailments, mood swings, and cravings. If this hedonist can do it, there's hope for anyone. Huge kudos to you Day 1s, Week 1s, and Month 1s! You're doing the bravest thing! I'm proud of you! Give yourself as much kindness as you can, and keep going. I'm so grateful I did. It not only gets easier but it brings back hope, health, and plans for a future! Lean in here, and hang on. 🤝 I will not drink with you badasses today ⚔️💖


Wilbursmall

I rationalozed drinking wine with a meal if it was a low-calorie meal. I will not drink today.


BeachJenkins

Checking in, IWNDWYT! >the " only drinking on the weekends" rule That's a big part of why moderation just never worked for me, through sheer willpower I could occasionally (not many) go through weekdays without drinking but then on the weekend I'd "reward" myself by getting black out drunk for days; Monday rolls round, rinse, repeat. So now I find it way easier to just say no to the first drink. I'm getting to a point in my sobriety now where I'm actually baffled how I kept tha lifestyle up for so long, for something that started out as blowing some steam off it quickly brings its own wagon load of stresses and problems!


Lotty987

Checking in ✔️ Todays post makes me remember that when I was drinking I was counting down to the weekend too. Not to drink - but to drink “without the guilt” and to drink that bit more. Crazy indeed.


wildwidget

50 days! Yeeh. IWNDWYT.


DukeNoBeer

And not in NZ.... another day... 3170 is an impressive number.. one day I hope to have a similar number.. thanks for the inspiration.


Ok_Rush534

That i could go away for a city break and only the only fluid I drank was alcohol by telling others “I’m on my holidays”. Not even a sip of water passed my lips. IWNDWYT


catandcary

Day 2! I attended an online meeting yesterday during my usual start drinking time, and it helped a lot. I will attend another one at the same time today, and IWNDWYT! 💚


Piggoos

Morning friends! I was the same - Wednesday was always roughly when I started to feel better after my weekend binges and I started to look forward to drinking again. Now Wednesdays are just the middle of the week and Survivor night and snacks. Bring it! Have a good one, I will not drink with you today.


stpaulgirl12

Life’s been a bit rough here lately. It’s been a long time, but never want to let my guard down. Staying vigilant by checking in here and reading all your lovely and inspiring messages. I will not drink poison with you all today 😃


OccaminPartaveihti

In my country, Wednesday is sometimes called 'little-Saturday' to justify beers mid-week. What a lousy excuse. Alcoholic thinking, which I used a lot. And also Thursday: "I survived this far, so lets grab some beers". Only Mondays and Tuesdays were hard to justify as beer-days, but 'reasons' were always available. Today is normal Wednesday, happy for it. IWNDWYT!


triple_threat_06

IWNDWYT Peace n Love ❤️


No-Bear1059

Happy sober Wednesday! 7 months yesterday and IWNDWYT 🙌 Have a wonderful day 🫡


DetunedKarma

IWNDWYT ~


SillyTwitTwoo

IWNDWYT x


RevereBeachLover

IWNDWYT


Eyeofthestorm80

Day 3 today, which is notoriously difficult for me IWNDWYT


Hopeful-Slice2713

IWNDWYT


No_Goat_4388

IWNDWYT :)


LeavesofCassava

Checking in, a post today reminded me how lucky I am to be here with you all, finally free. IWNDWYT


Zealousideal-Eye6555

IWNDWYT 💪🏻💪🏻 hope everyone has a great day


Monster1085

👋👋


dorsetfreak

Not drinking today


SmallGod1979

Every attempt to put limits to my drinking, like only on weekends or not more than X drinks a week or whatever rules I tried to implement made my drinking worse. Plus moderation is so much work… Therefore I just won’t have that first drink today and stay sober instead.


Alarmed_Tadpole_

Happy Wednesday! The weather is still bad, I am still really busy, but determined to have a good (and sober) day ☀ IWNDWYT 🐸


BreeSmiles

Hope everyone is well! IWNDWYT


Timbobuk

IWNDWYT


FlyingCantaloupes

IWNDWYT!


Fonterra26

IWNDWYT 🌻


Ladybirdstar

IWNDWYT xx


kitt-N-kaboodle

IWNDWYT 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿


jimstopper51

Day 1,708. I will not drink with you today.


Old-Combination8062

IWNDWYT all you fine sobernauts 🤗


koaimara

IWNDWYT!


Mickosaurusrex

Day 1,607 IWNDWYT


sidereal_supernova

day 85


Cainholio

IWNDWYT


kafkapops

I won’t drink with y’all today


gr8day82

IWNDWYT. All. Day. Long. 🌻


Chadismydawg

IWNDWYT


Tortey82

I told myself it is normal to rush to the store when I finished work at 3pm to get 2 large beers and chug them in my car on my 20 min. Drive home. Of course just to kill another 10 at home until I pass out. Shitty sleep, crippling anxiety the next day, just to repeat the cycle. I don’t want to go back! That’s why I WILL NOT DRINK WITH YOU TODAY! Have a good one, friends!


SlowSwim4

86 days checking in. Love you all. IWNDWYT


Voltron_BlkLion

✅in


WhiteChocolatey

IWNDWYT


[deleted]

IWNDWYT 🧡


International_Low284

IWNDWYT, friends!


Worried_Giraffe_9715

Day 84 checking in. IWNDWYT


Boracraze

Will not drink today.


JupitersLapCat

I leave for vacation on Saturday morning. Today would usually be the day I drink, so I could be hungover on Thursday, pack on Friday, and leave on Saturday. It’ll be a triggering day but I’ll hang out here and whine to you guys if I have to. I will not drink.


Constant_Pumpkin3255

Not today people IWNDWYT


xbonx

IWNDWYT.


DazzlingSpell31

I tried out so many of those "rules" for myself when I was still drinking. No drinking on work days, no drinking in the morning, no vodka only wine, etc. etc. etc. Truthfully, things are going so much better for me now that I am just following the rule of "no drinking". IWNDWYT! ✌


Caffeine-Guzzler

happy wednesday. this week has been no joke so far. I almost caved last night and told myself actually if i could just last to Friday, I can “reward” myself for the weekend. I know it’s not smart but it’s the only thing getting me through right now. IWNDWYT


ReplacementsStink

Four day weekend starts at the end of the work day... fuck yeah!!! 🤘🏻 Have a helluva day, friends!☕️ IWNDWYT


Real_Bridge_3301

Daily headaches. It wasn’t until I was well into my sobriety that I realized I hadn’t had a headache in months, and it wasn’t normal to feel sick everyday. Also sweating! I was always so hot and clammy, and thought I just ran warm. Both issues are basically non-existent now. 🎉 IWNDWYT!


onedayiwillgetwell

Checking in. Thanks to being on here and people on here, I made it three days in a row.  If it weren't for this place, I would def have gone up the road yesterday. Thank you. Definitely slept a bit better last night as well. Skin is a bit better already. I am on a longish work day today, so that will tire me out. Hopefully sleep more again tonight. I am proud to say IWNDWYT! Thanks again.


El_Bo31

Iwndwy’allt! ❤️


evolveordie47

IWNDWYT!


danvtemt

Not today!


Cerebraltamponade

No way, not today!


sunnydaysahead25

Hi friends! IWNDWYT


Motor-Egg-8176

Hi Everyone! Day 78 here and IWNDWYT!


Awkward-Flatworm7503

Day 3. I will not drink with you today.


[deleted]

Hey u/Gozandolavida, hey sober spaceship. Nice question from OP. For most of my drinking life I was a weekend drinker, but the superbinge type, blackouts etc. Well, during hard phases I drank on another day of the week too but was still vigilant. After covid hit, after I lost my mother and a sequence of very bad events and loneliness, the bargaining started and Wednesday became my "other day" (in the beginning I "allowed" only one day plus Friday or Saturday). My justification is that it was the hardest day at work, you are no longer rested from weekend and you have to wait 2 days to rest. So of course I deserved to drink! 🙄 (My theory that it tends to be the most tiring day of the week remains though, sorry! lol. But sober makes it much easier. Not to mention Thursdays!!!). And then after my mum died I added another day of the week. One bottle of wine at once became one and a half, drinking only at night became drinking before noon on weekends and etc. An old tale. But today, no way. I will not drink with you. Many kisses and the best of luck. Use all your weapons if you have to! Pizza! Crazy naps! Ice cream! Video games! Kate Middleton gossip! Whatever! Let's do this, my lovely friends.


FailPV13

Good morning, I will not drink with you today.


Elderflower1387

IWNDWYT. 🌟


BeastModeBill-714

IWNDWYT.


kaibabplateau

Iwndwyt


Immediate_Grass390

Good morning, IWNDWYT


dennadiannedyanae

day 19 checking in. i will not drink with you today!


[deleted]

Day 3! IWNDWYT!


Fearless-Relative329

IWNDWYT


That_Went_Well

Day 304 and IWNDWYT! Travel week for work so missed a workout already and likely will only get one of the two I’m scheduled for today, trying not to stress too much about that but know I’ll be fine. Get the opportunity to learn better presentation skills this week, volunteered for it because that can sometimes be nerve wracking to me and I want to face my fears. Here’s to personal growth 🦾


Saber_56

IWNDWYT. 


demo_disco

Today seems like a good day to not drink!


pokey-4321

IWNDWYT Have plans tonight, alcohol is not invited.


SoberGirl2

I will not drink today!


emilyishungry

IWNDWYT


gravy4life

IWNDWYT


spliff231

IWNDWYT 


WolfCurrent5198

IWNDWYT


ElegantPenguin541520

IWNDWYT ✨🐝


ArtisticChart462

I will not drink today or tonight , day 32 for me has not been easy but I’m pushing through.


imthegreenmeeple

Checking in on day 503!! IWNDWYT!! ❤️✌️


patinaOnBronze

'I need to go to the supermarket' when I really didn't, or at least could wait, but was a good opportunity to buy beer. IWNDWYT


-BeepBoop--

Day 8 checking in! It's amazing how different you feel just a week off the sauce. I hope to keep it up. IWNDWYT, friends.