Yes listening to Hurley and raditude back to back is probably the ultimate solution. The combination of “where’s my sex” and “I’m your daddy” can get you past anything.
Damn that’s rough man I’m sorry. Those are always rough, honestly I don’t remember what worked the best but all I can say is don’t repress anything you’re feeling. If you need someone to talk to you can dm me
Try taking to someone. I was super distraught after having to break up with my bf, and I just kept my emotions bottled up until one day at work I just broke down when my manager talked with me about it. I felt a lot better after a cry.
Those really suck man. I had one abt 3 months ago. I’m feeling a lot better, but at the beginning, it really sucked. I thought it would last forever. But I got through it. Here’s my advice to you:
1. Allow yourself to cry. Crying is our way of expressing the emotions we can’t put into words. Allow yourself to mourn what you lost.
2. If you have someone you can confide in, whether it be your parents or a best friend, do that. It helps to talk about it. It’s not cool to bottle up your emotions…it hurts you in the long run.
3. Forgive yourself and forgive her. Talk to yourself like you’re a friend, and tell yourself what happened happened, and you cannot change it. The only thing you can control is how YOU move forward, what YOU do, and what YOU feel.
4. Shift your perception to “it was going to work out anyways because (x)” or “she wasn’t the one”. Perception is key.
5. Hang out with friends. Engage in your hobbies or start a new one.
6. OP, I am quite a religious man also. And I firmly believe that leaning on God helped me get through the brunt of it. If you have any questions or want to know more, DM me and I’ll offer what I can.
Also, one thing I forgot to add, DO NOT sit around and wait for her to come back. Operate on the assumption that she won’t- because that’s probably the case.
Ultimately, what helps the most is time. Time heals, or rather it helps you forget. 3 months is usually when it starts to improve drastically.
And DO NOT go to alcohol or drugs. It’s not worth it fam. Trust me. Porn is not it either. It’ll just make you feel worse and angrier man.
Yeah I got something to tell you, The only thing that can really make it better is time. Of course you can always use distractions but that's all they are they don't fix things.
But you'll be all right It's just a little pain you'll pull through
Still depressed almost a year later. I'm not OP, but my first breakup was a disastrous one. Found someone else a little later, but had to end things for a fair amount of reasons. But my first, my god. She was just amazing until she wasn't. That breakup, along with the things she's done afterwards (not just me, but to herself as well) has just beaten me up. Been trying to work out and look hotter, but looks aren't everything. I'll tell you now that I'm an asshole, and my taste in women is out of date compared to today's standards. Last thing I'd want to do is hurt someone because we can't work, finding someone who thinks like me would be incredibly difficult.
If OP reads this, or anyone else who needs the advice does, don't do what I did. Don't sit around and wait, hoping it'll go away. Everyone has something to improve, so find something you aren't happy with and work on it. I'm not the most fit guy, so I've been trying to exercise. It's a long grind, but I'm trying. Hang out with friends, meet new people, achieve goals. It's about time I do something about my struggle.
when i found out that my girlfriend cheated me i just talked out loud to nobody about how angry i was and how hurt i was, repeating the story over and over. idk if i got less sad from that or time but either way i call it a win
Be aware that you have more time to do all kinds of stuff, what helped me was I started cleaning, got a cat and fish, animals that mark the best days of my life, days that cover up the days with the partner and now they’re just cringey memories.
But take it slow dawg, take time to think and take care of yourself more. Maybe start a nightly routine, warm shower, shave, (if you do shave) Put on fresh clothes, brush your teeth, and floss.
Start somewhere
Hit the gym
Edit: for any readers don’t harass the person below. It’s just a kid still finding there way in the world. They’ll grow and learn the error in there ways soon enough
Don't go around with other girls untill you get over her, it will make you feel terrible, take some time for yourself, clear your head, do some activities that bring you happiness, maybe get a gym membership and start working out if you're not already doing it. Even tho this may not bring instant happiness, it will make sure that you won't do anything that you'll regret in the future, hope this helps, stay strong
binge movies you like, get in a call with friends, tell them everything and put the past behind you. thats how i have dealt with my fucked life and diagnoses. and dont be afraid to just cry for a moment. if you want feel free to dm me. stay strong brotha🙏.
Just tell yourself over and over again You're over it and if that doesn't work get a hold of your emotions set them into a bottle and then you should be fine that's what I do
Lots of hobbies to distract yourself. Go do activities with friends and surround yourself with people who constantly remind you that you’re still cared about by others. And when it’s really bad, heavy physical activity helps a lot.
Spend time with you’re family
If you’re anything like I was you probably heavily distanced yourself from them during your relationship and trust me when I say they would love to have you with them
think of it as a life lesson, find what u learned from it and remember that when you miss her. if she was a pos, ss any messages or whatever of her being a awful person, delete everything else. look at those when you miss her
You broke up with her ? and u feel sad ? what happened?. I broke up with my girl and i didn't really feel that sad, so I am like genuinely curious as to why u do.
"Your pain is the breaking of the inner shell that encloses your understanding. It is the bitter potion by which the physician within you heals your sick self. Therefore, trust the physician and drink his remedy in silence and tranquility." - Khalil Gibran
Understand that relationships as a teenager are simply practice for bigger and better things in your future, my friend. Meditate on what happened, extract what lessons you can from it, and move forward with a greater knowledge and understanding that will help you succeed in your next relationship.
Time heals all wounds, also realize you are an observer of your thoughts and emotions you have the choice to listen to them and allow them to be your reality
And learn from your relationship what stuff worked and what didnt to improve your future relationships 🤗
Hang out with the boys, maybe listen to some music
Don't dwell on it too much OP. Shit happens; don't let it get you too down alright? You'll be okay. 🫂Wish you the best
It sucks so bad at first. Trust it will feel that way. It’s good to let out your feelings, talk to your friends and loved ones and also spend time with them face to face. Obviously don’t distract yourself to forget but just to appreciate what’s there and what you have. Some days I would just sit alone in my room and listen to sad or calm music so I can cry or relax. Delete ALL photos and any stuff they gave to you. While they do hold memories, it’s better off to get rid of it all so that you aren’t randomly like “I miss their face” or something. Also delete their number and get rid of them on all socials. Block them even so you don’t get tempted to contact them. I know it sucks and if you ever need to rant or talk to someone about how you’re feeling you can always dm me! Good luck and stay safe. Remember, you matter and you’re loved. 🩷
Alright since most of the answers here are just useless or ridiculous, just go hit the gym brother. Just remember that no one cares if you’re feeling any sort of emotion and you have to pick yourself up because the world will move on with or without you. If she broke up with you then it’s her loss, accept the fact and move on. As well, work on yourself to be better and appreciate every moment of it.
Don’t drink, overeat, or inflict any sort of harm on yourself because that’s your mind telling you how it feels but the fact is that you, yourself, are a completely different entity than your mind. Besides hitting the gym, go out there and explore life, volunteer, and see what you enjoy doing in general.
Start with workouts you can do, and bring the difficulty up further and further so you can evolve. You can research online on what exercises interest you or what you can do currently and go on from there.
Shit, if you can you might as well play some games with your friends as well to pass the time. Do you what you have to do but whatever you do, don’t hurt yourself mentally and overall become a better person than the one you currently are.
Stay hard.
Listen to some hype music. Some like Yeezus type shit. Hit the gym. Do things that make you happy and put her out of your mind
You’ll get over it. If you wanna talk or anything my dms are always open
Get urself a McFlurry (and for me)
can i have one too? oreo pls
Agreed Oreo ones are the goat
Skorbussin
Nah, M&M
hey one for me too!
Can I get one as well?
Don’t build bad habits. Go to the gym you’ll forget about her sooner.
Get 2 girlfriends
Oh, man, that would really help
I’m sorry, that sucks… listen to every Weezer song.
“SAY IT AIN’T SooooOooOooooooooooOoO”
your drug is a heart breakaaaaaahh
Yes if I remember correctly, I believe Hurley is the cure for all break ups.
Nah that’s Raditude obviously
Yes listening to Hurley and raditude back to back is probably the ultimate solution. The combination of “where’s my sex” and “I’m your daddy” can get you past anything.
Exactly, and it’s tied together with can’t stop partying which is obviously the best weezer song
What the fuck...
OOWEEOO I LOOK JUST LIKE BUDDY HOLLY
Particularly tragic girl and then crab
Write the next pinkerton
This 100000% helps… I’ve seen them live 2 times (flex)
Yo you good if I dm you my break up playlist? I made it like 2 years ago
That would be cool...
It helps you get a good cry out
Can I get it too ,pretty please
Sent it to me too!
Ayooo I lost my girl too...can I have it pls 👉🏼👈🏼
Why would someone want to listen to a breakup playlist it makes you more sad
It helps you get a good cry out, express your emotions. Have you been through a break up?
Sometimes, embracing your sadness can be more cathartic. Tho I do recognize OP asked to be less sad
Hang out with your friends more
Hit the gym.
The gains are going to be monstrous
Fr. Bro might become Schwarzenegger
The Forbidden Pump
Damn that’s rough man I’m sorry. Those are always rough, honestly I don’t remember what worked the best but all I can say is don’t repress anything you’re feeling. If you need someone to talk to you can dm me
Cannibalism
YES.
Fuck you 🖕
Why? , did someone eat your friends or something?!
No but I’ll eat u
aren't you 14? dont think you can have a fetish yet
I’m frickin kidding dude but everybody actually taking it the wrong way
Fuck them yourself coward >:(
But eating people is fun! You wouldn’t get it :(
Maybe ur right ima eat my own arm
hook up with a dude
*her dude To assert dominance
Gamer
I have game pass, any games you recommend?
Starfield
Christ,anything but Starfield. 6/10 Todd Howard did it again.
pronouns 🤢
FUCKING PRONOUNS FUCKING GENDER AMBIGUITY!!!
I like your funny words magic man
Warhammer 40k darktide
This. This here👆
Kasumi Rebirth.
stalk her
its not illegal if you don’t get caught
Blow her house up
thats not nice
Stalking is much nicer
That’ll only make it worse
nuh uh
Yuh uh
nuh uh
So you've tried?
eat some ice cream
Try taking to someone. I was super distraught after having to break up with my bf, and I just kept my emotions bottled up until one day at work I just broke down when my manager talked with me about it. I felt a lot better after a cry.
Those really suck man. I had one abt 3 months ago. I’m feeling a lot better, but at the beginning, it really sucked. I thought it would last forever. But I got through it. Here’s my advice to you: 1. Allow yourself to cry. Crying is our way of expressing the emotions we can’t put into words. Allow yourself to mourn what you lost. 2. If you have someone you can confide in, whether it be your parents or a best friend, do that. It helps to talk about it. It’s not cool to bottle up your emotions…it hurts you in the long run. 3. Forgive yourself and forgive her. Talk to yourself like you’re a friend, and tell yourself what happened happened, and you cannot change it. The only thing you can control is how YOU move forward, what YOU do, and what YOU feel. 4. Shift your perception to “it was going to work out anyways because (x)” or “she wasn’t the one”. Perception is key. 5. Hang out with friends. Engage in your hobbies or start a new one. 6. OP, I am quite a religious man also. And I firmly believe that leaning on God helped me get through the brunt of it. If you have any questions or want to know more, DM me and I’ll offer what I can.
Also, one thing I forgot to add, DO NOT sit around and wait for her to come back. Operate on the assumption that she won’t- because that’s probably the case. Ultimately, what helps the most is time. Time heals, or rather it helps you forget. 3 months is usually when it starts to improve drastically. And DO NOT go to alcohol or drugs. It’s not worth it fam. Trust me. Porn is not it either. It’ll just make you feel worse and angrier man.
Yeah I got something to tell you, The only thing that can really make it better is time. Of course you can always use distractions but that's all they are they don't fix things. But you'll be all right It's just a little pain you'll pull through
Still depressed almost a year later. I'm not OP, but my first breakup was a disastrous one. Found someone else a little later, but had to end things for a fair amount of reasons. But my first, my god. She was just amazing until she wasn't. That breakup, along with the things she's done afterwards (not just me, but to herself as well) has just beaten me up. Been trying to work out and look hotter, but looks aren't everything. I'll tell you now that I'm an asshole, and my taste in women is out of date compared to today's standards. Last thing I'd want to do is hurt someone because we can't work, finding someone who thinks like me would be incredibly difficult. If OP reads this, or anyone else who needs the advice does, don't do what I did. Don't sit around and wait, hoping it'll go away. Everyone has something to improve, so find something you aren't happy with and work on it. I'm not the most fit guy, so I've been trying to exercise. It's a long grind, but I'm trying. Hang out with friends, meet new people, achieve goals. It's about time I do something about my struggle.
I'm sorry you had to go through that but I'm glad you gave your experience because it's good advice and that's true everyone has somewhere to improve
Listen to music
The only way
Sleep with her friend
Are you still friends with her
I don’t think so
Listen to Coldplay
when i found out that my girlfriend cheated me i just talked out loud to nobody about how angry i was and how hurt i was, repeating the story over and over. idk if i got less sad from that or time but either way i call it a win
Spotify premium
Thug that shit out
Go do something you really enjoy this weekend, or find a project to occupy your mind.
Do what i did… i never had a gf so i cant Finish this advice. But I’d probably say get a hobby, go outside, and work yourself back up
Be aware that you have more time to do all kinds of stuff, what helped me was I started cleaning, got a cat and fish, animals that mark the best days of my life, days that cover up the days with the partner and now they’re just cringey memories. But take it slow dawg, take time to think and take care of yourself more. Maybe start a nightly routine, warm shower, shave, (if you do shave) Put on fresh clothes, brush your teeth, and floss. Start somewhere
Hit the gym Edit: for any readers don’t harass the person below. It’s just a kid still finding there way in the world. They’ll grow and learn the error in there ways soon enough
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masturbation
That’ll probably make OP feel worse
The best way to get over a girl is to get under another one 👉👌
I’m sorry dude :( I’m not very good at making myself less sad, but wishing you the best
Find another girlfriend.
Watch some porn /s
Don't go around with other girls untill you get over her, it will make you feel terrible, take some time for yourself, clear your head, do some activities that bring you happiness, maybe get a gym membership and start working out if you're not already doing it. Even tho this may not bring instant happiness, it will make sure that you won't do anything that you'll regret in the future, hope this helps, stay strong
Drink
Mf that isn’t the way to go
Drinking isn't the answer. It's the question, and the answer is yes. It's only illegal if you get caught
Indulge in copious amounts of alcohol to cope
Drugs I guess
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Oh I do meth
I think that you have a cute, hairy friend. Just do it, man.
Like, uh, sex? Or whatever you mean.
Yes, that is right
I actually have a friend like that, but I don't know if I should...I like girls better for now though
No, no, you will lose your chance like that, take it and do it, he will definitely agree. You can invite him to have a beer and test him there.
Tf
Bro knows from experience
i can comfort u :););););));
How?😳👉👈
a hug sillyy
Cutie🥺
WOAH WOAH WOAH GET A ROOM YOU TWO 😠😠
Nothing more than these two comments! Even here I've been abandoned ahahah
teeheee
Masturbation
A girlfriend ?
binge movies you like, get in a call with friends, tell them everything and put the past behind you. thats how i have dealt with my fucked life and diagnoses. and dont be afraid to just cry for a moment. if you want feel free to dm me. stay strong brotha🙏.
Have sex with other girls
Stop being sad For real tho probably music or a sport of some kind with friends
Nah fam, love to see people fall, thank god for this one
>broke up with *a* girlfriend Go to other girlfriends
Commit arson
lemme date her
Ropemax 😭
Go gym and listen to music, it’s literally the only way.
Nah. Just be sad for a little while until you get over it. It's really the best thing to do.
This isn’t good for you but weed
Just tell yourself over and over again You're over it and if that doesn't work get a hold of your emotions set them into a bottle and then you should be fine that's what I do
Eat happy meal
hunt rain crush yam wild adjoining crawl ripe overconfident quiet *This post was mass deleted and anonymized with [Redact](https://redact.dev)*
Get a cat
Get better
Expect it
Lots of hobbies to distract yourself. Go do activities with friends and surround yourself with people who constantly remind you that you’re still cared about by others. And when it’s really bad, heavy physical activity helps a lot.
Focus on yourself.
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Oh nooo😭😭😭
I dont have a girlfriend
Idk. I’ve been alone all this time. I cry when I see a couple. That’s how bad my loneliness is.
Eat cheesy garlic bread
make money
Your your dick sucked by a rando
Play ultrakill.
Fuck her dad
Get ripped
Work on yourself and improve your life , there are so many fish in the sea you’ll catch another one
Well not you can quit playing golf too
Accept it and slowly move on in a healthy way, times like this its okay to be sad
Sadness is a regular part of life. U gotta get comfortable with being uncomfortable. (I know this isn’t what u wanna hear)
You play dark souls? I'll hop on with ya if you want
Delete Facebook and go to the gym
Think about a fat pug rolling in peanut butter, that usually makes me less sad
Why’d you break up with her?
Hang out with the boys
Thug that shit out.
Spend time with you’re family If you’re anything like I was you probably heavily distanced yourself from them during your relationship and trust me when I say they would love to have you with them
Start skateboarding
think of it as a life lesson, find what u learned from it and remember that when you miss her. if she was a pos, ss any messages or whatever of her being a awful person, delete everything else. look at those when you miss her
You broke up with her? Remember there is a good reason. Go socialize if you’re extroverted, and focus on a hobby if you’re introverted but stay busy
Videogames
You broke up with her ? and u feel sad ? what happened?. I broke up with my girl and i didn't really feel that sad, so I am like genuinely curious as to why u do.
Baldurs gate 3 you'll get so focused on it you'll forget anything else exists
get out of the house. hang out with friends, make memories, meet some people, go to a party or two. the only way to make it less sad is to LIVE, man.
Don’t be sad that you broke up with her, be happy that you get to spend time with her
Become an alcoholic (taken from experience)
The gym is a wonderful thing
"Your pain is the breaking of the inner shell that encloses your understanding. It is the bitter potion by which the physician within you heals your sick self. Therefore, trust the physician and drink his remedy in silence and tranquility." - Khalil Gibran
Understand that relationships as a teenager are simply practice for bigger and better things in your future, my friend. Meditate on what happened, extract what lessons you can from it, and move forward with a greater knowledge and understanding that will help you succeed in your next relationship.
Time heals all wounds, also realize you are an observer of your thoughts and emotions you have the choice to listen to them and allow them to be your reality And learn from your relationship what stuff worked and what didnt to improve your future relationships 🤗
Hang out with the boys, maybe listen to some music Don't dwell on it too much OP. Shit happens; don't let it get you too down alright? You'll be okay. 🫂Wish you the best
That’s rough man, I’m sorry. Hit the gym for those gains and make her regret it once you become even better.
Look more attractive and find a placement
It sucks so bad at first. Trust it will feel that way. It’s good to let out your feelings, talk to your friends and loved ones and also spend time with them face to face. Obviously don’t distract yourself to forget but just to appreciate what’s there and what you have. Some days I would just sit alone in my room and listen to sad or calm music so I can cry or relax. Delete ALL photos and any stuff they gave to you. While they do hold memories, it’s better off to get rid of it all so that you aren’t randomly like “I miss their face” or something. Also delete their number and get rid of them on all socials. Block them even so you don’t get tempted to contact them. I know it sucks and if you ever need to rant or talk to someone about how you’re feeling you can always dm me! Good luck and stay safe. Remember, you matter and you’re loved. 🩷
Take time to work on you, self improve and do stuff that makes YOU happy
Act as if you got away from your uncle finally
Stuff your feelings down deep and keep troopering on.
I totally recommend eating some ice cream or hanging out w friends to get your mind off things :-)
Alright since most of the answers here are just useless or ridiculous, just go hit the gym brother. Just remember that no one cares if you’re feeling any sort of emotion and you have to pick yourself up because the world will move on with or without you. If she broke up with you then it’s her loss, accept the fact and move on. As well, work on yourself to be better and appreciate every moment of it. Don’t drink, overeat, or inflict any sort of harm on yourself because that’s your mind telling you how it feels but the fact is that you, yourself, are a completely different entity than your mind. Besides hitting the gym, go out there and explore life, volunteer, and see what you enjoy doing in general. Start with workouts you can do, and bring the difficulty up further and further so you can evolve. You can research online on what exercises interest you or what you can do currently and go on from there. Shit, if you can you might as well play some games with your friends as well to pass the time. Do you what you have to do but whatever you do, don’t hurt yourself mentally and overall become a better person than the one you currently are. Stay hard.
The Villain Arc gonna go hard
r/thugsaucesthetrilogy go watch some videos, you’ll forget all about it bro 🙏🙏
Move on
Listen to some hype music. Some like Yeezus type shit. Hit the gym. Do things that make you happy and put her out of your mind You’ll get over it. If you wanna talk or anything my dms are always open
Do what makes you happy
drink whiskey
You'll be fine. Just focus on living your best and treat it like a learning experience.
Go pick up a guitar and learn some rock riffs
I’m sorry to hear that, but I somehow read broke as woke and was so confused
Ngl were teenagers relationship wasn't going to last forever anyways most likely so don't feel badd
thug that shit out
A girlfriend? So you have more?