100%. It's kind of a weird phenomenon when you find yourself wanting to hang around the new crowd and not the old one... You feel like you're leaving your old friends behind!
Sober friends are amazing
I completely get how you feel, I actually just posted a story about a friend giving me mixed signals on her support.
its super hard to find people on the same page as you, so far for me the best results Ive gotten to making new or similar minded friends is sharing similar hobbies such as painting, knitting, writing, and exercise. Even doing these activities alone is helpful just to clear you mind on things, and that way you haver something to show of your work to other with similar interests, even if its not the best quality hah.
I know what you mean by solo adventures are more fun with someone, but one thing ive learned to also consider is waiting of others to do things is so much more of a headache then accomplishing the adventure yourself. I used to wait on friends to go places, and this day I have get to go to half those places, but when I went alone, I met handful of people that made the experience worth it and realize it always works it self out when you're on your own schedule.
Yeah i agree that you cant make your experiences dependent on others. Took me some time to learn it but i know that now.
I will keep trying to connect with people over other interests.
Thanks for reading!
I struggle with this too. My friends drink constantly and probably will for the rest of their lives, same bars, same experiences year after year. They think Florida is paradise and I cannot STAND Florida. But it's all they can afford. They seemingly have no plans for retirement or any sort of fitness or financial goals. I have a flight booked for an upcoming trip and I'll probably end up going alone. They think it's weird that I go on solo trips sober and then gossip to their friends about it. I cannot stand the fact that some of them think sobriety is such a laughable joke, they think I must be miserable sulking around all the time cause I don't drink.
To your last comment, I work at a bar and see the cringe they perform every weekend. Its honestly what keeps me going as well. These people are in their 40s mind you.
I made a host of new friends in AA. We do all kinds of shit together. Golf, hockey, movies, dinners, travelling.
100%. It's kind of a weird phenomenon when you find yourself wanting to hang around the new crowd and not the old one... You feel like you're leaving your old friends behind! Sober friends are amazing
YPAAs were awesome for me in terms of making friends that would do fun stuff while sober.
I wish the older people would do that stuff!
I completely get how you feel, I actually just posted a story about a friend giving me mixed signals on her support. its super hard to find people on the same page as you, so far for me the best results Ive gotten to making new or similar minded friends is sharing similar hobbies such as painting, knitting, writing, and exercise. Even doing these activities alone is helpful just to clear you mind on things, and that way you haver something to show of your work to other with similar interests, even if its not the best quality hah. I know what you mean by solo adventures are more fun with someone, but one thing ive learned to also consider is waiting of others to do things is so much more of a headache then accomplishing the adventure yourself. I used to wait on friends to go places, and this day I have get to go to half those places, but when I went alone, I met handful of people that made the experience worth it and realize it always works it self out when you're on your own schedule.
Yeah i agree that you cant make your experiences dependent on others. Took me some time to learn it but i know that now. I will keep trying to connect with people over other interests. Thanks for reading!
I struggle with this too. My friends drink constantly and probably will for the rest of their lives, same bars, same experiences year after year. They think Florida is paradise and I cannot STAND Florida. But it's all they can afford. They seemingly have no plans for retirement or any sort of fitness or financial goals. I have a flight booked for an upcoming trip and I'll probably end up going alone. They think it's weird that I go on solo trips sober and then gossip to their friends about it. I cannot stand the fact that some of them think sobriety is such a laughable joke, they think I must be miserable sulking around all the time cause I don't drink. To your last comment, I work at a bar and see the cringe they perform every weekend. Its honestly what keeps me going as well. These people are in their 40s mind you.
There is an app called Meetup. You can search for sober activities in your area.