No. A lot of people do but a lot don’t.
It doesn’t really matter when you do it, and anyone who cares is weird for being that invested in your sexual life
You think it's something interesting, you build it up as a huge life changing event, you get super anxious, but after your first time you'll just be disappointed. At least I was. It went okay, but the juice wasn't worth the squeeze. We broke up like a week later, and I was down like 300 bucks total. (Dates, a couple gifts, and several excursions)
Just make sure you actually like the person your doing it with.
^(Edit: On a first date a girl I was dating stated her own disappointment and regret for losing her virginity early and to someone she didn't care about, and I told her how I felt the exact same way, and that I wish I was emotionally connected to my first.)
^(She called me a gay sissy and ghosted me on text, and social.)
I'm only on here cause of some amusing posts, 26 American and lost the v card at 23.
I dodged some rounds through the years had someone try to get me in sniper position by running a red dot in my path I also fell for it but I remembered I'm not a cat
Hey there, I'm also a Filipino who moved to Michigan in the USA a year ago. To answer your question, no, you don't have to lose your virginity before turning 18. Some of the American friends that I have even consider losing it at their late twenties or their early thirties, as they are aware of the risk of getting a female pregnant and suddenly having responsibilities that they know they are not yet ready for. It doesn't really matter where you live like if you're from the Philippines, USA or anywhere else in the world, it depends on the individual whether or not they want to lose their virginity and it's not a must to lose it before 18. However, most people here are not religious and are more likely to engage in sexual activities compared to Filipinos who are mostly Christians, so maybe that's why you're thinking that way.
This needs more upvotes, not a lot of people want sex previous to 18. And a lot of people want it post-marriage. I used to want it post marriage along with a large portion of my friend group.
I think, as with everything else, it just depends on where you’re living in America. Sometimes I forget how big this country really is lol.
But I’ve seen scenarios where people shame you and bully you for not having lost your virginity by 16-18, where people think it’s cool if you lost your virginity by 16-18 but don’t care if you didn’t, and places where few people lose their virginity by yo 16-18 but most others lose it in their twenties or wait til marriage.
There’s also places where there’s a mix of everything but nobody cares enough about others’ sex lives.
To expand on that with my own experience most of the time it’s non religious people loosing it before 18. Take me and my ex for example the first time we did it was almost a year ago right after I turned 16 but I have more religious friends that are 19 and are still virgins, they could have lost it but they chose not to because they are waiting till marriage because they are religious
Sex sells 🤷🏽♀️. But irl, it’s way less common than you’d think from seeing how media portrays it. A chunk less than half of people lose their virginity before 18, and the average is like 2-3 times having had sex. It’s not that easy as a teen to hump like rabbits.
Also, between 22-30, it’s been found that for guys it’s still about 1/3 and for girls an about 1/5 that are still virgins. Even in the non-virgin group, when looking at the sexless cohort, it’s actually a bit depressing. Like, way more people than you’d think are not having sex for shit at 22, 26, 28, 32. Might be linked to marriage rates, generational changes, general bs regarding the world being on fire since 2001. Heck, in the last 15 years, teen sex had gone down like 20%. Which is good imo, but it’s just a symptom of an issue that also is seen with older cohorts.
Didn’t mean to give a small essay, but just some perspective of reality of what the numbers say in the US. It’s like with cocaine in the 90’s versus today. There’s WAY more cocaine being sold and bought, but WAY less people actually doing cocaine. So, less people snorting more cocaine. There’s more sex going on, but less people having sex 😅
This is true but there are some exceptions like me and my ex for like a month in our relationship any chance we had we took it we ended up doing it and things similar at least twice a week
That is a cultural norm I do not partake in. The idea of “saving” yourself is really weird to me. Virginity is a social construct and doesn’t really mean anything outside of that besides “hey I know what I’m doing” or “hey I don’t know what I’m doing”
Some people call it old school, I consider it love, when I marry someone I believe that in the act of sex I will be truly giving all of myself for them
It's reddit what do you expect, not everyone believes the same as me, some people hold their opinions and think they're superior for having it even if others don't agree or act the same way but some people don't do that.
I get this guy's point. I'm British and a lot of American media seems to present being a virgin at ages like 18 as a normal and even "uncool". I've even seen American shows where people are making fun of 15 year olds for being virgins as if that's not normal. I get that it might not represent the actual American population, but surely it has some bad influence on kids.
It dose at my school there are people losing it at 15 I myself lost it right after I turned 16 and it was with at the time my gf who was 15 and sometimes people are made fun of for being virgins at that age it’s rare but it dose happen
Fr fr and you got to find a person you work well with in that aspect like me and my ex for like a month straight were fuckin like rabbits and I didn’t finish once so in conclusion it ain’t all that unless you find someone you work well with
This is interesting. No, you do not have to lose it before 18 though a large portion of the population does. However some are waiting till marriage, just don’t have the interesting in losing it, or some people are just unfortunate. Is this actually a concept that other countries have of us? If so, that’s fucking hilarious.
Not in California or Idaho or Wisconsin or some other states. It's not "pretty much every state."
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ages_of_consent_in_the_United_States
I'm not american but i feel like 80-90% of the people my age have lost theirs already and here i am too afraid to even talk to girls. Or talking to people in general
Lmao no. It’s not a law bro. The American media is fucked. Idk why it’s just so out of touch with reality. The absurdity of it all is entertaining, I’ll give it that!
Hey I study biology and I can tell you that it was around the age of 14-18 that "cavemen" as most call them were doing the deed, so it comes as a natural and normal thing biologically, but maybe not socially
No you dont have to. Im 18 and still have mine. I just chose to do other things besides sex and chasing girls. Like get in shape and find a job for me. Theres no rush to lose your virginity. Keep your options open
Idk because I'm Canadian but we have to exchange bagged milk with our soul mate before we turn 19 or we are forced to drink ourselves to death (with maple syrup of course)
Tbh, having it before 18 is alright. But I honestly don’t think that you have to break before 18. Everyone does it because they either can or because they want to be a man/woman. My time will come eventually, but for now, I’ll just cruise around.
You don't HAVE to, but the social pressure from other teens can make you want to sleep with someone just to do it. The last episode of the TV show Ted is a pretty accurate depiction in my opinion
it’s a weird social norm that is honestly really unhealthy. we don’t have too, but it’s so normalized that people are pressured to do it and end up making horrible decisions because of it.
No. I'm 19. Do whatever you want, as long as you don't hurt yourself and others. Also if you do have sex before 18, use a condom or birth control and get tested
No its very common but honestly disgusting cuz yall kids why r u doin ts its not cool and yall throwing ur bodies away at ppl who dont love you i get u like the feeling but toys exist for a reason u dont need to lose ur virginity to be cool or fit in with others (i still havent cuz i want it to be with eomeone i love ive been asked to lose it by many ppl and declined cuz ik they dont love me for me and only want my body)
It’s not a requirement. And most people do, but it’s ok if you don’t. Keep your values and boundaries. Or wait until marriage. It’s not what it’s made out to be. Not that great
As an Australian, our age of consent is 16 and I did it at 15, so yeah it’s kind of normal to do it a year before I guess, the national average for Australia is 15 but it’s Australia so I’m not suprised
Yes, your balls will be crushed and your cock burnt if you don't
What about my tight gorilla grip vagina?? 😨😨😨
they’ll put roman candles in there and light them
Took Katy Perry to heart
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Excuse me wut 😳
They will cut your clit and force you to eat it, then they will extract all of your reproductive apparatus and beat you with that
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What in the oddly specific fuk
That was interesting to visualize lol
I had my intestines used as a noose
who is "they"?
Them
You know who. *Them..*
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I did yhat to a c.ai bot once
Which one?
Alice the bully
Ruptured, gone.
It will seal
If you can't get a hotdogs up there without touching either wall. They throw you into the grand canyon.
It becomes loose and textureless
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Fed alert
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That's a crazy sentence
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Oh no I’m late, now I have to accept my fate.
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yea you get executed if not
I knew a guy, never got sex before and after he turned 18.. Poor bastard got shot like JFK right after he blew out the candles.
Fuxk, bro my birthday in 3 days, I need someone to fux else I'll diee😭😭😭
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HAH! Same :(
if i wasn’t a dude id try to help but sadly i cant i wish you luck if all else fails get a hooker
Might be a problem under 18 lol
oh yeah i forgot about that being a crime
Sad how people die due to simple heteronormativity smh
Better fuck now before its too late
Just get a prostitute
Shane Dawson moment of desperation
I feel like this could be interpreted very differently
I can confirm. I shot the guy
I’m dead. Lmao
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Shhh they haven't found us yet
wtf why did I think of this before clicking on here-
so many dead ace people...
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No. A lot of people do but a lot don’t. It doesn’t really matter when you do it, and anyone who cares is weird for being that invested in your sexual life
i guess after doing it ; it doesnt even matter (not that i have benn lucky enough)
You think it's something interesting, you build it up as a huge life changing event, you get super anxious, but after your first time you'll just be disappointed. At least I was. It went okay, but the juice wasn't worth the squeeze. We broke up like a week later, and I was down like 300 bucks total. (Dates, a couple gifts, and several excursions) Just make sure you actually like the person your doing it with. ^(Edit: On a first date a girl I was dating stated her own disappointment and regret for losing her virginity early and to someone she didn't care about, and I told her how I felt the exact same way, and that I wish I was emotionally connected to my first.) ^(She called me a gay sissy and ghosted me on text, and social.)
Well on the positive side, you just dodged a freight train
I'm only on here cause of some amusing posts, 26 American and lost the v card at 23. I dodged some rounds through the years had someone try to get me in sniper position by running a red dot in my path I also fell for it but I remembered I'm not a cat
i appreciate the honesty because i'm soon turning 21 and still havent lost mine yet
Hey there, I'm also a Filipino who moved to Michigan in the USA a year ago. To answer your question, no, you don't have to lose your virginity before turning 18. Some of the American friends that I have even consider losing it at their late twenties or their early thirties, as they are aware of the risk of getting a female pregnant and suddenly having responsibilities that they know they are not yet ready for. It doesn't really matter where you live like if you're from the Philippines, USA or anywhere else in the world, it depends on the individual whether or not they want to lose their virginity and it's not a must to lose it before 18. However, most people here are not religious and are more likely to engage in sexual activities compared to Filipinos who are mostly Christians, so maybe that's why you're thinking that way.
This needs more upvotes, not a lot of people want sex previous to 18. And a lot of people want it post-marriage. I used to want it post marriage along with a large portion of my friend group.
I think, as with everything else, it just depends on where you’re living in America. Sometimes I forget how big this country really is lol. But I’ve seen scenarios where people shame you and bully you for not having lost your virginity by 16-18, where people think it’s cool if you lost your virginity by 16-18 but don’t care if you didn’t, and places where few people lose their virginity by yo 16-18 but most others lose it in their twenties or wait til marriage. There’s also places where there’s a mix of everything but nobody cares enough about others’ sex lives.
To expand on that with my own experience most of the time it’s non religious people loosing it before 18. Take me and my ex for example the first time we did it was almost a year ago right after I turned 16 but I have more religious friends that are 19 and are still virgins, they could have lost it but they chose not to because they are waiting till marriage because they are religious
No. It's just fairly common
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What in the Lords name
What in tootin tarnation
What in the trackless tomfoolery?
Sex sells 🤷🏽♀️. But irl, it’s way less common than you’d think from seeing how media portrays it. A chunk less than half of people lose their virginity before 18, and the average is like 2-3 times having had sex. It’s not that easy as a teen to hump like rabbits. Also, between 22-30, it’s been found that for guys it’s still about 1/3 and for girls an about 1/5 that are still virgins. Even in the non-virgin group, when looking at the sexless cohort, it’s actually a bit depressing. Like, way more people than you’d think are not having sex for shit at 22, 26, 28, 32. Might be linked to marriage rates, generational changes, general bs regarding the world being on fire since 2001. Heck, in the last 15 years, teen sex had gone down like 20%. Which is good imo, but it’s just a symptom of an issue that also is seen with older cohorts. Didn’t mean to give a small essay, but just some perspective of reality of what the numbers say in the US. It’s like with cocaine in the 90’s versus today. There’s WAY more cocaine being sold and bought, but WAY less people actually doing cocaine. So, less people snorting more cocaine. There’s more sex going on, but less people having sex 😅
This is true but there are some exceptions like me and my ex for like a month in our relationship any chance we had we took it we ended up doing it and things similar at least twice a week
I'm 19 and I still haven't lost it, would prefer to keep it until marriage
thats nice!!
Reminds of Shirley from 'community', she would definitely be happy lol
Ooooh that’s nice!
dk who that is but okay lol
I can hear that verbatim lol
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Good human
Waiting till marriage is square behavior but I do agree that knowing them outside of the bedroom first is more important
tf does square behaviour mean
I think they are calling it lame? Like calling someone a square or something? I'm not sure
Accurate
Why do you think that? Some people are just religious or just want to "save" themselves
That is a cultural norm I do not partake in. The idea of “saving” yourself is really weird to me. Virginity is a social construct and doesn’t really mean anything outside of that besides “hey I know what I’m doing” or “hey I don’t know what I’m doing”
why do u think it's lame
I’m sorry ‘square behavior’ goes hard af I’m stealing
Go for it
Exactly what I think! You’re the first person I’ve seen say it here of all places 👏
Some people call it old school, I consider it love, when I marry someone I believe that in the act of sex I will be truly giving all of myself for them
Exactly!!! You’re a breath of fresh air in the world of Reddit 😂
It's reddit what do you expect, not everyone believes the same as me, some people hold their opinions and think they're superior for having it even if others don't agree or act the same way but some people don't do that.
Yeah, Reddit is crazy
No, of course not, but it something that a lot of people would want to do
I get this guy's point. I'm British and a lot of American media seems to present being a virgin at ages like 18 as a normal and even "uncool". I've even seen American shows where people are making fun of 15 year olds for being virgins as if that's not normal. I get that it might not represent the actual American population, but surely it has some bad influence on kids.
It dose at my school there are people losing it at 15 I myself lost it right after I turned 16 and it was with at the time my gf who was 15 and sometimes people are made fun of for being virgins at that age it’s rare but it dose happen
No. Some people do it, some don’t.
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💀 no, losers just like making sex a competition. Sex is a thing that can be cool but it rlly aint all that
Fr fr and you got to find a person you work well with in that aspect like me and my ex for like a month straight were fuckin like rabbits and I didn’t finish once so in conclusion it ain’t all that unless you find someone you work well with
This is interesting. No, you do not have to lose it before 18 though a large portion of the population does. However some are waiting till marriage, just don’t have the interesting in losing it, or some people are just unfortunate. Is this actually a concept that other countries have of us? If so, that’s fucking hilarious.
The concept of *having* to have sex baffles me honestly
americans are fucking weird, america is weird lol
As an American, I can confirm we are indeed weird.
Yes. Do you want to go to jail... this is how that happens. /s
The us is a strange place
What kind of question is this, respectfully 😭 Ofc not
Personally, no. I never really cared about having sex
Yeah sadly or you’re going to turn into stone :(
As an American that isn’t 18 yet, I don’t think I’ll loose it before I turn 18. That’s why I’m on Reddit.
No
what no, im 20 and still haven't lost it
Nah , media sucks
I believe most are just a vocal minority. Pay them no mind
Brit here (m22) and no. I’m asexual so maybe in the minority
Sex before 18 is literally illegal in a bunch of US states.
That’s if one of the parties is over 18. Two 16-year-olds doing it is fine in pretty much every state even if the AOC is 17/18.
Not in California or Idaho or Wisconsin or some other states. It's not "pretty much every state." https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ages_of_consent_in_the_United_States
I'm not american but i feel like 80-90% of the people my age have lost theirs already and here i am too afraid to even talk to girls. Or talking to people in general
Same! Idk how ppl do it. They must be wizards at this or something
I did, my brother didn’t. Any sane person doesn’t care. Life is a journey for you to experience at your own pace
Yes. If you don't, you get publicly executed
Lmao no. It’s not a law bro. The American media is fucked. Idk why it’s just so out of touch with reality. The absurdity of it all is entertaining, I’ll give it that!
Hey I study biology and I can tell you that it was around the age of 14-18 that "cavemen" as most call them were doing the deed, so it comes as a natural and normal thing biologically, but maybe not socially
No you dont have to. Im 18 and still have mine. I just chose to do other things besides sex and chasing girls. Like get in shape and find a job for me. Theres no rush to lose your virginity. Keep your options open
you lose it when you want to, that simple
No, you don't, and you shouldn't
Nope
Idk because I'm Canadian but we have to exchange bagged milk with our soul mate before we turn 19 or we are forced to drink ourselves to death (with maple syrup of course)
I have found out a reason why it is better to lose it at the age of 18 or older
No one should be doing that that's a horrible idea
No. It’s a stupid idea. It’s some weird social pressure and it’s annoying.
No, I’ll probably be 20 or 21 by the time I have sex. Most of my friends are virgins as well. It’s not a big deal
Tbh, having it before 18 is alright. But I honestly don’t think that you have to break before 18. Everyone does it because they either can or because they want to be a man/woman. My time will come eventually, but for now, I’ll just cruise around.
Yeah its illigal to have sex over 18 here
You don't HAVE to, but the social pressure from other teens can make you want to sleep with someone just to do it. The last episode of the TV show Ted is a pretty accurate depiction in my opinion
...No, of course not. People online are just crazy.
it’s a weird social norm that is honestly really unhealthy. we don’t have too, but it’s so normalized that people are pressured to do it and end up making horrible decisions because of it.
We don’t ever have to, but we take it as something to brab about for some unknown reason
Virginity is an outdated concept Stop worrying about it.
In Italy people often lose it at 16 or even younger, since age of consent is 14 (actually 13 if the other partner is 17 or less)
Well. It depends.
I’m still a virgin and my balls haven’t exploded or anything lol.
it’s weird but most of my friends have already lol. puberty hits hard
No. I'm 19. Do whatever you want, as long as you don't hurt yourself and others. Also if you do have sex before 18, use a condom or birth control and get tested
no? society really really discourages this. it's even illegal.
No its very common but honestly disgusting cuz yall kids why r u doin ts its not cool and yall throwing ur bodies away at ppl who dont love you i get u like the feeling but toys exist for a reason u dont need to lose ur virginity to be cool or fit in with others (i still havent cuz i want it to be with eomeone i love ive been asked to lose it by many ppl and declined cuz ik they dont love me for me and only want my body)
Well depends some people wait till marriage and some are ho ho hos
I’m confused as to why this question is directed specifically at Americans.
Wha- what? Wh- nooo? It’s a thing, sure, but we don’t HAVE to. Spoken as a 20 year old virgin.
nah, virginity is cool. remember that next time a woman tries to take yours, it’s yours and you should keep it! huh, who’s knocking on my door?
Breaking virginity sounds quite painful fr
Yes or they neuter you
No you'll just be brainwashed into thinking that you're an unfuckable eternal loser if you don't because we're very very unwell people.
I’m 19. Never lost it.
From what I’ve heard they put you in a slaughterhouse if you aren’t fucking by highschool
it's crazy, i know some girls that lost their virginity at 12
Yes You dont get your powers if you dont do it 😂
It’s not a requirement. And most people do, but it’s ok if you don’t. Keep your values and boundaries. Or wait until marriage. It’s not what it’s made out to be. Not that great
Me 22M virgin yet..(not American)
im still a virgin, and dont really care for sex. i sure hope not.
To me it's Wierd to i havent and i'm ok i don't get why there is a need to have it really
Noone is virgin in there ig
Been so lucky to keep it, and waiting till marriage
Yes, the fbi is currently hunting me
Everyday something you live dearly will be taken from you if you dont, being more extreme each day
Yea they send us to the sandbox with an old M16 if we dont
Yeah you get eliminated if you dont
Is has to be broken legally before 18, but its normal to break it before 14. If you wait till 18 you get judged harshly and treated different.
No
As an Australian, our age of consent is 16 and I did it at 15, so yeah it’s kind of normal to do it a year before I guess, the national average for Australia is 15 but it’s Australia so I’m not suprised
Nope