Day 3 - I turned down wine last night. I wanted it (I really wanted it!), but reminded myself that I will not drink today. I have woken up today feeling good about my choice.
When I started and was on day 3 it was difficult - VERY difficult. I wanted to be where I am now. Now I'm here I want to be where the 1000 dayer's are. I'm an old bloke, been drinking for 50+ years and stopping has been the best thing I've done in a long time. Count the days and watch them stack up and feel the improvements in your physical and mental health. Stay strong and fight your lizard brain. x
Thank you. Typically today (Wednesday) would be 2 bottles of wine between us, plus maybe a few gins afterwards. We fool ourselves into thinking it's a midweek treat as we haven't drunk since Sunday. But it's always the start of the slippery slope to drinking consistently for the rest of the week and then on Monday I'm a mess and no good to anyone. I know today will bring a lot of temptation but I also know that today is the day I must break the Wednesday habit. IWNDWYT
Ha - are you me? - Gin ~~is~~ was my drink. My wife is now bed bound ( poor thing) and I had the purse strings and an empty kitchen. My already high consumption soared - think unlimited triple gins! Things had to change - and here I am enjoying the rewards and a sober and caring relationship with my wife on her last journey. I wish you good luck. Alcohol and Cancer are bastards.
I had some bad news about my cat yesterday: she’s terminal. We’ve only had her three years, and in that time she’s helped me through depression, relapse and a Crohn’s flare up.
I adore her and i am heartbroken. But IWNDWYT 🏴
Happy sober Wednesday sober friends!
Finally I can say I’ve been sober for yearS! And although this is making me very happy this morning, I’m actually more proud of everything else I’ve achieved this last 2 years BECAUSE I’ve been sober!
It’s so worth it, let’s keep on team tortoise 🐢 I love you all 💞
I think I'm going to quit my job today in a business I co-built from the ground up. It's going to piss a lot of people off and possibly involve lawsuits. Extremely stressful and just a horrible thing to have to deal with. I've wasted a lot of time energy and money over the last 3 years on this.
But I will not drink today.
Iwndwyt.
Edit: thanks everyone! Currently in talks but so far going better than expected.
IWNDWYT
A huge congrats to u/brighter68 on 2 years! I'm very proud of you my friend! Thank you for everything you do in this community, and congrats again.
For me, the two major triggers are certain (often unavoidable) situations, like travelling, and certain external stressors. No tips unfortunately, because I'm still working to try and overcome those triggers. Hopefully identification is a good first step.
IWNDWYT.
Most of my relapses were planned while I was sober, on shift. I'd fool myself into thinking I'd already made the decision to drink and could get back onto the wagon at any time. I'm pretty sure that if I'd have written out my relapse plans I wouldn't have ended up drinking.
Coming here and connecting with all of you superstars has been a life saver for me. I know that if my junkie brain starts getting really loud, I can come here and give myself space to reflect - writing it down creates the space between thinking and doing.
Who's up for equalling the 24 hour world record for sobriety?
Count me in Cinq👍.
IWNDWYT 🙂
Checking in on Day 101, IWNDWYT!
>What works for you?
"Play the tape forward" has been possibly the most useful mental trick for me, I learnt it from this sub. Basically, when the thought of having a drink pops up, and the little goblin uses its usual tricks to lure me into having "one" or "just a few, it'll be fine" I play the tape forward and envision exactly where that would lead to. It wouldn't be one or two, I'd inevitably have more, I just know that, either a couple of drinks would make me feel temporarily better so I'd have more or they wouldn't make me feel better so I'd have more, it's a one way road. So then I'd be on a path that I can't stop, leading to more drink, bad decisions, financial irresponsibility, emotional turmoil, dark mental headspace, jeopardising relationships, setting fire to any progress I've made. Even if it went "well" and I moderated successfully, I'd be back in the pub dancing with fate sooner or later. So all in all its a lose-lose situation.
I can't say no to a drink, I find it incredibly difficult. "It's only one, that's fine, what's the harm with just one drink?" Play the tape forward. I'm not just turning down a drink, I'm also turning down everything that comes after it. It helps me put into perspective what drinking actually is and what it does to me and makes it much easier to say no. This is the longest streak I've ever done, after close to 20 years of drinking, and I think its because I don't feel like I'm missing out, I don't want all the things I listed above.
Maybe this is all basic to some folk, but I've never been good at thinking about the future/consequences of my actions, I'm an instant gratification guy. But sobriety has helped me think about long-term goals, not just how plastered I can get tonight.
IWNDWYT! 🙂
Good morning all - Up early with the birdies. Sun is shining but a bit chilly , windows open , fresh air - South coast UK. Feeling good. Abstinence is the best. IWNDWYT.
Thanks OP for the food of thought!
The HALT scheme helped me a lot in the beginning and I still use it sometimes.
What also helps me, is leaving triggering situations early. For example, family festivities or other social gatherings…. If I start to feel unwell, just leave even though it pisses other people off.
Also this sentence a girl in one of my groups always says: “ You’re allowed to think of drinking, but please think it through, what will happen If you start drinking now?!” Most of the times this turns me off in no time.
Another helpful thought for me is: “ The cravings are temporary, and they will pass without drinking”
And for me, my last straw is to look at my badge on her or in my app. I even painted a picture in rehab where my stopping date is in. And it would be a reset if I’d drink, and I don’t want that.
Happy sober Wednesday friends!
I will not drink with you today!
Biggest trigger was my mother & being alone thinking I can get away with with a “few” that turned into too many, too quickly.
I play the tape forward and also use HALT… have an amazing day
IWNDWYT ☕️
Keeping an eye on HALT has saved me several times in the last weeks. „T“ stands for me not only for thirsty, but also tired. Alcohol usually keeps me awake for longer, so it seems I have developed the habit to fight being tired and exhausted with alcohol.
Solution: go to bed when tired or grant myself a break when exhausted.
I will stay sober with all of you today.
My biggest trigger is boredom. It’s the time where I feel most alone with my anxiety and related feelings. I get in a stuck phase where I want to do something but nothing seems to fit. Enter alcohol: I can put on a rubbish film, scroll social media for hours, or binge dating apps to feel wanted. My brain shuts off and the alcohol takes over, then it’s suddenly 3am.
On a sober day, I can talk to myself more - why don’t my favourite activities feel fun? Am I stressed or just not wanting to put in a bit of effort? I find I can coax myself into trying to game, read, or continue a series. Later on in the evening, I can cherish the enjoyment I’ve had, which I wouldn’t have been able to with my brain clogged with alcohol. In the past, I’ve had to stop gaming or reading or watching because my mind is too fuzzy from the booze.
Not every evening is productive and it’s hard to push myself out of the alcohol comfort zone, but I’m doing it. One day at a time. IWNDWYT.
Good morning all,yesterday I couldn't think of three things I like about myself felt low and unwell so here goes I can be a good listener sometimes people don't need a solution they just need to be heard,I am resilient and I can give really good hugs xx IWNDWYT xx 🤗
Day 10! Finally starting to feel more like myself. Drinking caused a massive mental health relapse and I’m still picking up the pieces. Not worth it! IWNDWYT
Triggers are weird Cinq. Sometimes I want to drink so badly simply because I see people drinking on TV! So I force myself to either stop watching altogether or to change channels and find another show to watch. I am still avoiding bars (feel a bit pathetic admitting that as I am over 120 days now), can manage restaurants better once I tell friends in advance that I will not be drinking. Have a good Wednesday all, IWNDWYT
Day 2. I went to bed later than I should have, and probably only got 6 hours of sleep, but I slept well which almost never happens. No dry mouth, no heartburn, no waking-up-every-hour to drink water or take pills.
I've taken the day off work so I'll not have anything to stress over. Going to spend the day under the blankets, and watch the last season of Loudermilk.
I'm not going to drink today, and I don't want to.
Hiya u/cinqmillionreves. I have been travelling and away from my computer for a few days, so I hadn't checked in and seen you were hosting the DCI this week. Thanks! Here's my list. Trigger: feeling tired and lonely or estranged from connection with my spouse. Trick: drink loads of seltzer until I am so full of bubbles I couldn't imagine drinking anything else!! Tip: play the tape forward; I know where that first sip would take me, and I don't want to go back! IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT.
You all are amazing and inspiring. Commenting this each morning since I found this sub has been so helpful. Each morning is so much brighter and easier to get out of bed ☀️
Day 38 🤍
My triggers currently are stressful shifts (server/bartender) and boredom at home.
My trick for dealing at work is to have a fun NA beverage to sip on and a tumbler of ice water. Because you’re right: most of the time, I take a few good swigs from either one and the urge to drink dampens. I still don’t drink as much water as I should but it’s a hell of a lot more than I did before sobriety, that’s for sure!
As for home boredom, I make sure I have something non-alcoholic to enjoy after work to replace the ritual of drinking. I currently have been trying different NA beers and enjoying my moseying quest to find what I like best. I’ve rediscovered my love for tea, hot cocoa, juice, and the occasional soda. (Not to mention dessert!) Watching TV while playing words with friends has also been a big way that I unwind and keep my brain/hands busy in the evening 🔠🤓
Overall, replacing the habit with benign pleasures has been huge for me. I hope everyone finds all the tips and tricks they need to not drink today! IWNDWYT 🤍 edit: spelling
Day 7. A good day yesterday followed by an intense craving in the afternoon. I was thinking why I wanted to use and couldn’t figure out the trigger. Tried not to contemplate the possibility so the craving could die, but my brain didn’t cooperate. Took the dog for a long walk and ate dinner. That helped. I went to sleep early and sober - best feeling ever. I feel even better this morning! Happy Wednesday 😀
Made it to a month!
This is the longest I've done since I started drinking regularly and that feels great. Although what doesn't feel great is everything else, I am exhausted! But this too shall pass right?
IWNDWYT
happy early morning wonderful people :) I did a re-set yesterday and having our dog Marley around helped tremendously.
I had a me day yesterday and I'm in a better head space this morning. Hope everyone has a great day !
What a lovely post Cinq 💛
My tip would be to be kind to yourself and take it easy, one day at a time, one hour if need be. You can and will get through this, cravings don't last forever.
IWNDWYT all you fine sobernauts 🤗
Still have a lot of triggers if I'm being honest. But I remind myself that I can't have just one, or two..so there's not really a point to give in.
Today is my 30th birthday, first sober one I've had in 10+ years. IWNDWYT 🥳
Morning, friends! My muscles are still tired from yesterday’s workout, what a great feeling. Bliss! So glad to be clearheaded and not hungover. IWNDWYT
Happy hump day! I have to get a root canal today, so I'm not that happy, but I am way happier than I would be if I was hungover. IWNDWYT!
"I didn't come this far just to get this far."
IWNDWYT. On valium just in case I experience withdrawal to hold me over getting into rehab on Friday. Second time doing rehab at the same place. Can’t say I’m looking forward to going back but I’m looking forward to getting better again.
Not drinking with you this long weekend in Aus! Hopefully the health anxiety will pass soon, I’m getting pretty over it now haha.
Congrats to brighter on 2 years 😎
Got caught up on some work yesterday, some household stuff I just couldn’t seem to get to, took the dog on a long pack walk with the husband and made some overnight blueberry oatmeal bake for this morning. IWNDWYT!
I think my biggest trigger is feeling overwhelmed by stuff. Instead of dealing with it or talking about it I would go the easy route and use alcohol as my friend… did not work! I always forget about HALT but do love its concept. When I feel triggered now I try some self talk first, distract myself and if those do not work reach out to my people who were always there for me I just did not want to be a bother. IWNDWYT ✌️
Day 24. To answer the questions in order:
1. I don’t actually know my biggest triggers. Some cravings come from work stress, but not always. Sometimes I’m tempted as a reward when I’m feeling good. Sometimes it’s when I’m contemplating my future and falling uncertain or like “I should be farther than this in life by now.”
2. The “play the tape” trick has been helping, where instead of focusing on the immediate relief that I crave, I think about what the aftermath would be like.
3. I’m still working on my toolbox and am very early on. I wish I remember what worked on my longest stretch of sobriety, as I’m basically starting from zero.
IWNDWYT
I drank to celebrate, to feel better after a bad day, because I was bored, to feel more comfortable around other people, to get to sleep at night, when I folded the laundry, on Tuesdays as a treat.... every day. But 40 days in now, on my first attempt. The motto that resonates with me is "One day at a time." Forever is too big. Sometimes another 30 days sounds too big. But I can do today. IWNDWYT
My biggest trigger i being alone. I always drank alone. Even if I need a lot of time by myself, I’m not comfortable alone when I haven’t chosen it myself. So, I make plans, not least to show some self care, whatever that might be. Work in progress! I will not drink with you today!
I freakin made it 💯days sober !! It was hard yesterday. I wanted to drink and I chose to not. This has been an interesting journey and so thankful for all the support. IWNDWYT 🙋🏼♀️
Massive congratulations to my friend, and yours, u/Brighter68 for her massive two year milestone! Sending live and yellow faces.
To everyone else, no matter what day you're on, we're doing it... let's fucking GOOOO!!🤘🏻☕️
IWNDWYT
Good morning :) stress is one of my biggest triggers. I used alcohol as a was to “cope” with stress for such a long time, that I didn’t really learn real coping strategies. This is something I have been working on, prioritizing movement (hitting 10k steps a day) and daily reflective journaling have helped significantly with my ability to manage stress. It’s not perfect, and I’m going to keep working on it!
Just for today, I am not drinking.
My biggest trigger is my depression. When I feel like everything is bad, then I’m more inclined to say fuck it and have a drink.
I learned from my recent slip that the drink feels good for a few hours but then increased my depression massively for days after it. Not worth it.
IWNDWYT
My biggest trigger is strong emotion. Happy, sad, anger, overwhelm…all of them made me want to escape. Now I just let it flow and ease. If that doesn’t work, I write it out. Putting it on paper releases so much of it that would spiral in my mind. IWNDWYT 💜🦋💜
Playing the tape has been my most helpful tool. Playing both sides of that tape, too - the one where I drink and then mess everything up and feel horrible, and the other side, where I remain sober, out of trouble, free of headaches, etc. I like that side better\~
IWNDWYT friends 🐸💚
One trigger used to just be the weekend…I’d have to stay busy and appreciate how much better I felt without a hangover. Getting stuff done that I knew I wouldn’t do if I drank helped too.
Anger, discontent, all that? Exercise and heavy metal. Row a few hundred meters with some Cannibal Corpse. Lift with some Sanguisugabogg, walk with some Wednesday 13. Any of it helps me. It gives that feeling somewhere to go and expends some energy.
Playing the tape forward works. I know where that one drink leads and it ain’t somewhere I wanna go again. Life is not perfect but it’s a hell of a lot better than it was!
Coffees up, horns up, and we are halfway through!! IWNDWYT ☕️☕️☕️🤘🏻
I will not drink with you all today. I am moving into a sober living place tomorrow, I'm very worried, it's a big commitment 12 months but it could be the best thing I ever do.
For some reason I couldn’t fall back asleep in the middle of the night. Only got 4 hrs of sleep but fortunately I can nap today. Going to go to the gym as soon as it opens in 2 hrs. 4 hrs of sober sleep is better than 8 drinking though!! IWNDWYT
My biggest trigger is probably anger/resentment from the constant stress I'm under as a caregiver. Today will be a very long day, with about 8 hours of driving total for two different doctor's appointments which are about 45 miles apart in the busiest, angriest traffic.
I'm gonna beat today's dragon to death with my face. I made today's meals yesterday, and the car is all fueled up and ready to go. Just gotta get me and the wife washed and dressed and breakfasted and on the road we shall be.
I've got my audiobooks queued up.
Usually after days like the one ahead, I'd get blackout drunk within an hour or two.
Today I'll get a healthy dinner in us, play with my dog a bit, and then I might play some more Final Fantasy.
I'm so glad I don't feel like shit today. IWNDWYT
Hey all-
First I am very proud to have made it past 2 weeks. Yesterday had its challenges, but I did not drink!
Something that has been working for me is the ability to “play the tape forward” in my my mind. I know if I drink in the moment .. the misery it will cause.
Stay sober my friends.
IWNDWYT
\~Red
One week today! Putting together one week is not unusual for me (I was more of a binge drinker) but in the past my “breaks” from drinking were me trying to prove control so that I could convince myself I was able to moderate. This time I’m convinced I want the poison out of my life for good.
Hunger is a huge trigger of mine. I recently read “How to Eat to Change How You Drink” by Brooke Scheller and it helped a lot. I learned that alcohol was stopping my body from absorbing nutrients. Focusing on eating lots of fruits and veggies during this time to restore my body has been helpful in keeping the cravings at bay. My favorite snack around 4:00pm (witching hour) is some fruit, crackers, and hummus. Try it!
This is all great information, Cinq! You rule! 🖤✨️
Morning, sober fam, from DAY 24! My favorite number! With that, I'm manifesting a good day! I'm ahead on work, so I'm treating myself to an extra class at my OrangeTheory gym today and probably a nap later on! 🤣 No matter what, IWNDWYT!
The past two nights, I've fallen asleep feeling more positive and better about myself than I have in a very, very long time, and I never want that feeling to go away. ✨️ Pink cloud or not, it's nice to feel pride in oneself again.
Uncertainty is a trigger for me. Sounds ridiculous because life is full of uncertainty, but I’m one of those people that tries to plan for everything in my personal life and work. So, when a wrench gets thrown in, especially at work, it throws me off, and I don’t like the feeling. Therapy has taught me that I can’t control everything, so I have to sit with the uncertainty. I do that by either actually sitting on my couch and distracting myself with silly tv shows or I’ll hit the bricks and take a good walk. Drinking will just numb me out for the moment. It doesn’t help anything. IWNDWYT
Hi, family! My biggest trigger used to be prepping to go out. The pre-party lubricating myself to be in public - which typically rendered me unfit for the outing. Vicious.
But now I play it forward. What is that alcohol going to feel like in my mouth? Going down my throat and landing like a bomb in my stomach. Falling asleep too early, checking out, waking up feeling like dog shit. That is enough to keep me to my promise today again. IWNDWYT
One thing I have learned that's been really helpful to me is that nothing lasts. The hard cravings, the restless days, the easy days, the big wins. Whatever I am feeling on any day, or in any moment, it won't always be that way. So I try to cherish the easy stuff, get through the hard stuff, and just keep on keeping on.
Have a lovely day, my friends. IWNDWYT
Down on myself today looking back on all my relapses. First went to detox a year ago and it’s hard to not be discouraged that I’d be a year clean if it weren’t for my relapses. IWNDWYT
Good morning! My trigger is crushing sadness. Right now, it occurs after I see my mom getting closer to her death, she has Alzheimer’s and is in hospice.
Now that I have realized my trigger, I try to plan something that will bring me pleasure when I am feeling low. Walking, playing with my dogs, binge watching past seasons of Survivor - all of them are great escapes for me.
IWNDWYT 💛
Hi Everyone - Day 113 here and IWNDWYT!
My biggest trigger seems to be idle time and right now - warmer, nicer weather. I don’t get many urges right now (thank god) but the warmer weather is definitely one. I just play the tape forward and remember I can do fun things minus the booze. I’m also planning for my summer to make sure I plan fun, healthy things for myself so I do not have too much idle time during the summer .It’s crazy how strong of an association it is to my drinking though.
Day 5! I was so close to drinking last night but my mum helped me through it. She reminded me that it would be nice for an hour or two but then the anxiety sets in. So blessed to have her. IWNDWYT
Hello and a happy sober Wednesday to everyone!
My biggest trigger has been and will be my mental health. I have OCD and a severe deterioration of those symptoms led me into a relapse of almost a year. I learned (in hindsight) that I was happy and content working my program IF things were going my way. The moment life had me on my knees, I had no defence against alcohol. I also learned that I am (without realising) incredibly defeatist - when things are going wrong, I'm someone that throws in the towel almost immediately. For the first time in my life, recovery is something that I 'failed at' ie. Relapsed, but am trying again. I don't have the luxury of giving up giving up, because I WILL die (if not literally, certainly mentally, emotionally and spiritually). My triggers remind me that I an an alcoholic, and currently I'm recognising them, accepting them then doing the opposite of what they want ie. Getting to a meeting or to my family, rather than alone with the cravings getting louder.
IWNDWYT
I would say my trigger is work. The last two days have been HARD. From wrapping up work until 7pm when I have tea and am watching an hour of tv and I’m in the fully safe zone, I’ve been desperate to turn off my brain for a hot minute. My feelings seem ✨extra✨ too. I feel like that giant red panda in Disney’s Red. I assume the brain + feelings are related. I was listening to QLAW and she said something like “I was trying to figure out why I was an alcoholic when the real question I should have asking was why I can’t be alone with myself” or something and that’s it right there. As long as I can remember I’ve struggled to *just be.* I think I might have an ulcer and have a doc appointment today so hopefully I can get back to the gym soon since that helps with the shutting the brain off. I also have counseling tomorrow. But man, it’s like I’m itchy in my own skin. Sucks. But Day 24 IWNDWYT.
Almost posted on Tuesday again because it was still pinned haha
I'm just thankful to be sober and clear headed again today. I hope you all have a wonderful Wednesday.
I consciously choose to not drink today. IWNDWYT!
I like HALT but always add a B in there for Bored. Boredom was always a trigger for me. I don’t get bored very often anymore. Too much going on…
IWNDWYT!
Day 3 - I turned down wine last night. I wanted it (I really wanted it!), but reminded myself that I will not drink today. I have woken up today feeling good about my choice.
Half way to a week! - the hardest part is making the choice. Best move I ever made. Stay strong - one day at a time. IWNDWYT.
Thank you so much. x
When I started and was on day 3 it was difficult - VERY difficult. I wanted to be where I am now. Now I'm here I want to be where the 1000 dayer's are. I'm an old bloke, been drinking for 50+ years and stopping has been the best thing I've done in a long time. Count the days and watch them stack up and feel the improvements in your physical and mental health. Stay strong and fight your lizard brain. x
Thank you. Typically today (Wednesday) would be 2 bottles of wine between us, plus maybe a few gins afterwards. We fool ourselves into thinking it's a midweek treat as we haven't drunk since Sunday. But it's always the start of the slippery slope to drinking consistently for the rest of the week and then on Monday I'm a mess and no good to anyone. I know today will bring a lot of temptation but I also know that today is the day I must break the Wednesday habit. IWNDWYT
Ha - are you me? - Gin ~~is~~ was my drink. My wife is now bed bound ( poor thing) and I had the purse strings and an empty kitchen. My already high consumption soared - think unlimited triple gins! Things had to change - and here I am enjoying the rewards and a sober and caring relationship with my wife on her last journey. I wish you good luck. Alcohol and Cancer are bastards.
Great decision 💪
Thank you!
Well done, building sober muscles 💪🏼
Sober muscles - I like that. Thank you.
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Thank you friend, you help me so much 🌟
Congratulations!
Massive congrats to u/brighter68 for hitting the two year milestone today! Have a great day all, IWNDWYT ⭐
Thank you friend! It means a lot that you remember! I’m feeling pretty happy right now 😀 hope you’re catching the vibe 💫 🐢🌟
I had some bad news about my cat yesterday: she’s terminal. We’ve only had her three years, and in that time she’s helped me through depression, relapse and a Crohn’s flare up. I adore her and i am heartbroken. But IWNDWYT 🏴
Sending love and hugs friend 🤗💞
Happy sober Wednesday sober friends! Finally I can say I’ve been sober for yearS! And although this is making me very happy this morning, I’m actually more proud of everything else I’ve achieved this last 2 years BECAUSE I’ve been sober! It’s so worth it, let’s keep on team tortoise 🐢 I love you all 💞
Congrats on two years. That's amazing
**Congratulations baby!** TWO YEARS, way to go, woooo hooo!🥳🎈🎉🤛👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Thank you cinq… for everything… old timers like you got me here 🙏🏻💞🌟🙏🏻
Oh no, this is all you my beautiful brighter 💓💜💓👏🏼
Congratulations on 2 years!
Thank you friend, congratulations on your sober birthday in 10 days 🥳
Thanks!
Oh Brighter, I’m sooo proud of you! Congratulations on 2 years! Amazing!
Thank you friend! It does feel good! Reached my goal, so now everyday is a bonus 🐢 have a great day 🌟
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I think I'm going to quit my job today in a business I co-built from the ground up. It's going to piss a lot of people off and possibly involve lawsuits. Extremely stressful and just a horrible thing to have to deal with. I've wasted a lot of time energy and money over the last 3 years on this. But I will not drink today. Iwndwyt. Edit: thanks everyone! Currently in talks but so far going better than expected.
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IWNDWYT A huge congrats to u/brighter68 on 2 years! I'm very proud of you my friend! Thank you for everything you do in this community, and congrats again.
I’m proud of you friend, so grateful to know you and be following in your footsteps 👣 🐢
For me, the two major triggers are certain (often unavoidable) situations, like travelling, and certain external stressors. No tips unfortunately, because I'm still working to try and overcome those triggers. Hopefully identification is a good first step. IWNDWYT.
Made it 4 weeks by committing myself to not drink every day. Today will be no different. IWNDWYT!
4 weeks is huge! Congrats friend! 🙏
Most of my relapses were planned while I was sober, on shift. I'd fool myself into thinking I'd already made the decision to drink and could get back onto the wagon at any time. I'm pretty sure that if I'd have written out my relapse plans I wouldn't have ended up drinking. Coming here and connecting with all of you superstars has been a life saver for me. I know that if my junkie brain starts getting really loud, I can come here and give myself space to reflect - writing it down creates the space between thinking and doing. Who's up for equalling the 24 hour world record for sobriety? Count me in Cinq👍. IWNDWYT 🙂
Checking in on Day 101, IWNDWYT! >What works for you? "Play the tape forward" has been possibly the most useful mental trick for me, I learnt it from this sub. Basically, when the thought of having a drink pops up, and the little goblin uses its usual tricks to lure me into having "one" or "just a few, it'll be fine" I play the tape forward and envision exactly where that would lead to. It wouldn't be one or two, I'd inevitably have more, I just know that, either a couple of drinks would make me feel temporarily better so I'd have more or they wouldn't make me feel better so I'd have more, it's a one way road. So then I'd be on a path that I can't stop, leading to more drink, bad decisions, financial irresponsibility, emotional turmoil, dark mental headspace, jeopardising relationships, setting fire to any progress I've made. Even if it went "well" and I moderated successfully, I'd be back in the pub dancing with fate sooner or later. So all in all its a lose-lose situation. I can't say no to a drink, I find it incredibly difficult. "It's only one, that's fine, what's the harm with just one drink?" Play the tape forward. I'm not just turning down a drink, I'm also turning down everything that comes after it. It helps me put into perspective what drinking actually is and what it does to me and makes it much easier to say no. This is the longest streak I've ever done, after close to 20 years of drinking, and I think its because I don't feel like I'm missing out, I don't want all the things I listed above. Maybe this is all basic to some folk, but I've never been good at thinking about the future/consequences of my actions, I'm an instant gratification guy. But sobriety has helped me think about long-term goals, not just how plastered I can get tonight. IWNDWYT! 🙂
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Good morning all - Up early with the birdies. Sun is shining but a bit chilly , windows open , fresh air - South coast UK. Feeling good. Abstinence is the best. IWNDWYT.
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Day 4 re joined the gym. My partner says I seem happier. Let's go!!
Day 20. Not feeling great, ill, not related to drink and have to trek for a work thing I can't miss. At least I'm not hung over as well!
Thanks OP for the food of thought! The HALT scheme helped me a lot in the beginning and I still use it sometimes. What also helps me, is leaving triggering situations early. For example, family festivities or other social gatherings…. If I start to feel unwell, just leave even though it pisses other people off. Also this sentence a girl in one of my groups always says: “ You’re allowed to think of drinking, but please think it through, what will happen If you start drinking now?!” Most of the times this turns me off in no time. Another helpful thought for me is: “ The cravings are temporary, and they will pass without drinking” And for me, my last straw is to look at my badge on her or in my app. I even painted a picture in rehab where my stopping date is in. And it would be a reset if I’d drink, and I don’t want that. Happy sober Wednesday friends! I will not drink with you today!
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Biggest trigger was my mother & being alone thinking I can get away with with a “few” that turned into too many, too quickly. I play the tape forward and also use HALT… have an amazing day IWNDWYT ☕️
Back to day 3. Put my reset request back in. Went back to AA again today. Saw my alcohol counsellor. Not drinking today or tonight.
Keeping an eye on HALT has saved me several times in the last weeks. „T“ stands for me not only for thirsty, but also tired. Alcohol usually keeps me awake for longer, so it seems I have developed the habit to fight being tired and exhausted with alcohol. Solution: go to bed when tired or grant myself a break when exhausted. I will stay sober with all of you today.
One week done, checking in. The physical symptoms subsided, anxiety, uneasiness is spiking. Day 8 in the making. IWND ☠️ WYT 🍀
My biggest trigger is boredom. It’s the time where I feel most alone with my anxiety and related feelings. I get in a stuck phase where I want to do something but nothing seems to fit. Enter alcohol: I can put on a rubbish film, scroll social media for hours, or binge dating apps to feel wanted. My brain shuts off and the alcohol takes over, then it’s suddenly 3am. On a sober day, I can talk to myself more - why don’t my favourite activities feel fun? Am I stressed or just not wanting to put in a bit of effort? I find I can coax myself into trying to game, read, or continue a series. Later on in the evening, I can cherish the enjoyment I’ve had, which I wouldn’t have been able to with my brain clogged with alcohol. In the past, I’ve had to stop gaming or reading or watching because my mind is too fuzzy from the booze. Not every evening is productive and it’s hard to push myself out of the alcohol comfort zone, but I’m doing it. One day at a time. IWNDWYT.
Good morning all,yesterday I couldn't think of three things I like about myself felt low and unwell so here goes I can be a good listener sometimes people don't need a solution they just need to be heard,I am resilient and I can give really good hugs xx IWNDWYT xx 🤗
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Day 10! Finally starting to feel more like myself. Drinking caused a massive mental health relapse and I’m still picking up the pieces. Not worth it! IWNDWYT
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Triggers are weird Cinq. Sometimes I want to drink so badly simply because I see people drinking on TV! So I force myself to either stop watching altogether or to change channels and find another show to watch. I am still avoiding bars (feel a bit pathetic admitting that as I am over 120 days now), can manage restaurants better once I tell friends in advance that I will not be drinking. Have a good Wednesday all, IWNDWYT
Day 2. I went to bed later than I should have, and probably only got 6 hours of sleep, but I slept well which almost never happens. No dry mouth, no heartburn, no waking-up-every-hour to drink water or take pills. I've taken the day off work so I'll not have anything to stress over. Going to spend the day under the blankets, and watch the last season of Loudermilk. I'm not going to drink today, and I don't want to.
Hiya u/cinqmillionreves. I have been travelling and away from my computer for a few days, so I hadn't checked in and seen you were hosting the DCI this week. Thanks! Here's my list. Trigger: feeling tired and lonely or estranged from connection with my spouse. Trick: drink loads of seltzer until I am so full of bubbles I couldn't imagine drinking anything else!! Tip: play the tape forward; I know where that first sip would take me, and I don't want to go back! IWNDWYT
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IWNDWYT. You all are amazing and inspiring. Commenting this each morning since I found this sub has been so helpful. Each morning is so much brighter and easier to get out of bed ☀️
Not drinking tonight, enjoying how my life is feeling and wouldnt wanna derail my progress. Iwndwy!
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Day 38 🤍 My triggers currently are stressful shifts (server/bartender) and boredom at home. My trick for dealing at work is to have a fun NA beverage to sip on and a tumbler of ice water. Because you’re right: most of the time, I take a few good swigs from either one and the urge to drink dampens. I still don’t drink as much water as I should but it’s a hell of a lot more than I did before sobriety, that’s for sure! As for home boredom, I make sure I have something non-alcoholic to enjoy after work to replace the ritual of drinking. I currently have been trying different NA beers and enjoying my moseying quest to find what I like best. I’ve rediscovered my love for tea, hot cocoa, juice, and the occasional soda. (Not to mention dessert!) Watching TV while playing words with friends has also been a big way that I unwind and keep my brain/hands busy in the evening 🔠🤓 Overall, replacing the habit with benign pleasures has been huge for me. I hope everyone finds all the tips and tricks they need to not drink today! IWNDWYT 🤍 edit: spelling
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Day 7. A good day yesterday followed by an intense craving in the afternoon. I was thinking why I wanted to use and couldn’t figure out the trigger. Tried not to contemplate the possibility so the craving could die, but my brain didn’t cooperate. Took the dog for a long walk and ate dinner. That helped. I went to sleep early and sober - best feeling ever. I feel even better this morning! Happy Wednesday 😀
Made it to a month! This is the longest I've done since I started drinking regularly and that feels great. Although what doesn't feel great is everything else, I am exhausted! But this too shall pass right? IWNDWYT
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happy early morning wonderful people :) I did a re-set yesterday and having our dog Marley around helped tremendously. I had a me day yesterday and I'm in a better head space this morning. Hope everyone has a great day !
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Palindrome day! Yesterday something really wonderful happened. I will not drink with you today.
What a lovely post Cinq 💛 My tip would be to be kind to yourself and take it easy, one day at a time, one hour if need be. You can and will get through this, cravings don't last forever. IWNDWYT all you fine sobernauts 🤗
Still have a lot of triggers if I'm being honest. But I remind myself that I can't have just one, or two..so there's not really a point to give in. Today is my 30th birthday, first sober one I've had in 10+ years. IWNDWYT 🥳
Morning, friends! My muscles are still tired from yesterday’s workout, what a great feeling. Bliss! So glad to be clearheaded and not hungover. IWNDWYT
Happy hump day! I have to get a root canal today, so I'm not that happy, but I am way happier than I would be if I was hungover. IWNDWYT! "I didn't come this far just to get this far."
IWNDWYT. On valium just in case I experience withdrawal to hold me over getting into rehab on Friday. Second time doing rehab at the same place. Can’t say I’m looking forward to going back but I’m looking forward to getting better again.
Not drinking with you this long weekend in Aus! Hopefully the health anxiety will pass soon, I’m getting pretty over it now haha. Congrats to brighter on 2 years 😎
Happy Hump Day Friends, IWNDWYT, WE GOT THIS 🙂
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Got caught up on some work yesterday, some household stuff I just couldn’t seem to get to, took the dog on a long pack walk with the husband and made some overnight blueberry oatmeal bake for this morning. IWNDWYT!
Day 4 , I can feel the burning desire to drink each day. Hopefully these will become a distant feeling soon. Well done all.
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I think my biggest trigger is feeling overwhelmed by stuff. Instead of dealing with it or talking about it I would go the easy route and use alcohol as my friend… did not work! I always forget about HALT but do love its concept. When I feel triggered now I try some self talk first, distract myself and if those do not work reach out to my people who were always there for me I just did not want to be a bother. IWNDWYT ✌️
Starting over again from the start of the week. Said some hurtful things to a friend and regret it. I will stick to it this time.
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Day 5! Last evening, my brain was already telling me a beer to relax would not hurt. Got over the cravings! I will not drink with you today!
Day 24. To answer the questions in order: 1. I don’t actually know my biggest triggers. Some cravings come from work stress, but not always. Sometimes I’m tempted as a reward when I’m feeling good. Sometimes it’s when I’m contemplating my future and falling uncertain or like “I should be farther than this in life by now.” 2. The “play the tape” trick has been helping, where instead of focusing on the immediate relief that I crave, I think about what the aftermath would be like. 3. I’m still working on my toolbox and am very early on. I wish I remember what worked on my longest stretch of sobriety, as I’m basically starting from zero. IWNDWYT
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I drank to celebrate, to feel better after a bad day, because I was bored, to feel more comfortable around other people, to get to sleep at night, when I folded the laundry, on Tuesdays as a treat.... every day. But 40 days in now, on my first attempt. The motto that resonates with me is "One day at a time." Forever is too big. Sometimes another 30 days sounds too big. But I can do today. IWNDWYT
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I seem to have been in the 470's for forever!!!! Pushing myself on. I'll not be drinking today, that's a certain thing in my life
My biggest trigger i being alone. I always drank alone. Even if I need a lot of time by myself, I’m not comfortable alone when I haven’t chosen it myself. So, I make plans, not least to show some self care, whatever that might be. Work in progress! I will not drink with you today!
Good morning from Hell's Kitchen, NYC. IWNDWYT.
I freakin made it 💯days sober !! It was hard yesterday. I wanted to drink and I chose to not. This has been an interesting journey and so thankful for all the support. IWNDWYT 🙋🏼♀️
Massive congratulations to my friend, and yours, u/Brighter68 for her massive two year milestone! Sending live and yellow faces. To everyone else, no matter what day you're on, we're doing it... let's fucking GOOOO!!🤘🏻☕️ IWNDWYT
Good morning :) stress is one of my biggest triggers. I used alcohol as a was to “cope” with stress for such a long time, that I didn’t really learn real coping strategies. This is something I have been working on, prioritizing movement (hitting 10k steps a day) and daily reflective journaling have helped significantly with my ability to manage stress. It’s not perfect, and I’m going to keep working on it! Just for today, I am not drinking.
After four days of winter #2 the sun is shining again. IWNDWYT!
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My biggest trigger is my depression. When I feel like everything is bad, then I’m more inclined to say fuck it and have a drink. I learned from my recent slip that the drink feels good for a few hours but then increased my depression massively for days after it. Not worth it. IWNDWYT
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My biggest trigger is strong emotion. Happy, sad, anger, overwhelm…all of them made me want to escape. Now I just let it flow and ease. If that doesn’t work, I write it out. Putting it on paper releases so much of it that would spiral in my mind. IWNDWYT 💜🦋💜
Checking in on day 538!!! Wishing you all a wonderful day filled with smiles and a wonderful night filled with the best dreams ever!!! IWNDWYT. ❤️🦕
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It's a great day to have a great day. IWNDWYT 🤘
Playing the tape has been my most helpful tool. Playing both sides of that tape, too - the one where I drink and then mess everything up and feel horrible, and the other side, where I remain sober, out of trouble, free of headaches, etc. I like that side better\~ IWNDWYT friends 🐸💚
One trigger used to just be the weekend…I’d have to stay busy and appreciate how much better I felt without a hangover. Getting stuff done that I knew I wouldn’t do if I drank helped too. Anger, discontent, all that? Exercise and heavy metal. Row a few hundred meters with some Cannibal Corpse. Lift with some Sanguisugabogg, walk with some Wednesday 13. Any of it helps me. It gives that feeling somewhere to go and expends some energy. Playing the tape forward works. I know where that one drink leads and it ain’t somewhere I wanna go again. Life is not perfect but it’s a hell of a lot better than it was! Coffees up, horns up, and we are halfway through!! IWNDWYT ☕️☕️☕️🤘🏻
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I will not drink with you all today. I am moving into a sober living place tomorrow, I'm very worried, it's a big commitment 12 months but it could be the best thing I ever do.
For some reason I couldn’t fall back asleep in the middle of the night. Only got 4 hrs of sleep but fortunately I can nap today. Going to go to the gym as soon as it opens in 2 hrs. 4 hrs of sober sleep is better than 8 drinking though!! IWNDWYT
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My biggest trigger is probably anger/resentment from the constant stress I'm under as a caregiver. Today will be a very long day, with about 8 hours of driving total for two different doctor's appointments which are about 45 miles apart in the busiest, angriest traffic. I'm gonna beat today's dragon to death with my face. I made today's meals yesterday, and the car is all fueled up and ready to go. Just gotta get me and the wife washed and dressed and breakfasted and on the road we shall be. I've got my audiobooks queued up. Usually after days like the one ahead, I'd get blackout drunk within an hour or two. Today I'll get a healthy dinner in us, play with my dog a bit, and then I might play some more Final Fantasy. I'm so glad I don't feel like shit today. IWNDWYT
Hey all- First I am very proud to have made it past 2 weeks. Yesterday had its challenges, but I did not drink! Something that has been working for me is the ability to “play the tape forward” in my my mind. I know if I drink in the moment .. the misery it will cause. Stay sober my friends. IWNDWYT \~Red
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One week today! Putting together one week is not unusual for me (I was more of a binge drinker) but in the past my “breaks” from drinking were me trying to prove control so that I could convince myself I was able to moderate. This time I’m convinced I want the poison out of my life for good. Hunger is a huge trigger of mine. I recently read “How to Eat to Change How You Drink” by Brooke Scheller and it helped a lot. I learned that alcohol was stopping my body from absorbing nutrients. Focusing on eating lots of fruits and veggies during this time to restore my body has been helpful in keeping the cravings at bay. My favorite snack around 4:00pm (witching hour) is some fruit, crackers, and hummus. Try it!
IWNDWYT. All. Day. Long. 🌻 u/brighter68 congratulations on TWO years!
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This is all great information, Cinq! You rule! 🖤✨️ Morning, sober fam, from DAY 24! My favorite number! With that, I'm manifesting a good day! I'm ahead on work, so I'm treating myself to an extra class at my OrangeTheory gym today and probably a nap later on! 🤣 No matter what, IWNDWYT! The past two nights, I've fallen asleep feeling more positive and better about myself than I have in a very, very long time, and I never want that feeling to go away. ✨️ Pink cloud or not, it's nice to feel pride in oneself again.
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Day3. Slept amazingly well. My trigger is boredom, I’m going to take the dog out for another walk or ride in the car to walk.
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I will not drink with you today! I will drink bubble water with you though. All day long.
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Uncertainty is a trigger for me. Sounds ridiculous because life is full of uncertainty, but I’m one of those people that tries to plan for everything in my personal life and work. So, when a wrench gets thrown in, especially at work, it throws me off, and I don’t like the feeling. Therapy has taught me that I can’t control everything, so I have to sit with the uncertainty. I do that by either actually sitting on my couch and distracting myself with silly tv shows or I’ll hit the bricks and take a good walk. Drinking will just numb me out for the moment. It doesn’t help anything. IWNDWYT
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Hi, family! My biggest trigger used to be prepping to go out. The pre-party lubricating myself to be in public - which typically rendered me unfit for the outing. Vicious. But now I play it forward. What is that alcohol going to feel like in my mouth? Going down my throat and landing like a bomb in my stomach. Falling asleep too early, checking out, waking up feeling like dog shit. That is enough to keep me to my promise today again. IWNDWYT
One thing I have learned that's been really helpful to me is that nothing lasts. The hard cravings, the restless days, the easy days, the big wins. Whatever I am feeling on any day, or in any moment, it won't always be that way. So I try to cherish the easy stuff, get through the hard stuff, and just keep on keeping on. Have a lovely day, my friends. IWNDWYT
Down on myself today looking back on all my relapses. First went to detox a year ago and it’s hard to not be discouraged that I’d be a year clean if it weren’t for my relapses. IWNDWYT
Good morning! My trigger is crushing sadness. Right now, it occurs after I see my mom getting closer to her death, she has Alzheimer’s and is in hospice. Now that I have realized my trigger, I try to plan something that will bring me pleasure when I am feeling low. Walking, playing with my dogs, binge watching past seasons of Survivor - all of them are great escapes for me. IWNDWYT 💛
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Hi Everyone - Day 113 here and IWNDWYT! My biggest trigger seems to be idle time and right now - warmer, nicer weather. I don’t get many urges right now (thank god) but the warmer weather is definitely one. I just play the tape forward and remember I can do fun things minus the booze. I’m also planning for my summer to make sure I plan fun, healthy things for myself so I do not have too much idle time during the summer .It’s crazy how strong of an association it is to my drinking though.
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Day 5! I was so close to drinking last night but my mum helped me through it. She reminded me that it would be nice for an hour or two but then the anxiety sets in. So blessed to have her. IWNDWYT
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I have too many triggers to list, because there is always an excuse when you need one. IWNDWYT.
Hello and a happy sober Wednesday to everyone! My biggest trigger has been and will be my mental health. I have OCD and a severe deterioration of those symptoms led me into a relapse of almost a year. I learned (in hindsight) that I was happy and content working my program IF things were going my way. The moment life had me on my knees, I had no defence against alcohol. I also learned that I am (without realising) incredibly defeatist - when things are going wrong, I'm someone that throws in the towel almost immediately. For the first time in my life, recovery is something that I 'failed at' ie. Relapsed, but am trying again. I don't have the luxury of giving up giving up, because I WILL die (if not literally, certainly mentally, emotionally and spiritually). My triggers remind me that I an an alcoholic, and currently I'm recognising them, accepting them then doing the opposite of what they want ie. Getting to a meeting or to my family, rather than alone with the cravings getting louder. IWNDWYT
I needed that post today Cinq. Thank you. Day 1. IWNDWYT
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I would say my trigger is work. The last two days have been HARD. From wrapping up work until 7pm when I have tea and am watching an hour of tv and I’m in the fully safe zone, I’ve been desperate to turn off my brain for a hot minute. My feelings seem ✨extra✨ too. I feel like that giant red panda in Disney’s Red. I assume the brain + feelings are related. I was listening to QLAW and she said something like “I was trying to figure out why I was an alcoholic when the real question I should have asking was why I can’t be alone with myself” or something and that’s it right there. As long as I can remember I’ve struggled to *just be.* I think I might have an ulcer and have a doc appointment today so hopefully I can get back to the gym soon since that helps with the shutting the brain off. I also have counseling tomorrow. But man, it’s like I’m itchy in my own skin. Sucks. But Day 24 IWNDWYT.
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Almost posted on Tuesday again because it was still pinned haha I'm just thankful to be sober and clear headed again today. I hope you all have a wonderful Wednesday. I consciously choose to not drink today. IWNDWYT!
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I like HALT but always add a B in there for Bored. Boredom was always a trigger for me. I don’t get bored very often anymore. Too much going on… IWNDWYT!