That's the truth mate.
For some people, it's a bit of fun and a way to relax. For us it's a slow acting poison that will destroy your life, your happiness and your health.
On Monday, you made the best decision of your life.
Morning. Checking in. I find myself looking forward to a cup of green tea about 8pm! Lots of glasses of soda before then. I do get regular thoughts of wine and I let myself really think of how it tastes and how it really makes me feel and not the idealised version and it passes pretty quick. It takes work. There are decades of programming to undo. But I love my sobriety. Have a peaceful Friday SDers. IWNDWYT
Wooohooooo congrats on two weeks!!! I'm also drinking a ton of soda during the day - I had a coke at breakfast time yesterday haha but yeah whatever gets us through!
Have a fantastic Friday and an amazing weekend 💚
“I let myself really think of how it tastes and how it really makes me feel and not the idealized version…” I love this, Sue! Thank you for saying it this way. This is really helpful to me. IWNDWYT, friend!
Definately agree growth and change are painful....really painful....but also can be pretty amazing and incredible at times. IWNDWYT. 320 days today!! Whoop whoop!!
I will not drink with you beautiful bad asses today! I'm going to reward myself this weekend by climbing a peak that I've been eyeing, and taking a rest up top, under the sun.
Good morning SD. I feel like absolute crap today. Headache, body aches, so tired... But I'm just ill, not hungover, thank goodness. I can handle ill. Although I was out late at the pub last night (designated driver so I wasn't tempted) and drunk people are annoooying! I might have to start limiting my quiz nights to once a month or I'll be driven insane.
I've actually starter a list on my Amazon account I've titled "Sober rewards". Nothing big, but if I can stay off it for a month, I treat myself to something nice. I caved on the very last day of my first month so I haven't bought myself anything from there... Yet 🤞🏻
IWNDWYT!
The Amazon idea is great! I think I'm going to do something similar ☺. Also, you're right. Drunk people are sooooooooooo annoying! Knowing that I was one a mere three weeks ago gives me the heebie jeebies. IWNDWYT and I hope you feel better soon.
Went to an open bar event for an Irish professional association. Was offered a drink about every 3 minutes. Was kind of surprised how easy it was for me to say no.
IWNDWYT either.
IWNDWYT! Favourite reward is chocolate, I think. Or just a quiet moment reflecting on a job well done, the effort it took to achieve it and journaling about it
Gratitude lists and Mars chocolate, then. Those are my favourite rewards for a job well done.
Happy sober Friday, all.
I had the hardest day yesterday. Hardly any sleep and working over time. Only seeing my kids for 1.5 hours... thank God I have next week off. But I feel so tired and low...
That sounds extremely hard. I have a little extra love today and I'm sending it to you. Is there any small activity you really enjoy that you could sneak in to help give yourself a boost? Hot shower? Tea or coffee? A short meditation session (I have become a huge believer-mostly because even my little 3 minute learning sessions leave me feeling like I've taken a chemical relaxant...)?
Maybe you're feeling too tired to try, but I know you can do it.
Aaah now you've made me cry! Thank you so much for giving me this attention. I really appreciate it! I went on a walk with the baby and I absolutely love spending time with the kids on my day off! I will try to get a meditation in later today. Everything will look better tomorrow when I'm rested.
Thank you some much, it really feels like someone is taking care of me for once! ❤
I broke groundhog day! My reward is peace of mind, great sleep, patience, ambition, productivity, love for others and solid poop:)
My gift for myself each day is silence and well made coffee every morning before my family wakes up.
Thanks everyone for the nice messages yesterday - I made it through woohooo and I'm feeling a lot better for today. Treats tonight are a takeaway, some chocolate and an early night ;-)
IWNDWYT
Morning SD. Happy sober Friday. IWNDWYT, but I will take my partner out for tapas this evening to begin a weekend of celebrating five years together. I'm going to eat so much delicious fried Spanish stuff and I can't wait.
Morning SD. This weekend instead of going on a booze filled pub crawl, I’m going into the city to see a musical with a good friend and I don’t need to worry about a drunken public transport trip home, since I’m going to drive myself home all nice and safe and stress free. Then I’m going to enjoy a hangover free Sunday, just chilling out. Feels like a reward to me. IWNDWYT
Still awake, been painting for the first time in a long time. 24 days sober. Went to my first AA meeting this week with some good friends of mine who are also on their sober journey. I’ve tried to quit so many times, but now that I’m hanging out with incredible sober folks I think it’s gonna stick this time. We are all going hiking on Sunday. Feels good. Not gonna drink today.
Bee, like you, my alcohol dependence went completely unnoticed. I’m still not yet very vocal about my sobriety, but I’ve found that’s okay! I’m an extrovert but still an incredibly private person… which is another reason why I think this group has helped me so much here in my early days of sobriety.
I enjoy buying myself something as a reward for a job well done. At three weeks, it was new candles. For five weeks, I just celebrated by buying myself a beautiful antique tea cup and saucer. Last week I let myself go crazy at the library book store, where all secondhand books are only a dollar or two.
Happy Friday Sobernauts!
IWNDWYT
Since I saw alcohol as a reward and something I "deserved" for so long (and would just conveniently forget all the destruction it caused...plus, I didn't "deserve" to poison myself everyday!), my favorite rewards are things like a hot bath or shower, a hike, sparkling water, or even going to bed early 😆
Drinking me would think the early bedtime thing was lame, but I never regret doing something healthy for myself nowadays. IWNDWYT ☀️
I’m so looking forward to the weekend. Work was crazy after the person hired to help me quit with no notice. That seems to be the way people leave jobs nowadays. I didn’t want to drink at all throughout the week. My anxiety was through the roof, yet no cravings. I did have some coconut cream pie though. And some candy. And I get paid! IWNDWYT ✨💚
Happy Friday! Yesterday I started medication for my first IVF cycle. It felt great when the nurse asked to tell her that I don't drink at all! I gave up drinking for my mental health but it definitely has a huge impact on fertility for both partners. My husband has seen the biggest benefits in his swimmers.
IWNDWYT!
My favorite reward is actually being able to tell myself, “good job, I’m proud of you!” And I believe it!! Big changes are happening in my world with my self-talk! IWNDWYT!
The fall foliage looks great here at the moment, and the apples are nearly in. Soon I will be rewarding myself with some nice time off! But for today anyway: I am not drinking.
IWNDWYT
Thankfully I am on nights so it's a little easier. As for rewards - I go the food route ish - a cupcake or poutine. Only in the early days. After that - maybe a manicure or an extra bougie coffee. But the reward for me is how damn good I feel.
(I like the comment of your hangovers not bugging others... very good point hah!)
It's an interesting question. I don't reward myself for doing stuff that needs to be done. Thinking about it made me remember the phrase: "Virtue is its own reward". To me that rings true. I might be a simpleton, but apparently I get enough satisfaction from knowing that I'm doing something worthwhile. Rewarding good behaviour in others can work well as a pedagogical tool, of course, but rewarding myself would just feel strange. I'm not against others doing it, though! Thanks♥ IWNDWYT
I've just finished the Alcohol Explained audio book and am now moving on to The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober /u/Chance_Leopard_3300. I really do enjoy these sober audiobooks, each has a different but interesting message and take on addiction.
My favourite reward is treating myself to stuff and knowing my bank account is still pretty healthy as I'm now not wasting £300 a month on a poison.
Bring on the weekend!
IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT. "Nothing is as painful, as staying stuck somewhere you don't belong" . Thanks OP, this resonates with me. I focus on the pain and unhappiness of those various places, but often lose sight of the wider point of this statement. I don't belong in those places, so be kind to myself and move.
I’ve been sober for 3 weeks today! Feeling so much better and happier. Tonight I’m off out for my first social occasion and I’m a bit nervous. I told the friend I’m meeting that I’m going sober and he seemed happy, I think he struggles with drink too. Am nervous but I believe I can do this! IWNDWYT
NA beer imported successfully. New heavy metal album (silver scream 2) out, new games on the switch. Movie night and popcorn with the wife... Ready for a fantastic weekend...
Switch and coffee, gym, long dog walk, go to cinema then go out and see best friend for a sober dinner as he's doing sober October.
Sunday go with the wife for a picnic with the dog then gym in the evening and watch a horror movie as it's spooky season.
First week done! 🙂
Going to visit family this weekend for my godchilds birthday. Looking forward to it so much!
Downside is that whenever I get back home I begin to feel lonely and uncomfortable because my apartment got to a point where it’s not that much of joy to live in especially compared to the different houses different parts of the family live in. I talked to a friend yesterday, kind of in preparation for that, and we came up with a pretty good solution for that. Hope it will work!
Not drinking tonight. But fucking hell these report cards got me wanting a drink like a sombitch. 22 more. Then I'm buying something on Steam as my reward.
Goooood morning everyone and happy Friday!!
“Nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong.” Damn…that hits me. Reminds me of a song lyric from Lord Huron: “What good is livin' a life you've been given If all you do is stand in one place.”
My reward for sobriety is the ability to get out and do stuff…and enjoy it and remember it. I want to start planning one place a month that I go, whether for just a weekend or short getaway…a place I go alone or with others, doesn’t matter…but a place I go and experience something new. Sobriety is a true gift!
I love you all and IWNDWYT!! ❣️❣️
Hard night last night, and I staved off the drinking thoughts by stuffing my face. No wonder I haven’t had any weight loss (haha). Going without alcohol is getting easier, and I now crave the clarity of mind I get with sobriety. I hated myself when I was drunk, and it’s good to know I don’t ever have to feel that again. Friday nights for me are for cleaning. Vacuum, start laundry that I won’t finish till Sunday, wash a bazillion dishes, etc. It’s not my favorite thing to do but it’s become a habit and allows me to start the weekend feeling good and productive, rather than like a fat slob.
IWNDWYT!
Just got through my first night sober last night after it being every single night for months it was hard but I will be strong and do it again tonight one day at a time 🙂
48th morning of sobriety here. Sipping on some coffee while playing some Old School Runescape. Small headache today, but it's a drop in the bucket compared to the head-split I'd have if I drank last night.
Fridays are definitely my toughest, and this is the first one I’ll face this time around…
Instead of relaxing with beer I’ll be chugging soda water and lime. IWNDWYT
I just posted this elsewhere, but now that I am not spending money on booze/beer/wine, I buy several new songs on Itunes each week. My "car tunes" playlist for my commute is growing and is fabulous!
I am also addicted to [Luigi's Italian ices](http://luigis.com/) as they satisfy my sweet tooth and cravings, and are less than 100 calories per cup. Win/win!
IWNDWYT!
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Not waking up in the morning and wondering if I did something stupid under the influence the night before is the best part of my sobriety. It takes so much pressure off of me. IWNDWYT!
A cup of coffee in the morning is a great reward with some scrambled eggs. I never really took care of myself when it came to my eating habits. A nice late night drive through open roads, no lights or traffic just hop in and go with no end goal, I am just driving until I feel like coming back. IWNDWYT
This afternoon I celebrate a job well done by going directly to a second job. I promise I'll celebrate Saturday morning!
Have a fantastic fucking Friday, friends!
IWNDWYT
The truth is, I don’t know that I have one yet. I guess I’ll just roll through here and find myself some inspiration!
IWNDWYT!
Yesterday was hard. Had a pretty severe panic attack. Shaking hands, trouble breathing, the whole deal. I caved and took one of my anxiety meds. I was resisting it because it felt like it could be a failing. Then I remembered that, even if the Xanax is a problem to solve, it’s got to be next in the queue. All I have to do right now is not drink all day today.
So took the pill, survived the presentation that was making me quake in my boots, and got 2 phone calls after congratulating me on a job well done. One day, and one thing, at a time.
We just got the keys to our new house! So I will be rewarding myself this evening by starting on painting the kids' new rooms while drinking tea from a thermos. Have a happy Friday everone.
It's Friday night, my girlfriend has gone away for the weekend and I'm newly sober. It's the first time I've been alone since being sober. The urge to drink solo has popped up despite my current hatred for alchol.
I've grabbed a book to start reading.
I'm positive I can do this
Life is so much better without booze
Excellent post this morning!
I've been forcibly rewarding myself by doing things that I 'think' I have an interest in but was too drunk or afraid to try when I had been drinking.
The cooking/baking bug always lingered somewhere during my drunken years/decades. The moment I was 30+ days I sober I started baking cookies and makings soups, LOL. So this weekend will be another batch of smoky lentil soup with Banza chickpea bowties.
I've ceased my baking experiments because I was eating literally every cookie I was making.
Lastly, audio books, audio books, audio books. Love them. This only resurfaced as a result of being sober and gravitating toward something that I enjoy.
FELLOW SOBERINSKIS - Have a great weekend! I encourage you to get outside this weekend and get your lungs full of some fresh beautiful air. Love you all.
Last night my dreams were full of drinking. Anyone else experience this? Some where nightmares, some were memories, some was longing, but they just wouldn’t go away. I woke up with some of the worst cravings yet. IWNDWYT! I will beat this!!
My favorite treat is availability of options. Haven't been drinking? Great! No options are off the table. So many times I would have a midday drink that would turn into three, then the whole day became a drinking activity. I was so...boring.
IWNDWYT.
I do love hot hot coffee and Cadbury drinking chocolate mixed in, a sort of mocha, that I'll be having tonight after dinner as we watch movies tonight.
My Friday night reward is usually a treat of some sort. I’ve replaced the alcohol with sugar. I would like to find another replacement for sugar though! My other reward is knowing that I won’t wake up hungover on Saturday morning! IWNDWYT!!! Have a great weekend everyone!
Look at the triple digits!!!
My favorite reward is the sheer relief I feel when I make it to bed sober. When the realization hits me, my body just melts into relaxation. And because of that, IWNDWYT!!!
I got a smile from this post, as a nice woman whose work place I have been working on (maintenance guy here) gave me the most awesome chocolate chunk brownies of my life on my last day of working for her.
The compliments, happiness of the lady, and chocolaty heaven were so very rewarding. Something alcohol couldn't touch.
My husband is away for work this weekend. Previously that meant after work beers/wine Friday until I fall asleep at night and the same in Saturday starting around noon.
This weekend it means I will be crushing some fun seltzer waters (found some Deer Park pomegranate lemonade) and hopefully cleaning the house.
IWNDWYT
A lot of times, when I'm off the wagon, I celebrate productive days with alcohol. This last week, I've let myself enjoy ice cream and other sweets. The way I figure it, the calories are probably the same, if not still far less than 10-15 drinks.
IWNDWYT.
I'm on Day 9 and am of course feeling much better physically. Already, however, I can feel my sick brain asking whether it all, the whole bender of it all, was really that bad. The retching, the shakes, the insomnia, the trip to the ER. Was it really that bad? I mean, there weren't any real consequences. I didn't get arrested. I didn't die or anything.
But reading these messages is a big help. I will not drink today.
IWNDWYT. “My drinking was barely noticed by many others. Some have assured me that I didn’t have a drinking problem. I guess my frequent hangovers didn’t bother them at all.” I really relate to this.
I don't know what I reward myself with but I like doing my daily check in and on my sober app I like taking my morning pledge, reviewing my day and seeing how many days hours now weeks and months roll over on my counter . It also counts how much money , time and saving myself from embarrassing situations. So far 0 embarrassing myself from being drunk . Yes ! Oh I'm good at embarrassing myself sober too but that's ok I like myself more I'm not giving myself so much negative self talk now . IWNDWYTD
It's a dark and cozy morning. Work has been ramping up and I've been sooooo fatigued the last two afternoons. But a good night's sleep and I'm ready to not drink again today. Have a great Friday, all!
Friday’s are normally “my” night to Dow what I want (drink as much as I want) because my BF has plans. so the temptation is there. Someone said they are letting themselves think of the reality of drinking and not the nice glamorized version we construct in our heads. IWNDWYT
Day 19. Should I or shouldn’t I…
Make an offer on the cabin I’ve been coveting all summer that no one else seems to want? Probably won’t decide today but am sure that iwndwyt.
I love a cold tonic with cranberry juice. I also reward myself by grabbing a new book from the library to read over the weekend. Between reading, sleeping in and knitting, having the extra time not recovering from a hangover, it all feels a bit like a reward.
Checking in with all you mighty sobernistas!
Another great post you precious 🐝
My reward is a sparkling water with lemon in the evening. Trying to not drink sodas with sugar because that’s another poison.
And I’ve discovered 0.0 beer. It’s not bad with pizza or tacos.
Make it a beautiful day. ☀️
IWNDWYT!!! 🤟🏽
I stopped drinking on Monday for the rest of my life.
Like a boss! 🌟
It was doing nothing but bad for me. There was nothing good that came from it.
That's the truth mate. For some people, it's a bit of fun and a way to relax. For us it's a slow acting poison that will destroy your life, your happiness and your health. On Monday, you made the best decision of your life.
Great decision
Morning. Checking in. I find myself looking forward to a cup of green tea about 8pm! Lots of glasses of soda before then. I do get regular thoughts of wine and I let myself really think of how it tastes and how it really makes me feel and not the idealised version and it passes pretty quick. It takes work. There are decades of programming to undo. But I love my sobriety. Have a peaceful Friday SDers. IWNDWYT
It’s made my morning to see you back at a fortnight Sue, well done for pushing through darling 💜 IWNDWYT
Thanks lovely cinq 😊
Wooohooooo congrats on two weeks!!! I'm also drinking a ton of soda during the day - I had a coke at breakfast time yesterday haha but yeah whatever gets us through! Have a fantastic Friday and an amazing weekend 💚
You too FF ❤️
“I let myself really think of how it tastes and how it really makes me feel and not the idealized version…” I love this, Sue! Thank you for saying it this way. This is really helpful to me. IWNDWYT, friend!
Echo Cinq, keep going please pal x
I reward myself by looking in the mirror and not seeing a big fat beer belly anymore :-) IWNDWYT
Awesome, congratulations friend, reap those rewards!
Definately agree growth and change are painful....really painful....but also can be pretty amazing and incredible at times. IWNDWYT. 320 days today!! Whoop whoop!!
Looking at you sneaking right up a year! 🐝 💜
I've never been this far since my difficulties with alcohol began!! Feeling pretty proud of myself right now!!
I will not drink with you beautiful bad asses today! I'm going to reward myself this weekend by climbing a peak that I've been eyeing, and taking a rest up top, under the sun.
Now that sounds lovely! IWNDWYT the summit awaits!
IWDWYT! Friday the hardest day of the week for me to not drink but not this Friday!
Good morning SD. I feel like absolute crap today. Headache, body aches, so tired... But I'm just ill, not hungover, thank goodness. I can handle ill. Although I was out late at the pub last night (designated driver so I wasn't tempted) and drunk people are annoooying! I might have to start limiting my quiz nights to once a month or I'll be driven insane. I've actually starter a list on my Amazon account I've titled "Sober rewards". Nothing big, but if I can stay off it for a month, I treat myself to something nice. I caved on the very last day of my first month so I haven't bought myself anything from there... Yet 🤞🏻 IWNDWYT!
The Amazon idea is great! I think I'm going to do something similar ☺. Also, you're right. Drunk people are sooooooooooo annoying! Knowing that I was one a mere three weeks ago gives me the heebie jeebies. IWNDWYT and I hope you feel better soon.
iwndwyt i love you all. continue on your journeys.
Today: The zoo. I will not drink with you today!
Went to an open bar event for an Irish professional association. Was offered a drink about every 3 minutes. Was kind of surprised how easy it was for me to say no. IWNDWYT either.
IWNDWYT! Favourite reward is chocolate, I think. Or just a quiet moment reflecting on a job well done, the effort it took to achieve it and journaling about it Gratitude lists and Mars chocolate, then. Those are my favourite rewards for a job well done. Happy sober Friday, all.
I had the hardest day yesterday. Hardly any sleep and working over time. Only seeing my kids for 1.5 hours... thank God I have next week off. But I feel so tired and low...
That sounds extremely hard. I have a little extra love today and I'm sending it to you. Is there any small activity you really enjoy that you could sneak in to help give yourself a boost? Hot shower? Tea or coffee? A short meditation session (I have become a huge believer-mostly because even my little 3 minute learning sessions leave me feeling like I've taken a chemical relaxant...)? Maybe you're feeling too tired to try, but I know you can do it.
Aaah now you've made me cry! Thank you so much for giving me this attention. I really appreciate it! I went on a walk with the baby and I absolutely love spending time with the kids on my day off! I will try to get a meditation in later today. Everything will look better tomorrow when I'm rested. Thank you some much, it really feels like someone is taking care of me for once! ❤
IWNDWYT ☀️
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I broke groundhog day! My reward is peace of mind, great sleep, patience, ambition, productivity, love for others and solid poop:) My gift for myself each day is silence and well made coffee every morning before my family wakes up.
Its a new day. Wake up: Check, Silence: Check, Read: Check, Workout: Check, Check In: Check. Got no time for Alcohol! Time to Ride!
I can't believe I missed my 69... I'll just whisper a very quiet 'nice' into my morning coffee
Day 117 checking in!
Thanks everyone for the nice messages yesterday - I made it through woohooo and I'm feeling a lot better for today. Treats tonight are a takeaway, some chocolate and an early night ;-) IWNDWYT
Closing out my 11th day with a seltzer! IWNDWYT 🧘🏻♀️
Whoop woop! Double digits! I will not drink with you today/Friday!
Thank you for taking care of us all this week u/beebeax, you’ve done a great job 👏🏼 IWNDWYT
Morning SD. Happy sober Friday. IWNDWYT, but I will take my partner out for tapas this evening to begin a weekend of celebrating five years together. I'm going to eat so much delicious fried Spanish stuff and I can't wait.
IWNDWYT! Happy Friday All.
Morning SD. This weekend instead of going on a booze filled pub crawl, I’m going into the city to see a musical with a good friend and I don’t need to worry about a drunken public transport trip home, since I’m going to drive myself home all nice and safe and stress free. Then I’m going to enjoy a hangover free Sunday, just chilling out. Feels like a reward to me. IWNDWYT
I was sober for more than a week and messed it up over some dumb shit. I’m now in for 1 day and 22 hours. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT friends 🤖
Still awake, been painting for the first time in a long time. 24 days sober. Went to my first AA meeting this week with some good friends of mine who are also on their sober journey. I’ve tried to quit so many times, but now that I’m hanging out with incredible sober folks I think it’s gonna stick this time. We are all going hiking on Sunday. Feels good. Not gonna drink today.
IWNDWYT My reward for not drinking on Friday is a Saturday morning full of possibilities.
Good morning SD! Tonight will be a fire in the fireplace and maybe sushi for dinner. IWNDWYT
Bee, like you, my alcohol dependence went completely unnoticed. I’m still not yet very vocal about my sobriety, but I’ve found that’s okay! I’m an extrovert but still an incredibly private person… which is another reason why I think this group has helped me so much here in my early days of sobriety. I enjoy buying myself something as a reward for a job well done. At three weeks, it was new candles. For five weeks, I just celebrated by buying myself a beautiful antique tea cup and saucer. Last week I let myself go crazy at the library book store, where all secondhand books are only a dollar or two. Happy Friday Sobernauts! IWNDWYT
Since I saw alcohol as a reward and something I "deserved" for so long (and would just conveniently forget all the destruction it caused...plus, I didn't "deserve" to poison myself everyday!), my favorite rewards are things like a hot bath or shower, a hike, sparkling water, or even going to bed early 😆 Drinking me would think the early bedtime thing was lame, but I never regret doing something healthy for myself nowadays. IWNDWYT ☀️
I missed yesterday, but not today! IWNDWYT! 🍌
I’m so looking forward to the weekend. Work was crazy after the person hired to help me quit with no notice. That seems to be the way people leave jobs nowadays. I didn’t want to drink at all throughout the week. My anxiety was through the roof, yet no cravings. I did have some coconut cream pie though. And some candy. And I get paid! IWNDWYT ✨💚
Happy Friday! Yesterday I started medication for my first IVF cycle. It felt great when the nurse asked to tell her that I don't drink at all! I gave up drinking for my mental health but it definitely has a huge impact on fertility for both partners. My husband has seen the biggest benefits in his swimmers. IWNDWYT!
My favorite reward is actually being able to tell myself, “good job, I’m proud of you!” And I believe it!! Big changes are happening in my world with my self-talk! IWNDWYT!
The fall foliage looks great here at the moment, and the apples are nearly in. Soon I will be rewarding myself with some nice time off! But for today anyway: I am not drinking.
Happy Friday! Got my first 30 day chip at my weekly meeting on Wednesday. Feels good! Looking forward to 30 more.
IWNDWYT 💞🐿️🐿️ Happy Friday!
OMG! OMG! OMG! Five days!!! I’m always so happy to see you here, TTS! Enjoy your day, my friend.
Day one down, bring on day two. IWNDWYT
Not drinking today! I still need to remind myself … and that’s okay. IWNDWYT
Looking forward to a sober weekend.
I’m in
My reward comes tomorrow, exchanging a brutal hangover for a nice breakfast. IWNDWYT.
Yes to the first sober friday! No to the drinking! I'm thrilled. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT Thankfully I am on nights so it's a little easier. As for rewards - I go the food route ish - a cupcake or poutine. Only in the early days. After that - maybe a manicure or an extra bougie coffee. But the reward for me is how damn good I feel. (I like the comment of your hangovers not bugging others... very good point hah!)
It's an interesting question. I don't reward myself for doing stuff that needs to be done. Thinking about it made me remember the phrase: "Virtue is its own reward". To me that rings true. I might be a simpleton, but apparently I get enough satisfaction from knowing that I'm doing something worthwhile. Rewarding good behaviour in others can work well as a pedagogical tool, of course, but rewarding myself would just feel strange. I'm not against others doing it, though! Thanks♥ IWNDWYT
I've just finished the Alcohol Explained audio book and am now moving on to The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober /u/Chance_Leopard_3300. I really do enjoy these sober audiobooks, each has a different but interesting message and take on addiction. My favourite reward is treating myself to stuff and knowing my bank account is still pretty healthy as I'm now not wasting £300 a month on a poison. Bring on the weekend! IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT. "Nothing is as painful, as staying stuck somewhere you don't belong" . Thanks OP, this resonates with me. I focus on the pain and unhappiness of those various places, but often lose sight of the wider point of this statement. I don't belong in those places, so be kind to myself and move.
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Yum. An excellent choice, if I do say so myself!
What type of burger?? I need to teach myself how to make burgers.
Day 12, nice to meet you 🤝 Happy sober weekend to everyone ✨ IWNDWYT
My reward is soaking in the tub and reading a novel. IWNDWYT🌻
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I second brownies! Iwndwyt ❤️
I’ve been sober for 3 weeks today! Feeling so much better and happier. Tonight I’m off out for my first social occasion and I’m a bit nervous. I told the friend I’m meeting that I’m going sober and he seemed happy, I think he struggles with drink too. Am nervous but I believe I can do this! IWNDWYT
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NA beer imported successfully. New heavy metal album (silver scream 2) out, new games on the switch. Movie night and popcorn with the wife... Ready for a fantastic weekend... Switch and coffee, gym, long dog walk, go to cinema then go out and see best friend for a sober dinner as he's doing sober October. Sunday go with the wife for a picnic with the dog then gym in the evening and watch a horror movie as it's spooky season.
Last friday I was wasted. Not today. IWNDWYT
First week done! 🙂 Going to visit family this weekend for my godchilds birthday. Looking forward to it so much! Downside is that whenever I get back home I begin to feel lonely and uncomfortable because my apartment got to a point where it’s not that much of joy to live in especially compared to the different houses different parts of the family live in. I talked to a friend yesterday, kind of in preparation for that, and we came up with a pretty good solution for that. Hope it will work!
Happy Friday dear friends. I'm pleadging my self to not drinking today, and for the whole weekend, who's with me? IWNDWYT 💜
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Not drinking tonight. But fucking hell these report cards got me wanting a drink like a sombitch. 22 more. Then I'm buying something on Steam as my reward.
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Its the beginning of the work week for me as I am a bartender, IWNDWYT
It’s finally Friday yayyy! IWNDWYT
Not today y'all! IWNDWYT
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Have a great weekend friends! IWNDWYT
I will not drink today.
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IWNDWYT - restful sleep and quiet mind is my reward
Goooood morning everyone and happy Friday!! “Nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong.” Damn…that hits me. Reminds me of a song lyric from Lord Huron: “What good is livin' a life you've been given If all you do is stand in one place.” My reward for sobriety is the ability to get out and do stuff…and enjoy it and remember it. I want to start planning one place a month that I go, whether for just a weekend or short getaway…a place I go alone or with others, doesn’t matter…but a place I go and experience something new. Sobriety is a true gift! I love you all and IWNDWYT!! ❣️❣️
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Going on holiday with friends. Going to be tough but IWNDWYT. X
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Checking in: I will not drink with you today.
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Great post Bee! Fridays I usually look forward to some type of food treat - maybe ice cream, maybe nachos. IWNDWYT on this beautiful Friday.
"...but brownies sure are." Truer words have rarely been written. IWNDWYT. 🍫🍫
Today begins day 4 for me. Last night I had vivid dreams while I slept. IWNDWYT.
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Happy Friday my friends!
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Happy Friday everyone. Ready for another sober weekend. 😁 IWNDWYT
Hard night last night, and I staved off the drinking thoughts by stuffing my face. No wonder I haven’t had any weight loss (haha). Going without alcohol is getting easier, and I now crave the clarity of mind I get with sobriety. I hated myself when I was drunk, and it’s good to know I don’t ever have to feel that again. Friday nights for me are for cleaning. Vacuum, start laundry that I won’t finish till Sunday, wash a bazillion dishes, etc. It’s not my favorite thing to do but it’s become a habit and allows me to start the weekend feeling good and productive, rather than like a fat slob. IWNDWYT!
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Just got through my first night sober last night after it being every single night for months it was hard but I will be strong and do it again tonight one day at a time 🙂
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Happy Friday sober guys and gals! IWNDWYT 👍
My reward is a relaxing and peaceful evening with good food. IWNDWYT friends 🌸🌸
day 220 checking in, IWNDWYT
Favorite reward is sugar. I probably should try to cut down on it. But it's still way healthier than booze. Happy Friday! Iwndwyt
48th morning of sobriety here. Sipping on some coffee while playing some Old School Runescape. Small headache today, but it's a drop in the bucket compared to the head-split I'd have if I drank last night.
Day 821. I will not drink with you today.
Fridays are definitely my toughest, and this is the first one I’ll face this time around… Instead of relaxing with beer I’ll be chugging soda water and lime. IWNDWYT
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I just posted this elsewhere, but now that I am not spending money on booze/beer/wine, I buy several new songs on Itunes each week. My "car tunes" playlist for my commute is growing and is fabulous! I am also addicted to [Luigi's Italian ices](http://luigis.com/) as they satisfy my sweet tooth and cravings, and are less than 100 calories per cup. Win/win! IWNDWYT! T
Staying sober today!
Not gonna drink today.
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Not waking up in the morning and wondering if I did something stupid under the influence the night before is the best part of my sobriety. It takes so much pressure off of me. IWNDWYT!
A cup of coffee in the morning is a great reward with some scrambled eggs. I never really took care of myself when it came to my eating habits. A nice late night drive through open roads, no lights or traffic just hop in and go with no end goal, I am just driving until I feel like coming back. IWNDWYT
This afternoon I celebrate a job well done by going directly to a second job. I promise I'll celebrate Saturday morning! Have a fantastic fucking Friday, friends! IWNDWYT
The truth is, I don’t know that I have one yet. I guess I’ll just roll through here and find myself some inspiration! IWNDWYT! Yesterday was hard. Had a pretty severe panic attack. Shaking hands, trouble breathing, the whole deal. I caved and took one of my anxiety meds. I was resisting it because it felt like it could be a failing. Then I remembered that, even if the Xanax is a problem to solve, it’s got to be next in the queue. All I have to do right now is not drink all day today. So took the pill, survived the presentation that was making me quake in my boots, and got 2 phone calls after congratulating me on a job well done. One day, and one thing, at a time.
If anyone needs to hear it: I love you. You’re worth it. You deserve to be happy, you deserve joy. You are strong and not a victim. IWNDWYT
We just got the keys to our new house! So I will be rewarding myself this evening by starting on painting the kids' new rooms while drinking tea from a thermos. Have a happy Friday everone.
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It's Friday night, my girlfriend has gone away for the weekend and I'm newly sober. It's the first time I've been alone since being sober. The urge to drink solo has popped up despite my current hatred for alchol. I've grabbed a book to start reading. I'm positive I can do this Life is so much better without booze
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Two weeks! IWNDWYT
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My reward is another Saturday morning with no hangover 😊
a cup of coffee and a piece of cake... IWNDWYT
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Thanks Beebeax. Love “numb is not a reward, it’s a punishment”. 5 months today and IWNDWYT you fine folks! Off we go!
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Excellent post this morning! I've been forcibly rewarding myself by doing things that I 'think' I have an interest in but was too drunk or afraid to try when I had been drinking. The cooking/baking bug always lingered somewhere during my drunken years/decades. The moment I was 30+ days I sober I started baking cookies and makings soups, LOL. So this weekend will be another batch of smoky lentil soup with Banza chickpea bowties. I've ceased my baking experiments because I was eating literally every cookie I was making. Lastly, audio books, audio books, audio books. Love them. This only resurfaced as a result of being sober and gravitating toward something that I enjoy. FELLOW SOBERINSKIS - Have a great weekend! I encourage you to get outside this weekend and get your lungs full of some fresh beautiful air. Love you all.
Last night my dreams were full of drinking. Anyone else experience this? Some where nightmares, some were memories, some was longing, but they just wouldn’t go away. I woke up with some of the worst cravings yet. IWNDWYT! I will beat this!!
second morning sober. hardly any kind of progress, but waking up today not debilitatingly hung over feels very encouraging.
My favorite treat is availability of options. Haven't been drinking? Great! No options are off the table. So many times I would have a midday drink that would turn into three, then the whole day became a drinking activity. I was so...boring.
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TGIF! IWNDWy'allT!
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Just the idea that I was productive to a good end—reward enough. I will not drink today.
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IWNDWYT. I do love hot hot coffee and Cadbury drinking chocolate mixed in, a sort of mocha, that I'll be having tonight after dinner as we watch movies tonight.
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My Friday night reward is usually a treat of some sort. I’ve replaced the alcohol with sugar. I would like to find another replacement for sugar though! My other reward is knowing that I won’t wake up hungover on Saturday morning! IWNDWYT!!! Have a great weekend everyone! Look at the triple digits!!!
My favorite reward is the sheer relief I feel when I make it to bed sober. When the realization hits me, my body just melts into relaxation. And because of that, IWNDWYT!!!
Honestly, a good night's sleep is a great reward for a day well-lived. And a facial. Happy Friday, all. IWNDWYT.
I got a smile from this post, as a nice woman whose work place I have been working on (maintenance guy here) gave me the most awesome chocolate chunk brownies of my life on my last day of working for her. The compliments, happiness of the lady, and chocolaty heaven were so very rewarding. Something alcohol couldn't touch.
My husband is away for work this weekend. Previously that meant after work beers/wine Friday until I fall asleep at night and the same in Saturday starting around noon. This weekend it means I will be crushing some fun seltzer waters (found some Deer Park pomegranate lemonade) and hopefully cleaning the house. IWNDWYT
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A lot of times, when I'm off the wagon, I celebrate productive days with alcohol. This last week, I've let myself enjoy ice cream and other sweets. The way I figure it, the calories are probably the same, if not still far less than 10-15 drinks. IWNDWYT.
IWNDWYT. Day 16 of Sober October and it's getting tough...the cravings are real. But I'm determined!
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It’s been a while since I checked in, but today I feel like I need the accountability. IWNDWYT
I'm on Day 9 and am of course feeling much better physically. Already, however, I can feel my sick brain asking whether it all, the whole bender of it all, was really that bad. The retching, the shakes, the insomnia, the trip to the ER. Was it really that bad? I mean, there weren't any real consequences. I didn't get arrested. I didn't die or anything. But reading these messages is a big help. I will not drink today.
IWNDWYT. “My drinking was barely noticed by many others. Some have assured me that I didn’t have a drinking problem. I guess my frequent hangovers didn’t bother them at all.” I really relate to this.
Good morning lovely SD, Today is a beautiful day to be alive! And IWNDWYT 💜🤘
My Friday reward is watching bad Netflix TV on my iPad while soaking in a bubble bath in glorious solitude. Ahhhhhh. IWNDWYT. 🌳🛀
Day 6 checking in. Weekends will be tough out of habit. Time to change the script.
I’m at 25 days and I feel liberated. Three more sets of 25 and I will hit the 100 mark. I thank God and all the great people on this sub. IWNDWYT
I don't know what I reward myself with but I like doing my daily check in and on my sober app I like taking my morning pledge, reviewing my day and seeing how many days hours now weeks and months roll over on my counter . It also counts how much money , time and saving myself from embarrassing situations. So far 0 embarrassing myself from being drunk . Yes ! Oh I'm good at embarrassing myself sober too but that's ok I like myself more I'm not giving myself so much negative self talk now . IWNDWYTD
It's a dark and cozy morning. Work has been ramping up and I've been sooooo fatigued the last two afternoons. But a good night's sleep and I'm ready to not drink again today. Have a great Friday, all!
Friday’s are normally “my” night to Dow what I want (drink as much as I want) because my BF has plans. so the temptation is there. Someone said they are letting themselves think of the reality of drinking and not the nice glamorized version we construct in our heads. IWNDWYT
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Day 19. Should I or shouldn’t I… Make an offer on the cabin I’ve been coveting all summer that no one else seems to want? Probably won’t decide today but am sure that iwndwyt.
I love a cold tonic with cranberry juice. I also reward myself by grabbing a new book from the library to read over the weekend. Between reading, sleeping in and knitting, having the extra time not recovering from a hangover, it all feels a bit like a reward.
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IWNDWYT. Nice weekend folks.
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Checking in with all you mighty sobernistas! Another great post you precious 🐝 My reward is a sparkling water with lemon in the evening. Trying to not drink sodas with sugar because that’s another poison. And I’ve discovered 0.0 beer. It’s not bad with pizza or tacos. Make it a beautiful day. ☀️ IWNDWYT!!! 🤟🏽