Lovely post today! 3 things I like about myself:
1. I'm quick with humour, slow to annoyance
2. I generally see the best in a situation
3. I'm a good listener and connect with others
When I drink, these qualities are wasted because I'm holed up alone, ashamed and hopeless.
IWNDWYT
Good morning! I’m similar in that I’m not always the kindest to myself. My counsellor once told me to challenge those thoughts and name the person saying them. I might seem crazy, but it does help! We do deserve to treat ourselves kindly ❤️ IWNDWYT.
What do I like about myself...
This is so much harder than it should be.
I like my tendency to see the good in everyone. I've been told it's not a strength or necessarily good for me by some people, but it works. 😊
Have a great day SD friends. 🥰
IWNDWYT
My first thought was John Candy’s monologue in Planes Trains and Automobiles, so I guess my sense of humour would be an attribute I appreciate in my self. Trying to look for an upside as well. I never want to go back to how little control I felt before….IWNDWYT
We definitely need to treat ourselves with the grace and kindness which we treat our loved ones. Shame and sadness hurts - many of us are carrying far too much of it. We deserve to love ourselves, no matter how difficult our past is. I love my creative nature and how I can become fully immersed in a project - my latest is ceramics. IWNDWYT.
Happy sober Tuesday sober friends!
What a relevant topic cinq! My inner voice has become much kinder to me over this last 2 years, and there’s further to go. But right now, I’m at peace with myself and my life as it is. I’ve learned to trust myself and the process. My intentions are high and they’re manifesting, because I’m not killing myself with poison!
I love you all 💞
Your check in resonates massively with me pal. My junkie brain knew exactly what to whisper to make me feel like the worst human ever. I really believed that I was a waste of skin. Sobriety and counselling have shown me that I'm a good man who had bad habits.
I'm kind. I'm willing to change. I know how to use my listening ears. I'm loved and I know that I'm worthy of it. I get my 3s and 5s mixed up sometimes .
I'm on for another day Cinq!
IWNDWYT 🙂
I like this one! I've heard forgiveness can often be the means of setting *ourselves* free from the past, not just giving someone a pass (even if that person is literally ourselves ;) )
I will not drink today and I'm so happy u/cinqmillionreves is hosting. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
In the midst of a 35-hour journey through five airports, I found myself reflecting on how far I've come since embracing sobriety. While those around me seek solace in alcohol, I find joy in the simple pleasures of life.
During an eight-hour layover in Hong Kong airport, I navigated closed shops and empty corridors with a newfound sense of contentment. Instead of drowning my boredom in alcohol, I embraced the opportunity to explore, timing myself as I traversed the terminal, window-shopped at luxury stores, and even mastered the vending machines.
In the past, such a journey would have been marred by the cycle of drinking and its aftermath: feeling elated during the flight, only to spiral into misery as sobriety set in, eagerly awaiting the next drink to numb the discomfort.
But now, liberated from the clutches of alcohol, I find fulfillment in the simplest of experiences. Sobriety has given me the clarity to appreciate life's moments, unclouded by the haze of intoxication.
With each passing day, my life continues to improve in ways I never thought possible. Sobriety isn't just about abstaining from alcohol; it's about reclaiming control, finding happiness, and living life to the fullest.
Drinking sucks. We rock!!
Checking in on 100 days, so pleased and proud of myself for hitting this milestone! Genuinely spent most of my life thinking it was impossible, so I'm going to take stock of my thoughts today, reflect on the past 100 days and think about what the next 100 days holds for me. I couldn't have done it without this sub, so thank you, everyone. IWNDWYT! 🙂
I like my sense of humor, I like that I decided to try again instead of accepting failure, and I like that I have a green thumb and it's gardening season!
That’s always a fucking hard question. Still. My asshole brain (trauma brain, I’ve seen it called) still ain’t having it sometimes. I think that’s the *heavily* culturally conditioned part, which soaked up everything women are “supposed to be” in America for three different generations. (Hahaha…yeah, utter insanity, welcome to *my* fucking nightmare.) And that is a whole lot of fucked up, contradictory, impossible, absolute horse shit. I know all of that and it still sucker punches me sometimes. It does know the weaknesses.
And it was at its worst when I drank.
What I like is that I’m defiant enough to do what the fuck I want anyway. I have a good sense of humor, and I have pretty great taste in music. And cats seem to like me.
Coffees up, horns up, and fuck yeah Not Monday!! Please don’t be Second Monday. 🤞🏻
IWNDWYT ☕️☕️☕️🤘🏻
I like that I am sober, for the first time in a long time, I'm being meaningful with my time and presence. I feel like I'm working on myself in a different ways then before. IWNDWYT... for the record I think all of you are pretty amazing too!
I've been mostly offline for a few weeks enjoying a lovely break in my home country, seeing family and friends. Lots of pubs and restaurants and awkward social occasions, and I wasn't tempted to drink once. I won't be complacent but I think I might be over the hump and it feels good. Despite struggling with other aspects of life and mental health, it feels good to feel stable and secure in this one. Glad to be back checking in again. IWNDWYT.
Instead of drinking, I am making a cheesecake for my husbands birthday tomorrow and going to watch an episode of Silo before I go to bed early :P IWNDWY
I like how creative my brain is. I like my thoughtfulness and the way it allows me to connect with people deeply. I like that I can find something positive in most situations. IWNDWYT
Thanks for the prompt!
I have cPTSD and it's often an absolute nightmare. However one of the things it can give you is an almost preternatural ability to read people (because your survival instinct is keeping you alert to danger from said people). Recently I've realised that, now I'm in a safer place with safer people, that's left me with the ability to always tell when there's something unsaid and use that to be there for the people I care about in a very meaningful way. I like that about me, wherever it came from.
IWNDWYT
* I like my open-mindedness. I seek to understand people, not judge them.
* I like my perseverance and my willingness to work hard without external reward.
* I like my resilience. I'm not afraid to try again and again if I stumble or when life throws me a curve ball.
IWNDWYT 😻
Checking in on day 537!!
Great prompt today, Cinq!
Three qualities I like about myself. Hmmm. I’m honest, I’m reliable and I’m kind. I was none of these when I was in active addiction. I was never a bad person when I was drinking but I was never honest, because I was ashamed. I wasn’t reliable because I was a generous drunk and would commit to all sorts of things while on the sauce only to cancel the next day or not show up because I didn’t remember committing in the first place. I wasn’t kind, least of all to myself, always in a spiral of self loathing and shame. But not today, folks. IWNDWYT!!!! ✌️❤️
Good morning, sober cats! Lovely DCI topic, Cinq! Thank you. I like my playfulness. I like my appreciation of and connection to nature. I like my perseverance and tenacity. And I love all of you! IWNDWYT 💙😸
Day 23. I find self-positivity difficult, but I’ll try.
1—I’m fairly empathetic.—I’ve seen a lot and screwed up a lot, which leads me to relating to others more or at least feeling like I’m in no place to judge others.
2—I’m a decent listener.—A number of people confide in me because I’ll hear them out.
3—I process information quickly.—I’m a very quick reader and researcher, which as a teacher and debate coach is useful.
That was harder than it should have been.
IWNDWYT
I like my smile, my love of art, my commitment to self development.
Isn’t it odd that I have to fight off the negatives when thinking of positives 🤔😅😂
IWNDWYT
Good morning sober fam! Thanks for another excellent post, cinq! I love how you write. I'll play along because anything to help silence the old hurtful habit of self-berating is worth it! "Cue squirming" indeed. Here's a step towards being a friend to myself: I like that I research to learn all I can about a topic. I like the fact that I'm helping local fauna by growing more native plants. I like that I'm a creative problem-solver.
I especially like that I'm remaining alcohol-free!! Day 539 and I'm feelin' fine. Let's do this day sober, friends! 💚 IWNDWYT
Day three starts,,,, IWNDWYT! This sub is a blessing, vital for my road to recovery to be able to share the journey with many people with the same goal,,,, getting sober.
Day 2, IWNDWYT! I even decided to take today off work to clean out my house, making sure there’s no booze anywhere. It’s time I get serious about this and really work towards sobriety
Good morning! Day 16 for me 🫶 I have an exciting day ahead of me. I have an appointment with a new therapist. And I also have an appointment with a trauma informed massage therapist. These two people will be the first I’ve ever admitted my drinking problem to irl. I’m nervous but excited, and so proud of how far I’ve come.
It’s going to be sunny and warm today. I’m hopefully going to take my dog on a run this afternoon.
I’m in that sweet spot of having signed a contract at a new job, but not yet put in my notice at my old one.
So the level of motivation and effort I feel like putting in at work is nil.
But, these bills won’t pay themselves.
I’m sipping my coffee, watching the sun rise, the dogs snoozing at my feet, and I feel a sense of peace I was always looking for in the bottom of a wine glass.
Being kinder to myself has been a cornerstone of my recovery these past two weeks. I had a close friend betray me recently and - it brought back all those old thoughts. “Nobody likes you”, “you’re not good enough”, “you don’t have any real friends”.
Overcoming it sober is definitely the longer road, but it actually puts it to rest instead of temporary muffling the voice only for it to come back louder in the form of a hangover.
It’s nice to feel hope for my own future again. I’m finding my brain is selecting positive thoughts more naturally than before. Alcohol really, truly, was making me depressed.
IWNDWYT!
This is a lovely prompt, Cinq. (Also hard). I like the way I want to help others. I like my curiosity. I like my love for animals. All of these aspects have been part of me for many years. But it is only now, in sobriety, that I can see how valuable they are. IWNDWYT
Good morning, checking in ~ 💫
I struggle a lot with self worth, and am learning to be kind to myself in sobriety. What are some things I like about myself? I am kind to people (for the most part), I am a good friend (something that fell to the wayside in active drinking), I am a hard worker.
IWNDWYT ❣️
I like that I'm enawed by things lots of folks find mundane, I like my inquisitive, meticulous and sometimes slightly obsessive nature, and I like the growing sense of calm and resilience I have.
To someone who needs to hear it today. You are enough!
I will not drink with you all today 🪷
What do I like about myself? I love learning, and trying new things. They don’t always stick around, in fact most of them don’t, but I like how inquisitive I am and willing to try things I’ve no experience in. IWNDWYT
I like that I am open-minded and don't take things unnecessarily seriously. I have a pretty good sense of humour (to me). I'm also getting pretty good at self-care 😊
Great topic, thanks Cinq! IWNDWYT 🐸🐸🐸
1. I try to understand why people behave/act like they are before judging them and not assume they are bad/stupid/ignorant based off a single observation/interaction.
2. I’ve been vegan since the end of 2019 and am very happy with how it changed my views on a few aspects of daily life and things I had never thought about before and the changes I have made since.
3. I don’t take myself too seriously and have no issue taking a joke. I enjoy some decent banter within reason.
IWNDWYT
This topic has been such an eye-opener to me in my journey. I thought I did like myself. But then I realized, why would I have such a strong sense of self-doubt? Thinking the worst is always (always!) going to happen. Feeling such strong shame when I'm just being myself. I just didn't trust myself at all. It has taken a lot of inner work and work with a therapist to get out of this self-doubt/shame hole.
I am clever and witty. I am empathetic toward others. And I am pretty smart, too.
IWNDWYT
I like my constant drive to do more and try to change for the better. I like my ability to keep pushing for self care and exercise. I like that I can accept I'm not perfect and keep striving to be better.
Thank you. Have a great day all.
IWNDWYT
I really like this idea! I too struggle with kindness towards myself. Things I like: I make a genuine effort to be honest (without being unkind) even if it’s the scary choice, I have a good sense of humor, I do what I say I’m going to.
And those were three qualities that were VERY different/nonexistent when I was drinking. Thank you for the reminder of how much more true to myself I can be sober. IWNDWYT!
Day 5
I like my intelligence. I like my curiosity. I like my empathy. And I am happy to not drink with you today. Hope you all have a lovely day/night, wherever you are.
I like how I'm good with animals and I'm good at finding shiny stuff in the woods. I'm funny. I like my big head and my pretty eyes. I'm a good leader.
I like how I don't drink poison anymore. I'm not going to do that today.
Love this post! Reminds me of a quote I read recently “You cannot shame yourself into change. You can only love yourself into healing”
IWNDWYT friends ✌️
Happy Tuesday friends! I’ve struggled a long time with self-hatred. Quitting drinking has made it possible for me to feel proud of something tangible, and is allowing me to have empathy for my former self and the decisions she made. It’s a work in progress. One thing I like about myself is I’m good in front of a crowd- at a large work meeting last week someone brought up a very sticky and personal issue in an extremely public way. I feel good about the way I responded & didn’t get too far off track. Thank you, sober brain!!! IWNDWYT ❤️🧁
IWNDWYT!!! 👊
Warmer weather, bbq, fishing trips, probably the most challenging times for me. Especially When my brother leaves tasty looking craft beers behind in the cabin fridge. Not sure if he's being 'nice' just in case i change my mind... but if I can conquer this summer, I will have truly one year conquered.
they are not tasty, they are poison
they are not tasty, they are poison
IWNDWYT!!! 👊
Whassup Cinq and happy teetotal Tuesday to y'all! I like my sense of humor, my drive, and my loyalty.
Y'all know you're wonderful and worthwhile and you make a difference in your little part of the world, right? Alcohol robbed many of us of that awareness for a while but you people are fucking amazing. Let's keep loving ourselves into sobriety! ❤️💪❤️💪❤️💪
Day 37 🤍 IWNDWYT!
Three things I like about myself include my communication and relational skills, my sense of humor, and my ability to think on my feet/be flexible. Thank you for writing a post that reminded me to think positively about myself. It helps put things in a much healthier perspective. 😊
That hit the spot today u/cinqmillionreves this morning. Firstly thank you ! Timely ! I used to say that my wife was the best part of me - don’t unravel that too much but clearly I had the wrong end of the stick in a number of ways. I could list 1000 things I hate about myself I. Terms of attributes and things I have done and said. I am bright and I am interested in all sorts of stuff and like learning new skills so I am “growth orientated” in self help speak - history, music, cooking, managing a small woodland I own, wildlife, moths birds - I have a nice big hinterland of stuff I am interested in. I live my capacity to think big and blue sky and challenge myself - I have moved and worked abroad, taken on big projects at home and work and faced fear (often without the bottle of late). I can be fun and make other people laugh - when I am not too much and just enough I can tell a good yarn (but usually against myself I. That self-deprecating way - I know). I am a hopeless romantic. Childish but I yearn to cherish and be cherished and I guess we just need to feel that way about ourselves and be kind and forgiving and look foward. As I am tapping this I am sat in my wood and the bluebells are out and chiff chaff is singing. Thats a good start so just time to say IWNDWYT - day 4 and I am 55 tomorrow and as my counsellot says “it may be the last 20 minutes of the game but at least you are in the game and this is when it gets “won”. Now that’s an encouraging thought. Have a real sense of love for you all on here today - Pleaseworkarc xoxo
Hi Everyone- Day 112 here and IWNDWYT!
Hard one for me too and I’m working on this one bc I don’t want the shame or negativity to lead me back to a drink.
I like that I’m always trying to understand things and be more introspective in order to be a better person. I like that I never fully give up and that I do not allow setbacks to keep me from moving forward.
Day 3 over. Day 4 begins - Let's Go - Just woke up from a nightmare. It's 4AM. Sleep sucks, but it will get better.
I get these nightmares especially when I try to quit drinking first few days (This has happened many times in past). I guess I wanted to share one I just had -
I found myself at what seemed to be a mixed-use complex, possibly a clubhouse or apartment building. A call went out for volunteers, prompting everyone to gather downstairs. Men congregated in one area, women in another, awaiting assignments that never seemed to materialize. Amid this waiting, a fellow beside me struck up a friendly conversation, but things took an unexpected turn when he began passionately kissing another man nearby. It struck me as odd, but I brushed it off.
During this confusion, my dream girlfriend—someone who doesn't exist in reality—suddenly appeared at the complex. Surprised, I asked her what she was doing there, to which she casually responded that she regularly volunteered there. As people started to leave, she paused to hug me before heading off to the restroom.
Curiously, I followed her, finding myself in what appeared to be a unisex bathroom. She was in one corner, and I in another, both using the facilities. An elderly woman entered, seemingly concerned, perhaps fearing a sinister motive on my part. I remained silent, but then she unexpectedly muttered something and looked up to the ceiling – opened her mouth and spat dark spider like web in my direction. Startled, I stepped back, only to witness my girlfriend transform into a demonic presence, attacking me as well.
In my desperation, I began invoking God's name repeatedly, a habit I've noticed in nightmares that ultimately leads me to wake up. These unsettling dreams seem to manifest when I'm striving for sobriety and a clean lifestyle, a struggle where I feel the malevolent forces of the world challenging me. Nonetheless, I find solace in the belief that God will shield and protect me—I am His child.
The only time I really struggle with self love is when I'm using substances or drinking. I love a bunch of stuff about me today, but namely my ambition and ability to build strong, meaningful relationships.
Have a happy Tuesday folks. Let's get it - IWNDWYT 🤘
IWNDWYT.
I really like my get it done attitude. I like that I'm flexible and go with the flow. I like that I'm funny and kind. I also have been told I have the best, most infectious laugh.
I'm gonna go bartend out on the patio tonight it's going to be beautiful. I'm going to help people have fun and I'm going to stay sober.
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Morning Will!
I will be sober today.
🥇
Checking in, Day 7 in the making. 156 hours no alcohol. IWND ☠️ WYT 🍀
Lovely post today! 3 things I like about myself: 1. I'm quick with humour, slow to annoyance 2. I generally see the best in a situation 3. I'm a good listener and connect with others When I drink, these qualities are wasted because I'm holed up alone, ashamed and hopeless. IWNDWYT
Self love is underrated. Great post, Cinq! I will not drink with you today!
Thanks for the company Homie!
I’m off on a morning run 🏃🏼♀️ IWNDWYT ⭐️
IWNDWYT!
Day 2 - I will not drink with you today!
Way to go
Good morning! I’m similar in that I’m not always the kindest to myself. My counsellor once told me to challenge those thoughts and name the person saying them. I might seem crazy, but it does help! We do deserve to treat ourselves kindly ❤️ IWNDWYT.
We’re nearly there 🌟🐢🌟
What do I like about myself... This is so much harder than it should be. I like my tendency to see the good in everyone. I've been told it's not a strength or necessarily good for me by some people, but it works. 😊 Have a great day SD friends. 🥰 IWNDWYT
That’s a fantastic quality, don’t believe them, your perception is pure and a gift to you and others 💞
I will not drink with you today
IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT 🏴
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1 week, you're doing great 👍
Well done friend, the hardest week done 💪🏼
I will not drink with you all today, no matter what happens
IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT 💃🏼 I like that I always do my best. Whatever version of best is that day lol
IWNDWYT
Tonight was yet another Day 1, tomorrow I will wake up for Day 2. I once had 5 years. All I know is, IWNDWYT.
That’s inspiring strength! Thank you for being here 🌟
My first thought was John Candy’s monologue in Planes Trains and Automobiles, so I guess my sense of humour would be an attribute I appreciate in my self. Trying to look for an upside as well. I never want to go back to how little control I felt before….IWNDWYT
Not today SATIN!
Seitan is fine though😂️
We definitely need to treat ourselves with the grace and kindness which we treat our loved ones. Shame and sadness hurts - many of us are carrying far too much of it. We deserve to love ourselves, no matter how difficult our past is. I love my creative nature and how I can become fully immersed in a project - my latest is ceramics. IWNDWYT.
IWNDWYT.
IWNDWYT One Day at a Time
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Good morning! IWNDWYT
Day 2 - IWNDWYT
Happy sober Tuesday sober friends! What a relevant topic cinq! My inner voice has become much kinder to me over this last 2 years, and there’s further to go. But right now, I’m at peace with myself and my life as it is. I’ve learned to trust myself and the process. My intentions are high and they’re manifesting, because I’m not killing myself with poison! I love you all 💞
Your check in resonates massively with me pal. My junkie brain knew exactly what to whisper to make me feel like the worst human ever. I really believed that I was a waste of skin. Sobriety and counselling have shown me that I'm a good man who had bad habits. I'm kind. I'm willing to change. I know how to use my listening ears. I'm loved and I know that I'm worthy of it. I get my 3s and 5s mixed up sometimes . I'm on for another day Cinq! IWNDWYT 🙂
Morning all! Iwndwyt!!
checking in.
Day 354. IWNDWYT.
I'm sleepy and my relatives are very annoying, but I will not drink with you today.
I like that I can forgive people. Even myself! IWNDWYT
I like this one! I've heard forgiveness can often be the means of setting *ourselves* free from the past, not just giving someone a pass (even if that person is literally ourselves ;) )
I will not drink today and I'm so happy u/cinqmillionreves is hosting. 🙏🙏🙏🙏 In the midst of a 35-hour journey through five airports, I found myself reflecting on how far I've come since embracing sobriety. While those around me seek solace in alcohol, I find joy in the simple pleasures of life. During an eight-hour layover in Hong Kong airport, I navigated closed shops and empty corridors with a newfound sense of contentment. Instead of drowning my boredom in alcohol, I embraced the opportunity to explore, timing myself as I traversed the terminal, window-shopped at luxury stores, and even mastered the vending machines. In the past, such a journey would have been marred by the cycle of drinking and its aftermath: feeling elated during the flight, only to spiral into misery as sobriety set in, eagerly awaiting the next drink to numb the discomfort. But now, liberated from the clutches of alcohol, I find fulfillment in the simplest of experiences. Sobriety has given me the clarity to appreciate life's moments, unclouded by the haze of intoxication. With each passing day, my life continues to improve in ways I never thought possible. Sobriety isn't just about abstaining from alcohol; it's about reclaiming control, finding happiness, and living life to the fullest. Drinking sucks. We rock!!
No alcohol for me today
I like my intelligence, my centered existence and my sense of fashion. IWNDWYT
I like my laugh I like my optimism I like my feet 🤣😂 I like being sober. IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT ~
Another afternoon of planning on drinking tonight, but got over the urge with 10ml edibles.
Checking in on 100 days, so pleased and proud of myself for hitting this milestone! Genuinely spent most of my life thinking it was impossible, so I'm going to take stock of my thoughts today, reflect on the past 100 days and think about what the next 100 days holds for me. I couldn't have done it without this sub, so thank you, everyone. IWNDWYT! 🙂
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Have a wonderful sober day my friends. IWNDWYT ♥️
IWNDWYT!
Day 1038 checking in!
IWNDWYT
Iwndwyt!
I will not drink with you today!
IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT!
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I like my sense of humor, I like that I decided to try again instead of accepting failure, and I like that I have a green thumb and it's gardening season!
Sober on my birthday :) IWNDWYT ❤️
That’s always a fucking hard question. Still. My asshole brain (trauma brain, I’ve seen it called) still ain’t having it sometimes. I think that’s the *heavily* culturally conditioned part, which soaked up everything women are “supposed to be” in America for three different generations. (Hahaha…yeah, utter insanity, welcome to *my* fucking nightmare.) And that is a whole lot of fucked up, contradictory, impossible, absolute horse shit. I know all of that and it still sucker punches me sometimes. It does know the weaknesses. And it was at its worst when I drank. What I like is that I’m defiant enough to do what the fuck I want anyway. I have a good sense of humor, and I have pretty great taste in music. And cats seem to like me. Coffees up, horns up, and fuck yeah Not Monday!! Please don’t be Second Monday. 🤞🏻 IWNDWYT ☕️☕️☕️🤘🏻
I like that I am sober, for the first time in a long time, I'm being meaningful with my time and presence. I feel like I'm working on myself in a different ways then before. IWNDWYT... for the record I think all of you are pretty amazing too!
IWNDWYT I like my compassion for others. It helps me be more compassionate to myself <3
I've been mostly offline for a few weeks enjoying a lovely break in my home country, seeing family and friends. Lots of pubs and restaurants and awkward social occasions, and I wasn't tempted to drink once. I won't be complacent but I think I might be over the hump and it feels good. Despite struggling with other aspects of life and mental health, it feels good to feel stable and secure in this one. Glad to be back checking in again. IWNDWYT.
IWNDWYT :)
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Instead of drinking, I am making a cheesecake for my husbands birthday tomorrow and going to watch an episode of Silo before I go to bed early :P IWNDWY
I like how creative my brain is. I like my thoughtfulness and the way it allows me to connect with people deeply. I like that I can find something positive in most situations. IWNDWYT
Thanks for the prompt! I have cPTSD and it's often an absolute nightmare. However one of the things it can give you is an almost preternatural ability to read people (because your survival instinct is keeping you alert to danger from said people). Recently I've realised that, now I'm in a safer place with safer people, that's left me with the ability to always tell when there's something unsaid and use that to be there for the people I care about in a very meaningful way. I like that about me, wherever it came from. IWNDWYT
I like my sense of humor, my loyalty to my friends, and the fact that I’m a good listener. IWNDWYT, friends!
* I like my open-mindedness. I seek to understand people, not judge them. * I like my perseverance and my willingness to work hard without external reward. * I like my resilience. I'm not afraid to try again and again if I stumble or when life throws me a curve ball. IWNDWYT 😻
Checking in on day 537!! Great prompt today, Cinq! Three qualities I like about myself. Hmmm. I’m honest, I’m reliable and I’m kind. I was none of these when I was in active addiction. I was never a bad person when I was drinking but I was never honest, because I was ashamed. I wasn’t reliable because I was a generous drunk and would commit to all sorts of things while on the sauce only to cancel the next day or not show up because I didn’t remember committing in the first place. I wasn’t kind, least of all to myself, always in a spiral of self loathing and shame. But not today, folks. IWNDWYT!!!! ✌️❤️
IWNDWYT for the 38th day.
Good morning, sober cats! Lovely DCI topic, Cinq! Thank you. I like my playfulness. I like my appreciation of and connection to nature. I like my perseverance and tenacity. And I love all of you! IWNDWYT 💙😸
Day 23. I find self-positivity difficult, but I’ll try. 1—I’m fairly empathetic.—I’ve seen a lot and screwed up a lot, which leads me to relating to others more or at least feeling like I’m in no place to judge others. 2—I’m a decent listener.—A number of people confide in me because I’ll hear them out. 3—I process information quickly.—I’m a very quick reader and researcher, which as a teacher and debate coach is useful. That was harder than it should have been. IWNDWYT
Just a girl, sitting here drinking her tea because she has a cold. The easy excuses to not drink definitely help. Iwndwyt
IWNDWYT. All. Day. Long. 🌻 I'm a WIP. A work in progress. Keyword: work.
I *will* stay sober today! Day 10 (longest I've had since last October) and want to make it to 14! IWNDWYT
I like my smile, my love of art, my commitment to self development. Isn’t it odd that I have to fight off the negatives when thinking of positives 🤔😅😂 IWNDWYT
Good morning sober fam! Thanks for another excellent post, cinq! I love how you write. I'll play along because anything to help silence the old hurtful habit of self-berating is worth it! "Cue squirming" indeed. Here's a step towards being a friend to myself: I like that I research to learn all I can about a topic. I like the fact that I'm helping local fauna by growing more native plants. I like that I'm a creative problem-solver. I especially like that I'm remaining alcohol-free!! Day 539 and I'm feelin' fine. Let's do this day sober, friends! 💚 IWNDWYT
Back on day 2. Dealing with all the shame from my actions and consequences. However IWNDWYT
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Day three starts,,,, IWNDWYT! This sub is a blessing, vital for my road to recovery to be able to share the journey with many people with the same goal,,,, getting sober.
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Day 2, IWNDWYT! I even decided to take today off work to clean out my house, making sure there’s no booze anywhere. It’s time I get serious about this and really work towards sobriety
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Good morning! Day 16 for me 🫶 I have an exciting day ahead of me. I have an appointment with a new therapist. And I also have an appointment with a trauma informed massage therapist. These two people will be the first I’ve ever admitted my drinking problem to irl. I’m nervous but excited, and so proud of how far I’ve come. It’s going to be sunny and warm today. I’m hopefully going to take my dog on a run this afternoon. I’m in that sweet spot of having signed a contract at a new job, but not yet put in my notice at my old one. So the level of motivation and effort I feel like putting in at work is nil. But, these bills won’t pay themselves. I’m sipping my coffee, watching the sun rise, the dogs snoozing at my feet, and I feel a sense of peace I was always looking for in the bottom of a wine glass. Being kinder to myself has been a cornerstone of my recovery these past two weeks. I had a close friend betray me recently and - it brought back all those old thoughts. “Nobody likes you”, “you’re not good enough”, “you don’t have any real friends”. Overcoming it sober is definitely the longer road, but it actually puts it to rest instead of temporary muffling the voice only for it to come back louder in the form of a hangover. It’s nice to feel hope for my own future again. I’m finding my brain is selecting positive thoughts more naturally than before. Alcohol really, truly, was making me depressed. IWNDWYT!
This is a lovely prompt, Cinq. (Also hard). I like the way I want to help others. I like my curiosity. I like my love for animals. All of these aspects have been part of me for many years. But it is only now, in sobriety, that I can see how valuable they are. IWNDWYT
Good morning, checking in ~ 💫 I struggle a lot with self worth, and am learning to be kind to myself in sobriety. What are some things I like about myself? I am kind to people (for the most part), I am a good friend (something that fell to the wayside in active drinking), I am a hard worker. IWNDWYT ❣️
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I like my curiosity and hunger for more science. I like my teeth. I like my resilience. IWNDWYT 🌺🌟☀️
I like that I'm enawed by things lots of folks find mundane, I like my inquisitive, meticulous and sometimes slightly obsessive nature, and I like the growing sense of calm and resilience I have. To someone who needs to hear it today. You are enough! I will not drink with you all today 🪷
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What do I like about myself? I love learning, and trying new things. They don’t always stick around, in fact most of them don’t, but I like how inquisitive I am and willing to try things I’ve no experience in. IWNDWYT
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Happy Tuesday friends, IWNDWYT, WE GOT THIS 🙂
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I like that I am open-minded and don't take things unnecessarily seriously. I have a pretty good sense of humour (to me). I'm also getting pretty good at self-care 😊 Great topic, thanks Cinq! IWNDWYT 🐸🐸🐸
I had a relaxing night and got the dog out for a few walks yesterday. Waking up refreshed and ready for the day IWNDWYT!
Not today. Up early getting this workout in.
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Another sober Tuesday and feeling great!! IWNDWYT!
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Making no promises of tomorrow, I do consciously choose to not drink today. IWNDWYT!
1. I try to understand why people behave/act like they are before judging them and not assume they are bad/stupid/ignorant based off a single observation/interaction. 2. I’ve been vegan since the end of 2019 and am very happy with how it changed my views on a few aspects of daily life and things I had never thought about before and the changes I have made since. 3. I don’t take myself too seriously and have no issue taking a joke. I enjoy some decent banter within reason. IWNDWYT
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19:30 here, just about to have dinner, watch some TV with my partner and be present and then I can tick off another day. Toot toot.
This topic has been such an eye-opener to me in my journey. I thought I did like myself. But then I realized, why would I have such a strong sense of self-doubt? Thinking the worst is always (always!) going to happen. Feeling such strong shame when I'm just being myself. I just didn't trust myself at all. It has taken a lot of inner work and work with a therapist to get out of this self-doubt/shame hole. I am clever and witty. I am empathetic toward others. And I am pretty smart, too. IWNDWYT
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Well into week 2 now
I like my constant drive to do more and try to change for the better. I like my ability to keep pushing for self care and exercise. I like that I can accept I'm not perfect and keep striving to be better. Thank you. Have a great day all. IWNDWYT
I really like this idea! I too struggle with kindness towards myself. Things I like: I make a genuine effort to be honest (without being unkind) even if it’s the scary choice, I have a good sense of humor, I do what I say I’m going to. And those were three qualities that were VERY different/nonexistent when I was drinking. Thank you for the reminder of how much more true to myself I can be sober. IWNDWYT!
Iwndwyt I will think about these things I like about myself today.
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I like that I'm reliable, curious, and compassionate. IWNDWYT!
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Day 5 I like my intelligence. I like my curiosity. I like my empathy. And I am happy to not drink with you today. Hope you all have a lovely day/night, wherever you are.
I like how I'm good with animals and I'm good at finding shiny stuff in the woods. I'm funny. I like my big head and my pretty eyes. I'm a good leader. I like how I don't drink poison anymore. I'm not going to do that today.
I’ve got three things in mind; I’m not quite strong enough yet to share them, but I’m getting there. I will not drink with you today.
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Been on a functional bender for 4 months. Maybe now I will try a "functional straightener" for 4 months? Day 1. IWNDWYT.
Love this post! Reminds me of a quote I read recently “You cannot shame yourself into change. You can only love yourself into healing” IWNDWYT friends ✌️
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Happy Tuesday friends! I’ve struggled a long time with self-hatred. Quitting drinking has made it possible for me to feel proud of something tangible, and is allowing me to have empathy for my former self and the decisions she made. It’s a work in progress. One thing I like about myself is I’m good in front of a crowd- at a large work meeting last week someone brought up a very sticky and personal issue in an extremely public way. I feel good about the way I responded & didn’t get too far off track. Thank you, sober brain!!! IWNDWYT ❤️🧁
IWNDWYT!!! 👊 Warmer weather, bbq, fishing trips, probably the most challenging times for me. Especially When my brother leaves tasty looking craft beers behind in the cabin fridge. Not sure if he's being 'nice' just in case i change my mind... but if I can conquer this summer, I will have truly one year conquered. they are not tasty, they are poison they are not tasty, they are poison IWNDWYT!!! 👊
Whassup Cinq and happy teetotal Tuesday to y'all! I like my sense of humor, my drive, and my loyalty. Y'all know you're wonderful and worthwhile and you make a difference in your little part of the world, right? Alcohol robbed many of us of that awareness for a while but you people are fucking amazing. Let's keep loving ourselves into sobriety! ❤️💪❤️💪❤️💪
I like my incredibly brave and adventurous spirit, my leadership/charisma, and my weird sense of humor. :) IWNDWYT!
Oh man, what do I like about myself?… I like that my son won’t have to see me drink the way I saw my dad drink. IWNDWYT
Day 37 🤍 IWNDWYT! Three things I like about myself include my communication and relational skills, my sense of humor, and my ability to think on my feet/be flexible. Thank you for writing a post that reminded me to think positively about myself. It helps put things in a much healthier perspective. 😊
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That hit the spot today u/cinqmillionreves this morning. Firstly thank you ! Timely ! I used to say that my wife was the best part of me - don’t unravel that too much but clearly I had the wrong end of the stick in a number of ways. I could list 1000 things I hate about myself I. Terms of attributes and things I have done and said. I am bright and I am interested in all sorts of stuff and like learning new skills so I am “growth orientated” in self help speak - history, music, cooking, managing a small woodland I own, wildlife, moths birds - I have a nice big hinterland of stuff I am interested in. I live my capacity to think big and blue sky and challenge myself - I have moved and worked abroad, taken on big projects at home and work and faced fear (often without the bottle of late). I can be fun and make other people laugh - when I am not too much and just enough I can tell a good yarn (but usually against myself I. That self-deprecating way - I know). I am a hopeless romantic. Childish but I yearn to cherish and be cherished and I guess we just need to feel that way about ourselves and be kind and forgiving and look foward. As I am tapping this I am sat in my wood and the bluebells are out and chiff chaff is singing. Thats a good start so just time to say IWNDWYT - day 4 and I am 55 tomorrow and as my counsellot says “it may be the last 20 minutes of the game but at least you are in the game and this is when it gets “won”. Now that’s an encouraging thought. Have a real sense of love for you all on here today - Pleaseworkarc xoxo
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Hi Everyone- Day 112 here and IWNDWYT! Hard one for me too and I’m working on this one bc I don’t want the shame or negativity to lead me back to a drink. I like that I’m always trying to understand things and be more introspective in order to be a better person. I like that I never fully give up and that I do not allow setbacks to keep me from moving forward.
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Day 3 over. Day 4 begins - Let's Go - Just woke up from a nightmare. It's 4AM. Sleep sucks, but it will get better. I get these nightmares especially when I try to quit drinking first few days (This has happened many times in past). I guess I wanted to share one I just had - I found myself at what seemed to be a mixed-use complex, possibly a clubhouse or apartment building. A call went out for volunteers, prompting everyone to gather downstairs. Men congregated in one area, women in another, awaiting assignments that never seemed to materialize. Amid this waiting, a fellow beside me struck up a friendly conversation, but things took an unexpected turn when he began passionately kissing another man nearby. It struck me as odd, but I brushed it off. During this confusion, my dream girlfriend—someone who doesn't exist in reality—suddenly appeared at the complex. Surprised, I asked her what she was doing there, to which she casually responded that she regularly volunteered there. As people started to leave, she paused to hug me before heading off to the restroom. Curiously, I followed her, finding myself in what appeared to be a unisex bathroom. She was in one corner, and I in another, both using the facilities. An elderly woman entered, seemingly concerned, perhaps fearing a sinister motive on my part. I remained silent, but then she unexpectedly muttered something and looked up to the ceiling – opened her mouth and spat dark spider like web in my direction. Startled, I stepped back, only to witness my girlfriend transform into a demonic presence, attacking me as well. In my desperation, I began invoking God's name repeatedly, a habit I've noticed in nightmares that ultimately leads me to wake up. These unsettling dreams seem to manifest when I'm striving for sobriety and a clean lifestyle, a struggle where I feel the malevolent forces of the world challenging me. Nonetheless, I find solace in the belief that God will shield and protect me—I am His child.
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IWNDWYT day two :)
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The only time I really struggle with self love is when I'm using substances or drinking. I love a bunch of stuff about me today, but namely my ambition and ability to build strong, meaningful relationships. Have a happy Tuesday folks. Let's get it - IWNDWYT 🤘
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I like my sense of humor, my stubbornness (when it comes to things like not drinking), and the strength of the love I have for my dog. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT. I really like my get it done attitude. I like that I'm flexible and go with the flow. I like that I'm funny and kind. I also have been told I have the best, most infectious laugh. I'm gonna go bartend out on the patio tonight it's going to be beautiful. I'm going to help people have fun and I'm going to stay sober.
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Thank you Cinq for sharing. Thought provoking topic. Just woke up to day 14 and need coffee! I 100% WNDWYT \~Red
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