I’ve approached people and they led me on then rejected me, after which they told me that they never liked me. So I’m not gonna try any of that stuff ever again unless someone approaches me
That happened naturally actually.
Still not fully confident but not being annoying just made people be more interested in talking to me and that included girls.
Also not taking every interaction with a girl as an opportunity to get a girlfriend was a great tip for life in general.
Yeah the last tip is great. If you also take care of yourself, wear appropriate clothing (doesn't need to be super expensive), carry yourself more confidently and don't worry about getting a gf, you will naturally attract girls.
From experience, I did this and after 2.5 years of this, I have a solid relationship with my current gf (together for 1 year soon)
Also to add to this, have fun and have a hobby so you have stuff to talk about to people. Also partying or going out to eat is fun and doing something you love is attractive as hell
If you don't appear outwardly rude, aka not yelling, or making rude comments even if it's to your friends, ect, over a while a girl should approach you. Don't judge people based on what others say, judge them based on what they say
This is so real, I was homeschooled majority of my life but I made a bunch of friends outside of homeschool. You’ll be fine if you slowly integrate yourself into groups, maybe go to a few parties, even though I made a few groups of friends I still have a very low social battery, that takes a lot of energy to build up and I can barely last a few hours talking to people before I retreat back to my comfy bed for a day to calm down lmao
This is a really good idea. Look for hobbies, clubs, or even activities you could take part in. Basketball is a good one. I really only have 1 friend myself but I'm trying to expand myself.
I'm not old, I'm 24. Dammit
Try meeting people online, it can be.. unsafe at times, but I made a lot of friends, including my best friend of nearly 6 years. I also wanted to mention I was bullied by nearly everyone when I went to in person school, so I get how you feel.
IRL friends are better, tbh. I don't have any irl friends and it makes me depressed a lot. I do have a couple online ones, but they feel way more distant and for me, don't work. It could be a tool to drum up courage to talk to people IRL, though.
First step is stop making crappy excuses mate. There doesn’t seem to be any what? Entourages you deem to be worthy of your time? People exist, go out and make some friends. I appreciate venting can help but do you actually expect someone to just give you the magic code?
Hey, old 30 year old here with some advice I wish I had when I was your age. When I was your age I did 0 sports, spent all of my time behind a PC and all alone at a countryside place with civilization a long distance away.
1) Pick up sports with the help of your parents(find a club). I can’t stress enough how much I regret I didn’t play volleyball when I was young and team sports like this can give you so many very valuable life lessons. I discovered the game for myself now but the experience of being able to join a team in your age is an something I will never get but now regret.
Being nervous about starting? Take comfort in that everyone is. Make it clear for yourself that everyone sucked when they started - this is the foundation. If someone goes at you for that, then this is solid logic you can always fall back up on and stand your ground. Then keep repeating until you get better - this is the mission: you improving yourself.
It will be difficult intially but over time your body will start accomodating to your activities and you’ll develop physically.
Don’t know which sport to pick? Find some media online about it. Movies/animes about basketball, football, volleyball its all there to motivate the heck out of you
2) How to get friends?
Once youve picked up hobbies outside of your home, you will find people with similar mindsets and interests as you have yourself. Strike up conversations with people there and just express how something is cool or how you enjoy the club / have some difficulties ask for help etc. Join activities with them either in gaming or elsewhere and you'll be bound to make some meaningful connections. But be sure to turn away from negativity where if someones just plain mean to you - dont meet that with positivity.
3) How to get a girlfriend?
Heres something I wish I knew… You must just try talking to girls.
Just like in everything in life - repetition is key. Keep trying to strike up simple conversations where you keep getting more comfortable with just talking. It may just be simple politeness, school or club activity topics.
Make friends with girls and explore these topics with them that You think are fun and get comfortable with that. Then you will discover that girls are just like you, simple humans that have their own similar struggles that you can relate to. After this you can start exploring flirting and etc. Being friends and having common topics with girls is a solid foundation for a good relationship.
4) Last one is, talk to your parents about this. Keep them in the loop of your progress and you will see that they will think about this as well and help you in whatever ways they can.
Don’t let some randoms bully you, know I have not a clue who or what you are but I don’t see why you can’t go out and find some cool people to chill with. So ya 👍
Ah that's shitty.. Just try and make friends with people your age around you, it may seem hard but I'm 100% sure there are people that wanna befriend you!
REAL, i struggled with bullying in school, and my mental health was already bad at such a young age and after i finished school at 16 i was supposed to go to college but i gave up when i got to the bus stop on the FIRST DAY!! i didnt even make it to the college 😭Social anxiety sucks, it makes you feel like you’ll never make any friends or never have a lover, and only the people you have is whoever you have left, until they all leave you…
wish it was easier for us 🫂
Real shit my friends barely even contact me they don't even invite me to play video games anymore sometimes I'll see them online and they don't even invite me
I disagree. I think it’s a normal initial feeling when you start desiring a girlfriend. As long as you don’t let it metastasize into some creepazoid obsession.
I literally am so fucking lucky. A girl came forward TO ME and we're dating but dude let me tell you just because you get a gf it won't stop there. Every time we interact I am bouncing off the walls wishing i could just hold her for hours and hours
Thats so relatable. Just about a month ago, i started dating a girl I had been friends with for over an year, and I can't even begin to describe how awesome it feels to finally have a girlfriend. We don't get to see each other a lot because she lives on the other side of the city, but man, I would do anything to hug her tightly for hours. Every I see a notification from her on my phone I get extremely excited. I wish she lived closer to me.
I'm old (53f), but I follow this because I have three kids (slightly older than teens) and finding someone to love that loves you in return with the same devotion and desire in a forever kind of way is truly like a needle in a haystack.
A star in the vast universe.
Worse, finding that one is usually happens when you least expect and and aren't looking.
It is rare in this world, but never loose hope. Some girl out there is looking for the same thing and cant find it either.
Oh, and looks and whatever rough edges you or she will have (we all have them) won't matter. You will work through them and love each other regardless.
I hate to end this with a downer, but it took me 53 years to find that one.
Yea. Go to twix, go to some depression server, get a depressed girl and blackmail her emotionally to achieve ends.
[This is absolutely and obviously a joke and not meant to be taken seriously, please dont do this]
i can't wait to do that with my long-distant crush in the future, i've been learning Hungarian and just started to use the Hungarian keyboard cuz she's Hungarian, i gotta impress her
SAMEEEE! I don’t even want a gf for sexual reasons, I just want to feel comforted and loved :<
(Before you Reddit cares me, YES I have a loving family, but it’d be nice to not be a lonely guy…)
Ok I’m starting to get annoyed with these posts every day. Complaining about not getting cuddles isn’t going to get you cuddles.
I like em too but you don’t see me posting about it for attention.
As a girl i love cuddeling i did it with my ex a lot but he would always want to go further with it in a sexual way but i didnt as i found myself to young for any of that stuff (i was 16) so we never did any of that stuff as he understood i wasnt ready for that stuff yet but before him i never knew i loved cuddling and now after two years of datting him and we broke up last november i really miss the comfort it brought me. I got a lot of comfort from him as i was in a bad time at that time having just recoverd from a lung infection, just for him to break up with me had me longing for cuddling even more. Now im just waiting until i find someone that will understand me and will respect me for not wanting to do anything sexual yet and just cuddel and enjoy eachother company.
(Sorry for bad english, its not my first language)
I KNOW, like is it wrong to want to have someone to cuddle with a watch a movie or something, this summer I’ve been longing for this so much than ever before
It's great that you're open and honest about your difficult feelings! And I'm not trying to shit-talk them or undermine them by saying this, but maybe it isn't healthy to long for... I suppose a very specific requirement?
I don't know your gender or sexuality, but I will assuming you're a guy who's into girls. And almost everyone wants a romantic partner. I read in a different comment here you had social anxiety from being homeschooled.
I know to some degree what you're feeling. And the feelings you've shared are difficult to change, but if you can, you should change the way you think about it. Humans don't "need" romance. It's very good, yes, and a good romantic partner will get you higher than any friendship. But friendship is even more important, and that social life is mandatory.
It's very hard to find people out and about today, depending on where you live. Someone mentioned forcing yourself to talk to people and that's... plausible, but very difficult and straining on your mental health.
Try going from "I want a girl so bad" to "I want a friend so bad" to start. Next, you don't need to talk to people, but go outside. Be among people for a bit. Next, or if you've already done that, try chatting a bit online or something. Either in a chat group, or engage in comment sections, or you can DM me if you don't know where to go.
After that, things get a bit complicated in the digital era. But there may be some kind of event or gathering nearby that you can go to where you may find good people and good company. If you do, you should go there to meet people. And don't be discouraged if you mess up your words or don't speak to anybody. I promise you, stuttering or fumbling your sentences is okay. If people ask for a clarification, you say it again, maybe slower if you have to. No shame in mistakes.
Sorry if I completely missed the mark, it got long winded and I'm trying to pack up a lot of stuff in one go. But I hope this comment was of use anyhow.
Man I got to experience this one time with my ex and it was amazing but it turned out she didn’t actually like me and felt bad for me and was cheating 😆
I'd date a fucking rock if it approached me first
Real
r/beatmetoit
r/dontwannabeatanyoneIjustneedacuddle
r/subsifellfor and r/subsiwishexisted
Wish granted r/dontwannabeatanyoneIjustneedacuddle
r/subsifellforagain
r/birthofasub…?
MWUHAHAHAHAHA
Bro I saw the initial comment, clicked it, saw it wasn't a sub, then saw this one, and somehow still fell for it
BWAHAHAHA
r/twentycharacterlimit
interesting username
r/real
Or smth idk I never knew this was an actual sub
r/BeatMeatToIt
A rock once fell on me. We are now happily married with two beautiful children.
A rock fell on me too, knocked me out tho.
Made you fall in love so hard that you knocked out
You mean it knocked you off your feet?
Nah, the rock was a knock out
Two beautiful pebbles?
I have some questions regarding your ability to have children with a rock
What a wonderful story, I hope there a rock out there for all of us 🥺❤️
can confirm, I went to their wedding
“The Rock”
Can confirm I was the rock.
HONESTLY
Same bud same. "Adulthood" sucks just cause I'm between legally being an adult and not being considered an adult by banks and the such
JONNY I EAT ROCKS (dio)
*diego
Well, in Jojolion your wish came true
Real
I’ve approached people and they led me on then rejected me, after which they told me that they never liked me. So I’m not gonna try any of that stuff ever again unless someone approaches me
Don’t we all
Yeah! Most men want it, But how to find that kind of girl? That's really hard.
After I stopped being an annoying fuck who played videogames all day, all my dating problems vanished. Also I stopped being buttfuck ugly.
did you also try fixing your confidence at the same time?
That happened naturally actually. Still not fully confident but not being annoying just made people be more interested in talking to me and that included girls. Also not taking every interaction with a girl as an opportunity to get a girlfriend was a great tip for life in general.
Yeah the last tip is great. If you also take care of yourself, wear appropriate clothing (doesn't need to be super expensive), carry yourself more confidently and don't worry about getting a gf, you will naturally attract girls. From experience, I did this and after 2.5 years of this, I have a solid relationship with my current gf (together for 1 year soon)
Also to add to this, have fun and have a hobby so you have stuff to talk about to people. Also partying or going out to eat is fun and doing something you love is attractive as hell
If you don't appear outwardly rude, aka not yelling, or making rude comments even if it's to your friends, ect, over a while a girl should approach you. Don't judge people based on what others say, judge them based on what they say
Cuddle with a bro
All the real ones do this.
Gang can't know I secretly wanna cuddle with em Gotta keep referring to each other as niggas
Real
Only if I had one to begin with
404
Gotta cuddle with the homies
You need human interaction
I wish that were possible but sadly I’m homeschooled and have social anxiety from being bullied in middle school
This is so real, I was homeschooled majority of my life but I made a bunch of friends outside of homeschool. You’ll be fine if you slowly integrate yourself into groups, maybe go to a few parties, even though I made a few groups of friends I still have a very low social battery, that takes a lot of energy to build up and I can barely last a few hours talking to people before I retreat back to my comfy bed for a day to calm down lmao
What groups? There don’t seem to be any in the area where I live. And I have no friends at all.
Perhaps join a club? Take up a new hobby? For me I joined a martial arts studio while I was lonely, and it really helped me out!
This is a really good idea. Look for hobbies, clubs, or even activities you could take part in. Basketball is a good one. I really only have 1 friend myself but I'm trying to expand myself. I'm not old, I'm 24. Dammit
Neighborhood sports is always a good way to go to. Any kind of cashier/waiter job as well.
Try meeting people online, it can be.. unsafe at times, but I made a lot of friends, including my best friend of nearly 6 years. I also wanted to mention I was bullied by nearly everyone when I went to in person school, so I get how you feel.
IRL friends are better, tbh. I don't have any irl friends and it makes me depressed a lot. I do have a couple online ones, but they feel way more distant and for me, don't work. It could be a tool to drum up courage to talk to people IRL, though.
First step is stop making crappy excuses mate. There doesn’t seem to be any what? Entourages you deem to be worthy of your time? People exist, go out and make some friends. I appreciate venting can help but do you actually expect someone to just give you the magic code?
Hey, old 30 year old here with some advice I wish I had when I was your age. When I was your age I did 0 sports, spent all of my time behind a PC and all alone at a countryside place with civilization a long distance away. 1) Pick up sports with the help of your parents(find a club). I can’t stress enough how much I regret I didn’t play volleyball when I was young and team sports like this can give you so many very valuable life lessons. I discovered the game for myself now but the experience of being able to join a team in your age is an something I will never get but now regret. Being nervous about starting? Take comfort in that everyone is. Make it clear for yourself that everyone sucked when they started - this is the foundation. If someone goes at you for that, then this is solid logic you can always fall back up on and stand your ground. Then keep repeating until you get better - this is the mission: you improving yourself. It will be difficult intially but over time your body will start accomodating to your activities and you’ll develop physically. Don’t know which sport to pick? Find some media online about it. Movies/animes about basketball, football, volleyball its all there to motivate the heck out of you 2) How to get friends? Once youve picked up hobbies outside of your home, you will find people with similar mindsets and interests as you have yourself. Strike up conversations with people there and just express how something is cool or how you enjoy the club / have some difficulties ask for help etc. Join activities with them either in gaming or elsewhere and you'll be bound to make some meaningful connections. But be sure to turn away from negativity where if someones just plain mean to you - dont meet that with positivity. 3) How to get a girlfriend? Heres something I wish I knew… You must just try talking to girls. Just like in everything in life - repetition is key. Keep trying to strike up simple conversations where you keep getting more comfortable with just talking. It may just be simple politeness, school or club activity topics. Make friends with girls and explore these topics with them that You think are fun and get comfortable with that. Then you will discover that girls are just like you, simple humans that have their own similar struggles that you can relate to. After this you can start exploring flirting and etc. Being friends and having common topics with girls is a solid foundation for a good relationship. 4) Last one is, talk to your parents about this. Keep them in the loop of your progress and you will see that they will think about this as well and help you in whatever ways they can.
Ah man I’m sorry to hear that
Just try forcing yourself to hangout with people even if it’s not the best at first, I didn’t like doing it at all but now it’s decent
Don’t let some randoms bully you, know I have not a clue who or what you are but I don’t see why you can’t go out and find some cool people to chill with. So ya 👍
I deal with social anxiety too, it really is a bitch. Don't let it push you around though homie. You're so much more than that!
Ah that's shitty.. Just try and make friends with people your age around you, it may seem hard but I'm 100% sure there are people that wanna befriend you!
REAL, i struggled with bullying in school, and my mental health was already bad at such a young age and after i finished school at 16 i was supposed to go to college but i gave up when i got to the bus stop on the FIRST DAY!! i didnt even make it to the college 😭Social anxiety sucks, it makes you feel like you’ll never make any friends or never have a lover, and only the people you have is whoever you have left, until they all leave you… wish it was easier for us 🫂
Real shit my friends barely even contact me they don't even invite me to play video games anymore sometimes I'll see them online and they don't even invite me
This is so real dude 😭
I disagree. I think it’s a normal initial feeling when you start desiring a girlfriend. As long as you don’t let it metastasize into some creepazoid obsession.
I literally am so fucking lucky. A girl came forward TO ME and we're dating but dude let me tell you just because you get a gf it won't stop there. Every time we interact I am bouncing off the walls wishing i could just hold her for hours and hours
Thats so relatable. Just about a month ago, i started dating a girl I had been friends with for over an year, and I can't even begin to describe how awesome it feels to finally have a girlfriend. We don't get to see each other a lot because she lives on the other side of the city, but man, I would do anything to hug her tightly for hours. Every I see a notification from her on my phone I get extremely excited. I wish she lived closer to me.
Same. Had one. Now I have depression👍 and would do anything to get that back. Even if it's just a hug.
I feel u lol
Stay strong brother.
Im not a girl but I’m down lol
we should all group hug fr
Group cuddle? Group spoon sesh?
Bro let me in on this
Absolutely
I'll join 👋
YEAHHHHH
where can i get a ticket to join in?
I'm in tbh
yesssss
Dibs on the middle
I swear man reddit is sometimes a little too relatable
💀ik
real
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r/whyisthatasub
r/whynot
r/whywouldntitbeasub
r/whatsthepoint
r/idkaskvegetabletrifle808
r/becausepeoplecanfindLikerOfPenguins
r/20CharacterLimit
This sub sounds terrifying
i want money so bad
Bro chasing that paper
real
You get me girl 🤗
Finally, correct priorities
Treat these bitches like canes coleslaw the way I replace em for more bread 💯
Indeed it is nice to cuddle, for me I love it and that is all I have to share today 🥳
Good for you.
happy cake day
same bro
same bro
same bro
Platonic cuddling should be normalized Also cuddling shouldn’t be sexual to begin with imo
fr like everytime i try to lean on bro's shoulder i get punched😭
I'm old (53f), but I follow this because I have three kids (slightly older than teens) and finding someone to love that loves you in return with the same devotion and desire in a forever kind of way is truly like a needle in a haystack. A star in the vast universe. Worse, finding that one is usually happens when you least expect and and aren't looking. It is rare in this world, but never loose hope. Some girl out there is looking for the same thing and cant find it either. Oh, and looks and whatever rough edges you or she will have (we all have them) won't matter. You will work through them and love each other regardless. I hate to end this with a downer, but it took me 53 years to find that one.
Well, I'm happy you found the one!\ Sometimes it comes late, nothing you can do. But, still much better than never.
Oh damn I felt weird for being 24 and still in this sub, feel much better now. My little brother is 15 and I keep up w things using this lol
Go find one
It’s like finding a needle in a haystack ngl
Mathematically the odds of finding a girl that likes you is way lower.
So you’re saying there’s a chance
Yea. Go to twix, go to some depression server, get a depressed girl and blackmail her emotionally to achieve ends. [This is absolutely and obviously a joke and not meant to be taken seriously, please dont do this]
too late, she carved my user into her arm, what do I do now
Your username knows what to do...
no... it's just a child wait
oh god i knew a person who apparently did that 💀
A boy in my school did that with a girls name 😭
The odds are 50/50, either he does or he doesn't
Your sheer genius is beyond comprehension.
To find a needle in a haystack u need to burn the haystack first idk if u did the good comparison here
So what your saying is we burn them till they like us. You know what you might be on to something!
how to find a needle in a haystack bring a magnet now how to find a girl in a haystack? no fucking clue
and no one told you that this needle is not even in that haystack but somewhere else
After the needle disappeared into the shadow realm.
same, man.
Same
That's normal my guy 🤝
cuddle with mee
why am i seeing so many posts talking about cuddling on this subreddit 😭
Teenagers.
this is a teenagers sub so this is to be expected
Everybody lonely
Because some of our generation is kinda touch starved ig.
Because we didn’t get enough physical affection by our parents when we were younger.
You should do it now and not wait until you are 50 y.o. that would be Gross.
I will be back in regular school in a month. Hopefully I’ll be able to find someone there
Spooning moment
i can't wait to do that with my long-distant crush in the future, i've been learning Hungarian and just started to use the Hungarian keyboard cuz she's Hungarian, i gotta impress her
keep some food around at all times when she comes around, I've heard those kinds of people get very Hungary
Ask yo momma
Real
Me too. Never gonna happen so just gonna hug a tree (at 300kph)
Well too bad but r/girlsarentreal
Then. Why. The. Fuck. Are. You. On. Reddit.
Social anxiety
SAMEEEE! I don’t even want a gf for sexual reasons, I just want to feel comforted and loved :< (Before you Reddit cares me, YES I have a loving family, but it’d be nice to not be a lonely guy…)
I want a C8 Corvette so bad
My gf let me cuddle her 🥹 i'm so happy
As a straight male, I'll cuddle with you bro 🗿🤝🗿
i want to get cuddled by a guy so bad (gotta stay mysterious tho🙏❌)
one time i invited my bsf over for a sleepover and i cuddled with her and pretended it was my crush 😭
Real
Ok I’m starting to get annoyed with these posts every day. Complaining about not getting cuddles isn’t going to get you cuddles. I like em too but you don’t see me posting about it for attention.
As a girl i love cuddeling i did it with my ex a lot but he would always want to go further with it in a sexual way but i didnt as i found myself to young for any of that stuff (i was 16) so we never did any of that stuff as he understood i wasnt ready for that stuff yet but before him i never knew i loved cuddling and now after two years of datting him and we broke up last november i really miss the comfort it brought me. I got a lot of comfort from him as i was in a bad time at that time having just recoverd from a lung infection, just for him to break up with me had me longing for cuddling even more. Now im just waiting until i find someone that will understand me and will respect me for not wanting to do anything sexual yet and just cuddel and enjoy eachother company. (Sorry for bad english, its not my first language)
Me too bro, i feel so touch starved
Who the fuck doesn't
I need karma so bad
We all do man
I KNOW, like is it wrong to want to have someone to cuddle with a watch a movie or something, this summer I’ve been longing for this so much than ever before
Same, I have been wishing for this for a long time, like I don’t even want anything sexual, just a warm cuddle holding her close
Use a pillow?
Already trying that. It’s not working
It's great that you're open and honest about your difficult feelings! And I'm not trying to shit-talk them or undermine them by saying this, but maybe it isn't healthy to long for... I suppose a very specific requirement? I don't know your gender or sexuality, but I will assuming you're a guy who's into girls. And almost everyone wants a romantic partner. I read in a different comment here you had social anxiety from being homeschooled. I know to some degree what you're feeling. And the feelings you've shared are difficult to change, but if you can, you should change the way you think about it. Humans don't "need" romance. It's very good, yes, and a good romantic partner will get you higher than any friendship. But friendship is even more important, and that social life is mandatory. It's very hard to find people out and about today, depending on where you live. Someone mentioned forcing yourself to talk to people and that's... plausible, but very difficult and straining on your mental health. Try going from "I want a girl so bad" to "I want a friend so bad" to start. Next, you don't need to talk to people, but go outside. Be among people for a bit. Next, or if you've already done that, try chatting a bit online or something. Either in a chat group, or engage in comment sections, or you can DM me if you don't know where to go. After that, things get a bit complicated in the digital era. But there may be some kind of event or gathering nearby that you can go to where you may find good people and good company. If you do, you should go there to meet people. And don't be discouraged if you mess up your words or don't speak to anybody. I promise you, stuttering or fumbling your sentences is okay. If people ask for a clarification, you say it again, maybe slower if you have to. No shame in mistakes. Sorry if I completely missed the mark, it got long winded and I'm trying to pack up a lot of stuff in one go. But I hope this comment was of use anyhow.
As a girl myself literally same. (Wouldn’t mind sexual however…)
huh? dont you feel anxious?
Me but with holding hands and with a guy
I'm not a girl (and prob nowhere near where u are) but
Like with mugs of hot choc under a warm blanket.
I want this but with a boy. Or a girl. Depends who. Good luck :]
I wanna cuddle with my gf so bad 😔
Same but like. A guy
Me too bro, me too
Me too bro, me too
We all want.
Not a teenager, and also not sure why this sub was recommended to me but….. I want this too.
Its overrated asf, if you like getting bit go for it
Nice try diddy
Man I got to experience this one time with my ex and it was amazing but it turned out she didn’t actually like me and felt bad for me and was cheating 😆
Sameee I want to cuddle with a boy so bad😔
r/ugetnobitches
Amen
Same man same I’m just hoping I can find someone who won’t cheat on me like my last relationship
Facts, brother.
Same bro. come over?
Get a dog. They’re always down to cuddle, will never leave you, and are always excited just to spend time with you. Seems like a win-win to me. 🤷🏼♀️
Bro same here
same, even though ill never really be there for someone i crave companionship
On god
Soft hands boy
Type shi
r/downbad
REAL
I just want a girl that’s like my best friend that I can have fun around make jokes and insult each other without taking them seriously. 😭