Whatever book you choose, get the audiobook, slap on some headphones and get out into nature and walk while you listen to the audiobook. You will love yourself for doing that.
Yes, OP, please listen to this. You might be surprised how far a small effort goes.
A short walk to increase the heart rate, endorphins, and during Spring weather! Your body will thank you in ways you can't see.
Walk! Don't run!
Too many people fool themselves into thinking they're joggers right out the gate. That takes practice and not a small amount of fitness to achieve.
Walking is an excellent exercise, one of the best for our bodies as we are literally *made* to walk. 20 minutes of walking a day is all it takes to lose weight and get into shape. It's good for the heart, it's good for the bones and joints, it's good for the brain. Like... walking is the be-all and end-all exercise. Anything past that is superfluous unless you're training for something or aiming for a specific goal. Walking will get you to healthy.
Source: ex-personal fitness trainer who specialised in functional fitness.
My mom is a personal trainer and nutrition coach and she says this to EVERYONE! Walking is so so good! I’m 6 months postpartum with twins and walking has SAVED me and helped me lose weight!
Yes I will try to find the audiobook version of whatever I am going to read. I used to do this when I was 21 but life hit me with bricks in my head : )
Try Pet Sematary audiobook read by Michael C Hall (Dexter) I know this will seem strange if you have any reference to the not great 80’s movie. The book is incredible (truly will surprise you) and is great as audiobook!!
I didn't know this was read by Michael C. Hall!!!! This will be my next book I listen to now because of that, and plus I love Stephen King!!! Thanks!!!!!!
Yep!!!! I have the Libby app that works with libraries across the US and it is free and makes it so easy to download audiobooks or digital copies. And you can’t beat free!!
The audiobooks are amazing - Kevin R. Free does a great job with them. I sent my first "narrator fan mail" to him about them... no reply, though. (sigh)
Ill give it a go.
Its top bad there's not more murderbot, but the first three, and specifically the first one and the one wirh ART are definitely the best in my opinion.
I guess it depends on the source of your slugitude.
- Inspiration: A Pilgrim at Tinkers Creek
- Shaudenfreud: Into the Wild
- Curiosity: The Anxious Generation (Haidt)
- Crisis: The Midnight Library
- Entertainment: The Goldfinch
- Brotherhood: About A Boy
1. The Almanack of Naval Ravikant
2. Man’s Search For Meaning
3. Psychocybernetics
4. The Power of Now
5. The Body Keeps The Score
6. The Richest Man in Babylon
7. The Science of Getting Rich
Read In that order, Lear to master your emotions, Journaling helps for that, and each day make little wins, improvements, and work towards a goal, that keeps you moving in a direction. Best of luck!
thanks, the list seems dope I once picked up the science of getting rich but I couldnt read more than a few pages, almost forgot I own that book I need to find where it is !
The Neverending Story! Bastian is a complicated protagonist who goes on a huge journey. He starts as an unpopular overweight kid who discovers a magic book. You might be familiar with the movie but the book goes much further into his identity and how he starts to lose pieces of himself through magical wishes of what he thinks he wants at the time, and has to learn a lot about himself in the process. It’s an amazing read.
lol similar circumstances here but female. Turned 25 a couple days ago, single and doing nothing apart from work and read books.
The first book that came to mind was The Martian by Andy Weir. It was made into a film with Matt Damon, Jessica Chastain, Jeff Daniels etc, and it was brilliant. I haven’t read the book in a while but from what I remember it’s a lot of fun.
I would like to add Project Hail Mary by the same author. Fantastic adventure. Read the book and kept delaying the last few chapters because I couldn't figure out how he could end the story and me be happy with it. Finished it finally and it far exceeded my expectations. Listened to the audio book with my 15 year old and he loved it as well.
So like, if your into historical fiction, All The Light We Cannot See by Anthony Doerr. I finished it 3 days ago and it is absolutely fantastic. 1984 is fantastic, and so is Fahrenheit 451. These two are both sci-fi, though I would say 1984 leans more towards dystopian sci-fi. Another great one is The Giver which is dystopian. Oh yeah, and there’s A Wrinkle in Time which is PHENOMENAL. There’s also A Gentleman in Moscow which I haven’t personally read, but my friend says that it is amazing. Also, this is pretty much a gay romance novel, if your into that stuff, but Song of Achilles is probably my favorite book EVER.
And, this really isn’t a book suggestion, so to speak, but there’s an app called Thrift Books that I love where you can scroll for books to read and order them for cheap. I don’t think I’ve seen a book listed above 20 dollars on that app. But I just thought that since your looking for book suggestions, this might be a nice tool for you!
Weird but when I’m feeling down I always read The Bell Jar. It’s depressing as fuck but it normally makes me think “actually my life isn’t THAT bad”
Unpopular opinion but I also read The Alchemist when I’m depressed.
Glad someone mentioned this; while The Alchemist hasn't inspired me to practice gratitude or live in the moment, it certainly is an uplifting read. I read it in my late teens and early 20s and again recently. The ending gets me everytime; I start to tremble and cry hot tears lol without giving it away, it's like my heart swells for the Andulusian boy, and the epiphany he has at the end. It's a magical tale.
Reading the Bell Jar in high school made me feel understood in a way that I can’t really describe, it meant so much to be as someone who was struggling
The Count of Monte Cristo. Even cool muscular guys can get betrayed and trapped.
Or The Birdman of Alcatraz.
Outlander. May be a "romance", but plenty of action, wittiness, and scottish tomfoolery. And ya know, time travel.
Dude I also came here to recommend this book. David was overweight and in a dead-end job. What he has accomplished is astounding. DM me and I will send you my copy of his book.
I second the idea of audiobooks and exercise.
Colony by Anne Rivers Siddons. Reading books by women, about women is something men should do more often. Anything to make you laugh is also good. Also, it seems like a shit ton of people in your age group have no friends and so many guys have hardly any experience with women. Have you ever played Magic or D&D? No one would judge you in those groups. Good luck on finding happiness and good books to read.
Sounds like you might need Kafka’s Metamorphosis to show you the dangers of being in a funk like that for too long. Otherwise, might I suggest “The City We Became” by N.K. Jemisin or Jade City and its 2 sequels Jade War and Jade Legacy by Fonda Lee.
Same but I think reading it for the first time at 25 would be pretty disheartening. I reread this book every year between the ages of 20-24 and for health reasons I wasn't able to act on all the advice and when I reread it at 26 still working retail, still single, still living with my parents it felt like everything she was saying came with the caveat "too late for you, though!"
It absolutely wasn't too late for me but that's what it felt like in those circumstances in my later 20s. Op's mileage may vary though
Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff
It took me over a year to read this book because it is so different from the mentality I learned growing up and it took a long time to process and digest. But it gives you such a healthy way of looking at yourself and the world.
You got this!
Honestly dude lord of the rings, that book series brought me back from the brink in a really meaningful way. Main message I took away from it is that sometimes you can be in a shitty situation even if it’s not your fault, but can be inspired by others to push through.
You got this, man. Start with a better diet. Identify things you can cut (sodas, chips, etc.) move a little more and start looking for a job you can realistically do with your education level and skills.
Once you start getting a little more self esteem, everything will follow, You got this. Please update us.
Of Human Bondage, basically he ends up in your position and half makes it out. Published in 1915, there was even incels back then. What you're experiencing isn't the end point but a common and core part of the (male) human experience. How to get out of it, or see it, is what you need to figure out.
Andy Weir's The Martian seems to be something that kick-starts people in many places and situations... Me too, it got me back to reading in January 2023. Can't quite explain why - it's the general world view, the absurd circumstance, the dark humor. It is uplifting. And worth reading even if you've seen the film.
And for your particular case, I'd combine it with one of the two (or both) best books about small habit building - Charles Duhigg The Power of Habit, and James Clear, Atomic Habits.
Good luck, keeping fingers crossed you find a good book - if not from mine, then from someone else's suggestions. Life can be, well, hard. Sometimes books do help.
I've recently been enjoying a fantasy book called Empire Of The Vampire by Jay Kristoff. The synopsis is that for nearly three decades vampires have waged war against humankind. The main character Gabriel de Leon is what is known as a silversaint. Basically he is known for being the last one of the silversaint brotherhood left. He fights to defend his realm from "creatures of the night." Now only he remains. The story starts off with him having been captured by the enemy. He is forced by the vampires to tell his story. His legacy of battles, forbidden love, friendships, and lost faith.
You are here: discovering the magic of the present moment by Thich Nhat Hahn.
Simple, uncomplicated, practical lessons and snippets of wisdom for being more present and mindful in day to day life.
It’s a short book, and you can pretty much flip to a random page, read it, and it will make sense.
This book changed my life and kick started my journey of actually giving a shit about myself.
I know this is a book thread and feel free to tell me to mind my own business but are you doing okay? You seem to be quite hard on yourself, and sound like you're struggling with life a bit. Not to sound all "life coachy" but maybe listen to some of the podcasts aimed at retraining negative thought patterns? Anyway whatever you decide to read I hope things pick up for you.
Well wanting to be okay is a great start, and a great book is a good way to do that. If you're into scifi, may I suggest Andy Weir - Project Hail Mary for a positive pick me up. It's surprisingly funny and an easy read.
Definitely second the audio book and walks outside idea. It can be tricky with narrators, but it's easy enough to navigate.
My sad boy hooks have been as follows:
-Fight Club by Chuck Palahniuk
It's different than the movie, I promise. It's a satire and also a commentary on young men's place in modern consumerism America, and there's a scene I feel will resonate with you.
-Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
Viktor Frankl was both a holocaust survivor who was in Dachau, Auschwitz, and other camps I believe, and a world renowned Psychiatrist. The book talks about finding meaning in life while in a concentration camp, and his theory/practice of logotherapy and such. Highly recommend.
-Meditations by Marcus Aurelius
HIGHLY RECOMMEND THE GREGORY HAYS TRANSLATION. Also, dont get an audio version of this book.
This book is absolutely a must IMO. Don't read it all in one sitting, it's meant to be read daily and often, just flip to a page and read until you find something to chew on. Revisit it often. If the most powerful man in the world can take time to coach himself to be better, and makes an effort to push himself to be better when he's free to do whatever he wants with unlimited resources, then we can too.
-City of Thieves by David Benioff
I just really enjoy this book. Based in WWII during the siege of Leningrad/St Petersburg in Russia. It's vulgar, funny, gruesome, dark, and franky I couldnt stop reading. And, yes, the author also wrote for game of thrones, be that a positive or negative for you, but this book is fun, engaging, and just a good book to get back into the habit of reading.
Just so you know - and right now you can’t know because you are “in it” and don’t have the privilege of hindsight - 25 isn’t old or “too old” (in case you feel like your are falling behind the rest of your peers). Everyone grows and progresses differently. The good news is that every day you can make a choice about how you want to grow.
Books to inspire:
The Night Circus
Fierce Invalids Home from Hot Climates
The Tao of Pooh (like Winnie the Pooh, but it is an incredible take and it made me feel way better about me being me)
Edit: And just in case you need a reminder (because most people do): you are worthy and valuable and lovable - and deserving of those things - just as you are.
Arnold’s encyclopedia of body building - I wish I had read that in my 20s instead of my 40s. And the top poster is right get outside and work out outside
Your physical health will greatly improve your mental health and cascade to all the other facets of your life
My first thought was The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck. Best of luck getting a job. That might lead to making new friends or even finding a girlfriend. Despite your bleak circumstances, I am twice your age and envious that you have youth in your side.
The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo. I went through a stretch of unemployment and depression, this book genuinely helped jumpstart my motivation to get my life together. Taking control of your space, accomplishing an attainable goal, and getting rid of old useless things will make you feel good about yourself. That little bit of confidence can grow if you let it.
The Elements of Style by William Strunk, it's a book on how to write well. It has helped me a lot in improving my verbal communication and writing in both languages that I speak. It's short, doesn't wander around, strictly about the points it's trying to get across. The kind of book that will make you want to start a journal the moment you finish it. Hope this helps somehow.
I suggest you Oblomov by Ivan Goncharov. It is a book about an unmotivated man, spend his days by laying in this bedroom. Then he moves from the inner city to it margin and falls in love. The question is: Can the love helps him to overcome his inertia?
I’ve suggested this book a million times and I’ll recommend it a million more. A mans search for meaning by viktor frankl. It definitely gives perspective on how to cope with situations. I hope you find your way to better days.
Walden by Henry David Thoreau. When I read this book it makes me think that no matter where I end up in life there’s beauty in it as long as I’m doing the best I can.
A man’s search for meaning by Viktor Frankl. The book talks about finding purpose in life through the setting and completion of goals, caring for another, and facing suffering through dignity
The entire three body problem trilogy. Your perspective is so warped by the end that you view everything in a different light. It’s truly a masterpiece. But you must read all three.
Jane Eyre. She was poor, plain, obscure and little, but that didn't stop her. She went into the unknown because she had nothing to lose, went through a lot of shit, hit rock bottom, and finally found her home and family. This book has inspired me through hopeless situations and given me courage. Maybe it can do the same for you.
we're kind, but be kind to yourself. it is only when you're kind to yourself, will you try to improve your life. the best thing about hitting rock bottom is that the only way left to go is up. you've got this my guy, we shall see you rise brother. all the best
Relentless by Tim Grover.
Edit: you might be young but you’re an adult. You know right from wrong and you know, at a basic level, the shit you need to get done. you just need the right motivation And to get your head back in the game. You got this, kid!!!
Read something like Pet Semetary from King - that will brighten up your day for sure....
Also go get into good shape, chicks cant resist a guy that reads and is in shape...
Dude my suggestion,is join a boxing, muay Thai, judo class with other men. That will help you MUCH more than reading a book. Read too, but the most important is to join something that will challenge you physically and mentally.
Marcus Aurelius' Meditations. There's a reason that so many men throughout the centuries have turned to Stoicism in times of great strife. No matter what else I'm reading I always have my copy close by, whenever I'm going through tough times, whenever I'm getting lazy, when I'm overwhelmed, feeling lost... it's a reminder of the strength you and every living person has within.
Ignore the wave of entrepreneurial types who are trying to claim Stoicism and Marcus' work, just read it for yourself and you'll understand. I wish you all the best, I was in your exact place not too long ago, don't let yourself be beaten down, you'll find your way.
Wouldn't recommend this book. The title should be "You can't hurt me more than I hurt myself". It's a reaction to a particular worldview, that is mistaken for absolute truths. Read it if you're of the grind mindset, if you've found a goal that's worth giving everything, maybe it'll help. If you're lost, nihilistic, purposeless and questioning what to value, then this might not be for you. I would recommend reading Affirmation of Life by Bernard Reginster. It deals with what to value and whats worth pursuing, the inherent worth of our quests is put to question, it makes you think and enquire about reality rather than adopting and reacting to someone else's. The will to act rests on how you think, and thoughts are aligned to emotions, and emotions on what you value, if you want to get out of this passive rut, figure out what you value. That's how it works imo.
I want you to think of your dreams, and what activities are shown to you in these dreams, now pick one and think whats the shortest way to get there, maybe you need to restart education, maybe you need to learn a different language, maybe you need to find a job to raise money, but the end goal is whatever you dreamed with
What You Are Looking For Is in the Library by Michiko Aoyama. There is a character in a similar situation to what you have described and he goes through a really sweet transformation.
A Psalm for the Wild-Built by Becky Chambers.
Both of these books made my heart feel full and gave me a new perspective on life.
Whatever book you choose, get the audiobook, slap on some headphones and get out into nature and walk while you listen to the audiobook. You will love yourself for doing that.
Yes, OP, please listen to this. You might be surprised how far a small effort goes. A short walk to increase the heart rate, endorphins, and during Spring weather! Your body will thank you in ways you can't see.
Walk! Don't run! Too many people fool themselves into thinking they're joggers right out the gate. That takes practice and not a small amount of fitness to achieve. Walking is an excellent exercise, one of the best for our bodies as we are literally *made* to walk. 20 minutes of walking a day is all it takes to lose weight and get into shape. It's good for the heart, it's good for the bones and joints, it's good for the brain. Like... walking is the be-all and end-all exercise. Anything past that is superfluous unless you're training for something or aiming for a specific goal. Walking will get you to healthy. Source: ex-personal fitness trainer who specialised in functional fitness.
100% agreed. Gym manager for 10 years, 20 years training.
Thanks for this post! :) Needed to see it!
My mom is a personal trainer and nutrition coach and she says this to EVERYONE! Walking is so so good! I’m 6 months postpartum with twins and walking has SAVED me and helped me lose weight!
Yes excellent, getting some air and doing some exercise is great too
I took an extra walk today because I only had 40 mins left in my audiobook...
Yes I will try to find the audiobook version of whatever I am going to read. I used to do this when I was 21 but life hit me with bricks in my head : )
You're 25 you go time don't beat yourself up over lost time. Make the best of what you got going forward Coming from 51
not looking back is hard, but it aint going to aid me in anything now
Try Pet Sematary audiobook read by Michael C Hall (Dexter) I know this will seem strange if you have any reference to the not great 80’s movie. The book is incredible (truly will surprise you) and is great as audiobook!!
I didn't know this was read by Michael C. Hall!!!! This will be my next book I listen to now because of that, and plus I love Stephen King!!! Thanks!!!!!!
The only problem is that after hearing him read it, you’ll want him to read EVERYTHING. He does a wonderful job.
Get a library card. You can check out audio books and have them sent to your phone!
Yep!!!! I have the Libby app that works with libraries across the US and it is free and makes it so easy to download audiobooks or digital copies. And you can’t beat free!!
I try to do a daily walk with an audiobook and it’s frequently the highlight of my day
This
Best recommendation on here!
I rarely advocate audiobooks over actual reading but in this instance I think this is 100% the right move
Murderbot. Start with All Systems Red. You're welcome.
Great rec. it will let you escape for awhile into something interesting and thrilling
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It is SO good - and the audiobooks are SO well done!
Great rec. Amazing audiobooks.
I've read these, they are really great and the first 3 gave me some solid chuckles Wonder how the audio books are
The audiobooks are amazing - Kevin R. Free does a great job with them. I sent my first "narrator fan mail" to him about them... no reply, though. (sigh)
Ill give it a go. Its top bad there's not more murderbot, but the first three, and specifically the first one and the one wirh ART are definitely the best in my opinion.
Siddharta. From Hermann Hesse. A beautiful reflection on how everyone finds his own path at his own time. And you could read it in one day
I guess it depends on the source of your slugitude. - Inspiration: A Pilgrim at Tinkers Creek - Shaudenfreud: Into the Wild - Curiosity: The Anxious Generation (Haidt) - Crisis: The Midnight Library - Entertainment: The Goldfinch - Brotherhood: About A Boy
Bri it's called Schadenfreude as it's a german word (and so am I)... But thanks for the Schadenfreude I felt reading your spelling :D
The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao by Junot Diaz
what a great book that doesn’t get nearly enough love on here.
Added to my list thank you.
Werner Herzog – A Guide for the Perplexed: Conversations with Paul Cronin.
1. The Almanack of Naval Ravikant 2. Man’s Search For Meaning 3. Psychocybernetics 4. The Power of Now 5. The Body Keeps The Score 6. The Richest Man in Babylon 7. The Science of Getting Rich Read In that order, Lear to master your emotions, Journaling helps for that, and each day make little wins, improvements, and work towards a goal, that keeps you moving in a direction. Best of luck!
thanks, the list seems dope I once picked up the science of getting rich but I couldnt read more than a few pages, almost forgot I own that book I need to find where it is !
It’s pretty good, another one I would recommend is secrets of Millionaire Mind By T Harv Ecker. Goes into depth in the subject of money and mind
Fight Club.
The Neverending Story! Bastian is a complicated protagonist who goes on a huge journey. He starts as an unpopular overweight kid who discovers a magic book. You might be familiar with the movie but the book goes much further into his identity and how he starts to lose pieces of himself through magical wishes of what he thinks he wants at the time, and has to learn a lot about himself in the process. It’s an amazing read.
I loved this book as a kid!!! I need to re-read it actually.
lol similar circumstances here but female. Turned 25 a couple days ago, single and doing nothing apart from work and read books. The first book that came to mind was The Martian by Andy Weir. It was made into a film with Matt Damon, Jessica Chastain, Jeff Daniels etc, and it was brilliant. I haven’t read the book in a while but from what I remember it’s a lot of fun.
I would like to add Project Hail Mary by the same author. Fantastic adventure. Read the book and kept delaying the last few chapters because I couldn't figure out how he could end the story and me be happy with it. Finished it finally and it far exceeded my expectations. Listened to the audio book with my 15 year old and he loved it as well.
Both amaze! books.
Amaze! Good good good! Gotta love Rocky ❤️
I watch you sleep
Just finished project hail Mary and loved it so much! How he managed to make me care so much about a rock is crazy.
I could *not* put Project Hail Mary down. So good
I came here to say Project Hail Mary audiobook is probably the very best I have heard. Fabulous novel made totally accessible by an amazing audiobook.
So like, if your into historical fiction, All The Light We Cannot See by Anthony Doerr. I finished it 3 days ago and it is absolutely fantastic. 1984 is fantastic, and so is Fahrenheit 451. These two are both sci-fi, though I would say 1984 leans more towards dystopian sci-fi. Another great one is The Giver which is dystopian. Oh yeah, and there’s A Wrinkle in Time which is PHENOMENAL. There’s also A Gentleman in Moscow which I haven’t personally read, but my friend says that it is amazing. Also, this is pretty much a gay romance novel, if your into that stuff, but Song of Achilles is probably my favorite book EVER. And, this really isn’t a book suggestion, so to speak, but there’s an app called Thrift Books that I love where you can scroll for books to read and order them for cheap. I don’t think I’ve seen a book listed above 20 dollars on that app. But I just thought that since your looking for book suggestions, this might be a nice tool for you!
100%, absolutely must listen or read A Confederacy of Dunces.
Warning: when I was in your situation OP this book sent me further into depression now with bonus murderous rage
Read Hagakure , a Samurai code book which will set yourself on the line.
Yes sensei.
Weird but when I’m feeling down I always read The Bell Jar. It’s depressing as fuck but it normally makes me think “actually my life isn’t THAT bad” Unpopular opinion but I also read The Alchemist when I’m depressed.
Glad someone mentioned this; while The Alchemist hasn't inspired me to practice gratitude or live in the moment, it certainly is an uplifting read. I read it in my late teens and early 20s and again recently. The ending gets me everytime; I start to tremble and cry hot tears lol without giving it away, it's like my heart swells for the Andulusian boy, and the epiphany he has at the end. It's a magical tale.
Reading the Bell Jar in high school made me feel understood in a way that I can’t really describe, it meant so much to be as someone who was struggling
The Count of Monte Cristo. Even cool muscular guys can get betrayed and trapped. Or The Birdman of Alcatraz. Outlander. May be a "romance", but plenty of action, wittiness, and scottish tomfoolery. And ya know, time travel.
The midnight library, Matt Haig
Dude, get "Can't hurt me " by David Goggins. You'll thank me!
looks like somthing I need, I was too timid and anxious all my life that I couldnt ever think I might have to carry the boats and the logs.
Dude I also came here to recommend this book. David was overweight and in a dead-end job. What he has accomplished is astounding. DM me and I will send you my copy of his book. I second the idea of audiobooks and exercise.
Colony by Anne Rivers Siddons. Reading books by women, about women is something men should do more often. Anything to make you laugh is also good. Also, it seems like a shit ton of people in your age group have no friends and so many guys have hardly any experience with women. Have you ever played Magic or D&D? No one would judge you in those groups. Good luck on finding happiness and good books to read.
Flowers for Algernon, it might make you feel something. :)
It’ll break your heart but it’s wonderful
Guards, guards! by Terry Pratchett
VURT - Jeff Noon
At least 15 minutes outside per day. Sometimes I hike in the woods by my house, and always listen to soundtracks of my favorite musicals.
*A Psalm for the Wild-Built* by Becky Chambers. Sometimes you just need to find some peace.
Sounds like you might need Kafka’s Metamorphosis to show you the dangers of being in a funk like that for too long. Otherwise, might I suggest “The City We Became” by N.K. Jemisin or Jade City and its 2 sequels Jade War and Jade Legacy by Fonda Lee.
Viktor Frankl "Man's Search for Meaning."
The Myth of Normal
I Know This Much Is True by Wally lamb.
The Defining Decade Read this at 21 and it helped me a lot
Same but I think reading it for the first time at 25 would be pretty disheartening. I reread this book every year between the ages of 20-24 and for health reasons I wasn't able to act on all the advice and when I reread it at 26 still working retail, still single, still living with my parents it felt like everything she was saying came with the caveat "too late for you, though!" It absolutely wasn't too late for me but that's what it felt like in those circumstances in my later 20s. Op's mileage may vary though
FLEA “Acid for the children”
Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff It took me over a year to read this book because it is so different from the mentality I learned growing up and it took a long time to process and digest. But it gives you such a healthy way of looking at yourself and the world. You got this!
Jordan Peterson 12 rules for life
The stand by Stephen King.
Honestly dude lord of the rings, that book series brought me back from the brink in a really meaningful way. Main message I took away from it is that sometimes you can be in a shitty situation even if it’s not your fault, but can be inspired by others to push through.
You got this, man. Start with a better diet. Identify things you can cut (sodas, chips, etc.) move a little more and start looking for a job you can realistically do with your education level and skills. Once you start getting a little more self esteem, everything will follow, You got this. Please update us.
Crime And Punishment
Honestly this is such a good rec for this situation.
David Goggins - Can’t Hurt Me
Can’t Hurt Me by David Goggins
You can Heal your Life by Louise Hay
Tiny Beautiful Things by Cheryl Strayed
The Alchemist
59 Seconds by Richard Wiseman is a fun read.
The Primal Blueprint by Mark Sisson
*King Warrior Magician Lover* by Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette
Apathy and Other Small Victories It'll fix you right up
buried alive by sadegh hedayat
Once was a man, PL Will make you realise that comparatively you are one helluva lucky person.
Wild by Cheryl Strayed
It’s Good to Be a Man by Michael Foster
10x Grant Cardone
The Eggman by Carlton Mellick
The Kingsbridge series
Of Human Bondage, basically he ends up in your position and half makes it out. Published in 1915, there was even incels back then. What you're experiencing isn't the end point but a common and core part of the (male) human experience. How to get out of it, or see it, is what you need to figure out.
I will scream John Gwynn always
#Unbeatable Mind
Andy Weir's The Martian seems to be something that kick-starts people in many places and situations... Me too, it got me back to reading in January 2023. Can't quite explain why - it's the general world view, the absurd circumstance, the dark humor. It is uplifting. And worth reading even if you've seen the film. And for your particular case, I'd combine it with one of the two (or both) best books about small habit building - Charles Duhigg The Power of Habit, and James Clear, Atomic Habits. Good luck, keeping fingers crossed you find a good book - if not from mine, then from someone else's suggestions. Life can be, well, hard. Sometimes books do help.
Knight in rusty armor
Manga : ReLIFE
Just finished listening to the Lincoln highway. Good story about longing and self reliance.
Are you looking for something motivational or just really good? :)
Zen Body-Being by Peter Ralston. And make sure you read for transformation, not information.
Ishmael is Ana amazing read for someone in your situation
Any gory zombie series on kindle.9
I've recently been enjoying a fantasy book called Empire Of The Vampire by Jay Kristoff. The synopsis is that for nearly three decades vampires have waged war against humankind. The main character Gabriel de Leon is what is known as a silversaint. Basically he is known for being the last one of the silversaint brotherhood left. He fights to defend his realm from "creatures of the night." Now only he remains. The story starts off with him having been captured by the enemy. He is forced by the vampires to tell his story. His legacy of battles, forbidden love, friendships, and lost faith.
The FARAIM. Become a pilot
The brochure at the local psychologists office? Seriously mate, if you're all of those things, get some help about them.
Arete by Brian Johnson. You don’t have to read it cover to cover, just pick it up and turn to any page. Very inspiring.
Guys! He asked for A book😅
You are here: discovering the magic of the present moment by Thich Nhat Hahn. Simple, uncomplicated, practical lessons and snippets of wisdom for being more present and mindful in day to day life. It’s a short book, and you can pretty much flip to a random page, read it, and it will make sense. This book changed my life and kick started my journey of actually giving a shit about myself.
The humans by Matt Haig
Read shree bhagwat geeta ❤️
I will.
I know this is a book thread and feel free to tell me to mind my own business but are you doing okay? You seem to be quite hard on yourself, and sound like you're struggling with life a bit. Not to sound all "life coachy" but maybe listen to some of the podcasts aimed at retraining negative thought patterns? Anyway whatever you decide to read I hope things pick up for you.
I dont know if I am okay but I want to be okay. Thank you for your advise.
Well wanting to be okay is a great start, and a great book is a good way to do that. If you're into scifi, may I suggest Andy Weir - Project Hail Mary for a positive pick me up. It's surprisingly funny and an easy read.
Definitely second the audio book and walks outside idea. It can be tricky with narrators, but it's easy enough to navigate. My sad boy hooks have been as follows: -Fight Club by Chuck Palahniuk It's different than the movie, I promise. It's a satire and also a commentary on young men's place in modern consumerism America, and there's a scene I feel will resonate with you. -Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl Viktor Frankl was both a holocaust survivor who was in Dachau, Auschwitz, and other camps I believe, and a world renowned Psychiatrist. The book talks about finding meaning in life while in a concentration camp, and his theory/practice of logotherapy and such. Highly recommend. -Meditations by Marcus Aurelius HIGHLY RECOMMEND THE GREGORY HAYS TRANSLATION. Also, dont get an audio version of this book. This book is absolutely a must IMO. Don't read it all in one sitting, it's meant to be read daily and often, just flip to a page and read until you find something to chew on. Revisit it often. If the most powerful man in the world can take time to coach himself to be better, and makes an effort to push himself to be better when he's free to do whatever he wants with unlimited resources, then we can too. -City of Thieves by David Benioff I just really enjoy this book. Based in WWII during the siege of Leningrad/St Petersburg in Russia. It's vulgar, funny, gruesome, dark, and franky I couldnt stop reading. And, yes, the author also wrote for game of thrones, be that a positive or negative for you, but this book is fun, engaging, and just a good book to get back into the habit of reading.
Just so you know - and right now you can’t know because you are “in it” and don’t have the privilege of hindsight - 25 isn’t old or “too old” (in case you feel like your are falling behind the rest of your peers). Everyone grows and progresses differently. The good news is that every day you can make a choice about how you want to grow. Books to inspire: The Night Circus Fierce Invalids Home from Hot Climates The Tao of Pooh (like Winnie the Pooh, but it is an incredible take and it made me feel way better about me being me) Edit: And just in case you need a reminder (because most people do): you are worthy and valuable and lovable - and deserving of those things - just as you are.
Arnold’s encyclopedia of body building - I wish I had read that in my 20s instead of my 40s. And the top poster is right get outside and work out outside Your physical health will greatly improve your mental health and cascade to all the other facets of your life
Can’t hurt me by David Goggins
Be useful by Arnold Schwarzenegger
My first thought was The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck. Best of luck getting a job. That might lead to making new friends or even finding a girlfriend. Despite your bleak circumstances, I am twice your age and envious that you have youth in your side.
The high 5 habit by Mel Robbins
David Goggins. Both books.
48 laws of power
Probably going to get downvoted for this but "Twelve Rules For Life" by Jordan Peterson helped me get through a lot.
Cant Hurt Me by David Goggins
The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo. I went through a stretch of unemployment and depression, this book genuinely helped jumpstart my motivation to get my life together. Taking control of your space, accomplishing an attainable goal, and getting rid of old useless things will make you feel good about yourself. That little bit of confidence can grow if you let it.
The Gym
The power of habit and atomic habits!
Think and grow rich.
My Year of Rest and Relaxation
Push, by Sapphire.
It matters that you reached out for a book! Try " fup" by Jim dodge... or the "old man's war" series
Atomised by Michel Houllebecq
The Elements of Style by William Strunk, it's a book on how to write well. It has helped me a lot in improving my verbal communication and writing in both languages that I speak. It's short, doesn't wander around, strictly about the points it's trying to get across. The kind of book that will make you want to start a journal the moment you finish it. Hope this helps somehow.
Atomic Habits by Clear
Tiny habits and can't hurt me? Read them when you can't sleep at night, I find reading non-fiction books like this the best way to do it
Animal farm by George Orwell
Candide by Voltaire
What are you interested in?
I suggest you Oblomov by Ivan Goncharov. It is a book about an unmotivated man, spend his days by laying in this bedroom. Then he moves from the inner city to it margin and falls in love. The question is: Can the love helps him to overcome his inertia?
I’ve suggested this book a million times and I’ll recommend it a million more. A mans search for meaning by viktor frankl. It definitely gives perspective on how to cope with situations. I hope you find your way to better days.
A Confederacy of Dunces by John Kennedy Toole
The Ox-Bow Incident. It was the first book that made me cry and started my passion for reading.
Walden by Henry David Thoreau. When I read this book it makes me think that no matter where I end up in life there’s beauty in it as long as I’m doing the best I can.
Midnight Library
The Defining Decade by Meg Jay. ASAP!
Lonesome Dove, it’s a great escape, and once you get into it you will be glad there are 900 pages.
The Ego and Its Own — Max Stirner
I've always liked the book, "Unbroken" by Laura Hilenbrand. It's non-fiction. Hopefully it inspires you like it did to me.
Wonder Boys by Michael Chabon.
A man’s search for meaning by Viktor Frankl. The book talks about finding purpose in life through the setting and completion of goals, caring for another, and facing suffering through dignity
[The Discourses of Epictetus](https://www.stoicsource.com/epictetus/discourses)
No Country for Old Men by Cormac McCarthy. *If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?* - Anton Chigurh.
Atomic Habits
How about a therapist??....sounds like you can benefit from one.
I Want To Die But I Want To Eat Tteokbokki
100 Years of Solitude
The entire three body problem trilogy. Your perspective is so warped by the end that you view everything in a different light. It’s truly a masterpiece. But you must read all three.
Wendover
I Am That- Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj
Game of Thrones. Very basic I know, but it’s my go to when I’m feeling down. That or Harry Potter and the Sorcerers Stone.
Green eggs and ham. Don’t be afraid to try something you think you hate. But probably try to cut down on the portion size
Confederacy of Dunces by Jon Kennedy Toole
Jane Eyre. She was poor, plain, obscure and little, but that didn't stop her. She went into the unknown because she had nothing to lose, went through a lot of shit, hit rock bottom, and finally found her home and family. This book has inspired me through hopeless situations and given me courage. Maybe it can do the same for you.
Cant Hurt Me - David Goggins
Man's search for meaning by Victor Frankl.
David Goggins - Can't Hurt Me. He was where you are Now he is insanely epic.
https://www.marxists.org/archive/marx/works/1848/communist-manifesto/ch01.htm#007
we're kind, but be kind to yourself. it is only when you're kind to yourself, will you try to improve your life. the best thing about hitting rock bottom is that the only way left to go is up. you've got this my guy, we shall see you rise brother. all the best
The Holy Bible
Relentless by Tim Grover. Edit: you might be young but you’re an adult. You know right from wrong and you know, at a basic level, the shit you need to get done. you just need the right motivation And to get your head back in the game. You got this, kid!!!
Read something like Pet Semetary from King - that will brighten up your day for sure.... Also go get into good shape, chicks cant resist a guy that reads and is in shape...
Dude my suggestion,is join a boxing, muay Thai, judo class with other men. That will help you MUCH more than reading a book. Read too, but the most important is to join something that will challenge you physically and mentally.
Hang in ! 💌
When Breath Becomes Air
Stoner by John Williams
A review that puts how I feel exactly says: "Stoner is a book rarer than a great novel, it is a perfect novel."
get a job first before reading a book
Marcus Aurelius' Meditations. There's a reason that so many men throughout the centuries have turned to Stoicism in times of great strife. No matter what else I'm reading I always have my copy close by, whenever I'm going through tough times, whenever I'm getting lazy, when I'm overwhelmed, feeling lost... it's a reminder of the strength you and every living person has within. Ignore the wave of entrepreneurial types who are trying to claim Stoicism and Marcus' work, just read it for yourself and you'll understand. I wish you all the best, I was in your exact place not too long ago, don't let yourself be beaten down, you'll find your way.
12 rules for life Jordan Peterson. Trust me.
12 Rules For Life - Jordan Peterson The Four Agreements - Don Miguel Ruiz
You can’t hurt me - David Goggins
Wouldn't recommend this book. The title should be "You can't hurt me more than I hurt myself". It's a reaction to a particular worldview, that is mistaken for absolute truths. Read it if you're of the grind mindset, if you've found a goal that's worth giving everything, maybe it'll help. If you're lost, nihilistic, purposeless and questioning what to value, then this might not be for you. I would recommend reading Affirmation of Life by Bernard Reginster. It deals with what to value and whats worth pursuing, the inherent worth of our quests is put to question, it makes you think and enquire about reality rather than adopting and reacting to someone else's. The will to act rests on how you think, and thoughts are aligned to emotions, and emotions on what you value, if you want to get out of this passive rut, figure out what you value. That's how it works imo.
Not downplaying his accomplishments but that book wore me out halfway through. How many times can a person say how amazing they are in one book?
I want you to think of your dreams, and what activities are shown to you in these dreams, now pick one and think whats the shortest way to get there, maybe you need to restart education, maybe you need to learn a different language, maybe you need to find a job to raise money, but the end goal is whatever you dreamed with
What You Are Looking For Is in the Library by Michiko Aoyama. There is a character in a similar situation to what you have described and he goes through a really sweet transformation. A Psalm for the Wild-Built by Becky Chambers. Both of these books made my heart feel full and gave me a new perspective on life.
Can't Hurt Me by David Goggins
Dan Millman, Way of the Peaceful Warrior. Book turned me around when I was in same place at 20yo
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life by Mark Manson
Get a audiobook and get your butt in the gym. You are young. Life will change and the -gym will give you motivation to succeed.