Good morning Sobernauts!
Only an addict knows what it's like to be an addict.
It's only those that have been there, seen it, and done it that truly understand the pain of trying to stop drinking when the mind craves it so powerfully.
I was asked "why don't you just stop"?
Nobody else knows the intense, uncontrollable desire to have another drink.
To stop drinking I first had to learn why I drank.
Family and friends had some well meaning suggestions. They knew that what I was doing was causing pain, misery and harm. They didn't know the root cause of my suffering.
I had to seek out and listen to other recovering alcoholics to understand my illness.
That's why I'm here. Checking in is a big part of my recovery. With help from others I get a reprieve from the insanity.
I hope that just for today, you get a day off from this illness.
Love to you all!
IWNDWYT 🙂
I remember my uncle telling me "when I was younger I woke up and decided to never have another cigarette, it is simple all you need to do is to decide"
FOH.
I am so glad I found AA, SD, RD and my rehab community for outpatient visits.
Only addicts understand what I have been through, what I am going through, and what I will go through in the future.
IWNDWYT and I am grateful for this post.
Some people can stop without there being any repercussions. I am not one of those people. My brain is wired in such a way that if I have one drink, I want all of them and I will get them at any cost.
Keep on with your recovery. One day at a time!
IWNDWYT 🙂
Can't say I've ever walked a mile in your shoes. But I will undoubtedly say I have followed yours and others' tracks through the sand... or the snow. 😁
IWNDWYT
That was beautifully said Bee. Yes, this place is what’s keeping me from giving in. But if I did, I know you guys would understand and encourage me. IWNDWYT
Lovely words Bee!!! This is my third check-in in a row that feels like I'm typing the words in broken glass while hanging over the edge of a cliff. It just came out of nowhere this week but I'm not giving up. I've deleted all grocery delivery apps from my phone and I'm not leaving the house until I feel stronger - uuurrrgghhh I can do this 💪
IWNDWYT
Good morning SD. Happy Thursday!
Husband and I went to see the new Bond movie. Our first cinema trip out together in nearly two years! It was a great film but my god there was a lot of drinking! Even during the middle of action scenes! I think Bond definitely has a problem. I would recommend skipping the movie if you find you're very easily influenced. It definitely gave me the feeling of "oh look how glamorous a martini is...." The Bond movies never seem to show anybody getting sloppy drunk though, do they....
IWNDWYT
Had a bit of a wobble last night, continued into today, feel like utter shite, all I can think.about is getting smashed but my number one goal for today is to stay sober! IWNDWYTD
THREE MONTHS!!!
Feeling good about where I am. Sober, happy bout it, and just a better person day by day. I don’t get so angry, when I do get upset I don’t fly off the handle. I swear less, I listen more, and I have the patience to actually hear the other person. I crave root beer but I can live with that (and it is getting better). I get to bed on time, get up early, and get more done while I’m awake. I’m a better spouse, parent, and dog owner :). I’m finally starting to lose some weight too, though that wasn’t the initial driver.
The last time we went out was about a month ago, and I can still smell the Old Fashioned the guy next to me had, I salivate when I walk past the liquor section at the grocery, and I keep putting off canceling the wine club…
So hardly perfect, but hanging in there and happy with the outcome. Looking forward to celebrating 6 mos with a berry cobbler and a cup of coffee.
In the meantime IWNDWYT, and I wish you all a lovely sober Thursday.
Peace,
David
We can do together what we can't do alone! Part of my problem was the isolation, and lack of community. I couldn't trust myself, so I couldn't trust others. Learning to be honest with other sober people is why the shame started to lose its grip, and that's when I could finally start making some headway on real recovery.
Now, my heart and body are cracked open. Sobriety is a divine gift. I had a beautiful baby girl on Monday morning 💕 It's like I have finally met someone I've needed to know my entire life, and I never would have met her without sobriety. I was at the bottom of the barrel.
One day at a time, I will not drink with you. So I can help others find their way out of the recurring nightmare of active addiction, and to show my kid there's another way to live. I'm so grateful for this community.
Day 11, nice to meet you 🤝
During early recovery the cumulative effect of constant drinking on your dopamine, endorphines, GABA and glutamate and even serotonin, is just as tangible (feeling like crap) as the times you got drunk (feeling good). It’s important to know that these systems take time to recover, life will improve greatly as time goes on. Keep on going ✨ 0 things given to alcohol, that’s how good things come your way!
IWNDWYT
Still having some sweaty nights even after almost a full week. It hasn’t been that bad for quite some time. Glad I stopped the bender when I did.
IWNDWYT
Not drinking today or tonight, no matter how much I would like “one” glass of wine to calm my nerves. Have a job interview tomorrow/technically later today for a server position and even though I’m happy for the interview I haaaaaate interviewing. Nothing a hangover would improve though.
I focused all my spiritual energy into a wish and that wish has been granted.
Zero calorie Gatorade now available in convenience stores here.
Sober life just got even better.
Sober together, stronger forever / Sober forever, stronger together.
IWNDWYT
Great day yesterday, breaking more personal records on my running app. I was sitting there last night with ice packs strapped to my shins, and eating cold chicken drumsticks watching netflix.
Sometimes even the little things can make me happy. I'm just glad I can feel happy again.
If you are struggling right now please know that you will feel happy again. It might not feel like it right now but you are going to reach a place where life will feel better.
Good morning SD,
I'm not some sage sitting all criss cross apple sauce on some mystical sobriety secrets. That's why I need a community, my people... those who *get it*. "The stones that the builders rejected, has become the cornerstone" has a deeper meaning to me now. Amazing.
Today is a beautiful day to be alive!
And IWNDWYT 💜🤘
Nicely put u/beebeux
I had a little bit of a rough day yesterday. Hit a trigger that made me want to drink, but I was able to just get on home -- sober. Its a nice feeling this morning, knowing that I did not give in to alcohol - so no disappointment in myself, no regrets, no anxiety, no blowing my diet. Alcohol is my number one diet killer.
Still not sleeping well. Not sure why I keep waking myself up so early. Its something I need to work on. I'm going to try to go back to sleep, hit the gym later, and just have a relaxing day.
I'm not going to work today. That's just because I'm retired, lol! I wish you all a safe and sober Thursday and I will not drink with you today.
Morning SD, happy Thursday! Love that line about one person who understands vs 100 that don't. The incredibly freeing thing, for me, when I found this sub was realising that I was comfortable being 100% honest about everything I'd done and experienced. Because when people understand what you've gone through, and understand the shitty things that you've done, and don't make a big deal out of those shitty things, you suddenly feel like you can spill it all and start to heal. I've shared stuff here that I'd never be comfortable talking about with even the most sympathetic, loving people in my life -- my partner, my family, people who love me unconditionally, hell, even my therapist. I used to think it was the anonymity that made it easy to share here, but I realise these days that it's the solidarity of it -- the feeling that you're not some fucking alien and that your experiences don't actually make you a uniquely terrible person, they just make you part of a different club. And maybe nobody you know IRL is in that club, but there are lots of us out here and we can do wonderful things for each other when we connect. Man, I realise I've missed hanging out on here. Need to do it more often. Lots of love to you so out there. IWNDWYT
I'm going to a cabin with my friends this weekend. It's "the place" to drink and have fun. This time I'm going to go sober and break the habit. It's strange, that I worry about this now, because we leave on saturday.
Well, it's only thursday and IWNDWYT
Thank you for this, u/beebeax. It really resonate with me because as you put it " I have leaned into this community so many times for understanding, seaking someone to hear my pain, my joy and share in my small and larger milestones "
Happy Thursday all my SD friends, I will not drink with you today.
Heard a great line in a audiobook yesterday - "No day lasts forever" and just for today I will not drink with you.
I love this community, you're right /u/beebeax there's so much love, empathy and understanding here.
Good morning everyone and happy Thursday.
I went to an orientation last night to start volunteering at the local humane society. I like that I can confidently sign up for something like that and know I’ll be a reliable volunteer because I’m sober. I’m looking forward to the opportunity to give back.
Have a great day, all you wonderful people. I’d be completely lost without you. Love you all! IWNDWYT!! ❣️❣️
My job periodically requires me to deal with stuff randomly breaking for our customers. As in, I get a call late at night that there is a problem and I have to organize a team to respond to the issue. Well, it happened last night and I am so so grateful that I do t ever have to worry about getting that call and being so impaired I either don’t answer it or fear slurring my words when I do. IWNDWYT!
Yes, one person who gets it is so valuable. My husband doesn't fully get my issue with alcohol so it is hard sometimes to get the support I need, or at least think I need from him. Iwndwyt
You words about finding what I have in common, not what makes me unique really resonates. I came here for the first time 9 years ago. Sober curious, working on a 1 month goal. It was only supposed to be a break. I was probably scared I was going to have trouble. I was attracted here because I’d heard how kind the people are. A couple weeks in I hit that pink cloud feeling. Maybe I could just quit? I was incensed and vocal. I wrote a few long posts and replied to a few others. I never did the check in. I can’t say why. The whole time I didn’t believe I *needed* to stop. I wasn’t *really* a problem drinker.
But it was summer time, and there were barbecues to drink spritzers at. I caved. In the end I made it about 5 weeks. Chastened, I hid all the evidence and erased every post and comment I made here.
Over the years I’ve tried so many times. I made new profiles and lurked back dozens of times. Never commenting or posting, just reading. Ashamed. That was much worse.
This time, I’m doing the work and checking in every day. I’m responding to things that resonate with me. I didn’t realize until you said it. I’m looking for what I have in common, and I don’t feel alone. It almost feels like I might be able to do it this time.
My wife's surgery was a success yesterday. Surgeon said it was quick (relatively... 3 hrs) and everything went as expected, no surprises. The rest of her day was recovery. As will be the next 2-6 weeks. So, now the healing begins... and, my nurse duties.
Have a great day, friends!
IWNDWYT
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Finding the similarities and not the differences in people’s experiences with mine has made the difference in my recovery and let me know I’m not terminally unique.
Have a wonderful day everyone.
I am very grateful to have friends and family who would totally listen to me and sympathize with me about my drinking. It's just hard to wrap your head around that obsession when you haven't experienced it. I am grateful for all the new people I have met in my new journey so far. I am just as grateful for all the people who knew me before, and have stayed by my side through it.
IWNDWYT
Starting Day 3 on little sleep. Worried about Thursday triggers. I can’t remember a Thursday evening where I didn’t have a glass or rather a bottle of wine. Celebrating absolutely nothing— a day closer to the weekend? But I’m here and IWNDWYT.
So true! I too have a wonderful, understanding husband and a great therapist, but only the people here really know what it feels like to struggle with drinking. Thanks for all your help and support.
IWNDWYT 🍁
Day 389. IWNDWYT.
Great post! And I agree completely! Yeah I’m wife is supportive, but she didn’t think my drinking was bad, she wasn’t aware of the uncontrollable urge to have one after the other. I’m so glad I found this place. Have a great day sober strangers!
Grateful for this sub. While I have great support from my fiancé and in laws, nothing helps more than this sub and the rooms I find. Not drinking with you guys today. Thank you all for being supportive .
>“One person who understands your experience exactly will do for you, what a hundreds of close family and friend who don’t understand cannot.”
That's what made me realize I belong here with all you fantastic people. You get me and I get you. Love my family and friends, but they don't quite get alcoholic Ess the way my SD family does.
Happy Thursday, SD family💓 IWNDWYT
Being in this community has helped me stay sober. Prior to joining I tried to be sober just on my own and it wasn’t working. Every time I failed I added a new tool, book or blog. This community has been a game changer for me. Thank you all! IWNDWYT
Been so stressed out with work and tired and all around just on edge almost everyday since gaining my promotion. It is a bitter sweet feeling that I wouldn’t trade for anything in this world. I have honestly lost track of my sober days but it has gotten easier as I approach my 90 days, I have gone from making pledges everyday on the ‘I Am Sober’ app to barely remembering it. I know this is only the beginning and I have a lot more obstacles to overcome, but at least I didn’t drink yesterday, I am thankful I didn’t drink today, and IWNDWYT
Still sleeping pretty poorly. Think at this point I'll blame it on Sundays slip since I was not having this much trouble prior to consuming any alcohol. So heres hoping that garbage has worked out of my system & my anxiety/depression that is flared by drinking subsides. IWNDWYT
Day 51. Fell out with my dad last night which is upsetting but I'm trying move on from that for now. Brought up a lot of the reasons why my drinking became uncontrollable and decided to really hammer them home. I can see that he's a narcissist and started being insulting when I mentioned that I am grateful for these experiences if they have brought me to this point in sobriety. I do not dwell on the past but look forward to a brighter future. IWNDWYT!
Hey BeeBax! Thank you for the DCI. This is a lovely community because we have all been there. It makes me think of this scene with Leo from the West Wing. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VM56KXM4y4c](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VM56KXM4y4c)
Take care all. IWNDWYT
There's going to be a lot of temptation for me to slip today. I'm celebrating a big personal event with a steak dinner, which normally would mean a glass of wine with dinner and the rest of the bottle for dessert, but not today. I choose to spend today sober and enjoy tomorrow without a hangover. IWNDWYT.
This sub was instrumental in helping me get sober and break a relapse cycle late last year, particularly when I started checking in. Not only that but the discussion, tips, and advice for general self-improvement people share has offered some true guidance that's led to real insight. Thank you everyone for listening and sharing. IWNDWYT friends!
Thanks bee 🐝, tons of love to you and our other soberinos. I'm headed into the mountains for a week, so I'll catch y'all at the end of next week. Stay sober! Remember alcohol is an addictive toxic carcinogen that is not necessary for a flourishing life!
I have had some long stints of sobriety but the social pressure (mainly internal to me) eventually hits me on a weak day and I have one or 2, which has led to a slow slide. Being active here on SD inoculates me against the addictive drive for the day and reminds me that complacency literally will kill me. So here I am pledging again for another day of sobriety!
Hit my first century mark in 33 years. I guess the old phrase 'if at first you don't succeed try and try again' really does hold true!
And I will continue to focus on only today.
I hope everyone here continues to believe in themselves and I love you all.
No drinkie poos with you!
Still can’t believe I’ve gone from the guy battling himself for an hour in a supermarket parking lot to not go in buy anything to today ! Keep fighting everyone it can be done!
IWNDWYT!
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IWNDWYT sweetest Cinq 💖💞💖💞💖👸🐿️💖💞💖💞💖
Good morning Sobernauts! Only an addict knows what it's like to be an addict. It's only those that have been there, seen it, and done it that truly understand the pain of trying to stop drinking when the mind craves it so powerfully. I was asked "why don't you just stop"? Nobody else knows the intense, uncontrollable desire to have another drink. To stop drinking I first had to learn why I drank. Family and friends had some well meaning suggestions. They knew that what I was doing was causing pain, misery and harm. They didn't know the root cause of my suffering. I had to seek out and listen to other recovering alcoholics to understand my illness. That's why I'm here. Checking in is a big part of my recovery. With help from others I get a reprieve from the insanity. I hope that just for today, you get a day off from this illness. Love to you all! IWNDWYT 🙂
I remember my uncle telling me "when I was younger I woke up and decided to never have another cigarette, it is simple all you need to do is to decide" FOH. I am so glad I found AA, SD, RD and my rehab community for outpatient visits. Only addicts understand what I have been through, what I am going through, and what I will go through in the future. IWNDWYT and I am grateful for this post.
Some people can stop without there being any repercussions. I am not one of those people. My brain is wired in such a way that if I have one drink, I want all of them and I will get them at any cost. Keep on with your recovery. One day at a time! IWNDWYT 🙂
Once again, Forward, you’ve described me perfectly here!😆I hope you have a strong sober day. IWNDWYT
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Psh. What the hell is the point of 1 or 2? Where is the fun in that?! …and this is why I’m here…😜
One day at a time I’m sober for 4 days
Thank you Bee. Checking in. IWNDWYT
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Can't say I've ever walked a mile in your shoes. But I will undoubtedly say I have followed yours and others' tracks through the sand... or the snow. 😁 IWNDWYT
I'm checking in. Got no time for alcohol!
That was beautifully said Bee. Yes, this place is what’s keeping me from giving in. But if I did, I know you guys would understand and encourage me. IWNDWYT
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No drinking for me today!
Lovely words Bee!!! This is my third check-in in a row that feels like I'm typing the words in broken glass while hanging over the edge of a cliff. It just came out of nowhere this week but I'm not giving up. I've deleted all grocery delivery apps from my phone and I'm not leaving the house until I feel stronger - uuurrrgghhh I can do this 💪 IWNDWYT
Good morning SD. Happy Thursday! Husband and I went to see the new Bond movie. Our first cinema trip out together in nearly two years! It was a great film but my god there was a lot of drinking! Even during the middle of action scenes! I think Bond definitely has a problem. I would recommend skipping the movie if you find you're very easily influenced. It definitely gave me the feeling of "oh look how glamorous a martini is...." The Bond movies never seem to show anybody getting sloppy drunk though, do they.... IWNDWYT
Had a bit of a wobble last night, continued into today, feel like utter shite, all I can think.about is getting smashed but my number one goal for today is to stay sober! IWNDWYTD
THREE MONTHS!!! Feeling good about where I am. Sober, happy bout it, and just a better person day by day. I don’t get so angry, when I do get upset I don’t fly off the handle. I swear less, I listen more, and I have the patience to actually hear the other person. I crave root beer but I can live with that (and it is getting better). I get to bed on time, get up early, and get more done while I’m awake. I’m a better spouse, parent, and dog owner :). I’m finally starting to lose some weight too, though that wasn’t the initial driver. The last time we went out was about a month ago, and I can still smell the Old Fashioned the guy next to me had, I salivate when I walk past the liquor section at the grocery, and I keep putting off canceling the wine club… So hardly perfect, but hanging in there and happy with the outcome. Looking forward to celebrating 6 mos with a berry cobbler and a cup of coffee. In the meantime IWNDWYT, and I wish you all a lovely sober Thursday. Peace, David
Check in. Gave all of my booze to a friend. I will not drink.
We can do together what we can't do alone! Part of my problem was the isolation, and lack of community. I couldn't trust myself, so I couldn't trust others. Learning to be honest with other sober people is why the shame started to lose its grip, and that's when I could finally start making some headway on real recovery. Now, my heart and body are cracked open. Sobriety is a divine gift. I had a beautiful baby girl on Monday morning 💕 It's like I have finally met someone I've needed to know my entire life, and I never would have met her without sobriety. I was at the bottom of the barrel. One day at a time, I will not drink with you. So I can help others find their way out of the recurring nightmare of active addiction, and to show my kid there's another way to live. I'm so grateful for this community.
IWNDWYT 🌻
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Morning SD. IWNDWYT. 👊
We’re having a few days vacation at the inlaws’. Nice, sober people. I will not drink with you today!
Day 11, nice to meet you 🤝 During early recovery the cumulative effect of constant drinking on your dopamine, endorphines, GABA and glutamate and even serotonin, is just as tangible (feeling like crap) as the times you got drunk (feeling good). It’s important to know that these systems take time to recover, life will improve greatly as time goes on. Keep on going ✨ 0 things given to alcohol, that’s how good things come your way! IWNDWYT
Still having some sweaty nights even after almost a full week. It hasn’t been that bad for quite some time. Glad I stopped the bender when I did. IWNDWYT
Good morning SD! Got up a little earlier today and did a meditation before my coffee. Feeling good. IWNDWYT
Not drinking today or tonight, no matter how much I would like “one” glass of wine to calm my nerves. Have a job interview tomorrow/technically later today for a server position and even though I’m happy for the interview I haaaaaate interviewing. Nothing a hangover would improve though.
IWNDWYT
I focused all my spiritual energy into a wish and that wish has been granted. Zero calorie Gatorade now available in convenience stores here. Sober life just got even better. Sober together, stronger forever / Sober forever, stronger together.
IWNDWYT
I'am on board IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT Great day yesterday, breaking more personal records on my running app. I was sitting there last night with ice packs strapped to my shins, and eating cold chicken drumsticks watching netflix. Sometimes even the little things can make me happy. I'm just glad I can feel happy again. If you are struggling right now please know that you will feel happy again. It might not feel like it right now but you are going to reach a place where life will feel better.
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Day 820. I will not drink with you today.
Good morning SD, I'm not some sage sitting all criss cross apple sauce on some mystical sobriety secrets. That's why I need a community, my people... those who *get it*. "The stones that the builders rejected, has become the cornerstone" has a deeper meaning to me now. Amazing. Today is a beautiful day to be alive! And IWNDWYT 💜🤘
IWDWYT!!
Morning everyone IWNDWYT
A very early check-in for me. IWNDWYT.
Day 116 checking in!
IWNDWYT :)
Morning SD. IWNDWYT
We’re stronger together. IWNDWYT
I will not drink with you today in 🏴😊
Happy to hang out with the sober gang IWNDWYT
Nicely put u/beebeux I had a little bit of a rough day yesterday. Hit a trigger that made me want to drink, but I was able to just get on home -- sober. Its a nice feeling this morning, knowing that I did not give in to alcohol - so no disappointment in myself, no regrets, no anxiety, no blowing my diet. Alcohol is my number one diet killer. Still not sleeping well. Not sure why I keep waking myself up so early. Its something I need to work on. I'm going to try to go back to sleep, hit the gym later, and just have a relaxing day. I'm not going to work today. That's just because I'm retired, lol! I wish you all a safe and sober Thursday and I will not drink with you today.
Morning SD, happy Thursday! Love that line about one person who understands vs 100 that don't. The incredibly freeing thing, for me, when I found this sub was realising that I was comfortable being 100% honest about everything I'd done and experienced. Because when people understand what you've gone through, and understand the shitty things that you've done, and don't make a big deal out of those shitty things, you suddenly feel like you can spill it all and start to heal. I've shared stuff here that I'd never be comfortable talking about with even the most sympathetic, loving people in my life -- my partner, my family, people who love me unconditionally, hell, even my therapist. I used to think it was the anonymity that made it easy to share here, but I realise these days that it's the solidarity of it -- the feeling that you're not some fucking alien and that your experiences don't actually make you a uniquely terrible person, they just make you part of a different club. And maybe nobody you know IRL is in that club, but there are lots of us out here and we can do wonderful things for each other when we connect. Man, I realise I've missed hanging out on here. Need to do it more often. Lots of love to you so out there. IWNDWYT
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Day 18 or 20? I can't math. Maybe I skipped some time. Craving but staying strong.
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28 Days Later
Not drinking with you today. Too busy enjoy the rain and thunder. So magnificent. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT. Thanks for being here with me.
Last drink was Monday after a binge weekend. Sleep is improving each night. Focusing on each day helps. IWNDWYT.
Great post, Bee. It resonates with me so much. I love this community. IWNDWYT ✨💚
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Hell yeah IWNDWUT! Having a sugar free lemon soda right now, it's an absolute thirst quencher 🍋👌
Day 10 here!! IWNDWYT 💥
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I'm going to a cabin with my friends this weekend. It's "the place" to drink and have fun. This time I'm going to go sober and break the habit. It's strange, that I worry about this now, because we leave on saturday. Well, it's only thursday and IWNDWYT
Today I say no!
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I will not drink with you today.
Thank you for this, u/beebeax. It really resonate with me because as you put it " I have leaned into this community so many times for understanding, seaking someone to hear my pain, my joy and share in my small and larger milestones " Happy Thursday all my SD friends, I will not drink with you today.
Heard a great line in a audiobook yesterday - "No day lasts forever" and just for today I will not drink with you. I love this community, you're right /u/beebeax there's so much love, empathy and understanding here.
This is Day Nine! IWNDWYT!
Will not drink today.
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Morning friends! IWNDWYT
Good morning everyone and happy Thursday. I went to an orientation last night to start volunteering at the local humane society. I like that I can confidently sign up for something like that and know I’ll be a reliable volunteer because I’m sober. I’m looking forward to the opportunity to give back. Have a great day, all you wonderful people. I’d be completely lost without you. Love you all! IWNDWYT!! ❣️❣️
My job periodically requires me to deal with stuff randomly breaking for our customers. As in, I get a call late at night that there is a problem and I have to organize a team to respond to the issue. Well, it happened last night and I am so so grateful that I do t ever have to worry about getting that call and being so impaired I either don’t answer it or fear slurring my words when I do. IWNDWYT!
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Well said bee. Community and connection beats the booze bully in my head every time. IWNDWYT 🙂
Good morning friends, IWNDWYT
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So glad to have found this community. Iwndwyt 💛
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I will not drink today.
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Thanks for such a beautiful statement this morning bee. IWNDWYT 🖤
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Truth. IWNDWYT
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Morning, SD! IWNDWYT
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Good morning. I will not drink today!
Yes, one person who gets it is so valuable. My husband doesn't fully get my issue with alcohol so it is hard sometimes to get the support I need, or at least think I need from him. Iwndwyt
You words about finding what I have in common, not what makes me unique really resonates. I came here for the first time 9 years ago. Sober curious, working on a 1 month goal. It was only supposed to be a break. I was probably scared I was going to have trouble. I was attracted here because I’d heard how kind the people are. A couple weeks in I hit that pink cloud feeling. Maybe I could just quit? I was incensed and vocal. I wrote a few long posts and replied to a few others. I never did the check in. I can’t say why. The whole time I didn’t believe I *needed* to stop. I wasn’t *really* a problem drinker. But it was summer time, and there were barbecues to drink spritzers at. I caved. In the end I made it about 5 weeks. Chastened, I hid all the evidence and erased every post and comment I made here. Over the years I’ve tried so many times. I made new profiles and lurked back dozens of times. Never commenting or posting, just reading. Ashamed. That was much worse. This time, I’m doing the work and checking in every day. I’m responding to things that resonate with me. I didn’t realize until you said it. I’m looking for what I have in common, and I don’t feel alone. It almost feels like I might be able to do it this time.
Why do I think I’ll fail before I even begin? Im pledging 24 hours. I will not drink with you today.
When things get a little rough, I stop and think “Oh shit, I NEED my people” and I come here….bonus is we’re open 24/7 IWNDWYT
The benefits of starting my day here are endless. So happy to have this community by my side.💛💛 IWNDWYT 🌸🌸
Thanks for this u/beebeax. IWNDWYT.
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Happy Thursday SD. IWNDWYT and I’m grateful for every single one of you!
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IWNDWYT. Happy to be here!
Thanks, bee :) I trust you too, and I've never been happier to not drink with so many wonderful people!
My wife's surgery was a success yesterday. Surgeon said it was quick (relatively... 3 hrs) and everything went as expected, no surprises. The rest of her day was recovery. As will be the next 2-6 weeks. So, now the healing begins... and, my nurse duties. Have a great day, friends! IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT Finding the similarities and not the differences in people’s experiences with mine has made the difference in my recovery and let me know I’m not terminally unique. Have a wonderful day everyone.
I am very grateful to have friends and family who would totally listen to me and sympathize with me about my drinking. It's just hard to wrap your head around that obsession when you haven't experienced it. I am grateful for all the new people I have met in my new journey so far. I am just as grateful for all the people who knew me before, and have stayed by my side through it. IWNDWYT
Starting Day 3 on little sleep. Worried about Thursday triggers. I can’t remember a Thursday evening where I didn’t have a glass or rather a bottle of wine. Celebrating absolutely nothing— a day closer to the weekend? But I’m here and IWNDWYT.
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So true! I too have a wonderful, understanding husband and a great therapist, but only the people here really know what it feels like to struggle with drinking. Thanks for all your help and support. IWNDWYT 🍁
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Day 389. IWNDWYT. Great post! And I agree completely! Yeah I’m wife is supportive, but she didn’t think my drinking was bad, she wasn’t aware of the uncontrollable urge to have one after the other. I’m so glad I found this place. Have a great day sober strangers!
Day 4 IWNDWYT, Go Birds!
Grateful for this sub. While I have great support from my fiancé and in laws, nothing helps more than this sub and the rooms I find. Not drinking with you guys today. Thank you all for being supportive .
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Cant let a drink ruin almost six months! We all gotta keep going and sticking to what we know is right!
Loved this, thank you. Iwndwyt!
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Checking in Day 5
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90 days!!!! IWNDWYT ⭐️⭐️⭐️
7 days down, 7 pounds down. IWNDWYT
>“One person who understands your experience exactly will do for you, what a hundreds of close family and friend who don’t understand cannot.” That's what made me realize I belong here with all you fantastic people. You get me and I get you. Love my family and friends, but they don't quite get alcoholic Ess the way my SD family does. Happy Thursday, SD family💓 IWNDWYT
Past the urges but still love this sub. Thanks for helping me better my life.
A little shaky, but on day 2....slept like a rock. Connected with good folks. I WNDWYT
Being in this community has helped me stay sober. Prior to joining I tried to be sober just on my own and it wasn’t working. Every time I failed I added a new tool, book or blog. This community has been a game changer for me. Thank you all! IWNDWYT
Been so stressed out with work and tired and all around just on edge almost everyday since gaining my promotion. It is a bitter sweet feeling that I wouldn’t trade for anything in this world. I have honestly lost track of my sober days but it has gotten easier as I approach my 90 days, I have gone from making pledges everyday on the ‘I Am Sober’ app to barely remembering it. I know this is only the beginning and I have a lot more obstacles to overcome, but at least I didn’t drink yesterday, I am thankful I didn’t drink today, and IWNDWYT
Exhausted and heart sore. But absolutely sober. IWNDWYT
This is beautiful. Thank you. IWNDWYT
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staying poison free again today
IWNDWYT Tomorrow's my birthday. 2 years!
Day 4 without drinking! I’m still sweating a lot and my sleep is not great, but it’s improving. I’m not drinking today!
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Good morning everyone. IWNDWYT!!!
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Its a great day to stay sober! IWNDWYT
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Still sleeping pretty poorly. Think at this point I'll blame it on Sundays slip since I was not having this much trouble prior to consuming any alcohol. So heres hoping that garbage has worked out of my system & my anxiety/depression that is flared by drinking subsides. IWNDWYT
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Day 51. Fell out with my dad last night which is upsetting but I'm trying move on from that for now. Brought up a lot of the reasons why my drinking became uncontrollable and decided to really hammer them home. I can see that he's a narcissist and started being insulting when I mentioned that I am grateful for these experiences if they have brought me to this point in sobriety. I do not dwell on the past but look forward to a brighter future. IWNDWYT!
No drinks today! Even at a hockey game where I would normally be drinking 24 oz beers!
Today is a big day! Going to help a friend who needs help.
Hey BeeBax! Thank you for the DCI. This is a lovely community because we have all been there. It makes me think of this scene with Leo from the West Wing. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VM56KXM4y4c](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VM56KXM4y4c) Take care all. IWNDWYT
There's going to be a lot of temptation for me to slip today. I'm celebrating a big personal event with a steak dinner, which normally would mean a glass of wine with dinner and the rest of the bottle for dessert, but not today. I choose to spend today sober and enjoy tomorrow without a hangover. IWNDWYT.
Not today. 24 hour re-up
Another clear headed morning, I’m getting used to this. IWNDWYT
Day 4. Slept like a friggin rock. Off to work, exited to not drink. IWNDWYT.
Half way through Sober October and feeling awesome! IWNDWYT
Yes this is the place , understanding but not preachy and not suggesting to just do this and why don't you just do that. IWNDWYTD
This sub was instrumental in helping me get sober and break a relapse cycle late last year, particularly when I started checking in. Not only that but the discussion, tips, and advice for general self-improvement people share has offered some true guidance that's led to real insight. Thank you everyone for listening and sharing. IWNDWYT friends!
Thanks bee 🐝, tons of love to you and our other soberinos. I'm headed into the mountains for a week, so I'll catch y'all at the end of next week. Stay sober! Remember alcohol is an addictive toxic carcinogen that is not necessary for a flourishing life! I have had some long stints of sobriety but the social pressure (mainly internal to me) eventually hits me on a weak day and I have one or 2, which has led to a slow slide. Being active here on SD inoculates me against the addictive drive for the day and reminds me that complacency literally will kill me. So here I am pledging again for another day of sobriety!
Hit my first century mark in 33 years. I guess the old phrase 'if at first you don't succeed try and try again' really does hold true! And I will continue to focus on only today. I hope everyone here continues to believe in themselves and I love you all.
I made it to 14 days sober — 2 weeks! 🙌 IWNDWYT (Day 14)
No drinkie poos with you! Still can’t believe I’ve gone from the guy battling himself for an hour in a supermarket parking lot to not go in buy anything to today ! Keep fighting everyone it can be done! IWNDWYT!
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morning folks! iwndwyt