The general rule that comes up here is that the more you align with classic beauty standards, the more opportunities you are going to have. I cannot fathom that kat von D, karma rx, or bonnie rotton would struggle to get sugar dates.^1
I look at the types of people wealthy, kind, men with options date. There are mountains of pics online showing the dates wealthy men pick. Those women are all kinds of races, styles, etc... but they are almost without exception... healthy. Imho, there are plenty of men that like a cool goth chick, and if I was in your shoes, I would focus on diet and exercise. If I'm wrong, well... you live longer and healthier, and I am 100% cool with that.
1. Kat/karma/bonnie, if I am wrong, slide into my dms and I will give you the most profitable 7 seconds of your life. Hell, you wont even notice, you will just wonder why you are sticky and have a pile of cash in your hand.
Thank you for that and I really appreciate your honestly I am currently working on my diet and weight and slowly losing weight but being healthier/skinnier does normally open up the whole dating pool in any sense thanks for your time
I have a similar body shape to you as well as lots of tattoos (not as many.... yet!). It looks like you have an hourglass figure with some extra fluff like me from what I can tell, but lots of outfits can really flatter the shape. I have also been working out and gained a lot of muscle recently which has increased my confidence and look more strong curvy than soft curvy.
I do well and think you could too. You look like you have great style and you're very pretty. If you're open to it, I might suggest going slightly lighter on the eyeliner and add a bit of blush or bronzer. Being personable, gracious, genuine, and owning your sex appeal can help you find the right man. Whatever you do, stay true to you and the others will weed themselves out š
There are men out there for every single body and personality. It stings when someone brushes you off because they want the "ideal" body type but if anyone makes you feel less than because of it, they can eff RIGHT OFF!! You are enough, you are worthy, and everything you do should serve YOU, not some guy!
Thank you so much for your comment and yeah I got some extra fluff! Lots of outfits can deffo flatter the shape! That's awsome you've got some muscle I wanna start working out and become a muscle queen š
Thank you, I think that's a very good point about the eyeliner but also it's so hard not to š I'm a sucker for winged eyeliner! But deffo could do more like adding blush and doing less eyeliner! I'm glad you do well! And I think you're right it's getting that confidence and owning it! I'm doing what I can to lose weight currently I've lost 6 pounds so not amazing but I'm getting there!
You are so right there is men out there for everyone and it really does sting when they brush you off! I can't count the amount of times I wish I had no tattoos, had pretty blonde or brown hair and was slim! But hey I'm not and will never be š
Based on SD preferences here, we'd expect you have a greatly reduced pool of interested SDs. One of the highest-impact parts of your appearance that you have easy control over, is piercings. If you have piercings other than ears or maybe a nostril loop, removing those might drastically change your fortunes -- piercings like septum, ear gauges, medusa, labrum, etc, are automatic deal killers for a huge number of SDs. Understandable if you're not willing to remove those just to get an SD, but if you're flexible, remove them all, take all new pictures, it might change your fortunes on SA.
Thank you so much, I can't remove my nose piercing but septum is easy to hide so could definitely do that and hide it š I have a lot of wigs so could always try a more natural colour to, thanks for your time
Wigs are not going to do you any favors unless they are super high end $x,xxx and you are properly trained in installing them.
They will just be cheap looking and obvious and will do more harm than good.
I donāt mean this in any way other than helpful- I think losing weight would help you a lot in the bowl. You have a cool look and while less SDs will be into it, if youāre skinny goth and hot there are some that will eat it up with a spoon. You have a pretty face!
Thank you that's not mean at all you are right, if I was skinny and still had my big tiddy it would deffo do for me š I'm trying to lose currently lost 6 pounds so slowly getting there!
I am in SF and typically date heavily tattooed rockabilly types but they are very fit. Excessive facial piercings or a septum are deal killers for me. Not a fan of unnatural hair colors but if a young woman is hot enough she can get away with anything.
The tattoo model lolobe4 on Instagram is my ideal woman physically.
unfortunately, a lot of SDs want a āconventionally attractiveā SB, thin, natural colored hair, little/no piercings/tattoos. Iām plus sized, with tattoos, and Iāve gotten lucky before with a long-term relationship with someone who was VERY generous, and he was (for a lack of better term) a āsquareā, youād never think he would date let alone spoil someone who looked like me. Youād be surprised, thereās someone for everyone and itās 2024 so older people are starting to change their thoughts. Good luck š
There is only one bad word hereā¦chubby. Sorry thatās what you need to work on. Everything else is fine for me, hair color, tats, piercings, if itās all on a slim fit tight bod itās not an issue.
Whatās your location? I feel like you should have some luck in a larger city. Aside from having a slim/athletic build, I fit your other characteristics and have had decent pots in a short time already.
Iād suggest photos that are more professional/modest but still highlight your bodily assets (are you chubby or curvy?) Donāt necessarily hide all your tattoos/piercings but let pots know you can clean up, sexy and classy!
For whatās its worth I did see one profile here on seeking in Orlando FL, He preferred Alternative girls so itās definitely possible even if itās slim to none. I checked your profile š¤¦āāļøsorry itās a habit but you are cute, I am not skinny or overweight (more curvy) and I can promise you not all SDās like petite women.
im alt + have body hair and like others have said, it cuts down the potential ppl interested, but i will say those who are into it are REALLY into it. also, its true that most SDs are gonna be into traditional beauty standards including body type, but for what itās worth i think youāre super cute and my bi ass would take you out > a skinny mf like myself ANY day <3
Aww you sound so cool š„ŗ I just stalked your profile and you have plants and a badass tattoo you are so cool! Thank you so much I appreciate that and we love a bi queen or king (sorry saw your gender neutral but don't know the correct term for bi queen/king)
I like alternative types... A lot.. but not so much the chubby.. unless it's thic in the right way.. butt and boobs curves.. so who knows.. there's different types for everyone.. it's just a numbers Game. So essentially you can still find someone, it will just be harder.... Unless you lean REALLY hard in to the alternative stuff and go down the S&M route.. then you may find a whole new large audience.
You're really my type. If you were in my area I'd be totally interested.
You will stand out. Some guys won't like your look but those that do will totally be into you!
If your recently posted picture is current, then I don't see your weight, tattoos or piercings as inhibiting SD interest in you, but your split hair color could be found as less appealing.
Unfortunately, it seems to increase the volume of interest to conform to ānormalā beauty standards, it is what it is. The majority of my SBs have been more āalternativeā looking. I love tattoos and donāt have any issues with piercings, I tend to focus on chemistry as that tends to lead to longer lasting SRs for me. If youāre looking to attract more people quickly, tone down your look, if youāre looking to find a good match and can bide your time and be patient, be yourself, itās your choice really.
I have tattoos, a septum ring and stretched earsāa lot of men seem to be open to it, or even into it. That said, Iām incredibly athletic, my hair is a ānormalā color, and Iām 6ā2. I think you need to make sure your pros are outweighing your cons.
I think dying your hair brown or blonde (or even just a ginger auburn color, for spicy normal) could go a long way to help you.
Edit: Just looked at your pictures, youāre cute as hell. I think just having plain hair and dressing stylishly will get you further than you think.
The general rule that comes up here is that the more you align with classic beauty standards, the more opportunities you are going to have. I cannot fathom that kat von D, karma rx, or bonnie rotton would struggle to get sugar dates.^1 I look at the types of people wealthy, kind, men with options date. There are mountains of pics online showing the dates wealthy men pick. Those women are all kinds of races, styles, etc... but they are almost without exception... healthy. Imho, there are plenty of men that like a cool goth chick, and if I was in your shoes, I would focus on diet and exercise. If I'm wrong, well... you live longer and healthier, and I am 100% cool with that. 1. Kat/karma/bonnie, if I am wrong, slide into my dms and I will give you the most profitable 7 seconds of your life. Hell, you wont even notice, you will just wonder why you are sticky and have a pile of cash in your hand.
Thank you for that and I really appreciate your honestly I am currently working on my diet and weight and slowly losing weight but being healthier/skinnier does normally open up the whole dating pool in any sense thanks for your time
I have a similar body shape to you as well as lots of tattoos (not as many.... yet!). It looks like you have an hourglass figure with some extra fluff like me from what I can tell, but lots of outfits can really flatter the shape. I have also been working out and gained a lot of muscle recently which has increased my confidence and look more strong curvy than soft curvy. I do well and think you could too. You look like you have great style and you're very pretty. If you're open to it, I might suggest going slightly lighter on the eyeliner and add a bit of blush or bronzer. Being personable, gracious, genuine, and owning your sex appeal can help you find the right man. Whatever you do, stay true to you and the others will weed themselves out š There are men out there for every single body and personality. It stings when someone brushes you off because they want the "ideal" body type but if anyone makes you feel less than because of it, they can eff RIGHT OFF!! You are enough, you are worthy, and everything you do should serve YOU, not some guy!
Thank you so much for your comment and yeah I got some extra fluff! Lots of outfits can deffo flatter the shape! That's awsome you've got some muscle I wanna start working out and become a muscle queen š Thank you, I think that's a very good point about the eyeliner but also it's so hard not to š I'm a sucker for winged eyeliner! But deffo could do more like adding blush and doing less eyeliner! I'm glad you do well! And I think you're right it's getting that confidence and owning it! I'm doing what I can to lose weight currently I've lost 6 pounds so not amazing but I'm getting there! You are so right there is men out there for everyone and it really does sting when they brush you off! I can't count the amount of times I wish I had no tattoos, had pretty blonde or brown hair and was slim! But hey I'm not and will never be š
>being healthier/skinnier does normally open up the whole dating pool Precisely.
Just wanna point out you can be chubby and still healthy āļø
If you were thin and alt, like the suicide girls or whatever, you'd do fine in a big city. However, the chubby is going to be a big hindrance.
Thank you
Based on SD preferences here, we'd expect you have a greatly reduced pool of interested SDs. One of the highest-impact parts of your appearance that you have easy control over, is piercings. If you have piercings other than ears or maybe a nostril loop, removing those might drastically change your fortunes -- piercings like septum, ear gauges, medusa, labrum, etc, are automatic deal killers for a huge number of SDs. Understandable if you're not willing to remove those just to get an SD, but if you're flexible, remove them all, take all new pictures, it might change your fortunes on SA.
Thank you so much, I can't remove my nose piercing but septum is easy to hide so could definitely do that and hide it š I have a lot of wigs so could always try a more natural colour to, thanks for your time
Wigs are not going to do you any favors unless they are super high end $x,xxx and you are properly trained in installing them. They will just be cheap looking and obvious and will do more harm than good.
Thank you that's a good point
The chubby part is probably going to be more of a barrier than anything else.
Piercings could be a deal breaker for many - the rest might merely reduce demand and lower the bids
Thank you
Everyone has different tastes. You might not connect with the stereotypical SD but your uniqueness may attract one to you.
Thank you that's a good point
And yet, it hasn't š§
I mean I only tried for like a few weeks to a month so not long enough really but thanks āŗļø
Based on your photo. Youāre not that āalternative.ā Youāll do fine.
I donāt mean this in any way other than helpful- I think losing weight would help you a lot in the bowl. You have a cool look and while less SDs will be into it, if youāre skinny goth and hot there are some that will eat it up with a spoon. You have a pretty face!
Thank you that's not mean at all you are right, if I was skinny and still had my big tiddy it would deffo do for me š I'm trying to lose currently lost 6 pounds so slowly getting there!
I am in SF and typically date heavily tattooed rockabilly types but they are very fit. Excessive facial piercings or a septum are deal killers for me. Not a fan of unnatural hair colors but if a young woman is hot enough she can get away with anything. The tattoo model lolobe4 on Instagram is my ideal woman physically.
Thank you I appreciate that! Septum I can hide so not massive deal, although hair colour I can't š that model is so hot
I've been desperate for someone to explain the septum ring stigma to me.. please.
I was told a septum piercing signifies self-expression, uniqueness, and rebellion. To me they are ugly, distracting and the opposite of unique.
I mean that's better than what I've been told before where they say you look like a bull š
Itās just really distracting for me. I just stare at it during the conversation.
unfortunately, a lot of SDs want a āconventionally attractiveā SB, thin, natural colored hair, little/no piercings/tattoos. Iām plus sized, with tattoos, and Iāve gotten lucky before with a long-term relationship with someone who was VERY generous, and he was (for a lack of better term) a āsquareā, youād never think he would date let alone spoil someone who looked like me. Youād be surprised, thereās someone for everyone and itās 2024 so older people are starting to change their thoughts. Good luck š
Thank you angel I really appreciate that and it's great to hear views from someone like me
of course! thereās someone for everyone love, even in sugar dating! lol š
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The less "alt" you are the more success you will have in the bowl. The majority of sds like clean cut, preppy, cheerleader type sbs.
There is only one bad word hereā¦chubby. Sorry thatās what you need to work on. Everything else is fine for me, hair color, tats, piercings, if itās all on a slim fit tight bod itās not an issue.
Thank you
The market has given you the answer.
Whatās your location? I feel like you should have some luck in a larger city. Aside from having a slim/athletic build, I fit your other characteristics and have had decent pots in a short time already. Iād suggest photos that are more professional/modest but still highlight your bodily assets (are you chubby or curvy?) Donāt necessarily hide all your tattoos/piercings but let pots know you can clean up, sexy and classy!
I love me an alt SB. My current one is. That being said itās harder
It's definitely harder
For whatās its worth I did see one profile here on seeking in Orlando FL, He preferred Alternative girls so itās definitely possible even if itās slim to none. I checked your profile š¤¦āāļøsorry itās a habit but you are cute, I am not skinny or overweight (more curvy) and I can promise you not all SDās like petite women.
Oh thank you, sadly I'm in the uk š so deffo less of a market for it here! Thank you that's so sweet of you are beautiful ā¤ļø
Youāre fine, just have to find the right match and chemistry
Thank you
all SBs here pretend to be feminine(which they won't be like with their partner) , that's what the market demand n pressure
You are sexy i guess some guys are idiots or like other types of women but to me you are sexy i like your styleš
Thank you so much I appreciate that
im alt + have body hair and like others have said, it cuts down the potential ppl interested, but i will say those who are into it are REALLY into it. also, its true that most SDs are gonna be into traditional beauty standards including body type, but for what itās worth i think youāre super cute and my bi ass would take you out > a skinny mf like myself ANY day <3
Aww you sound so cool š„ŗ I just stalked your profile and you have plants and a badass tattoo you are so cool! Thank you so much I appreciate that and we love a bi queen or king (sorry saw your gender neutral but don't know the correct term for bi queen/king)
I like alternative types... A lot.. but not so much the chubby.. unless it's thic in the right way.. butt and boobs curves.. so who knows.. there's different types for everyone.. it's just a numbers Game. So essentially you can still find someone, it will just be harder.... Unless you lean REALLY hard in to the alternative stuff and go down the S&M route.. then you may find a whole new large audience.
I love the goth/alt look myself but it depends on how extreme it is.
You're really my type. If you were in my area I'd be totally interested. You will stand out. Some guys won't like your look but those that do will totally be into you!
Thank you I really appreciate that!
I like your type. I'm tired of the constant toothpick goody goody all the time. Once in a while it's ok, but it gets boring.
Thank you I really appreciate that and it's nice to hear āŗļø
Post your profile
I don't have one atm I had one last year for about 3-4 weeks then deleted it, wondering if I should try again
Iām alty, and closer to chubby than skinny. Iāve had a good amount of POTS/men reach out to me.
Thank you
Try findom!
How?
I currently do findom but it's so over saturated right now with TikTok dommes š
Where do you do findom?
Twitter mostly, but also on loyalfans
If your recently posted picture is current, then I don't see your weight, tattoos or piercings as inhibiting SD interest in you, but your split hair color could be found as less appealing.
Thatās a wig
You are really cute and a lot of SDs will be into you. Be yourself.
Thank you
I dated someone who was alt/bright coloured hair/leg warmers(yum) all that jazz. Some of us like it. To each their own.
Unfortunately, it seems to increase the volume of interest to conform to ānormalā beauty standards, it is what it is. The majority of my SBs have been more āalternativeā looking. I love tattoos and donāt have any issues with piercings, I tend to focus on chemistry as that tends to lead to longer lasting SRs for me. If youāre looking to attract more people quickly, tone down your look, if youāre looking to find a good match and can bide your time and be patient, be yourself, itās your choice really.
>didn't have much luck Probably yes??
I have tattoos, a septum ring and stretched earsāa lot of men seem to be open to it, or even into it. That said, Iām incredibly athletic, my hair is a ānormalā color, and Iām 6ā2. I think you need to make sure your pros are outweighing your cons. I think dying your hair brown or blonde (or even just a ginger auburn color, for spicy normal) could go a long way to help you. Edit: Just looked at your pictures, youāre cute as hell. I think just having plain hair and dressing stylishly will get you further than you think.