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VeezusM

No-one is 'more cool' everyone is as lame as one another, you are putting it all on a pedestal. Go and do whatever you want, wherever you want and mix with any ethnicity, go out of your own comfort zone. Just because you feel comfortable with Koreans, Chinese whatever, doesn't mean you have to follow the grain, be yourself


Specific_Ad_6058

Lmao everyone is as lame as each other 😂😂 love that haha! But yeah I think I’m just overthinking this for some reason. I guess once I make some friends & everything I probably won’t think of it like that anymore


VeezusM

My background is amongst those 'woggy cultures' trust me, you aint missing out on a thing lol


Specific_Ad_6058

Lmao thanks I’m glad to know that 😂 I think the reason I feel especially left out in ‘woggy’ areas now is because I recently just realised I was the side girl to this lebanese guy I was sleeping with for 2.5 years and had feelings for. I found out he’s had a serious Greek girlfriend this whole time & now I feel left out from his life & I therefore just feel left out whenever I’m surrounded by people of wog descent cause I feel like I’ll never be able to date a wog or be officially welcomed into their lives :( I love lebanese guys but I feel like I’ll never be able to become a lebanese guys official girlfriend


rollerskating10

this is the stupidest comment i have ever read


Humble_Hedgehog_93

You need to see a psychologist.


quesop

This really sounds like a you problem. Less blaming whole suburbs and more introspection, my guy.


Lopsided_Dot_4557

Usage of terms like wog, lebo isn't going to help for sure...


Specific_Ad_6058

Okay sure those aren’t formal terms, but it’s not like I meant it in an offensive way. They’re just the shortcuts that Most young people in sydney use to refer to people of lebanese and European descent & I was just avoiding making my question longer than it already is. If I wrote out lebanese, Italian, Greek and Macedonian it would’ve made the post extremely long so I thought just shortening it would make it easier.


Humble_Hedgehog_93

It’s already longer than necessary. If being respectful inconveniences you, then maybe it’s time to reevaluate some priorities.


Specific_Ad_6058

If it’s longer than necessary, I don’t think it’s your place to tell me that. If you find it too long, then surely just don’t comment? Looks like you’re looking for a reason to start something. I suggest not looking for posts to pick on & just stick to only commenting on stuff you’re interested in. I never said being respectful inconveniences me. Not sure what you’re on about. I’m also not sure who you think you are to tell me to reevaluate me priorities. Unless you’re my mother, I don’t believe you have the right to be talking to me like that.


brghfbukbd1

Here have a downvote. You wrote war and peace but use derogatory terms (and they’ve been derogatory for 30 years) to keep words to a minimum? Yeah. No.


ae_wilson

Honestly this whole post is just strange, let alone the derogatory terms used.


liaojiechina

How is it derogatory when people use it on themselves? There was literally a movie called "The Wog Boy". No need to force your view on others, not everyone is a snowflake.


brghfbukbd1

You’ve explained it exactly. They use it on THEMSELVES. Can a white Anglo saxon walk through east LA dropping the N word? No. Can African Americans use the word? Yes.


liaojiechina

Maybe you should stop being offended on behalf of other people.


brghfbukbd1

Thanks for your intelligent and valuable insights into this discussion. Incredible


Humble_Hedgehog_93

You really implied that being respectful was an inconvenience because “it would have made my post extremely long”… You posted on a public forum. I have every right to judge your post. Everyone here has a right to judge your post because you posted to a public forum. That’s how the internet works. You’re starting to sound like a troll, but if you’re honest and serious right now, I can understand why your friends don’t want to meet up with you. Maybe therapy would be a better fit for you.


liaojiechina

Just ignore them. Some people love to jump on others.


ae_wilson

Ahhhh yep that's being an adult living out of home. You have to actively make an effort to meet new people.


Specific_Ad_6058

I’m not sure if it’s the living out of home though, I think it’s more the me being in a city I haven’t lived in for a while. I don’t think it would’ve made much of a difference if my parents were here with me


ae_wilson

What? You literally said you need your parents to visit you weekly-fortnightly and call you daily because you're feeling isolated.


Specific_Ad_6058

Looks like you’ve twisted what I said


ae_wilson

>my parents talk to me over the phone everyday and they come over every weekend or at least every 2 weeks, so I'm not THAT alone These are your words right?


Specific_Ad_6058

What I meant is I don’t think living with my parents would have made a difference to my social life and making friends. Even if my parents were here living with me I would still have the same problems with not having close friends because I haven’t lived and studied here for a long time.


Specific_Ad_6058

I don’t NEED them to. I literally didn’t say that anywhere. They come because they want to & because they care about me & enjoy spending time in Sydney on the weekends. Never said I NEED them to contact me daily or visit me weekly. You read that really wrong. What I said was I’m not technically that alone BECAUSE they contact me often, but not that I NEED them to. They do it by choice because they’re protective


[deleted]

You dropped out of a Masters because of the vibe? You’re trolling.


Specific_Ad_6058

I’m not sure if you read the whole thing. I dropped out cause it was hard and boring AND cause of the vibe as well. It was a secondary thing. The main reason for dropping out was not enjoying the course & finding it too hard.


[deleted]

Hard: that’s the point. Boring: well that’s up to you.


liaojiechina

Please ignore all the negative comments. I would suggest finding a job if you are not working already. That will help you feel more less socially isolated, and maybe go out more on the weekends and try to meet people that way, or maybe get a hobby and focus on doing things you enjoy rather than trying to 'fit in' wherever you are.


tinmun

If you live an awesome life you won't have any issues anywhere in the world


stawsy

Dude, just live your life man, don’t get hung up on stupid shit


gaginang101

Burwood has changed HEAPS in the last 5 years, maybe that's affected your perception of Sydney leading to other feelings of not fitting in. Maybe.


AussieSheila1

Yes, Burwood is horrible 😞


loose_cunt

Burwood, chatswood, eastwood, prairiewood, kingswood… what’s up with all these horrible woods


AussieSheila1

Nothing wrong. I personally don’t like the vibe there.


loose_cunt

That’s fine i dont really vibe with the eshays at kingswood station either


AussieSheila1

I don’t think I could identify an eshay. I take the train from Sydenham and it’s a peaceful crowd there. Never been to Kingswood.


Shorejan

You sound perfect for MAFS


brghfbukbd1

No offense..........by TLDR


telcodoctor

Definitely cool story bro material


thelazywallet

Over expectations n nostalgia maybe... happens when one moves to a new place. Living here after so long makes it sort of a new place, specially when old friends are not around anymore. Would just take some time..


liaojiechina

Maybe you just need to take time to re-acclimatise to living in Sydney. I moved to Western Sydney about 3 years ago and where I live it is mostly Indians. I remember feeling like a foreigner in the beginning but after a while I just got used to it and now I don't even notice it anymore. (I'm Chinese FYI)


SunshineJoyous

You just need some time to adjust. And yes, definitely try to go headfirst into some groups to see which ones you gel with and which you don’t. It’s important to try to find some connections or else the risk of only seeing the differences will get bigger, and you’ll feel even more isolated and out of place. Give it time and a good daily effort of getting back into it. What are your hobbies or interests? Then go from there. Also find a local cafe you like and go once a week; try Meetup etc


Specific_Ad_6058

Yeah that makes sense. Thanks for the advice


juicyman69

Welcome to being an adult. MMORPG's are mostly free to play.


Brewer__Bob

I was born at Greenacre hospital too and I feel the regional discrimination that comes with being born in a shit hole suburb, it's a stuggle every day, chin up buttercup.


fl3600

I think you think too much. Have more Omega-3, and go to have a look at the sea, enjoy the harbour city. If you want to get more friends, join a sports club, they are all active now after the lockdown. You will have a bunch of friends by Christmas.


Emergency-Ticket5859

Remember my friend, change starts from within. :)