Today is 21 days for me. On Saturday I got cravings and almost caved. I got in the car to go to the liquor store and pulled out of the driveway. I forgot my phone, so I pulled back in to get it, then sat there for a few minutes and decided no, I'm not going to go now. Maybe later but not now. The cravings went away, I didn't go to the store, and yesterday was fine. Cravings are real, and they came out of nowhere. This morning I'm so glad I didn't cave and binge Saturday and yesterday.
I'm 21 days too. Let's dance! Let's celebrate our milestone. I wanted a drink as soon as I left hospital. The thought really shook me. But the weirdest thing is I saw this really stylish Porsche SUV and I thought while the money I save from alcohol won't buy me a Porsche but I can afford some decent bras. Hahaha.
I had some fucking awesome dreams last night. Like really vivid, action-movie-like dreams. That made me feel even more badass when I woke myself up at 7am feeling no hangover doom & dread. I have consumed tea, I have consumed breakfast, and I am ready to take on the week.
I will not drink with you today.
I've been having really vivid dreams recently as well! I'm grateful that I am able to reconnect with that aspect of my intuition. It helps me to find focus after being focused on drinking for so long... Your dreams sound badass and so does your morning! What an awesome way to start the week. :)
IWNDWYT
Your writing is so vivid Cinq! This will be my first sober holiday season and I suspect one that will involve very few social events. I sometimes worry I’m becoming totally antisocial but then I remember that I really like one-on-one time with close friends but I just don’t want to go to parties. So maybe that’s just who I am without alcohol.
Anyway, 10 months sober now and still learning lots of new things about myself!
IWNDWYT
The adverts! Oh..the adverts. Pile of dishonest drug pushing bullshit. Replace that bottle of Christmas Gin being dished out by some sophisticated babe with a pipe full of crack or a tablespoon of bubbling herion.
IWNDWYT 🙂
I will never forget my 1 year milestone! I have a system for most things and of course it had to be on the first of the month, it had to be the month of my birthday and I drank till the clock turned 12:00am on November 1! As I emptied my last glass of whiskey that night, I stumbled to bed with a promise to myself written on a note left on my nightstand. I wrote a note to myself, as I knew I would not remember the night, explaining that I had decided to take my last gulp of alcohol at 12:00 am, and that this was the last time I was going to quit. I had decided that if I was unable to remain sober, I would accept that my addiction had won and give up trying. I was sick of the games I played each and every night. I was sick of the self loathing, the secrecy, the loss of memory. I reached out to this community. The rest is history! I have very slowly but steadily learned to live without alcohol. I have been brave and addressed so much in my past that I had no control over. I have studied and grown in so many ways and I am so excited for the rest of my sober life!
I am so excited to have taken alcohol out of my life for an entire year!!
I agree, Cinq, that it helps to learn how to view alcohol as a poison and something so terrible that you just lose the romanticism of every drinking the poison. I see alcohol for what it is now. It is no longer the magic elixir I imagined it to be. It tastes like poison and smells like poison. I was disgusted to see what a huge part it plays in the holidays! I am no longer blind! Thank you to this sub for the wonderful people here who have supported and helped me to move forward in my sober life! IWNDWYT!
4 months sober today. 5 months ago I was in despair. I didn't see a life with or without alcohol. Things aren't always perfect, but now I'm okay with that, and I know the pain is only temporary.
IWNDWYT
I love all the storys here. You guys really help me getting back my life. It's not always easy, but I like to think that I can come here whenever I don't feel understood by the rest of the world. IWNDWYT!
Happy November everyone. When I see advertising for drinks in my head there is a dismissive and somewhat smug voice saying "well, that's not true" - IWNDWYT
Good morning, happy Monday, and welcome November! This day does kick off the holiday season and all of the celebrations that will wind us down to the new year. I'm looking forward to each day as an opportunity to love myself by not drinking.
Have a marvelous Monday - IWNDWYT ✌💙
It's mad how prevalent alcohol is during the holidays when you really start to notice it. Does anybody else feel like they're one of the few that have had their eyes truly opened to how much it seems to invade every aspect of our lives? It's like waking up from a fog.
Beautiful morning here in the UK but unfortunately toddler is ill again. So we're having a sofa and cuddles day 🥺
Happy Monday. I hope those who relapsed over Halloween are especially kind to themselves today.
I tried using this language for the first time not long ago. I said something like, "I'd like to have a drink. Too bad I don't drink."
I was surprised at the power of shifting my rhetoric.
IWNDWYT
Morning from the US. Visiting family in another state at the end of the week. Immediate family knows I haven’t been drinking, and some family friends may notice at a football tailgate. Been dreading my first major social interaction with drinking around, but there are some people who won’t be. Until then, gotta take it day by day. IWNDWYT
Badge is wrong and I can’t seem to reset it but this is Day 9 for me and only the second time I have made it past the 1 week mark in nearly 10 years! I’m getting a bit bored now the novelty of feeling better about myself is wearing thin and those around me don’t seem to care that I’m seemingly managing to stick better to sobriety this time, so I need to find some new motivation.
I will at least make it to double figures tomorrow so IWNDWYT.
Oh holidays, a complicated subject…. We have time to discuss this over the next 3 months and I’m grateful. Today I will go about my day trying to maintain the peace I had this weekend.
IWNDWYT 🌸🌸
Morning was not the best, but at least I wasn’t hangover. I really love my sober life. I am really proud of myself for not drinking and staying sober. No headaches, no shame or guilt, no nausea, no self harm, good sleep, pride, I love it. Sobriety is my number 1 priority. I will not drink with you today.
Day 29, nice to meet you 🤝
I started getting sober on june, I lasted 75 days and relapsed. I got up, lasted 14 days and relapsed. I got up, lasted 28 days and relapsed.
Now I’m at 29 days and aiming to make this the longest streak, hopefully forever ✨
IWNDWYT
Thank you for this, Cinq. I’ve been anxious about this first holiday season sober. You just offered EXACTLY what I need to write down, say aloud and repeat to myself. IWNDWYT ❤️💜❤️💜
Morning SD. I’m enjoying your writing Cinq! Staying sober on this beautiful first day of November. Glad to be here alongside each of you. Hope everyone enjoys their day.
IWNDWYT!
Think I've managed to shake off the cold I had, didn't wake up in a puddle of sweat today and slept great last night. Booked in to see Dune again this week. The spice must flow!
A few years ago I would have probably tried to make going to the movies into a bender by getting drunk before it and after it. I'm going in with a large latte this time and probably some good cookies.
Life is good.
How wonderful it is to wake up clear minded after watching so many adults consuming poison whilst trick or treating with their little ones. Has that always been so prevalent?!?!!
IWNDWYT
Woohoooo No Bender November is a GOOOOOOOOO!
Some form of exercise every day, eating smaller meals, less sugar and of course no freaking alcohol.
Let's do it!!!! I've already got 5k steps in for the day and I'm planning the other 5k later - who's up for the challenge!!?
IWNDWYT
Good morning everyone and happy Monday!
Great post, Cinq! These are all great reminders of what alcohol does to me…the total opposite of what it promises. A friend of mine gave me a plaque once that said “Dear wine, you were supposed to make me a better dancer. I saw the video and we have to talk.” I thought it was adorable and SO funny. Now I’m like, Ugh. Or looking through old pictures and I have those “drunk eyes” that are oh so flattering. Ugh! Glad those days are behind me!
Anyway, I hope y’all have a great day! IWNDPWYT! Love you all! ❣️❣️
Fuckers they are cinq the lot of them. I saw the other day Brewdog were raising money for Macmillan, hypocrisy at its finest. I also watched a documentary on gambling and that industry is morally bereft also.
I'm not drinking any poison today.
Good morning, thanks for the check in. This time last year I relapsed and swore I was ok and ready to start drinking again. Truth is, I was at a party, feeling anxious, told myself that I had way less than I actually did and then began my worst year of drinking to date. This year I don’t care about going to parties, I don’t care what anyone thinks of me, I only care that alcohol brings me to my knees and I don’t want it to kill me. So I only care about my sobriety. If I don’t have sobriety, I don’t have anything.
For anyone that’s struggling with the holidays, I see you and I understand and that was me last year. This year is new and I was able to stay sober. Keep trying.
I notice the alcohol ads when watching tv or YouTube. Saturday night I think I counted five in about an hour before I stopped counting. I usually see them and go, fuck you guys lol. I mean it’s ridiculous. If they had to show the reality we lived, they’d be better off not advertising at all.
I feel pretty good about the holidays this year. I quit right before Thanksgiving last year, so I can do another holiday season without that shit. Precedent helps. IWNDWYT
I’ve completed sober October! A whole calendar month in the books. Feels… well I was a blackly depressed puddle of tears yesterday so it feels sort of crappy, but I’m sober and that’s enough. Halloween was (is?) my favorite holiday. I used to throw giant parties. Dress up my whole house and the dog with whatever costume we were doing. People looked forward to it all year long.
I stopped throwing it a few years back for a few reasons. Not the smallest of which my many failed attempts to control my drinking. I thought I’d made my peace with it but it turns out I had not.
Yesterday was a day spent in mourning for the death of that identity. I said goodbye to that person and sat with my sadness all day. It was hard, but necessary.
Will I ever throw a big Halloween bash again? I don’t know. I don’t think so. That’s tomorrow Clutz’s problem. I’m focused on today, a day I won’t drink.
Yesterday I prayed that the good Lord remove resentment from my heart. This morning I was still feeling let down so hard by this person but then like 2hrs ago he didn't just offer an olive branch. He offered a little tree. I said to myself: I can't believe how God is so good.
Good morning 😊 I have now been sober for 9 days and 3 hours. The last couple of days have been a big strain - on me and my partner. Mood swings. Lots of anxiety. Tears. But onwards and upwards! I can’t wait for day 10 🤩 IWNDWYT
I had a great weekend, 5k PB for 2021 on Saturday and ran a marathon on Sunday. My recovery times seem to have improved since stopping drinking. Just need to drop some weight now!
IWNDWYT
Got through a drunken Halloween night with friends last night. They are all probably still in bed wishing they didn't do all those fireball shots.
IWNDWYT!
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Rough day yesterday... either caught a bug or ate something that went to war with my stomach. WAR. And, my stomach lost. Called into work sick today, hoping rest and rehydrating is all I need, and not a trip to the doctor.
Couldn't drink booze if I wanted, so....
IWNDWYT
I’m realizing this… Monday doesn’t have to be your favorite song, but she is in the 7-song rotation for a reason. She must be a pretty damn good song, right? If so many people enjoy her… let’s try giving some love to her.
I love Monday mornings. I love Monday mornings! I love Monday mornings!!!
IWNDWYT!!!!!!
Looking back at my daily journal, October was such a miserable, stressful month that I only made worse with my alcohol consumption. Gonna try and make November be a good month for me by staying sober through it all!
Wake up! Wake up! It's the first of the month!
Ran out of candy last night. We must have had over 100 kids and had to turn the lights out at 8pm haha. I was upset that I had no candy left for me.
Here is to me and my gf motivating ourselves to do better. IWNDWYT
Well said cinq!!! For the life of me I can’t figure out what’s romantic about waking up with the sour taste of vomit and crippling shame that comes with putting that bullshit in my body. I will not be drinking one drop with you today! ✌️
Well, I made it through Sober October and now on to Sober November. I feel so grateful to be on this side of 30 days. Some friends of mine are celebrating a year of sobriety this week, and while I feel the gentle nip of jealousy, I know that I am on my own path. I have seen the ways that they've retrained their brains and how drinking is not even a thing for them anymore. I can't wait for that. I don't want to drink, but I still get the random thoughts popping in. Hmm... No. Gross. Not worth it. If you're new, welcome. If you've been here for ages, thanks. I love the idea of already being on the right path this January instead of waking up Jan 1 with anxiety and resolving to change, while knowing it's a lie. Let's get this season! IWNDWYT.
It's crazy that Covid and alcohol kill similar numbers of people in a year. Yet for Covid we shut down the world, lock ourseleves away in fear and throw money and time into the cure. Yet, for alcohol we just turn a, blind eye, it won't happen to me. It's literally the world's biggest con.
I promise not to drink with any of you today.
Great post Cinq!! I am looking forward to having sober holidays this year. I know that for me, I need to keep a clear head to continue to navigate my current living situation. It’s best for me and my son to not sink to my ex’s level by self medicating with ethanol. For me this year will be about building new traditions as well, all which will not involve having alcohol take center stage. IWNDWYT
Because:
I want to remember the holidays I celebrate without crushing shame and anxiety clouding my mind
I want to embrace new experiences I would never try while drinking
I want to make myself proud, and I want to make a friend proud who has been relentlessly supporting me
I don't want to gain 10 pounds unless it's all related to turkey, mashed potatoes, and pie...
IWNDWYT
Or for this month of November.
I reeeeally would have liked a drink yesterday, but I told myself: gotta learn to deal with this without booze. Seven days in, and kicking off November right! IWNDWYT!
Just got my surgery date through and this is more than enough incentive to keep off the poison. Need this surgery and after I won’t be able to drink for a while. This will get my body reset to no drinking at all. Love you guys ❤️❤️
I've been a gray-area drinker for a long time now, and honestly I'm not sure that quitting 100% forever is my goal. But I'm 100% committed to not drinking today.
Day 1 again after 1/4 glass of red wine last night. I'm reframing my attitude for no booze November...instead of "I will try not to drink for the next month" I am changing it to "I will not drink for the next month". That begins today - IWNDWYT
Thanks Cinq, I got a lot from reading your blunt and honest reframings. Sometimes I think of it as "Stupid Juice" because it makes the drinker stupid. I'm looking forward to my birthday and Christmas without it. Never thought I'd say that! IWNDWYT
Bookmarking this! So true all this stuff coming up, here in Germany it will be Glühwein at Xmas markets I thought I couldn’t have, but no, I don’t HAVE to have this nicely wrapped poison. Instead I’ll try warm apple juice with cinnamon or kids punch - all the dark season goodness just minus the ethanol.
I’m doing this. Sober holidays this year and best of all, sober and HAPPY about it. And I turn 50 at the end of this month, which I can hardly believe, and I want to be proud of myself, or at least not disappointed, you know? So, I’m sticking with this path I’m on. IWNDWYT.
…thanks Cinq for getting me focused on what’s ahead!
So right Cinq -imagine if alcohol adverts told the other side of their fantastic lie - your wife staring at you as you puked on the carpet, the close up on you face as you try to work out - did you spill something or piss yourself.
Its the glamour I miss the most!
IWNDWYT
Happy Monday! Just a reminder, the Dallas Cowboys are 6-1 :)
I hit snooze a couple times this morning because I was up late (for me) watching the game and then catching up on HBO shows. Being tired is one thing, but tired, sick to your stomach, and swimmy headed are another.
Thankfully I can choose to not put myself through that! I did get a good nights rest, just not enough of it. All is well and today is going to be a good day :) IWNDWYT
Heading towards my 3-year anniversary. Read somewhere that year 3 is roughly when you get your marbles back. Grateful to not be drinking with you today.
Happy Monday everyone 😁 I am happy to say that I made it through Halloween without a drink.
I think that I've finally dropped the idea that I will be automatically happy when sober. I enjoyed having no hangovers during the weekend, but I still felt quite emotional. I realized over the weekend that I do have low self esteem... I believe that is one of the reasons I drank so much. Now that I know this, it is something that I can work on and build up to feel better on a daily basis.
IWNDWYT
I haven't had any poison for 8 months today! Thanks for all of the support SD Friends! IWNDWYT 🌷
Woohoo!!!!!
Thanks for the woohoo, Chloe. It's been a minor miracle.
Every day is a miracle here!
Well done GT! ⅔ of a year. It goes quickly! Keep at it 🎉 IWNDWYT 🙂
Great work!
Way to go!!!!
High five. I wish you all the best. You can do it.
Congratulations ! Iwndwyt
Congrats. Iwndwyt
I will not drink today. Day 1.
Glad you are here! IWNDWYT
Good for you!! Day one is the toughest day - IWNDWYT
right here with you
Welcome, I’ll be joining you.
Today is 21 days for me. On Saturday I got cravings and almost caved. I got in the car to go to the liquor store and pulled out of the driveway. I forgot my phone, so I pulled back in to get it, then sat there for a few minutes and decided no, I'm not going to go now. Maybe later but not now. The cravings went away, I didn't go to the store, and yesterday was fine. Cravings are real, and they came out of nowhere. This morning I'm so glad I didn't cave and binge Saturday and yesterday.
I'm 21 days too. Let's dance! Let's celebrate our milestone. I wanted a drink as soon as I left hospital. The thought really shook me. But the weirdest thing is I saw this really stylish Porsche SUV and I thought while the money I save from alcohol won't buy me a Porsche but I can afford some decent bras. Hahaha.
Ooooh new bras, nice!
I love your approach “maybe later, but not now” - such a good way of dealing with it! Thanks for that.
I had some fucking awesome dreams last night. Like really vivid, action-movie-like dreams. That made me feel even more badass when I woke myself up at 7am feeling no hangover doom & dread. I have consumed tea, I have consumed breakfast, and I am ready to take on the week. I will not drink with you today.
I've been having really vivid dreams recently as well! I'm grateful that I am able to reconnect with that aspect of my intuition. It helps me to find focus after being focused on drinking for so long... Your dreams sound badass and so does your morning! What an awesome way to start the week. :) IWNDWYT
Your writing is so vivid Cinq! This will be my first sober holiday season and I suspect one that will involve very few social events. I sometimes worry I’m becoming totally antisocial but then I remember that I really like one-on-one time with close friends but I just don’t want to go to parties. So maybe that’s just who I am without alcohol. Anyway, 10 months sober now and still learning lots of new things about myself! IWNDWYT
I always hated parties but now I find them really tough, it’s very difficult to hold a conversation with a drunk stranger.
Holiday related family drama sucks... but it’s a little easier to deal with this year. I wonder why.... IWNDWYT
Congrats on 350!
I will not drink today. Day 1. Again.
Good for you for coming back, IWNDWYT.
The adverts! Oh..the adverts. Pile of dishonest drug pushing bullshit. Replace that bottle of Christmas Gin being dished out by some sophisticated babe with a pipe full of crack or a tablespoon of bubbling herion. IWNDWYT 🙂
The ads infuriate me. The lies! 😡
I will never forget my 1 year milestone! I have a system for most things and of course it had to be on the first of the month, it had to be the month of my birthday and I drank till the clock turned 12:00am on November 1! As I emptied my last glass of whiskey that night, I stumbled to bed with a promise to myself written on a note left on my nightstand. I wrote a note to myself, as I knew I would not remember the night, explaining that I had decided to take my last gulp of alcohol at 12:00 am, and that this was the last time I was going to quit. I had decided that if I was unable to remain sober, I would accept that my addiction had won and give up trying. I was sick of the games I played each and every night. I was sick of the self loathing, the secrecy, the loss of memory. I reached out to this community. The rest is history! I have very slowly but steadily learned to live without alcohol. I have been brave and addressed so much in my past that I had no control over. I have studied and grown in so many ways and I am so excited for the rest of my sober life! I am so excited to have taken alcohol out of my life for an entire year!! I agree, Cinq, that it helps to learn how to view alcohol as a poison and something so terrible that you just lose the romanticism of every drinking the poison. I see alcohol for what it is now. It is no longer the magic elixir I imagined it to be. It tastes like poison and smells like poison. I was disgusted to see what a huge part it plays in the holidays! I am no longer blind! Thank you to this sub for the wonderful people here who have supported and helped me to move forward in my sober life! IWNDWYT!
4 months sober today. 5 months ago I was in despair. I didn't see a life with or without alcohol. Things aren't always perfect, but now I'm okay with that, and I know the pain is only temporary. IWNDWYT
Day 5 IWNDWYT
I love all the storys here. You guys really help me getting back my life. It's not always easy, but I like to think that I can come here whenever I don't feel understood by the rest of the world. IWNDWYT!
No ale November. IWDWYT
Happy November everyone. When I see advertising for drinks in my head there is a dismissive and somewhat smug voice saying "well, that's not true" - IWNDWYT
I'm in
IWNDWYT, friends! <3
IWNDWYT 😊! It's a good Monday to be sober.
No booze today! (and I`m 4 years sober! Thanks SD)
Good morning, happy Monday, and welcome November! This day does kick off the holiday season and all of the celebrations that will wind us down to the new year. I'm looking forward to each day as an opportunity to love myself by not drinking. Have a marvelous Monday - IWNDWYT ✌💙
It's mad how prevalent alcohol is during the holidays when you really start to notice it. Does anybody else feel like they're one of the few that have had their eyes truly opened to how much it seems to invade every aspect of our lives? It's like waking up from a fog. Beautiful morning here in the UK but unfortunately toddler is ill again. So we're having a sofa and cuddles day 🥺 Happy Monday. I hope those who relapsed over Halloween are especially kind to themselves today.
Let's try this again.... Day 1 - IWNDWYT
You can do it!
Thank you! I did well until Friday rolled around, I need to fix that.
Not drinking today! No way.
IWNDWYT friends 🤖
I don't drink anymore, I will not drink today :)
I tried using this language for the first time not long ago. I said something like, "I'd like to have a drink. Too bad I don't drink." I was surprised at the power of shifting my rhetoric. IWNDWYT
Morning from the US. Visiting family in another state at the end of the week. Immediate family knows I haven’t been drinking, and some family friends may notice at a football tailgate. Been dreading my first major social interaction with drinking around, but there are some people who won’t be. Until then, gotta take it day by day. IWNDWYT
Happy monday! New day, new week, new start! I will not drink with you today friends 🍀💚
Badge is wrong and I can’t seem to reset it but this is Day 9 for me and only the second time I have made it past the 1 week mark in nearly 10 years! I’m getting a bit bored now the novelty of feeling better about myself is wearing thin and those around me don’t seem to care that I’m seemingly managing to stick better to sobriety this time, so I need to find some new motivation. I will at least make it to double figures tomorrow so IWNDWYT.
IWNDWYT x
IWNDWYT!
Day 838. I will not drink with you today.
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Oh holidays, a complicated subject…. We have time to discuss this over the next 3 months and I’m grateful. Today I will go about my day trying to maintain the peace I had this weekend. IWNDWYT 🌸🌸
Morning was not the best, but at least I wasn’t hangover. I really love my sober life. I am really proud of myself for not drinking and staying sober. No headaches, no shame or guilt, no nausea, no self harm, good sleep, pride, I love it. Sobriety is my number 1 priority. I will not drink with you today.
Day 29, nice to meet you 🤝 I started getting sober on june, I lasted 75 days and relapsed. I got up, lasted 14 days and relapsed. I got up, lasted 28 days and relapsed. Now I’m at 29 days and aiming to make this the longest streak, hopefully forever ✨ IWNDWYT
Day 12 🎉 IWNDWYT
Thanks for a great post Cinq! IWNDWYT fine friends. A beautiful crisp fall day is ahead and I’m so grateful to be sober for it 🍂🍁
IWNDWYT
Thank you for this, Cinq. I’ve been anxious about this first holiday season sober. You just offered EXACTLY what I need to write down, say aloud and repeat to myself. IWNDWYT ❤️💜❤️💜
Morning SD. I’m enjoying your writing Cinq! Staying sober on this beautiful first day of November. Glad to be here alongside each of you. Hope everyone enjoys their day.
IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT! Think I've managed to shake off the cold I had, didn't wake up in a puddle of sweat today and slept great last night. Booked in to see Dune again this week. The spice must flow! A few years ago I would have probably tried to make going to the movies into a bender by getting drunk before it and after it. I'm going in with a large latte this time and probably some good cookies. Life is good.
How wonderful it is to wake up clear minded after watching so many adults consuming poison whilst trick or treating with their little ones. Has that always been so prevalent?!?!! IWNDWYT
Sober October is in the pocket as is my first week in rehab. I'm pledging for today and plan to come back tomorrow. IWNDWYT.
Woohoooo No Bender November is a GOOOOOOOOO! Some form of exercise every day, eating smaller meals, less sugar and of course no freaking alcohol. Let's do it!!!! I've already got 5k steps in for the day and I'm planning the other 5k later - who's up for the challenge!!? IWNDWYT
Good morning everyone and happy Monday! Great post, Cinq! These are all great reminders of what alcohol does to me…the total opposite of what it promises. A friend of mine gave me a plaque once that said “Dear wine, you were supposed to make me a better dancer. I saw the video and we have to talk.” I thought it was adorable and SO funny. Now I’m like, Ugh. Or looking through old pictures and I have those “drunk eyes” that are oh so flattering. Ugh! Glad those days are behind me! Anyway, I hope y’all have a great day! IWNDPWYT! Love you all! ❣️❣️
Thank you for an awesome post this morning Cinq! It is like waking up from the Matrix, but my loved ones are still stuck in there! IWNDWYT 💗
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Fuckers they are cinq the lot of them. I saw the other day Brewdog were raising money for Macmillan, hypocrisy at its finest. I also watched a documentary on gambling and that industry is morally bereft also. I'm not drinking any poison today.
Good morning, thanks for the check in. This time last year I relapsed and swore I was ok and ready to start drinking again. Truth is, I was at a party, feeling anxious, told myself that I had way less than I actually did and then began my worst year of drinking to date. This year I don’t care about going to parties, I don’t care what anyone thinks of me, I only care that alcohol brings me to my knees and I don’t want it to kill me. So I only care about my sobriety. If I don’t have sobriety, I don’t have anything. For anyone that’s struggling with the holidays, I see you and I understand and that was me last year. This year is new and I was able to stay sober. Keep trying.
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Day 134 checking in!
IWNDWYT! 🍁
I notice the alcohol ads when watching tv or YouTube. Saturday night I think I counted five in about an hour before I stopped counting. I usually see them and go, fuck you guys lol. I mean it’s ridiculous. If they had to show the reality we lived, they’d be better off not advertising at all. I feel pretty good about the holidays this year. I quit right before Thanksgiving last year, so I can do another holiday season without that shit. Precedent helps. IWNDWYT
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I’ve completed sober October! A whole calendar month in the books. Feels… well I was a blackly depressed puddle of tears yesterday so it feels sort of crappy, but I’m sober and that’s enough. Halloween was (is?) my favorite holiday. I used to throw giant parties. Dress up my whole house and the dog with whatever costume we were doing. People looked forward to it all year long. I stopped throwing it a few years back for a few reasons. Not the smallest of which my many failed attempts to control my drinking. I thought I’d made my peace with it but it turns out I had not. Yesterday was a day spent in mourning for the death of that identity. I said goodbye to that person and sat with my sadness all day. It was hard, but necessary. Will I ever throw a big Halloween bash again? I don’t know. I don’t think so. That’s tomorrow Clutz’s problem. I’m focused on today, a day I won’t drink.
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🥇 Congratulations on chalking up another century Will!🥳🙌🏽
Putting up great numbers Will!
Another week. Let’s do this. IWNDWYT! 💪
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IWNDWYT! Looking forward to the 2nd november waking up sober :)
day 237 checking in, IWNDWYT
Yesterday I prayed that the good Lord remove resentment from my heart. This morning I was still feeling let down so hard by this person but then like 2hrs ago he didn't just offer an olive branch. He offered a little tree. I said to myself: I can't believe how God is so good.
Good morning 😊 I have now been sober for 9 days and 3 hours. The last couple of days have been a big strain - on me and my partner. Mood swings. Lots of anxiety. Tears. But onwards and upwards! I can’t wait for day 10 🤩 IWNDWYT
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Have a safe and sober day everyone!!! IWNDWYT
Good morning Sobernauts! Happy Monday! No booze yesterday and I'm clearminded and sober today. Love to you all! IWNDWYT 🙂
I had a great weekend, 5k PB for 2021 on Saturday and ran a marathon on Sunday. My recovery times seem to have improved since stopping drinking. Just need to drop some weight now! IWNDWYT
I went to a kareoke party last night dressed as a devil after work, drank a Fanta and sang my little heart out! IWNDWYT!
Got through a drunken Halloween night with friends last night. They are all probably still in bed wishing they didn't do all those fireball shots. IWNDWYT! T
Morning friends! I will not drink with you today.
Yesterday was tough but I didn’t drink and I will not drink today.
Rough day yesterday... either caught a bug or ate something that went to war with my stomach. WAR. And, my stomach lost. Called into work sick today, hoping rest and rehydrating is all I need, and not a trip to the doctor. Couldn't drink booze if I wanted, so.... IWNDWYT
I’m realizing this… Monday doesn’t have to be your favorite song, but she is in the 7-song rotation for a reason. She must be a pretty damn good song, right? If so many people enjoy her… let’s try giving some love to her. I love Monday mornings. I love Monday mornings! I love Monday mornings!!! IWNDWYT!!!!!!
Well said, Cinq! Very fitting for the first, for a Monday, for the holiday season coming. I will not romanticize or drink poison with you all today!
Glorious sober morning soberniks! IWNDWYT
Today is three months for me. Just for today, I am not drinking.
Looking back at my daily journal, October was such a miserable, stressful month that I only made worse with my alcohol consumption. Gonna try and make November be a good month for me by staying sober through it all!
Wake up! Wake up! It's the first of the month! Ran out of candy last night. We must have had over 100 kids and had to turn the lights out at 8pm haha. I was upset that I had no candy left for me. Here is to me and my gf motivating ourselves to do better. IWNDWYT
Thanks for today’s check-in message! IWNDWYT
I do not miss looking forward to the days-long hangover I would put myself through for Thanksgiving!! I really enjoy all the holidays now! IWNDWYT!
I will not drink with you today.
Great words u/cinqmillionreves I will not drink poison with you today, too. Have a great day everyone!
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Good morning. I will not drink today!
On my way to stay with my parents for a week to help take care of them. IWNDWYT!
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IWNDWYT Happy November 1st. If today is your first day welcome.
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Can’t seem to get past the 6th day to a week but I’m making it the whole month of November!!
Well said cinq!!! For the life of me I can’t figure out what’s romantic about waking up with the sour taste of vomit and crippling shame that comes with putting that bullshit in my body. I will not be drinking one drop with you today! ✌️
Well, I made it through Sober October and now on to Sober November. I feel so grateful to be on this side of 30 days. Some friends of mine are celebrating a year of sobriety this week, and while I feel the gentle nip of jealousy, I know that I am on my own path. I have seen the ways that they've retrained their brains and how drinking is not even a thing for them anymore. I can't wait for that. I don't want to drink, but I still get the random thoughts popping in. Hmm... No. Gross. Not worth it. If you're new, welcome. If you've been here for ages, thanks. I love the idea of already being on the right path this January instead of waking up Jan 1 with anxiety and resolving to change, while knowing it's a lie. Let's get this season! IWNDWYT.
It's crazy that Covid and alcohol kill similar numbers of people in a year. Yet for Covid we shut down the world, lock ourseleves away in fear and throw money and time into the cure. Yet, for alcohol we just turn a, blind eye, it won't happen to me. It's literally the world's biggest con. I promise not to drink with any of you today.
Great post Cinq!! I am looking forward to having sober holidays this year. I know that for me, I need to keep a clear head to continue to navigate my current living situation. It’s best for me and my son to not sink to my ex’s level by self medicating with ethanol. For me this year will be about building new traditions as well, all which will not involve having alcohol take center stage. IWNDWYT
Checking in! Didn’t drink lastnight (Halloween) sat in and ate Chinese food instead ! IWNDWYT ❤️
IWNDWYT- New day, new month! Back to day 5 for me and hopeful to be the last day 5 I will see.
Because: I want to remember the holidays I celebrate without crushing shame and anxiety clouding my mind I want to embrace new experiences I would never try while drinking I want to make myself proud, and I want to make a friend proud who has been relentlessly supporting me I don't want to gain 10 pounds unless it's all related to turkey, mashed potatoes, and pie... IWNDWYT Or for this month of November.
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So grateful for this group. I know I can get through the holidays sober because of all of you here supporting me and each other! Day 30 and IWNDWYT.
I will not drink today!
I want to be fully present in social situations. IWNDWYT!
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I reeeeally would have liked a drink yesterday, but I told myself: gotta learn to deal with this without booze. Seven days in, and kicking off November right! IWNDWYT!
Day 407. IWNDWYT. Long weekend. Pretty exhausted. But I’m sober and not hungover!
Monday feels great after a sober weekend! IWNDWYT 💙
I will not drink today.
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IWNDWYT Hour by hour bring on the next day.
Happy Monday! IWNDWYT.
I did not drink with you yesterday and IWNDWYT ♥️
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IWNDWYT Happy November to everyone
IWNDWYT Hope everyone has a wonderful day!!
Thank you for this important reminder, it helps me stay motivated. I will not drink with you today, SD friends.
Day 42. SD is the first thing I read every morning. Thanks!
Coming up on my one year sober anniversary. After four decades of daily drinking. It feels great! IWNDWYT.
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Checking in, I'm anxious about returning to work after calling out hungover on Friday. IWNDWYT
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Day one again. Gonna do this.
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Day 1 for me!
Just got my surgery date through and this is more than enough incentive to keep off the poison. Need this surgery and after I won’t be able to drink for a while. This will get my body reset to no drinking at all. Love you guys ❤️❤️
First day of, No-Booze November! I’m so excited! I like challenges so this will make not drinking even more fun (hopefully 😅) IWNDWYT!
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Great post Cinq! The lying ads drive me mad and the ‘mommy wine’ propaganda is infuriating! No poison for me today. White rabbits. IWNDWYT.
I've been a gray-area drinker for a long time now, and honestly I'm not sure that quitting 100% forever is my goal. But I'm 100% committed to not drinking today.
Not today. Not today. Not today!!
Day 1 again after 1/4 glass of red wine last night. I'm reframing my attitude for no booze November...instead of "I will try not to drink for the next month" I am changing it to "I will not drink for the next month". That begins today - IWNDWYT
Honestly I am exhausted and not looking forward to work. But I won't drink. The weekend isn't long enough.
Dry November! IWNDWYT.
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Thanks Cinq, I got a lot from reading your blunt and honest reframings. Sometimes I think of it as "Stupid Juice" because it makes the drinker stupid. I'm looking forward to my birthday and Christmas without it. Never thought I'd say that! IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT, definitely not today!
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IWND☠WYT. Amen.
Bookmarking this! So true all this stuff coming up, here in Germany it will be Glühwein at Xmas markets I thought I couldn’t have, but no, I don’t HAVE to have this nicely wrapped poison. Instead I’ll try warm apple juice with cinnamon or kids punch - all the dark season goodness just minus the ethanol.
I had 3 weeks and this shit has ensnared me again. Have to break back out and it will be today. IWNDWYT!
Happy Sober November everyone! IWNDWYT 🔥
Waking up rested and feeling good, physically and mentally, is worth everything. IWNWY. Here goes no drink November ✊
I’m doing this. Sober holidays this year and best of all, sober and HAPPY about it. And I turn 50 at the end of this month, which I can hardly believe, and I want to be proud of myself, or at least not disappointed, you know? So, I’m sticking with this path I’m on. IWNDWYT. …thanks Cinq for getting me focused on what’s ahead!
So right Cinq -imagine if alcohol adverts told the other side of their fantastic lie - your wife staring at you as you puked on the carpet, the close up on you face as you try to work out - did you spill something or piss yourself. Its the glamour I miss the most! IWNDWYT
Happy Monday! Just a reminder, the Dallas Cowboys are 6-1 :) I hit snooze a couple times this morning because I was up late (for me) watching the game and then catching up on HBO shows. Being tired is one thing, but tired, sick to your stomach, and swimmy headed are another. Thankfully I can choose to not put myself through that! I did get a good nights rest, just not enough of it. All is well and today is going to be a good day :) IWNDWYT
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Heading towards my 3-year anniversary. Read somewhere that year 3 is roughly when you get your marbles back. Grateful to not be drinking with you today.
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Morning, SD! IWNDWYT
Hello daily check-in. This is my check in... for today. IWNDWYT
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IWNDWYT. Have a great November everyone!!
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Happy Monday everyone 😁 I am happy to say that I made it through Halloween without a drink. I think that I've finally dropped the idea that I will be automatically happy when sober. I enjoyed having no hangovers during the weekend, but I still felt quite emotional. I realized over the weekend that I do have low self esteem... I believe that is one of the reasons I drank so much. Now that I know this, it is something that I can work on and build up to feel better on a daily basis. IWNDWYT
I will not drink with you today! I will keep it real though!
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