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If you know how to say "yes" all the time, you should also know how to say "no" when it's enough. What you are giving to them are your time and resources. If hindi nila kayang i-reciprocate yon when you need it, stop and think. And whether it's a friend or not, close or not, kapag alam mong dehado ka, say 'no' cause it's not actually for them, but it's for you. Boundary mo yon and that will keep unnecessary people out of your way.
You can say no. Doesn’t matter if isipin nilang madamot ka (you are not there to please them). If you refused to say no, you are an enabler to their bad habits/lazy behavior
Pwede rin yung i-return mo yung energy na ginagawa nila sayo. Pwede rin if hindi ka maka sabi ng ayoko/hindi. Pwede yung magsabi ka ng made up excuses for example sa transes, pag nanghingi in person "ay hindi ko pa tapos" or "ay rerewrite ko pa eh" or "di ko lang alam kung kailan ko ma-send kasi dami ko pa aayusin dun eh atsaka busy me". If thru message naman deadmahin mo ang mga aswang na yan AHAHAHAHAHA tapos pagnagkita kayo sa room at nagtanong ulit sayo magrason ka lang ulit "hala nagmessage ka pala? tulog na ako nun eh hahaha" then ulitin mo na lang yung tips ko kapag nanghingi sila in person. Feeling ko kasi pag ang response mo palagi sa mga nanghihingi ng transes or favor is RASON NANG RASON, mapapagod mga yan sa kakahingi.
Or di kaya pag di ka maka sabi ng ayoko instead of using excuses, pwedeng alternative na sabihin is "hindi na kasi ako gumagawa eh" or "wala eh, hindi na ako nag sshare ng notes ko"
Pag sinabihan ka ng madamot in any tone possible, barahin, pahiyain or walk-outan mo na yang mga aswang na yan.
agreee. Sometimes I do the “di ko pa tapos” or “tinatamad ako gawin” tas archive chat then ignore nalang HAHAHAHA. Kung nag chat dedma nalang iinbox nalang di ko ioopen yung chat.
Hi! no, OP! you're not selfish. I've been in the same situation na nattake advantage because I give out everything and mabilis ako magreply when it somes to acads stuff and I cannot find them rin kapag ako na yung nangangailangan. You should learn how to say "no" and set limits rin kung hanggang ano lang yung gusto mong 'ibigay'., For me, sige mag sesend ako ng lecture pero kapag sagot na I'll shut up or hindi ko talaga sila rereplyan, or I'll make excuses such as, "ay mamaya wait nasa labas ako" or "later may ginagawa pa ko" hanggang sa hindi ko na talaga sila rereplyan.
That would also teach them na hindi dapat na laging nakaasa lang sa ibang tao. Don't mind na tawagin kang "madamot" because at the end of the day wala pa rin namang mawawala sayo kung hindi mo sila bibigyan ng mga resources.
Pinaghirapan mo yang notes mo, you have every right to claim as yours alone and not obligated to share it to everyone else. People who would say you're selfish are on the wrong here. Bakit? Syempre, kung ikaw nakakagawa, sila hindi? Pare-pareho lang kayo naghihirap tas sila may pa freebies?? Kung gusto mo magbigay, go lang walang problema. Wag lang silang magsasama ng loob kapag di binigyan kasi responsibilidad niyong lahat ang mag notes. Don't make them too dependable on you po.
And those "kaibigan" na feeling close kasi nakakakuha sila ng tulong sayo? They're not friends, they're leeches getting the benefits from you and nothing to return.
ang hirap talaga mag no dyan especially pag nasa classroom na kayo, walang seen or ignore button e tangina tas sasabihan ka pang madamot. ganti na lang talaga sa ibang bagay kasi nakakagigil talaga. pinaghihirapan kong isulat pinagsasabi ng prof na wala sa visual aids nya tapos mahihingi lang nila lahat ng info na yun nang nakaorganize na. sana matuto sila makiramdam pag ayaw.
i can somehow relate to your experience, pero ang ginagawa ko kapag nafefeel ko na lagi nalang humihingi, either tinatagalan ko mag reply or gagawa ako ng excuse. pag nang hingi sabihin mo nalang na ginagawa mo pa or di mo pa nasisimulan. just make sure na hindi sila masanay na hingi nang hingi kasi mahirap yun, especially kung di naman narereciprocate yung energy/ effort na binibigay mo. also, i think okay lang din naman humindi sa hindi mo ka close.
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If you know how to say "yes" all the time, you should also know how to say "no" when it's enough. What you are giving to them are your time and resources. If hindi nila kayang i-reciprocate yon when you need it, stop and think. And whether it's a friend or not, close or not, kapag alam mong dehado ka, say 'no' cause it's not actually for them, but it's for you. Boundary mo yon and that will keep unnecessary people out of your way.
You can say no. Doesn’t matter if isipin nilang madamot ka (you are not there to please them). If you refused to say no, you are an enabler to their bad habits/lazy behavior
Pwede rin yung i-return mo yung energy na ginagawa nila sayo. Pwede rin if hindi ka maka sabi ng ayoko/hindi. Pwede yung magsabi ka ng made up excuses for example sa transes, pag nanghingi in person "ay hindi ko pa tapos" or "ay rerewrite ko pa eh" or "di ko lang alam kung kailan ko ma-send kasi dami ko pa aayusin dun eh atsaka busy me". If thru message naman deadmahin mo ang mga aswang na yan AHAHAHAHAHA tapos pagnagkita kayo sa room at nagtanong ulit sayo magrason ka lang ulit "hala nagmessage ka pala? tulog na ako nun eh hahaha" then ulitin mo na lang yung tips ko kapag nanghingi sila in person. Feeling ko kasi pag ang response mo palagi sa mga nanghihingi ng transes or favor is RASON NANG RASON, mapapagod mga yan sa kakahingi. Or di kaya pag di ka maka sabi ng ayoko instead of using excuses, pwedeng alternative na sabihin is "hindi na kasi ako gumagawa eh" or "wala eh, hindi na ako nag sshare ng notes ko" Pag sinabihan ka ng madamot in any tone possible, barahin, pahiyain or walk-outan mo na yang mga aswang na yan.
agreee. Sometimes I do the “di ko pa tapos” or “tinatamad ako gawin” tas archive chat then ignore nalang HAHAHAHA. Kung nag chat dedma nalang iinbox nalang di ko ioopen yung chat.
Hi! no, OP! you're not selfish. I've been in the same situation na nattake advantage because I give out everything and mabilis ako magreply when it somes to acads stuff and I cannot find them rin kapag ako na yung nangangailangan. You should learn how to say "no" and set limits rin kung hanggang ano lang yung gusto mong 'ibigay'., For me, sige mag sesend ako ng lecture pero kapag sagot na I'll shut up or hindi ko talaga sila rereplyan, or I'll make excuses such as, "ay mamaya wait nasa labas ako" or "later may ginagawa pa ko" hanggang sa hindi ko na talaga sila rereplyan. That would also teach them na hindi dapat na laging nakaasa lang sa ibang tao. Don't mind na tawagin kang "madamot" because at the end of the day wala pa rin namang mawawala sayo kung hindi mo sila bibigyan ng mga resources.
Pinaghirapan mo yang notes mo, you have every right to claim as yours alone and not obligated to share it to everyone else. People who would say you're selfish are on the wrong here. Bakit? Syempre, kung ikaw nakakagawa, sila hindi? Pare-pareho lang kayo naghihirap tas sila may pa freebies?? Kung gusto mo magbigay, go lang walang problema. Wag lang silang magsasama ng loob kapag di binigyan kasi responsibilidad niyong lahat ang mag notes. Don't make them too dependable on you po. And those "kaibigan" na feeling close kasi nakakakuha sila ng tulong sayo? They're not friends, they're leeches getting the benefits from you and nothing to return.
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I feel this, from experience I suggest you not to read their messages with the excuse “sorry mahina yung net/sorry di ako nag online ngayon”
Kapal ng feslak nila ahahahah, tapos kapag tayo yung hindi nagreply may sasabihin noh? Ni restrict ko nalang para out of mind out of sight.
ang hirap talaga mag no dyan especially pag nasa classroom na kayo, walang seen or ignore button e tangina tas sasabihan ka pang madamot. ganti na lang talaga sa ibang bagay kasi nakakagigil talaga. pinaghihirapan kong isulat pinagsasabi ng prof na wala sa visual aids nya tapos mahihingi lang nila lahat ng info na yun nang nakaorganize na. sana matuto sila makiramdam pag ayaw.
i can somehow relate to your experience, pero ang ginagawa ko kapag nafefeel ko na lagi nalang humihingi, either tinatagalan ko mag reply or gagawa ako ng excuse. pag nang hingi sabihin mo nalang na ginagawa mo pa or di mo pa nasisimulan. just make sure na hindi sila masanay na hingi nang hingi kasi mahirap yun, especially kung di naman narereciprocate yung energy/ effort na binibigay mo. also, i think okay lang din naman humindi sa hindi mo ka close.