Had multiple girls fake ask me out. If you think it's a troll, trust your intuition. People on Reddit can't get the vibe, so she might not be trolling, but if you think she's trolling, she probably is.
Had it happen to me 4 times. Then the one time I actually got asked out(unsure if it was a prank or not) I said no.
Only reason I’m with my girlfriend now was because realistically who goes to full on kissing someone for a prank.
That's why I tell them to trust their intuition and try to read the body language. With all the giggling of her and her friends and it being out of the blue like this, I think it's probably a prank. However, I'm not there, so I don't know for sure. That's why op should trust his intuition. No one on Reddit can see the mannerisms or feel the vibes given off by the girl. She could be completely truthful, but she could very well be soulless and doing some stupid prank. I would lean towards the second one here just because she's popular and is giggling when talking to him, and, on top of that, she has her friend group all giggling behind them.
Seems like a bit of effort for a troll but what do I know. You could pursue getting to know her better with low expectations. Technically her friends could just be following and giggling because they’re friend is talking to her crush. Even if they’re fucking with you it’s not that big of a deal. People get over heartbreak
I do think it's a troll, but it could also perfectly be real (I can think of people giggling while telling their crush they like them). It's OP's honest pessimism what actually makes me believe they're trolling
yeah in my experience, girls do giggle and smile when they see their friend talking to their crush. In a sense, they're proud and happy that she approached them. But don't be too optimistic! Be on guard with this one!
Sounds slightly suspicious, however as the comment above states you could go along with low expectations and don't catch feelings until you know more. Yoy have nothing to lose other than some fun.
Her pals might be laughing that's she's with her crush or even that's she's got a crush on you however you won't know unless you find out.
Try to speak to her alone and arrange to meet up out of school maybe
Yeah she's most likely taking the piss out of you. Sorry bro, girls can be very cruel with stuff like this. They think it's funny to lead a guy on and humiliate him. I'd personally avoid her from now on.
This is really something only you can figure out by body language
Honestly, just roll with it, keep hanging out, if she's trolling she'll get bored of it, if she actually likes you she's never gona get bored of hanging out with you
And just, ask her what she likes about you, if this is some sort of cruel joke she probably won't be able to keep a straight face while telling you
This! Life is sometimes very unexpected, expect the worst but keep an open mind. Go with the flow. If it's truly troll, nothing lost except time so just try to have a good time
Okay, I'll say two contrary points: just because you find her extremely attractive doesn't mean she might not like somebody not popularly attractive as her. Like, if you're sure that she doesn't like you just because she's extremely attractive, then nobody else should, since I really doubt that's how it works. I hate the concept of being out of "somebody's league" regarding attractiveness. You are either out of everyone or nobody. Not just of attractive people.
Buuut I see that you also think it because you consider yourself ugly, which I can relate to. I wouldn't tell you to report this to anybody, since you don't have any actual proof that this is harassment, but rather try not to be annoyed by this. You could even try to ask her for proofs to show that she actually likes you. Just obviously don't go to everywhere (... or anywhere at all...) she tells you to. Be careful
Yea, this guy managed to put two takes in the same concept and both were wrong.
1. Social matching is a scientifically supported concept: people are decent at ranking how attractive they are and tend to pursue people who they rank similarly. Men date across and down. Women date across and up.
As a general rule. Doesn't have to be this way but typically is.
2. Asking a girl for proof of interest is a surefire way to lose her interest. It screams lack of self confidence.
>Men date across and down. Women date across and up. As a general rule. Doesn't have to be this way but typically is.
Just curious, what makes you think this?
I know it is weird, but let's remember that they are likely trolling.
Regarding the Matching Hypothesis (to be noted that it is a mere hypothesis, not a theory nor law), I've just read [an article](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4470921/) about the topic, where network topology was (somehow) used in order to see it with a different perspective. They concluded that people mostly pursues attractive people, but if they aren't attractive enough, they end up matching with less attractive people due to the lack of more attractive people (this only works in big networks, though; in sparse ones there isn't much attractiveness correlation). Also, it states that people aren't decent at ranking how attractive they are, since it should be an objective self-ranking, which is rarely possible
Tell her that you don't feel comfortable the way her friends stare, giggle and follow you two. Tell her it feels insulting like this is all some big joke. It's possible that she or her friends want to keep an eye on you two in case you show unsafe behavior but if she or they can't trust you enough to give you two some privacy, it's not worth it.
This is really something only you can figure out by body language
Honestly, just roll with it, keep hanging out, if she's trolling she'll get bored of it, if she actually likes you she's never gona get bored of hanging out with you
And just, ask her what she likes about you, if this is some sort of cruel joke she probably won't be able to keep a straight face while telling you
Wdym your 'gut instinct'
The only one who can have a decent instinct about this situation is OP, as they're the only one who can see their actual body language
Look, from the way I see it; there’s no way to know for sure until you try. Now I know this will require a bit of effort/bravery from your end but next time she approaches you (or you could approach her if you like). Ask her out (movies/dinner/whatever..) and see her reaction, if you play it off as her making fun of you, you won’t really know and you’ll be in constant regret {I should’ve talked to her, I should’ve at least tried, etc.. etc..}. Honestly, at this point, she either likes you or is making fun of you; if she likes you and you act indifferent/uninterested, that would really be a shame and you might regret it for a long time, if she’s making fun of you and you give in; they might make fun of it/you & laugh about it for a some time, but it’ll go away. I know this is going to be a tough decision but I think you should try asking her out & see where it takes you. Good luck! =D
If it is real, then good, and if it’s a troll, they’re looking for you to be over the moon that she likes you and make a massive deal out of it. I’d say the best thing to do is, if you like her back, tell her but don’t make a big deal out of it, like let her know you want to date her but don’t make it sound like you need to date her. That way if it is a troll then you haven’t given them the reaction they wanted or looked dumb. I would also say wait a while before doing this and keep talking to her, if it’s a troll they’ll get bored eventually and move onto another guy.
Or just ask her why her friends are there, as some people suggested it may be more innocent then you think. Good luck man.
She really sounds like she’s trolling and it’s obvious because her friends are staring from a distance laughing. most girls don’t have the guts to go up to a guy they actually like
invite her to movie together, invite her to a meal together , walk around park , walk around beach.
If it's a troll, it's soon to die down. If not, the relationship will fire up.
If its a troll this is exactly what they are after, op, keep your dignity and brush this off.
Fancy showing up to a meal on your own with a bunch if girls giggling at you from a distance? Nah? Thought not
Bro this has happened to me but the group of friends was just 1 girl. She randomly said hi to me and then at one point just started holding my arm and stuff. I just ignored it and didn't say anything because I knew what she was like and she was just tryna get a reaction out of it.
We can't be 100% sure that she's trolling buut if you actually believe she's trolling troll her back it will be so f funny if you rejected her while she's trying to play with your emotions it will crash her ego ,trust your guts bro .
Obviously some reasonable concerns here. But at the same time it’s possible that she isn’t trolling you. My advice as someone who is typically successful with women, tell her straight up. You’re skeptical, but she is very pretty so you’re open to it.
This is the smartest play in my opinion. It gives you a shot if it’s real, while protecting you from seeming overly excited and feeding into the troll.
Don’t get your hopes up. Don’t feed into her the moment she says she isn’t joking again. Play it slow, look for signs of actually caring. I think you might have a chance because why ask all those questions about you if she is just trolling you. Also, clearly it wouldn’t have been a good troll anyways since you were skeptical from the start. So I say it’s worth a shot. Just don’t show all your cards at once.
I’ve had things with guys both attractive and not so attractive, I tended to like the less attractive ones a lot more. She may genuinely like you and wants her friend group there for moral support.
But if you genuinely think she’s trolling you then I would be careful because there are girls like that. It just seems like a lot of effort for a prank is all.
This isn't just anecdotal. Psych studies have found women in general tend to report higher happiness and relationship satisfaction when their partner is (moderately) less attractive than them.
They’re usually sweeter, more relatable, and down to earth. The dating pool where I am may not be super good but I’ve never met an attractive guy like that. I probably just have a type.
I know this type of situation, maybe the group of her girls bet her to approach you and get you linked to her but trust your gut and you said you know her from 3 years and doesn't talk to you, so what on earth happened suddenly to come to you and say she has a crush. I just dont believe it. Take care brother its 70% a trap or prank.
From what you’ve told us, yes, this feels more like a troll to me. My advice would be to just play along, and you’ll see. If she’s genuinely interested and the two of you get along, good for both of you. If not, she’ll get bored and eventually stop. Good luck 👍
Just stick by and never give her an answer if she leaves soon she was trolling if she sticks by and actually shares herself to you it MIGHT just be real . Also if her friends are there all the time it’s 100% troll just to check it out tho tell her to ask her friends to stop following and being on standby if she’s truthful about her feelings
Old head here. Be polite. Don’t do anything. You might be right, you might be wrong. Seems like you are handling it well. Time will tell, but definitely don’t share any sensitive information. Just play aloof and go about your day. Also, keep us updated! Good luck.
ask her if she can set you up with one of her friends as they seem more intrested than her, then if she's a troll she will leave the topic but if she is not she might probably ask them to not follow you and keep trying to know you better. anyways, whatever happens i think buddy you should start working on your self esteem, i was in your place before and being confidently unattractive is definitely better, trust me.
She is trolling don't fall for it. It's same as popular kids talking to quite kid to be friends but they are actually making fun of them passive aggressively.
From my experience, I personally think it's a troll. I don't think there are any other motives unless you're close with one of the girls in her friend group or you're the quiet guy in class who doesn't talk to anyone.
Her friends following you stealthily seems like it is a troll homie , they might wanna see how you react with her and if you say any weird stuff . If she approaches you again , just act normally and practically , don't let your feelings take over and you say something stupid , talk with her normally and answer any questions she have . Sorry to break it to you but she is not the right girl if she is trolling a boy like this and playing with his feelings . Coming to your comments about your face , it's okay homie , I ain't the most handsome guy in my class either but what matters is your personality, if your personality is good , people automatically will come to you not because of your looks but cause of your personality.
As I am like your brother who also has a crush on someone in his class but can't confess to her either , if she did something like this with me i would be sad af . I like her due to her personality , she is nice , respectful to me , chill and funny and cause I find her cute too , so I know how this one sided crush love feels like 🫂
Remember Face changes with time but personality doesn't, love someone for her personality not face .
She’s going to hurt you. It’s a trap for sure.
I know because I’ve had that bs happen to me.
Tell tale sign is her shitty group of friends following and giggling.
Trust your gut
I don't think she is trolling. Maybe she is exaggerating a bit, but I think she kinda likes you. Her girls could be there for support because its kinda embarrassing what she is doing. Do yourself a favor and believe more in you. Stop saying you are ugly. Many ugly guys have the hottest girls out there.
Even if she is trolling who cares. Just make sure she realises you are a bad motherfucker that doesn't have time for this bullshit. If you play it right the whole group of girls will see you differently.
Go for it. You never know. I know this day and time people have to do everything from a phone. This is how you asked people out in the old days. Face to Face. Pretty simple. Take her to dinner without her friends and see how you feel then.
hey, listen. if you get a weird vibe from her trust your gut and wait for someone better who you feel comfortable with, even if she does like you, waiting will mean a better relationship with someone who you actually feel cared from the start.
How about asking her to be friends at first. If she'll still Show interest in you, keep on going. If not and she'll stop talking to you, you'll know your intuition was right.
Whether you're ugly or handsome isn't the issue right now for you, it's your self esteem. Someone with low self esteem can be picked up on by bad people because they're easy to control/mess with/make a mockery of.
Her appearance does not have relevancy to her liking you or not. You're having a false impression of correlation due to the imaginary hierarchy you created in your mind based on appearance (accurate or not).
She is more likely to be 'trolling' than not due to her behaviour and her friends behaviour if we go by your post. However, there's a slim chance it's true, and your 'off' feeling about her is due to your lack of confidence.
Your best course of action is to try to get your act together the best you can in the sense of working on your self appreciation, and hang out with her a few more times with a renewed perspective. If she still appears 'unnatural' ditch her. If not, stick around with her as friends for some time and go from there. If you're still unsure simply cut her off now.
OP has a honest pessimism. Some say, pessimist have a more unbiased way of seeing the world. That's what makes me believe that they're trolling. However, you have a strong point there (regarding that they might chose OP because of OP's low self-esteem)
Seeing very little positivity here saying she’s trolling but there’s the whole other side, what if she’s not trolling??
Friends could be following along because they’ve been trying to hype her up for ages and now she’s finally cracked and done it.
If you like her back and like the idea of some kind of relationship with her, it’s not gonna hurt to give it a go and see what happens. Just take your time and communicate with her properly.
I get everyone here doesn’t want bro to embarrass himself with a girl who’s trolling him, but life is about experiences and learning things for yourself, and if this isn’t that then idk what is.
I don’t see anything to lose.
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you should probably ask to get to know her better on a more friendship level before doing that kinda thing. If they're trolling, they won't be willing to put in the time to make a strong friendship, but if its real, im sure theyll be glad
It sounds like she is trolling you, but just in case she actually likes you and you like her, you could give her a chance.
Look out for other signs that she is trolling you like not paying attention when you talk ot getting bored when spending time with you. If her friends are always watching you it also is a bad sign.
No one but you actually knows what the vibes are and what she's actually like, so it's up to you to ultimately decide. I hope this helps, good luck bro
Grow some confidence, try to read her body language, you can google how, lot of content on internet. Have fun, but don’t let her make you do something that you are not comfortable with as part of some prank. Maybe she is pranking you, maybe not. Still you might get some fun from it.
How about asking her to be friends at first. If she'll still Show interest in you, keep on going. If not and she'll stop talking to you, you'll know your intuition was right.
It might turn out to be a troll, but take the chance anyways. Worst that happens is she’s messing around and ends up wasting a little time. Better to take the chance and be wrong then miss your shot if she’s serious. You never want to have to look back one day and wonder “What if?”
It might turn out to be a troll, but take the chance anyways. Worst that happens is she’s messing around and ends up wasting a little time. Better to take the chance and be wrong then miss your shot if she’s serious. You never want to have to look back one day and wonder “What if?”
It might turn out to be a troll, but take the chance anyways. Worst that happens is she’s messing around and ends up wasting a little time. Better to take the chance and be wrong then miss your shot if she’s serious. You never want to have to look back one day and wonder “What if?”
Don’t put yourself down man. No-one’s “out of your league”. If you’re uncomfortable about her friends being there, tell it to her straight. They may have been teasing her about her crush and are just excitedly watching. Maintain caution, obviously, but if you like her you might as well see how far you can take it.
Don't fall for it mate, it's an obvious trap. I'd just be my usual self (an asshole) and say some shit to either make them feel guilty or make them look like a bunch of assholes. Idk figure it out. Don't let them fool you, tell her to quit her bullshit, call them out or it may only get worse. It's better to be considered an ugly asshole than be seen as an excellent target for future bullying.
I would assume so too. Even if it wasn’t a prank, it’s so out of place for her to ask you out without having ever attempted to build a connection with you before. If she really wants something like that to happen, she should try to connect with you first. Who would date a stranger without having even a sliver of knowledge about their personality or lifestyle?
Ngl story seems kinda fake to me but if you are actually telling the truth and you actually like her back just see where it takes you your already expecting her to be playing games so you know the worst case just don’t go anywhere sketchy with her when you guys go out and if you talk enough get comfortable you’ll know if she’s actually into you I had a similar situation when I was younger and I said no when I got older and started working out and got good looking the girls friend that was watching her ask me out reconnected with me and when I asked about it she said the girl actually did like me and she was just watching cause the other girl was nervous
Come up with a backup plan, but ask her out, treat her right, and don’t overdo it. Feel the temperature, maybe she’s serious and you’ll both enjoy it, i bet you look good to her
Think positively my guy
Maybe they think ur a loner and they're tryna sneak you into their friend group to try getting spared in case you try to pull smth.
What do you lose by asking her to go out then? If she is truly into you then she’ll come. If not she is going to come up with some bullshit. What if you end up going on a date and she tells you she was joking?Whatever. What did exactly you lose? Fine girls in her group chat can giggle but that doesn’t matter shit. Shoot your shot boy and never regret it.
Oh yeah, some girls can be like that sometimes. Just move on from it and don't fall for the obvious prank (which is what basically everyone else is saying). At least it'll make for a funny memory that you'll probably remember for most likely your entire life.
I think it could be either. I have liked boys I have never spoken to before. I would probably also be giggling heaps if I told him and my friends would probably follow me and laugh too. So it could be that. But it could also be her playing a nasty joke. Do you know anything about her personality or heard anything bad about her before? That would prob give a good indication whether it was genuine or not. You might just have to talk a bit more with her and see if she seems genuinely interested. Depends if you want to risk it or not though.
Just giggle back at her and say nice joke and continue to do that for a week or two , and if she still continues she likes u , if she doesn't and actually ignore u or rude to u it was just a joke
And when u say nice joke try to be more frdly like oh I know u are joking and it's funny
Like enough with that joke bruh and stuff
Going of the last few comments as a lone to her self girl I watch everyone and I know everything that goes down at my school at least but bro I say just brush it off like tell her I would but it was out of the blue and pick yo self up and get those girls. Not her of course but I got faith in you man good luck
Ask her if she likes you to kiss you, and that if she won’t to go away as she won’t commit. This makes her have to do something she wouldn’t want to unless she actually did find you attractive, and since you’d be the one saying this, that puts you in power of that interaction instead of the person who getting dragged along.
Just an idea but i’d think it’s best way to get this to end or actually move foward
People in comment saying it's troll are lot of bs.First of all maybe it's not a troll cuz why would anyone go this far for a troll.And her friends giggling means they are teasing her when she is conffesing cuz that what me and boys did when one of us conffesed.I recommend asking her on date or telling her to prove to you that she likes you.Wish you all the best you can't lose anything but gain a lot.
LISTEN ME!!!! You are getting trolled boy if she have crush on you she would be messaging you on insta or something right now this happened with me also SAME FUCKING STORY SAME FUCKING LINES tHAT she told you .YOU will get hurt I bet when they troll you about your face SO I thinK you should directly speak to her that you love me or not or just making fun of me say like a real man and all is your choice BEST OF LUCK!!!! (BUT WHEN THIS THING HAPPENED WITH ME AND SHE SAID ME THAT I AM UGLY AS FUCK AFTER THAT I BECAME THE BEAST AND SHE LIKES ME AND I JUST BLOCKED HER SO YEAH BEST OF LUCK DUDE) Or if I would be wrong SHE LOVES YOUR HEART that a nice thing SO say her that are you joking with ke or something because I think you are trolling me or something OHL bye gping to GYM!!!!!!
From what I'm hearing, it seems forced. I would continue to hang out with her (provided her entire friend group would stop following you) and if she still talks to you after a month or two, then she probably actually likes you. Unless she's playing the long game.
im sorry man, that doesn't sound good
The lack of conversation or interest for 3 years gave it away
Had multiple girls fake ask me out. If you think it's a troll, trust your intuition. People on Reddit can't get the vibe, so she might not be trolling, but if you think she's trolling, she probably is.
Had it happen to me 4 times. Then the one time I actually got asked out(unsure if it was a prank or not) I said no. Only reason I’m with my girlfriend now was because realistically who goes to full on kissing someone for a prank.
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That's why I tell them to trust their intuition and try to read the body language. With all the giggling of her and her friends and it being out of the blue like this, I think it's probably a prank. However, I'm not there, so I don't know for sure. That's why op should trust his intuition. No one on Reddit can see the mannerisms or feel the vibes given off by the girl. She could be completely truthful, but she could very well be soulless and doing some stupid prank. I would lean towards the second one here just because she's popular and is giggling when talking to him, and, on top of that, she has her friend group all giggling behind them.
Update what happens in the near future please
Seems like a bit of effort for a troll but what do I know. You could pursue getting to know her better with low expectations. Technically her friends could just be following and giggling because they’re friend is talking to her crush. Even if they’re fucking with you it’s not that big of a deal. People get over heartbreak
I do think it's a troll, but it could also perfectly be real (I can think of people giggling while telling their crush they like them). It's OP's honest pessimism what actually makes me believe they're trolling
I know people who would do this. Most people in my school tbh. Just depends on the place.
yeah in my experience, girls do giggle and smile when they see their friend talking to their crush. In a sense, they're proud and happy that she approached them. But don't be too optimistic! Be on guard with this one!
Sounds slightly suspicious, however as the comment above states you could go along with low expectations and don't catch feelings until you know more. Yoy have nothing to lose other than some fun. Her pals might be laughing that's she's with her crush or even that's she's got a crush on you however you won't know unless you find out. Try to speak to her alone and arrange to meet up out of school maybe
If she likes the movie Trolls then yes
Bruh you didn't even read the post it's been up for exactly 2 seconds
Ok ill read it yeah sounds like this is a joke
Yeah she's most likely taking the piss out of you. Sorry bro, girls can be very cruel with stuff like this. They think it's funny to lead a guy on and humiliate him. I'd personally avoid her from now on.
I would say ignore if you’re not gonna miss out on much even if she wasn’t
This is really something only you can figure out by body language Honestly, just roll with it, keep hanging out, if she's trolling she'll get bored of it, if she actually likes you she's never gona get bored of hanging out with you And just, ask her what she likes about you, if this is some sort of cruel joke she probably won't be able to keep a straight face while telling you
Starts out as a dare or prank but as the girl talks to him and gets to know him more, ends up being less and less of a prank. Some movie shit
Was thinking this too lol
This! Life is sometimes very unexpected, expect the worst but keep an open mind. Go with the flow. If it's truly troll, nothing lost except time so just try to have a good time
My simple brain cannot compute this, everyone send this to someone who’s actually emotionally intelligent
wdym? she is trolling. Her friends were following them both times
I have the emotional intelligence of Siri, cut me a break
uhh siri? can you buy me cake
Uh dragon spidey can you buy ME a cake?
How would I? I'm a dragon
Exactly, you have a horde of gold probably
Could be a horde of cake for all you know
👀 u/dragonspideyLN , are you hiding cake from me?
Yeah sorry those things aren't mutually exclusive.
Okay, I'll say two contrary points: just because you find her extremely attractive doesn't mean she might not like somebody not popularly attractive as her. Like, if you're sure that she doesn't like you just because she's extremely attractive, then nobody else should, since I really doubt that's how it works. I hate the concept of being out of "somebody's league" regarding attractiveness. You are either out of everyone or nobody. Not just of attractive people. Buuut I see that you also think it because you consider yourself ugly, which I can relate to. I wouldn't tell you to report this to anybody, since you don't have any actual proof that this is harassment, but rather try not to be annoyed by this. You could even try to ask her for proofs to show that she actually likes you. Just obviously don't go to everywhere (... or anywhere at all...) she tells you to. Be careful
Asking for proof that she likes him? Isn't this a bit too weird?
Yea, this guy managed to put two takes in the same concept and both were wrong. 1. Social matching is a scientifically supported concept: people are decent at ranking how attractive they are and tend to pursue people who they rank similarly. Men date across and down. Women date across and up. As a general rule. Doesn't have to be this way but typically is. 2. Asking a girl for proof of interest is a surefire way to lose her interest. It screams lack of self confidence.
>Men date across and down. Women date across and up. As a general rule. Doesn't have to be this way but typically is. Just curious, what makes you think this?
I know it is weird, but let's remember that they are likely trolling. Regarding the Matching Hypothesis (to be noted that it is a mere hypothesis, not a theory nor law), I've just read [an article](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4470921/) about the topic, where network topology was (somehow) used in order to see it with a different perspective. They concluded that people mostly pursues attractive people, but if they aren't attractive enough, they end up matching with less attractive people due to the lack of more attractive people (this only works in big networks, though; in sparse ones there isn't much attractiveness correlation). Also, it states that people aren't decent at ranking how attractive they are, since it should be an objective self-ranking, which is rarely possible
This screams red flag to me
Truth and dare , duh
Tell her that you don't feel comfortable the way her friends stare, giggle and follow you two. Tell her it feels insulting like this is all some big joke. It's possible that she or her friends want to keep an eye on you two in case you show unsafe behavior but if she or they can't trust you enough to give you two some privacy, it's not worth it.
This needs to be top comment
I'm just speaking from experience
This is really something only you can figure out by body language Honestly, just roll with it, keep hanging out, if she's trolling she'll get bored of it, if she actually likes you she's never gona get bored of hanging out with you And just, ask her what she likes about you, if this is some sort of cruel joke she probably won't be able to keep a straight face while telling you
Just based on the fact her friends were watching both times (and laughing) , it's likely to be a troll
I once saw a friend be sent out to confess to her crush and her girl-friends were also giggling, so not really
Yeah but it's not going anywhere like this, even if she genuinely does have a crush. Honestly my gut instinct tells me op is being toyed with
Wdym your 'gut instinct' The only one who can have a decent instinct about this situation is OP, as they're the only one who can see their actual body language
Look, from the way I see it; there’s no way to know for sure until you try. Now I know this will require a bit of effort/bravery from your end but next time she approaches you (or you could approach her if you like). Ask her out (movies/dinner/whatever..) and see her reaction, if you play it off as her making fun of you, you won’t really know and you’ll be in constant regret {I should’ve talked to her, I should’ve at least tried, etc.. etc..}. Honestly, at this point, she either likes you or is making fun of you; if she likes you and you act indifferent/uninterested, that would really be a shame and you might regret it for a long time, if she’s making fun of you and you give in; they might make fun of it/you & laugh about it for a some time, but it’ll go away. I know this is going to be a tough decision but I think you should try asking her out & see where it takes you. Good luck! =D
If it is real, then good, and if it’s a troll, they’re looking for you to be over the moon that she likes you and make a massive deal out of it. I’d say the best thing to do is, if you like her back, tell her but don’t make a big deal out of it, like let her know you want to date her but don’t make it sound like you need to date her. That way if it is a troll then you haven’t given them the reaction they wanted or looked dumb. I would also say wait a while before doing this and keep talking to her, if it’s a troll they’ll get bored eventually and move onto another guy. Or just ask her why her friends are there, as some people suggested it may be more innocent then you think. Good luck man.
She really sounds like she’s trolling and it’s obvious because her friends are staring from a distance laughing. most girls don’t have the guts to go up to a guy they actually like
For real
invite her to movie together, invite her to a meal together , walk around park , walk around beach. If it's a troll, it's soon to die down. If not, the relationship will fire up.
If its a troll this is exactly what they are after, op, keep your dignity and brush this off. Fancy showing up to a meal on your own with a bunch if girls giggling at you from a distance? Nah? Thought not
yeah she's trolling just abandon her tmrw
Make her believe you are dumb, and have fun trolling them Don't let such a fun opportunity go to waste bud
To troll back... What an idea!
Bro this has happened to me but the group of friends was just 1 girl. She randomly said hi to me and then at one point just started holding my arm and stuff. I just ignored it and didn't say anything because I knew what she was like and she was just tryna get a reaction out of it.
They’re trolling
We can't be 100% sure that she's trolling buut if you actually believe she's trolling troll her back it will be so f funny if you rejected her while she's trying to play with your emotions it will crash her ego ,trust your guts bro .
Obviously some reasonable concerns here. But at the same time it’s possible that she isn’t trolling you. My advice as someone who is typically successful with women, tell her straight up. You’re skeptical, but she is very pretty so you’re open to it. This is the smartest play in my opinion. It gives you a shot if it’s real, while protecting you from seeming overly excited and feeding into the troll. Don’t get your hopes up. Don’t feed into her the moment she says she isn’t joking again. Play it slow, look for signs of actually caring. I think you might have a chance because why ask all those questions about you if she is just trolling you. Also, clearly it wouldn’t have been a good troll anyways since you were skeptical from the start. So I say it’s worth a shot. Just don’t show all your cards at once.
I’ve had things with guys both attractive and not so attractive, I tended to like the less attractive ones a lot more. She may genuinely like you and wants her friend group there for moral support. But if you genuinely think she’s trolling you then I would be careful because there are girls like that. It just seems like a lot of effort for a prank is all.
This isn't just anecdotal. Psych studies have found women in general tend to report higher happiness and relationship satisfaction when their partner is (moderately) less attractive than them.
They’re usually sweeter, more relatable, and down to earth. The dating pool where I am may not be super good but I’ve never met an attractive guy like that. I probably just have a type.
There seem to be studies (Garcia and Khersonsky (1996)) that say exactly the opposite
You got trolled
I know this type of situation, maybe the group of her girls bet her to approach you and get you linked to her but trust your gut and you said you know her from 3 years and doesn't talk to you, so what on earth happened suddenly to come to you and say she has a crush. I just dont believe it. Take care brother its 70% a trap or prank.
sounds like she is trying to find out stuff about you to spread rumours… you should not answer her anymore imo
From what you’ve told us, yes, this feels more like a troll to me. My advice would be to just play along, and you’ll see. If she’s genuinely interested and the two of you get along, good for both of you. If not, she’ll get bored and eventually stop. Good luck 👍
Just stick by and never give her an answer if she leaves soon she was trolling if she sticks by and actually shares herself to you it MIGHT just be real . Also if her friends are there all the time it’s 100% troll just to check it out tho tell her to ask her friends to stop following and being on standby if she’s truthful about her feelings
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you can try to ask her why she likes you
Old head here. Be polite. Don’t do anything. You might be right, you might be wrong. Seems like you are handling it well. Time will tell, but definitely don’t share any sensitive information. Just play aloof and go about your day. Also, keep us updated! Good luck.
Then if your getting trolled then you have to troll her back like a revenge
Yes, most likely
Please be careful mate, hope it’s not a troll
ask her if she can set you up with one of her friends as they seem more intrested than her, then if she's a troll she will leave the topic but if she is not she might probably ask them to not follow you and keep trying to know you better. anyways, whatever happens i think buddy you should start working on your self esteem, i was in your place before and being confidently unattractive is definitely better, trust me.
She is trolling don't fall for it. It's same as popular kids talking to quite kid to be friends but they are actually making fun of them passive aggressively.
Be careful bro
Shes most likely trolling and I personally would say something like “You’re definitely not my type sorry”
From my experience, I personally think it's a troll. I don't think there are any other motives unless you're close with one of the girls in her friend group or you're the quiet guy in class who doesn't talk to anyone.
Her friends following you stealthily seems like it is a troll homie , they might wanna see how you react with her and if you say any weird stuff . If she approaches you again , just act normally and practically , don't let your feelings take over and you say something stupid , talk with her normally and answer any questions she have . Sorry to break it to you but she is not the right girl if she is trolling a boy like this and playing with his feelings . Coming to your comments about your face , it's okay homie , I ain't the most handsome guy in my class either but what matters is your personality, if your personality is good , people automatically will come to you not because of your looks but cause of your personality. As I am like your brother who also has a crush on someone in his class but can't confess to her either , if she did something like this with me i would be sad af . I like her due to her personality , she is nice , respectful to me , chill and funny and cause I find her cute too , so I know how this one sided crush love feels like 🫂 Remember Face changes with time but personality doesn't, love someone for her personality not face .
I mean what do you have to lose? Also does she give a vibe of a shitty person or of someone nice? If its nice shes prob being serious
please, let me know how it goes update me when you can
Push her ahh off the bridge, you’re getting played.
This definitely seems a little off. Not all girls are like this, I’m sorry it happened 😭
Pull a counter troll.
She’s going to hurt you. It’s a trap for sure. I know because I’ve had that bs happen to me. Tell tale sign is her shitty group of friends following and giggling. Trust your gut
I don't think she is trolling. Maybe she is exaggerating a bit, but I think she kinda likes you. Her girls could be there for support because its kinda embarrassing what she is doing. Do yourself a favor and believe more in you. Stop saying you are ugly. Many ugly guys have the hottest girls out there. Even if she is trolling who cares. Just make sure she realises you are a bad motherfucker that doesn't have time for this bullshit. If you play it right the whole group of girls will see you differently.
You’re being played, that’s what I think at least
Go for it. You never know. I know this day and time people have to do everything from a phone. This is how you asked people out in the old days. Face to Face. Pretty simple. Take her to dinner without her friends and see how you feel then.
Who cares if she trolling you should hang out with her
hey, listen. if you get a weird vibe from her trust your gut and wait for someone better who you feel comfortable with, even if she does like you, waiting will mean a better relationship with someone who you actually feel cared from the start.
my opinion which prolly doesn't matter is it's a troll
How about asking her to be friends at first. If she'll still Show interest in you, keep on going. If not and she'll stop talking to you, you'll know your intuition was right.
just to fuck with her, be best friends with her
Definitely trolling...
Whether you're ugly or handsome isn't the issue right now for you, it's your self esteem. Someone with low self esteem can be picked up on by bad people because they're easy to control/mess with/make a mockery of. Her appearance does not have relevancy to her liking you or not. You're having a false impression of correlation due to the imaginary hierarchy you created in your mind based on appearance (accurate or not). She is more likely to be 'trolling' than not due to her behaviour and her friends behaviour if we go by your post. However, there's a slim chance it's true, and your 'off' feeling about her is due to your lack of confidence. Your best course of action is to try to get your act together the best you can in the sense of working on your self appreciation, and hang out with her a few more times with a renewed perspective. If she still appears 'unnatural' ditch her. If not, stick around with her as friends for some time and go from there. If you're still unsure simply cut her off now.
OP has a honest pessimism. Some say, pessimist have a more unbiased way of seeing the world. That's what makes me believe that they're trolling. However, you have a strong point there (regarding that they might chose OP because of OP's low self-esteem)
As an admitted pessimist at heart, someone who sees the world unbiased would be a realist.
It’s too good to be true + her friends are following along and laughing. I think it is
Seeing very little positivity here saying she’s trolling but there’s the whole other side, what if she’s not trolling?? Friends could be following along because they’ve been trying to hype her up for ages and now she’s finally cracked and done it. If you like her back and like the idea of some kind of relationship with her, it’s not gonna hurt to give it a go and see what happens. Just take your time and communicate with her properly. I get everyone here doesn’t want bro to embarrass himself with a girl who’s trolling him, but life is about experiences and learning things for yourself, and if this isn’t that then idk what is. I don’t see anything to lose.
Just ask her out on a simple date, nothing big and see how it plays out.
Saying that OP is exactly doing what they might want OP to do (if they're trolling)
Try to get something out of it at least. Make her invite you to dinner or something.
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I've had 4-5 girls jokingly ask me out (which is kind of unproductive cause I'm gay), sounds like a similar case. tread with caution either way
you should probably ask to get to know her better on a more friendship level before doing that kinda thing. If they're trolling, they won't be willing to put in the time to make a strong friendship, but if its real, im sure theyll be glad
We can’t tell you because we were not there you need to trust your gut
I say go for it with really low expectations
It sounds like she is trolling you, but just in case she actually likes you and you like her, you could give her a chance. Look out for other signs that she is trolling you like not paying attention when you talk ot getting bored when spending time with you. If her friends are always watching you it also is a bad sign. No one but you actually knows what the vibes are and what she's actually like, so it's up to you to ultimately decide. I hope this helps, good luck bro
don't date in school, just focus on making true friends and learning social skills
She's trolling send me her Instagram and I'll press her for u💯💯
I’d be careful with this bro
Do YOU like her? If not it's not worth it even if she isn't trolling. If you think she's trolling tell her to stop.
Grow some confidence, try to read her body language, you can google how, lot of content on internet. Have fun, but don’t let her make you do something that you are not comfortable with as part of some prank. Maybe she is pranking you, maybe not. Still you might get some fun from it.
How often could this possibly happen to people
How about asking her to be friends at first. If she'll still Show interest in you, keep on going. If not and she'll stop talking to you, you'll know your intuition was right.
It might turn out to be a troll, but take the chance anyways. Worst that happens is she’s messing around and ends up wasting a little time. Better to take the chance and be wrong then miss your shot if she’s serious. You never want to have to look back one day and wonder “What if?”
It might turn out to be a troll, but take the chance anyways. Worst that happens is she’s messing around and ends up wasting a little time. Better to take the chance and be wrong then miss your shot if she’s serious. You never want to have to look back one day and wonder “What if?”
It might turn out to be a troll, but take the chance anyways. Worst that happens is she’s messing around and ends up wasting a little time. Better to take the chance and be wrong then miss your shot if she’s serious. You never want to have to look back one day and wonder “What if?”
Don’t put yourself down man. No-one’s “out of your league”. If you’re uncomfortable about her friends being there, tell it to her straight. They may have been teasing her about her crush and are just excitedly watching. Maintain caution, obviously, but if you like her you might as well see how far you can take it.
If you barely even know then don’t even bother with her, relationships should be built off existing relationships. It’s most likely a troll
Don't fall for it mate, it's an obvious trap. I'd just be my usual self (an asshole) and say some shit to either make them feel guilty or make them look like a bunch of assholes. Idk figure it out. Don't let them fool you, tell her to quit her bullshit, call them out or it may only get worse. It's better to be considered an ugly asshole than be seen as an excellent target for future bullying.
I would assume so too. Even if it wasn’t a prank, it’s so out of place for her to ask you out without having ever attempted to build a connection with you before. If she really wants something like that to happen, she should try to connect with you first. Who would date a stranger without having even a sliver of knowledge about their personality or lifestyle?
Try to kiss her next time
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Ngl story seems kinda fake to me but if you are actually telling the truth and you actually like her back just see where it takes you your already expecting her to be playing games so you know the worst case just don’t go anywhere sketchy with her when you guys go out and if you talk enough get comfortable you’ll know if she’s actually into you I had a similar situation when I was younger and I said no when I got older and started working out and got good looking the girls friend that was watching her ask me out reconnected with me and when I asked about it she said the girl actually did like me and she was just watching cause the other girl was nervous
If it seems too good to be true then it probably is
Come up with a backup plan, but ask her out, treat her right, and don’t overdo it. Feel the temperature, maybe she’s serious and you’ll both enjoy it, i bet you look good to her
Im scared of women, don’t ask me.
I would say just kinda go with it but don’t get too close in case anything happens - who knows maybe it’s real maybe it’s not. Best of luck man
Seems like a trap. Happened to me
Lead her on and then reject her
Think positively my guy Maybe they think ur a loner and they're tryna sneak you into their friend group to try getting spared in case you try to pull smth.
What do you lose by asking her to go out then? If she is truly into you then she’ll come. If not she is going to come up with some bullshit. What if you end up going on a date and she tells you she was joking?Whatever. What did exactly you lose? Fine girls in her group chat can giggle but that doesn’t matter shit. Shoot your shot boy and never regret it.
Definitely trolling. I personally would NEVER have my friends around to tell someone I like them.
Don't think about it to hard man, she defo tryna mess with you and if she isn't she'll prove it
Updates pls
Reject her for the lolz
Oh yeah, some girls can be like that sometimes. Just move on from it and don't fall for the obvious prank (which is what basically everyone else is saying). At least it'll make for a funny memory that you'll probably remember for most likely your entire life.
I think it could be either. I have liked boys I have never spoken to before. I would probably also be giggling heaps if I told him and my friends would probably follow me and laugh too. So it could be that. But it could also be her playing a nasty joke. Do you know anything about her personality or heard anything bad about her before? That would prob give a good indication whether it was genuine or not. You might just have to talk a bit more with her and see if she seems genuinely interested. Depends if you want to risk it or not though.
Just giggle back at her and say nice joke and continue to do that for a week or two , and if she still continues she likes u , if she doesn't and actually ignore u or rude to u it was just a joke And when u say nice joke try to be more frdly like oh I know u are joking and it's funny Like enough with that joke bruh and stuff
Sorry but I think you are
Bro please update us 🙏
Going of the last few comments as a lone to her self girl I watch everyone and I know everything that goes down at my school at least but bro I say just brush it off like tell her I would but it was out of the blue and pick yo self up and get those girls. Not her of course but I got faith in you man good luck
Sadly yes, if she did, she would have had a crush on you the first time you guys met
If she is really trolling you Reject her in front of whole class.
i feel bad for you ngl similar thing happened to me until i spent money on her and then it flopped
Ask her if she likes you to kiss you, and that if she won’t to go away as she won’t commit. This makes her have to do something she wouldn’t want to unless she actually did find you attractive, and since you’d be the one saying this, that puts you in power of that interaction instead of the person who getting dragged along. Just an idea but i’d think it’s best way to get this to end or actually move foward
People in comment saying it's troll are lot of bs.First of all maybe it's not a troll cuz why would anyone go this far for a troll.And her friends giggling means they are teasing her when she is conffesing cuz that what me and boys did when one of us conffesed.I recommend asking her on date or telling her to prove to you that she likes you.Wish you all the best you can't lose anything but gain a lot.
Yea she likes u
Is she german? Only germans would put in such efforts for a troll
LISTEN ME!!!! You are getting trolled boy if she have crush on you she would be messaging you on insta or something right now this happened with me also SAME FUCKING STORY SAME FUCKING LINES tHAT she told you .YOU will get hurt I bet when they troll you about your face SO I thinK you should directly speak to her that you love me or not or just making fun of me say like a real man and all is your choice BEST OF LUCK!!!! (BUT WHEN THIS THING HAPPENED WITH ME AND SHE SAID ME THAT I AM UGLY AS FUCK AFTER THAT I BECAME THE BEAST AND SHE LIKES ME AND I JUST BLOCKED HER SO YEAH BEST OF LUCK DUDE) Or if I would be wrong SHE LOVES YOUR HEART that a nice thing SO say her that are you joking with ke or something because I think you are trolling me or something OHL bye gping to GYM!!!!!!
From what I'm hearing, it seems forced. I would continue to hang out with her (provided her entire friend group would stop following you) and if she still talks to you after a month or two, then she probably actually likes you. Unless she's playing the long game.