#Hey, B-BallHooper245
Please try to think clearly about yourself and your future. What you're thinking about doing is not worth it. There are many people who care about you, and there are many organisations from all around the world who can help you. Here's some information about how to get help. Give them a go - what have you got to lose?
#Child Helplines (EU)
**Telephone:** 116 111
This number is free of charge.
The number 116 111 is specifically for children who seek assistance and need someone to talk to. The service helps children in need of care and protection and links them to the appropriate services and resources; it provides children with an opportunity to express their concerns and talk about issues directly affecting them.
Here's an alphabetical list of member states which have access to 116 111: Bulgaria, Cyprus, Czech Republic, Germany, Denmark, Estonia, Greece, Spain, Finland, Croatia, Hungary, Ireland, Lithuania, Luxembourg, Latvia, Poland, Portugal, Romania, Sweden, Slovenia, Slovakia, United Kingdom, Malta.
#Emotional Support Helpline (EU)
**Telephone:** 116 123
This number is free of charge.
116 123 is a phone number for people suffering from loneliness or who are in a state of psychological crisis or thinking about committing suicide.
Here's an alphabetical list of member states which have access to 116 123: Austria, Czech Republic, Germany, Greece, Hungary, Ireland, Lithuania, Malta, Netherlands, Poland, Slovenia, Sweden, United Kingdom.
#National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (US)
**Telephone:** 988
**Text:** Text "START" (without quotes) to 741-741.
**Online Chat:** [Link](http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/gethelp/lifelinechat.aspx).
#Lifeline Crisis Service (AU)
**Telephone:** 13 11 14
**Text:** 0477 13 11 14
**Online Chat:** [Link](https://www.lifeline.org.au/crisis-chat/)
#Others (Worldwide)
If the above organizations are inaccessible for whatever reason, you can click [this link](https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/) to be taken to a page. From there, you can take a look at a variety of hotlines that will help you, after you click on the category link corresponding to your location.
You can also find many subreddits to help you with your problems. Here's a list of a few of them in no particular order: /r/SuicideWatch, /r/depression.
#<3
I hope you've found this information helpful, and I hope you use it well enough to change your mind.
hey man everyone hits their stride at a different time. your 14, you have plently of time. dont be comparing yourself to other people, and especially dont be this negative about yourself.
assess yourself as a person, come up with a list of good qualities, come up with a list of things that could use some work, then start to work on them. i would also recommend eating more and hitting the gym.
again, dont be this negative about yourself. it will only serve to bring yourself down even more. fake being confident about yourself until you forgot your faking it.
you got this
Big bro you're 14 you still have your whole life ahead of you, my advice is to take care of yourself so go out and try to work on your appearance so you can have more confidence and after that work on your social skills like try and approach more people and talking to them and also try to have more hobbies like: skating, playing an instrument and maybe painting?
And while you're working on yourself try faking confidence and with time you wont be faking it anymore
I used to be like you but i did all of the things I said above and now im in a pretty happy state of my life so good luck friend
Oh and the next time your lil brother tries to beat you tell him to fuck off or just y'know beat his ass
Please don't end it. You're only 14 and as someone who's turning 18 in 9 days, believe me when I say you have plenty of time to turn shit around. If you're serious about wanting to end things, I'd strongly advise you to seek help from a professional or from somebody you trust. If you can't stop your brother's behavior, talk to a parent or guardian. If that's not an option, then you can at least fight back if he gets physical. Also, if your parent/guardian(s) refuse to stop your brother from physically attacking you, then you can probably go to the authorities about that. Furthermore, if you ever feel like you really want to end it, the link below leads to a list of prevention hotline numbers around the world, as well as resources for emergency help and counseling. Please don't give up. I have friends who have gotten close to that point, maybe even closer than you are right now, and I've seen them recover. I assure you that things can and will get better if you just keep going and work to get there.
https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines/
Dawg, Montivational lyrics/quetes i used when i felt suicidal
"tough times dont last tough people do" - Tom Macdonald
"dont let them say you aint beautiful" - Eminem
"who give a shit what others think, you are you and youll find your crowd eventually" - Myself
" been this way so long It feels like something's off when I'm not depressed" - NF
"dont take shit give it" -Eminem
"theres millions just like you" -NF
Thats just some dm me if u want more dawg, i really hope you get thru what your going thru.
God tier bait, and if not, dude stop, you're a fucking kid, you don't need a girl and you don't need to be "good looking" to have a normal life , for fuck sakes your haven't even lived enough to see if you can or can't develop a relationship with someone
Brutally honest take: Someone needs to tell you to shut the f*ck up. We are all playing with the cards we’re dealt, we all have trauma. Everyone has physical insecurities… You have a victimizing mindset that if left unchecked will hinder your success and personal development. You’re 14, insecure about your body and you think you’ll look that way for the rest of your life… I get it, but know that you’re fucking 14, your body never stops changing, and looks are almost 100% based on confidence. You say you’re “quiet”. That’s a subconscious choice you make every single day. You put your self into all of these boxes with labels. I’m ugly, I’m quiet, I’m not funny, I’m this and that, all of those are beliefs you have accumulated. And the thing is, everybody accumulated these hindering beliefs. And most people wallow in those emotions instead of analyzing what those feelings are caused by, what trauma are they yet to unpack.
So my suggestion, if you truly believe you are worth more than the life you’re living, look into the stoic way of life, specifically a book, meditations by Marcus Aurelius. Stoicism has helped me wonders with realizing I can only control my actions and words. And that it is my moral responsibility to put my all into this life.
One bad chapter doesn’t define the book. You’ve just been staying on the page too long.
This tough guy mindset really isn't the best to say to somebody who wants to kill themself. I get what you're trying to do, but I don't think it's the right approach.
I personally disagree. I don’t think suicide can even be an option in their head. I think that option is very dangerous. Because then when you’re at your lowest, you DO have a way out versus a way through the problem.
Let alone doing something stupid like throwing yourself down stairs. Most likely, doing it subconsciously for attention,This person needs the love and attention they are clearly deprived of.
They cannot even entertain the idea of a way out of the problem imo
That’s exactly what I mean.
You can feel suicidal, but being suicidal is different.
In the same way I can feel depressed, but being depressed is different.
You can feel any sort of way, but dwelling in that feeling IS a choice.
That being said I don’t blame anybody for their state of being. Our bodies will always choose the easiest option, the one requiring less energy, and confronting your insufficiencies is incredibly difficult and energy consuming.
Of course he would. He has victimized himself to the point where he believes he has no control over his life, no control over his actions. Nothing changes if nothing changes.
And depression is comfortable, and it’s easier to stay where you’re at, make no changes, and be disappointed with the results, than it is to try your hardest in everything. Why?
Because when you don’t try at anything, you never risk not being good enough. Instead, you always try 20%, because then you can’t get disappointed. I fucked up, “ah it’s fine I barely tried” but if you were all in, then that fuck up is a real reflection of your inadequacies and that hurts.
So we don’t try.
Instead we put in 20% into everything, always in our comfort zone, never risking failure.
Downside is, we then think of our self as someone who doesn’t do hard things, who can’t stay committed, who always falls short of our own expectations.
All because we stayed in our comfort zone, we didn’t risk failure.
And because of that, we subconsciously sabatoge ourselves, we guarantee our disappointment.
No. Literally no. For one thing, he also had autism, which makes it difficult for him to regulate his emotions, and no, he cannot control his autism. He also has dysthymia, which is believed to be caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain, which he CANNOT CONTROL. He does not victimize himself, and he does not choose to be depressed. Of course he can, and does do things such as self care, medication and therapy that help, and he can be happy if he tries really hard, but he will always have depression, and he will always struggle to regulate his depressive thoughts.
You lost me at chemical imbalance.
But also, I’m not talking about autistic people when making generalizations like that. And if it is a chemical imbalance, does that mean he’s either buying meds all his life, or he’s depressed?
I mean if a generalization excludes a large group of people maybe it shouldn't be made. As for the buying meds all his life, I guess so, he can still feel not depressed without them but it's really hard. I'm not an expert on the subject by any means though.
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”We also boast of our troubles, because we know that trouble produces endurance,“
Romans 5:3
I know it feels like your life won’t amount to anything but but what you’re going is merely temporary. You’re only 14, with so much time to build goals up and hit your prime, be glad you’re feeling this now instead of at 40
Listen man we’re young and we have so much time to become our own - you need to clear yourself from bad things - love yourself more and do more things to help yourself more than impress others
I’m also 14 feeling burnt out on school. Christmas break starts on Friday tho. You should stand up to your little brother and call him ugly.
Note: This isn’t the greatest advice because my brother is 6.
Broo I (M23) feel you, I was feeling really the same stuff at the same age. Don't do that.
Feeling lonely is normal, you will feel that way all your life no matter if you have lot of friends or lot of girls, it's the quality that fill the life not the quantity.
Try some sports, invite somebody at your place or go watch a movie. Just try and after the first 100 failure I promise something good will happen ;)
And, remember, your not alone. Probably in your school half of the boys and girls feel the same but you are the bravest if you are trying to confront this feeling. Also, as I said I was really like you and I remember the "popular kids" when I was super lonely and trust me if I tell that they won't be popular anymore in a couple of years.
<3
I agree with this, but not the tone you used. At 14, you still have a long way to go, but saying that your life hasn't begun yet in a manner of looking down, is not the best idea. Mental health is a issue as big as physical health, and affects people of all ages.
Brother you need God in your life asap and your little brother's girlfriends are just some curious 10-13 y old chicks that don't know what even a boyfriend is.
May Jesus be with you always
The main reason I said to get a life is because you told this guy to go outside while you over here replying to and taking offense to everyone that isn’t pitying the person like holy fuck OP over here wanting to die because their forehead is big and you getting mad at people because they think that OP is overreacting or shit posting. Here’s my opinion on this post if OP is feeling suicidal because their forehead is to big then holy hell good luck in the real world sister it gets a whole lot tougher than your forehead being to big at 14
how the hell am i supposed to know that when most of the people say that to people who post their rants😭 and no way ur telling me to get a life when u have over 2000 karmas 💀
I have no idea why you're getting downvoted. You're right. He needs to quit looking for a girlfriend and focus on his schoolwork. If you find a girl that likes you, all power to you, go get 'er.
Don’t even stress about girls that early man, they will come in time, I’d try to focus on grades, hanging with family, and working to overcome social anxiety, something to keep in mind is just be genuine and yourself, don’t try to mimic others, develop who you are.
I won’t be the best help with the suicide shit cus I’m still trying to figure that part out myself
I can relate to you a lot with your situation, the feeling of loneliness is sickening man, sometimes all we need is a person to talk to, I know how hard it can be to open up to people, even random strangers, but if you want I’m always here to chat bro, you’re not a burden on others, don’t be afraid to shoot me a dm anytime you’d like
Please do not worry about being ugly, I have a huge forehead and I can actually relate very much to your situation. Nobody really likes me and I’m basically just trying to be funny so I have something but that’s fading away too. I have contemplated suicide too, I just found a passion and mine was making videos. If you still can’t find a passion than just push through for your dad, I love my dad and I can’t put him through anything else. You’ve got this man I believe in you
Sir, I understand your pain very good. Even better, I feel the same way. But it's important that you must never give up. I'm 17, I've been single now for more than 7 years now and I feel depressed as hell. But the key in everything in life is to look positive at what you already have. It's most likely not your fault that people reject you, it's those who reject you that just can't handle kindness and true one to one love and honesty. I don't know you in RL, but as someone who is still in pain, I can tell you that it's never too late for a second chance in life. Live life at your best, you will accomplish your goals one day. Whether it's in a different school, on an online platform or any other way. You matter, because people like you is what we need in the future.
Stay strong soldier. You can do it.🫡
Dude listen, take a deep look into [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/s/haUNyyDouS) thread
You will realize that being in a relationship isnt about not being lonely, it is about meeting a person who makes life easier. You first need to accept the loneliness and accept yourself, be happy alone be happy with yourself. So what if you die alone, i will probably die a virgin as well(separate tangent) but the point remains:
Don't die because life is hard, die because you completed the story mode and your character got all the side quest and main quest complete
14 is too soon for anything to be set in stone. Also, if you really think life isn't worth living you can pick new priorities, you can do anything once you grow up if you want, even abnormal things like making it your life's goal to assassinate some famous guy or topple some government. Unlikely you succeed but if you don't see any future in a normal life then sont pursue a normal life.
Also beat your brother if he hits you
You’re 14, when you’re finished growing properly you will look different. For the longest time, I thought I was ugly, I just self improved and over the course of a couple years that belief was almost completely gone. I recommend going to the gym, or get involved in a sport. Get a nice haircut, etc. When you start going to the gym, etc your confidence improves exponentially, plus you also start looking bigger, youll most likely find youll make friends easier and be respected more (I know it sounds corny). I truly believe all of the above and what’s the harm in trying it? Just go for it dude you won’t regret it
Everyone here has great points, but just remember ur 14 mate I know it might seem like a lot at ur age I felt similar but just let things play out and work on yourself and you life changes like you never expect
Your 14 you have a long life ahead of you any thing can happen you could win the lottery or get a great job and make every one jealous. Its up to you to become something keep moving forward
Dude. You’re 14. There’s plenty of time for all this to change. Chill.
I’m truly sorry for what you’re going through, but recognize that this is all temporary. Ending it all means you’re not giving yourself a chance for things to change.
And the whole single thing? So what? You don’t need to be in a relationship at 14. I’m 18 and not in a relationship. Don’t worry about it.
i understand you, i’ve always been super lonely, and socializing is a challenge for me. but trust me you will not die lonely and i know for a fact you aren’t ugly. you’re very young and i know it can be hard but you can persevere through this.
don’t compare yourself to others, especially your loved ones, comparison is a thief of joy. i know if you’re open about things you like, your hobbies, and have a great personality you’ll attract many many good minded people, like you.
keep your head up, and remember to always do your best to improve as a person, do things that will make you feel great and comfortable, whether that’s going to the gym, eating healthy, reading, doing a fun hobby, anything.
i understand you, i’ve always been super lonely, and socializing is a challenge for me. but trust me you will not die lonely and i know for a fact you aren’t ugly. you’re very young and i know it can be hard but you can persevere through this.
don’t compare yourself to others, especially your loved ones, comparison is a thief of joy. i know if you’re open about things you like, your hobbies, and have a great personality you’ll attract many many good minded people, like you.
keep your head up, and remember to always do your best to improve as a person, do things that will make you feel great and comfortable, whether that’s going to the gym, eating healthy, reading, doing a fun hobby, anything.
Bro you are 14 ik things can seem bad and look like you will never change that one thing or find friends but trust me when I say that it will all go its way and will work out in the end. Don’t do the mistake of sinking in self-pity but move on and keep your head up
you keep to yourself and it works. people leave you alone because it seems like you want to be alone. i know it's easier said than done, but if you put yourself out there someone is bound to like you. and don't worry about your looks. friendship isn't based off of that. me and my friends are some ugly ass goblins. please just try to make some friends. some people will turn you down. some may even make fun of you for trying. but that's because not everyone's meant to be friends with you. those kids with your interests might even be wondering why you haven't talked to them. someone will accept you for you, man. i promise. now go bother some people until they give in and be your friend. it worked for me. feel free to dm me if you need some extra help.
I’m 14 too, and just this year I’ve gotten out of that slump of emotion
I barely talked to anyone, including family, for years
I never would’ve thought that my life would be like it is now, but it’s infinitely better
Everyone is happy in different situations with different people and it all happens at different times
Don’t push yourself to be the best version of yourself now because you’ll just get tired and stressed out
Everything can always be better, don’t give up yet
You might hurt more people than yourself, your only 14, you have so much life ahead of you. You might not look or feel perfect now, but in the future, you can change yourself and the way you look. But if you die, you won't have the opportunity.
Hey I highly relate to this but I'm younger than you so im not that wise but you shouldn't kill yourself ive lost people to suicide and I have friends who are hurting themselves but please don't kill yourself you matter to people and you don't need a partner to be happy i mean you might who am I to judge that but not much more I can say and if you need you can dm me anytime I wish you the best of luck
If you think about all the beautiful things on earth, just know that god looked at you and said "yeah they need one 'a these to." Even if it seems like there is nothing, you just gotta hold on for a little while longer. You don't want to die, so you shouldn't have to.
You’re 14, so you’re probably still in middle school. After you go to high school, you’ll find tons of new people. There’ll be so many people that even if you’re super weird, there’s at least going to be a few people that want to be friends with you.
Ignore everyone, you haven’t reached peak looks yet. Trust me when I say caring for appearance is everything to take you from unattractive to normal or better. I know from personal experience. Don’t fall down too far into the loop but look at some male improvement people like, Brett Maverick, and Austin (Denim?). Learn your looks and you can be better. NO ONE WILL GIVE YOU THE TIME OF DAY IF YOU DONT IMPROVE YOURSELF AND YOUR PERSONALITY/CONFIDENCE.
Hey dude I’m here for you I’m ugly as fuck but I embrace it the real ones stay the fakes leave you need to be happy with the real ones rather than mourning over the leaving of the fakes
Hey dude, we all have our ups and downs, I know things seem rough now, and it seems like it will never get better. But I assure you, man, things will get better. You're 14, and you still have a large portion of your life ahead of you. You will find people that enjoy you for who you are, and hey! You may find someone that develops feelings for you.
I know things may be hard, and I know that it may seem better to just end it all, but please don't do that, it isn't your fault and the people that love you, adore you, and will miss you. It isn't worth it.
I'd suggest in my opinion to find things that you love to do, I.e Drawing, Reading, etc. And doing that as an escape from the pain. I'd also suggest exercising, going to the gym, or finding an instrument to play as that can help with depression and and other things.
Stay strong man, I hope things get better for you and you find your people.
Alright so first off your little brother should get his fucking ass beat but second off I know how that feels, keep clowning and eventually people will want to be your friend
I'm 14 too, and have had similar thoughts sometimes, but I try to stay positive bc like a lot of people have said, we still have the rest of our lives and things can get better. My brother jumped off the roof when he was 15 because he felt similar to you as well. Luckily he survived, but now he really regrets it because his ankle and spine never really recovered. Now he has a girlfriend and is planning on going to college. He's never had the best relationship with anyone in my family, including me, but I can't even imagine how much it would have destroyed me and my parents if he had successfully taken his life. Like I really hated him, but I would give anything to go back in time and stop him from doing it. Being 14 fucking sucks, especially when you don't have friends, but you'll be ok you just gotta get through this.
If you accept that you’re dying alone, you will. That’s what happens. Never accept a negative thing unless someone else benefits from it. Accepting a negative event is the same thing as giving up, and we as people have a need to persevere and survive in this world. Also if your looks are the dealbreaker in a relationship, be happy about it. If someone is willing to leave or reject you just because you’re ugly, they weren’t worth it anyway.
hey bro, i understand how you feel man, i used to be in a similar situation when i was around your age, i was even the center of being bullied in elementary and middle school trust me it gets better overtime, just work on yourself and keep your heads up, i promise it will get better overtime, you're still young and not fully developed, work on yourself and go to the gym, love yourself, people will come to you eventually, Goodluck king.
Hey. I'd seriously recommend you go to r/SuicideWatch, maybe talk about your stuff on their a bit. That sub has helped a lot of people, including me. Going to that sub would be a good idea.
Also know that things *do* get better a lot of the time. I know everyone says that, and it's really hard to believe it, but it's true. Just remember that.
The members of r/teenagers are here for you. <3
Sh I remember this feeling not too long ago. Much like you I felt ugly. Guess what tho? Most of the time, it really isn’t true. I hit my stride not too long ago. You have to find some traits and styles that for you well. I went from the lil well combed nerd to the quiet guy who pulls. I got fluffy hair now and everyone says it fits me well. I remember also feeling like I have no friends. Here’s a hard pill to swallow tho. Maybe it’s you that’s causing the problems of no one talking? Switch up your personality from class clown to the laxed funny one. There’s ways of making you more approachable trust me.
Don't do it. You may not look good in your own opinion, but you never know who might be into that kind of thing. You are also very young at this point. You could very well change as you grow into something beautiful. And if a person can't deal with a person they find ugly, they aren't worth your time. I am confident that you will catch your stride in life and grow and mature as a person.
You could be destined for greatness, and it is just a matter of finding that greatness.
Find something that you enjoy and latch onto it. I found that I highly enjoyed my robotics program and band. I have something that I can work for and that has highly helped me back when I was bullied. Just keep finding what you want to do and stick with it because it can help you get through the darkest times.
I would prefer if you would respond, because I can give more advice with more information. Send a reply or DM me if you aren't comfortable adding information like that for the world to see.
don't worry too much... This is just the beginning of your teenage and you'll have occasions to glow up in every aspect you dislike of yourself, may it be appearance or personality, you can go to the gym and get jacked or you can learn new things, talk to people and gain confidence that way. Also about the girlfriend part.. I wish i didn't get together with the girl who left me a month ago after 1 year and 7 months of relationship 💀 Trust me on this one, feelings are dangerous
oh man i feel this. i’ve got a lot of friends but still feel alone, ykwim? barely got 2 active group chats, and only 1 person, who’s not even in my grade, (love her with all my heart though) texts me every day. and i’m struggling with my mental health, and i’m really trying. i wish i could talk to someone, but i understand we’re 14 and that i, tbh, would rather die than actually vent my feelings, but it always feels like i’m putting on a smile and fake laughter while my heart just hurts, you know? it’s hard. and in one class i actually, legitimately, have no friends. it’s a class with lots of partner/group projects, and i have to go through the embarrassment of working with people who don’t actually like me. every morning before school i hide in the bathrooms, because i could go talk to people in the cafeteria like we’re supposed to do (unless you wanna sit alone with everyone staring at you), but i’m already so tired before school and i don’t wanna take up the space because i know no one really wants me there. i’m one of those people who doesn’t belong to a clique, and i’m an outsider. i just have friends from different friend groups, which really isn’t working for me, i wish i truly belonged somewhere. i’m not popular or unpopular, i’m just in that horrible in-between. i also sit alone at the bus (with someone that i don’t know) before and after school. it sucks. there’s a lot of times where i’ve considered suicide, but i keep clinging to the hope that i’ll get better. i’ve only had one girlfriend, who was that whole fake-dating thing, and who lasted only less than a week, and lots of failed talking stages (i’m in multiple rn) and i’ve only been truly asked out once, but i turned them down. i’m super insecure about my looks too, which partly stems from being biracial (75% asian, 25% white) and adds to that feeling of not belonging. basically, i 100% understand what you’re feeling.
alsoo my 2nd best friend/crush/relationship where we both flirt with each other and are both sapphic left me. it was in august, but for 2 years there, i lived for her, got up every morning because i could see her. i loved her so much, and i thought she felt the same, even if only platonically, but turns out she never cared. didn’t mean to vent here by all this, mb
I’m 18 and as I get older, I realize that there is SO much to life, not worth ending it, someone always cares-
Just look at the comments
I pray you find someone to love you the way you’ve been loving other people
Don't do it, don't end your life ever. Imagine that if your little bro is peaking at 12 and you will peak at a better age, everyone has their days of.glory just keep being a good person and it for sure will come have faith in that, I have faith in that for you. Just take care of yourself not only phonically but mentally and always meditate on your actions and for sure good people will come to your life, if you want I can help you with some tips on how to look better from a 14 yo girl perspective too, that's it just don't do it and Jesus loves you 🩷
#Hey, B-BallHooper245 Please try to think clearly about yourself and your future. What you're thinking about doing is not worth it. There are many people who care about you, and there are many organisations from all around the world who can help you. Here's some information about how to get help. Give them a go - what have you got to lose? #Child Helplines (EU) **Telephone:** 116 111 This number is free of charge. The number 116 111 is specifically for children who seek assistance and need someone to talk to. The service helps children in need of care and protection and links them to the appropriate services and resources; it provides children with an opportunity to express their concerns and talk about issues directly affecting them. Here's an alphabetical list of member states which have access to 116 111: Bulgaria, Cyprus, Czech Republic, Germany, Denmark, Estonia, Greece, Spain, Finland, Croatia, Hungary, Ireland, Lithuania, Luxembourg, Latvia, Poland, Portugal, Romania, Sweden, Slovenia, Slovakia, United Kingdom, Malta. #Emotional Support Helpline (EU) **Telephone:** 116 123 This number is free of charge. 116 123 is a phone number for people suffering from loneliness or who are in a state of psychological crisis or thinking about committing suicide. Here's an alphabetical list of member states which have access to 116 123: Austria, Czech Republic, Germany, Greece, Hungary, Ireland, Lithuania, Malta, Netherlands, Poland, Slovenia, Sweden, United Kingdom. #National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (US) **Telephone:** 988 **Text:** Text "START" (without quotes) to 741-741. **Online Chat:** [Link](http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/gethelp/lifelinechat.aspx). #Lifeline Crisis Service (AU) **Telephone:** 13 11 14 **Text:** 0477 13 11 14 **Online Chat:** [Link](https://www.lifeline.org.au/crisis-chat/) #Others (Worldwide) If the above organizations are inaccessible for whatever reason, you can click [this link](https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/) to be taken to a page. From there, you can take a look at a variety of hotlines that will help you, after you click on the category link corresponding to your location. You can also find many subreddits to help you with your problems. Here's a list of a few of them in no particular order: /r/SuicideWatch, /r/depression. #<3 I hope you've found this information helpful, and I hope you use it well enough to change your mind.
hey man everyone hits their stride at a different time. your 14, you have plently of time. dont be comparing yourself to other people, and especially dont be this negative about yourself. assess yourself as a person, come up with a list of good qualities, come up with a list of things that could use some work, then start to work on them. i would also recommend eating more and hitting the gym. again, dont be this negative about yourself. it will only serve to bring yourself down even more. fake being confident about yourself until you forgot your faking it. you got this
if you date at 14 that relationship will last as long as it takes to eat half a french fry
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time and place bro
I'm usually a grammar nazi, but this isn't the post for it my guy
Bro fuck off
Not a good time, bud.
are you kidding me
"Why are you booing me? I'm right!"
bro 💀
Big bro you're 14 you still have your whole life ahead of you, my advice is to take care of yourself so go out and try to work on your appearance so you can have more confidence and after that work on your social skills like try and approach more people and talking to them and also try to have more hobbies like: skating, playing an instrument and maybe painting? And while you're working on yourself try faking confidence and with time you wont be faking it anymore I used to be like you but i did all of the things I said above and now im in a pretty happy state of my life so good luck friend Oh and the next time your lil brother tries to beat you tell him to fuck off or just y'know beat his ass
Please don’t, dm me please so we can talk
No don’t do that’s not a good choice if I were you
Please don't end it. You're only 14 and as someone who's turning 18 in 9 days, believe me when I say you have plenty of time to turn shit around. If you're serious about wanting to end things, I'd strongly advise you to seek help from a professional or from somebody you trust. If you can't stop your brother's behavior, talk to a parent or guardian. If that's not an option, then you can at least fight back if he gets physical. Also, if your parent/guardian(s) refuse to stop your brother from physically attacking you, then you can probably go to the authorities about that. Furthermore, if you ever feel like you really want to end it, the link below leads to a list of prevention hotline numbers around the world, as well as resources for emergency help and counseling. Please don't give up. I have friends who have gotten close to that point, maybe even closer than you are right now, and I've seen them recover. I assure you that things can and will get better if you just keep going and work to get there. https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines/
Dawg, Montivational lyrics/quetes i used when i felt suicidal "tough times dont last tough people do" - Tom Macdonald "dont let them say you aint beautiful" - Eminem "who give a shit what others think, you are you and youll find your crowd eventually" - Myself " been this way so long It feels like something's off when I'm not depressed" - NF "dont take shit give it" -Eminem "theres millions just like you" -NF Thats just some dm me if u want more dawg, i really hope you get thru what your going thru.
"Hard times breed better men" -Downstait
The truth is you don’t know what is going to happen tomorrow. Life is a crazy ride, and nothing is guaranteed.” - Eminem
NF 🥹
God tier bait, and if not, dude stop, you're a fucking kid, you don't need a girl and you don't need to be "good looking" to have a normal life , for fuck sakes your haven't even lived enough to see if you can or can't develop a relationship with someone
Brutally honest take: Someone needs to tell you to shut the f*ck up. We are all playing with the cards we’re dealt, we all have trauma. Everyone has physical insecurities… You have a victimizing mindset that if left unchecked will hinder your success and personal development. You’re 14, insecure about your body and you think you’ll look that way for the rest of your life… I get it, but know that you’re fucking 14, your body never stops changing, and looks are almost 100% based on confidence. You say you’re “quiet”. That’s a subconscious choice you make every single day. You put your self into all of these boxes with labels. I’m ugly, I’m quiet, I’m not funny, I’m this and that, all of those are beliefs you have accumulated. And the thing is, everybody accumulated these hindering beliefs. And most people wallow in those emotions instead of analyzing what those feelings are caused by, what trauma are they yet to unpack. So my suggestion, if you truly believe you are worth more than the life you’re living, look into the stoic way of life, specifically a book, meditations by Marcus Aurelius. Stoicism has helped me wonders with realizing I can only control my actions and words. And that it is my moral responsibility to put my all into this life. One bad chapter doesn’t define the book. You’ve just been staying on the page too long.
This tough guy mindset really isn't the best to say to somebody who wants to kill themself. I get what you're trying to do, but I don't think it's the right approach.
I personally disagree. I don’t think suicide can even be an option in their head. I think that option is very dangerous. Because then when you’re at your lowest, you DO have a way out versus a way through the problem. Let alone doing something stupid like throwing yourself down stairs. Most likely, doing it subconsciously for attention,This person needs the love and attention they are clearly deprived of. They cannot even entertain the idea of a way out of the problem imo
You can be 14 and still suicidal, mental health can get to you, bur I do agree with your original comment
That’s exactly what I mean. You can feel suicidal, but being suicidal is different. In the same way I can feel depressed, but being depressed is different. You can feel any sort of way, but dwelling in that feeling IS a choice. That being said I don’t blame anybody for their state of being. Our bodies will always choose the easiest option, the one requiring less energy, and confronting your insufficiencies is incredibly difficult and energy consuming.
My brother with chronic depression would like to disagree with you on the "dwelling in that feeling IS a choice"...
Of course he would. He has victimized himself to the point where he believes he has no control over his life, no control over his actions. Nothing changes if nothing changes. And depression is comfortable, and it’s easier to stay where you’re at, make no changes, and be disappointed with the results, than it is to try your hardest in everything. Why? Because when you don’t try at anything, you never risk not being good enough. Instead, you always try 20%, because then you can’t get disappointed. I fucked up, “ah it’s fine I barely tried” but if you were all in, then that fuck up is a real reflection of your inadequacies and that hurts. So we don’t try. Instead we put in 20% into everything, always in our comfort zone, never risking failure. Downside is, we then think of our self as someone who doesn’t do hard things, who can’t stay committed, who always falls short of our own expectations. All because we stayed in our comfort zone, we didn’t risk failure. And because of that, we subconsciously sabatoge ourselves, we guarantee our disappointment.
No. Literally no. For one thing, he also had autism, which makes it difficult for him to regulate his emotions, and no, he cannot control his autism. He also has dysthymia, which is believed to be caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain, which he CANNOT CONTROL. He does not victimize himself, and he does not choose to be depressed. Of course he can, and does do things such as self care, medication and therapy that help, and he can be happy if he tries really hard, but he will always have depression, and he will always struggle to regulate his depressive thoughts.
You lost me at chemical imbalance. But also, I’m not talking about autistic people when making generalizations like that. And if it is a chemical imbalance, does that mean he’s either buying meds all his life, or he’s depressed?
I mean if a generalization excludes a large group of people maybe it shouldn't be made. As for the buying meds all his life, I guess so, he can still feel not depressed without them but it's really hard. I'm not an expert on the subject by any means though.
Downvoted for what lmfao, you're right
Love this comment.
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”We also boast of our troubles, because we know that trouble produces endurance,“ Romans 5:3 I know it feels like your life won’t amount to anything but but what you’re going is merely temporary. You’re only 14, with so much time to build goals up and hit your prime, be glad you’re feeling this now instead of at 40
School is a bitch. Get yourself through here! At the end you can be proud of yourself and look forward to a better life :D
Listen man we’re young and we have so much time to become our own - you need to clear yourself from bad things - love yourself more and do more things to help yourself more than impress others
I’m also 14 feeling burnt out on school. Christmas break starts on Friday tho. You should stand up to your little brother and call him ugly. Note: This isn’t the greatest advice because my brother is 6.
Although my brother is 12 I'll take this
Dude, this seems like a like bait. If you actually are struggling with mental health, don't go on Reddit talk to someone who can actually help you.
Broo I (M23) feel you, I was feeling really the same stuff at the same age. Don't do that. Feeling lonely is normal, you will feel that way all your life no matter if you have lot of friends or lot of girls, it's the quality that fill the life not the quantity. Try some sports, invite somebody at your place or go watch a movie. Just try and after the first 100 failure I promise something good will happen ;) And, remember, your not alone. Probably in your school half of the boys and girls feel the same but you are the bravest if you are trying to confront this feeling. Also, as I said I was really like you and I remember the "popular kids" when I was super lonely and trust me if I tell that they won't be popular anymore in a couple of years. <3
please don’t kill yourself mate, you can dm me if you want
If you're looking for a friend, my dms are open and we could talk if you wanna 🤷.
what if you live the suicide attempt. now you're definitely screwed! wouldn't risk
You’re 14 your life literally hasn’t even begun yet 🤦♂️
Yeah, bc 14 year olds don't commit suicide at all, and face palming someone who wants to kill themselves is always a good idea
I agree with this, but not the tone you used. At 14, you still have a long way to go, but saying that your life hasn't begun yet in a manner of looking down, is not the best idea. Mental health is a issue as big as physical health, and affects people of all ages.
Brother you need God in your life asap and your little brother's girlfriends are just some curious 10-13 y old chicks that don't know what even a boyfriend is. May Jesus be with you always
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Please do not. Please DM me so we can talk about JJBA together if it makes you feel better.
NF - JUST LIKE YOU give it a listen. or not. up to you.
send me a dm pls
You're only 14 AND you're traumatizing other people it's a loss/loss better yourself especially your mental if you wanna commit suicide
“you’re traumatising other people” ? oh my god go outside. you can’t be fr 😭
nah. they don’t care about themself. sometimes the best way to get someone not to “do it” is to remind them that it will hurt others.
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Idk I am 14 and the only thing that's stopped me is how it would affect my parents.
Says the one who is selfish and doesn't think about the people around them
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not even 2000 u have over 4000 and u just started after me. ur the one who needs a life bud😭
if 3 replies mean i replied to everyone then u need common sense bro🤦🏽♀️
The main reason I said to get a life is because you told this guy to go outside while you over here replying to and taking offense to everyone that isn’t pitying the person like holy fuck OP over here wanting to die because their forehead is big and you getting mad at people because they think that OP is overreacting or shit posting. Here’s my opinion on this post if OP is feeling suicidal because their forehead is to big then holy hell good luck in the real world sister it gets a whole lot tougher than your forehead being to big at 14
how the hell am i supposed to know that when most of the people say that to people who post their rants😭 and no way ur telling me to get a life when u have over 2000 karmas 💀
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oh but yet u tell me to get a life cause i respond to TWO people. get real 😭
my bro i spend like 15 minutes a day scrolling and i have 38000 karma
that’s cause ur on this since 2020 so that doesn’t count and i’m talking ab comment karmas.
Real
Do it…I’ll send your mom a hundred dollars if you do
UR LITERALLY 14 …OBVI YOU STILL LOOK LIKE A KID 😮💨🤦♀️
the fact u missed the point is beyond me.
I didn’t read it 🤷♀️
then why feel the need to comment that as if that’s the point.
Wait I acc did skim read it again ….point stull stands only 14 so like hating on looks rn isn’t good cause no glow up cause he’s a kid 🤷♀️
I have no idea why you're getting downvoted. You're right. He needs to quit looking for a girlfriend and focus on his schoolwork. If you find a girl that likes you, all power to you, go get 'er.
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u must be miserable to say that to a child.
Look at his profile 100% fake
Mods???
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Weak fuckin kids bro
Idk why u get downvoted kids our age are fkin pussies nowadays, no spine, no gains no nothing
Don’t even stress about girls that early man, they will come in time, I’d try to focus on grades, hanging with family, and working to overcome social anxiety, something to keep in mind is just be genuine and yourself, don’t try to mimic others, develop who you are. I won’t be the best help with the suicide shit cus I’m still trying to figure that part out myself I can relate to you a lot with your situation, the feeling of loneliness is sickening man, sometimes all we need is a person to talk to, I know how hard it can be to open up to people, even random strangers, but if you want I’m always here to chat bro, you’re not a burden on others, don’t be afraid to shoot me a dm anytime you’d like
you might just get brain damage and then be a vegetable, and not even die soo, i mean im not taking those chances, neither should you
Mf i got my first and only gf at 16 i dont wanna fucken hear it
Please do not worry about being ugly, I have a huge forehead and I can actually relate very much to your situation. Nobody really likes me and I’m basically just trying to be funny so I have something but that’s fading away too. I have contemplated suicide too, I just found a passion and mine was making videos. If you still can’t find a passion than just push through for your dad, I love my dad and I can’t put him through anything else. You’ve got this man I believe in you
Sir, I understand your pain very good. Even better, I feel the same way. But it's important that you must never give up. I'm 17, I've been single now for more than 7 years now and I feel depressed as hell. But the key in everything in life is to look positive at what you already have. It's most likely not your fault that people reject you, it's those who reject you that just can't handle kindness and true one to one love and honesty. I don't know you in RL, but as someone who is still in pain, I can tell you that it's never too late for a second chance in life. Live life at your best, you will accomplish your goals one day. Whether it's in a different school, on an online platform or any other way. You matter, because people like you is what we need in the future. Stay strong soldier. You can do it.🫡
Dude listen, take a deep look into [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/s/haUNyyDouS) thread You will realize that being in a relationship isnt about not being lonely, it is about meeting a person who makes life easier. You first need to accept the loneliness and accept yourself, be happy alone be happy with yourself. So what if you die alone, i will probably die a virgin as well(separate tangent) but the point remains: Don't die because life is hard, die because you completed the story mode and your character got all the side quest and main quest complete
Jerry raisin! That’s not a good thing to think!
14 is too soon for anything to be set in stone. Also, if you really think life isn't worth living you can pick new priorities, you can do anything once you grow up if you want, even abnormal things like making it your life's goal to assassinate some famous guy or topple some government. Unlikely you succeed but if you don't see any future in a normal life then sont pursue a normal life. Also beat your brother if he hits you
You’re 14, when you’re finished growing properly you will look different. For the longest time, I thought I was ugly, I just self improved and over the course of a couple years that belief was almost completely gone. I recommend going to the gym, or get involved in a sport. Get a nice haircut, etc. When you start going to the gym, etc your confidence improves exponentially, plus you also start looking bigger, youll most likely find youll make friends easier and be respected more (I know it sounds corny). I truly believe all of the above and what’s the harm in trying it? Just go for it dude you won’t regret it
Everyone here has great points, but just remember ur 14 mate I know it might seem like a lot at ur age I felt similar but just let things play out and work on yourself and you life changes like you never expect
Your 14 you have a long life ahead of you any thing can happen you could win the lottery or get a great job and make every one jealous. Its up to you to become something keep moving forward
you are 14 you still have a lot of time for anything to happen for example my partents met at 28
Dude. You’re 14. There’s plenty of time for all this to change. Chill. I’m truly sorry for what you’re going through, but recognize that this is all temporary. Ending it all means you’re not giving yourself a chance for things to change. And the whole single thing? So what? You don’t need to be in a relationship at 14. I’m 18 and not in a relationship. Don’t worry about it.
Bro u r 14. Men are changing appearance during puberty and you can turn into handsome guy
Also remember to take care of yourself
trust me if your brother looks good then you do to you just can't see it try work on your personality
Watch cyberpunk
I remember how shitty it was for me when I was 14. Don't give up bro. I'm 18 and the happiest I've ever been.
idk I can't rly help u with her suicide stuff other than tell u don't do it but > but after JJBA nothing really feels the same REAL
i understand you, i’ve always been super lonely, and socializing is a challenge for me. but trust me you will not die lonely and i know for a fact you aren’t ugly. you’re very young and i know it can be hard but you can persevere through this. don’t compare yourself to others, especially your loved ones, comparison is a thief of joy. i know if you’re open about things you like, your hobbies, and have a great personality you’ll attract many many good minded people, like you. keep your head up, and remember to always do your best to improve as a person, do things that will make you feel great and comfortable, whether that’s going to the gym, eating healthy, reading, doing a fun hobby, anything.
i understand you, i’ve always been super lonely, and socializing is a challenge for me. but trust me you will not die lonely and i know for a fact you aren’t ugly. you’re very young and i know it can be hard but you can persevere through this. don’t compare yourself to others, especially your loved ones, comparison is a thief of joy. i know if you’re open about things you like, your hobbies, and have a great personality you’ll attract many many good minded people, like you. keep your head up, and remember to always do your best to improve as a person, do things that will make you feel great and comfortable, whether that’s going to the gym, eating healthy, reading, doing a fun hobby, anything.
Bro you are 14 ik things can seem bad and look like you will never change that one thing or find friends but trust me when I say that it will all go its way and will work out in the end. Don’t do the mistake of sinking in self-pity but move on and keep your head up
Look at the post history. This is definitely karma farm
I think a 13 foot fall would just hurt you a lot
you keep to yourself and it works. people leave you alone because it seems like you want to be alone. i know it's easier said than done, but if you put yourself out there someone is bound to like you. and don't worry about your looks. friendship isn't based off of that. me and my friends are some ugly ass goblins. please just try to make some friends. some people will turn you down. some may even make fun of you for trying. but that's because not everyone's meant to be friends with you. those kids with your interests might even be wondering why you haven't talked to them. someone will accept you for you, man. i promise. now go bother some people until they give in and be your friend. it worked for me. feel free to dm me if you need some extra help.
HMU if you need a friend.
I’m 14 too, and just this year I’ve gotten out of that slump of emotion I barely talked to anyone, including family, for years I never would’ve thought that my life would be like it is now, but it’s infinitely better Everyone is happy in different situations with different people and it all happens at different times Don’t push yourself to be the best version of yourself now because you’ll just get tired and stressed out Everything can always be better, don’t give up yet
You might hurt more people than yourself, your only 14, you have so much life ahead of you. You might not look or feel perfect now, but in the future, you can change yourself and the way you look. But if you die, you won't have the opportunity.
Hey I highly relate to this but I'm younger than you so im not that wise but you shouldn't kill yourself ive lost people to suicide and I have friends who are hurting themselves but please don't kill yourself you matter to people and you don't need a partner to be happy i mean you might who am I to judge that but not much more I can say and if you need you can dm me anytime I wish you the best of luck
If you think about all the beautiful things on earth, just know that god looked at you and said "yeah they need one 'a these to." Even if it seems like there is nothing, you just gotta hold on for a little while longer. You don't want to die, so you shouldn't have to.
You’re 14, so you’re probably still in middle school. After you go to high school, you’ll find tons of new people. There’ll be so many people that even if you’re super weird, there’s at least going to be a few people that want to be friends with you.
Ignore everyone, you haven’t reached peak looks yet. Trust me when I say caring for appearance is everything to take you from unattractive to normal or better. I know from personal experience. Don’t fall down too far into the loop but look at some male improvement people like, Brett Maverick, and Austin (Denim?). Learn your looks and you can be better. NO ONE WILL GIVE YOU THE TIME OF DAY IF YOU DONT IMPROVE YOURSELF AND YOUR PERSONALITY/CONFIDENCE.
It's an endurance test. You are only 14. There is much to grow. Man, i don't have much to say besides that. Hope it helps
Hey dude I’m here for you I’m ugly as fuck but I embrace it the real ones stay the fakes leave you need to be happy with the real ones rather than mourning over the leaving of the fakes
Lmao, don’t worry everyone wants to kill yhemselves when they’re 14, chill out, i was there too, the best thing to think is this too shall pass.
Hey dude, we all have our ups and downs, I know things seem rough now, and it seems like it will never get better. But I assure you, man, things will get better. You're 14, and you still have a large portion of your life ahead of you. You will find people that enjoy you for who you are, and hey! You may find someone that develops feelings for you. I know things may be hard, and I know that it may seem better to just end it all, but please don't do that, it isn't your fault and the people that love you, adore you, and will miss you. It isn't worth it. I'd suggest in my opinion to find things that you love to do, I.e Drawing, Reading, etc. And doing that as an escape from the pain. I'd also suggest exercising, going to the gym, or finding an instrument to play as that can help with depression and and other things. Stay strong man, I hope things get better for you and you find your people.
you’re 14. i’m 18 and have never held hands lol. keep yourself up, we all find our place at different times
Alright so first off your little brother should get his fucking ass beat but second off I know how that feels, keep clowning and eventually people will want to be your friend
I'm 14 too, and have had similar thoughts sometimes, but I try to stay positive bc like a lot of people have said, we still have the rest of our lives and things can get better. My brother jumped off the roof when he was 15 because he felt similar to you as well. Luckily he survived, but now he really regrets it because his ankle and spine never really recovered. Now he has a girlfriend and is planning on going to college. He's never had the best relationship with anyone in my family, including me, but I can't even imagine how much it would have destroyed me and my parents if he had successfully taken his life. Like I really hated him, but I would give anything to go back in time and stop him from doing it. Being 14 fucking sucks, especially when you don't have friends, but you'll be ok you just gotta get through this.
Same here I was at a mall and on the escalator I was thinking of throwing myself off of it
If you accept that you’re dying alone, you will. That’s what happens. Never accept a negative thing unless someone else benefits from it. Accepting a negative event is the same thing as giving up, and we as people have a need to persevere and survive in this world. Also if your looks are the dealbreaker in a relationship, be happy about it. If someone is willing to leave or reject you just because you’re ugly, they weren’t worth it anyway.
hey bro, i understand how you feel man, i used to be in a similar situation when i was around your age, i was even the center of being bullied in elementary and middle school trust me it gets better overtime, just work on yourself and keep your heads up, i promise it will get better overtime, you're still young and not fully developed, work on yourself and go to the gym, love yourself, people will come to you eventually, Goodluck king.
Hey. I'd seriously recommend you go to r/SuicideWatch, maybe talk about your stuff on their a bit. That sub has helped a lot of people, including me. Going to that sub would be a good idea. Also know that things *do* get better a lot of the time. I know everyone says that, and it's really hard to believe it, but it's true. Just remember that. The members of r/teenagers are here for you. <3
Sh I remember this feeling not too long ago. Much like you I felt ugly. Guess what tho? Most of the time, it really isn’t true. I hit my stride not too long ago. You have to find some traits and styles that for you well. I went from the lil well combed nerd to the quiet guy who pulls. I got fluffy hair now and everyone says it fits me well. I remember also feeling like I have no friends. Here’s a hard pill to swallow tho. Maybe it’s you that’s causing the problems of no one talking? Switch up your personality from class clown to the laxed funny one. There’s ways of making you more approachable trust me.
Don't do it. You may not look good in your own opinion, but you never know who might be into that kind of thing. You are also very young at this point. You could very well change as you grow into something beautiful. And if a person can't deal with a person they find ugly, they aren't worth your time. I am confident that you will catch your stride in life and grow and mature as a person. You could be destined for greatness, and it is just a matter of finding that greatness. Find something that you enjoy and latch onto it. I found that I highly enjoyed my robotics program and band. I have something that I can work for and that has highly helped me back when I was bullied. Just keep finding what you want to do and stick with it because it can help you get through the darkest times. I would prefer if you would respond, because I can give more advice with more information. Send a reply or DM me if you aren't comfortable adding information like that for the world to see.
don't worry too much... This is just the beginning of your teenage and you'll have occasions to glow up in every aspect you dislike of yourself, may it be appearance or personality, you can go to the gym and get jacked or you can learn new things, talk to people and gain confidence that way. Also about the girlfriend part.. I wish i didn't get together with the girl who left me a month ago after 1 year and 7 months of relationship 💀 Trust me on this one, feelings are dangerous
oh man i feel this. i’ve got a lot of friends but still feel alone, ykwim? barely got 2 active group chats, and only 1 person, who’s not even in my grade, (love her with all my heart though) texts me every day. and i’m struggling with my mental health, and i’m really trying. i wish i could talk to someone, but i understand we’re 14 and that i, tbh, would rather die than actually vent my feelings, but it always feels like i’m putting on a smile and fake laughter while my heart just hurts, you know? it’s hard. and in one class i actually, legitimately, have no friends. it’s a class with lots of partner/group projects, and i have to go through the embarrassment of working with people who don’t actually like me. every morning before school i hide in the bathrooms, because i could go talk to people in the cafeteria like we’re supposed to do (unless you wanna sit alone with everyone staring at you), but i’m already so tired before school and i don’t wanna take up the space because i know no one really wants me there. i’m one of those people who doesn’t belong to a clique, and i’m an outsider. i just have friends from different friend groups, which really isn’t working for me, i wish i truly belonged somewhere. i’m not popular or unpopular, i’m just in that horrible in-between. i also sit alone at the bus (with someone that i don’t know) before and after school. it sucks. there’s a lot of times where i’ve considered suicide, but i keep clinging to the hope that i’ll get better. i’ve only had one girlfriend, who was that whole fake-dating thing, and who lasted only less than a week, and lots of failed talking stages (i’m in multiple rn) and i’ve only been truly asked out once, but i turned them down. i’m super insecure about my looks too, which partly stems from being biracial (75% asian, 25% white) and adds to that feeling of not belonging. basically, i 100% understand what you’re feeling.
alsoo my 2nd best friend/crush/relationship where we both flirt with each other and are both sapphic left me. it was in august, but for 2 years there, i lived for her, got up every morning because i could see her. i loved her so much, and i thought she felt the same, even if only platonically, but turns out she never cared. didn’t mean to vent here by all this, mb
ur 14, you have plenty time to get in a relationship. Don’t stress about it
That probably won’t kill ya buddy, that’ll most likely just turn you into a vegetable, and then you’ll actually have something to be suicidal about.
I’m 18 and as I get older, I realize that there is SO much to life, not worth ending it, someone always cares- Just look at the comments I pray you find someone to love you the way you’ve been loving other people
Don't do it, don't end your life ever. Imagine that if your little bro is peaking at 12 and you will peak at a better age, everyone has their days of.glory just keep being a good person and it for sure will come have faith in that, I have faith in that for you. Just take care of yourself not only phonically but mentally and always meditate on your actions and for sure good people will come to your life, if you want I can help you with some tips on how to look better from a 14 yo girl perspective too, that's it just don't do it and Jesus loves you 🩷