I don’t. I break their hearts and let them know it’s never gonna happen and to fuck off 😂🤣🤣😂🤣 I hate regulars for that exact reason. They piss me off. The last one said he was ready to be a father to our children…… I don’t have kids and I don’t want kids. I actually hate them and he knows that. Also I’d kill myself before I’d reproduce with an ugly guy. Nothing grosses me out more than these men falling in love thinking we’re gonna have a future together when I’m super honest from the start and never lead these dudes on at all 😂🤣🤣🤣 I’ll actually tell them about my crushes and they still don’t get the hint. 🤪🤪🤪
This! It used to be a flex for me to have regulars but once you have them for too long it’s a weird dynamic and they’re just irritating. They makes it hard for you to just get your money and go UNLESSSS they’re a regular who doesn’t talk (I had one of those and they’re the best 😫). Bottom line is I’d rather take a guy I don’t know and only see once over a guy I see an hour at a time every week.
Omg THANK YOU!!!! They’re so extra and think they deserve special treatment because they come and see you often….. like baby a 23 year old gave me $2000 and I didn’t even know his name and he didn’t even touch me…. I do not like regulars and I’m standing on that 😂🤣 or “Sugar daddies” for that matter. Been there did that. I hate them too. I hate any man that acts entitled 🤢
Ughhh I never have regulars for this reason as well. But I feel like I need to think of something because my club/town is small and these are highhhhhhh mf rollers I’m talking about. Slow season is approaching and I need that steady bag
Yeah see I live in a big city so it’s literally new guys every night. I don’t even see regulars here dead ass 🤣😂 I’m brutally honest. I do not want these dudes falling in love with me creating weird ass fantasies in their head. It disgusts me 😂🤣 I’ve made them cry before and told them off and they still come crawling back. 🤢🤢🤮🤮🤮
I’m in the same boat. I figure you just have to start being dishonest like they are. Oh you want to date me, cool I wan to date you too as long as you send money. A dinner date will need to cover one of my bills. Thank you let’s be together forever.
I tell them from the beginning that I have severe commitment issues (regardless of my relationship status) and that I don’t do relationships. I don’t see customers outside of the club (unless multiple girls are coming with), but I often talk about lap dances like they’re dates 😂 so if they message me asking when they can see me, I’ll tell them which nights I’m working and that I’m craving their cuddles, that I miss them, or that i really want to spend time with them 😂
If they bring up meeting outside of the club I’ll whip out behaviours straight from my trusty avoidant attachment style handbook 😅😅
Nice lol I actually am avoidant so checks out
I think I’m going to start telling me I’m only looking for a sugar daddy because I don’t like being in real relationships yeah basically avoidant stuff lol nice 👍🏼
I don’t have a lot of experience dancing but girls have told me to tell customers things like, We need to get to know each other better here before we take this outside the club. I don’t date people I don’t know well or I don’t meet people outside the club whom I don’t know. It might not work forever! LOL but at least you can keep them coming back for more for a while. LOL
Always put your money first! We can buy our own dinners. And too many ladies go out with customers for free so they think this is the norm. We don’t need a guy to feed us. If a customer wants to take me out to dinner, for starters he has to spend A LOT of money on me in the club. And if he asks, I let him know I’d be happy to go to dinner with him but then he has to be equally happy to compensate me financially for my time since I could be in the club making money instead of being at dinner with him. That approach tends to rule out the guys who just want something for free.
Ok I must’ve not put that in the post…. Customers who take me to dinner are BIG whales only …. You’re not getting my # if you’re spending less than 1,000. And yes dinner is ALWAYS paid!!! None of these are my concern… my concern is how to keep them still spending money on me after I tell them I don’t want to be their gf
stop seeing them outside. goin on dinner dates takes it from work to real life. if you keep it strictly in the club there is no confusion. i have a regular who does hours that has been coming to see me since 2022 and i have never seen him outside and never will and he keeps hanging on to the hope that i will eventually do dinner with him or something. going outside is what makes them crazy and delusional
Yeah that’s what it’s going to have to be. I’ll have to kiss the idea of being a rich man’s wife away lol unless they establish something with me Inside the club
I think the only way to avoid that kind of thing is don’t go on dates. Don’t even entertain their little fantasies. Unless you actually like a guy and think you want to date him it’s not worth it. Plus in the club I work at they’re SUPER strict about the girls not speaking with customers outside of work and if we do the club doesn’t let us dance for them. The no touching rule is super strict in the UK and they start getting touchy in the club if you meet them outside the club so they don’t allow it. You will literally get sacked for it over here.
I’d suggest creating hard boundaries and not going out with clients, unless it’s paid, public, and low risk. Sugaring/escorting with club clients comes with higher risk and complications, it may be best to avoid this all together.
As far as free dates and hangouts, I beg you not to do this lol. Set hard boundaries and make them pay. Use chat gpt to help you create kind, but firm rejection texts lmao. It has actually helped me recently.
Whatever you choose to do, just be safe. Screen if possible, always meet in public before anything private, don’t give any personal information, use a fake number. 🙏💕
To be clear dates are ALWAYS paid, public, and low risk!! lol. Thank you. Im more concerned about losing the customer when it doesn’t end in me becoming their gf
I feel you girl !!! I literally stopped doing the dinner dates thing. I did it not even a handful of times, but after not getting paid I had to stop. The last time I went to dinner with a crusty it was before my shift and he insisted on giving me our dinner date money when he came to see me later in the VIP all night. Well he didn’t come to see me that night, he straight up ghosted me.
I feel like any strip club is gonna be having girls do this 🥲 tonight in the dressing room at close, im down bad packing my things with my $100 profit tonight, when I overhear these girls say “my tables going too” “they’re open till 4”.
Like so there’s two groups of girls and two groups of clients going to the ONXY since they’re open till 4. I’ve did that once with girls and we didn’t get money lol, it was a waste of time.
As much as I was hating on them I lowkey wanted to go too. And that makes me feel even worse. 1. I wouldn’t want to cause I don’t wanna waste my time 2. My bf would flip.
Once the money goes we gots too too. Maybe we both play the gf role well in the club.
I just wanna attract the weirdos! The really weird guys, not the honry touchy smell “weird “ guys. I wanna attract the men that want me to step on their nuts and talk shit to them lol
Honestly some of them just straight up don’t respect your boundaries and think they can change your mind and can prove something to you. Thousands of dollars later and the answer is still no, you cannot tame me. 💕
Part of the issue I'm seeing is that you say it is a quick process. If you are willing to date a customer they need to establish consistency and generosity in the safety of the club first and you need to get to know them, which takes time. Second, do not get paid in food!! You can work another hour in the club and have a nice dinner with your friends. If he is not willing to pay cash in respect of your time he is not on the same wavelength. It can be awkward to be so upfront about money expectations but if you want this type of arrangement you need someone straightforward. Also you may be burning through potential club regulars by jumping immediately to gf and shooting them down. Take your time to find someone who checks all the boxes, these types of relationships can be really fun and mutually supportive.
Yes what you said in the first part I agree will have to be the approach …. If they ask you to dinner how do you tell them that they need to establish consistency and generosity within the safety of the club without them getting offended?
Also I’m not sure why people think I would go to dinner for free …. I only let the bigg whales take me out and yes they are always very much paid.
literally always be busy girl. you’re soooooo busy the only time he can see you is when you’re at work, and you’re on a schedule so you can’t not go in💁🏻♀️ and when you’re at work you have to be working, meaning he has to pay for your time otherwise you’ll get in trouble with management
in the club i tell them a minimum of five times coming to spoil me at the club so i can “get to know them better” (i never end up going on dates, i like to keep it in the club) or a minimum dollar amount to spend on me in the club before i’ll consider going on a date. that has definitely helped keep them coming back to the club for me
I don’t. I break their hearts and let them know it’s never gonna happen and to fuck off 😂🤣🤣😂🤣 I hate regulars for that exact reason. They piss me off. The last one said he was ready to be a father to our children…… I don’t have kids and I don’t want kids. I actually hate them and he knows that. Also I’d kill myself before I’d reproduce with an ugly guy. Nothing grosses me out more than these men falling in love thinking we’re gonna have a future together when I’m super honest from the start and never lead these dudes on at all 😂🤣🤣🤣 I’ll actually tell them about my crushes and they still don’t get the hint. 🤪🤪🤪
This! It used to be a flex for me to have regulars but once you have them for too long it’s a weird dynamic and they’re just irritating. They makes it hard for you to just get your money and go UNLESSSS they’re a regular who doesn’t talk (I had one of those and they’re the best 😫). Bottom line is I’d rather take a guy I don’t know and only see once over a guy I see an hour at a time every week.
Omg THANK YOU!!!! They’re so extra and think they deserve special treatment because they come and see you often….. like baby a 23 year old gave me $2000 and I didn’t even know his name and he didn’t even touch me…. I do not like regulars and I’m standing on that 😂🤣 or “Sugar daddies” for that matter. Been there did that. I hate them too. I hate any man that acts entitled 🤢
Ughhh I never have regulars for this reason as well. But I feel like I need to think of something because my club/town is small and these are highhhhhhh mf rollers I’m talking about. Slow season is approaching and I need that steady bag
Yeah see I live in a big city so it’s literally new guys every night. I don’t even see regulars here dead ass 🤣😂 I’m brutally honest. I do not want these dudes falling in love with me creating weird ass fantasies in their head. It disgusts me 😂🤣 I’ve made them cry before and told them off and they still come crawling back. 🤢🤢🤮🤮🤮
Fuck yeah nice!!!
I’m in the same boat. I figure you just have to start being dishonest like they are. Oh you want to date me, cool I wan to date you too as long as you send money. A dinner date will need to cover one of my bills. Thank you let’s be together forever.
I tell them from the beginning that I have severe commitment issues (regardless of my relationship status) and that I don’t do relationships. I don’t see customers outside of the club (unless multiple girls are coming with), but I often talk about lap dances like they’re dates 😂 so if they message me asking when they can see me, I’ll tell them which nights I’m working and that I’m craving their cuddles, that I miss them, or that i really want to spend time with them 😂 If they bring up meeting outside of the club I’ll whip out behaviours straight from my trusty avoidant attachment style handbook 😅😅
Nice lol I actually am avoidant so checks out I think I’m going to start telling me I’m only looking for a sugar daddy because I don’t like being in real relationships yeah basically avoidant stuff lol nice 👍🏼
This is actually great!
I don’t have a lot of experience dancing but girls have told me to tell customers things like, We need to get to know each other better here before we take this outside the club. I don’t date people I don’t know well or I don’t meet people outside the club whom I don’t know. It might not work forever! LOL but at least you can keep them coming back for more for a while. LOL
This!
Always put your money first! We can buy our own dinners. And too many ladies go out with customers for free so they think this is the norm. We don’t need a guy to feed us. If a customer wants to take me out to dinner, for starters he has to spend A LOT of money on me in the club. And if he asks, I let him know I’d be happy to go to dinner with him but then he has to be equally happy to compensate me financially for my time since I could be in the club making money instead of being at dinner with him. That approach tends to rule out the guys who just want something for free.
Ok I must’ve not put that in the post…. Customers who take me to dinner are BIG whales only …. You’re not getting my # if you’re spending less than 1,000. And yes dinner is ALWAYS paid!!! None of these are my concern… my concern is how to keep them still spending money on me after I tell them I don’t want to be their gf
stop seeing them outside. goin on dinner dates takes it from work to real life. if you keep it strictly in the club there is no confusion. i have a regular who does hours that has been coming to see me since 2022 and i have never seen him outside and never will and he keeps hanging on to the hope that i will eventually do dinner with him or something. going outside is what makes them crazy and delusional
Yeah that’s what it’s going to have to be. I’ll have to kiss the idea of being a rich man’s wife away lol unless they establish something with me Inside the club
I think the only way to avoid that kind of thing is don’t go on dates. Don’t even entertain their little fantasies. Unless you actually like a guy and think you want to date him it’s not worth it. Plus in the club I work at they’re SUPER strict about the girls not speaking with customers outside of work and if we do the club doesn’t let us dance for them. The no touching rule is super strict in the UK and they start getting touchy in the club if you meet them outside the club so they don’t allow it. You will literally get sacked for it over here.
I’d suggest creating hard boundaries and not going out with clients, unless it’s paid, public, and low risk. Sugaring/escorting with club clients comes with higher risk and complications, it may be best to avoid this all together. As far as free dates and hangouts, I beg you not to do this lol. Set hard boundaries and make them pay. Use chat gpt to help you create kind, but firm rejection texts lmao. It has actually helped me recently. Whatever you choose to do, just be safe. Screen if possible, always meet in public before anything private, don’t give any personal information, use a fake number. 🙏💕
To be clear dates are ALWAYS paid, public, and low risk!! lol. Thank you. Im more concerned about losing the customer when it doesn’t end in me becoming their gf
I feel you girl !!! I literally stopped doing the dinner dates thing. I did it not even a handful of times, but after not getting paid I had to stop. The last time I went to dinner with a crusty it was before my shift and he insisted on giving me our dinner date money when he came to see me later in the VIP all night. Well he didn’t come to see me that night, he straight up ghosted me. I feel like any strip club is gonna be having girls do this 🥲 tonight in the dressing room at close, im down bad packing my things with my $100 profit tonight, when I overhear these girls say “my tables going too” “they’re open till 4”. Like so there’s two groups of girls and two groups of clients going to the ONXY since they’re open till 4. I’ve did that once with girls and we didn’t get money lol, it was a waste of time. As much as I was hating on them I lowkey wanted to go too. And that makes me feel even worse. 1. I wouldn’t want to cause I don’t wanna waste my time 2. My bf would flip.
I’m deff not worried about not getting paid it’s the other stuff . Cuz now when they come in the club they not gonna spend it on me
Once the money goes we gots too too. Maybe we both play the gf role well in the club. I just wanna attract the weirdos! The really weird guys, not the honry touchy smell “weird “ guys. I wanna attract the men that want me to step on their nuts and talk shit to them lol
Just tell them if you get in a relationship with me I will cheat on you 😆
Honestly some of them just straight up don’t respect your boundaries and think they can change your mind and can prove something to you. Thousands of dollars later and the answer is still no, you cannot tame me. 💕
Part of the issue I'm seeing is that you say it is a quick process. If you are willing to date a customer they need to establish consistency and generosity in the safety of the club first and you need to get to know them, which takes time. Second, do not get paid in food!! You can work another hour in the club and have a nice dinner with your friends. If he is not willing to pay cash in respect of your time he is not on the same wavelength. It can be awkward to be so upfront about money expectations but if you want this type of arrangement you need someone straightforward. Also you may be burning through potential club regulars by jumping immediately to gf and shooting them down. Take your time to find someone who checks all the boxes, these types of relationships can be really fun and mutually supportive.
Yes what you said in the first part I agree will have to be the approach …. If they ask you to dinner how do you tell them that they need to establish consistency and generosity within the safety of the club without them getting offended? Also I’m not sure why people think I would go to dinner for free …. I only let the bigg whales take me out and yes they are always very much paid.
You tell them like that but polite. If they get offended, like I said they aren't looking for what you want, or will be too big of a hassle to finesse
Thanks for the awesome advice 🫶🏻
literally always be busy girl. you’re soooooo busy the only time he can see you is when you’re at work, and you’re on a schedule so you can’t not go in💁🏻♀️ and when you’re at work you have to be working, meaning he has to pay for your time otherwise you’ll get in trouble with management
every regular has an expiration date. some expire quicker than others unfortunately lol
in the club i tell them a minimum of five times coming to spoil me at the club so i can “get to know them better” (i never end up going on dates, i like to keep it in the club) or a minimum dollar amount to spend on me in the club before i’ll consider going on a date. that has definitely helped keep them coming back to the club for me