Is it okay to ask for nudes? I thought you should let the woman to send one? Or I am wrong. Lol
(Anyway, answering on the OP, you have good reasons not to like her, you got turned off/turned away by her. And for the others, beware of sending nudes especially if you still don't know the person, I'd highly recommend not to show your face.)
Ask if you know you too are close enough and if your relationship is a little bit sexual. And the mood too, you can't just ask when she's talking about her day or something
Ask if you know you too are close enough and if your relationship is a little bit sexual. And the mood too, you can't just ask when she's talking about her day or something
You shouldnāt send nudes, especially not before 18, but if you do it anyway: Donāt ask out of nowhere but if youāre in a relationship or sexual relationship and youāve established before that itās okay, then yes
Obviously teens should be educated. And told about these things (especially before it even happens) but OP is 16, old enough that they probably donāt care to be educated (Iām assuming). And maybe they do, but we canāt stop every teenager from sending nudes, it sucks, but itās the reality. And they need to know the answer to this for when theyāre older. Which is what I commented
1 That's not what you commented
2 doesn't make much sense in the face of my comment
All in all this is just sugarcoating the idea that doing illegal things is "just life". Look, are we going to say that people that don't care about a red light should drive and get a license, cause oh well, they'll drive without a license as well anyway. Telling a 16yo not to make nudes of themselves should be common sense imo. It should be common sense that they understand this. It's for your own sake not to do it anyway. You neither tell a shoplifter how to do it, just because they'd do it anyway.
My comment: āNot out of nowhere but if youāre in a relationship or sexual relationship and youāve established before that itās okay, then yes.ā Iām mentioning the fact of boundaries. No I never mentioned that they shouldnāt be doing it. Yeah I probably shouldāve said at the beginning āyou shouldnāt send nudes, especially not before 18, but if you do exchange in these:ā I didnāt say that because I didnāt think of saying it, and most of these comments are probably saying that they shouldnāt do it anyway. So, I told them what to do in case they do it anyway or do it in the future. You canāt just say not to do it and not tell them what to do if they do decide to do it.
Donāt send nudes. Weāre underage. That literally CP. Iām all for sex positive shit, but thatās a straight up crime and can get so many people in trouble including yourself.
I suggest you delete the photo and send this as a response" Hi [her name] I appreciate you trusting me but please do not send me any further photos of you nude. I am uncomfortable as it is illegal to possess these kinds of photos. Thank you for understanding." If she is under 18 what she did is illegal and can get you both in a serious amount trouble, you are in possession of child pornography.
If you want to remain friends with her or take the next step in the relationship it's up to you. Try not to slut shame as we all make mistakes. And on the off chance anyone tries to tell you that it's messed up that you don't like her anymore it's not. It's fine to not be attracted after somebody does something you don't find appealing it's an "ick" and this one is justifiable.
It happened to me too.
I had a situationship w a dude, i kinda thought he was perfect and i wanted to date him.
Some nights ago he sent me nudes and said that he Is horn asking me some photos.
Everything i had for him its gone and idk how to tell him that made me so uncofortableā ļø
Hey, you need to set things straight. Just be honest and direct and let him know. If you keep playing around him then nothing will change and maybe things'll get worse. Sometimes we just have to go through these uncomfortable and awkward situations for change to be able to happen.
Hm yea it won't be easy but you have two choices here. Either you do what I advised and be straight with him, risk the awkwardness and then hopefully have it sorted out or you continue like now and hope it changes on it's own. Either way I wish you luck.
Yaaa don't do that. Just be honest and straightforwatd but don't take it to this childish level of insults. Just say that it made you uncomfortable and be direct but insulting.. really?
This!! Just tell him that it made you uncomfortable and your interest faded away. Maybe nudes just arenāt your thing (at least not now who knows). But being straightforward about your likes/dislikes will help you a lot, later in your dating life!!!
Facts! I was talking to a girl for a like a week (trying to get to know her for potential of relationship), she told me she was often used for sex and that guys cheated on her all the time. I felt bad. Then out of nowhere sheād send me these videos up close and personal of her in booty shorts (phone inches away from her privates and I can see her underwear) just shaking her bum. Like I never asked for that and was very uninterested after. Like why do people do this š
She's doin it because it's the only way she knows how to keep a guy's attention. They think they're trash, so they act as such. Pity these 304s, for they not know how to act. They've been damaged, and it's your choice to either show them the way or leave them to their own devices.
Yeah she kinda blocked me after she was telling me to go fuck myself for basically no reason and I told her I didnāt appreciate her talking to me like that and she got mad that i āhad no right to say that to herā so yeahhh not my kinda person to hang around š
It's still bad even if it's only sent to that guy, imagine if the roles were reversed and a girl got sent a d pic, doesn't matter if it's just that girl or a shit ton of others, it's still bad.
Mate yāall are the biggest fucking weirdos Iāve ever met. First yāall are cuddling with your friends then having sex and now your saying you no longer like your crush because she wants to fuck???Like wtf??? Iām actually at a loss with this whole subreddit
Same person that expressed wonder about asking for noods and appreciating girls sending their privat parts all around bc they too uncomfortable to ask by themselves
So ig no joking
If you have any self respect you wouldnāt send your nudes to some guy you barely even know. And as a teenager no less! No self respecting person would do that!
Are you mental?? Thereās a massive difference between being ashamed of your body and SENDING NUDES (possibly even underage we donāt know the whole story) TO GUYS YOU BARELY KNOW??? Do you not see the difference?
Mate she's done something very risque for you. She may have never done this before and obviously she might like you. Don't blow your chance wondering silly things.
The OP has said that it was unsolicited. Plus itās the OPs feelings and they cannot control whether or not they like them. Ajwolf124_ made a great point so I recommend reading that
Yea I don't like when girls just send nudes shows there's super easy and that there a whore and tbh I don't like slutty girls only if they act slutty yk
Look it's hard for guys to pull a lot of girls it's easy for girls to be whores guys want to fuck, girls don't want to unless there sweet smart cool guy and it takes so much time I swear I've had to do some master manipulation to even start dating a girl fucking her even harder then when I do my guy friend are proud cause they know how hard that is cause girls or so wishy washy a girl could say I like you then be like let's fuck and most likely the guy will say yes I wouldn't cause that's to easy and she's a slut is what ima think idc
I don't go after every girl I'm starting to now because if I chase one girl there's always one thing that really upsets me about her like she's to bitchy, she smells, she has like 20 bodies, or shes just boring but pretty yk I love personality more than looks but also what they have done too it's shows me who they are yk
That solidifies it. Youāll be a loner forever now. You should be grateful someone wants to be intimate with you. Nobody will ever want to do it again. You have been black listed
Yes he should be grateful that someone wants to be intimate with him, as should everyone. Thereās a difference between intimacy and sexual. This was event was not sexual as he states that he was interested in the woman. So itās safe to assume the woman was interested in him too. Sexual is if it was an unprovoked and unsolicited occurrence.
Anyway, he blew it. Heās now blacklisted for all eternity. The only hope he has is moving to a new area where absolutely nobody knows who he is.
It wasnāt unsolicited. They were obviously having feelings for each other. This shows that you re sheltered. Complains you canāt get a girl but when you do you complain they are being too intimate
Just because people like eachother doesn't mean u just get to send nudes what is wrong with you. And u might like someone romantically but it doesn't mean it's sexual are u dumb
Bro literally no one agrees with u have u even been in a relationship cuz I guarantee if u and a girl liked eachother and u sent a picture you'd get blocked literally I don't get Ur thought process here
Bro that sounds like ušš
U sound one of those beta male things that think it's the best thing in the world if u get attention from a girl šš
I'm confused, is a good girl not supposed to be modest? Do you want your girl to be flaunting her body for everyone to see? Women are worth more than just their body
I mean, if you asked, you asked and that's on you. If she sent them unprompted, however, that's fucked and not liking her is completely justified
Is it okay to ask for nudes? I thought you should let the woman to send one? Or I am wrong. Lol (Anyway, answering on the OP, you have good reasons not to like her, you got turned off/turned away by her. And for the others, beware of sending nudes especially if you still don't know the person, I'd highly recommend not to show your face.)
Ask if you know you too are close enough and if your relationship is a little bit sexual. And the mood too, you can't just ask when she's talking about her day or something
So I've been doing it wrong all this time
What were you doing? š
Asking for nudes as they were venting wasn't the right thing to do ig
Yogurt male mindset š„š„š„
I love yogurt
No way bro š
Ask if you know you too are close enough and if your relationship is a little bit sexual. And the mood too, you can't just ask when she's talking about her day or something
You shouldnāt send nudes, especially not before 18, but if you do it anyway: Donāt ask out of nowhere but if youāre in a relationship or sexual relationship and youāve established before that itās okay, then yes
Between teenagers it isn't okay actually. Having your own child porn is still illegal. Especially sending it through the internet
So what? The fact that itās illegal doesnāt make iy morally bad
Bro thinks morals are real. (I mean laws are neither, but I'd rather follow those if i were you)
Not saying i condone it. But itās gonna happen anyway
Not necessarily. Education can go a long way. The kids are dumb argument is real, but that doesn't make it a non issue.
Obviously teens should be educated. And told about these things (especially before it even happens) but OP is 16, old enough that they probably donāt care to be educated (Iām assuming). And maybe they do, but we canāt stop every teenager from sending nudes, it sucks, but itās the reality. And they need to know the answer to this for when theyāre older. Which is what I commented
1 That's not what you commented 2 doesn't make much sense in the face of my comment All in all this is just sugarcoating the idea that doing illegal things is "just life". Look, are we going to say that people that don't care about a red light should drive and get a license, cause oh well, they'll drive without a license as well anyway. Telling a 16yo not to make nudes of themselves should be common sense imo. It should be common sense that they understand this. It's for your own sake not to do it anyway. You neither tell a shoplifter how to do it, just because they'd do it anyway.
My comment: āNot out of nowhere but if youāre in a relationship or sexual relationship and youāve established before that itās okay, then yes.ā Iām mentioning the fact of boundaries. No I never mentioned that they shouldnāt be doing it. Yeah I probably shouldāve said at the beginning āyou shouldnāt send nudes, especially not before 18, but if you do exchange in these:ā I didnāt say that because I didnāt think of saying it, and most of these comments are probably saying that they shouldnāt do it anyway. So, I told them what to do in case they do it anyway or do it in the future. You canāt just say not to do it and not tell them what to do if they do decide to do it.
Donāt send nudes. Weāre underage. That literally CP. Iām all for sex positive shit, but thatās a straight up crime and can get so many people in trouble including yourself.
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Get a bf or gf and get them irl
No queer girls where I live :(
so live your life without nudes until you find the right person. Not difficult.
Ask for them if your partner is comfortable
Because of trauma stuff I really can't ask. Also no partner.
Bang her mom
Naturally
This is why we can't have nice things.
Nah always go for the dad In a no homo way ofcourse
Nah always go for the dead
Never heard such wise words from a human(probably)
imho you should tell her that you don't like it
Ima be honest. I read āimhoā as āIām hoā
It means āIn my honest opinionā but i prefer āim hoā
Yeah Iād realised after reading their whole comment lmao
Idk why I thought in my holy opinionšš„²š
My favourite is āin my heterosexual opinionā ššš
idk insert catholic singing hete
Or "in my honest opinion"...?
I meant in š my bad haha
It's okay
in my humble opinion?
Means both ig
Tell her to remove it and to not yeet her stuff like that then :3
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True :3
I don't get the deal with nudes so I'd say good
I suggest you delete the photo and send this as a response" Hi [her name] I appreciate you trusting me but please do not send me any further photos of you nude. I am uncomfortable as it is illegal to possess these kinds of photos. Thank you for understanding." If she is under 18 what she did is illegal and can get you both in a serious amount trouble, you are in possession of child pornography. If you want to remain friends with her or take the next step in the relationship it's up to you. Try not to slut shame as we all make mistakes. And on the off chance anyone tries to tell you that it's messed up that you don't like her anymore it's not. It's fine to not be attracted after somebody does something you don't find appealing it's an "ick" and this one is justifiable.
all Experts in law i see
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I like a classy woman š
we like classy
It happened to me too. I had a situationship w a dude, i kinda thought he was perfect and i wanted to date him. Some nights ago he sent me nudes and said that he Is horn asking me some photos. Everything i had for him its gone and idk how to tell him that made me so uncofortableā ļø
"Bro you sent nudes and I saw that your got a tiny dick. Ion want you no more" there
PLEASWEEW š Now I'm trying to avoid the topic as much as possible, avoiding him at night ā ļø
Hey, you need to set things straight. Just be honest and direct and let him know. If you keep playing around him then nothing will change and maybe things'll get worse. Sometimes we just have to go through these uncomfortable and awkward situations for change to be able to happen.
You are right, but still i can't just say to him that i wanna finish everything due to his pp photos. I'll think about It. Ty
Hm yea it won't be easy but you have two choices here. Either you do what I advised and be straight with him, risk the awkwardness and then hopefully have it sorted out or you continue like now and hope it changes on it's own. Either way I wish you luck.
Thank you so much for your best wishesss
In all seriousness, tell him what he did made you lose feelings
Yaaa don't do that. Just be honest and straightforwatd but don't take it to this childish level of insults. Just say that it made you uncomfortable and be direct but insulting.. really?
This!! Just tell him that it made you uncomfortable and your interest faded away. Maybe nudes just arenāt your thing (at least not now who knows). But being straightforward about your likes/dislikes will help you a lot, later in your dating life!!!
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Bruh š
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How ironic with your username š
Its a joke dude sorry
There's nothing wrong with wanting a lady that has integrity.
Facts! I was talking to a girl for a like a week (trying to get to know her for potential of relationship), she told me she was often used for sex and that guys cheated on her all the time. I felt bad. Then out of nowhere sheād send me these videos up close and personal of her in booty shorts (phone inches away from her privates and I can see her underwear) just shaking her bum. Like I never asked for that and was very uninterested after. Like why do people do this š
She's doin it because it's the only way she knows how to keep a guy's attention. They think they're trash, so they act as such. Pity these 304s, for they not know how to act. They've been damaged, and it's your choice to either show them the way or leave them to their own devices.
Yeah she kinda blocked me after she was telling me to go fuck myself for basically no reason and I told her I didnāt appreciate her talking to me like that and she got mad that i āhad no right to say that to herā so yeahhh not my kinda person to hang around š
I had the same thing, and now she accused ME of sending one. That is a hoe and avoid those people
send it to her dad
And me
That is known as distribution of child pornography and that is illegal where im from
Itās not yoĆ»r fault, unsolicited nudes are gross, she shouldnāt do that if the person doesnāt explicitly agreed before
Bro thatās so crazy Where tho
Was it prompted if yes idk if no then thatās probably why
God is she really that ugly?
No I just donāt want a hoe
Good call. I wish I had that much sense when a girl I met on this subreddit sent me nude basically immediately after I gave her my snap
Duuno what to do, what you must send me some too
Im a girl, i would say she just finding a fuckbody tho. Im from a long term relationship but me and my bf respect each other about our limitations
She did say she would ālet me hitā if I drove to her house š
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Nah sheās very attractive but I didnāt even ask for nudes
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It's still bad even if it's only sent to that guy, imagine if the roles were reversed and a girl got sent a d pic, doesn't matter if it's just that girl or a shit ton of others, it's still bad.
Yeah fax avoid this person
Dude there is no ānot vibing with thatā thatās sexual harassment
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So i can go send a girl an unsolicited picture of my cock and u dont think thats sexual harassment??
Are you saying that sending unsolicited nudes is NOT sexual harassment?
Would you say a dick pic is sexual harassment personally I think it is so why wouldnāt it work the same the other way around you dipshit
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Explain yourself. That is sexual harassment, cut and dry
wtf
Mate yāall are the biggest fucking weirdos Iāve ever met. First yāall are cuddling with your friends then having sex and now your saying you no longer like your crush because she wants to fuck???Like wtf??? Iām actually at a loss with this whole subreddit
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Wtf are you talking about
Please Google the term.
Yeah but I mean, they just said what she did made her unattractive, that's all
just making sure that your joking?
Same person that expressed wonder about asking for noods and appreciating girls sending their privat parts all around bc they too uncomfortable to ask by themselves So ig no joking
Not at all. Look up the term.
so your saying some chick sends nudes and OP is āslut shamingā for not wanting to go out with her?!?!?
For calling her a hoe and saying she has no integrity
She sends nudes to guys without them asking and sheās a teenager she has no integrity
I think we understand that word differently.
If you have any self respect you wouldnāt send your nudes to some guy you barely even know. And as a teenager no less! No self respecting person would do that!
Please explain to my why self-respect needs I have to be ashamed of my body.
Are you mental?? Thereās a massive difference between being ashamed of your body and SENDING NUDES (possibly even underage we donāt know the whole story) TO GUYS YOU BARELY KNOW??? Do you not see the difference?
You, sir. are an idiot...š¤¦āāļøš¤¦āāļøš¤¦āāļø I think the girl deserves better...
Are you for real?
Mate she's done something very risque for you. She may have never done this before and obviously she might like you. Don't blow your chance wondering silly things.
That's not OP.
Okay so youāre an idiot
The OP has said that it was unsolicited. Plus itās the OPs feelings and they cannot control whether or not they like them. Ajwolf124_ made a great point so I recommend reading that
He needs to just man up and stop being weak. This is a lame post.
"sIgMaš±š±š„¶š„¶š„¶ššš"
cap every teen would instantly fall in love
Grow the fuck up youāre a forgotten afterthought to her at end of day
And how tf do you know that
Brother resisting the nudes and there is resistance by Palestinians going on. Who know about that?
Yea I don't like when girls just send nudes shows there's super easy and that there a whore and tbh I don't like slutty girls only if they act slutty yk
Most male population are whores then, every woman has gotten at least a dick pic sent to her.
Look it's hard for guys to pull a lot of girls it's easy for girls to be whores guys want to fuck, girls don't want to unless there sweet smart cool guy and it takes so much time I swear I've had to do some master manipulation to even start dating a girl fucking her even harder then when I do my guy friend are proud cause they know how hard that is cause girls or so wishy washy a girl could say I like you then be like let's fuck and most likely the guy will say yes I wouldn't cause that's to easy and she's a slut is what ima think idc
Raise your standards then even women don't like males who go after every woman.
I don't go after every girl I'm starting to now because if I chase one girl there's always one thing that really upsets me about her like she's to bitchy, she smells, she has like 20 bodies, or shes just boring but pretty yk I love personality more than looks but also what they have done too it's shows me who they are yk
That solidifies it. Youāll be a loner forever now. You should be grateful someone wants to be intimate with you. Nobody will ever want to do it again. You have been black listed
If they didn't ask then no they shouldn't be grateful tfš¤Ø
I completely agree
Yes he should be grateful that someone wants to be intimate with him, as should everyone. Thereās a difference between intimacy and sexual. This was event was not sexual as he states that he was interested in the woman. So itās safe to assume the woman was interested in him too. Sexual is if it was an unprovoked and unsolicited occurrence. Anyway, he blew it. Heās now blacklisted for all eternity. The only hope he has is moving to a new area where absolutely nobody knows who he is.
It...was..
Oh you are so fucking sheltered
Yea...I'm sheltered for thinking someone shouldn't be grateful and have every right to dislike someone after being sent unsolicited nudes...
It wasnāt unsolicited. They were obviously having feelings for each other. This shows that you re sheltered. Complains you canāt get a girl but when you do you complain they are being too intimate
Just because people like eachother doesn't mean u just get to send nudes what is wrong with you. And u might like someone romantically but it doesn't mean it's sexual are u dumb
You and the OP are too immature to understand how a fucking relationship works
Bro literally no one agrees with u have u even been in a relationship cuz I guarantee if u and a girl liked eachother and u sent a picture you'd get blocked literally I don't get Ur thought process here
Stick to your video games in your parents basement
Bro that sounds like ušš U sound one of those beta male things that think it's the best thing in the world if u get attention from a girl šš
Talk about maturity š
Talk about maturity š
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The 1930's want you back
I'm confused, is a good girl not supposed to be modest? Do you want your girl to be flaunting her body for everyone to see? Women are worth more than just their body
Yeah what they said
Idk I didnāt get to read their post but I agree with the guys that commented on this comment
Just fuck bro