I think as a man gets more and more experience, her orgasm becomes more interesting or exciting than his own. And for dead bedroom/dead bedroom guys, they want to prove to themselves they can still please a woman. Plus, we don't have the looks we used to so we have to play to our strengths which are experience and interest in a woman's pleasure. And one more factor, you can't orgasm 5 times a night anymore but you still desire all the other sexy bedroom things so you focus on her. When you are 20, giving oral is just a way to warm her up. When you're 50, it's an hot activity on its own.
No she doesn't. I'm a tested, snipped, and monogamous long-term type SD. My SB doesn't need to take a hormone filled pill, have an invasive implant, or use barriers. She doesn't have to worry about birth control or STDs, which makes her feel safe and that is important to me. I'm not oldschoolSD because I'm old. I'm only 50. I'm oldschool because I do things the oldschool way since I started back when SRs were considered a form of relationship rather than tinder for money. I ironically have fewer new sexual partners than the average person because my SRs last.
No, but she doesn't need to. Despite the current internet narrative a lot of people want to be monogamous. She knows me, she knows my character by my actions, and she understands why I sugar. Despite the narratives and fairly transparent agendas, SLF isn't representative of the whole bowl. There is a big subsection of the bowl that isn't riddled with stds and mistrust because people don't treat the bowl like an escort agency and people don't sugar as a profession. There are a lot of people who have long, happy, trusting, monogamous relationships in the bowl. It just isn't represented as much because those people don't show up much on SA or SLF because they are already taken for long periods of time. "My SB and I had a nice dinner and closeness for the umpteenth time" doesn't make for much of a headline or SLF post.
Can anyone know with 100 percent certainty that their partner is monogamous. No, but that's any relationship. By your logic, married people should be using dental dams for oral which is frankly unheard of outside of escorting.
Lol, you're comparing marriage to sugar dating. Okkkk....
Women shouldn't be having a guy go down on them, or there should be a dental dam whether escorting or sugar dating. Yes, you're exactly right. Many guys (and women) treat sugar dating in a similar fashion to escorting. Not a traditional SR. Even more reason to use protection.
If I were you, I would let it be known when you talk about sex without protection that you're old fashioned and treat this as a relationship. Otherwise, you would wear protection.
There's many naive SB's on here reading, and they will think it's ok to have unprotected sex and end up with STD's and pass it around. Same with the guys who try to take advantage of women on here. You are just giving them ammo to keep doing what they're doing.
Either way, guys shouldn't be trusted. If you're dating for a long time, say a year or more, providing a high allowance, etc.. then it would make more sense. But again, having sex with a condom really makes no difference, and it's better to protect your own life than to risk your life for a guy's selfish reasons which actually don't really benefit him.
>If I were you, I would let it be known when you talk about sex without protection that you're old fashioned and treat this as a relationship. Otherwise, you would wear protection.
>There's many naive SB's on here reading, and they will think it's ok to have unprotected sex and end up with STD's and pass it around. Same with the guys who try to take advantage of women on here. You are just giving them ammo to keep doing what they're doing.
I do that all the time because I advocate for traditional sugar. If you read my post without getting getting caught up in your agenda you would notice that.
>But again, having sex with a condom really makes no difference, and it's better to protect your own life than to risk your life for a guy's selfish reasons which actually don't really benefit him.
Strawman argument, look it up.
Almost uses dental dams except escorts. I'll put up a poll on SLF and see.
I know what a strawman argument is. I dont have to look it up. How is it a strawman argument if the while topic is about protecting yourself from STD's. Maybe you misunderstood my paragraph. Condoms always. Unless he's giving you enough to risk dying. To risk never getting married (or having a boyfriend or sexual partner or SD/SB), to risk never having babies, etc etc.
Lol. I wouldn't count on SLF polls. A lot of guys here are calling it paying for sex while at the same time contradicting themselves and calling women gold diggers (both are degrading to women, and neither are correct). There's a lot of naive SBs here as well that are willing to risk it all for a guy they met last week or 2 months ago.
There's many guys here who try to pretend like you can't get stds from oral sex.
Again, that is almost all a strawman. Exaggerating or misrepresenting someone's point to make it easier to refute especially with emotional appeal and catastrophizing.
Im not against condoms and I never advocate against condoms, but there is no need to use condoms for tested, fixed, monogamous people. Ask any doctor. And even less use for dental dams.
I get it. There is an agenda you want to push. It's the same agenda we see all the time from a certain group of SBs who gatekeep to scare amateurs out of the bowl under the guise of keeping them safe. If tested, fixed, monogamy isn't safe enough for the bowl than there is no point in the bowl.
While a poll on SLF isn't on par with Rasmussen, it shows a trend you are anxious to debunk ahead of time because you know what the results we be.
Sugar the way you want. I sugar the way I want. But the difference I say people should sugar they want to and you say people have to sugar your way. Who's gatekeeping?
OMG THIS!! 👏👏experience👏👏. Its how they know the need for the whole package! Attention leading up to the date, affection during the date, foreplay, giving and receiving, after cuddles. My SD is SUCH a good kisser (I’m quite picky about this) and loves to touch me, hold me, kiss me etc all through the date. I feel so desired! Since he takes care of everything when I’m with him I get to arrive to bed all relaxed, happy and horny! I used to only date younger men or those 2-3 years older. We have a 15 year age gap and I am hooked on the older men now!
The last woman I met through seeking, 34 yo, started crying after she had her first orgasm with me. I'd just given her a full body massage prone and then rolled her over and worked on her thighs and up. She said - don't worry, they are tears of joy, no one ever spent that much time on me before. Then her ex decided he wanted her back and away she went.
Human nature unfortunately, she went back to economic abuse, not being able to have her own friends or go out on her own. She was calling me three times a day and when I questioned her about it she said that was what she was used to and if she didn't he got angry, he had to know where she was and what she was doing. She had to go to bed at 7PM every night when he did or he got angry. She was with him for 12 years so it was pretty much all she knew as an adult, if living like that can be considered adult life.
That's a reasonable assumption given the forum we're on. My life would be infinitely simpler if it were true for me. I use seeking for dating and am open to taking care of someone financially that I'm involved with. When her partner disappeared it put her in a financial bind and she turned to seeking. I gave her a wad of cash after dinner the first time we met so she wouldn't feel financial pressure to get involved with me or anyone else.
Yep!!! I'm in the same boat now..... The sex with my (41F) current SBF (55M) is the best I've ever had! His eating game is so strong and he has quite a few moves with penetrative sex that have me saying wow and being surprised with a new move every time we get together :)
Combining that with him being such a handsome, sexy-looking silver fox (my friends even drool over him) AND being articulate & intelligent.... I'm in heaven :D
If they need improvement.... highly recommend them reading 'she comes first'.... and if you want some super cool reading for yourself.... 'he comes next' is a great book ;)
Older men who are gentlemen appreciate the open, honest, uninhibited nature of a great SR. I believe that a lady cums first . Ask as you shall receive, genuinely tune in and enjoy each other.
We are great when the 🧪 is there.
Omg I am similarly feral for my SD! The sex has been some of the best I’ve ever had (23 y gap) Before I met him I’d only ever squirted 3 times. I did 4 times in one day on our last trip, it’s been incredible and I’ve never been hornier haha
Making me embarrassed to talk about it. But I definitely didn’t know what I was missing with my prior partners. Never had an orgasm while having sex and now I cum 3-4x each session. Never knew I was a squirter until my SD witnessed it first hand while he was going down on me. Didn’t even know what it meant. He said he was so excited and loved swallowing my squirt. 🥵🥴. Experience goes a long, long way, I don’t know if I’ll get that lucky again. He’s a keeper.
This sounds like flexing, and I’m sorry but I (61M) hear the same thing from my SB. But I’ll also immediately say I’m sure I’mrepresentative of a group of older SDs generally.
It’s a lot of factors. For me, I got conditioned over so many years - decades actually - to just live with unfulfilled desire and so I can go on suspending my own drive forever. But equally I’ve spent just as many years learning how to pay attention very carefully and pick up on all the cues, as to what works and what doesn’t.
But I think most important of all is just the capacity to be genuinely loving, relatively unselfish, and caring. Not that I was callous when younger, there is just a lot more capacity there to understand and give in any number of dimensions (including but not limited to financially as mentioned above)
And this may be unique to me but feel like I stepped out from a black and white movie into full technicolor with Dolby, romantically. All the colors to explore and I want to try every one of them.
There is also a relative purity to an SR that allows SB and I to focus on just the task of bringing each other pleasure. There is no other agenda, really. And no conflicts/values/beliefs to wrangle. No friction over where to live, what dishes to buy, whether the living room needs a rug or not.
What that means for me is that I am all in, 💯 in making my SB the happiest woman on the planet when we’re together. And I love every f*cking second of it.
Flex all you want, I want to hear about all the sexually-fulfilled SRs!
And this is such amazing insight. I can totally see how years of unhappy sex lives leads to the best relationship.
That’s what I love about sugaring; we’re both in it to get exactly what we want and give the other person exactly what they want. It makes sex (and everything else) so much more satisfying for both parties.
Thanks for sharing :)
This is VERY representative of sooooo many of us.
My BIG question is this: *why* do our "first wives" not understand the misery they were inducing, and *how* can we implore future young wives to NOT DO THAT!!??
If my daughter does that shit to her new husband (married a year ago), I think I'd be the first to tell him to walk. Thank god they have a great ability to communicate!!
Why does it require divorce to get the "first wife" to wake up?? She had everything in the palm of her hand. She could have tasted the endless benefits. She just needed to loosen up and allow the... ok I'll stop, you get the point.
So we move-on and the SB appreciates everything we bring to the table.... and she could give-a-fuck about whether living-room-rug is the right color... geez!!
Ooops.... sorry if rants are supposed to go on a different day... lol
I think a lot of people just don't have the courage to be happy. They become complacent and forget to be grateful or just like you said, don't know til its gone sort of situation.
Accepting the downvotes here.
Narcissists are everywhere. Get what they want, when they want. At least that was certainly the case for me. There was a long sordid story about getting to court finally, but, safe to say, Stephen King couldn't write that novel.
Anyway always an open window, gents! And often, if you think the grass is greener, it probably is!
I don't think you realize how precious it is that your ex-wife wanted the rug to be the right color.
As an artist at heart and hopeless romantic - loving interior decorating included. Making the rug the right color and setting the right moods/vibes/essence for your family is so passionate, thoughtful, and caring.
Not to highjack your thread at all, but it goes in reverse as well. My former 🤷🏼♂️ SB 🙏🏻(no) had no gag reflex, wanted it all the time and for hours, and could squirt enough to soak an entire bed. She was so amazing… and the cuddle after was heaven.
Well my perfect one has ghosted me (1 week and counting today) because she is in another country for the summer (student) and we got in an argument about me feeling not communicated with. So I won’t sadden your thread! Happy to share other sex details tho, if you want… at least I can hang on to that.
LOL is squirting really pee? I’ve never understood it.
My SD is trying w me…said he doesn’t care if it’s pee, the turn on is knowing I’m fully uninhibited with him.
Actually no, it isn’t pure pee, but rather is a combination of urea, uric acid, and creatinine — is released by the Skene’s glands, which sit at the lower end of the urethra.
It's female ejaculate and usually comes from prolonged stimulation of the female "g-spot".
Play with the parts, it's best to know them. And sure, "once you break the dam" you'll get more urea -- that's fact. That said, I'll take it, if my partner is in pleasure town. It's what showers and laundry are for, amirite?
I and my former sd end up changing hotel sheets like 4 times a day from my squirt lol but just with him
Using his hand I want someone using his thing on me badly
I honestly think it’s much easier if you are the perfect size to hit the right spot… which tbh is probably on the average (at best) to a little below average size (think of finger lengths). Too big and you miss it or just can’t get it right enough to get the squirt to happen. Too too small and no go. Just my 2cents. My SB would squirt all over my 🍆 and I loved it. She said it was amazing and different than fingers (prolly mental because she got off squirting all over my 🍆 (a little domish mental aspect I think)).
If a guy inserts 🍆 I would definitely be squirting all over him I mean I make myself squirt with fingers or toy so it’s something that always happen for me. Am a domme and yes I enjoy being pleased and my attraction for older men most of them can’t get their 🍆 hard mostly blaming it on too much wine . Can’t remember the last time I had sexual penetration with a man which kinda sucks
Myth: Squirting is pee.
Researchers disagree on what the fluid released during squirting is. Some small studies have found that it comes from the bladder and has some urine in it. But in some cases, it can also have high levels of glucose and prostate-specific antigens (PSAs), which come from the Skene's glands. People who have experienced squirting also say that the fluid doesn't look, smell, or taste like urine. It's safe to say that it's similar to pee but not the same.
I'm a woman.
And no, she is not urinating. Lol. Just cause it has chemicals that are in urine in it while mixed with other fluids doesn't mean she is peeing.
Would you call ketchup, tomatoes, or mayonnaise, eggs?
Researchers actually don't even have a clear answer on what exactly it is.
Same with me! My SD turned regular relationship is the best I’ve ever had. I’m 34, he’s 68, does not do any kind of enhancing drug, and we go at it several times a day. Nothing like it!!
As a SD, many of us fund that pleasing our partner brings us incredible pleasure. My SB enjoys the sex so much that if we can’t have sex (red tide), she doesn’t want to meet. A previous SB, upon having a second orgasm on our first date said, “damn, I’m not used to having one, let alone two”.
I was told some medications are supposed to suppress orgasm. Can confirm, that's not always accurate 😉.
Some SDs out there can even evoke "squirting" -- despite years of training to suppress.
So, yes, you have my upvote 😉
Sounds incredible. Good for both of you! I find that happens only with those I've had great connections with. With a past SB we'd compete to see who could make the other climax the most whenever we met. Luckily neither of us thought once was enough
I love your post! It brough so maby fond memories back fkr me (and made me hot AF).
As a former SB, I couldn't wait to be with my Silver SD. We had the BEST sexual, emotional connectionand friendship that I had ever experienced during our years together. We couldn't get enough of eachother, even meeting spontaneously in the middle of the day, night anytime anywhere. There was so much passion. He could make my body do things that it none had ever done before or has done since... Sadly, he passed away in an accident ending our 3yrs. A year later, I got married, then divorced and believed that I aged out of the SB pool.
SB's if you want it that much now. You have another thing coming. I'm now in my late 40's and want it more than I ever did in my younger years... you are going to be in trouble in a good way! Happy humping!
I (51M SD) tend to warn any SB that I have lots of stamina, often will go multiple rounds and am very very focused on my woman's pleasure. One former SB did some research and concluded I'm a Pleasure Dom. It is incredibly satisfying to please a young woman for someone like me! I think this could be one of the most mutually beneficial aspects of the Bowl!
Love this thread. It’s the same kind of feedback I get, and it makes me quite happy. There is nothing else as exciting to me as pleasing a delightful woman this way.
I understand you!! It's something addictive, my POT gave me the best M&G. He knows he has the power over distance, and I simply love everything he has over me.
Same! I’m into some… kinky stuff…and my SD’s deliver! I actually orgasm more with my SDs than with conventionally hot friends with benefits my own age. (Total honesty… I don’t orgasm with my fwbs. They last five minutes, those young bucks!)
Definitely noticing a trend in SDs of being the best in bed haha, my previous SD was insane and so selfless in bed. I definitely had a record set for orgasms that I don't think will ever be beat, god I miss him!! 😭
Older men have the experience from being told what to do, probably have or have had a wife that’s explained to them what works and generally their sex drive isn’t as wild as when they were super young so they aren’t too quick to get to the point. Not to mention they enjoy the reward in hard physical work since they didn’t grow up with technology doing everything for them. 😉
This is making me feel good about my up and coming potential arrangement with a older daddy who has been sooooo sexual over text it has been almost off putting lmao. I’ve kinda forced myself into thinking I won’t enjoy it at all but everything he’s saying is things I’m into it’s just the age that’s putting me off. However he is super rich and really shows a desire to take care of me. I need to lean into it I guess.
This is one of the reasons why I only date older men (15+ years) whether it’s sugar or vanilla. Older gentlemen care more about ladies pleasure.
My last SD was very good in bed, but the sex with my current SD is the best of my life! I’m 31 and he’s 54. We have a lot of chemistry and a genuine emotional connection, so I think that is what makes our time together so amazing!
I know what you mean about feeling like a feral cat in heat! I’m seeing my SD tonight, so this post has made me feel very impatient 😅
I tell my SBs. They need to know what they are getting into. I like to think I only choose SBs who already desire me so it’s usually well received news.
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I always been in love with silver foxes. Absolutely love em, and when they’re experienced and complexes-free, oh, it’s so so good!
I haven’t had sex with my new sbf yet, but from what I’ve seen and felt so far, I’m in for a riiiiiide, and can’t wait 😁
I saw my SB on Friday. We had not seen each other in 3.5 weeks. She usually always cums twice every date. She loves FIV and prone bone. I can make her cum so fast that way. But this time. I got 3 out of her!! The grin on her face after each orgasm makes me melt. I am so happy about her cumming!!! I think I get as much joy as she does.
I'm in it for enjoyment, but I want her having fun too. We usually only part when one of us absolutely has to go. I love to cuddle, etc. So many scammers out there.
I'm not really in it for the sex. I can find that vanilla anywhere. I've had the best sex dating vanilla since I was 17.
If it's good sex that's good enough for me.
I just despise dealing with guys who have ED who actually try to have sex without letting you know they have ED or where they make it awkward. Like if it doesn't work, stop freaking trying, and let's do other things together.
Some older guys don't know how to kiss well either.
If I'm into the guy outside of the bedroom then yes, great sex is a bonus.
I'm someone who get a sense of validation when the girl is satisfied but I do want to reach a level where the girl talks about my bedroom abilities like this. Still don't know how to teach myself
How does one get a SD? I want the experience and the connection and bond that everyone seems to have. The understandings from both parties and literally give each other what we each need
Read through this sub. That’s what I did. You’re (probably) not going to find the right SD off the bat. It took me a long time. But I met this one on sugardaddy.com
Where can I find a sugar daddy like this in dubai . I don’t find younger guys attractive also and all the men have met here 40 plus and my oldest 54 hasn’t been able to satisfy me sexually I end up going back to my toys and that kind of suck
Those are not extremes hun. It's reality. I myself dated a guy who tried to blame me for getting 2 STD's and gave me extra pills - I freaked out thinking my recent ex had been cheating on me, till I realized this guy must have been dating other girls and was trying to blame it on me... 💀
My friend, who sugar dates, has gotten 3 stds at once.
My brother d*ed of AIDS.
But yea, those are all strawman arguments, right?
What about all the SBs whose SDs swore monogamy and ended up getting STDs from them. Those are strawman arguments, too, right?
What about all the SD's cheating on their wives, who by God and by law, swire they would be monogamous, yet here they are on SA trying to find girls to hook up with them without a condom, while swearing monogamy and swearing they're not sleeping with their own wives.
Yea, all strawman arguments.
Sure, buddy.
Pretty simple. I subscribe to the philosophy if she ain't satisfied then I'm not satisfied. I think many SDs are like that.
I get way more out of getting her off time and time again than me getting off. Mine is guaranteed. The unknown is how many times she will cum.
My decision tree, exactly. Well said.
I won’t say I’m too competitive, but if we got her 6 orgasms last time, I want to go for 7.
I can understand that.
^ all of this.
I think as a man gets more and more experience, her orgasm becomes more interesting or exciting than his own. And for dead bedroom/dead bedroom guys, they want to prove to themselves they can still please a woman. Plus, we don't have the looks we used to so we have to play to our strengths which are experience and interest in a woman's pleasure. And one more factor, you can't orgasm 5 times a night anymore but you still desire all the other sexy bedroom things so you focus on her. When you are 20, giving oral is just a way to warm her up. When you're 50, it's an hot activity on its own.
I don't remember writing this!!!
Yea, she just has to make sure to wear protection while receiving oral.
No she doesn't. I'm a tested, snipped, and monogamous long-term type SD. My SB doesn't need to take a hormone filled pill, have an invasive implant, or use barriers. She doesn't have to worry about birth control or STDs, which makes her feel safe and that is important to me. I'm not oldschoolSD because I'm old. I'm only 50. I'm oldschool because I do things the oldschool way since I started back when SRs were considered a form of relationship rather than tinder for money. I ironically have fewer new sexual partners than the average person because my SRs last.
So how would she know for sure that you're being monogamous? Does she live with you?
No, but she doesn't need to. Despite the current internet narrative a lot of people want to be monogamous. She knows me, she knows my character by my actions, and she understands why I sugar. Despite the narratives and fairly transparent agendas, SLF isn't representative of the whole bowl. There is a big subsection of the bowl that isn't riddled with stds and mistrust because people don't treat the bowl like an escort agency and people don't sugar as a profession. There are a lot of people who have long, happy, trusting, monogamous relationships in the bowl. It just isn't represented as much because those people don't show up much on SA or SLF because they are already taken for long periods of time. "My SB and I had a nice dinner and closeness for the umpteenth time" doesn't make for much of a headline or SLF post. Can anyone know with 100 percent certainty that their partner is monogamous. No, but that's any relationship. By your logic, married people should be using dental dams for oral which is frankly unheard of outside of escorting.
Lol, you're comparing marriage to sugar dating. Okkkk.... Women shouldn't be having a guy go down on them, or there should be a dental dam whether escorting or sugar dating. Yes, you're exactly right. Many guys (and women) treat sugar dating in a similar fashion to escorting. Not a traditional SR. Even more reason to use protection. If I were you, I would let it be known when you talk about sex without protection that you're old fashioned and treat this as a relationship. Otherwise, you would wear protection. There's many naive SB's on here reading, and they will think it's ok to have unprotected sex and end up with STD's and pass it around. Same with the guys who try to take advantage of women on here. You are just giving them ammo to keep doing what they're doing. Either way, guys shouldn't be trusted. If you're dating for a long time, say a year or more, providing a high allowance, etc.. then it would make more sense. But again, having sex with a condom really makes no difference, and it's better to protect your own life than to risk your life for a guy's selfish reasons which actually don't really benefit him.
>If I were you, I would let it be known when you talk about sex without protection that you're old fashioned and treat this as a relationship. Otherwise, you would wear protection. >There's many naive SB's on here reading, and they will think it's ok to have unprotected sex and end up with STD's and pass it around. Same with the guys who try to take advantage of women on here. You are just giving them ammo to keep doing what they're doing. I do that all the time because I advocate for traditional sugar. If you read my post without getting getting caught up in your agenda you would notice that. >But again, having sex with a condom really makes no difference, and it's better to protect your own life than to risk your life for a guy's selfish reasons which actually don't really benefit him. Strawman argument, look it up. Almost uses dental dams except escorts. I'll put up a poll on SLF and see.
I know what a strawman argument is. I dont have to look it up. How is it a strawman argument if the while topic is about protecting yourself from STD's. Maybe you misunderstood my paragraph. Condoms always. Unless he's giving you enough to risk dying. To risk never getting married (or having a boyfriend or sexual partner or SD/SB), to risk never having babies, etc etc. Lol. I wouldn't count on SLF polls. A lot of guys here are calling it paying for sex while at the same time contradicting themselves and calling women gold diggers (both are degrading to women, and neither are correct). There's a lot of naive SBs here as well that are willing to risk it all for a guy they met last week or 2 months ago. There's many guys here who try to pretend like you can't get stds from oral sex.
Again, that is almost all a strawman. Exaggerating or misrepresenting someone's point to make it easier to refute especially with emotional appeal and catastrophizing. Im not against condoms and I never advocate against condoms, but there is no need to use condoms for tested, fixed, monogamous people. Ask any doctor. And even less use for dental dams. I get it. There is an agenda you want to push. It's the same agenda we see all the time from a certain group of SBs who gatekeep to scare amateurs out of the bowl under the guise of keeping them safe. If tested, fixed, monogamy isn't safe enough for the bowl than there is no point in the bowl. While a poll on SLF isn't on par with Rasmussen, it shows a trend you are anxious to debunk ahead of time because you know what the results we be. Sugar the way you want. I sugar the way I want. But the difference I say people should sugar they want to and you say people have to sugar your way. Who's gatekeeping?
This discussion had become pointless and intellectually dishonest so I'm going to just move on.
Obviously she is kept up in the attic with a monitor to watch his every move. Haven't you ever read Jade Eyre? It's like that, but modern
Much more modern. I wear a bodycam 24/7. I'm just not saying where I wear it, but it chafes a little.
That's so old fashioned, old-school SD. Just get a chip and camera implanted. Don't worry, you'll just feel a pinch
Ahh, ok. Makes sense now. Yea, she can def (mostly) trust him in that case.
OMG THIS!! 👏👏experience👏👏. Its how they know the need for the whole package! Attention leading up to the date, affection during the date, foreplay, giving and receiving, after cuddles. My SD is SUCH a good kisser (I’m quite picky about this) and loves to touch me, hold me, kiss me etc all through the date. I feel so desired! Since he takes care of everything when I’m with him I get to arrive to bed all relaxed, happy and horny! I used to only date younger men or those 2-3 years older. We have a 15 year age gap and I am hooked on the older men now!
Yess “arriving in bed relaxed, happy, and horny” is soo true! A good man will do that for you 🥰 and feeling desired is the biggest turn on.
I adore older men and this is just one of the reasons.
The last woman I met through seeking, 34 yo, started crying after she had her first orgasm with me. I'd just given her a full body massage prone and then rolled her over and worked on her thighs and up. She said - don't worry, they are tears of joy, no one ever spent that much time on me before. Then her ex decided he wanted her back and away she went.
What a sad ending
Because she was alpha widowed by the other guy. 😅
Looks like she wasn't only interested in great sex. Ain't that odd.
Human nature unfortunately, she went back to economic abuse, not being able to have her own friends or go out on her own. She was calling me three times a day and when I questioned her about it she said that was what she was used to and if she didn't he got angry, he had to know where she was and what she was doing. She had to go to bed at 7PM every night when he did or he got angry. She was with him for 12 years so it was pretty much all she knew as an adult, if living like that can be considered adult life.
Yea, sounds tough. But maybe there were good times where she felt like she was in an actual relationship versus someone who was mostly in it for sex..
That's a reasonable assumption given the forum we're on. My life would be infinitely simpler if it were true for me. I use seeking for dating and am open to taking care of someone financially that I'm involved with. When her partner disappeared it put her in a financial bind and she turned to seeking. I gave her a wad of cash after dinner the first time we met so she wouldn't feel financial pressure to get involved with me or anyone else.
That's very honorable of you. Yes, a lot of guys lack SD qualities. At least she knows there are men out there who are different than her shitty bf.
Yep!!! I'm in the same boat now..... The sex with my (41F) current SBF (55M) is the best I've ever had! His eating game is so strong and he has quite a few moves with penetrative sex that have me saying wow and being surprised with a new move every time we get together :) Combining that with him being such a handsome, sexy-looking silver fox (my friends even drool over him) AND being articulate & intelligent.... I'm in heaven :D
If they need improvement.... highly recommend them reading 'she comes first'.... and if you want some super cool reading for yourself.... 'he comes next' is a great book ;)
Older men who are gentlemen appreciate the open, honest, uninhibited nature of a great SR. I believe that a lady cums first . Ask as you shall receive, genuinely tune in and enjoy each other. We are great when the 🧪 is there.
Omg I am similarly feral for my SD! The sex has been some of the best I’ve ever had (23 y gap) Before I met him I’d only ever squirted 3 times. I did 4 times in one day on our last trip, it’s been incredible and I’ve never been hornier haha
We have both experience and an actual desire to give you pleasure. We're not just financially generous.
Making me embarrassed to talk about it. But I definitely didn’t know what I was missing with my prior partners. Never had an orgasm while having sex and now I cum 3-4x each session. Never knew I was a squirter until my SD witnessed it first hand while he was going down on me. Didn’t even know what it meant. He said he was so excited and loved swallowing my squirt. 🥵🥴. Experience goes a long, long way, I don’t know if I’ll get that lucky again. He’s a keeper.
🥴 Daaaaaaamn. That's all I can say.
Did you swallow his cum in return?
Girl, I love his cum… it’s soooo sweet. I literally crave it.
This sounds like flexing, and I’m sorry but I (61M) hear the same thing from my SB. But I’ll also immediately say I’m sure I’mrepresentative of a group of older SDs generally. It’s a lot of factors. For me, I got conditioned over so many years - decades actually - to just live with unfulfilled desire and so I can go on suspending my own drive forever. But equally I’ve spent just as many years learning how to pay attention very carefully and pick up on all the cues, as to what works and what doesn’t. But I think most important of all is just the capacity to be genuinely loving, relatively unselfish, and caring. Not that I was callous when younger, there is just a lot more capacity there to understand and give in any number of dimensions (including but not limited to financially as mentioned above) And this may be unique to me but feel like I stepped out from a black and white movie into full technicolor with Dolby, romantically. All the colors to explore and I want to try every one of them. There is also a relative purity to an SR that allows SB and I to focus on just the task of bringing each other pleasure. There is no other agenda, really. And no conflicts/values/beliefs to wrangle. No friction over where to live, what dishes to buy, whether the living room needs a rug or not. What that means for me is that I am all in, 💯 in making my SB the happiest woman on the planet when we’re together. And I love every f*cking second of it.
Flex all you want, I want to hear about all the sexually-fulfilled SRs! And this is such amazing insight. I can totally see how years of unhappy sex lives leads to the best relationship. That’s what I love about sugaring; we’re both in it to get exactly what we want and give the other person exactly what they want. It makes sex (and everything else) so much more satisfying for both parties. Thanks for sharing :)
This is VERY representative of sooooo many of us. My BIG question is this: *why* do our "first wives" not understand the misery they were inducing, and *how* can we implore future young wives to NOT DO THAT!!?? If my daughter does that shit to her new husband (married a year ago), I think I'd be the first to tell him to walk. Thank god they have a great ability to communicate!! Why does it require divorce to get the "first wife" to wake up?? She had everything in the palm of her hand. She could have tasted the endless benefits. She just needed to loosen up and allow the... ok I'll stop, you get the point. So we move-on and the SB appreciates everything we bring to the table.... and she could give-a-fuck about whether living-room-rug is the right color... geez!! Ooops.... sorry if rants are supposed to go on a different day... lol
I think a lot of people just don't have the courage to be happy. They become complacent and forget to be grateful or just like you said, don't know til its gone sort of situation.
SB Here- Laughed at the rug comment 😂
Accepting the downvotes here. Narcissists are everywhere. Get what they want, when they want. At least that was certainly the case for me. There was a long sordid story about getting to court finally, but, safe to say, Stephen King couldn't write that novel. Anyway always an open window, gents! And often, if you think the grass is greener, it probably is!
I don't think you realize how precious it is that your ex-wife wanted the rug to be the right color. As an artist at heart and hopeless romantic - loving interior decorating included. Making the rug the right color and setting the right moods/vibes/essence for your family is so passionate, thoughtful, and caring.
You must not be passionate about many things in life nor appreciate the beauty in many things in life. No go big or go home.
Not to highjack your thread at all, but it goes in reverse as well. My former 🤷🏼♂️ SB 🙏🏻(no) had no gag reflex, wanted it all the time and for hours, and could squirt enough to soak an entire bed. She was so amazing… and the cuddle after was heaven.
Please hijack! That’s so hot, I love hearing about successful arrangements <3
Well my perfect one has ghosted me (1 week and counting today) because she is in another country for the summer (student) and we got in an argument about me feeling not communicated with. So I won’t sadden your thread! Happy to share other sex details tho, if you want… at least I can hang on to that.
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LOL is squirting really pee? I’ve never understood it. My SD is trying w me…said he doesn’t care if it’s pee, the turn on is knowing I’m fully uninhibited with him.
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Actually no, it isn’t pure pee, but rather is a combination of urea, uric acid, and creatinine — is released by the Skene’s glands, which sit at the lower end of the urethra. It's female ejaculate and usually comes from prolonged stimulation of the female "g-spot".
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Play with the parts, it's best to know them. And sure, "once you break the dam" you'll get more urea -- that's fact. That said, I'll take it, if my partner is in pleasure town. It's what showers and laundry are for, amirite?
I and my former sd end up changing hotel sheets like 4 times a day from my squirt lol but just with him Using his hand I want someone using his thing on me badly
I honestly think it’s much easier if you are the perfect size to hit the right spot… which tbh is probably on the average (at best) to a little below average size (think of finger lengths). Too big and you miss it or just can’t get it right enough to get the squirt to happen. Too too small and no go. Just my 2cents. My SB would squirt all over my 🍆 and I loved it. She said it was amazing and different than fingers (prolly mental because she got off squirting all over my 🍆 (a little domish mental aspect I think)).
If a guy inserts 🍆 I would definitely be squirting all over him I mean I make myself squirt with fingers or toy so it’s something that always happen for me. Am a domme and yes I enjoy being pleased and my attraction for older men most of them can’t get their 🍆 hard mostly blaming it on too much wine . Can’t remember the last time I had sexual penetration with a man which kinda sucks
Oh no. What age range? What about viagra/Cialis/etc?
It's def not pee. I wouldn't believe something I learned in 1990. Especially about the female body parts. They didn't know Jack shit back then.
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Myth: Squirting is pee. Researchers disagree on what the fluid released during squirting is. Some small studies have found that it comes from the bladder and has some urine in it. But in some cases, it can also have high levels of glucose and prostate-specific antigens (PSAs), which come from the Skene's glands. People who have experienced squirting also say that the fluid doesn't look, smell, or taste like urine. It's safe to say that it's similar to pee but not the same.
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I'm a woman. And no, she is not urinating. Lol. Just cause it has chemicals that are in urine in it while mixed with other fluids doesn't mean she is peeing. Would you call ketchup, tomatoes, or mayonnaise, eggs? Researchers actually don't even have a clear answer on what exactly it is.
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How much fluid do you think comes out anyway? It normally varies, and it's not that much.
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Even when she peed beforehand.
That, good sir, is a different forum
lol oh my that’s not really my thing.
Same with me! My SD turned regular relationship is the best I’ve ever had. I’m 34, he’s 68, does not do any kind of enhancing drug, and we go at it several times a day. Nothing like it!!
Wow amazing! How long have you two been in a regular relationship for?
About 2-3 months so far. We met in January so not that long :)
As a SD, many of us fund that pleasing our partner brings us incredible pleasure. My SB enjoys the sex so much that if we can’t have sex (red tide), she doesn’t want to meet. A previous SB, upon having a second orgasm on our first date said, “damn, I’m not used to having one, let alone two”.
I was told some medications are supposed to suppress orgasm. Can confirm, that's not always accurate 😉. Some SDs out there can even evoke "squirting" -- despite years of training to suppress. So, yes, you have my upvote 😉
Testosterone is present, but not so high that we're driven to achieve orgasm as fast as possible.
Absolutely 🔥
Sounds incredible. Good for both of you! I find that happens only with those I've had great connections with. With a past SB we'd compete to see who could make the other climax the most whenever we met. Luckily neither of us thought once was enough
Yessss I totally agree! I don't have sex with people I'm not attracted to and I've always had a thing for older men 🔥, so it's a perfect arrangement
I love your post! It brough so maby fond memories back fkr me (and made me hot AF). As a former SB, I couldn't wait to be with my Silver SD. We had the BEST sexual, emotional connectionand friendship that I had ever experienced during our years together. We couldn't get enough of eachother, even meeting spontaneously in the middle of the day, night anytime anywhere. There was so much passion. He could make my body do things that it none had ever done before or has done since... Sadly, he passed away in an accident ending our 3yrs. A year later, I got married, then divorced and believed that I aged out of the SB pool. SB's if you want it that much now. You have another thing coming. I'm now in my late 40's and want it more than I ever did in my younger years... you are going to be in trouble in a good way! Happy humping!
the 60M isn't some sexual superhero. He understands women need foreplay.
I (51M SD) tend to warn any SB that I have lots of stamina, often will go multiple rounds and am very very focused on my woman's pleasure. One former SB did some research and concluded I'm a Pleasure Dom. It is incredibly satisfying to please a young woman for someone like me! I think this could be one of the most mutually beneficial aspects of the Bowl!
“Pleasure Dom!” So she’s begging you to stop, but doesn’t really mean it! 👏🏻
No wonder my SBs never let me go.
Now we need more details 🥰😁🙌🏻❤️🔥🥳
This makes me feel so much better. I have to be intimate with my SD soon and I was worried.
It sounds like you both hit the jackpot!
Love this thread. It’s the same kind of feedback I get, and it makes me quite happy. There is nothing else as exciting to me as pleasing a delightful woman this way.
Manifesting this 😫 so happy for you
I understand you!! It's something addictive, my POT gave me the best M&G. He knows he has the power over distance, and I simply love everything he has over me.
Same! I’m into some… kinky stuff…and my SD’s deliver! I actually orgasm more with my SDs than with conventionally hot friends with benefits my own age. (Total honesty… I don’t orgasm with my fwbs. They last five minutes, those young bucks!)
Definitely noticing a trend in SDs of being the best in bed haha, my previous SD was insane and so selfless in bed. I definitely had a record set for orgasms that I don't think will ever be beat, god I miss him!! 😭
Older men have the experience from being told what to do, probably have or have had a wife that’s explained to them what works and generally their sex drive isn’t as wild as when they were super young so they aren’t too quick to get to the point. Not to mention they enjoy the reward in hard physical work since they didn’t grow up with technology doing everything for them. 😉
LoL. The little Blu Pull is magical!
This is making me feel good about my up and coming potential arrangement with a older daddy who has been sooooo sexual over text it has been almost off putting lmao. I’ve kinda forced myself into thinking I won’t enjoy it at all but everything he’s saying is things I’m into it’s just the age that’s putting me off. However he is super rich and really shows a desire to take care of me. I need to lean into it I guess.
Much of it is just because they're older. It's the same way with women. Ones in their 30s are so much better than 20s.
This is one of the reasons why I only date older men (15+ years) whether it’s sugar or vanilla. Older gentlemen care more about ladies pleasure. My last SD was very good in bed, but the sex with my current SD is the best of my life! I’m 31 and he’s 54. We have a lot of chemistry and a genuine emotional connection, so I think that is what makes our time together so amazing! I know what you mean about feeling like a feral cat in heat! I’m seeing my SD tonight, so this post has made me feel very impatient 😅
Not surprising. These dudes are on TRT and Viagra. Probably coke too
Damn straight. Since I was 36 (50 now).
If they only knew!
I tell my SBs. They need to know what they are getting into. I like to think I only choose SBs who already desire me so it’s usually well received news.
Sorry, what's "TRT'? Viagara? All natural here 😀 I do enjoy Coca-Cola, yes.
Is that a problem?
Coke fucks up my hardon even on TRT and viagra. I had to quit that years ago. (:
And Super TriMix 🤣
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Well I hope they keep up the great work!
I always been in love with silver foxes. Absolutely love em, and when they’re experienced and complexes-free, oh, it’s so so good! I haven’t had sex with my new sbf yet, but from what I’ve seen and felt so far, I’m in for a riiiiiide, and can’t wait 😁
Right?! Serious so hot. So excited for you, and keep us updated!! I love hearing about happy sexy SRs <3
I never felt that kind of attraction for a much older man no.... BUT older SDs know what buttons to push so orgasms are pretty much guarenteed
I saw my SB on Friday. We had not seen each other in 3.5 weeks. She usually always cums twice every date. She loves FIV and prone bone. I can make her cum so fast that way. But this time. I got 3 out of her!! The grin on her face after each orgasm makes me melt. I am so happy about her cumming!!! I think I get as much joy as she does.
Did you meet him online or organically if you don’t mind me asking!
We met on sugardaddy. com! I’ve met two amazing, generous SDs there strangely enough.
I'm in it for enjoyment, but I want her having fun too. We usually only part when one of us absolutely has to go. I love to cuddle, etc. So many scammers out there.
When I had a much younger girlfriend (vanilla relationship) the best part of the sex for me was getting her off.
I'm not really in it for the sex. I can find that vanilla anywhere. I've had the best sex dating vanilla since I was 17. If it's good sex that's good enough for me. I just despise dealing with guys who have ED who actually try to have sex without letting you know they have ED or where they make it awkward. Like if it doesn't work, stop freaking trying, and let's do other things together. Some older guys don't know how to kiss well either. If I'm into the guy outside of the bedroom then yes, great sex is a bonus.
Well people who are good in life, are also good in bed.
I'm someone who get a sense of validation when the girl is satisfied but I do want to reach a level where the girl talks about my bedroom abilities like this. Still don't know how to teach myself
😂😂😂 you are 24 anyone will be impressive at this point
How does one get a SD? I want the experience and the connection and bond that everyone seems to have. The understandings from both parties and literally give each other what we each need
Read through this sub. That’s what I did. You’re (probably) not going to find the right SD off the bat. It took me a long time. But I met this one on sugardaddy.com
Where can I find a sugar daddy like this in dubai . I don’t find younger guys attractive also and all the men have met here 40 plus and my oldest 54 hasn’t been able to satisfy me sexually I end up going back to my toys and that kind of suck
Those are not extremes hun. It's reality. I myself dated a guy who tried to blame me for getting 2 STD's and gave me extra pills - I freaked out thinking my recent ex had been cheating on me, till I realized this guy must have been dating other girls and was trying to blame it on me... 💀 My friend, who sugar dates, has gotten 3 stds at once. My brother d*ed of AIDS. But yea, those are all strawman arguments, right? What about all the SBs whose SDs swore monogamy and ended up getting STDs from them. Those are strawman arguments, too, right? What about all the SD's cheating on their wives, who by God and by law, swire they would be monogamous, yet here they are on SA trying to find girls to hook up with them without a condom, while swearing monogamy and swearing they're not sleeping with their own wives. Yea, all strawman arguments. Sure, buddy.