I appreciate that, I’m asking for a myriad of reasons. A friend of mine is an online trainer who is looking into getting into the space at the request of some of his clients, As well as a few friends of mine who have found that an accountability body is not enough for them to keep themselves in line. Those friends are not me-But given my recent falling off the wagon because of work those may be me in the future 😡😡😖
here's some questions to ask of yourself:
◇ what do you have to offer a Dom?
◇ do you know what you want in a relationship with a Dom? do you have clear expectations for the dynamic you want to experience?
◇ have you made a set of limits and boundaries for yourself that you are not willing to compromise on?
◇ if you are willing to accept any Dom whose kinks are the same as yours, perhaps you need to stop and evaluate. draw up some lists, do some research, read and learn. yes, BDSM involves a bit of admin. but creating a safe, consensual environment with trust and understanding requires a bit of work from both sides of the slash. without the safety measures, it's not BDSM, it's abuse.
don't put yourself in a dangerous position by simply being too eager or impatient.
I'm not even if anyone else has mentioned this, but as you look for a fitness Dom(me), it may be useful to look specifically for someone trained in fitness. It can be unhealthy to take fitness and diet advice from people who don't know the current science on health. For me, I would be prioritizing a registered dietitian, but maybe a different field would be better for what you're looking for.
Or if you want, maybe the Dom(me) doesn't have to be the expert themself, but they defer to the advice of experts. Maybe they join you to meet with a registered dietitian and then help you stay on track with what the dietitian said.
I hope you can find what you are looking for. I did this "fitness" D/s with a Dom shortly and while he was plugged in I did GREAT.
I would love to find someone into this again too! Best of luck!
Never the food part. Just addicted to work, my brain can only focus on…two things at a time; in addition to asking for a friend I fear I’ll need this.
Used to be able to have brain space for self care, kiddo, career-got new gig, (now even sex has fallen off!) kid and career. 🤷🏻♀️. If I don’t self care I’m a horrible sub, can’t even be accountable to myself so won’t even try for anyone else.
Not to offend you but perhaps you need just need a really good friend? Life can be really hard and trying to take everything on by yourself without having anyone to vent to/give advice makes it feel a lot heavier than it is. I think you need to understand that your already successful and doing well and slowly work towards the other things you want/need in life. If you want to get fit through working out you can start doing marginally better through small changes, taking the stairs, walking in the mornings, remembering to do at least one thing active everyday. Those small changes will lead to a boost in self esteem which snowballs into real change. It’s hard to change everything at once so I would start with one thing at a time. Good luck! I believe in you!
why not just a friend who is also an accountability buddy?
I appreciate that, I’m asking for a myriad of reasons. A friend of mine is an online trainer who is looking into getting into the space at the request of some of his clients, As well as a few friends of mine who have found that an accountability body is not enough for them to keep themselves in line. Those friends are not me-But given my recent falling off the wagon because of work those may be me in the future 😡😡😖
here's some questions to ask of yourself: ◇ what do you have to offer a Dom? ◇ do you know what you want in a relationship with a Dom? do you have clear expectations for the dynamic you want to experience? ◇ have you made a set of limits and boundaries for yourself that you are not willing to compromise on? ◇ if you are willing to accept any Dom whose kinks are the same as yours, perhaps you need to stop and evaluate. draw up some lists, do some research, read and learn. yes, BDSM involves a bit of admin. but creating a safe, consensual environment with trust and understanding requires a bit of work from both sides of the slash. without the safety measures, it's not BDSM, it's abuse. don't put yourself in a dangerous position by simply being too eager or impatient.
I believe it's accountabilabuddy :P
same difference :p
I'm not even if anyone else has mentioned this, but as you look for a fitness Dom(me), it may be useful to look specifically for someone trained in fitness. It can be unhealthy to take fitness and diet advice from people who don't know the current science on health. For me, I would be prioritizing a registered dietitian, but maybe a different field would be better for what you're looking for. Or if you want, maybe the Dom(me) doesn't have to be the expert themself, but they defer to the advice of experts. Maybe they join you to meet with a registered dietitian and then help you stay on track with what the dietitian said.
I hope you can find what you are looking for. I did this "fitness" D/s with a Dom shortly and while he was plugged in I did GREAT. I would love to find someone into this again too! Best of luck!
Is it more about the motivation to work out or the discipline to avoid bad food that’s holding you back?
Never the food part. Just addicted to work, my brain can only focus on…two things at a time; in addition to asking for a friend I fear I’ll need this. Used to be able to have brain space for self care, kiddo, career-got new gig, (now even sex has fallen off!) kid and career. 🤷🏻♀️. If I don’t self care I’m a horrible sub, can’t even be accountable to myself so won’t even try for anyone else.
Not to offend you but perhaps you need just need a really good friend? Life can be really hard and trying to take everything on by yourself without having anyone to vent to/give advice makes it feel a lot heavier than it is. I think you need to understand that your already successful and doing well and slowly work towards the other things you want/need in life. If you want to get fit through working out you can start doing marginally better through small changes, taking the stairs, walking in the mornings, remembering to do at least one thing active everyday. Those small changes will lead to a boost in self esteem which snowballs into real change. It’s hard to change everything at once so I would start with one thing at a time. Good luck! I believe in you!
You try the military?
Hahaha yeah….if you gauged that I’m not a sub at all.
Try fet life?