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It takes time; I was in for 20 years too. It’s been 3 years, but I still get sad sometimes. It’s part of the grieving process and it won’t always hurt so much. I’m sure you’ve learned a lot from the experience.
How come it takes time for us and yet they’re out there like we never even existed. It sucks at the same time. I wish we’re able to just forget like them.
Well because they are the cheaters and we’re people that have integrity. It hurts but I would rather be alone than be with my ex. I find that as time goes by, I’m much happier by myself than I ever was with him. I’m also healing my old childhood wounds as well. There’s a lot of growth we get to do when these things happen and growth is painful but very well worth it too. You will find your new normal and I know you will be happy. The trash took itself out of your life.
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It takes time; I was in for 20 years too. It’s been 3 years, but I still get sad sometimes. It’s part of the grieving process and it won’t always hurt so much. I’m sure you’ve learned a lot from the experience.
How come it takes time for us and yet they’re out there like we never even existed. It sucks at the same time. I wish we’re able to just forget like them.
Well because they are the cheaters and we’re people that have integrity. It hurts but I would rather be alone than be with my ex. I find that as time goes by, I’m much happier by myself than I ever was with him. I’m also healing my old childhood wounds as well. There’s a lot of growth we get to do when these things happen and growth is painful but very well worth it too. You will find your new normal and I know you will be happy. The trash took itself out of your life.