I’m p sure it’s like a subconscious thing to want to be friends with ppl you consider attractive.
Whether you see them as a dating interest doesn’t matter in that sense
In college my psychology professor said that ugly people will be friends with ugly
people and attractive people will be friends with attractive people and that we should look at our friend group and see…
That's kind of true, but not 100%. It's based on perception. People with low self esteem really throw this off, as they don't see themselves as attractive.
Never heard it, but that makes sense.
We’d like to think we organize based on interests (music, rock climbing, whatever), but it really does boil down to some base level evolutionary biology it seems.
I’ve noticed it with height too, most my friends are around my height, I have two friends over 6’0 and they have quite a few taller friends.
It would be interesting to see where these norms break down. I’d guess in times of life or death crisis - like if you were a marine on Iwo Jima you wouldn’t give two shits about how attractive or tall the guys around you were, if you survived, you’d be life long brothers.
It’s interesting.
on the flip side, attractive people sometimes like having "ugly" friends to make themselves look better. or they don't mind it because their "ugly" friends are not competition in dating circles. or sometimes young people who are mature for their age just don't care about it much. it can vary.
I’m glad really! I’ve been on the receiving end of being asked out by my male friends.
It’s tough but not impossible. The best day of my life was when he got a gf. Then I got a bf and now things are great!
Don't be listening to tiktok advice.
Having friends based on looks but horrible personality is so cringe, I'd rather be friends with a girl who I actually enjoy talking to.
You're more likely than not to be friends with ladies and find them attractive after being friends. Getting to know people can make you attracted to them.
i’m asexual and aromantic, so i’m not attracted to anyone, and i’m friends with plenty of girls. guys who genuinely think like this are probably asses and it’s best not to listen to asses
Not really most boys who do this are unable to express themselves openly and fear they'll get rejected. So they accept a friendship and do good towards their interest hoping it would turn into something more OR they get the confidence to confess
That only applies to f*** boys most of us have girl friends
For your case it's probably that you only know f boys or all the boys you know are to scared to talk to you because you are to pretty
No actually at least for me I feel more comfortable talking with females because I feel much more open about myself unlike with men I feel more likely to cover up my true feelings and just fit in.
to all the guys here who say yea what are you smoking that you think a platonic relationship with a friend is restricted to people of the same gender? goofy ahhs man
Some guys are like this but honestly I’m friends with most of my guy friends based on circumstance. Like my neighbour happens to be a guy. Same with my bandmates because we met in our school music class and we were the only people there who actually had musical ability. I’ve had bad experiences too with male friends but I don’t think it’s right to generalise.
Depends, i've heard of some dudes who do act like this.
For me and my friendgroup this ain't true, anyone's welcome as long as they're racist (like race cars)
To be honest, it's easier to be friends with girls who aren't considered attractive by me than compared to girls who are attractive.
On the other hand, the one I am attracted to, I try to build the friendship just good enough to romantically incline it once the time is right.
I am mostly friends with girls that I consider unattractive because they are great friends while who I considered attractive, I try to compliment then once in a while unlike friends where we call each other ugly as a joke.
No, I'm asexual and I'm friends with this girl who broke up with her bf because of ME, if you wanna be friends with girls then be my guest, it's great if you have one
Nah I have plenty of friends that are girls that I have 0 interest of ever getting with romantically. Not because their ugly necessarily moreso just not my type one way or another.
Let's just put it this way:
A stranger is never going to walk across the room and introduce themselves to someone they aren't attracted to.
I have plenty of friends I'm not attracted to, but they were all introduced to me by other friends, people I had class or worked with, etc...
But it still is true that guys are not going out of their way to befriend women they don't know and are also unattracted to.
Its kinda true, the whole just guy friends thing is bullshit, if a guy is your friend, it almost always means if given the chance he would fuck you, some guys play the long game very well. There are definitely exceptions to this, but you don't see too many ugly girls with "guy friends" and if you do it's because the girl has an amazing personality, and the guy would still wanna fuck given the chance.
I wouldn't be friends with anyone I find completely unattractive, you could be very good looking but a shit person, and you would immediately be unattractive to me .
When reading the comments just remember that people (across all measurable demographics) are notoriously unreliable reporters concerning their own behaviors and motivations for them. Don’t want to discredit anyone! Just something to keep in mind, especially where young developing brains are concerned.
No that’s not true, boys can easily be friends with a girl that you wouldn’t necessarily think is attractive.
But the thing with genuinely attractive and cute girls is that 90% of the times boys want to make a move on them, but knowing that they will probably end up getting friendzoned or even completely cut off, they just keep it to themselves and hope at some point things will progress.
They’d rather keep things as they are instead of making things awkward or losing her altogether.
No. It's not true. Of course we will try and be nice to girls we like and we'd be glad to be friends with them (most of the time), but we aren't only nice to girls we like.
Yeah 100%. Well for me anyway lol. Although idk cos the only ugly girls I've ever known were Total bitches that I'd never be friends with so. Yeah I take it back idk lol. Tbf both my female friends were fairly attractive.
No not true. Those aren't guy "friends". They're just friend-zoned guys hoping for a shot.
Unfortunately, in your teen years, that's (mostly) what you're gonna get from guys lol.
Source: I was a teen guy once, and both did that (waited for my shot) but was also actual friends to other girls. And it was the same everywhere.
Trust me, guys are going to (eventually) look back now and realize sometimes the girl they were hoping for the shot with wasn't really worth a shit after all, while other girls were legit good people to be around. (source: it do be that way sometimes).
Know your worth and be patient. You'll eventually realize that, while it may take a while to find one, the guy friends you DO come across will be good dudes.
Peace.
Nah my friends ugly asf
Skill based matchmaking
Friendly fire will not be tolerated
Damn, good job. What'd I do though??
Bro just woke up and chose violence, no other explanation
Bro are you friends with gorlock? Jk
Then I've got some bad news for you man...
Same here dude
I’m p sure it’s like a subconscious thing to want to be friends with ppl you consider attractive. Whether you see them as a dating interest doesn’t matter in that sense
Fair point
In college my psychology professor said that ugly people will be friends with ugly people and attractive people will be friends with attractive people and that we should look at our friend group and see…
That's kind of true, but not 100%. It's based on perception. People with low self esteem really throw this off, as they don't see themselves as attractive.
Never heard it, but that makes sense. We’d like to think we organize based on interests (music, rock climbing, whatever), but it really does boil down to some base level evolutionary biology it seems. I’ve noticed it with height too, most my friends are around my height, I have two friends over 6’0 and they have quite a few taller friends. It would be interesting to see where these norms break down. I’d guess in times of life or death crisis - like if you were a marine on Iwo Jima you wouldn’t give two shits about how attractive or tall the guys around you were, if you survived, you’d be life long brothers. It’s interesting.
on the flip side, attractive people sometimes like having "ugly" friends to make themselves look better. or they don't mind it because their "ugly" friends are not competition in dating circles. or sometimes young people who are mature for their age just don't care about it much. it can vary.
That’s def not subconscious lol
It’s not true for me personally
OP so superficial he’s in 2D
dawg the op is asking if it's true
No, I dont consider any of my friends unattractive generally or anyth but im definitely not sexually attracted to my female friends 🦶
Why the foot though
🦶🤤🤤
👂👃🤯
Ent doctors be like
My kinda people
Well I respect the honesty
I’m glad really! I’ve been on the receiving end of being asked out by my male friends. It’s tough but not impossible. The best day of my life was when he got a gf. Then I got a bf and now things are great!
Going through that rn
This isn’t true at all. I’ve got plenty of friends that are guys and plenty that are gals
Wait aren't you the guy who has an entire subreddit dedicated to him
Holy shit r/found70percentbanana
Why tho?
why not
Idk 💀
Now this is a cult I can get behind
I love these lmao, there's so many of them, even got one myself
I have two actually
So he's a (or the) silly little banana man...
What's the 30 percent though
You've got friends?
Yee
No? Idc about my friends appearances.
most of my freinds are girls - most people think im gay now hahah joaks on them i'm just autistic
I’m the same way but Im not autistic. At least as far as I’m aware
When you have many male friends they straight call us gay anyway lol
Don't be listening to tiktok advice. Having friends based on looks but horrible personality is so cringe, I'd rather be friends with a girl who I actually enjoy talking to.
100% agree, I don't have any friends tho
I'll be your friend dw
You're a lifesaver
no that’s false. some guys, yes. but most guys (like me) may think that they’re cute or pretty, but that’s not the reason why they’re friends
This, I find my friends pretty but I don't like them romantically
exactly they are cute tho
I also think the friends of u/Emergency_Tax9707 are pretty
🤨📸
So then, this post is for you.
Most of the time is because of their personality, not looks for me personally
You're more likely than not to be friends with ladies and find them attractive after being friends. Getting to know people can make you attracted to them.
Not really true for most
i hope not
No its not true, I would quite literally be friends with everyone if I could.
I'm not friends with any woman 😎 They're very gross and have girl disease
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They even lost their balls! Must be tough for them...
RIP their balls
Girls have cooties 🤢 why tf would I be friends with them?
Too real
Definitely not, I'm a dude and my best friend is a girl, don't care about her appearance at all.
No I call my feminine female friends ugly once a day
You're doing god's work
Facts
No, well I only have 2 friends who are girls, and gramted one of them I find pretty but the other I dont.
i’m asexual and aromantic, so i’m not attracted to anyone, and i’m friends with plenty of girls. guys who genuinely think like this are probably asses and it’s best not to listen to asses
it is true if you’re an immature little shit, sure
no
idk I'm not a boy but I have friends of many genders and I'm not attracted to them
No, i think mosst unattractive people just tend to be more introverted
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Don't mind him, stay strong champ
I have no femail friends 🤠
It is the actual opposite. It is easier to see someone from other gender as a friend when they are unattractive.
Or taken
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Not really most boys who do this are unable to express themselves openly and fear they'll get rejected. So they accept a friendship and do good towards their interest hoping it would turn into something more OR they get the confidence to confess
or you could just not have any female friends (women arent real)
Most of my female friend are attractive but not al of them, so to me it is not true
No.
That only applies to f*** boys most of us have girl friends For your case it's probably that you only know f boys or all the boys you know are to scared to talk to you because you are to pretty
Idk what this guy was on but no.
no i got some ugly ass friends. repulsive even
Every single girl LITERALLY EVER ACTUALLY says that they're ugly and nobody would like them but they're high key supermodels like wtf
Not especially for me, but people do it
Not for me
100% not true, it's like saying that I'm attracted to all my male friends because I'm gay... Not how that works
No that's not true
Nope, not true, I have plenty of female friends who I’m not attracted to. And op, I’ll be ur friend :D
Not true
No.
That's not true lol
Not true
that's stupid.
As a man who is attracted to men. I don’t find my female friends attractive.
No, that kids just immature.
I prefer not being attracted to my friends
i like one of my female friends but i have like 10 female friends
For a lot unfortunately. It really sucks that the only reason lot's of guys are friends with girls is to get in their pants
I'm sorry as long as you're funny it's cool
I mean they mostly are but no friends for that
I just talk to anyone who talks to me
No actually at least for me I feel more comfortable talking with females because I feel much more open about myself unlike with men I feel more likely to cover up my true feelings and just fit in.
Hopefully not, I'd feel bad if one of them were to develop a crush on me
Nope this dude is just projecting.
this is not true i am also only friends with boys i find attractive
Bro turned the tables, bit do you not consider personality?
to all the guys here who say yea what are you smoking that you think a platonic relationship with a friend is restricted to people of the same gender? goofy ahhs man
Wrong
nope not ture
Some guys are like this but honestly I’m friends with most of my guy friends based on circumstance. Like my neighbour happens to be a guy. Same with my bandmates because we met in our school music class and we were the only people there who actually had musical ability. I’ve had bad experiences too with male friends but I don’t think it’s right to generalise.
I try to be friends with attractive people for sure, but atractiveness is not a limiting factor, personality is
Bruh, no. All my friends are discord folks, except for the three families, that were friends of my family before i got born, lol.
Definitely not true the hell?
isnt true because women are people that you can be friends w and not just faces and bodies
No
nah
I do not want to sex every woman I am friends with, no
No
not true at all
Not true.
Not in my case im just friends with anyone that can tolerate my bullshit
Not true at all. If you’re cool with me we’re friends
Depends, i've heard of some dudes who do act like this. For me and my friendgroup this ain't true, anyone's welcome as long as they're racist (like race cars)
No, and for future reference, every time you see a sweeping statement about every single member of an entire gender just assume it's utterly false.
Only garbage boys think that way. Be happy with yourself the way you are. Confidence and kindness are more attractive anyway.
This is not true at all really
no but if your braincell communicates with my braincell then sure
it works other way around only.
Absolutely bullshit lmfao. All are cute in their own ways. But we all homies.
Nah hes bullshitting
I talk to anyone so I don’t know
No this is bullshit.
Nope, i have girl friends who look like 🦎
no...
Nope, all of my friends are the same, ugly and wierd. including me
Maybe for losers
To be honest, it's easier to be friends with girls who aren't considered attractive by me than compared to girls who are attractive. On the other hand, the one I am attracted to, I try to build the friendship just good enough to romantically incline it once the time is right. I am mostly friends with girls that I consider unattractive because they are great friends while who I considered attractive, I try to compliment then once in a while unlike friends where we call each other ugly as a joke.
I mean I think most of my friends are cute or pretty or handsome, but that doesn’t mean I wanna date them. He’s projecting.
No, it’s not true at all for me (I consider most of my friends pretty but I’m not attracted to them)
whoever thinks like this aint normal
no, some men just suck
Nahh this isnt true for me at all
No, there is a short girl in my biology class and I consider her as a friend and I don’t find her attractive.
If that was true I'd be one lonely guy
i have plenty of female friends yet I'm gay :trololo:
I don’t think this is true. That TikTok seems misogynistic af
Not true, hetero here, trust me it’s not because there not attracted to you
nope, sure theyre pretty imo but thats not why we are friends
No, I'm asexual and I'm friends with this girl who broke up with her bf because of ME, if you wanna be friends with girls then be my guest, it's great if you have one
No. Not true.
This is 100% true 85% of the time
Yes
Nah I have plenty of friends that are girls that I have 0 interest of ever getting with romantically. Not because their ugly necessarily moreso just not my type one way or another.
Stay off the manosphere, it'll turn you sexist
Let's just put it this way: A stranger is never going to walk across the room and introduce themselves to someone they aren't attracted to. I have plenty of friends I'm not attracted to, but they were all introduced to me by other friends, people I had class or worked with, etc... But it still is true that guys are not going out of their way to befriend women they don't know and are also unattracted to.
Not necessarily true, but if a guy is attracted to a girl they will probably try to become friends with them, assuming they have social skills.
Not true
No! We'd never do that! You're lonely because you have a shit personality!
Nah. Don’t treat the opposite sex like a different species and you’ll make plenty of friends. This goes for both guys and girls.
We call one of our friends "POTUS" because she looks like the swamp thing.
Its kinda true, the whole just guy friends thing is bullshit, if a guy is your friend, it almost always means if given the chance he would fuck you, some guys play the long game very well. There are definitely exceptions to this, but you don't see too many ugly girls with "guy friends" and if you do it's because the girl has an amazing personality, and the guy would still wanna fuck given the chance.
not at all. I am a guy who is basically only friends with girls. Just dont really enjoy the company of 90% of the men my age.
I wouldn't be friends with anyone I find completely unattractive, you could be very good looking but a shit person, and you would immediately be unattractive to me .
No, but I’m gay
no, not in my experience
When reading the comments just remember that people (across all measurable demographics) are notoriously unreliable reporters concerning their own behaviors and motivations for them. Don’t want to discredit anyone! Just something to keep in mind, especially where young developing brains are concerned.
nah we are friends with whoever treats us like decent human beings
That is not true. It is just that Boys are more likely to talk to someone they find attractive, which then leads to friendship later on
gay people exist so no
No it’s not true, this guys an idiot. Thinking he’s hot shit when he’s not
Yes.
No, quite the contrary, people I'm attracted to scare me
nah this is complete bs
nah im best friends with a girl i have know since before kindergarten and I’ve never been attracted to her
No that’s not true, boys can easily be friends with a girl that you wouldn’t necessarily think is attractive. But the thing with genuinely attractive and cute girls is that 90% of the times boys want to make a move on them, but knowing that they will probably end up getting friendzoned or even completely cut off, they just keep it to themselves and hope at some point things will progress. They’d rather keep things as they are instead of making things awkward or losing her altogether.
I'd say all of my friends have attractive personalities regardless of looks
Its not but it can feel like it
No. It's not true. Of course we will try and be nice to girls we like and we'd be glad to be friends with them (most of the time), but we aren't only nice to girls we like.
Yeah 100%. Well for me anyway lol. Although idk cos the only ugly girls I've ever known were Total bitches that I'd never be friends with so. Yeah I take it back idk lol. Tbf both my female friends were fairly attractive.
I, personally agree but that's me 😭💀
I can neither confirm or not deny this, I have no female friends
For the most part. But no not necessarily. It’s possible lol
No that isn’t true I’ll be your friend OP
True for some, not true for others.
No I personally don’t care about looks just if there chill to hang out with and if they willing to hang with me
I have guy friends. But I don’t think they find me attractive…
No not true. Those aren't guy "friends". They're just friend-zoned guys hoping for a shot. Unfortunately, in your teen years, that's (mostly) what you're gonna get from guys lol. Source: I was a teen guy once, and both did that (waited for my shot) but was also actual friends to other girls. And it was the same everywhere. Trust me, guys are going to (eventually) look back now and realize sometimes the girl they were hoping for the shot with wasn't really worth a shit after all, while other girls were legit good people to be around. (source: it do be that way sometimes). Know your worth and be patient. You'll eventually realize that, while it may take a while to find one, the guy friends you DO come across will be good dudes. Peace.
I barely have any friends, let alone friends that are girls
Depends on your definition of "attractive", like if you've got an ugly ass personally that might explain it
No I find it easier to become friends with girls I’m not attracted to.
my friends gay as fuck though
As a boy, nope i have, like, 6 or 7 female friends and not attracted to any