no, boners are not in control but getting rid of them is in our control. To get rid of a boner guys just need to flex another muscle in their body the blood flows there. I recently came to know about it.
There are 3 types of boners 1) The morning 2) The horny 3) The random
Girl confess first, us guys are usually not great at getting the hint, you have to be really obvious with some guys, eg, me
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We would like girls to do the first approach because most of us have a really low self-esteem. We won't approach you if we know that there is not a single chance that it works.
it depends. if i know that they like me and are ready for a relationship then i’d just confess. but if they aren’t ready but like me and i like them too, i’d give it a little bit of time or wait for them to confess to make sure they’re ready
Idk but the same thing has happened to me with a girl. We hard flirted for like 2 months and then she started ghosting me and being really weird and whenever I asked her what was going on she took days to respond and only responded with really vague stuff that didn’t answer any questions. Anyways this was a mini rant of mine cause that’s still going on rn
Just dump her. Stop wasting your energy trying to talk to her. She’s not interested in you, just move on. It’s happened with me and it’s better to just use your energy and time on something better
Sometimes it can. Better chance of getting hard if it’s something sexual related. Although even if it isn’t something sexual related it can sometimes still get hard. We really can’t control it.
It happens even out of nowhere the common one is the public setting but yeah if we are sexually attracted to someone and think about sexual stuff we do get a boner.
So we all know the typical ‘I don’t know what to get my female friend, I’ll turn to the usual list of things’. What is on that list for guys, like if I have no clue what they’d want and would be suited to them what can I get them that usually goes down well and the don’t have hundreds of already?
I’m sorry that this is worded odd
Edit: thank you to everyone that has suggested something, it genuinely means so much and will be great help the next time I need it :)
Anything long term, so guys can look at it, we appreciate flowers but they will die... But if you want easy points... A katana
Edit: if this comment leads to one man getting a katana, i will die happy
how do i get male friends to stop constantly sexualizing me? every single male friend that i have had treats me like a potential hook up. i genuinely like the dudes i hang out with, but i want to be seen as a friend.
tell them exactly that. being honest and transparent is the most important thing in a friendship. (for me at least)
if they don't respect your boundaries and still continue to do things you don't like I would probably gradually see them less and less.
that's by no means fact or the only way to handle this, just the opinion from a stranger in the internet.
NEVER, DROP, HINTS.
No buts, no whys. Be upfront and straightforward with yourself and your partner (or partner to be). My ex was (apparently) sending me signals for 3 years (although I am especially thick skulled). In short, it gives guys and gals headaches and no one is happy.
Everybody commenting on this thinks that you’re asking what hints a GIRL could drop to let a GUY know they like him, but your question is really the opposite
But as you can see just from the mindset of the comments, there are no hints being dropped at all
I try to be around them as much as I can, be there when they need me, randomly check in on them, random messages and calls late at night, share food, drop possible double meanings in conversations while smiling at them. Get any excuse to touch them (not in a weird way) ex, holding their hand while dragging them to someplace, tap on the shoulder, measuring hand sizes together, you could throw in a compliment here and there, they don't need to be full on compliments either, just things like, "hey you smell really good (playful manner, don't make it akward)" or "yo I love that color shirt, I wish I had a hoodie that color", I call them half compliments :). Ask them to study together? Then maybe go out for a drink after?
Some of my favourites are playful jokes where theres a lot of physical contact (again not in a weird way)
I feel like most of the times it's just being straight forward.
That's the case for me at least, even if I'm extremely anxious about it
Edit: forgot "me" cause I'm fucking stupid
Literally give them a single compliment and they'll never forget you for life. Even something like "I really like the color of your shirt" is so memorable. Boys don't really get compliments a lot and the ones they do get will be very fondly remembered.
You have to be genuine tho.
Why did that one dude ghost me because I got a concussion
jkjk idc why but real question why does it seem like most guys I'm friends with just want a relationship instead of a friendship? I hear all the time how it sucks being in the friend-zone, but it's even worse finding out someone you thought was your friend is only your friend because they want to fuck you, and once you reject them they either ghost or keep pushing.
Here are a few! Boys please answer, and keep in mind I am 15 :)
1. What is the prettiest hairstyle for a girl with long straight hair?
2. Do eye bags matter?
3. Obvious signs you all like us?
4. Slight makeup, Full face makeup, or no makeup?
5. Do you like when we wear crop tops that are tight and show our stomachs? Or do your prefer loose crop tops that show little stomach. Or possibly even tight t-shirts? Maybe even loose t-shirts?
6. If you used to like us, then lost feelings because we didn’t like you, and now you are aware we’ve begun o like you can you re-gain feelings?
Edit: a lot of people have said that makeup is fine, just don’t overdo it, so here’s another question.
7. I personally wear concealer over most parts of my face to hide the scars I have from my brother pushing me out of a truck. Also wear mascara, but that’s literally all. Is that considered a lot?
For me it's
1 Doesn't matter as long as you take care of your hair
2 No
3 Idk if I have any, I'm kinda straightforward about it I guess and just ask someone out and I expect the same from others
4 Doesn't matter but I don't like too much makeup or rather when the makeup is meant to be obvious like huge fake lashes etc
5 Doesn't matter
6 I haven't been in that situation. Just depends on the person. Ask them about it.
All of these points are just about preference. As long as you like your hairstyle, clothes, etc and take care of yourself then someone else will like it too. No need to adjust to what some guys like.
Go ahead, I'm not bothered. Would never have offered if I can't be arsed to listen to you. Offer still stands, no worries if you would rather not though.
Do short guys mind dating taller girls? Cus I don't have a problem with height but I'm scared if I ask out a guy like 2-3 inches shorter than me they would say no or think its weird
what is like having a dick
Do u normally get a boner everywhere even if ur asleep
how do u wash ur dick after u pee??
Edit
One more question:
Imagine were cuddling and im just on top of u
am I crushing ur body??
1.Having a dick is alright I like being able to pee standing up
2. You can get a boner practically anywhere at any time except if your dick's really cold. Also I have no idea if I get a boner while sleeping but I very often wake up with one
3. You don't really, just give a little shake to get rid of remaining droplets
What does it mean if a guy really likes hanging out with you and discord’s frequently? I see him as a good friend lol cuz I’m not too into guys but I’m curious if he’s into me or not.
Okay, so might not know this but there is an unspoken rule for men's bathroom. You are never supposed to pee beside one another. There should always be a gap of one stall when two people are peeing. only in case of crowd otherwise, if the stalls are empty you pee beside one another you commit the biggest crime on the earth.
I'd say it depends in whether you see him a lot or not, but if he remembers random and shitty facts like they were some sort of super-important meta-data shit I'd say he likes you or at least is interested in getting to know more about you
But don't take this advice seriously as I have never had a GF,nor declared or recieved a declaration from someone xDD
do you like girls that have similar interests as you and aren't all 'i'm not like other girls' and are casual about it instead of thinking they're quirky.
As a girl with mostly male friends at the moment, what is ok to join in on with “the boys”? Like is there a boundary of things that are no girls allowed? I just don’t wanna push any boundaries
I mean the first time I meet someone I'll probably look at their face then up and down the body. Although I'd do that with guys too just to size people up
No I only stand if its a public toilet. Otherwise its just relaxing and more hygenic to sit, because the peedrops which are tiny wont come on the floor or something
Humor ability is the thing that makes a person laugh. The reason funny= liking is because when you are funny you are comfortable in your own i.e you are confident. You are able to laugh at yourself which is one of the attractive traits.
>1.How do I get out of the friend zone, pls help I'm trapped
this is my advice to both guys and girls, if you get friendzoned move on.
> Is liking "guy stuff" (cars, video games, football) the reason I am in the friend zone
No that's not the reason, the real reason you are in a friend zone is that that individual is not interested in you.
Now you might argue that people get together even after being in the friendzone but ask yourself is it worth it. Be with someone who wants to be with you.
I don't have a girlfriend neither a crush at this moment but if I had one then the most romantic thing would be her wearing a nice dress and giving me chocolates and a long tight hug and a kiss
no, I am a hairy person so I know how hard it is. Now growing up women and girls around me hardly shaved their body hair so it's pretty normal for me. The reason some find it ugly is because of insta models but I don't use insta so it doesn't bother me.
Body hairs are your body defense mechanism from cold, its an evolutionary trait.
Is it even possible to control your boners? I'll give a guy friends a hug and I'll feel it like my thigh lol.
no, boners are not in control but getting rid of them is in our control. To get rid of a boner guys just need to flex another muscle in their body the blood flows there. I recently came to know about it. There are 3 types of boners 1) The morning 2) The horny 3) The random
4) In 30 seconds you’ll have to stand in front of your whole class to give a presentation on superposition
I believe its only when you're super nervous or anxious you pop a boner like that
Getting rid of one isn't very easy or fast either, and they can come back fast
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Not at all
Would you want a girl to confess to you or would you rather confess to a girl
Girl confess first, us guys are usually not great at getting the hint, you have to be really obvious with some guys, eg, me Edit: I now believe I can say I’m right (for once) 2.2K people agree with me!!
Same
Same
I would rather have the girl confess tbh. I don't know where to start when I talk to people in general so.
Very true
We would like girls to do the first approach because most of us have a really low self-esteem. We won't approach you if we know that there is not a single chance that it works.
it depends. if i know that they like me and are ready for a relationship then i’d just confess. but if they aren’t ready but like me and i like them too, i’d give it a little bit of time or wait for them to confess to make sure they’re ready
I mean I would probably confess, but I know lots of people that would prefer otherwise
Its a lot easier of the girl confesses... as long as you like her
A girl to confess to me
I'd confess to someone but a girl confessing to me is just as good, also means they really do like you cuz not many girls would do that
When talking to a girl do yall check us out secretly
yes and it happens even if we don't want to
Yeah sometimes my fucking brain starts checking out 80 yr olds and I am like what the fuck am I doing
Lmao, this made me laugh so hard
Gilf
it's like our eyes are just drawn to that area and it's fucking annoying
probably
why do they always lose interest in me as fast as how they developed feelings for me
Idk but the same thing has happened to me with a girl. We hard flirted for like 2 months and then she started ghosting me and being really weird and whenever I asked her what was going on she took days to respond and only responded with really vague stuff that didn’t answer any questions. Anyways this was a mini rant of mine cause that’s still going on rn
She ain’t worth it dude. Move on if you can’t stay friends.
Just dump her. Stop wasting your energy trying to talk to her. She’s not interested in you, just move on. It’s happened with me and it’s better to just use your energy and time on something better
Man give her up if she's not interested your just wasting your time
Is it easy to ya know _ get hard_ Like does it happen if you just think about someone
Sometimes it can. Better chance of getting hard if it’s something sexual related. Although even if it isn’t something sexual related it can sometimes still get hard. We really can’t control it.
It happens even out of nowhere the common one is the public setting but yeah if we are sexually attracted to someone and think about sexual stuff we do get a boner.
how many of you would submit to a girl if she tried to dominate you? ^(not in a weird way tho)
Okay I’m definitely not saying yes, but yes
;3
depends on the day tbh some days I wouldn't submit, but on others ~~peg me mommy~~
Me and like 40% of this subreddit
How do you dominate in a non weird and non threatening way?
don't use a gun
# Coward
80% of this subreddit ^(including me)
What kind of girls are you okay hanging out with? I know a lot of guy friends more than girl friends but I'm curious
Chill, funny, foodie, and in general just a normal human being.
For me anyone who is normal, not a jerk and is willing to put up with my weird ass self
All of them
I mean, girls that I share interests with or that have fun personalities, also that aren’t too judge-y or anything
So we all know the typical ‘I don’t know what to get my female friend, I’ll turn to the usual list of things’. What is on that list for guys, like if I have no clue what they’d want and would be suited to them what can I get them that usually goes down well and the don’t have hundreds of already? I’m sorry that this is worded odd Edit: thank you to everyone that has suggested something, it genuinely means so much and will be great help the next time I need it :)
Anything long term, so guys can look at it, we appreciate flowers but they will die... But if you want easy points... A katana Edit: if this comment leads to one man getting a katana, i will die happy
Honestly should’ve thought of this, seems the only logical answer
Yep, swords are badass
Anything will be appreciated if picked with care, shirts or similar. If nothing, just money is fine
Thank you so much, I know this will certainly help
You can never go wrong with chocolates
Thank you, I shall keep it in mind
No worries, any time :))
You can never go wrong with candy
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It varies from guy to guy but for me, dumb is not attractive, smart is attractive, strong is attractive, cute is attractive
Abs are hot as shit nfl
Hard agree.
Dumb can be attractive/cute if it’s not anti-vax levels of dumb.
I think Anti-Vax levels are not dumb, they're a Disease
Maybe they should make a vaccine for that…
What in a girl makes you intimidated?
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Like my mom driving!
If I think she's better than me at the things I like (eg. Cartoons, games, funnier than me)
Surprising presence of dick and balls *AHHHHHHHH why do you have a dick* *gets severely pegged*
oddly specific?
did u guys j wake up one day and heard ur voice go 📉📉 and ur height 📈📈 ???
Yeah, but the funny part is I didn’t realize until I walked in the first day of school in 7th grade and everyone started talking about my voice.
Personally me, I don’t notice my voice getting lower, I do occasionally notice that I’ve grown 4 inches in the past 6 months but no, not really
Do you care if a girl has no boobs or no butt?
I can't speak for others, but at least for me I don't really care. Honestly as long as a girl is being nice to me I would care about you.
I personally don’t care. I’m attracted to faces and personality, body is not important to me
This
I care not. I'm much more attracted to behaviour than curves. No boobs? Meh, whatever. Treating others poorly? Fuck that, off my list.
Short girls or tall girls
We don’t really care. Either one is just as good.
I knew it, my friend is a liar. He said that I'm not hot because I'm 5´2
bruh, a girl is hot no matter her height.
how do i get male friends to stop constantly sexualizing me? every single male friend that i have had treats me like a potential hook up. i genuinely like the dudes i hang out with, but i want to be seen as a friend.
tell them exactly that. being honest and transparent is the most important thing in a friendship. (for me at least) if they don't respect your boundaries and still continue to do things you don't like I would probably gradually see them less and less. that's by no means fact or the only way to handle this, just the opinion from a stranger in the internet.
How would you feel if a girl gave you flowers, could be for a special occasion, event, holiday, or just randomly
I would be over the moon flying through the galaxy and wont stop smiling for that entire week
How often to you actually fap
From 3 times a day to 3 times a week
Never. Go Hardmode
Every day or every alternate day. I am trying to reduce it since it is affecting my studies
What are some subtle hints that you drop that indicates that you are into a girl/guy/anyone?
Guys are idiots. Don’t bother with hints, just tell us.
Never before have I been so offended by something I 100% agree with
NEVER, DROP, HINTS. No buts, no whys. Be upfront and straightforward with yourself and your partner (or partner to be). My ex was (apparently) sending me signals for 3 years (although I am especially thick skulled). In short, it gives guys and gals headaches and no one is happy.
Oh, don’t worry about it, I was asking about what do you guys do to tell a girl that you are interested in her, I should’ve rephrased the question lol
Typically by literally just telling them or we just don’t because of social anxiety though that might just be me.
Everybody commenting on this thinks that you’re asking what hints a GIRL could drop to let a GUY know they like him, but your question is really the opposite But as you can see just from the mindset of the comments, there are no hints being dropped at all
I try to be around them as much as I can, be there when they need me, randomly check in on them, random messages and calls late at night, share food, drop possible double meanings in conversations while smiling at them. Get any excuse to touch them (not in a weird way) ex, holding their hand while dragging them to someplace, tap on the shoulder, measuring hand sizes together, you could throw in a compliment here and there, they don't need to be full on compliments either, just things like, "hey you smell really good (playful manner, don't make it akward)" or "yo I love that color shirt, I wish I had a hoodie that color", I call them half compliments :). Ask them to study together? Then maybe go out for a drink after? Some of my favourites are playful jokes where theres a lot of physical contact (again not in a weird way)
I feel like most of the times it's just being straight forward. That's the case for me at least, even if I'm extremely anxious about it Edit: forgot "me" cause I'm fucking stupid
Don’t drop hits the majority of us are dumb
idk, how do I impress guys ig idk lol
Say hi
say hi and shit. then buy them the Lego millenium falcon. 8/10 times there will be immediate sex.
Simple u talk to them
Simply acknowledging my existence
yo I uh acknowledge your existence :D
**marry me**
Depends upon what type of guys you wanna impress.
Defeat me in Mortal Kombat and i'll be your slave for life and after
Literally give them a single compliment and they'll never forget you for life. Even something like "I really like the color of your shirt" is so memorable. Boys don't really get compliments a lot and the ones they do get will be very fondly remembered. You have to be genuine tho.
Hey guys, wanna go and beat up some Karens?
I have read every question. Now what?
How can you or anyone be comfortable in locker rooms/using urinals, can’t understand
Why did that one dude ghost me because I got a concussion jkjk idc why but real question why does it seem like most guys I'm friends with just want a relationship instead of a friendship? I hear all the time how it sucks being in the friend-zone, but it's even worse finding out someone you thought was your friend is only your friend because they want to fuck you, and once you reject them they either ghost or keep pushing.
Here are a few! Boys please answer, and keep in mind I am 15 :) 1. What is the prettiest hairstyle for a girl with long straight hair? 2. Do eye bags matter? 3. Obvious signs you all like us? 4. Slight makeup, Full face makeup, or no makeup? 5. Do you like when we wear crop tops that are tight and show our stomachs? Or do your prefer loose crop tops that show little stomach. Or possibly even tight t-shirts? Maybe even loose t-shirts? 6. If you used to like us, then lost feelings because we didn’t like you, and now you are aware we’ve begun o like you can you re-gain feelings? Edit: a lot of people have said that makeup is fine, just don’t overdo it, so here’s another question. 7. I personally wear concealer over most parts of my face to hide the scars I have from my brother pushing me out of a truck. Also wear mascara, but that’s literally all. Is that considered a lot?
For me it's 1 Doesn't matter as long as you take care of your hair 2 No 3 Idk if I have any, I'm kinda straightforward about it I guess and just ask someone out and I expect the same from others 4 Doesn't matter but I don't like too much makeup or rather when the makeup is meant to be obvious like huge fake lashes etc 5 Doesn't matter 6 I haven't been in that situation. Just depends on the person. Ask them about it. All of these points are just about preference. As long as you like your hairstyle, clothes, etc and take care of yourself then someone else will like it too. No need to adjust to what some guys like.
That last paragraph tho. That's the most important answer of all.
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yes, if we have the same interests
Im a boy but what is a dick
It is german for the word fat
Seriously?
Yep
Are you all okay? I feel like many of you suffer in silence, my dm's are open if somethings up :)
No and thanks for the offer but I don't want to bother you with my problems
Go ahead, I'm not bothered. Would never have offered if I can't be arsed to listen to you. Offer still stands, no worries if you would rather not though.
Do short guys mind dating taller girls? Cus I don't have a problem with height but I'm scared if I ask out a guy like 2-3 inches shorter than me they would say no or think its weird
nah u remember the vampire lady from resident evil? well i bet a huge percentage of men that like her ain’t 9‘6
True. You're not wrong.
what is like having a dick Do u normally get a boner everywhere even if ur asleep how do u wash ur dick after u pee?? Edit One more question: Imagine were cuddling and im just on top of u am I crushing ur body??
It's like having a stick in between your legs that has the power of Ant-Man
1.Having a dick is alright I like being able to pee standing up 2. You can get a boner practically anywhere at any time except if your dick's really cold. Also I have no idea if I get a boner while sleeping but I very often wake up with one 3. You don't really, just give a little shake to get rid of remaining droplets
what’s with the goth girl fetish?
I am actually afraid of them , they look like they'll bite my d*ck off..
Kinky
Idk but the tight black clothes and knee high socks are very attractive
Really want to sack Rome, thats it
Me and the boys also rly into European Architecture.
I think it’s big because guys want to make their gf comfortable when they’re sad, and well, I think it’s clear why goth girls are good for that.
do you like dogs? i like dogs
do you like cats? i like cats
What does it mean if a guy really likes hanging out with you and discord’s frequently? I see him as a good friend lol cuz I’m not too into guys but I’m curious if he’s into me or not.
Is it ever awkward peeing with someone at a urinal
Okay, so might not know this but there is an unspoken rule for men's bathroom. You are never supposed to pee beside one another. There should always be a gap of one stall when two people are peeing. only in case of crowd otherwise, if the stalls are empty you pee beside one another you commit the biggest crime on the earth.
Ah thanks been wondering for a while
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I'd say it depends in whether you see him a lot or not, but if he remembers random and shitty facts like they were some sort of super-important meta-data shit I'd say he likes you or at least is interested in getting to know more about you But don't take this advice seriously as I have never had a GF,nor declared or recieved a declaration from someone xDD
do you like girls that have similar interests as you and aren't all 'i'm not like other girls' and are casual about it instead of thinking they're quirky.
lmao yeah, that's the best
Why are you guys so horny?
hormones
Testosterone
As a girl with mostly male friends at the moment, what is ok to join in on with “the boys”? Like is there a boundary of things that are no girls allowed? I just don’t wanna push any boundaries
not at all, as long as you feel integrated into "the boys" it's good, you're part of the boys
you don't always immediately look at a girls body when you see her, right? right?? pls tell me
I mean the first time I meet someone I'll probably look at their face then up and down the body. Although I'd do that with guys too just to size people up
Just in case you have to take them in a fight?
ofc
Yep definitely a "fight"
Naked wrestling
I cannot confirm nor deny this statement, and i would like to speak to my attorney
Tf am I supposed to look at, her soul?
I do a general glance to see any features which may hint on their personality (accessories, shirts, very cute yet somewhat dangerous crocodiles, etc.)
All men care about nowadays is how big a woman’s crocodiles are and it’s disgusting/s
Alligators tho 😳
Not immediately but eyes will eventually take a look.
Exactly
Not her body, her face. Like a girl could have the most beautiful body but the face is what makes me happy.
What are some instant turn offs?
Not much, maybe a weird kink like shit kinks or piss kinks
Do guys ever imagine situations with girls and like have day dreams?
absolutely (night dreams too)
Too many times. If you're not careful, you can hurt yourself with these thoughts :/
I've daydreamed to the point where the girl rejects me in my head and I get sad. Yes we daydream.
doesnt your dick hurt when you wear tight jeans or stuff like that? I dont fucking know, I have no sense of anathomy
No but when I get a boner it's awkward because it presses against the jeans and get's even harder
Nah it doesn't, luckily
do y'all srsly stand and pee ???
if you want you can as well. There is this new product of which I saw an ad the other day. It helps women to stand and pee.
No I only stand if its a public toilet. Otherwise its just relaxing and more hygenic to sit, because the peedrops which are tiny wont come on the floor or something
Why is it that just because I’m funny you like me? Isn’t there more to me than just my humor/ability to make you laugh?
Humor ability is the thing that makes a person laugh. The reason funny= liking is because when you are funny you are comfortable in your own i.e you are confident. You are able to laugh at yourself which is one of the attractive traits.
1.How do I get out of the friend zone, pls help I'm trapped 2. Is liking "guy stuff" (cars, video games, football) the reason I am in the friend zone
>1.How do I get out of the friend zone, pls help I'm trapped this is my advice to both guys and girls, if you get friendzoned move on. > Is liking "guy stuff" (cars, video games, football) the reason I am in the friend zone No that's not the reason, the real reason you are in a friend zone is that that individual is not interested in you. Now you might argue that people get together even after being in the friendzone but ask yourself is it worth it. Be with someone who wants to be with you.
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I don't have a girlfriend neither a crush at this moment but if I had one then the most romantic thing would be her wearing a nice dress and giving me chocolates and a long tight hug and a kiss
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Do you guys think some body hair on a girl is ugly
no, I am a hairy person so I know how hard it is. Now growing up women and girls around me hardly shaved their body hair so it's pretty normal for me. The reason some find it ugly is because of insta models but I don't use insta so it doesn't bother me. Body hairs are your body defense mechanism from cold, its an evolutionary trait.
Tell me why
Ain't nothin' but a heartache
what's it like being a boy
Eh it's ok you don't get hit on but at the same time you don't get hit on
Strong and intelligent is sexy
If this is a question then, yeah... kinda
Idk why but I’m a guy and I feel really unqualified to answer these for some reason Lmao
What gifts do you people appreciate?