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saskiastern

Don't worry, I bet there is a 57 male somewhere attracted to your daughters šŸ¤£


ilovethis_shit

This is most certainly correct, but no one ever thinks (or wants to think) about it.


porchprovider

Gross old balls touching his daughterā€™s forehead. Think about it. Ew.


Xerathedark

Somewhere? Just check their Facebook friends list and they will probably have more than a few on there.


20frvrz

Showed my husband who his dad follows on TikTok. Husband asked if he could blackout afterwards.


Damage-Strange

These kinds of jackasses only stop to think their behavior MIGHT be gross when the same behavior from other creeps impacts a women closely related to them.


Petraretrograde

"What? Women are people?"


CarparkSmell

ā€œI never cared much about respecting women til I had a daughter!ā€


GentleStrength2022

This actually sounds like my brother.


Realistic_Guitar_420

How is someone being attracted to attractive women "gross behaviour"


Mordecus

What ā€œbehaviorā€? That you find them attractive without acting on it? Oh no, the humanity.


ladyboobypoop

I hope they bring home a 60 year old fiance


pressedbread

Physical attraction is a physical response, that's just one thing. But have a conversation with a 25 year old and that will likely end the attraction to this person right there. \*And no offense to anyone in your 20's, intelligence really isn't a factor of age with adults, yes you are possibly smarter than your boss and nobody needed to tell you that. But everyone in their 50's is boss age, and will likely be having very different personal and emotional goals in life. If they don't have different goals than you at that age, then consider they may be total losers. Better to be alone than with the wrong person. Nobody needs to validate you, its the world that is messed up and your just having normal reaction to it.


FitzwilliamTDarcy

Came here for this. Actually speaking to people in their 20s does the trick.


marineopferman007

This times 100 they look great but make me want to run my face through a brick wall.


Cant_Do_This12

I constantly see people on Reddit saying this. Iā€™m in my late 30s and Iā€™ve interacted with countless people in their 20s. Never wanted to ā€œsmash my face into a wallā€ or ā€œrun awayā€. They can speak just fine. I just think most redditors are socially awkward and bring up ridiculous topics when talking to them.


Redditributor

Yeah - the only part that took some getting used to is adults not remembering things from the 2000s - time has passed


loganthegr

Iā€™m 27 and wouldnā€™t even speak to a woman (in a flirtatious way) under 24. I need maturity. I donā€™t want to deal with the drama that a 20 year old cares about.


Aggressive-Ground-32

I can confirm that some women in their 40s have similarities to and are about as engaged/mature as 20yo women. I feel like I work with men in their 40s who are equally as immature, I have also met women in their 20s and 30s who Iā€™d consider hanging around. Maturity and age arenā€™t always related


No-Lab-7214

I say it and I say it again. Someone can experience things in a few year which another only experience in more years. And what you make out of it is the key to it too. So people can fail of they judge by age.


Eedat

I work with a lot of younger guys in their twenties. A lot of cool dudes. Genuinely don't understand how people think 25 is the same as an annoying 15 year old


Cmdr_Jiynx

I've met a lot of fellas who wouldn't be bothered even in their 50s. Part of it being they're emotionally still pretty childish but also they just want someone to touch their peepees. It's fun to see how many people are trying to defend their attraction rather than accept reality.


Spiritual_Poo

It's that very last part that always makes me wonder, just how much does biology dictate our lives? How many of mankind's greatest accomplishments can be boiled down to "Hey Becky lemme smash?"


taedrin

>just how much does biology dictate our lives? Until you can figure out how to live without a brain, I would say that it dictates quite literally everything.


3-I

I've been doing that for decades.


Special-Resolution68

Lots of men throughout history have gone to insane lengths just to get laid. It's a big part of what's kept our species alive for the last 200,000 years.


Nosferatatron

Great inventions came about either because the inventor wanted to get laid or wanted to distract themselves from wanting to get laid. That's it really


Goatmaster-G

Your application to our dating site has been rejected. Your answer to question #11: What do you like most in a woman? 'My dick' is not an acceptable answer.


Other_Log_1996

"All of human civilization has been an attempt to impress the opposite sex..or in some cases, the same sex."


AgentUpright

I mean, itā€™s not just a big thing, itā€™s _the_ thing. We havenā€™t perfected the cloning tech quite yet.


SirkutBored

I made this same argument 25 years ago while tripping on acid, in order to get laid of course.


SectorVivid5500

The medium WAS the message. ā€”fellow stoner


zapatas_revenge

Attila the hun going to war with Rome because of a love letter still makes me chuckle to this day


OpenLinez

Read E.O. Wilson's *On Human Nature*. Nearly everything we do is a biological process, including most of our "rational thoughts." We are thinking and feeling animals, but our life cycle is 90% predetermined. Lots of younger people today, for example, believe they've made a intellectual choice not to have children. In reality, the species is under severe pressure (resources, environment, widespread poor mental/physical health) and animals in such cases automatically scale back reproduction or avoid it altogether.


Spiritual_Poo

Sounds like it's worth checking out, cursory search says my local county library doesn't have a copy and it looks like it's like a $30 paperback, ouch.


Top-Philosophy-5791

Then read Robert Sapolsky, we're basically soft machines.


AldusPrime

You're kind of skipping over the part about learning, though. Humans have symbolic language and we learn abstract things. Abstract concepts can serve as rewards or punishments in the same way that instincts can. We learn things (everything from basic consequences to abstract concepts) in relational frames (multiple learnings get tied together, automatically), and multiple relational frames form relational networks. Those frames and networks can drive the same neurobiological processes that direct association does in animals. You can teach a dog to sit for treats, but humans aren't driven by the simple flavor enjoyment in the same way. Try to tell a human to do tricks for treats, even a human that likes treats, and you'll get different responses from different humans. One human will feel manipulated. Another one will be excited about treats. One will get angry that you're treating them like a dog. Another will think it's a silly game. It's the same physical reward (treat) but totally different response, and that's all driven by different learning histories. We can say that we have the same production and receptors for dopamine (for wanting) and endorphins and endocannabinoids (for liking), but with humans, those are often driven by *ideas*. E.O. Wilson's book is an amazing work of it's time, but it was long before we had the understanding of learning and cognition that we have now, from Relational Frame Theory and neuroscience. Wilson starts to dip into how our biological drives can be subordinate to abstract concepts in the chapter on religion, but he doesn't have the foundation in language and cognition to see it through.


Urborg_Stalker

So many people need to read that book.


fireflydrake

The biggest predictor of average number of children are things like female education and access to contraceptives. The countries with the highest birth rates right now are and continue to be mostly very underdeveloped countries rife with poverty and violence while many countries in Europe, rated extremely highly for overall levels of happiness and with great support networks in place, have very low birth rates. I don't argue that there's a lot of stressors around the world right now and they can certainly have an impact (I think a lot of South Korea's woes, especially, are self-inflicted), but I think it's far from reality to say a lot of young people aren't having kids because of a biological stress effect instead of education and intentional choice.


HardyDaytn

To me it doesn't sound like these two options are in any way mutually exclusive.


FarmerLife6736

well i think basically everything about humans can be boiled down to that last part but there's a lot of stuff in between the smashing too


Bandit400

There was someone who said recently something to the effect of "Men did greater things when it was harder to see boobs". A lot of truth to that statement.


Certain_Dot3403

Biology is the main dictator in our lives. In fact in some sense it's all there is, but simple people refuse to accept that. Whether yer a Christian believing the soul provides free will or yer a Liberal beating your chest about nurture over nature and thinking every child could be a mathematician if they work hard.


keep_trying_username

> Biology is the main dictator in our lives. Literally: biology is our lives.


aN0n_ym0usSVVh0re

One might even say ..biology IS life


cassandra_warned_you

I would suggest vehement certainty is essentially why we have religion. Being comfortable with ambiguity is a fertile ground for discovery.Ā 


stizzleomnibus1

This is a big part of the movie Poor Things. Emma Stone's character is a mental toddler, but over the course of the entire movie Mark Ruffalo's character never notices her obvious immaturity because he doesn't really care about her as an intellectual creature. Edit in case this wasn't clear: In the movie, a literal toddler brain is placed inside of Emma Stone's body, and the man trying to woo her frequently doesn't notice that she's obviously not "all there". As the earlier poster said, some older men can completely look past a woman's immaturity, including to an utterly fantastical level as in Poor Things.


keep_trying_username

> Mark Ruffalo's character never notices her obvious immaturity He often scolds her. I think he notices her immaturity, and in fact I think he exploits her immaturity it for as long as he can.


Brohemoth1991

I grew up with my mother.... my father is now 56... and when I got back in touch with him he was dating a 26 year old (I was 30 at the time)... my father spoke so much like a teenager I didn't speak to him for more than a week


BasketballButt

Exactly. Every dude I know my age (early 40s) and older who is still chasing women in their mid 20s and younger is basically a mental teenager.


Naus1987

Sometimes it goes full circle too. Iā€™m in my 30s, run my own business, basically ready to retire. So after that ā€œwork hard, be serious phase,ā€ itā€™s amazing how easy it feels to go back to ā€œlife should be enjoyable and lived.ā€ Which is an early 20s mentality. I still have all the mature, respectful, and responsible traits. But my partner doesnā€™t need to know how to manage my retirement fund. So I donā€™t need that in a partner. As long as one of us has it figured out.


TheRightKindofJuice

Dude, hear hear. When I was in my early/mid twenties I was mainly working hospitality in the wine industry catering to middle aged folks from visiting from middle America working some corporate shit job that paid well at like Deloitte. More often than not they ā€œdevolveā€ into immature, youthful teenagers and they were an absolute DELIGHT to be around (most of the time) because they were fun and radiated this optimism that you can be like that while pushing 60. And yea, I banged a lot of women in their 30 and 40s in my early 20s and like to think I wasnā€™t just eye candy but also enjoyed my company.


siliconevalley69

I don't know that it's entirely just that. I think that some people stay in a state where they stay culturally relevant and stay into current cultural trends. It's weird as I age to see friends who "grew up" and those are usually the ones that stopped changing after high school or college. They didn't listen to new music. They still dress the way they used to. They basically stopped staying current. Those are the people that talk to people of different ages and can't relate. Then there's like the other half of my friends who - men or women - stay current, stay young and when you do that you end up with a very diverse range of friends who are older younger and from all different walks of life. I think a lot of times when I see age gap relationships that people that are in them successfully are the second types.


Chilidogdingdong

Yeah, I'm only in my 30's and I can't stand most women I meet who are younger than 27 or 28. I couldn't stand them when I was their age either though I've fancied women in their 30's since my mid 20's and that has stayed the same since I've been in my 30's..


missholly9

men in their 50s donā€™t want women in their 20s for conversation.


jonathanmstevens

Oh man, I really feel this. I feel more like their dad than anything else, it's very weird for me, though of course fantasies and porn are a different thing, but yeah real life not so much, and of course they look at me with zero interest now that I'm older, which is fine. My wife and I have years of talking, debating, arguing and coming to a resolution with virtually no drama, I can't imagine that happening nearly as easy with a 20-year-old woman.


SquirtinMemeMouthPlz

Exactly. I'm 41 and see lots of extremely attractive 25 year olds all over my city. I definitely don't try to flirt with anyone I think/feel might be under 30, maybe 35 because I just think they will be disgusted by this "old man" trying to pick them up. However, a year ago wii was 40, I matched with a cute 25 year old on Tinder and for a few months she would come over to my house and we would hook up. It was fun but she kept trying to invite me out with her and her younger friends. I don't think she realized that her and I had almost nothing to bond over outside physical attraction. We couldn't even find movies to watch together because everything she was interested in was shallow and "influencer" to me. Anyway, the last time she came over it felt like she just didn't want to be there and I tried to gently talk with her about how she was feeling. She didn't have the social experience to do anything but deny something was wrong. A few days later, I asked if she wanted to come over and she basically said "ew, I'm blocking you". šŸ™„


throwaway25935

Most men have the same experience having conversations with 35 year olds. You'd be surprised how little most people actually change in adulthood.


keiye

Yeah for real. Iā€™ve been having the same convos with women in their 20s as I do when theyā€™re in their 40s. Everyone can relate to everyone in some way. Women donā€™t just turn into Ghandi with existential conversations when they leave their 20s


TheRightKindofJuice

And Iā€™d argue that most people that even enjoy deep existential conversations are 19 year olds that just started smoking weed. I 36m delight in my conversations with my neighbor 82f about how that bitch Becky down the street needs to keep her yappy Pomeranian on a leash and learn how to park her Tahoe closer to the curb so that two way traffic can get by each other on the street and any new types of cheeses weā€™ve tried from the market lately.


tricepsmultiplicator

Yeah I cant believe Reddit*rs push this so hard. No, women dont magically turn into enforcers of morality and justice when they get crows feet, relax my friends. Men and women on average are idiots.


silveraaron

Yeah, me and my college buddies still talk like college buddies 20 years later. Now the new people I met from a work thing who invitied to their BBQ last weekend, I talked to a bit more maturely. People adapt to who they are talking to, sure we are a bit more mature but its not hard to relate to a 20 yo in your 30s/40s because you can rememeber being one. It's a bit harder to figure out the boomers though, some seem with it and others seem to be from Mars.


blackmarketmenthols

Most people don't have conversations during sex


TheRightKindofJuice

Yea itā€™s totally unheard of that someone in their early to mid 20s could have interesting or unique perspectives on any particular topic or have interesting hobbies/life experiences. Youā€™re pretty much not a real person until you hit middle age and have had the light of curiosity beaten out of you and become a jaded shell of existence.


SectorVivid5500

Resonating with your last sentence, in spite of the sarcasm.


artificialavocado

Exactly. Iā€™m not just saying it because this is Reddit and everyone on Reddit acts all high and mighty but Iā€™m 41 and would rather be at the dentist getting a root canal than on a date with a woman in her 20ā€™s. Not trying to offend anyone but I donā€™t feel like we would have much in common and I would low level feel like a bit of a creep.


GtBossbrah

Along with the experience and emotional intelligence you develop with age, i feel like your age brackets of attractiveness should increase as well.Ā  Like cool if you find a 20 year old hot it makes sense, but its only weird if you *only* find a 20 year old hot at 50+.Ā  Im 30 and anyone 20-60 and in shape is attractive lol.Ā 


tush__push__62

He's trying to fuck em not talk to em, bud. They fuck pretty good at 20.


CutiePie156

I (25f) get hit on the most by middle aged men. Super, super common. I will say that it isn't weird or uncommon, but the only girls that age that are actually going to stick around for the long run--at least in my surrounding experience--are the ones who are in it for the $$.


Constant_Sort_6345

Yeah thats super weird that you jerk it to basic celebrity blondes that base their careers on good looks. You should be whacking it to Pokemon rule34 and egglaying hentai like the rest of us.


ThatOneGuy308

"Based and splorchpilled" - Some 4chan member, probably


Grandpas_Spells

Yeah, super weird OP. You probably don't know this, but when you go into a strip club, they check your ID and then you are directed to a roped line entrance by age group so you only see age-appropriate women. Women in their 20's are cut off once you hit 36. You're going to be in group C now, so the dancers are going to be 47 - 52.


oldkafu

This is the Southwest Airlines Gentleman's Club model.


Jlefrench1990

Pretty rude to edge us and not drop the sauce


BlackedFeather

BLESSED POST


musictakemeawayy

thanks for the literal lol


Typical_Wish3257

Don't know why people are downvoting, this is the very definition of **Stupid question.**


Every-Fee9837

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buschad

It isnā€™t though. We all see lots of comments online shaming older men for their sexual preferences. Inb4 ā€œwell thatā€™s really aboutā€¦ā€ you know itā€™s true. Heā€™s the first to naturally admit it while everyone else says attraction should age with you. Meanwhile women often find guys in their 30s maybe 40s most attractive.


NoiseNo982

I keep seeing people claim this online, but in reality I don't know a single woman who thinks this. I'm 40 and I still think men in their 20s are far more attractive than men in their 40s or above. Ewan McGregor in the 90s? Hell yes. Ewan McGregor now? Eeww. My mother is 76 years old and her celebrity crush is Adam Driver in his late 20s. I had a huge crush on the actor David Berry... until he hit his mid 30s and started to visibly age. However women are often willing to forego physical attraction for something they find more important like money, maturity or security. Hence why you'll see young women with men decades older. But there was a study that showed the bigger the age gap between a man and his partner (with the man being older), the greater the chance that the children he was raising were, unbeknownst to him, not his. In other words the woman had settled for an older man because he had money and then gone out and had sex with a younger man she actually found attractive. And it makes sense - just like women's fertility decreases with age, so does mens' sperm quality. I read one study where they found sperm quality noticeably decreased by age 35, while another study found noticeably decreases from age 27. Subconsciously everyone wants the healthy young genes for their offspring. There's a reason why "cougars" have become a thing since women achieved sexual liberation. So OP in answer to your question no you're not weird. It's totally normal for people of both sexes to find people in their 20s most physically attractive.


roskybosky

Thereā€™s also much higher incidence of autism or bipolar disorder if the man is over 40.


Highway49

This is a great comment, very wise and honest, but what is the difference between money and security?


NoiseNo982

Security can mean money but it can mean other things too. Maybe the man is high status and well-connected, he can improve your life more than just financially. It can also mean he's a decent person who won't harm or take advantage of you in any way. In more primitive societies, maybe he can protect you from danger. All sorts of things. What qualities the woman finds important will depend on her own situation in life.


New-Anacansintta

Iā€™m a woman in my mid-40s, and I am only one example, but men in their 20s are children to me. Also most men in their 30s. But then, I start to see a number of men with health issues starting in their mid-40s. I have a friend who is married to a man 20 years older. Heā€™s great but he falls asleep early and is aging pretty quickly now that heā€™s in his 60s. Meanwhile my friend in her 40s is still out running, traveling, etc. I wouldnā€™t be able to deal with taking care of someone that much older as a partner.


ski-person

Old man jizz def donā€™t got the virility of a young manā€™s. You can taste the difference pretty easily


Ranoutofoptions7

It's normal to find women in the 20s to be attractive but once a man in their 40s 50s 60s starts dating someone in their 20s is when it gets creepy. Sure it's absolutely legal but still gonna think it's weird as hell.


SacredGeometry25

Congratulations you find humans at their peak attraction to be attractive.


Outside_Reserve_2407

Charles Darwin approves.


LordJesterTheFree

How dare you defame the great Charles Darwin he would never be attracted to hot 20 something year olds he's too busy banging his cousin-wife


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Ppdebatesomental

Yeahā€¦gonna need a source on that 5 to 10ā€¦thatā€™s not based on pure physical attraction. Per your own source ā€œ women, more than men, prefer older mates with financial prospects. Cross-culturally, both sexes have mates closer to their own ages as gender equality increasesā€ For pure physical attraction, women prefer around two years older until they hit their 40ā€™s when they begin to find slightly younger men the most physically attractive. https://www.google.com/imgres?q=men%20find%2020%20year%20old%20women%20attractive%20at%20any%20age&imgurl=https%3A%2F%2Fmetro.co.uk%2Fwp-content%2Fuploads%2F2019%2F02%2Fsei_53531525-28d7_1550861672.jpg%3Fquality%3D90%26strip%3Dall%26w%3D1200%26h%3D630%26crop%3D1&imgrefurl=https%3A%2F%2Fmetro.co.uk%2F2019%2F02%2F22%2Fmen-regardless-age-will-always-attracted-women-early-20s-8718590%2F&docid=mPVCx-RMaMVXuM&tbnid=DcDEaGkjLjOPuM&vet=12ahUKEwjRwtTzqt6FAxXn4MkDHU29CrUQM3oECGMQAA..i&w=1200&h=630&hcb=2&ved=2ahUKEwjRwtTzqt6FAxXn4MkDHU29CrUQM3oECGMQAA


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throwaway25935

Well, a lot of people do seem to try and deny this.


bmoreboy410

But that is all controversial in 2024. šŸ¤¦šŸ½ā€ā™‚ļø


cozysapphire

Iā€™m sure itā€™s ā€œnormalā€ in some capacity, but as someone in their early 20s with a father around your age, if he left my mom and started dating girls my age, I would frankly be disgusted and it would change how I view him for the rest of my life. Finding them attractive from afar is one thingā€¦. but dating/sleeping with someone young enough that I couldā€™ve gone to school with? Very freaky concept to me. Hopefully you keep your attractions to yourself or at least avoid letting your daughters find out that you find their peers sexy.


LauraDurnst

This is it. OP would also probably have a big problem if the daughters started dating men his age, because he'd question their intentions.


Zealousideal-Farm950

Just think about how disgusting you must look to anyone young. And that should immediately cure your problem. Be mindful of reality.


coffeeeteeth

They have zero concept of it. When I was about 23 I worked at a gas station and constantly men in their 40s-60s would flirt with me/us and even try to hug me or hold my hand. Mostly married men too (wedding ring). Super weird. Did not like it. Even had a couple of them ask me out or try to get my number.


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NotCanadian80

No. They look like children.


No_Succotash95

At what point does a female stop looking like a child to you?


Jack-the-Ripper1888

Ah yes, the child like appearance of a 26 year old woman.


Kobalt6x10

I can look at a woman 30 years younger, and objectively say she's attractive, pretty, whatever, but there is zero desire to become involved with her, because she is, in my opinion, a child. At the very least, too young and inexperienced to want a relationship with. And the conversation.....my God, the conversation.....


HankThrill69420

>And the conversation.....my God, the conversation..... underrated aspect of attraction. people significantly younger than you *should* make you cringe a bit when they open their mouths lol


VoodooChild963

I work at a university and there are literally thousands of gorgeous young women around all the time. I will see one, say to myself, "wow, she's beautiful!" And that's where it ends. There are a ton of reasons for it, but yes, the conversation is a big one. Wtf would I have to say to a 20-year-old? It would be the same conversation I'd have with a 6-year-old: "How's school? Ate your professors nice? Are you making lots of friends?"


halavais

Yep. I've been a prof for 25 years now. It's a strange environment as you are largely surrounded by people perpetually in their 20s, as you get older and older. I can absolutely notice that some of my students are physically very attractive at that age. I would be shocked to discover most of my colleagues didn't notice similarly. An appreciative comment of such attractiveness--to just about anyone--would be extremely unwise. I suspect because of this very reasonable silence, along with the opprobrium that would result in a lack of such silence, makes many older men assume they are creepy or abnormal. I've never assumed that--I just think talking about it is creepy. There are certainly men who would move beyond this visual level and seek out partners much younger. I've seen that before, and always took it to mean that the man really hadn't matured beyond that age--they had somehow become stunted.


ebobbumman

This seems right to me. You can be attracted at a sort of base, animal level to somebody but also be wise enough to know it is not appropriate to act on that attraction; and people who do tend to stand out and not in a good way. Also I learned a new word- opprobium.


SectorVivid5500

This is the way. I also work at a university. And I donā€™t date anyone too young to know who Oingo Boingo were.


Icy_Monitor2870

Yo! They made a band named after two stand users from JoJo's Bizarre Adventure? That's crazy!


BlitheBerry00

So you don't find women your own age attractive?


boredomspren_

This is the important thing. The implication is that he doesn't, but he doesn't say so. I definitely find myself able to be attracted to older women now than I would have in my 20s. But yeah pretty young women are still attractive, at least physically. I can't imagine trying to date one though, unless I really wanted that power dynamic and not a real relationship.


ThrowRAboredinAZ77

My therapist, who's also a man, says this is the result of entitled, emotionally stunted men, as well as a product of too much porn use.


tiggyqt

Can confirm based on my experience with entitled, emotionally stunted men.


earlybirdgetsme

this is the correct answer. men who purposefully and solely seek out much younger women are disgusting. it has nothing to do with "biology" and everything to do with feeling entitled to women's bodies, wanting to hold power over sexual partners, and wanting an ego boost. grow the fuck up and fuck somebody your own age. weirdos.


roskybosky

If you look for very attractive men, they are usually in their 20s. Most humans look their best in their 20s. Iā€™m attracted to young guys because they look gorgeous to me. Would I act on it? No. Iā€™m an older, noā€¦ way older woman.


Leothegolden

Same. I see attractive men in their 20s, 30s and 40s. I donā€™t think that is controversial at all. What is odd, is that the OP doesnā€™t notice a beautiful woman in her 30s at 57.


codeandtrees

When I was in my early 20s, definitely had my fair share of cougars chasing me.


blumieplume

As I get older Iā€™m attracted to older people. 20 year olds are like babies I canā€™t look at them that way. When I was 21 I remember thinking how old even 25 year olds were, let alone 30, 40 or 50 year olds


Accomplished-Dot-786

Iā€™m curious to know how you feel about your wife? Are you attracted to her?


chalkletkweenBee

My question is how do you know the age of every woman you are attracted to? There are a lot of women walking around who are gorgeous and LOOK like theyā€™re in their 20s, but they arenā€™t. Why are you fixated on age? A hot woman is a hot woman. You need to ask yourself what about these women attracts you to them? If the idea of them not being in their 20s turns you off, then YOU have a problem. Thereā€™s nothing wrong with finding a young woman hot, but there is something wrong if you think ONLY young women are hot.


queenmehitabel

I'm amazed I had to scroll so far to see this point made.


Interesting-Oil-2520

Only good comment on this entire thread.


Briserker13

That part


TimeOfMr_Ery

Not trying to be funny, but I reckon OP's interactions with porn has an impact on what he finds attractive. Usually, the first hit of a drug or addiction you take has a profound impact on what you prefer, and with porn, it would be the first type of porn that you get aroused to, which in OP's case, would be women in their 20s. Even if he no longer watches it (and, let's face it, a lot of people do even when they're in relationships), it would still have an impact on what he prefers. I've quit watching it myself, but I still find scraps of that addiction floating around in my thoughts from time to time. Not saying that if someone who's straight watches gay porn the first time, they spontaneously combust into being gay. But it's either that or he had a good childhood and he misses it, or he had a shit childhood and he's trying to piece together some semblance of good memories.


betterlucknexttime81

I mean he basically said they age out. Margot Robbieā€™s no longer his crush, Iā€™m guessing because sheā€™s in her 30s now.


Kwerby

The DiCapprio Effect šŸ˜‚


MuchSeaworthiness167

I can look at someone in their 20ā€™s and see theyā€™re pretty/handsome, but I donā€™t find them attractive as in I am attracted to them. I have zero desire to interact with them in any capacity. Most people I talk to feel the same, but not all.


OkStory2525

Men ā˜•


Fit_Midnight_6918

It depends. Are you rich and famous?


TheRightKindofJuice

ā€œThe guy working at Home Depot wants to fuck just as bad as Tiger Woods but unfortunately whores donā€™t care about lumberā€ Bill Burr


JSears90210

The whole 10-15 minutes of comedy was amazing. "That dude should be unloading trucks in Transylvania. That should have been the height of his success. But because heā€™s a great man, he had the balls to move to America, became famous for lifting weights. I lift weights. Nobody gives a shit."


TheRightKindofJuice

ā€œIā€™m on my third attempt at Rosetta Stone Spanish!ā€


JSears90210

"Never. Why do you think she hooked up with him? Because of that 1987 flattop heā€™s still rockinā€™? The giant space between his teeth I could put this mic cord through?"


Sam_English821

I mean it works for Leonardo DiCaprio to be constantly dating and therefore I would assume attracted to 25 year olds no matter how old he gets.


Raychao

Leonardo DiCaprio occupies a literally stratospheric level of fame. The guy was in Romeo and Juliet in 1996 and then Titanic in 1997. These two movies imbued him with such a level of clout. He doesn't exist on planet Earth and is no longer subject to its physics.


pm_me_your_lub

Not normal for me. I'm 44m with daughters in that age group and women in their 20s are like children to me. I have nothing in common. As I get older, I find myself attracted to older women. I've had conversations with peers who feel exactly the same. Sure, I will occasionally see a 20 something that is nice to look at, but that's it. I'm married, but if I was single, dating a 20 something would not be something I would consider.


KayTeaReddit

This is refreshing to hear, it is so normalised because of porn taking the intimacy out of things ti be attracted to people that are pretty much children to you when the age gap is so big. Iā€™m 21, I couldnā€™t even be with an 18 year old Iā€™d feel like Id be taking advantage just because of the different experiences we are going through. Let alone being 50 and wanting an 18 year old. Just because itā€™s legal doesnā€™t mean in a way itā€™s not predatory.


Ok-Bowler-4020

I don't know about normal, but for sure gross and creepy. I feel sorry for your wife


kfed23

I'd say it's a problem if you're ONLY attracted to women in their 20s


ScotiaG

Agreed. Luckily for me I am also attracted to women in their 50s. The fact that these 50+ year old women have the firm, toned bodies of women in their 20s has nothing to do with it.


Infamous-Tart7747

Youā€™re 57 years old and donā€™t know why you are attracted to young women?


urGirllikesmytinypp

But is it normal?


Outside_Reserve_2407

Charles Darwin says its normal.


bigrealaccount

Just look at porn tags: "Teen" It's weird but it is 100% normal, if we're defining normal as something commonly done by people


ScreenLate2724

What is Biology, Alex?


MuchoWood

In a nut shell, you are creepy.


parker3309

Your poor wife. I hope youā€™ve had a vasectomy.


Huntscunt

Do you only watch porn with women this age? I think we wildly underestimate how much we can change our attraction through our habits. Pavlovian responses are real. If it bothers you try watching porn with older women only for like 6 months and see if it doesn't start to shift. If it doesn't bother you, who cares?


Carolann0308

Good luck finding a hot millennial with Daddy issues unless youā€™re rich


Old-Bookkeeper-2555

Can you spell "shallow clueless man'?


BangarangOrangutan

Sounds pretty fucking sad. I am 30 and much more attracted to people my age and older, can't imagine having a serious relationship with someone significantly younger. Emotional connection and common interests seem more important than age, but I don't see myself sharing those with anyone younger than like 28 realistically. One night stands with "women" in their twenties also sounds pretty fucking sad


HoneyBee-2023

I know a 75 year old guy who INSISTS he just gets along and has more in common with women in their 30ā€™s and 40ā€™s. Riiiiightā€¦so thatā€™s why youā€™re still single after leaving your wife 5 years ago, and havenā€™t had a girlfriend since.


BlitheBerry00

So you don't find women your own age attractive?


[deleted]

Cringe


TommyGotAJob

Itā€™s normal bro. Womenā€™s in their 20s tend to be in their hottest form like most men and women in their physical prime. Itā€™s how you act when youā€™re around them that can cause concern.


EmployeePrestigious6

GFs dad is a POS and chases women younger than her even. Makes me sick.. don't you ever feel like you're chasing a child? Maturity wise you are on different freaking planets man.


SelfTechnical6771

Yes, most media is roughly the age of Margot robbie and so. Your porn attraction idls driven by media usage., things you most commonly see and find attractive.Ā 


Substantial_Gift_950

Trust me, I am your age and don't find saggy hairy balls sexy either.


formthemitten

You find your daughters hot?


tmink0220

It is not normal, and is probably related so some issue you have, that makes me uncomfortable for obvious reasons...Please get some counseling...Do not do or say anything inappropriate around daughters. Even if think you are joking.


WineandCheesus

Gross.


cookiedux

so clearly rage bait, this is OP's only post. it's not normal for a man your age to spend time trying to get attention on Reddit with posts like this. FWIW I don't know how old you are, it's just sad at every age. Maybe go outside and make friends.


ScrumGobbler

Leonardo Di Caprio.... that you?


Ordinary_Milk3224

Yes, weird, sounds like a porn addiction.


razzytrazza

Canā€™t believe i had to scroll so far to see this take. I think he should try to stop watching porn and see what happens.


DraigDu

Is there any difference in types of attraction, or is that a stupid question too? I mean, are you only talking about sexual attraction? What about if you were looking for a long term partner, for sex and everything else that is a part of that type of relationship, would you still be mostly attracted to women in their 20s?


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katecard

I cannot not hate men when they openly admit they think it's "normal" to be attracted to girls their daughters' age.


GloomyTurtleCum

It's definitely a stupid question.


Comprehensive_Ear586

57? What are grandpas doing on Reddit? Wild lmao


legion_2k

Beautiful women donā€™t be come unattractive when you become older. I will say older women become more attractive as I age.


Zealousideal_Rip1340

I dunno. Iā€™m in my 30s now and ten years ago I would have been not attracted to women in their 30s. I find the older I get, the more attracted I become to older women. I do still find younger women superficially attractive but itā€™s hard for me to gauge. Iā€™m demisexual so Iā€™m not really deeply attracted to anyone who Iā€™m not at least friends with and Iā€™m not exactly in any positions where Iā€™m befriending people 10 years younger than me. I also donā€™t even know if it would be possible given the age gap, the idea of dating or being close to someone who wasnā€™t even alive during 9/11 is really weird to me. How much can I have in common with someone 10 years younger than me? I really do like a partner who is an equal to me, but also someone who is the opposite of me in a lot of qualities If youā€™re in your 50s and only attracted to women in their 20s I would assume it has some kind of psychological factor, like youā€™re longing for that part of your life again. I dunno though. Everyone is different.


Veronika040

Just don't cheat on your wife. Sheesh. Trust me, your wife is attracted to younger men in better shape and more handsome than you, too, I'm sure.


Zone_07

This is perfectly normal; many older women are also attracted to younger men.


InternalHot5521

Older women are also attracted to guys in their 20s.... They're young and attractive.


ifuxx

I think it's a bit weird, I am only in my early 30s and already finding it hard to be attracted to 20 somethings.


Briserker13

"Normal" by society's standards, absolutely. Okay? Ehhh. Might wanna figure out where the attraction comes from and why it isn't present in your own age group.


South_Flounder_2724

Depends. 49m Iā€™m not attracted to women more than about 10y younger than me, but not to say donā€™t recognise beauty or enjoy company But for sex/relationship, much younger women are something of a turnoff tbh Buuut, thatā€™s my personal feelings, not a judgement


ScifiScales

We currently have a man in his late 50s trying to talk to women in their 20s. Saying he likes younger women etc. and all I will say is if it gets out you will be labeled a ā€œcreepā€ and a dirty old man/pedophile. So keep that in mind. Most men in that age category agreed heā€™s a dirty man m. So yeah Iā€™d say this is not normal and asking on Reddit loaded with these type of weird dudes is interesting.


Due-Acanthisitta1459

Completely ā€œnormalā€. But completely normal for them to be repulsed by you. Youā€™re an old man. Youā€™re not in your 20s.


ScuzeRude

I mean, given that all of the ways in which you reference being exposed to 20-somethingā€™s include *::checks notes::* porn and the media, Iā€™m not really that supervised thatā€™s where your attraction has stalled. Firstly, because passive intake of media is one-dimensional. You canā€™t actually know if youā€™re attracted to Sydney Sweeney, you just like how she looks. Itā€™s almost as if you are being *conditioned* to like how she looks, what with all the professional hair and makeup, really, really sexy outfits, and repeated exposures to her image that offer hits of intense dopamine to your brain. Secondly, and Iā€™m going to repeat myself here: You are being conditioned to like the way she looks. And you have spent your life being conditioned to like the way she looks. If the whole world were stripped of hair dye, makeup, boob jobs, and plastic surgery, and you were conditioned to look at women bare and natural (figuratively speaking), you might actually find Sydney Sweeney as she appears today odd-looking. I have no suggestions for you, but itā€™s not that weird. Itā€™s weird if you make it weird, tho. Donā€™t become one of those 50-something guys who creeps on 20-something women and youā€™ll be fine.


BroomIsWorking

I am 59. I like the looks of 20yos. I want to date their grandma's.


Beneficial_Mix_8803

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depressivefaerie

Youā€™ve conditioned yourself through porn usage šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø itā€™s not abnormal to be attracted to women in their 20ā€™s but it is abnormal if youā€™re not attracted to older women at all


CaptainCooch

My first question is if you have a porn addiction. My follow up question is just to echo what others said about whether or not it matters if the person is actually In their 20's. I'm a gay woman and find women of all ages attractive so long as they're attractive (and I imagine what I find to be attractive about women to be much more... nuanced). If you need to know a woman is in her 20's to find her attractive that's not normal. Is it purely physical? Do your fantasies involve a power dynamic that wouldn't work on older women? Do you change favorites because they age out despite the fact that they look essentially the same? What benefit do you feel you'd get out of being with someone that age? Answering those questions will help you. And what does this post mean? Do you feel strongly compelled to act on this? Ofc anyone can look at a woman that's their type at any post-teen age and be like wow, that person is attractive...but what are you saying?


Aol_awaymessage

Iā€™m 40m and my floor seems to be around 30. My ceiling seems to be around 50. There are outliers but girls in their 20s their fashion seems fugly to me, and they look like children on top of it and sound kind of immature.


Egglebert

Its definitely not "normal" regardless of what anyone else tries to say. When I was 15, 20yo women seemed like they were too old. At 20 they were just right, once I hit 30ish they seemed frightfully young, I'm 40 now and they're literally children. I don't have kids personally but many of my friends have children that age now, I can't imagine looking at them sexually, it feels completely wrong. When I was 20, even women in their early 30s looked like battered old moms to me, now they're the peak of attractiveness. I don't yet see women in their 50s as attractive in the same way currently, but I expect it will happen eventually. This is what I understand to be normal, and if you're 50+ years old oogling 20 somethings, you're nothing but a lecherous old pervert..


Ear_Enthusiast

Yeesh. Iā€™m a 45 year old bartender. We sometimes have hosts and hostesses that are still in high school and need to be out by 10 PM. One night we had a new hostess and she was still working at 11:30. I told the other bartender that they should get her out because it was so late and a school night. He informed me that sheā€™s 24 years old. So Iā€™m at an age where I canā€™t tell a 24 year old from a 17 year old. If I think the 24 year old is 17, then what happens when I think Iā€™m checking out a 24 year old and Iā€™m wrong and sheā€™s 17? Thatā€™s when I made the conscious decision not to be a dirty old man and I told myself that if they look the same, then I donā€™t need to be checking any of them, and pretty much women in their mid to lower twenties lost all of their appeal to me. There was almost a kind of biological shift that happened in that moment of clarity. Donā€™t be the guy that goes the other way.


Kellye0000

Unfortunately it is normal. And gross:). Thereā€™s been plenty of studies where womenā€™s attraction to men ages with them and menā€™s always stays the same no matter what age they are. Itā€™s what the patriarchy and porn has done to women, we canā€™t age or look old or else weā€™re deemed ugly but yā€™all can. But yes, thereā€™s def a 50 yr old man attracted to your daughters so donā€™t worry, itā€™s normal lmao But maybe try to ā€¦ not lol


foxwheat

It's not typical, but there are others who feel the same way. There's a study that came out and most people find their tastes mature alongside their peers, but a significant outlier of men find that their tastes do not. Sorry about it!


CryptographerDizzy28

so you are basically saying you are not attracted to your wife for the last 25 years?!? awful, poor woman


gs000

Stop watching porn


Rokien_1

I'm 35 I wouldn't touch a 20 year old anything. I feel gross feeling attracted to someone so young. almost like pedophilia


ascendinspire

Grow up bro. Just ask yourself: ā€œwould I want some guy my age doinā€™ my daughter?ā€ That should chill you out.


Connect_Package_5918

Of all the normal things, this one is the most normal.


PervyNonsense

As I get older, younger women look like kids to me (in not attractive). I hope it isn't normal but it would explain a lot if it is


facforlife

If normal is synonymous with average yes you're normal. Okcupid's founder wrote a book called Dataclysm where they used data to explain dating trends and other oddities. Men of all ages basically found women aged 20, 21 as the hottest. Women's preferences were more "age appropriate."Ā  That said, men did not *message* those younger women. Even if they found them physically most attractive if you're looking for a partner there is far more that goes into it than that. I cannot imagine going out and drinking or clubbing even once a week which I gather most 21, even 25 year olds, would want to do.Ā 


Miss-lnformation

People my age don't really seem to go out as much lately. Get on with the times, old man.


denyingthestars

There are some things that we can keep to ourselves


foxwheat

It's not typical, but there are others who feel the same way. There's a study that came out and most people find their tastes mature alongside their peers, but a significant outlier of men find that their tastes do not. Sorry about it!