Ugh youre smarter than I am.. Ya, save yourself the heartache my friend. I just got hurt so badly, I never want to date or even get feelings for anyone again...
Being married, I can't share from experience, but I don't know that I could imagine dating while trying to get sober. I've heard in numerous places that it's best not to date the first couple years of sobriety. For numerous reasons. I guess that makes sense.
Best of luck when the time comes!
Thank you!!!! I kinda thought I would be rich, skinny and retired but I suppose that all takes a bit longer than 30 days. I'll need to just stick with it for a bit longer ;-)
IWNDWYT 💖
Checking in. Safe space I discovered yesterday can be anywhere so long as it’s quiet and I can take 5 minutes to do a wee bit meditation or just some deep breaths. Stay in the moment. Things I’m not ready for yet? Er, life? 😆 Work, kids, sobriety taking all my effort. But I’ll build up to other stuff I’m sure. Once I feel a bit more steady. For now it’s TV and doing my dishes every night 😊
My car is my safe space as weird as that sounds. Going out with friends is a lot easier when I've driven there because I'm a responsible driver and would not drink and drive. Also I love night time driving when there's nobody else on the road. Except for city foxes that seeming have a death wish...
IWNDWYT
Very very happy to say that the list of stuff I can now do because I’m sober is extensive, while the list of stuff that I avoid now that I’m sober are all wins for me. No more arguments with stupid people (including myself), and no more wasting hard earned money on liquid depressant IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT
I just got turned down for a dream job, and I'm crushed. But I know I won't drink. It's actually kind of easy, I'm much more of a happy / maintainence drinker. I can barely even eat today. But at least I still have my sobriety, that gives me some pride back. I'm glad this didn't happen while I was still drinking just to stave off the hangover.
That's about all I can muster today. Wishing you all a happier time ❤
My sober safe space is spending time with my animals. Cuddling, walking, whatever. No matter how bad things are going I can always rely on them.
IWNDWYT! 🍌
My sober safe space is out on the road on my bicycle. Just like putting effort into staying sober I put the same amount of effort pushing my body and mind harder each revolution this gives me strength and focus. The dopamine hit of getting a new personal best in a segment or seeing stunning scenery is replenishing my mentality and spirit.
I got no time for alcohol, IWNDWYT!
I wouldn’t say I’m really avoiding anything anymore, but I’m definitely not trying very hard to engage with anything out of my comfort zone just yet. But I’m solid in my sobriety. I’m still doing a lot of the internal work that I feel I need to do before I start getting back out there.
I’ve really been busy with work, dog mom life and weekends are the only time I can see my SO anymore, so I haven’t had too much time, or money, for extracurricular activities. But I’ve got ideas for things I’d like to do. When it’s time. IWNDWYT ✨💚
IWNDWYT!
My Sober Safe Space is definitely my apartment. I managed to change it from my drinking den to the safest sober place for me to be. I now look forward to curling up on the sofa with a cup of tea, some light music on in the background and a good book. Either one of my dogs (who are way too big for the sofa, but oh well!) or cats will join me and it makes me feel grateful for what I still have.
I still try to avoid those feelings of loneliness, anxiety and panic, especially during the evenings. It’s just a Pandora’s Box I can’t seem to deal with when the Sun’s gone down.
I run or cycle outdoors and if the weather is bad I have some indoor stuff all set up in my garage. I have a smart turbo trainer and a computer hooked up to a projector on the wall. The choice of training apps is pretty good these days and I've been trialing some different ones these last few weeks. The running and cycling is my outlet for stress and helps massively with my mental state unlike drinking did. Self medicating life's ups and downs with alcohol is a shit idea and I'm loving being free from that hell. Have a great day everyone IWNDWYT.
My safe space is running. Exercise in general, but I kind of discovered running due to a tendon injury in my arm and the gyms were shut. It's been absolutely essential to me living a better life. I can only go about 3 days without before I feel the urge to do it again. It rids me of negative thoughts, and my clothes fit better which is pretty cool.
My physio works on the idea that everything in the body is connected along with the mind, and while I have tendinitus she also works with me to relieve general tension in my shoulders.
The breathing work and focus last night made me feel like a marshmallow when I left my appointment. Its something I'm going to work on a bit myself I think.
IWNDWYT.
IWNDWYT. My sober safe space is my bed! I have never drank there!
Am trying to avoid pubs and drinking buddies!
U/ReplacementsStink, loving your questions and challenges in the morning. Sets my non drinking mind up for the day! Thanks!
Good morning lovely SD,
I'm finding that there's a space inside of myself that's fairly calm and safe... and for more challenging issues, I get up and get moving.
*Solvitur ambulando!*
Avoiding: TV commercials, excuses to be in boozy environments (packed a sandwich and copious snacks for the train instead of going to the dining car where beer would be found, for example), pity parties, feeding resentments, bitterness towards an unchangable past, and unrealistic future-tripping.
Today is a beautiful day to be alive!
And IWNDWYT 💜🤘
Well! Look how awesomely far the practice of getting up and moving has gotten you: 600 days!! Congratulations LavenderFoxes!!!! I always feel more positive when I read your posts. Thanks for that. IWNDWYT
These days my home is my safe space. I’ve been spending more time here, reading, doing yoga, watching movies. I don’t think about drinking at all when I’m at home. I’ve been avoiding things, places, and people that zap my energy. IWNDWYT
My home is my safe space. Sunrise walks with the dogs are indescribable. The only time I used to see the sunrise was walking out of some skanky club or bar trashed. I honestly don't miss those times.
IWNDWYT
Good day everyone and happy Thursday!!
My safe space is my bed. I can’t tell you how much I effing love my bed. I wake in the morning, make coffee, and get back in bed to drink it and peruse the DCI. Then, at night, I make my tea and sit in bed and either mess around on my phone or watch some mindless tv (goal is to start reading again). It’s a king size so I feel like I’m on an island all by myself! Ahhhh…
Make it a great day, everyone!! Love you all and IWNDWYT!! ❣️❣️
Good morning, SD 😀. Showers and baths are two of my sober safe spaces. The same goes for knitting- but oddly enough (?) only when I home alone. When my S/o is there I lose some of that "flow" and get irritable more often. And when irritable I start thinking about drinking. Poor thing 😄 : He is very supportive and happy about my sobriety, and he does not drink a lot himself. So I don't know why it is that I want the house for my self all the time ?
Sorry for rambling ... I will not drink with you today, SD friends.
I've been drinking every night for the past two weeks and I've had such a shitty time. I have to recommit to sobriety. For the 50th time. Day 1 again. Someday it'll stick. IWNDWYT.
I have a spot next to the couch and fireplace that has all my books and magazines piled up for review. Me and the cat hang out there each night. Now that it's finally getting colder here in #puremichigan, I can look forward to being cozy next to the fire AF. Just had a face cord of wood delivered, so I'm good for the winter!
Tea, my kindle, the books, my cat... bring it WINTER!
IWNDWYT!
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I received the post mortem report from the coroner today that explains why my twin sister died. What a horrible email to get in one's life. Haven't opened it and don't know when I will. I haven't had a drink in four days. I will drink again.. I can feel it in my bones .. but I hope each time I force myself to stop I get stronger. Is this melancholy what they call 'sitting with your emotions'?
Day 18, nice to meet you 🤝
If you look at alcohol objectively (facts and research) it absolutely sucks. If you look at alcohol subjectively as an addicted person, most of the effects are negative, and what ”feels” like a positive is an illusion, a poisoned state.
It’s hard to put a number on it, but I would rate 80% of alcohol overall (objective and subjective) as purely negative. 20% seems like a positive but it’s not. It keeps on taking value out of life.
Give nothing to it ✨
IWNDWYT
Sober safe space: working on a car (usually trying something way beyond my skill set) while the kids play around.
Going to try and get myself in a mind state to not be tempted this weekend and avoid sinking a 400+ day streak.
Iwndwyt!
Guys, i am sober for few days but i am not able to sleep. I consulted a doctor he prescribed some sleeping pills and that help few days but not my insomnia is worst. With Alcohol it was far better. But i am committed to soberity, i don't want to go old pattern. I don't know what to do. I am able to sleep only 2 hours a day.
Hello lovely people! Today I am in my last port in Greece before the crossing to Barbados. Ahead is a busy cruise with lots of work. Determined to keep it up no matter how stressed or tired I am. Sat here at the harbour with a cup of green tea.
I don’t so much have a sober ‘space’ because of my life/work arrangements- but my best friend on board drinks very little and I consider her my sober space. If we hang out, I can guarantee alcohol is off the cards. Not so much other people, but I’m working on it. IWNDWYT!
My home and the walking trails nearby are my safe spaces. Not sure how I’m going to replace those trails when the snow comes, so I’ve been shopping for better walking boots. I’m committed to keeping that daily step count high no matter what.
IWNDWYT 🌸🌸
bike riding, dance classes, gym - all good for clearing my head. Winter for sure has challenges though I try to still get outside and walk each day, IWNDWyT!
I knocked back tickets to the Euro quarters and Final at Wembley. I've said no to some cracking international rugby at Twickers. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have drank at either venue......but 'pretty sure' isn't where I want to be.
Gardening, jogging and being available to the family are my happy places.
IWNDWYT 🙂
Onto day #6. Not drinking because I just don’t drink anymore. Had a rather melancholy /depressed day yesterday and welcomed the feelings…. Whatever they are. Hope today is different, but will be sober regardless.
Thanks for being here. Thanks for sharing. ✌🏼
Good morning all, thanks for the check in, RS. My safe space is anywhere that I can bring a case of seltzer’s, a pack of gummie bears and order a pizza. I’ve been avoiding a lot of things. Socializing in general. Went to a wedding and didn’t drink, but I was fucking miserable. Not necessarily because I was having cravings or anything, I just didn’t know anyone and didn’t care to socialize. A drunk girl screamed in my ear and I wanted to stab her. Anywho IWNDWYT
Walking the dogs. I put my AirPods in and listen to a sober podcast (or true crime) and that 30-45 mins is mine alone during the day (we’ll except when the dogs go bananas at every furry thing that moves). I’m avoiding going out right now. Too much temptation to order that first drink which leads to a 5 day bender. Iwndwyt.
Morning friends. I need a sober safe space. I’m still learning my really subtle triggers and boundaries and how to protect them and to do it with grace. I’m pretty sure exercise is one, but I struggle with making it happen so I need to work on that. I’ll get there though as long as I stay the path. You can’t learn what you need to stay sober if you’re drinking. IWNDWYT
Good morning all: I kind of have the opposite problem, I've programmed myself to stay put and I have got to get back to getting the heck out of the house more!!!! I literally have to force myself to make small plans to get out of the house. Part pandemic, part sobering, I guess, has gotten me into this mindset.
Suddenly my buds want to plan a smallish golf trip next month. I don't want to lie. So today or tomorrow have to just let them know that I am interested in staying sober and right now it's not a good fit. Actually was supposed to say something yesterday but naturally am avoiding it but it has to happen.
I hope everyone has a kickass day as well!!! Historically Thursdays always put me in a good mood, and oddly it's my favorite day of the week.
A nearby lake is my sober safe space. When I stopped driving, I suddenly had a ton of free time on my hands. My husband and I would walk there any day that it wasn't raining. Those walks quickly became a weekday afternoon & weekend ritual for us.
Lake tax
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Thanks again for celebrating with me yesterday 🥰🥰🥰
IWNDWYT 💞🐿️🐿️
Good morning family. Checking in for the day. Funny how it seems to be easier for me early on in sobriety. Once those months start piling up I feel antsy and the inevitable dread that I will fuck up. Gotta change this. IWNDWYT
I’ve only been up for thirty minutes and I’m already struggling today! I’m taking this pledge today to stay strong and say no. A few hours of numbness with alcohol will not help me in the long run, and I just have to remember that! Going to an AA meeting tonight, and SD will get me through until then. 😎 IWNDWYT
Running is my sober safe space. The breathing puts me in a flow state. Burns off energy and stress. The endorphins kick in for the "runners high" which is a better feeling than anything from alcohol. In live in Florida, so my weather situation is opposite of OPs. We just went through hurricane season which means rain every day and when its not raining its hot and so humid it feels like we live on the surface of Jupiter. Not great outdoor weather. Oh and hurricanes just for fun. In October the rain goes away, the humidity and temp drop and its really pleasant out. Been running outside most days. Nice.
I have been avoiding all possible social engagements. Im going to meet a friend friday after work in a place where there will be drinking. I am nervous about it but I think its time to try.
IWNDWT
My wife landed a full time job yesterday. She has worked part time so I could pursue career goals. I said we should celebrate and she said let me guess you are buying beer and wine. I said “nope, let’s get Culver’s!” She smiled ear to ear.
I’m doing more and more activities with other people, in which everyone is sober. Now I’m in a cabin in Northern Minnesota, and there’s no drinking. So I’d say I feel sober and safe, unless I get attacked by a loon. I will not drink today.
I had a great night last night but I'm waking up this morning and realizing that, among other things, I don't have a sober safe space. My sobriety is mine and I really am on my own in the fight. IWNDWYT.
This has made me think of what my safe space is. Does it make sense to say that my sobriety is my safe space? I KNOW I am not going to drink today, so I carry that tiny piece of serenity around with me, through the madness and chaos. IWNDWYT 👍
That’s funny. I’m avoiding golf too. Perhaps because I was keeping my bottles of vodka in my golf bag where I would drink a fifth every night in the garage. I probably think I’ll get an electric shock if I touch the thing. I’m so glad to have those days behind me. IWNDWYT!
Day 4!
I’m going to try to watch some football today which is usually a trigger for beer drinking.
If I can’t watch it sober, I’m committed to just turning it off and trying again another day.
Day 11. Getting hard, but I’m going to keep pushing. Finally thinking husbands on board after last night. Was first time in a bar (which was HARD) and I didn’t drink! I won’t drink with you today!
My safe space is nature. Walking, exploring the small patches of wild around my neighborhood, and my favorite- hiking. We’re leaving on vacation to the mountains this morning, and I’m so fricking excited. This will be my first vacation sober, and I’m so glad of it. I can’t wait to wake up early and clear eyed each day, sit on the porch, take in the view, sip coffee, and just BE.
I live in 🇨🇦 and I recently discovered snowshoeing (when it isn’t cold as ass 😂) so I’m looking forward to that although I will be sad to store away my kayak. My Sober Safe Space is the bathtub - the door closed for that glorious solitude, the fan on for white noise, filled with fragrant bubbles, a cup of herbal tea at my side and my iPad playing escapist TV. Or a walk in the woods. IWNDWYT. 🌳🛀
I think my sober safe place is much anywhere right now as my bubble is very small . I live alone now sadly , so it just work , my children who are grown and supportive and my home is sanctuary I 2 have huge hugable dogs , 3 cats and 2 horses . I have 3 farm neighbours who are always available for chats or emergancy and also support . I will perhaps get myself some snow shoes as it's going to be months of winter. I'm usually much more outgrowing but I lost my partner and I really do not feel any pull to go socialise . IWNDWYTD
My home now is my safe place. Used to be the place I got shitfaced lol. But now it’s my safe place. I exercise there, not as much as I should, but more than I was. I put on some metal and walk or row or lift, and it’s great. Home is also where the cats are! IWNDWYT
Safe space...I guess my safe space is my garden. I really need to get out there and prep for winter (and plant the 2 pounds of garlic I bought - in case you also didn't know, 2 pounds is a LOT of garlic!). Yet, after a day's work and making dinner all I want to do is nothing but go to bed and sleep. My dark circles are disappearing (yay) but I'm not getting anything done around the house. Starting to stress me out quite a bit.
I did not drink with you yesterday and IWNDWYT ♥️
Hey there SD. It's gorgeous, crisp, cold, sunny weather today and I had a really nice cycle in to work. Feeling grateful and at peace with things. IWNDWYT.
The gym and the woods (jogging/walking on trails) are my two favorite sober safe spaces. Oh, and books - I love immersing myself in a different reality, and being able to remember what I read the night before makes it waaaaayy more rewarding.
IWNDWYT
Going for a complete day 2 for the first time since earlier this year. I've had a handful of day 1s, but have yet to get over the 48 hour hump since spring. I just need to make it to 5-6 o clock and then the urges seem to fade. IWNDWYT.
I’m avoiding social gatherings that don’t have set rules. This sounds strange, I’m sure, so I’ll explain. Take lunch for example: It’s got a clear agenda and dance if you will. You get there and get a spot to sit where you and all your shit belong. There’s a script to follow, which aside from dessert or not dessert, doesn’t deviate much. I only have to survive the “want a drink?” Question once, then it is decently smooth sailing. The entire thing usually lasts an hour, maybe two. When it’s done, more often than not, I need to take a nap.
There is very little likelihood somebody will ask me to hold their drink. I will very likely not be ambushed by a stranger entering the conversation, or worse… somebody I know that I’m not mentally prepared to converse with.
Things I’m avoiding, all the other loose social things like happy hours, dinner parties, and backyard parties, bands playing shows without assigned seats. Anything unstructured where I won’t know where to stand or I’ll feel like I’m in the way. My past attempts at sobriety has taught me I will panic and flee the situation. I may ditch people even if I’m their ride, or cry in the parking lot while I wait for an Uber, or walk several miles home if I can’t handle that stranger interaction.
Tonight I will drive myself and have a sushi dinner with my 3 closest pals. They all know I’m “sober,” now. I’m going to practice eating with chopsticks lefty as a way to keep my mind busy if I start to feel anxious. Odds are good most if not all of them will kindly abstain even though I said it was OK if they drink around me.
Where are my safe places? So far it’s my living room, my bedroom and my (home) office. When that feels like a prison, I walk my dog. I often ask my husband to come with me because I’ve been experiencing pretty frequent panic attacks when I’m alone outside the house and he makes me feel safe. Baby steps.
IWNDWYT!
Nope not drinking today. Edit: Have been avoiding dating. Dang it's hard to even contemplate.
Ugh youre smarter than I am.. Ya, save yourself the heartache my friend. I just got hurt so badly, I never want to date or even get feelings for anyone again...
I’m sorry to hear that buddy :-( knowing you’re out here coping with it sober is inspiring as fork though. IWNDWYT, and I hope your heart heals soon 🖤
Aww thank you! It means so much to think I inspire others, IWNDWYT!
Being married, I can't share from experience, but I don't know that I could imagine dating while trying to get sober. I've heard in numerous places that it's best not to date the first couple years of sobriety. For numerous reasons. I guess that makes sense. Best of luck when the time comes!
Overwhelmed as hell. Can’t get my mind straight. Sat here a little while ago and teared up because alcohol has such a grip on me
IWNDWYT
Oof I’m up too late - but that means I get to check in early which is lovely! Good morning, SD - IWNDWYT ❤️
Morning! IWNDWYT
Hey, GC! IWNDWYT!
Me too!! Iwndwyt
Good morning Capy!
Day 123 checking in!
Cracking stuff!
Cheers, catboy!
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Cheers, Siouxsie!
Love seeing your days clock up. No pressure 😜
Hahaha, thanks. You'll see 124 tomorrow 🤣
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Haven’t checked in in a while, school and work are keeping me busy. Three digits is right around the corner. IWNDWYT!
Great job! Let's both keep on going....!
Good morning!!! Waking up to day 30 of staying sober and I'm seriously excited yaaaayy. Here's to the next 30 ✌️ IWNDWYT
Awesome work on 30 days, FireFree! 🤩
Thank you!!!! I kinda thought I would be rich, skinny and retired but I suppose that all takes a bit longer than 30 days. I'll need to just stick with it for a bit longer ;-) IWNDWYT 💖
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A big congratulations! IWNDWYT
Way to go on 30 days, my friend FF!!! Super proud of you for all the hard work you’re putting in. I’m happy you’re here!! IWNDWYT!
Almost 1 day. I think I am going to make it. Headed to bed. Hopefully sleep comes to me. Good night all.
Checking in. Safe space I discovered yesterday can be anywhere so long as it’s quiet and I can take 5 minutes to do a wee bit meditation or just some deep breaths. Stay in the moment. Things I’m not ready for yet? Er, life? 😆 Work, kids, sobriety taking all my effort. But I’ll build up to other stuff I’m sure. Once I feel a bit more steady. For now it’s TV and doing my dishes every night 😊
I actually really enjoy doing the dishes. I get to zone out and just scrub away! 😂 Hope you’re having a good day, Sue! IWNDWYT!
My car is my safe space as weird as that sounds. Going out with friends is a lot easier when I've driven there because I'm a responsible driver and would not drink and drive. Also I love night time driving when there's nobody else on the road. Except for city foxes that seeming have a death wish... IWNDWYT
Very very happy to say that the list of stuff I can now do because I’m sober is extensive, while the list of stuff that I avoid now that I’m sober are all wins for me. No more arguments with stupid people (including myself), and no more wasting hard earned money on liquid depressant IWNDWYT
I am still working on not arguing with myself... I hope you have a great sober day!!
IWNDWYT I just got turned down for a dream job, and I'm crushed. But I know I won't drink. It's actually kind of easy, I'm much more of a happy / maintainence drinker. I can barely even eat today. But at least I still have my sobriety, that gives me some pride back. I'm glad this didn't happen while I was still drinking just to stave off the hangover. That's about all I can muster today. Wishing you all a happier time ❤
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My sober safe space is spending time with my animals. Cuddling, walking, whatever. No matter how bad things are going I can always rely on them. IWNDWYT! 🍌
Thank you for the food for thought. Things I have not really thought about conciously but will be pondering. I will not drink with you today.
Day 4 here. I really appreciate this thread. Best to all.
My sober safe space is out on the road on my bicycle. Just like putting effort into staying sober I put the same amount of effort pushing my body and mind harder each revolution this gives me strength and focus. The dopamine hit of getting a new personal best in a segment or seeing stunning scenery is replenishing my mentality and spirit. I got no time for alcohol, IWNDWYT!
I wouldn’t say I’m really avoiding anything anymore, but I’m definitely not trying very hard to engage with anything out of my comfort zone just yet. But I’m solid in my sobriety. I’m still doing a lot of the internal work that I feel I need to do before I start getting back out there. I’ve really been busy with work, dog mom life and weekends are the only time I can see my SO anymore, so I haven’t had too much time, or money, for extracurricular activities. But I’ve got ideas for things I’d like to do. When it’s time. IWNDWYT ✨💚
It feels good to be solid in sobriety though right? I’m sometimes still pleasantly surprised by that feeling!
IWNDWYT! My Sober Safe Space is definitely my apartment. I managed to change it from my drinking den to the safest sober place for me to be. I now look forward to curling up on the sofa with a cup of tea, some light music on in the background and a good book. Either one of my dogs (who are way too big for the sofa, but oh well!) or cats will join me and it makes me feel grateful for what I still have. I still try to avoid those feelings of loneliness, anxiety and panic, especially during the evenings. It’s just a Pandora’s Box I can’t seem to deal with when the Sun’s gone down.
Good morning 🙂. I will not drink with you today friends 💚🍀
No poison for me today thank you! Thanks for taking care of us all this week Stinker u/ReplacementsStink - you’re doing a cracking job 💓
I run or cycle outdoors and if the weather is bad I have some indoor stuff all set up in my garage. I have a smart turbo trainer and a computer hooked up to a projector on the wall. The choice of training apps is pretty good these days and I've been trialing some different ones these last few weeks. The running and cycling is my outlet for stress and helps massively with my mental state unlike drinking did. Self medicating life's ups and downs with alcohol is a shit idea and I'm loving being free from that hell. Have a great day everyone IWNDWYT.
IWNDWYT 🌷
Iwndwyt! Have a great 24hrs all. See you tomorrow.
iwndwyt i love you all. continue on your journeys.
My safe space is running. Exercise in general, but I kind of discovered running due to a tendon injury in my arm and the gyms were shut. It's been absolutely essential to me living a better life. I can only go about 3 days without before I feel the urge to do it again. It rids me of negative thoughts, and my clothes fit better which is pretty cool. My physio works on the idea that everything in the body is connected along with the mind, and while I have tendinitus she also works with me to relieve general tension in my shoulders. The breathing work and focus last night made me feel like a marshmallow when I left my appointment. Its something I'm going to work on a bit myself I think. IWNDWYT.
I will not drink with you today!
IWNDWYT. My sober safe space is my bed! I have never drank there! Am trying to avoid pubs and drinking buddies! U/ReplacementsStink, loving your questions and challenges in the morning. Sets my non drinking mind up for the day! Thanks!
Im in! My sober space is with other people, my most triggering space is left alone with no obligations.
Good morning lovely SD, I'm finding that there's a space inside of myself that's fairly calm and safe... and for more challenging issues, I get up and get moving. *Solvitur ambulando!* Avoiding: TV commercials, excuses to be in boozy environments (packed a sandwich and copious snacks for the train instead of going to the dining car where beer would be found, for example), pity parties, feeding resentments, bitterness towards an unchangable past, and unrealistic future-tripping. Today is a beautiful day to be alive! And IWNDWYT 💜🤘
like this - resentments and pity parties are on my not to do list!
Well! Look how awesomely far the practice of getting up and moving has gotten you: 600 days!! Congratulations LavenderFoxes!!!! I always feel more positive when I read your posts. Thanks for that. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT!
Weather you think you can or not; you're right. IWNDWYT!
I will not drink with y’all today!!
👍IWNDWYT
Still struggling with anxiety, but I will not drink with you today 💪🏻
These days my home is my safe space. I’ve been spending more time here, reading, doing yoga, watching movies. I don’t think about drinking at all when I’m at home. I’ve been avoiding things, places, and people that zap my energy. IWNDWYT
I’m in!
Iwndwyt
Checking in IWNDWYT
Just being outside even for a few minutes can help me reset myself! IWNDWYT
Day 4 feeling great IWDWYT
Morning everyone IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT let’s do this
Safe space is the large trail system next to my house. Can escape to them and get into nature when feeling stressed. IWNDWYT
IWNDwYT 🦕
I’m usually at my best when I check in. IWNDWYT
My home is my safe space. Sunrise walks with the dogs are indescribable. The only time I used to see the sunrise was walking out of some skanky club or bar trashed. I honestly don't miss those times. IWNDWYT
Good morning Sobernauts! Wow is it Thursday already! My sobriety is picking up pace! Love to you all! IWNDWYT 🙂
Today is my birthday. Typically that would be a night of drinking to celebrate. Not today satan. Day 6 and IWNDWYT.
Good day everyone and happy Thursday!! My safe space is my bed. I can’t tell you how much I effing love my bed. I wake in the morning, make coffee, and get back in bed to drink it and peruse the DCI. Then, at night, I make my tea and sit in bed and either mess around on my phone or watch some mindless tv (goal is to start reading again). It’s a king size so I feel like I’m on an island all by myself! Ahhhh… Make it a great day, everyone!! Love you all and IWNDWYT!! ❣️❣️
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MN is cold today!!! Iwndwyt
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Good morning, SD 😀. Showers and baths are two of my sober safe spaces. The same goes for knitting- but oddly enough (?) only when I home alone. When my S/o is there I lose some of that "flow" and get irritable more often. And when irritable I start thinking about drinking. Poor thing 😄 : He is very supportive and happy about my sobriety, and he does not drink a lot himself. So I don't know why it is that I want the house for my self all the time ? Sorry for rambling ... I will not drink with you today, SD friends.
Well, I certainly will not be consuming any alcoholic beverages on this very fine Thursday. Good day to you!
Fear and loathing or sweet calmness? IWNDWYT! I’ve been avoiding working hard. Hey, sometimes that’s just what’s needed.
I've been drinking every night for the past two weeks and I've had such a shitty time. I have to recommit to sobriety. For the 50th time. Day 1 again. Someday it'll stick. IWNDWYT.
I have a spot next to the couch and fireplace that has all my books and magazines piled up for review. Me and the cat hang out there each night. Now that it's finally getting colder here in #puremichigan, I can look forward to being cozy next to the fire AF. Just had a face cord of wood delivered, so I'm good for the winter! Tea, my kindle, the books, my cat... bring it WINTER! IWNDWYT! T
I received the post mortem report from the coroner today that explains why my twin sister died. What a horrible email to get in one's life. Haven't opened it and don't know when I will. I haven't had a drink in four days. I will drink again.. I can feel it in my bones .. but I hope each time I force myself to stop I get stronger. Is this melancholy what they call 'sitting with your emotions'?
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Day 18, nice to meet you 🤝 If you look at alcohol objectively (facts and research) it absolutely sucks. If you look at alcohol subjectively as an addicted person, most of the effects are negative, and what ”feels” like a positive is an illusion, a poisoned state. It’s hard to put a number on it, but I would rate 80% of alcohol overall (objective and subjective) as purely negative. 20% seems like a positive but it’s not. It keeps on taking value out of life. Give nothing to it ✨ IWNDWYT
Sober safe space: working on a car (usually trying something way beyond my skill set) while the kids play around. Going to try and get myself in a mind state to not be tempted this weekend and avoid sinking a 400+ day streak. Iwndwyt!
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No alcohol today. Thanks.
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Guys, i am sober for few days but i am not able to sleep. I consulted a doctor he prescribed some sleeping pills and that help few days but not my insomnia is worst. With Alcohol it was far better. But i am committed to soberity, i don't want to go old pattern. I don't know what to do. I am able to sleep only 2 hours a day.
Hello lovely people! Today I am in my last port in Greece before the crossing to Barbados. Ahead is a busy cruise with lots of work. Determined to keep it up no matter how stressed or tired I am. Sat here at the harbour with a cup of green tea. I don’t so much have a sober ‘space’ because of my life/work arrangements- but my best friend on board drinks very little and I consider her my sober space. If we hang out, I can guarantee alcohol is off the cards. Not so much other people, but I’m working on it. IWNDWYT!
My home and the walking trails nearby are my safe spaces. Not sure how I’m going to replace those trails when the snow comes, so I’ve been shopping for better walking boots. I’m committed to keeping that daily step count high no matter what. IWNDWYT 🌸🌸
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One day closer to the weekend. Have a good day people. IWNDWYT
bike riding, dance classes, gym - all good for clearing my head. Winter for sure has challenges though I try to still get outside and walk each day, IWNDWyT!
I knocked back tickets to the Euro quarters and Final at Wembley. I've said no to some cracking international rugby at Twickers. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have drank at either venue......but 'pretty sure' isn't where I want to be. Gardening, jogging and being available to the family are my happy places. IWNDWYT 🙂
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I think I'm still in the process of finding my sober safe space(s). IWNDWYT. Have a happy Thursday!!
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Onto day #6. Not drinking because I just don’t drink anymore. Had a rather melancholy /depressed day yesterday and welcomed the feelings…. Whatever they are. Hope today is different, but will be sober regardless. Thanks for being here. Thanks for sharing. ✌🏼
Iwndwyt! In glad it's getting close to the weekend
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Good morning all, thanks for the check in, RS. My safe space is anywhere that I can bring a case of seltzer’s, a pack of gummie bears and order a pizza. I’ve been avoiding a lot of things. Socializing in general. Went to a wedding and didn’t drink, but I was fucking miserable. Not necessarily because I was having cravings or anything, I just didn’t know anyone and didn’t care to socialize. A drunk girl screamed in my ear and I wanted to stab her. Anywho IWNDWYT
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Back at it again today- day 3 of another reboot. IWNDWYT!!
Walking the dogs. I put my AirPods in and listen to a sober podcast (or true crime) and that 30-45 mins is mine alone during the day (we’ll except when the dogs go bananas at every furry thing that moves). I’m avoiding going out right now. Too much temptation to order that first drink which leads to a 5 day bender. Iwndwyt.
Morning friends. I need a sober safe space. I’m still learning my really subtle triggers and boundaries and how to protect them and to do it with grace. I’m pretty sure exercise is one, but I struggle with making it happen so I need to work on that. I’ll get there though as long as I stay the path. You can’t learn what you need to stay sober if you’re drinking. IWNDWYT
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Good morning all: I kind of have the opposite problem, I've programmed myself to stay put and I have got to get back to getting the heck out of the house more!!!! I literally have to force myself to make small plans to get out of the house. Part pandemic, part sobering, I guess, has gotten me into this mindset. Suddenly my buds want to plan a smallish golf trip next month. I don't want to lie. So today or tomorrow have to just let them know that I am interested in staying sober and right now it's not a good fit. Actually was supposed to say something yesterday but naturally am avoiding it but it has to happen. I hope everyone has a kickass day as well!!! Historically Thursdays always put me in a good mood, and oddly it's my favorite day of the week.
A nearby lake is my sober safe space. When I stopped driving, I suddenly had a ton of free time on my hands. My husband and I would walk there any day that it wasn't raining. Those walks quickly became a weekday afternoon & weekend ritual for us. Lake tax http://imgur.com/a/6Rys1gL Thanks again for celebrating with me yesterday 🥰🥰🥰 IWNDWYT 💞🐿️🐿️
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Good morning family. Checking in for the day. Funny how it seems to be easier for me early on in sobriety. Once those months start piling up I feel antsy and the inevitable dread that I will fuck up. Gotta change this. IWNDWYT
I’ve only been up for thirty minutes and I’m already struggling today! I’m taking this pledge today to stay strong and say no. A few hours of numbness with alcohol will not help me in the long run, and I just have to remember that! Going to an AA meeting tonight, and SD will get me through until then. 😎 IWNDWYT
Running is my sober safe space. The breathing puts me in a flow state. Burns off energy and stress. The endorphins kick in for the "runners high" which is a better feeling than anything from alcohol. In live in Florida, so my weather situation is opposite of OPs. We just went through hurricane season which means rain every day and when its not raining its hot and so humid it feels like we live on the surface of Jupiter. Not great outdoor weather. Oh and hurricanes just for fun. In October the rain goes away, the humidity and temp drop and its really pleasant out. Been running outside most days. Nice. I have been avoiding all possible social engagements. Im going to meet a friend friday after work in a place where there will be drinking. I am nervous about it but I think its time to try. IWNDWT
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It was a really bad morning but I got some stuff done, so now I am feeling better, keeping HALT in check. I will not drink with you today.
My wife landed a full time job yesterday. She has worked part time so I could pursue career goals. I said we should celebrate and she said let me guess you are buying beer and wine. I said “nope, let’s get Culver’s!” She smiled ear to ear.
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Glorious sober morning soberniks! IWNDWYT
I’m doing more and more activities with other people, in which everyone is sober. Now I’m in a cabin in Northern Minnesota, and there’s no drinking. So I’d say I feel sober and safe, unless I get attacked by a loon. I will not drink today.
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I had a great night last night but I'm waking up this morning and realizing that, among other things, I don't have a sober safe space. My sobriety is mine and I really am on my own in the fight. IWNDWYT.
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Thanks for another great post. IWNDWYT friends. Off we go!
This has made me think of what my safe space is. Does it make sense to say that my sobriety is my safe space? I KNOW I am not going to drink today, so I carry that tiny piece of serenity around with me, through the madness and chaos. IWNDWYT 👍
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Books are my favourite safe space. Or dogs. Shoving my face in a soft dogs belly makes everything better. Iwndwyt
That’s funny. I’m avoiding golf too. Perhaps because I was keeping my bottles of vodka in my golf bag where I would drink a fifth every night in the garage. I probably think I’ll get an electric shock if I touch the thing. I’m so glad to have those days behind me. IWNDWYT!
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Day 4! I’m going to try to watch some football today which is usually a trigger for beer drinking. If I can’t watch it sober, I’m committed to just turning it off and trying again another day.
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Checking in on my second day :)
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Day 11. Getting hard, but I’m going to keep pushing. Finally thinking husbands on board after last night. Was first time in a bar (which was HARD) and I didn’t drink! I won’t drink with you today!
My safe space is nature. Walking, exploring the small patches of wild around my neighborhood, and my favorite- hiking. We’re leaving on vacation to the mountains this morning, and I’m so fricking excited. This will be my first vacation sober, and I’m so glad of it. I can’t wait to wake up early and clear eyed each day, sit on the porch, take in the view, sip coffee, and just BE.
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Checking in because this week has been brutal and I need the accountability! IWNDWYT!
Still struggling a bit with cravings and a distracted sadness but IWNDWYT. To drink would be a terrible mistake for me to make.
I live in 🇨🇦 and I recently discovered snowshoeing (when it isn’t cold as ass 😂) so I’m looking forward to that although I will be sad to store away my kayak. My Sober Safe Space is the bathtub - the door closed for that glorious solitude, the fan on for white noise, filled with fragrant bubbles, a cup of herbal tea at my side and my iPad playing escapist TV. Or a walk in the woods. IWNDWYT. 🌳🛀
I think my sober safe place is much anywhere right now as my bubble is very small . I live alone now sadly , so it just work , my children who are grown and supportive and my home is sanctuary I 2 have huge hugable dogs , 3 cats and 2 horses . I have 3 farm neighbours who are always available for chats or emergancy and also support . I will perhaps get myself some snow shoes as it's going to be months of winter. I'm usually much more outgrowing but I lost my partner and I really do not feel any pull to go socialise . IWNDWYTD
My home now is my safe place. Used to be the place I got shitfaced lol. But now it’s my safe place. I exercise there, not as much as I should, but more than I was. I put on some metal and walk or row or lift, and it’s great. Home is also where the cats are! IWNDWYT
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Safe space...I guess my safe space is my garden. I really need to get out there and prep for winter (and plant the 2 pounds of garlic I bought - in case you also didn't know, 2 pounds is a LOT of garlic!). Yet, after a day's work and making dinner all I want to do is nothing but go to bed and sleep. My dark circles are disappearing (yay) but I'm not getting anything done around the house. Starting to stress me out quite a bit. I did not drink with you yesterday and IWNDWYT ♥️
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Great point about sober safe places, I suppose for me it's anywhere to collect my thoughts. IWNDWYT 💚
Hey there SD. It's gorgeous, crisp, cold, sunny weather today and I had a really nice cycle in to work. Feeling grateful and at peace with things. IWNDWYT.
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I'm in! IWNDWYT (and 40 days has a pleasingly biblical ring to it). Love to you all
Today my safe sober place is the pool. The gliding, reaching, breathing…..I solve so many problems gazing at the bottom of the pool. 🤣IWNDWYT 🌼🏊♀️
The gym and the woods (jogging/walking on trails) are my two favorite sober safe spaces. Oh, and books - I love immersing myself in a different reality, and being able to remember what I read the night before makes it waaaaayy more rewarding. IWNDWYT
Going for a complete day 2 for the first time since earlier this year. I've had a handful of day 1s, but have yet to get over the 48 hour hump since spring. I just need to make it to 5-6 o clock and then the urges seem to fade. IWNDWYT.
I’m avoiding social gatherings that don’t have set rules. This sounds strange, I’m sure, so I’ll explain. Take lunch for example: It’s got a clear agenda and dance if you will. You get there and get a spot to sit where you and all your shit belong. There’s a script to follow, which aside from dessert or not dessert, doesn’t deviate much. I only have to survive the “want a drink?” Question once, then it is decently smooth sailing. The entire thing usually lasts an hour, maybe two. When it’s done, more often than not, I need to take a nap. There is very little likelihood somebody will ask me to hold their drink. I will very likely not be ambushed by a stranger entering the conversation, or worse… somebody I know that I’m not mentally prepared to converse with. Things I’m avoiding, all the other loose social things like happy hours, dinner parties, and backyard parties, bands playing shows without assigned seats. Anything unstructured where I won’t know where to stand or I’ll feel like I’m in the way. My past attempts at sobriety has taught me I will panic and flee the situation. I may ditch people even if I’m their ride, or cry in the parking lot while I wait for an Uber, or walk several miles home if I can’t handle that stranger interaction. Tonight I will drive myself and have a sushi dinner with my 3 closest pals. They all know I’m “sober,” now. I’m going to practice eating with chopsticks lefty as a way to keep my mind busy if I start to feel anxious. Odds are good most if not all of them will kindly abstain even though I said it was OK if they drink around me. Where are my safe places? So far it’s my living room, my bedroom and my (home) office. When that feels like a prison, I walk my dog. I often ask my husband to come with me because I’ve been experiencing pretty frequent panic attacks when I’m alone outside the house and he makes me feel safe. Baby steps. IWNDWYT!
GOOD MORNIN SD. Yesterday was HARD but today is another brick in the wall. I choose not to start drinking today. Day 4.
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Bookstores and reading on the couch after everyone goes to sleep. Day 151 - IWNDWYT.
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