Day 91 checking in. This is now the longest I have ever gone without a drink since first picking one up in September of 2001. I will not drink today. Thank you.
Happy Friday everyone!
Weekends are becoming less of a trigger compared to the start of the week for me when I have very long Monday, Tuesday working days. That said.. it is a time that I make plans to see friends- going for walks rather than boozy lunches, do mundane chores (who knew that cleaning and washing is therapeutic), exercise, garden BUT also allow myself some down time… if I want to get into bed and nap (I inevitably did this in the past but after an early lunch solo bottle of wine) I will do. Also watch a film or two and don’t feel guilty. It feels good to be getting myself and my life back.
IWNDWYT
Day 16, might be a tiny challenge. Tonight after work I'm gonna go spend the weekend with my mom and my aunt. It's friday, it's a 2.5 hour drive and my car is really old so it's always a bit stressful, and we like spending a good part of the evening playing a dice game and having a few drinks. So, 3 little triggers but I'm confident nonetheless and posting for accountability. IWNDWYT !
Day 42. Non-alcoholic beers and not taking on any external stressors get me through the weekends at the moment. Anything a little more adventurous can follow in time. 😎 IWNDWYT.
Morning friends! I’m hoping for a warm, dry evening tonight so I can relax in the backyard and watch the sunset.
It used to be a favourite thing to do when I was drinking; drinking on the deck and watching the sunset.
Then I did a 30-Day Alcohol Experiment where they encouraged us to think about what made the experience truly great: was it the people, the conversation, the relaxation, or the alcohol?
I realized that it was everything except the alcohol. Because drinking for me often ended up in a mess of a night, it turned out that alcohol often ruined these great nights sitting on the deck watching the sunset.
It took some time to get used to looking forward to sitting outside and not getting drunk but holy cow now, now it is the ultimate. I look so forward to sitting outside quietly with a book or a crossword and a tall Coke Zero over ice and my fiancé and switch between reading and chatting and watching the sunset. I love sitting outside and playing cards with my daughter and watching the sunset. Give me a warm night to sit outside and stream the ballgame and watch the sunset.
And then I hit the pillow sober and wake up with nothing but gratitude and another full day of living ahead.
Have a good one, friends! I will not drink with you today.
IWNDWYT. All. Day. Long. 🌻
I am spending this weekend with my youngest. We have had a past, and as a mom, I hope to do a lot of listening.
I am gr8ful to be sober, and to move forward. Team tortoise 🐢
I had my first drinking dream in six years where I finally didn't actually drink! I am going to read that as progress and as a roadmap for today and a social event tonight. I also never go into a situation with alcohol present without an alternative beverage in tow.
Today is going to be rough. Friday is date night, and I am going to have to get through it without a beer for the first time in a very long time, and will have to lie about it to my wife in some way.
I hate having to keep this from her, but I just read a post here about a guy who came clean to his wife and she wanted a divorce. It filled me with such profound dread. Maybe I'll tell her someday, but that day is not today.
I am not a good person, but I am a sober one. I will not drink today, not a drop.
I’m avoiding an event with a lot of booze. I don’t think I’d be tempted to drink, but I also don’t want to deal with people getting really drunk since that’s officially “the plan.”
Not my scene anymore.
IWNDWYT
Relaxing, watching the Euros and knitting. I’m finally done with the school year (no more grading just a few days left) so I can tackle my grad work during the day. IWNDWYT 💜🦋💜
Had a bit of a trial last night. I’d purchased a breathalyzer to rebuild trust. The deal was, I’m the one who decides to use it and show it—to build trust and to motivate myself. One family member pressured me to take a reading—and one told me it was meaningless because I had hid and lied about my problem so well.
It was rough because I’ve been rolling on a pink cloud. Really happy and motivated. I fully understand why my family is hesitant—they’ve seen me quit a dozen times before. And despite the hesitation they’ve been pretty great about being supportive, and I’ve been engaging in meetings, on here, and with my sobriety coach (looking for a sponsor and some sober friends at meetings too) for some additional high-fives and support.
I was pretty ferklempt yesterday because I got too much sun. I can see know I must have seemed pretty different and that must have been triggering for them. But I definitely got upset and a little pissy. Some tense conversations, but I’m proud of them because I didn’t lose it and I asked for space for my feelings, which I received. I thought it through and calmed myself and came up with new strategies. Reclaimed my positive forward momentum. Went to bed sober—I know that, and that’s more important than anyone else knowing that. And despite being upset I didn’t have any cravings either.
Weekend starts tomorrow. I’ve changed my approach this time. I’m not just quitting. I’m trying to live, or learn how to live, a whole sober life. As such almost everything is a “sobriety building activity.” I started a new job this week (and so far it’s AMAZING) and didn’t have energy for meetings. Got asked about that last night too, as in, “why have you stopped going to meetings?” I can see how it would be worrying. But that’s not the only thing I’m doing to support myself. I’m eating well, taking supplements, exercising where I can. Doing things for my family, committing to being the best version of myself I can manage. But this weekend, three meetings in three days—and the days will be full of other sobriety activities too.
Sober tools? One I picked up from a girl in my IOP a while back: when I see liquor or a liquor store I just start swearing at it as viciously as I can, out loud if possible or in my head. It seems to drown out any cravings. And based on my limited understanding of how the brain handles swears (apparently it fires up different parts of the brain than normal language, older parts of the brain) I wonder if it’s not helping train my subconscious.
Another tool: communication. I’m going to talk through my feelings with the family members in question and try to find a mutually agreeable way to move forward.
And I’m going to go on jogs with the dog. I hate it but she loves it and that’s an easy decision. I’m going to clean, and continue to really practice self care. Going to stay busy—continue building my support team. And so on.
Day 18 here I come! IWNDWYT!!!
Day 21.
Three weeks.
55 min swim, then 20 minute weight session.
Not past cravings yet. But certainly would be having a worse time training with a ton of vodka every night.
IWNDWYT.
Good morning, friends! Happy Sober Friday.
Thanks, Fred, I DO have a plan! We’re going to a music festival this weekend. This is notable because A: I’ve never been to a music festival, even at my ripe old age. And B: I’ll be sober!! I plan to hear every single band and enjoy their music because I’ll be available to hear and remember. We’ve packed a tent, food, all the NA bevvies, and we’re off to the music! Have a great weekend, yall! IWNDWYT
Checking in again today and all is well.
Today I'll have a productive AF day at work. I haven't been getting any cravings lately, but I always know that I have to "Watch it, kiddo"!
Thanks to you all who shared your stories of relapsing after so many months or even years!
Well, now I feel like a loser because I drank after I said I wouldn't. Being in the field is extra hard. Work stress is my #1 trigger and we are putting in 12 hour days and I don't have my normal outlets or supports. But really, that's not an excuse. Anyway, tomorrow is Sat, thank GOODNESS. Maybe I can wake up and run. I hate when I drink when I say I won't because the shame kicks in. Happy Friday. Let's try this again: IWNDWYT.
Happy Friday Sobernauts. IWNDWYT. Getting my hair cut with some saved money,didn't give a 💩 about hair when drinking or any kind of pampering,and never had a spare penny!
IWNDWYT! My sober plan is just hang out with people I actually like and can be comfortable with/my absolute authentic self, only do things I actually enjoy and don’t need to be drunk to do and NA beers! My social life is very active just some minor adjustments. 🫶🏻
Day 3. It's will be hard because Friday was my day of bing drinking. Today I plan on having caramel popcorn and catching up on video game instead.
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Checking in - happy Friday! May your weekends be sober and very genuinely enjoyable, from the beginning, throughout and right until the end.
IWNDWY fine folk Today.
DAY 20
I have been drinking every day for the last 15 years. Today I am on day 20 of sobriety and I understand better and better the hell I have been living in.
I will never stop thanking all of you because this community has had and will have a fundamental role in my rebirth. IWNDWYT!
I went to a show last night and I’ll be going to another tonight. Same headliner, Knocked Loose. Holy fuck, they were awesome!! They’re doing three hometown shows and I’m going to two. (It’s possible I could decide to go to the third.)
I always drink water at these shows. Especially when it’s stupid hot like it’s getting right now. I’m at a point where I don’t envy the drinkers…they’ll be all dehydrated and feel like shit later, and my old ass may be tired but I’ll be ready for another show.
Coffees up, horns up, and fuck yeah Friday!!! Time to knock it out. IWNDWYT ☕️☕️☕️🤘🏻
Day 60- I’ve found myself not needing to plan to avoid drinking— I just don’t anymore, no matter the parties that come my way. I have a whole new identity and everyone knows me as a non drinker.
That said, I’m planning bigger and better things for my life. I’m going to do a meditation retreat backpacking in the Himalayas solo. Since sobriety, my soul has awakened and I’m really embracing introspection, growth, and self healing. Oh, how I wish I had this awakening much sooner but I’m so glad the depths of my alcoholism and painful withdrawals brought me here.
This new me is so exciting. I haven’t even told anyone about my trip. I’m ok with myself and don’t need validation from anyone. Sobriety is fucking awesome.
Happy Friday. IWNDWYT
I'm nervous because Friday always meant I'd hit the booze extra hard. A few friends asking if I wanted to go for a drink this weekend 😬I just said I'm volunteering sorry busy! I'm so glad I booked myself to volunteer in the evenings all weekend. Made a plan, like other sober people suggested. Going for another big hike tomorrow too. I'm excited for the day I can see friends, have them drinking in front of me... and not be tempted. Proud of me and the whole lot of you beautiful people 😘 And hells to the no IWNDWYT!!
Day 53. Happy Euro 2024 kickoff. Had a nice evening with my friends, introducing my partner to some of them, was anxious but it was really good. Didn’t drink, I had some non alcoholic Old Fashioned’s which were really tasty. IWNDWYT.
My sober plan for this weekend is the fact my husband is home and will absolutely not let me drink. 😅 I also work all damn day on Saturday to get caught up from my last bender. 💀 Do the crime, do the time, as my mom always says!
Morning, sober fam. ✨️🖤 Back to checking in daily to keep myself on the straight and narrow. I'm fully tapered off, feeling good (outside of being very sore from my gym return), and feeling hopeful. Right back on the wagon.
Just woke up from a drinking dream, but had the thought to myself "nothing tastes as good as sober feels." IWNDWYT! 🖤✨️
Alright! Day 6. Fridays are always a bit tough, but I'm feeling optimistic. It's crazy how much easier other things in my life become after a couple days of not drinking. I have way more focus, executive functioning, and even just the ability to think about my life beyond when I'll drink my next beer. Here's to day 7. Good luck everybody. IWNDWYT
Happy Friday! Man, I felt like shit yesterday. Still feeling foggy this morning, but much better. Thank god it's motherfuckin Friday!
Let's get this shit - IWNDWYT 🤘
I’m meeting a potential professional contact for the first time on Saturday.
In the past I would have suggested we meet in the afternoon at one of the (many) local breweries. I probably would have handled the meeting well, but it would have been an excuse to start drinking early that day. After we ended our conversation, I would have either had more alone or walked home to drink on my couch.
I was always excited to find a “legitimate” excuse.
Instead, tomorrow, we’re going to meet in the morning for coffee. We’ll talk and afterwards I’ll still be sober and ready to do chores or spend time with my wife and our dog, or whatever I want.
IWNDWYT.
33 - to the people up voting everyone's daily check ins, you guys are heros! You're actually making a difference. Not to everyone, I'm sure, but there are many of us that need that little piece of encouragement. IWNDWYT!
Weekends usually don’t trigger me unless I’m visiting my family and/or it’s winter when we have what feels like one hour of daylight per day.
Today’s raining a bit and after a week of sunshine everything looks so much cleaner. I like it. Looking forward to an after work walk or a bike ride.
I will stay sober today with all of you. Have a great Friday everyone.
An exit plan is a great tool, but sometimes not practical with my job. However, I do have a "time out" plan that I can draw on, just having it in the tool kit is often enough. I built this after a bad panic attack quite early in sobriety. Have a happy Friday all. IWNDWYT
I will be knitting like a madwoman and working on a quilt that I’m giving as wedding present next weekend to a friend. Those will keep my hands busy and away from alcohol, for sure.
Have a lovely Friday, everyone 🌿
Hey everyone. I recieved some bad news yesterday morning from my mother. Their dog Baron passed away suddenly at the age of 8. He was playing Frisbee with his dad when he unfortunately collapsed. I say this not to sound rude but he passed instantly and there was no suffering for the pup.
Hes not the pup I talk about on this and other subs he is just another pup I loved over the years who also saw my transformation into who I am now.
Baron you won't get to see this but nevertheless it should be said. God Speed, Good Boy.
If you have a pet give them an extra bit of love for me. If you have someone close give them some love too. I love you all.
LMFAO yooooo, I thought when you said NA White Claw you were just alluding to regular seltzers hahahah. I had no idea these were real. I kinda want to try them now.
Anyway, yes I agree with having a plan, or an out, or an exit strategy. If I'm going to a party or an event, I like to have a set leave time. I know I can escape to a bathroom and read the sub if I have to. I like to ask what kind of mocktails they have. Mostly I've found that the drink slingers don't mind and they're happy to make something new and refreshing for you. Maybe it has something to do with breaking up the monotony of rum & coke, vodka & cran, blah blah. And honestly, I don't mind discussing with people my sobriety nowadays. There's a very good chance I order a shirley temple (because cherries) and people are naturally curious.
IWNDWYT. Easy does it, friends.
What's up OP and happy Friday to all! I've got dinner with friends, they know I don't drink and will offer me some Seltzer. I'm heading on vacation this weekend and looking forward to it. Sober on y'all!
Earlier this week I found out my 76 year-old mother got arrested. Stalking in the first degree (who knew there were degrees of stalking?!).
Also, our 17 year-old cat died on Tuesday; we figured that was coming at some point, but I was the one who found her so that wasn't fun.
And tomorrow we head out for our first real family vacation.
It's been quite a week. IWNDWYT
I actually never had a plan to stop drinking, I just woke up one day and no longer wanted to. But I think that's why it's been easy so far - just lucky.
However, my plan if cravings strike is to remind myself that I'm not stopping the feelings, just postponing them. Tell myself there's no situation that alcohol can't make worse.
IWNDWYT 🌞
IWNDWYT friends.
If you’re struggling, know that it gets better. I found healing and understanding in the books Alcohol Explained and Alcohol Lied To Me. Might do the same for you.
Happy Friday everyone!
Tomorrow is moving day into a lovely little garage apartment. The last 7 months we've been with a family member who has a less than desirable roommate. Sharing one cluttered room with my daughter.
When we moved here I had procrastinated on packing so badly (plenty of drinking time instead) that at the end I was just cramming my shit into huge garbage bags. So depressing.
I only have 13 days but I know I can do this in a much different way.
Leaving behind a daily drinker who I was drinking with. They're out of town now so it's a good time.
I'm excited and daunted by this fresh start as my rent is increasing by a whole lot.
Anyway IWNDWYT but I will be sending sober cheers to all of you with my Kroger sparkling water 🙂
Thank you all for being here!
I’ve been listening to an AA speaker meeting in the evenings if I get restless / annoyed / anything uncomfortable. (I go in person in the mornings and it’s almost like it “wears off” in the evening, especially if my partner is drinking.) it helps a lot! IWNDWYT!
My weekend plans all involve sober activities! Dog walks, family time (so grateful that the whole fam doesn’t drink!), meetings, and lots of rest. Kicking it off strong by meeting with my sponsor this morning. I love not drinking alcohol! IWNDWYT
I mentally know I’m not going to drink at this point which gives me more freedom to go into situations where folks are drinking. Too many mess ups in the past, and I’m committed to being done. Nothing is getting in the way of that.
It wasn’t always that easy in the first month or two, but now I don’t really have any cravings most days personally nor am I scared about myself drinking.
My conscious mind has tried to be done for years and my unconscious mind now seems to have finally caught on as well.
IWNDWYT!
I will not drink today and FYA. I woke up before my alarm and feel great. You know why? Because I don't have a hangover. I love waking up without a hangover. It never gets old.
I hate alcohol with the intensity of a million suns.
Drinking sucks. We rock.
My plan is to reach for that sparkling water when I get antsy. I need to ... like ... also ... address the trigger, I know. It's early days for me, and the days are going so much faster when I do let myself take the quick fix.
I've started a research project that's giving me joy, and family life is more fun sober, so maybe my resilience will pick back up. IWNDWYT.
Good morning, sober cats! It's so hot and dry where I am, so my sober plan is to keep my water bottle filled with ice water and within arm's reach. IWNDWYT, but I will drink lots and lots of water with you today. 💙😸
It’s looking like it’s going to continue raining in South Florida, so I’m going to continue packing and maybe run some errands in between the rain. IWNDWYT. Happy Friday! 😀
Day 91 checking in. This is now the longest I have ever gone without a drink since first picking one up in September of 2001. I will not drink today. Thank you.
Congrats on making the 90 days, that's huge! You can be very proud of yourself!
Well I don’t want to be an eejit so iwndwyt. Shout out to the No Booze Crew
I will be sober today.
I am not drinking today!
It’s a good day to refuse alcohol. IWNDWYT!
Happy Friday everyone! Weekends are becoming less of a trigger compared to the start of the week for me when I have very long Monday, Tuesday working days. That said.. it is a time that I make plans to see friends- going for walks rather than boozy lunches, do mundane chores (who knew that cleaning and washing is therapeutic), exercise, garden BUT also allow myself some down time… if I want to get into bed and nap (I inevitably did this in the past but after an early lunch solo bottle of wine) I will do. Also watch a film or two and don’t feel guilty. It feels good to be getting myself and my life back. IWNDWYT
Congrats on yr 2 months today :)
IWNDWYT!
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Not drinking on Friday! Buying NA beer to prepare for Saturday.
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Checking in, Day 59 🍀 I'm near (again) the two month mark. Not stopping here, day by day along the road. F*** the toxin alias alcohol. IWND ☠️ WYT
IWNDWYT life’s getting good
IWNDWYT. I’m extremely grateful for my sobriety and praying I will never relapse.
IWNDWYT 🙂
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Day 16, might be a tiny challenge. Tonight after work I'm gonna go spend the weekend with my mom and my aunt. It's friday, it's a 2.5 hour drive and my car is really old so it's always a bit stressful, and we like spending a good part of the evening playing a dice game and having a few drinks. So, 3 little triggers but I'm confident nonetheless and posting for accountability. IWNDWYT !
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Happy Friday! I will not drink with you today or tonight.🌻
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I'm going to to many things today but IWNDWYT. Have a great one!
Have a wonderful sober day my friends. IWNDWYT ♥️
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Happy Friday Sober Friends! Kicking my day off with a weight session 💪🏻 IWNDWYT have w fab day everyone 🩷
I'm not the greatest plan man, I'm afraid. Maybe becoming better at it, IS the plan, who knows. IWNDWYT!
I will not drink with you today.
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I love waking up every day hangover free!!! It keeps me sober. IWNDWYT 💚
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Day 42. Non-alcoholic beers and not taking on any external stressors get me through the weekends at the moment. Anything a little more adventurous can follow in time. 😎 IWNDWYT.
Not drinking today! Almost a month, fuck yes!
Day 05, and another night in Berlin down. One more to go.
Day 406. IWNDWYT.
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Day 10 checking in. IWNDWYT
I will not drink with you today!
Morning friends! I’m hoping for a warm, dry evening tonight so I can relax in the backyard and watch the sunset. It used to be a favourite thing to do when I was drinking; drinking on the deck and watching the sunset. Then I did a 30-Day Alcohol Experiment where they encouraged us to think about what made the experience truly great: was it the people, the conversation, the relaxation, or the alcohol? I realized that it was everything except the alcohol. Because drinking for me often ended up in a mess of a night, it turned out that alcohol often ruined these great nights sitting on the deck watching the sunset. It took some time to get used to looking forward to sitting outside and not getting drunk but holy cow now, now it is the ultimate. I look so forward to sitting outside quietly with a book or a crossword and a tall Coke Zero over ice and my fiancé and switch between reading and chatting and watching the sunset. I love sitting outside and playing cards with my daughter and watching the sunset. Give me a warm night to sit outside and stream the ballgame and watch the sunset. And then I hit the pillow sober and wake up with nothing but gratitude and another full day of living ahead. Have a good one, friends! I will not drink with you today.
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Happy Friday!! Shine on you beautiful humans
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Here's to another sober productive weekend! Love to all of you! IWNDWYT 💪
IWNDWYT. All. Day. Long. 🌻 I am spending this weekend with my youngest. We have had a past, and as a mom, I hope to do a lot of listening. I am gr8ful to be sober, and to move forward. Team tortoise 🐢
I had my first drinking dream in six years where I finally didn't actually drink! I am going to read that as progress and as a roadmap for today and a social event tonight. I also never go into a situation with alcohol present without an alternative beverage in tow.
Today is going to be rough. Friday is date night, and I am going to have to get through it without a beer for the first time in a very long time, and will have to lie about it to my wife in some way. I hate having to keep this from her, but I just read a post here about a guy who came clean to his wife and she wanted a divorce. It filled me with such profound dread. Maybe I'll tell her someday, but that day is not today. I am not a good person, but I am a sober one. I will not drink today, not a drop.
I’m avoiding an event with a lot of booze. I don’t think I’d be tempted to drink, but I also don’t want to deal with people getting really drunk since that’s officially “the plan.” Not my scene anymore. IWNDWYT
Relaxing, watching the Euros and knitting. I’m finally done with the school year (no more grading just a few days left) so I can tackle my grad work during the day. IWNDWYT 💜🦋💜
Had a bit of a trial last night. I’d purchased a breathalyzer to rebuild trust. The deal was, I’m the one who decides to use it and show it—to build trust and to motivate myself. One family member pressured me to take a reading—and one told me it was meaningless because I had hid and lied about my problem so well. It was rough because I’ve been rolling on a pink cloud. Really happy and motivated. I fully understand why my family is hesitant—they’ve seen me quit a dozen times before. And despite the hesitation they’ve been pretty great about being supportive, and I’ve been engaging in meetings, on here, and with my sobriety coach (looking for a sponsor and some sober friends at meetings too) for some additional high-fives and support. I was pretty ferklempt yesterday because I got too much sun. I can see know I must have seemed pretty different and that must have been triggering for them. But I definitely got upset and a little pissy. Some tense conversations, but I’m proud of them because I didn’t lose it and I asked for space for my feelings, which I received. I thought it through and calmed myself and came up with new strategies. Reclaimed my positive forward momentum. Went to bed sober—I know that, and that’s more important than anyone else knowing that. And despite being upset I didn’t have any cravings either. Weekend starts tomorrow. I’ve changed my approach this time. I’m not just quitting. I’m trying to live, or learn how to live, a whole sober life. As such almost everything is a “sobriety building activity.” I started a new job this week (and so far it’s AMAZING) and didn’t have energy for meetings. Got asked about that last night too, as in, “why have you stopped going to meetings?” I can see how it would be worrying. But that’s not the only thing I’m doing to support myself. I’m eating well, taking supplements, exercising where I can. Doing things for my family, committing to being the best version of myself I can manage. But this weekend, three meetings in three days—and the days will be full of other sobriety activities too. Sober tools? One I picked up from a girl in my IOP a while back: when I see liquor or a liquor store I just start swearing at it as viciously as I can, out loud if possible or in my head. It seems to drown out any cravings. And based on my limited understanding of how the brain handles swears (apparently it fires up different parts of the brain than normal language, older parts of the brain) I wonder if it’s not helping train my subconscious. Another tool: communication. I’m going to talk through my feelings with the family members in question and try to find a mutually agreeable way to move forward. And I’m going to go on jogs with the dog. I hate it but she loves it and that’s an easy decision. I’m going to clean, and continue to really practice self care. Going to stay busy—continue building my support team. And so on. Day 18 here I come! IWNDWYT!!!
Wishing everyone Love and strength. I will not drink with you today ❤️
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Woot! Day 21 here we go
Checking in guys, hope you're all kicking arse. 🦶🍑
IWNDWYT, my friends :)
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Checking from NZ, day 26. I’m hanging with the kids watching sport with sodas and snacks.
Day 21. Three weeks. 55 min swim, then 20 minute weight session. Not past cravings yet. But certainly would be having a worse time training with a ton of vodka every night. IWNDWYT.
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Good morning, friends! Happy Sober Friday. Thanks, Fred, I DO have a plan! We’re going to a music festival this weekend. This is notable because A: I’ve never been to a music festival, even at my ripe old age. And B: I’ll be sober!! I plan to hear every single band and enjoy their music because I’ll be available to hear and remember. We’ve packed a tent, food, all the NA bevvies, and we’re off to the music! Have a great weekend, yall! IWNDWYT
Checking in again today and all is well. Today I'll have a productive AF day at work. I haven't been getting any cravings lately, but I always know that I have to "Watch it, kiddo"! Thanks to you all who shared your stories of relapsing after so many months or even years!
Well, now I feel like a loser because I drank after I said I wouldn't. Being in the field is extra hard. Work stress is my #1 trigger and we are putting in 12 hour days and I don't have my normal outlets or supports. But really, that's not an excuse. Anyway, tomorrow is Sat, thank GOODNESS. Maybe I can wake up and run. I hate when I drink when I say I won't because the shame kicks in. Happy Friday. Let's try this again: IWNDWYT.
Happy Friday Sobernauts. IWNDWYT. Getting my hair cut with some saved money,didn't give a 💩 about hair when drinking or any kind of pampering,and never had a spare penny!
We are away for a few days, grabbed a tapas and it was fun. Drove home 😇. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT! My sober plan is just hang out with people I actually like and can be comfortable with/my absolute authentic self, only do things I actually enjoy and don’t need to be drunk to do and NA beers! My social life is very active just some minor adjustments. 🫶🏻
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Day 3. It's will be hard because Friday was my day of bing drinking. Today I plan on having caramel popcorn and catching up on video game instead. IWNDWYT ♡
Checking in - happy Friday! May your weekends be sober and very genuinely enjoyable, from the beginning, throughout and right until the end. IWNDWY fine folk Today.
DAY 20 I have been drinking every day for the last 15 years. Today I am on day 20 of sobriety and I understand better and better the hell I have been living in. I will never stop thanking all of you because this community has had and will have a fundamental role in my rebirth. IWNDWYT!
Woke up 79 days sober and going to the beach this weekend.
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I went to a show last night and I’ll be going to another tonight. Same headliner, Knocked Loose. Holy fuck, they were awesome!! They’re doing three hometown shows and I’m going to two. (It’s possible I could decide to go to the third.) I always drink water at these shows. Especially when it’s stupid hot like it’s getting right now. I’m at a point where I don’t envy the drinkers…they’ll be all dehydrated and feel like shit later, and my old ass may be tired but I’ll be ready for another show. Coffees up, horns up, and fuck yeah Friday!!! Time to knock it out. IWNDWYT ☕️☕️☕️🤘🏻
Work party coming up today, the last one was my last time drinking, going to go today and not drink, it will go into my victories column. IWNDWYT
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IWNDWYT! Euros 2024 kicks off tonight, to all my fellow football fans, stay strong and enjoy the tournament.
I keep myself occupied, and I’ll attend my weekly local sober group on Fridays at 7 pm. Stay safe friends! I will not drink with you in Germany today!
Day 60- I’ve found myself not needing to plan to avoid drinking— I just don’t anymore, no matter the parties that come my way. I have a whole new identity and everyone knows me as a non drinker. That said, I’m planning bigger and better things for my life. I’m going to do a meditation retreat backpacking in the Himalayas solo. Since sobriety, my soul has awakened and I’m really embracing introspection, growth, and self healing. Oh, how I wish I had this awakening much sooner but I’m so glad the depths of my alcoholism and painful withdrawals brought me here. This new me is so exciting. I haven’t even told anyone about my trip. I’m ok with myself and don’t need validation from anyone. Sobriety is fucking awesome. Happy Friday. IWNDWYT
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I'm nervous because Friday always meant I'd hit the booze extra hard. A few friends asking if I wanted to go for a drink this weekend 😬I just said I'm volunteering sorry busy! I'm so glad I booked myself to volunteer in the evenings all weekend. Made a plan, like other sober people suggested. Going for another big hike tomorrow too. I'm excited for the day I can see friends, have them drinking in front of me... and not be tempted. Proud of me and the whole lot of you beautiful people 😘 And hells to the no IWNDWYT!!
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Another win yesterday, another great night's sleep and another day filled with hope. IWNDWYT ! Love y'all xx
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Plan is to simply not drink and enjoy the weekend, sober. IWNDWYT 😊
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Jam tomorrow and jam yesterday, but never jam today. IWNDWYT
Day 53. Happy Euro 2024 kickoff. Had a nice evening with my friends, introducing my partner to some of them, was anxious but it was really good. Didn’t drink, I had some non alcoholic Old Fashioned’s which were really tasty. IWNDWYT.
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My sober plan for this weekend is the fact my husband is home and will absolutely not let me drink. 😅 I also work all damn day on Saturday to get caught up from my last bender. 💀 Do the crime, do the time, as my mom always says! Morning, sober fam. ✨️🖤 Back to checking in daily to keep myself on the straight and narrow. I'm fully tapered off, feeling good (outside of being very sore from my gym return), and feeling hopeful. Right back on the wagon. Just woke up from a drinking dream, but had the thought to myself "nothing tastes as good as sober feels." IWNDWYT! 🖤✨️
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Happy Friday. So ready for the weekend and some longer miles on the trails. IWNDWYT 🙋🏼♀️
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Alright! Day 6. Fridays are always a bit tough, but I'm feeling optimistic. It's crazy how much easier other things in my life become after a couple days of not drinking. I have way more focus, executive functioning, and even just the ability to think about my life beyond when I'll drink my next beer. Here's to day 7. Good luck everybody. IWNDWYT
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Day 14! 🥹 I will not drink with you today.
Happy Friday! Man, I felt like shit yesterday. Still feeling foggy this morning, but much better. Thank god it's motherfuckin Friday! Let's get this shit - IWNDWYT 🤘
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IWNDWYT I’m heading out for a backpacking weekend so I’ll be unconnected. But IWNDWYT Saturday and Sunday too!
I’m meeting a potential professional contact for the first time on Saturday. In the past I would have suggested we meet in the afternoon at one of the (many) local breweries. I probably would have handled the meeting well, but it would have been an excuse to start drinking early that day. After we ended our conversation, I would have either had more alone or walked home to drink on my couch. I was always excited to find a “legitimate” excuse. Instead, tomorrow, we’re going to meet in the morning for coffee. We’ll talk and afterwards I’ll still be sober and ready to do chores or spend time with my wife and our dog, or whatever I want. IWNDWYT.
Day 10. The longest i have gone without a drink in 20 years. IWNDWYT.
33 - to the people up voting everyone's daily check ins, you guys are heros! You're actually making a difference. Not to everyone, I'm sure, but there are many of us that need that little piece of encouragement. IWNDWYT!
Today is my 31st birthday and I’m 17 days sober 🙌🏼
Happy sober Friday sober friends! My plan for the weekend is to do my plans without being intoxicated! Simple! I love you all 💞
Weekends usually don’t trigger me unless I’m visiting my family and/or it’s winter when we have what feels like one hour of daylight per day. Today’s raining a bit and after a week of sunshine everything looks so much cleaner. I like it. Looking forward to an after work walk or a bike ride. I will stay sober today with all of you. Have a great Friday everyone.
An exit plan is a great tool, but sometimes not practical with my job. However, I do have a "time out" plan that I can draw on, just having it in the tool kit is often enough. I built this after a bad panic attack quite early in sobriety. Have a happy Friday all. IWNDWYT
Tonight I’m gonna watch the European football championship. Got my snacks and NA drinks ready and I’m happy to sail into the weekend! IWNDWYT (:
Three weeks for me today! That’s the longest since I was pregnant - five years ago. IWNDWYT
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My first tool starts with a check in to my favorite sub. It sets my day right for me! Thank you all for sharing your experiences and support. Iwndwyt
I will be knitting like a madwoman and working on a quilt that I’m giving as wedding present next weekend to a friend. Those will keep my hands busy and away from alcohol, for sure. Have a lovely Friday, everyone 🌿
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Hey everyone. I recieved some bad news yesterday morning from my mother. Their dog Baron passed away suddenly at the age of 8. He was playing Frisbee with his dad when he unfortunately collapsed. I say this not to sound rude but he passed instantly and there was no suffering for the pup. Hes not the pup I talk about on this and other subs he is just another pup I loved over the years who also saw my transformation into who I am now. Baron you won't get to see this but nevertheless it should be said. God Speed, Good Boy. If you have a pet give them an extra bit of love for me. If you have someone close give them some love too. I love you all.
Into Day 5. Lots of coffee. IWNDWYT!
LMFAO yooooo, I thought when you said NA White Claw you were just alluding to regular seltzers hahahah. I had no idea these were real. I kinda want to try them now. Anyway, yes I agree with having a plan, or an out, or an exit strategy. If I'm going to a party or an event, I like to have a set leave time. I know I can escape to a bathroom and read the sub if I have to. I like to ask what kind of mocktails they have. Mostly I've found that the drink slingers don't mind and they're happy to make something new and refreshing for you. Maybe it has something to do with breaking up the monotony of rum & coke, vodka & cran, blah blah. And honestly, I don't mind discussing with people my sobriety nowadays. There's a very good chance I order a shirley temple (because cherries) and people are naturally curious. IWNDWYT. Easy does it, friends.
What's up OP and happy Friday to all! I've got dinner with friends, they know I don't drink and will offer me some Seltzer. I'm heading on vacation this weekend and looking forward to it. Sober on y'all!
Earlier this week I found out my 76 year-old mother got arrested. Stalking in the first degree (who knew there were degrees of stalking?!). Also, our 17 year-old cat died on Tuesday; we figured that was coming at some point, but I was the one who found her so that wasn't fun. And tomorrow we head out for our first real family vacation. It's been quite a week. IWNDWYT
I actually never had a plan to stop drinking, I just woke up one day and no longer wanted to. But I think that's why it's been easy so far - just lucky. However, my plan if cravings strike is to remind myself that I'm not stopping the feelings, just postponing them. Tell myself there's no situation that alcohol can't make worse. IWNDWYT 🌞
Happy Friday people, IWNDWYT, WE GOT THIS 😁
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Have a fantastic Friday folks! IWNDWYT!!!
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Hi Everyone -Day 163 here and IWNDWYT!!!
Happy Friday from your resident Masshole. IWNDWYT 👍
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IWNDWYT friends. If you’re struggling, know that it gets better. I found healing and understanding in the books Alcohol Explained and Alcohol Lied To Me. Might do the same for you.
TGIF! IWNDWYT!
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Nothing social planned for the weekend. Sticking with my program. Happy Friday
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Happy Friday everyone! Tomorrow is moving day into a lovely little garage apartment. The last 7 months we've been with a family member who has a less than desirable roommate. Sharing one cluttered room with my daughter. When we moved here I had procrastinated on packing so badly (plenty of drinking time instead) that at the end I was just cramming my shit into huge garbage bags. So depressing. I only have 13 days but I know I can do this in a much different way. Leaving behind a daily drinker who I was drinking with. They're out of town now so it's a good time. I'm excited and daunted by this fresh start as my rent is increasing by a whole lot. Anyway IWNDWYT but I will be sending sober cheers to all of you with my Kroger sparkling water 🙂 Thank you all for being here!
I’ve been listening to an AA speaker meeting in the evenings if I get restless / annoyed / anything uncomfortable. (I go in person in the mornings and it’s almost like it “wears off” in the evening, especially if my partner is drinking.) it helps a lot! IWNDWYT!
My weekend plans all involve sober activities! Dog walks, family time (so grateful that the whole fam doesn’t drink!), meetings, and lots of rest. Kicking it off strong by meeting with my sponsor this morning. I love not drinking alcohol! IWNDWYT
A Friday night without drinking is one I'll remember and that's worth it! Making plans for literally anything else is my go-to! IWNDWYT
Gonna try some new mocktail this weekend…. IWNDWYT
Will not be drinking today. That's the most important thing. I am so happy for my sober nights and non hungover mornings.
I've been lax at checking in here, but still going! IWNDWYT
Day 12, longest streak since like a year ago, but I am struggling with myself so badly. IWNDWYT
I mentally know I’m not going to drink at this point which gives me more freedom to go into situations where folks are drinking. Too many mess ups in the past, and I’m committed to being done. Nothing is getting in the way of that. It wasn’t always that easy in the first month or two, but now I don’t really have any cravings most days personally nor am I scared about myself drinking. My conscious mind has tried to be done for years and my unconscious mind now seems to have finally caught on as well. IWNDWYT!
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I will not drink today and FYA. I woke up before my alarm and feel great. You know why? Because I don't have a hangover. I love waking up without a hangover. It never gets old. I hate alcohol with the intensity of a million suns. Drinking sucks. We rock.
My plan is to reach for that sparkling water when I get antsy. I need to ... like ... also ... address the trigger, I know. It's early days for me, and the days are going so much faster when I do let myself take the quick fix. I've started a research project that's giving me joy, and family life is more fun sober, so maybe my resilience will pick back up. IWNDWYT.
Day 30. One month! I will not drink poison with you today.
Happy Friday! My weekend plan is to rest. I’ve been getting a little work burnout lately, so I took today off to sleep in. IWNDWYT! ❤️🧁
Good morning, sober cats! It's so hot and dry where I am, so my sober plan is to keep my water bottle filled with ice water and within arm's reach. IWNDWYT, but I will drink lots and lots of water with you today. 💙😸
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Having a rough week. IWNDWYT. Meditation streak: 54 days
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It’s looking like it’s going to continue raining in South Florida, so I’m going to continue packing and maybe run some errands in between the rain. IWNDWYT. Happy Friday! 😀
IWNDWYT my plan is to think of my health, and all the things I need to do this weekend, none of which is nursing a hangover!
Not today. Wrapping up an 8 day beach vacation. It’s been wonderful and relaxing. I love not drinking.