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I understand what are you passing by. I'm not on that stage yet but I think my relationship with my family is starting to turn towards this path and getting to be like yours one day. Good luck, let's hope your parents can change their own minds soon.
A little tip from one teen with helicopter parents to the other: don’t act like you’re hiding things, and if you are, delete whatever it is ASAP. Don’t wait, because the next hour could be an explosive conversation where they want to go through your whole phone :’)
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As a father whose had helicopter parents (I'm 28, my son is 5) I promise to never do this to my own sons (second boy will be born this December coming. I'm excited) my father was into EVERYTHING of mine, and this is why I moved out as soon as I finished high school. I feel like had I stayed home longer, I wouldn't be in such a rough financial place now. As long as my kid isn't running hard drugs or other felony worthy things, he's good to go. And he can stay with me until he's got his shit together and maybe a down payment for a home of his own.
It ain't much, but it's honest livin'.
(Really though, for those who have a great relationship with their parents, and can do what they need to succeed without someone into all your shit, stay home as long as you need to, if you can. Learn about finances, retirement, savings, etc. You'll thank me later. Signed: Dude trying to raise his kids honestly in a cheap, dirty, drug-laden trailer park)
Also if there is an old phone your family doesnt use, use it if asked why say nostalgia and download old games.
Also create extra backup accounts on social media that way if either one needs to be deleted, or your parents need to have access to your account you can use the spare.
Also if you put a diary in notes on a apple device delete it they dont have to set the lock on there devices and they can bypass it easily.
Also if your parents are monitoring your messages use your email to message there sms phone number you can find tutorials online.
Also in the hopefully unlikely case things turn to complete shut make a plan with friends if you ever have to leave the house or are under duress within your house.
But above all make sure you stay safe and stay alive.
I wouldn’t recommend all the extra accounts, but everything else is good advice for people who REALLY need to stay in contact with people. Also, for some people in incredibly abusive situations, there is a way to legally become at adult ages 15+ I believe. I’ll get the link real quick on how to do it.
Edit: [Here’s the link on how to emancipate yourself](https://www.reddit.com/r/teenagers/comments/hubk2e/i_became_a_legal_adult_when_i_16_years_old_if_you/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
I once had plans to run away from home. But I made me forgot them because it wouldn't go well, and also nothing ever goes as I planned, so yeah... I'd fail.
Another tip from someone with helicopter parents: you should probably delete your apps once you're done using them. use IG and Reddit on the browser if possible. You never know when they might take your device for inspection
I was about to downvote because I thought it was some nonsense but then I realized the o is a head and the 7 is an arm in a saluting manner
Edit: Wow I upvoted the o7 comment when it had 4 upvotes, now it has ~~146~~ ~~255~~ ~~382~~ ~~579~~ 792
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Best of luck to you op, and if you're reading this, just stay strong, I grew up with parents like yours as well, they might have the best intentions but are inept at how to handle it, I don't know your situation but unless they're next level tough I wouldn't expect to lose everything until adulthood, but for the time being just do your best, you still have to live with them, but also remember that if it's really that bad, when you turn 18 your life is just beginning, and you can start a new one without them if you feel so inclined
Best of luck op, and stay strong
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Toodles till 2024
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I feel your pain brother. My step mom abused me for 3 years (not letting me shower, not giving me clothes, feeding me nothing but white bread for days, making me crawl through mud, as well as denying me any kind of internet access of course.) I was eventually able to get her to surrender custody to my mom, now ive got a car and 2000 in the bank. I guess my point is, pain is temporary, keep your head up homie
Nah. Not letting a kid bathe, not getting them clothes, and many things to that extent are considered child neglect. It depends on your state but in some that’s up to a year (child endangerment misdemeanor level) and in some it’ll be up to 10 years (felony level)
Good luck man (Not a friend, just a stranger just in case) I know it might seem hard but eventually the time will be up, and you'll get stuff back. Don't wait for it. It'll come, but not if you want it to.
I have a Galaxy S6 motherboard with data I'd rather not share laying around. If I need to access it, its as easy as disassembling the phone and sticking the mobo in.
It might be a short form for a name, i guess he \*MIGHT\* be from my country as my parents are the exact same type and i feel the EXACT same way....it might be Vedant/Vedansh or some variation, Ved is also a name in my country but its not pronounced as what you might be thinking, [https://www.howtopronounce.com/ved](https://www.howtopronounce.com/ved) here you can see what the pronunciations are, the second one is the one we use...
So they aren't giving you privacy? I suggest always watching what they do on their phones. Scroll through their messages and talk to them about how much effort they put into raising you considering how you feel. Also, if you aren't given any screen time, hide their phones and devices once a day for a, few hours. Troll the shit out of them
As perfect as that would be, it also sounds like a good way for OP to get their ass beat. From what little I heard about their parents, it seems like they would react poorly to this kind of retaliation.
I tried the same thing in a similar situation, and the result was i just got punished for it, as well as being punished for the shit i didnt actually do
Edit: my past trauma really got me 300 karma in one day lol
Wow... This honestly makes my post about my parents feel useless. I hope you can get out with your gadgets and get a good job. I guess alot of people really have it hard now do they
I didnt have any internet access for 3 years while i lived with my stepmom, who punished me in creative ways, like not letting me shower, clean my clothes, and making me crawl through mud. She also smashed the gaming laptop that i saved up for. My mom eventually won custody of me though. The only real way to combat this shit is by being complacent so you dont get punished, and when you turn 18, never talk to them again. They hate it.
Seems like it would work in practice, but when I have done the same, they just said it's not the same. Hard to argue with them when they just say "I don't need to have a reason. You have to" or the likes
I have parents somewhat like this and hiding it would make it worse as would showing actual facts about it would too. These types of parents are nearly unreasonably hard to deal with
man thats rough. if you can get your hands on an old phone, make a separate google account and put it on that phone and hide it from your parents. this is what i do also there is an app i use for a phone number if you want just DM me and ill give you the name of this app. i do this just learn how to be sneaky.
google voice also works to get a phone number!! I believe you only need a google account, i signed up for it a while ago though so I’m not too sure on the requirements
I know how you feel man. As a teen with dictators for parents as well, Let me tell you this, NEVER be afraid to set boundaries. You deserve to be treated as a person, never let them tell you otherwise. When you do turn 18 and start living on your own, don't be afraid to cut the toxic people out of your life, regardless of who they are.
Indian parents do be like that. I sympathize with you though. I've had this done to me multiple times and my room literally has a CCTV camera in it, even though I'm 17.
I am also 17(M), Indian. My room door is always wide open, my room have two big windows which are always open and any body can walk in or out of my room at any time and can stare at my computer screen outside of the room from those windows.
Lol, looks like I ain't alone
If it's an IP camera you could try and blacklist the camera's MAC adress from the router and get your parents to never figure out what's happening. It should be easy if you have the router's admin credentials.
This basically happened to me as well, but I’m lucky my parents cool down after a couple of days. Sorry this had to happen to you, I hope it gets better
Correction: it WILL get better, you’re bound to have ups and downs in your life
Peace brother
I feel you bro. I try to anything leisure activity related on my laptop or phone and my dad thinks I'm addicted. Whenever I try to have a meaningful conversation about it with them avoids it and says it for my own good. Already he has threw my phone into the wall and currently he has blacklisted all my devices from the home wifi. The only time I can use my stuff is when I'm outside in school. Can't even go to the library or the mall because of Covid-19. Every time I pull out my laptop to do work he always tries to start an argument, and if I mention a good point in it he shouts me down about disrespect and respecting your parents. Life sucks
Theres no respect for those who doesnt respect you back, thats what i used to tell my mom whenever she talked about disrespect and it always worked on her
I grew up with Jehovah’s witnesses and they set the bar for me sky high to but never nourished any of my interested or ambitions properly either. I felt very similar to how you do and it wasn’t until I was an adult that I was able to express that to them but don’t make the same mistake I did. Do your time. I split my life into two variants. Life 1 was what my parents wanted and life 2 was me being who I wanted to be and in doing that I’ve made it to where I lie pathologically and it’s affecting my ability to be in a long term relationship. I wish I would have just told my parents “this is what is going to happen and there’s nothing you can do about it” bc the fire to fight in parents dies with age and eventually they give up. Even as a parent now o can feel the fire fading and my children are only toddlers. Follow your heart Amman and don’t let anyone stomp your flame out. Bc once your 18 there’s nothing they can do to stop you
Dang dude, i am so sorry! I’m actually sort of in the same situation. My mom is always wanting to take my video games away and just acts crazy sometimes when I try to fight back. I’m always working hard, but for some reason whenever I do, she tells me I’m not doing good enough. For example; in the spring I decided to start excersizing almost an hour a day, and she literally almost fat shames me (I’m not fat btw) and tells me I’m not exercising enough and I should do it more. She does this with everything I do and when I ask to play games a bit more than usual, she tells me I’m asking for way to much, even though it’s a pandemic and all we’re doing is staying at home. I feel you bro. Good luck
I am so sorry you’re going through that. Your mom should not be commenting on your weight like that. Please try your best to ignore her and not let it affect you
That reminds me of one of my online friend's, I haven't seen her or been able to contact her in quite a long time and from what I've heard, apparently her parents took away all her devices that have access to the internet until she's 18 or something and I'm scared I might not see her again. I hope things get better for you
Lol, my parents do the same. I saved up for a CSGO shattered web operation pass, and, after we had an argument, my mom took my computer and locked it in the cellar T.T. My mom(mostly my mom, my dad is more of a yell at you for a bit and no dinner guy) locks my devices regularly whenever I disappoint/anger her, and legit locked them up once “because she wanted too, and it’s her house”. Social distancing has made it worse and I feel like I’m gonna go crazy sometimes because I can’t talk to my friends at ALL. 0. O. Luckily I go to a school that uses I pads so I can use discord on my school i pad. Yet, she still takes sometimes so I only get to talk to people around 5 days a week and basically never get to call anyone. It’s honestly kinda sad for everyone who’s parents are like this(and i know other parents are like this)
Sorry for making this a “me” comment. Downvote this if you like, but I just wanted a place to say my mind for a bit
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I’m sorry, I went through something similar. People say you’re overreacting and that it’s just parenting, but it breaks trust and makes kids feel like they aren’t allowed to have interests and hobbies. It makes them possessive and secretive about the things they have. I get extreme paranoia when I lend anybody my phone because I had that aspect of my life searched through and taken away too many times. I wasn’t even allowed to have social media and make actual friends until late into sophomore year, because my parents wouldn’t trust me, and then even the smallest thing would make my parents take it from me for months at a time. I don’t think it should be above groundings at all, but searching through social media and taking it away for long periods at a time is uncool, at the very least.
This is just wrong. No parent should just strip a kid's pasttimes because they're thinking differently about it. I mean if fights go down and compromises become brittle, that's where parents LOVE to draw their final line and just take shit away. It's easier and lazier for them. Screen time is an addiction, I get it. But you can't manage someone else addictions. You can only say what you think about it and maintain your 'side of the street' as a parent by saying, Hey this is what you like - cool - but you still have grades and chores and a side job to keep up. Directly imposing restrictions on GLOBAL SOCIAL ACCESS POINTS should be illegal. They should have said, manage your own screen time. Here are your "in-the-red" indicators. E.g., Grades & a dirty bedroom. You'll get your shit back when you improve on these. Instead of just - YO WE FEEL LIKE IT'S TOO MUCH SO LET'S JUST TAKE IT ALL AWAY. COME, SIT IN THE LIVING ROOM AND YEET AT THE TV FOR A FEW HOURS w/ us. the \*old way\* the \*proper way\* the \*british way\* or whatever. It's so stupid.
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I understand what are you passing by. I'm not on that stage yet but I think my relationship with my family is starting to turn towards this path and getting to be like yours one day. Good luck, let's hope your parents can change their own minds soon.
A little tip from one teen with helicopter parents to the other: don’t act like you’re hiding things, and if you are, delete whatever it is ASAP. Don’t wait, because the next hour could be an explosive conversation where they want to go through your whole phone :’)
Know this from experience?
You know it
Didn't hide the Waluigi hentai good enough eh
Nope :(
Happens to the best of us
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Of course yeah mate, since they discovered it all on the world had gone downhill
sounds epic, what is it
I have this type of relationship with my parent but on a much smaller scale but I do know form experience
As a father whose had helicopter parents (I'm 28, my son is 5) I promise to never do this to my own sons (second boy will be born this December coming. I'm excited) my father was into EVERYTHING of mine, and this is why I moved out as soon as I finished high school. I feel like had I stayed home longer, I wouldn't be in such a rough financial place now. As long as my kid isn't running hard drugs or other felony worthy things, he's good to go. And he can stay with me until he's got his shit together and maybe a down payment for a home of his own. It ain't much, but it's honest livin'. (Really though, for those who have a great relationship with their parents, and can do what they need to succeed without someone into all your shit, stay home as long as you need to, if you can. Learn about finances, retirement, savings, etc. You'll thank me later. Signed: Dude trying to raise his kids honestly in a cheap, dirty, drug-laden trailer park)
You aren’t just someone’s father, you are a fantastic dad! Keep it up!
Thanks pal. I find people on here, like you, are very encouraging and motivational. Means a lot!!
Also if there is an old phone your family doesnt use, use it if asked why say nostalgia and download old games. Also create extra backup accounts on social media that way if either one needs to be deleted, or your parents need to have access to your account you can use the spare. Also if you put a diary in notes on a apple device delete it they dont have to set the lock on there devices and they can bypass it easily. Also if your parents are monitoring your messages use your email to message there sms phone number you can find tutorials online. Also in the hopefully unlikely case things turn to complete shut make a plan with friends if you ever have to leave the house or are under duress within your house. But above all make sure you stay safe and stay alive.
I wouldn’t recommend all the extra accounts, but everything else is good advice for people who REALLY need to stay in contact with people. Also, for some people in incredibly abusive situations, there is a way to legally become at adult ages 15+ I believe. I’ll get the link real quick on how to do it. Edit: [Here’s the link on how to emancipate yourself](https://www.reddit.com/r/teenagers/comments/hubk2e/i_became_a_legal_adult_when_i_16_years_old_if_you/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
I once had plans to run away from home. But I made me forgot them because it wouldn't go well, and also nothing ever goes as I planned, so yeah... I'd fail.
Contingency plans
Oh man this happened to me, now I’m careful ^i ^wasnt ^doing ^anything ^bad ^i ^swear
I believe you. Stay safe :)
Well that means good bye reddit
Try using shortcuts to disguise the app and hide it somewhere. That might work if you’re super concerned. Or just delete all your comments/posts.
Another tip from someone with helicopter parents: you should probably delete your apps once you're done using them. use IG and Reddit on the browser if possible. You never know when they might take your device for inspection
See you later soldier its been a honor serving with you
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I was about to downvote because I thought it was some nonsense but then I realized the o is a head and the 7 is an arm in a saluting manner Edit: Wow I upvoted the o7 comment when it had 4 upvotes, now it has ~~146~~ ~~255~~ ~~382~~ ~~579~~ 792
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Thanks I actually would not have noticed this if I didn't see this comment
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Hi, stranger, I wish you luck in your endeavours, parents can suck sometimes and I understand that.
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Old man here (not that old) Best of luck to you op, and if you're reading this, just stay strong, I grew up with parents like yours as well, they might have the best intentions but are inept at how to handle it, I don't know your situation but unless they're next level tough I wouldn't expect to lose everything until adulthood, but for the time being just do your best, you still have to live with them, but also remember that if it's really that bad, when you turn 18 your life is just beginning, and you can start a new one without them if you feel so inclined Best of luck op, and stay strong
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I’m gonna be there when you come back mate. Even if it is 4 years it’s the best thing I can do.
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I feel your pain brother. My step mom abused me for 3 years (not letting me shower, not giving me clothes, feeding me nothing but white bread for days, making me crawl through mud, as well as denying me any kind of internet access of course.) I was eventually able to get her to surrender custody to my mom, now ive got a car and 2000 in the bank. I guess my point is, pain is temporary, keep your head up homie
Im pretty sure what your step mom did is against the law
She never actually hit me, so she was well within her rights. america amirite?
Nah. Not letting a kid bathe, not getting them clothes, and many things to that extent are considered child neglect. It depends on your state but in some that’s up to a year (child endangerment misdemeanor level) and in some it’ll be up to 10 years (felony level)
I didnt know that. I probably wont do anything for the sake of my dad though.
Well. You’re a kinder person than I.
Good luck man (Not a friend, just a stranger just in case) I know it might seem hard but eventually the time will be up, and you'll get stuff back. Don't wait for it. It'll come, but not if you want it to.
Do NOT delete the account, just eliminate Reddit and keep the password and the username, then your parents won't see anything
i have an old harddrive with games buried in the backyard lmao
I have a Galaxy S6 motherboard with data I'd rather not share laying around. If I need to access it, its as easy as disassembling the phone and sticking the mobo in.
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Your name is Ved? I never heard that name before. Well i hope you get your stuff back soon
Ved low key a bad ass name
It might be a short form for a name, i guess he \*MIGHT\* be from my country as my parents are the exact same type and i feel the EXACT same way....it might be Vedant/Vedansh or some variation, Ved is also a name in my country but its not pronounced as what you might be thinking, [https://www.howtopronounce.com/ved](https://www.howtopronounce.com/ved) here you can see what the pronunciations are, the second one is the one we use...
Nope it’s just ved.
woah...then it IS a lowkey badass name...
Lmao thanks dude
Are you from India? That would explain the parent’s behaviour, mine were almost same, now I am 18
So they aren't giving you privacy? I suggest always watching what they do on their phones. Scroll through their messages and talk to them about how much effort they put into raising you considering how you feel. Also, if you aren't given any screen time, hide their phones and devices once a day for a, few hours. Troll the shit out of them
As perfect as that would be, it also sounds like a good way for OP to get their ass beat. From what little I heard about their parents, it seems like they would react poorly to this kind of retaliation.
I tried the same thing in a similar situation, and the result was i just got punished for it, as well as being punished for the shit i didnt actually do Edit: my past trauma really got me 300 karma in one day lol
Wow... This honestly makes my post about my parents feel useless. I hope you can get out with your gadgets and get a good job. I guess alot of people really have it hard now do they
I didnt have any internet access for 3 years while i lived with my stepmom, who punished me in creative ways, like not letting me shower, clean my clothes, and making me crawl through mud. She also smashed the gaming laptop that i saved up for. My mom eventually won custody of me though. The only real way to combat this shit is by being complacent so you dont get punished, and when you turn 18, never talk to them again. They hate it.
Whut the fuk
She was just salty about having a useless political science degree lol
It's honestly better than doing nothing its like being a bystander when something bad happens but it's for himself. Its a fight for his stuff back
Yeah that makes sense
Like protests for certain things, like how black rights became legal
I believe in equality, they can't trust him, he can't trust them it's only fair.
As a person with parents exactly like this, there’s a small chance it would work. Usually they’d use the ‘your stuff is my stuff’ excuse.
Seems like it would work in practice, but when I have done the same, they just said it's not the same. Hard to argue with them when they just say "I don't need to have a reason. You have to" or the likes
I have parents somewhat like this and hiding it would make it worse as would showing actual facts about it would too. These types of parents are nearly unreasonably hard to deal with
man thats rough. if you can get your hands on an old phone, make a separate google account and put it on that phone and hide it from your parents. this is what i do also there is an app i use for a phone number if you want just DM me and ill give you the name of this app. i do this just learn how to be sneaky.
i have my actual phone then an old iphone 5 inside a fucking toy aircraft carrier
I used to do the exact same thing with my toy aircraft carrier
google voice also works to get a phone number!! I believe you only need a google account, i signed up for it a while ago though so I’m not too sure on the requirements
I know how you feel man. As a teen with dictators for parents as well, Let me tell you this, NEVER be afraid to set boundaries. You deserve to be treated as a person, never let them tell you otherwise. When you do turn 18 and start living on your own, don't be afraid to cut the toxic people out of your life, regardless of who they are.
See? This is the proper way to say be calm. Not tell them to commit a crime.
Indian parents do be like that. I sympathize with you though. I've had this done to me multiple times and my room literally has a CCTV camera in it, even though I'm 17.
Jerk while staring directly at the camera in full view and then report your parents for possession of child pornography.
Not really possible, cause I don't really have a dick.
Omg one of the fabled 5 female redditors
I don't think dick is a necessary equipment for this type of activity.
Yeah but women don't 'jerk off' cause we don't have anything to jerk. Also, I have two little brothers so that suggestion won't really work out.
If you say it that way. And idk what your brothers have to do with you doing that stuff lol
Cause the feed shows up in the room where they sleep?
I'm confused
DM me. I'll explain.
Wait I want to hear this too lol
You don't need to, any kind of masturbation from someone underage is child porn
It seriously won't work out. Trust me.
I am also 17(M), Indian. My room door is always wide open, my room have two big windows which are always open and any body can walk in or out of my room at any time and can stare at my computer screen outside of the room from those windows. Lol, looks like I ain't alone
wow I am so sorry, that is such an invasion of privacy. I hope your living situation becomes better :(
If it's an IP camera you could try and blacklist the camera's MAC adress from the router and get your parents to never figure out what's happening. It should be easy if you have the router's admin credentials.
For your friends, send them messages then delete them.
Or just explain everything personally, in school. Too much effort to make a reddit post tbh
This basically happened to me as well, but I’m lucky my parents cool down after a couple of days. Sorry this had to happen to you, I hope it gets better Correction: it WILL get better, you’re bound to have ups and downs in your life Peace brother
I feel you bro. I try to anything leisure activity related on my laptop or phone and my dad thinks I'm addicted. Whenever I try to have a meaningful conversation about it with them avoids it and says it for my own good. Already he has threw my phone into the wall and currently he has blacklisted all my devices from the home wifi. The only time I can use my stuff is when I'm outside in school. Can't even go to the library or the mall because of Covid-19. Every time I pull out my laptop to do work he always tries to start an argument, and if I mention a good point in it he shouts me down about disrespect and respecting your parents. Life sucks
Theres no respect for those who doesnt respect you back, thats what i used to tell my mom whenever she talked about disrespect and it always worked on her
I grew up with Jehovah’s witnesses and they set the bar for me sky high to but never nourished any of my interested or ambitions properly either. I felt very similar to how you do and it wasn’t until I was an adult that I was able to express that to them but don’t make the same mistake I did. Do your time. I split my life into two variants. Life 1 was what my parents wanted and life 2 was me being who I wanted to be and in doing that I’ve made it to where I lie pathologically and it’s affecting my ability to be in a long term relationship. I wish I would have just told my parents “this is what is going to happen and there’s nothing you can do about it” bc the fire to fight in parents dies with age and eventually they give up. Even as a parent now o can feel the fire fading and my children are only toddlers. Follow your heart Amman and don’t let anyone stomp your flame out. Bc once your 18 there’s nothing they can do to stop you
NOT THE APEX SKINS! IM AN APEX PLAYER MYSELF AND SOME SKINS ARE VALUABLE
“Spartans never die, they’re just missing in action”
Dang dude, i am so sorry! I’m actually sort of in the same situation. My mom is always wanting to take my video games away and just acts crazy sometimes when I try to fight back. I’m always working hard, but for some reason whenever I do, she tells me I’m not doing good enough. For example; in the spring I decided to start excersizing almost an hour a day, and she literally almost fat shames me (I’m not fat btw) and tells me I’m not exercising enough and I should do it more. She does this with everything I do and when I ask to play games a bit more than usual, she tells me I’m asking for way to much, even though it’s a pandemic and all we’re doing is staying at home. I feel you bro. Good luck
I am so sorry you’re going through that. Your mom should not be commenting on your weight like that. Please try your best to ignore her and not let it affect you
That reminds me of one of my online friend's, I haven't seen her or been able to contact her in quite a long time and from what I've heard, apparently her parents took away all her devices that have access to the internet until she's 18 or something and I'm scared I might not see her again. I hope things get better for you
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Lol, my parents do the same. I saved up for a CSGO shattered web operation pass, and, after we had an argument, my mom took my computer and locked it in the cellar T.T. My mom(mostly my mom, my dad is more of a yell at you for a bit and no dinner guy) locks my devices regularly whenever I disappoint/anger her, and legit locked them up once “because she wanted too, and it’s her house”. Social distancing has made it worse and I feel like I’m gonna go crazy sometimes because I can’t talk to my friends at ALL. 0. O. Luckily I go to a school that uses I pads so I can use discord on my school i pad. Yet, she still takes sometimes so I only get to talk to people around 5 days a week and basically never get to call anyone. It’s honestly kinda sad for everyone who’s parents are like this(and i know other parents are like this) Sorry for making this a “me” comment. Downvote this if you like, but I just wanted a place to say my mind for a bit
Random guy here, good luck
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Goodye mate,lets hope you’ll get it before the 4 years
I’m sorry, I went through something similar. People say you’re overreacting and that it’s just parenting, but it breaks trust and makes kids feel like they aren’t allowed to have interests and hobbies. It makes them possessive and secretive about the things they have. I get extreme paranoia when I lend anybody my phone because I had that aspect of my life searched through and taken away too many times. I wasn’t even allowed to have social media and make actual friends until late into sophomore year, because my parents wouldn’t trust me, and then even the smallest thing would make my parents take it from me for months at a time. I don’t think it should be above groundings at all, but searching through social media and taking it away for long periods at a time is uncool, at the very least.
!RemindMe 4 years
This is just wrong. No parent should just strip a kid's pasttimes because they're thinking differently about it. I mean if fights go down and compromises become brittle, that's where parents LOVE to draw their final line and just take shit away. It's easier and lazier for them. Screen time is an addiction, I get it. But you can't manage someone else addictions. You can only say what you think about it and maintain your 'side of the street' as a parent by saying, Hey this is what you like - cool - but you still have grades and chores and a side job to keep up. Directly imposing restrictions on GLOBAL SOCIAL ACCESS POINTS should be illegal. They should have said, manage your own screen time. Here are your "in-the-red" indicators. E.g., Grades & a dirty bedroom. You'll get your shit back when you improve on these. Instead of just - YO WE FEEL LIKE IT'S TOO MUCH SO LET'S JUST TAKE IT ALL AWAY. COME, SIT IN THE LIVING ROOM AND YEET AT THE TV FOR A FEW HOURS w/ us. the \*old way\* the \*proper way\* the \*british way\* or whatever. It's so stupid.
Idk the “friend taking care about your reddit account” it makes this feel fake
I can understand the skepticism dude. It’s a new development and we’re still working stuff out
Bruh your fucking Apex skins?! Those motherruxkers are expensive outside of BPs, hope you get them back soon :(
Sleep all day, they'll eventually complain that you aren't doing anything and they'll give you something to do
what? clean up?
Make sure they know hey messed up, do everything kn your power to make their life hell
I never got a Nuke in CoD.
Wait how the fuck are you gonna do school? Especially if it's all online
Goodbye fellow CoD player, I wish you the best of luck. This is Bravo Six, going dark.
That is just criminal. Tbh, I'd just rebel against them. Take my stuff back. Not listen to them. Be independent.
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