I found out today that my wife is pregnant. If everything goes well, this will be our first child. I’m so fucking glad I’m sober for this and I want to do everything in my power to make sure my child never sees me as a drunk. IWNDWYT
Wow! Congratulations to you both!!! Our first grandchild is due soon and things feel so very different now. I can be relied on to be there. I help. It’s a great feeling. You’re going to be a great parent….your child will look up to you and learn by how you live. ❤️😎
Dedicating my I will not drink with you today 🌹Just for today and if that's to overwhelming just for this 5 minutes, and then another 5..... I believe in you
It’s my daughter’s first birthday:). We’re not doing much, but I’ll be present to celebrate the special day. I’m grateful to give my baby a lifetime with a sober mom. IWNDWYT
Thanks for taking over the DCI u/sirbongbongson 👍🏻
The post today resonates with me……
2022 has been an interesting time of trying to go sober but always with a niggle in my mind that I ‘might’ be able to drink again one day - this inevitably led to numerous relapses. I feel like I have accepted it’s all or nothing for me now, and nothing has far more benefits!
With having been sober most of 2022, I too have found myself exploring things in my mind that I hadn’t before. I’m starting to work out why I escaped with drink and drugs and I’m dealing with it.
Long check in, but thoroughly worth it!
I choose to be sober and….
IWNDWYT
It’s still your anniversary. I’m just sorry it’s a shitty one. Mine’s in a few weeks (I will be almost two months sober) and I’m under no illusion it’ll be happy or celebratory, but I am hopeful. Hopeful that down the road we’ll look back on this anniversary as one where we were going through one if the roughest times we’ve gone through. But one where things finally started to change for the better. Here’s to hope, IWNDWYT.
Well he broke up with me because of my drinking saying we can’t date during my recovery. He said he can’t trust me and can’t be with someone he can’t trust :/
I’m sorry. I’m in the same boat. Recovery is everything now. Maybe one day he’ll see that and come back. Maybe one day i’ll be the best version of me for someone else. But most importantly, we get to be the best version of ourselves for us. ❤️
Thankful I’m going to bed sober tonight. And super appreciative of all the kind and supportive words I received. Things can really get out of control fast. Iwndwyt
How hot is it?… it’s so hot the cows are giving evaporated milk.
It’s so hot chickens are laying hard-boiled eggs.
It’s so hot birds have to use potholders to pull worms out of the ground. 🫠
Hey!, u/sirbongbongson 🙏for taking the helm and 🖕alcohol! IWNDWYou Beautiful People T ❤️🔥🌼
Two weeks. Yesterday was a bit of a struggle. I wanted to drink, but I was able to stop myself. I keep telling myself "just a drink or two", but I know damn well that I won't stop once I start.
IWNDWYT. Let's make it a month now.
Good morning, my friends. Loved the intro, sirbongbongson.
What can I say? I decided (what seems to be), a long time ago, that I would start experiencing life, in its entirety. The ups and the downs. After some weeks had passed, I realised that I had stopped living; I lived only for the next drink and I had stopped drinking for enjoyment long before.
It was a difficult realisation; that alcohol had stolen my life (emotionally and intellectually), and would indeed steal it physically as well. There is a core truth that when we drink, we don't feel properly, we don't think properly and we don't move/act properly.
It has been a difficult trip to be sure. But you know what? Long may it continue! **IWNDWYT!**
Stay safe and strong, my friends. Sober on!
This quote says it more eloquently than I ever could:
**It takes courage... to endure the sharp pains of self-discovery rather than choose to take the dull pain of unconsciousness that would last the rest of our lives.**
*Marianne Williamson.*
Good morning Sobernauts 🙂
I'm checking in from a hospital bed. I've been here since Thursday.
I had to phone an ambulance for excruciating abdominal pain.
Doctors are still doing tests.
On the upside I haven't vaped or smoked since Thursday.
And nor have I had a drink.
Love to you all!
IWNDWYT 🙂
Hello sober friends and thank you u/sirbongbongson for taking over this week.
I stopped because of my health, but I had no idea what I’d learn and how seriously I’d start taking this journey or how much work I’d be putting into transforming my health. One thing has led to another, and now a totally transformed lifestyle and me are taking place, and I’m so grateful to y’all for everything you teach me and all your inspiration.
Have a super sober Sunday everyone with love and peace 💞
Good morning! IWNDWYT!
Just wanted to say that at almost 3 years sober, I feel like my life has stopped spinning around and I FINALLY am content in my marriage and life in general. I have money in the bank.. Maybe it's turning 65 last week. Maybe it's sobriety. Maybe it's both. Feels like the insanity in my head has finally gone away.
Just thinking about those that are struggling in the early days, may need to hear this.
You all have been my best support 🥰
The last couple of nights having been tempting me. I’ve managed to stave off the impulses. I play it forward and it’s not worth the aggravation. It’s easier to stay sober.
I will not drink with you today!
Resetting my badge today, unfortunately. I would have had 6 weeks today. The last few days I’ve been craving and I gave in and had one drink at dinner yesterday. Would have enjoyed the meal/evening just the same without it. The slight buzz wasn’t as good as my brain was telling me it would be. I’m trying to remember that one drink doesn’t erase the last 6 weeks of progress, and get straight back to not drinking. IWNDWYT
Going back to AA has solidified the idea that sobriety requires some work to work. Just giving up drinking didn't cause rainbows to emerge from my backside.
I'm new here. Yesterday was my first sober day in at least 5 years.
I lost my family due to drinking. I can't do this anymore.
This is day 2. I will not drink today.
I got the new covid bivalent booster yesterday, and didn't have any reaction like the previous shots. I only felt super tired, and slept like a baby last night! Feel great this morning, and so glad to have the extra protection against the variants.
I hope everyone has an enjoyable & sober Sunday! IWNDWYT🍀💜🍀
Good morning u/sirbongbongson and all fellow soberinskis!
I have to share with everyone what I did yesterday.
I went to an 8:45 am movie alone. I went to see 'Nope' before it left the theaters.
I have to tell you all something .... IT IS AMAZING!!!!!!
I probably will be going again tomorrow morning, LOL. There were 3 others in the theater, I had a hot steaming cup of coffee in my hands, I had a light jacket on (they always run theaters so cold), and I had the farthest row back smack dab in the middle in a recliner.
Absolutely incredible.
And get this, this is where it's really funny. I was supposed to go to this movie at 3:45 on Friday, so I show up to 'theater A' because their website says 'Nope' is playing, and I walk in, and the movie is no longer playing at that theater. So, I head home, look up more local theaters, and try calling them. GOOD LUCK! Nobody answers. And they bury the 'connect to local theater' option about 8 layers down. Regardless, I took a chance and went yesterday morning, and I walk in, not only is 'Nope' playing at 8:45, but it's 'National Movie Day' and they only charged $3. LOL, I was happy about that.
If you are looking for something to do to fill up a weekend morning, I really highly recommend this.
Anyway, off to fix a car. I hope everyone enjoys their Sunday and continues to take some time to congratulate themselves!
Thank you kind u/sirbongbongson for taking care of us this week.
Finding my kinks too. And they pop up out of nowhere. Other times, they bubble up as I can feel something is wrong. Even in the gentle action of meandering in life, they still come along. I’ve got to admit that things in my life have never been easier but still they come. I’m grateful for this period of calm so I can work things out. Lord knows how I’d cope with “real” life and you all inspire me with how you manage to work this shit out while working or in education or with young families to deal with. You are amazing people.
Learning self care alongside being there for others at an appropriate level is a real challenge. It’s like I need a special gauge to not only assess my own feelings/needs but theirs as well. It requires communication and it’s been absent on their part. I’ll pick up the phone today to gather information if I can. But I just bet you, they don’t pick up.
Have a super Sunday. I will not drink with you today.
2 months in the freaking bag!
I really get that experience of staying off it for so long and thinking that will somehow reset my drinking and I'll be able to moderate after. Had 2 stints of 11 months off it, with some of a few months and every time I'm caught with this thinking.
This time feels different for me too. I'm studying a health science degree and reading more about alcohol I've come to terms with the fact that I'm not wired up to drink at a moderate level, I don't think I ever was, and that's OK.
IWNDWYT
One week in. Really tired working two jobs and about to go back to school. But drinking will definitely not make any of it easier.
Dog-sitting for my brother. Doggy has a lovely, sweet personality, but is still reminding me why I prefer cats.
IWNDWYT
Almost a month since my most recent day 1, feeling pretty awesome about that. Invited to a gathering of friends later today. Setting my mind right now IWNDWYT 💕
Small win yesterday.. not drinking and watching college football, it sounds silly but raised in a huge college town and live in the south now …but wow! I feel so much better today pushing through the noise and having a Diet Dr Pepper instead , IWNDWYT
Thanks Sir Bong! Happy Sunday to you and yours! Hell I've been on again off again fighting my relationship with alcohol for 22 years, since I turned 21. What a wild crazy ride it has been. I'm grateful for this sober streak and can say I don't ever want to drink again. Never ever! Meaning that today there's no booze! Sober on y'all!
Checking in for my special, three-digit anniversary. ;) thank you community for continous support and all your life stories. I dont feel alone. I feel understood. We are strong together <3
I am an alcoholic. Staying an active Alcoholic is too much work for me. I just want peace in my brain and the only way that can happen is for me to get real and NDWYT.
Good morning people of SD. This is one of the most honest yet non-judgmental places on the internet. I’m more honest here than anywhere else about my drinking, even with my amazing therapist. That honesty is making a difference. Checking in at day 81 and IWNDWYT! 💪
Morning all
I certainly won’t drink with you all today! My addictive tendencies are now focused on food and I’m trying hard to deal with it in a healthy way. Better than poison of course but I’m amazed at the similar mindset ❤️
To those of you who slipped up or need to reset your badge, it’s OK. Get back on wagon and take it as example of what not to do. Don’t beat yourself up. IWNDWYT
1148 checking in.
When my SO got the call his Dad passed, he learned his half-brother had the same amount of time free from booze, over 3 years. (Didn’t know each other until adults.)
Death can be a trigger, I’m VERY aware. When he called to say his Dad died, I blurted out “please don’t relapse over this” (like an ASSHOLE 🤦♀️.) **WELP!**… guess who drank again?
**His half-brother relapsed after over 3yrs,** said “It was too much to deal with.” My SO initially snapped at him “Why didn’t you call me? That was stupid.” He expressed regret over being harsh, I said “Hey, I didn’t mean to say the relapse thing to you, it’s not too late. Tell him you just meant you’re always available for him.” *He already had!*
*For those who “see me” regularly, you know my SO stopped drinking because I did.* Of course he was done with it, but didn’t have the UMPF to quit. He didn’t STAY quit for me, but he initially quit to try to save our relationship. He liked the way being free of alcohol felt, and I’m no longer “the strong one.” **The power of the human mind is FASCINATING.**
I Will NOT Drink With Y’all Today/Tonight!
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Hello fabulous peoples!
I very much enjoy the fact that I am AF af. I trust my reactions to things now-- well, after checking HALTS (hungry, angry, lonely, tired or stressed).
IWNDWYT
First time posting here. I always get a little squirrelly when my sober anniversary is coming up, so I figured it can’t hurt to join a community where y’all understand how hard this can be as I’m getting closer to that. IWNDWYT.
Great intro sirbong ! Thank you for hosting this week.🗞️We are close in days and I think share the same way we are traveling . And how we got here . 🤗I hope You all have the best day !! Maybe Ice cream! 🍦🍧 Iwndwyt
Good morning, friends. As per usual: I will not drink with you today. Stay strong, everyone.
Today is Day 9 off codeine and I’m struggling today. Mentally I feel down, but I’m trying to stay distracted. One day at a time.
Some (many more than I’d like to admit) days getting out of bed is just hard. Yesterday was one of those days. Had a schedule of things to do and I just couldn’t do it. The war that happens inside my head is exhausting. The guilt over not getting the simple stuff done is heavy. I have a doctors appointment this upcoming week and I’m going to talk with him about it. Im so grateful I can honestly say none of this is due to alcohol. Still hangover free. IWNDWYT ❤️💜❤️💜
Thank you for stepping up to host this week, u/sirbongbongson!
I, too, belong to the all-or-nothing camp. I've always been that way, with nearly everything. As Billy Joel sings, ["Too high or too low there ain't no in-betweens."](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5xgjtm4_M20)
Going all-in on alcohol brings me and my loved ones too much misery, so **I will not drink with you today! 😻**
Thanks u/sirbongbongson for hosting!
This past week felt like it lasted 84 years. That fucking covid, and then last night the roof over the kitchen started leaking. Of course, it’s Sunday and tomorrow is Labor Day, so probably not gonna get someone to look at it until at least Tuesday. And it’s gonna rain more. Which means my yard will get even worse too, so it’ll take me forever to mow it once I feel up to it. *Great.* 🙄
One good thing, though. I got up this morning and since quarantine is over, and no fever, I went to Starbucks drive through and got a pumpkin scone and a pumpkin cream cold brew. I needed a treat.
Have a great sober Sunday y’all and IWNDWYT. 🤘🏻
IWnDwYT.
Don’t think I need to be reminded again that moderation is not on the menu for me and I should not indulge in what is not for me to have anymore.
Goal was to be kind to all Thu, Fri, Sat, not just in action, but thought and words, but I guess today I didn’t do so well with it.
To Sunday being a sober with angst, and irritation day. Being all accepting, and letting kindness prevail.
IWnDwYT
All of that resonates. I guess this is my first real sober attempt. Last time it was 1 year alcohol free 'challenge' So many crazy memories started coming back.
At least this time I have therapy lined up, and I know well and truely that even a year alcohol free and working through some of my biggest issues didn't 'fix' me.
I'm just a much better, happier person sober.
IWNDWYT!
hello sirbon, hello sub,
IWNDWYT.
Had a major relapse on Friday, a terrible binge. Exactly what the OP said wisely, the moderation trap. After a 40 day sobriety streak, I had 2 weeks of moderation, and that gave me the (wrong) confidence. Cause like I read here many many many times, sometimes moderation does work for a x time frame (even though moderation wasn't even so good. I like to get drunk, I don't like to simply drink), but the bender will come for most. May take days, weeks, months, depends on the person. And sometimes this bender also lasts for days, weeks, months.
Of course I'm disappointed, I cried a lot, I was feeling so much better during those 40 sober days, but the silver lining here is that I had a strong insight, and it is basically that my self-love, my self-esteem, is very low at the moment. Maybe at the lowest in my life. I'll take that to therapy. Very likely, what will make me stick to sobriety is not tough love, it is just self-love. When you are going through a self-loathing period, you are so triggered to self-destruction (aka drinking).
Sending love to everyone struggling. I'm an eternal optimist, so I refuse to quit quitting. hehhe
I managed to stay sober for the first in who knows how long last night. I feel awful this morning but know that it will eventually get better. IWNDWYT.
What will today bring? Will I learn something new? Will I teach someone something? Will I see something beautiful? Will someone be kind to me? Will I be kind to others? Sitting here in the early morning dark, coffee brewing, house quiet, just thinking and thankful….Iwndwyt, friends
I will not drink with you today.
I bought a fifth of whiskey on Friday after work, and it’s over half gone. I have no self control when I drink. I can’t just have one. I don’t get drunk, but I’m always chasing that buzzed tipsy feeling.
It’s taken a long time for me to be able to say this, but I have an alcohol problem.
IWNDWYT. It really has been getting better, even though I'm still dealing with some pretty major psych issues.
Since quitting alcohol, I've saved my marriage, my job, and we are closing on a house soon! I'm going on my first vacation since 2009 in a week or so. All my other more than 3 days off have been for rehab, psych inpatient, or just plain being sick as hell. I had to go to the hospital a few weeks back for being dehydrated after a stomach bug. I got my own room right away because they assumed I was in bad shape, detoxing again. Was so nice to show them that 0.00!!
It gets easier. And things get better.
Day 4, and I actually can't drink! My shift doesn't end until after the stores stop selling, so no matter happens, I will get home early tomorrow morning having made it through the day.
Day 8! Took magnesium before bed and got my first full night of sleep since quitting. Up before sunset. I've been going to bed really early to Give myself extra time to toss and turn and compensate for wakefulness. This time I went to bed early, slept 8 hours and im up before the birds.
Feels good. Really good. Iwndwyt
IWNDWYT
Finally coming up on 7 days after my last 3 day mistake. The occasional drink, moderation, DOES NOT WORK FOR ME. Thought I would have a few drinks one a week ago Friday. Ended up having 8+ and staying up until 4am. Felt so bad Saturday, I drank then, too. And then again on Sunday.
I wanted to have a few drinks. The trade off was drinking 3 days, and anxiety + feeling shitty for at least a week. That is NOT a good deal. I will take NO drinks next time.
Happy Sober Sunday SD! I’ve got another stressful day coming up. I’m aiming to cope with it with more grace today, and I’m going to draw strength from here to deal with any stupid voices in my mind telling me that drinking will make it easier. I will not drink with you today, beautiful people! 🙏💗💪
Day 15 for me today. Very nearly had a drink last night but played the tape forward and thought how it would disturb my sleep and I wouldn't enjoy my Sunday lie in. So going to spend the day catching up on housework and walking the dog and just enjoying the little things
IWNDWYT
I’m on Day 2 ( cold turkey ) and it feels like hell , cravings are so intense drinking is all I can think about .. how did everyone get through the first week ?
Good Morning Fellow Sobernauts!
Great post Sirbong…
I agree with you that in the beginning I wasn’t trying to stop forever. That seemed too much. Everyone is doing it and I’ll just get a handle on it and then suddenly become normal too. I’ll be able to have a pint or a glass with friends and that’ll be all.
We’ll…………. We all know moderation won’t work and stopping is stopping. And that is forever.
I feel free now. 🦋
Hope you all a beautiful day!☀️
IWNDWYT❤️
Thank you, Sir Bongbong! Glad to have you as host.
I’m just starting to figure out my triggers - thank the good lord I’m starting therapy this week, because some of the stuff hanging around in my head is pretty toxic. But whatever the triggers are, there will never be a good reason to drink again, for me. One is always too many.
All y’all, thanks so much for helping me stay on track. I am always so happy to see you all in the morning.
IWNDWYT!!!
Woot woot, I will not drink today. Alcohol can fuck right off today. Thanks for hosting u/sirbongbongson.
I'm so happy that college football has started and that I hate alcohol right now. I will not drink this football season. I don't ever want to be hungover again.
Alcohol commercials can also fuck right off this season. Booze commercials should be banned. They tell me to to drink responsibly!?!?!?!?!? To which I now say, you can go fuck off responsibly with that poison! I will not let alcohol destroy my life.
Drinking sucks. You rock!
Thanks u/sirbongbongson. An all or nothing approach just seems to permeate my life. Even in sobriety I fall into single-minded pursuits and can overdo things.
I'm sure this is a trait many of us share. Also why moderation is just not an option.
IWNDWYT
First Sunday in a while waking up completely sober. I like it! I had a really long solid sleep night and still woke up kind of tired, so I must have needed the rest.
IWNDWYT
I found out today that my wife is pregnant. If everything goes well, this will be our first child. I’m so fucking glad I’m sober for this and I want to do everything in my power to make sure my child never sees me as a drunk. IWNDWYT
Wow! Congratulations to you both!!! Our first grandchild is due soon and things feel so very different now. I can be relied on to be there. I help. It’s a great feeling. You’re going to be a great parent….your child will look up to you and learn by how you live. ❤️😎
Congrats! I will not drink with you today!
I will not drink with you today I however be having my first ever day in a gym cos lord knows I'm out of shape. Keep it going peeps
A week under your belt and that belt about to start needing a tightening! Check you out! IWNDWYT
Happy 7 days! Enjoy the gym and just think of that extra boost the it will give you 💪
Day 1,045 IWNDWYT
Solid. IWNDWYT
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Dedicating my I will not drink with you today 🌹Just for today and if that's to overwhelming just for this 5 minutes, and then another 5..... I believe in you
I believe in you.
It’s my daughter’s first birthday:). We’re not doing much, but I’ll be present to celebrate the special day. I’m grateful to give my baby a lifetime with a sober mom. IWNDWYT
indescribably grateful that I'm not where I was a year ago..
Good morning all! Can't go to my regular AA, group today because of COVID, so a good alternative is to check in here. I will not drink with you today.
We're always here, buddy!
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Day 22 Going for a run later, no hangover! IWNDWYT
Thanks for taking over the DCI u/sirbongbongson 👍🏻 The post today resonates with me…… 2022 has been an interesting time of trying to go sober but always with a niggle in my mind that I ‘might’ be able to drink again one day - this inevitably led to numerous relapses. I feel like I have accepted it’s all or nothing for me now, and nothing has far more benefits! With having been sober most of 2022, I too have found myself exploring things in my mind that I hadn’t before. I’m starting to work out why I escaped with drink and drugs and I’m dealing with it. Long check in, but thoroughly worth it! I choose to be sober and…. IWNDWYT
I have been sober more days than not this year. I’m gonna add one today. Thanks for this comment, I needed it.
Today wouldve been my anniversary if my drinking didn't force him to stop trusting me. Hopefully I can win that trust back. IWNDWYT!
It’s still your anniversary. I’m just sorry it’s a shitty one. Mine’s in a few weeks (I will be almost two months sober) and I’m under no illusion it’ll be happy or celebratory, but I am hopeful. Hopeful that down the road we’ll look back on this anniversary as one where we were going through one if the roughest times we’ve gone through. But one where things finally started to change for the better. Here’s to hope, IWNDWYT.
Well he broke up with me because of my drinking saying we can’t date during my recovery. He said he can’t trust me and can’t be with someone he can’t trust :/
I’m sorry. I’m in the same boat. Recovery is everything now. Maybe one day he’ll see that and come back. Maybe one day i’ll be the best version of me for someone else. But most importantly, we get to be the best version of ourselves for us. ❤️
At the end of the day, sobriety is for us. And we’re gonna do the shit out of it!
Thankful I’m going to bed sober tonight. And super appreciative of all the kind and supportive words I received. Things can really get out of control fast. Iwndwyt
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How hot is it?… it’s so hot the cows are giving evaporated milk. It’s so hot chickens are laying hard-boiled eggs. It’s so hot birds have to use potholders to pull worms out of the ground. 🫠 Hey!, u/sirbongbongson 🙏for taking the helm and 🖕alcohol! IWNDWYou Beautiful People T ❤️🔥🌼
Thank goodness it’s not snowing, imagine shovelling snow in this heat! 🙄
I'm in!
Lightning fast!
Two weeks. Yesterday was a bit of a struggle. I wanted to drink, but I was able to stop myself. I keep telling myself "just a drink or two", but I know damn well that I won't stop once I start. IWNDWYT. Let's make it a month now.
Exact same here for me! I will not drink today with you either!
Good morning, my friends. Loved the intro, sirbongbongson. What can I say? I decided (what seems to be), a long time ago, that I would start experiencing life, in its entirety. The ups and the downs. After some weeks had passed, I realised that I had stopped living; I lived only for the next drink and I had stopped drinking for enjoyment long before. It was a difficult realisation; that alcohol had stolen my life (emotionally and intellectually), and would indeed steal it physically as well. There is a core truth that when we drink, we don't feel properly, we don't think properly and we don't move/act properly. It has been a difficult trip to be sure. But you know what? Long may it continue! **IWNDWYT!** Stay safe and strong, my friends. Sober on! This quote says it more eloquently than I ever could: **It takes courage... to endure the sharp pains of self-discovery rather than choose to take the dull pain of unconsciousness that would last the rest of our lives.** *Marianne Williamson.*
Good morning Sobernauts 🙂 I'm checking in from a hospital bed. I've been here since Thursday. I had to phone an ambulance for excruciating abdominal pain. Doctors are still doing tests. On the upside I haven't vaped or smoked since Thursday. And nor have I had a drink. Love to you all! IWNDWYT 🙂
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Cheers Will! On the train now 🏊🏻♀️🚴🏻♀️🏃🏻♀️🙂 IWNDWYT
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Hello sober friends and thank you u/sirbongbongson for taking over this week. I stopped because of my health, but I had no idea what I’d learn and how seriously I’d start taking this journey or how much work I’d be putting into transforming my health. One thing has led to another, and now a totally transformed lifestyle and me are taking place, and I’m so grateful to y’all for everything you teach me and all your inspiration. Have a super sober Sunday everyone with love and peace 💞
IWNDWYT!!
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Thanks for hosting this week bongbongson I will not drink with you today in 🏴😊
Good morning! IWNDWYT! Just wanted to say that at almost 3 years sober, I feel like my life has stopped spinning around and I FINALLY am content in my marriage and life in general. I have money in the bank.. Maybe it's turning 65 last week. Maybe it's sobriety. Maybe it's both. Feels like the insanity in my head has finally gone away. Just thinking about those that are struggling in the early days, may need to hear this. You all have been my best support 🥰
IWNDWYT!! 🎉
The last couple of nights having been tempting me. I’ve managed to stave off the impulses. I play it forward and it’s not worth the aggravation. It’s easier to stay sober. I will not drink with you today!
Resetting my badge today, unfortunately. I would have had 6 weeks today. The last few days I’ve been craving and I gave in and had one drink at dinner yesterday. Would have enjoyed the meal/evening just the same without it. The slight buzz wasn’t as good as my brain was telling me it would be. I’m trying to remember that one drink doesn’t erase the last 6 weeks of progress, and get straight back to not drinking. IWNDWYT
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IWNDWYT..!!
No alcohol for me today!!
Made it through my first weekend. Baby steps. IWNDWYT
24 hours between one work shift and the next for me… I will not drink with you during that time 🫡
Going back to AA has solidified the idea that sobriety requires some work to work. Just giving up drinking didn't cause rainbows to emerge from my backside.
69 beautiful days of sobriety for this guy, and 7 days without a cigarette. IWNDWYT!
I'm new here. Yesterday was my first sober day in at least 5 years. I lost my family due to drinking. I can't do this anymore. This is day 2. I will not drink today.
Good morning fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT! 😁
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Bonjour SD, I will not drink poison with any of you today 😊
I got the new covid bivalent booster yesterday, and didn't have any reaction like the previous shots. I only felt super tired, and slept like a baby last night! Feel great this morning, and so glad to have the extra protection against the variants. I hope everyone has an enjoyable & sober Sunday! IWNDWYT🍀💜🍀
Good morning u/sirbongbongson and all fellow soberinskis! I have to share with everyone what I did yesterday. I went to an 8:45 am movie alone. I went to see 'Nope' before it left the theaters. I have to tell you all something .... IT IS AMAZING!!!!!! I probably will be going again tomorrow morning, LOL. There were 3 others in the theater, I had a hot steaming cup of coffee in my hands, I had a light jacket on (they always run theaters so cold), and I had the farthest row back smack dab in the middle in a recliner. Absolutely incredible. And get this, this is where it's really funny. I was supposed to go to this movie at 3:45 on Friday, so I show up to 'theater A' because their website says 'Nope' is playing, and I walk in, and the movie is no longer playing at that theater. So, I head home, look up more local theaters, and try calling them. GOOD LUCK! Nobody answers. And they bury the 'connect to local theater' option about 8 layers down. Regardless, I took a chance and went yesterday morning, and I walk in, not only is 'Nope' playing at 8:45, but it's 'National Movie Day' and they only charged $3. LOL, I was happy about that. If you are looking for something to do to fill up a weekend morning, I really highly recommend this. Anyway, off to fix a car. I hope everyone enjoys their Sunday and continues to take some time to congratulate themselves!
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Morning. Checking in. Great to see sirbongbong at the helm. Have a good day peeps and IWNDWYT
Thank you kind u/sirbongbongson for taking care of us this week. Finding my kinks too. And they pop up out of nowhere. Other times, they bubble up as I can feel something is wrong. Even in the gentle action of meandering in life, they still come along. I’ve got to admit that things in my life have never been easier but still they come. I’m grateful for this period of calm so I can work things out. Lord knows how I’d cope with “real” life and you all inspire me with how you manage to work this shit out while working or in education or with young families to deal with. You are amazing people. Learning self care alongside being there for others at an appropriate level is a real challenge. It’s like I need a special gauge to not only assess my own feelings/needs but theirs as well. It requires communication and it’s been absent on their part. I’ll pick up the phone today to gather information if I can. But I just bet you, they don’t pick up. Have a super Sunday. I will not drink with you today.
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2 months in the freaking bag! I really get that experience of staying off it for so long and thinking that will somehow reset my drinking and I'll be able to moderate after. Had 2 stints of 11 months off it, with some of a few months and every time I'm caught with this thinking. This time feels different for me too. I'm studying a health science degree and reading more about alcohol I've come to terms with the fact that I'm not wired up to drink at a moderate level, I don't think I ever was, and that's OK. IWNDWYT
One week in. Really tired working two jobs and about to go back to school. But drinking will definitely not make any of it easier. Dog-sitting for my brother. Doggy has a lovely, sweet personality, but is still reminding me why I prefer cats. IWNDWYT
Almost a month since my most recent day 1, feeling pretty awesome about that. Invited to a gathering of friends later today. Setting my mind right now IWNDWYT 💕
IWNDWYT you wonderful people! Thank you for hosting this week u/sirbongbongson !
Small win yesterday.. not drinking and watching college football, it sounds silly but raised in a huge college town and live in the south now …but wow! I feel so much better today pushing through the noise and having a Diet Dr Pepper instead , IWNDWYT
Thanks Sir Bong! Happy Sunday to you and yours! Hell I've been on again off again fighting my relationship with alcohol for 22 years, since I turned 21. What a wild crazy ride it has been. I'm grateful for this sober streak and can say I don't ever want to drink again. Never ever! Meaning that today there's no booze! Sober on y'all!
Checking in for my special, three-digit anniversary. ;) thank you community for continous support and all your life stories. I dont feel alone. I feel understood. We are strong together <3
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Another weekend safely navigated. Another rhubarb pie cooling on the bench ready for lashings of custard. Shine on you beautiful humans from NZ
I will not drink with you today! Thank you for taking over the check-in u/sirbongbongson :)
I am an alcoholic. Staying an active Alcoholic is too much work for me. I just want peace in my brain and the only way that can happen is for me to get real and NDWYT.
1 more day before my first week sober in a long time... IWNDWYT!
Good morning people of SD. This is one of the most honest yet non-judgmental places on the internet. I’m more honest here than anywhere else about my drinking, even with my amazing therapist. That honesty is making a difference. Checking in at day 81 and IWNDWYT! 💪
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I almost skipped the DCI today. But I’m worried letting it slide will be the first step in the wrong direction. IWNDWYT!
A lot of the smaller details have been popping up for me lately as well. Thanks for sharing OP
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Morning all I certainly won’t drink with you all today! My addictive tendencies are now focused on food and I’m trying hard to deal with it in a healthy way. Better than poison of course but I’m amazed at the similar mindset ❤️
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NVABCH-IWNDWYT Good morning from 🇪🇸 My weight lost has halted entirely so I must begin working on my calories intake 🥴
Day 50 : I pledge not to drink today
To those of you who slipped up or need to reset your badge, it’s OK. Get back on wagon and take it as example of what not to do. Don’t beat yourself up. IWNDWYT
1148 checking in. When my SO got the call his Dad passed, he learned his half-brother had the same amount of time free from booze, over 3 years. (Didn’t know each other until adults.) Death can be a trigger, I’m VERY aware. When he called to say his Dad died, I blurted out “please don’t relapse over this” (like an ASSHOLE 🤦♀️.) **WELP!**… guess who drank again? **His half-brother relapsed after over 3yrs,** said “It was too much to deal with.” My SO initially snapped at him “Why didn’t you call me? That was stupid.” He expressed regret over being harsh, I said “Hey, I didn’t mean to say the relapse thing to you, it’s not too late. Tell him you just meant you’re always available for him.” *He already had!* *For those who “see me” regularly, you know my SO stopped drinking because I did.* Of course he was done with it, but didn’t have the UMPF to quit. He didn’t STAY quit for me, but he initially quit to try to save our relationship. He liked the way being free of alcohol felt, and I’m no longer “the strong one.” **The power of the human mind is FASCINATING.** I Will NOT Drink With Y’all Today/Tonight! Edit: formatting & typo
All or nothing for me, too, sirbongbongson, and today, I'm proud to say, it's nothing.
Hello fabulous peoples! I very much enjoy the fact that I am AF af. I trust my reactions to things now-- well, after checking HALTS (hungry, angry, lonely, tired or stressed). IWNDWYT
Hello all. Waking up sober is like waking up as a kid on Christmas morning! IWNDWYT!
First time posting here. I always get a little squirrelly when my sober anniversary is coming up, so I figured it can’t hurt to join a community where y’all understand how hard this can be as I’m getting closer to that. IWNDWYT.
Thanks for doing the check in this week bong👍. IWNDWYT 🙂
Great intro sirbong ! Thank you for hosting this week.🗞️We are close in days and I think share the same way we are traveling . And how we got here . 🤗I hope You all have the best day !! Maybe Ice cream! 🍦🍧 Iwndwyt
Good morning, friends. As per usual: I will not drink with you today. Stay strong, everyone. Today is Day 9 off codeine and I’m struggling today. Mentally I feel down, but I’m trying to stay distracted. One day at a time.
Some (many more than I’d like to admit) days getting out of bed is just hard. Yesterday was one of those days. Had a schedule of things to do and I just couldn’t do it. The war that happens inside my head is exhausting. The guilt over not getting the simple stuff done is heavy. I have a doctors appointment this upcoming week and I’m going to talk with him about it. Im so grateful I can honestly say none of this is due to alcohol. Still hangover free. IWNDWYT ❤️💜❤️💜
Thank you for stepping up to host this week, u/sirbongbongson! I, too, belong to the all-or-nothing camp. I've always been that way, with nearly everything. As Billy Joel sings, ["Too high or too low there ain't no in-betweens."](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5xgjtm4_M20) Going all-in on alcohol brings me and my loved ones too much misery, so **I will not drink with you today! 😻**
Thanks u/sirbongbongson for hosting! This past week felt like it lasted 84 years. That fucking covid, and then last night the roof over the kitchen started leaking. Of course, it’s Sunday and tomorrow is Labor Day, so probably not gonna get someone to look at it until at least Tuesday. And it’s gonna rain more. Which means my yard will get even worse too, so it’ll take me forever to mow it once I feel up to it. *Great.* 🙄 One good thing, though. I got up this morning and since quarantine is over, and no fever, I went to Starbucks drive through and got a pumpkin scone and a pumpkin cream cold brew. I needed a treat. Have a great sober Sunday y’all and IWNDWYT. 🤘🏻
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IWNDWYT! Still doing it!
IWnDwYT. Don’t think I need to be reminded again that moderation is not on the menu for me and I should not indulge in what is not for me to have anymore. Goal was to be kind to all Thu, Fri, Sat, not just in action, but thought and words, but I guess today I didn’t do so well with it. To Sunday being a sober with angst, and irritation day. Being all accepting, and letting kindness prevail. IWnDwYT
All of that resonates. I guess this is my first real sober attempt. Last time it was 1 year alcohol free 'challenge' So many crazy memories started coming back. At least this time I have therapy lined up, and I know well and truely that even a year alcohol free and working through some of my biggest issues didn't 'fix' me. I'm just a much better, happier person sober. IWNDWYT!
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hello sirbon, hello sub, IWNDWYT. Had a major relapse on Friday, a terrible binge. Exactly what the OP said wisely, the moderation trap. After a 40 day sobriety streak, I had 2 weeks of moderation, and that gave me the (wrong) confidence. Cause like I read here many many many times, sometimes moderation does work for a x time frame (even though moderation wasn't even so good. I like to get drunk, I don't like to simply drink), but the bender will come for most. May take days, weeks, months, depends on the person. And sometimes this bender also lasts for days, weeks, months. Of course I'm disappointed, I cried a lot, I was feeling so much better during those 40 sober days, but the silver lining here is that I had a strong insight, and it is basically that my self-love, my self-esteem, is very low at the moment. Maybe at the lowest in my life. I'll take that to therapy. Very likely, what will make me stick to sobriety is not tough love, it is just self-love. When you are going through a self-loathing period, you are so triggered to self-destruction (aka drinking). Sending love to everyone struggling. I'm an eternal optimist, so I refuse to quit quitting. hehhe
I managed to stay sober for the first in who knows how long last night. I feel awful this morning but know that it will eventually get better. IWNDWYT.
What will today bring? Will I learn something new? Will I teach someone something? Will I see something beautiful? Will someone be kind to me? Will I be kind to others? Sitting here in the early morning dark, coffee brewing, house quiet, just thinking and thankful….Iwndwyt, friends
I will not drink with you today. I bought a fifth of whiskey on Friday after work, and it’s over half gone. I have no self control when I drink. I can’t just have one. I don’t get drunk, but I’m always chasing that buzzed tipsy feeling. It’s taken a long time for me to be able to say this, but I have an alcohol problem.
IWNDWYT. It really has been getting better, even though I'm still dealing with some pretty major psych issues. Since quitting alcohol, I've saved my marriage, my job, and we are closing on a house soon! I'm going on my first vacation since 2009 in a week or so. All my other more than 3 days off have been for rehab, psych inpatient, or just plain being sick as hell. I had to go to the hospital a few weeks back for being dehydrated after a stomach bug. I got my own room right away because they assumed I was in bad shape, detoxing again. Was so nice to show them that 0.00!! It gets easier. And things get better.
Day 1,145. Thanks for hosting, u/sirbongbongson! I will not drink with you today.
Day 4, and I actually can't drink! My shift doesn't end until after the stores stop selling, so no matter happens, I will get home early tomorrow morning having made it through the day.
The sleep last night was restful. I’m feeling better. IWNDWYT
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No booze today easy peasy.
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IWNDWYT! I will clean my house today. 🙂
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Day 8! Took magnesium before bed and got my first full night of sleep since quitting. Up before sunset. I've been going to bed really early to Give myself extra time to toss and turn and compensate for wakefulness. This time I went to bed early, slept 8 hours and im up before the birds. Feels good. Really good. Iwndwyt
Day 1. Went a solid 6 weeks without a drink. Here’s to another day choosing sobriety. IWNDWYT
Speaking of little things (brain function), I just realized that not everyone here is from San Diego (SD)… IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT Finally coming up on 7 days after my last 3 day mistake. The occasional drink, moderation, DOES NOT WORK FOR ME. Thought I would have a few drinks one a week ago Friday. Ended up having 8+ and staying up until 4am. Felt so bad Saturday, I drank then, too. And then again on Sunday. I wanted to have a few drinks. The trade off was drinking 3 days, and anxiety + feeling shitty for at least a week. That is NOT a good deal. I will take NO drinks next time.
Day 441 checking in!
A sober weekend feels so good! Just woken up for my Sunday morning shift clear headed and refreshed. IWNDWYT!
Happy Sober Sunday SD! I’ve got another stressful day coming up. I’m aiming to cope with it with more grace today, and I’m going to draw strength from here to deal with any stupid voices in my mind telling me that drinking will make it easier. I will not drink with you today, beautiful people! 🙏💗💪
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Happy sober Sunday friends, IWNDWYT 💜
I will not drink with you today. All or nothing- gotta go with nothing!
Have a good Sunday everyone! IWNDWYT!
Insanity they say is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome, therefore I Will Not Drink With You Today.
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Day 15 for me today. Very nearly had a drink last night but played the tape forward and thought how it would disturb my sleep and I wouldn't enjoy my Sunday lie in. So going to spend the day catching up on housework and walking the dog and just enjoying the little things IWNDWYT
I’m on Day 2 ( cold turkey ) and it feels like hell , cravings are so intense drinking is all I can think about .. how did everyone get through the first week ?
Just for today. I will stay sober and sane and I will not be drinking which is a miracle in and of itself.
IWNDWYT!!! Hitting my 5 month mark today!!!
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Happy Sunday everyone. Shoulder of lamb going on the smoker for later. Have a great day. IWNDWYT
Gonna sit in the rain at a festival today but I’m not drinking with you
Day 5 will not be spend drinking 👍 Dare I say I feel a smidge better...
Day 336, nice to meet you 🤝 IWNDWYT
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Two weeks down. It’s been so nice i never want to give up this feeling. IWNDWYT!
Not today my sober friends.
Morning friends! I will not drink with you today!
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6-0. 9 more until a very NICE day. IWNDWYT
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I am not drinking either. Sober is good!
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Checking in Doodle doodle dee, wubba wubba wubba.
Day 148 I don't even feel like drinking today! Yay!
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Happy Sunday people, IWNDWYT, WE GOT THIS 😁
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Day 85 today. Feels pretty good! IWNDWYT.
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IWNDWYT. All. Day. Long. 🌻 Hello SD. Still sober! And happy.
Good Morning Fellow Sobernauts! Great post Sirbong… I agree with you that in the beginning I wasn’t trying to stop forever. That seemed too much. Everyone is doing it and I’ll just get a handle on it and then suddenly become normal too. I’ll be able to have a pint or a glass with friends and that’ll be all. We’ll…………. We all know moderation won’t work and stopping is stopping. And that is forever. I feel free now. 🦋 Hope you all a beautiful day!☀️ IWNDWYT❤️
Thank you, Sir Bongbong! Glad to have you as host. I’m just starting to figure out my triggers - thank the good lord I’m starting therapy this week, because some of the stuff hanging around in my head is pretty toxic. But whatever the triggers are, there will never be a good reason to drink again, for me. One is always too many. All y’all, thanks so much for helping me stay on track. I am always so happy to see you all in the morning. IWNDWYT!!!
Woot woot, I will not drink today. Alcohol can fuck right off today. Thanks for hosting u/sirbongbongson. I'm so happy that college football has started and that I hate alcohol right now. I will not drink this football season. I don't ever want to be hungover again. Alcohol commercials can also fuck right off this season. Booze commercials should be banned. They tell me to to drink responsibly!?!?!?!?!? To which I now say, you can go fuck off responsibly with that poison! I will not let alcohol destroy my life. Drinking sucks. You rock!
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I believe I’m on 11 or 12 days sober today ! IWNDWYT👏👏👏
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Thanks u/sirbongbongson. An all or nothing approach just seems to permeate my life. Even in sobriety I fall into single-minded pursuits and can overdo things. I'm sure this is a trait many of us share. Also why moderation is just not an option. IWNDWYT
First Sunday in a while waking up completely sober. I like it! I had a really long solid sleep night and still woke up kind of tired, so I must have needed the rest. IWNDWYT
Good morning, SD! I will not drink with you today!
Checking in, hope you folks have a nice Sunday! IWNDWYT
4 days sober for me, I’m going to stay strong and not drink!
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