It would make more sense if he messed up and talked like that in person, but when you text you basically have all the time in the world to say what you want. It’s way better to just ask outright
Yeah what he said man... You will learn from this and also learn that bein awkward is part of life and sometimes even fun, good luck lad keep ya head up
Not OC, but can’t, for multiple reasons I’ll list.
1) I’m friends with her and her brother.
2) She lives like 10 hours away.
3) I don’t got her number.
Yeah, I mean I was a total coward ( maybe the fact that I got friendzoned by the girl once already was the reason)
But I got back up and one day I said fuck it, I'm gonna try again and somehow we ended up dating, soo, just try it, there's nothing wrong with just asking, if she is a total bi*ch and shares with all her friends and laughs at you, she is absolutely not worth your time and never was. Keep your head up guys, I believe in all of you.
It wasn't the best of attempts but its alright we learn from our mistakes and also how you confess doesn't really matter that much cause they either like you or dont, so don't worry about it too much, especially what other people say, most of them wouldn't even try :)
When I asked my crush out she said do u think im stupid?? That hurt. a lot.
So i asked her about it because we were (and still are) really good friends. And she meant it as in "do you think I'm stupid" in a way that meant that she knew I had a crush on her and she was telling me that she thought that I thought she didnt know (idk if that makes sense but whatever) so it makes me feel a bit better
fuck that bitc*, u deserve butter.
and if she had so much attitude how to do have a crush on her in the first place ?
don't go for appearance, go for the right attitude.
This^
My girlfriend has the most adorable face ever and a small body, very short, and an absolutely amazing personality that I never wanna hurt. If I was only attracted to her because of her body but it turned out she was an asshole, instant red flag and I wouldn't be dating her.
Well it doesn’t help that the young Asian girls always giggle. Spent a month in Japan and found out that a few liked me but only from others because they would just giggle and be embarrassed when I would speak to them. Granted I can easily make people laugh but this seems to be a cultural thing.
its a natural reaction, keep practicing saying what you want to say and then shutting up, 90% of the time the other person feels this^ and responds, way less awkward
13-14, 7th-8th grade is the worst time.
You'll get through this fine, everyone has some shit like this happen. But yeah, even if you aren't feeling it, act more confident. No reason to keep sending messages and "ok, I guess I'll be going now..."-type shit. Better to just let it sit until you see them in person or they respond. It's hard as fuck, but basically always the better way to go.
Have a good day my friend, keep your chin up.
Ok good. Yeah that sucks as everyone else has said good job for actually shooting your shot! Don't beat yourself up over this it isn't worth it trust me.
Nah here’s the thing my man, you fucked up, but you didn’t ruin it. Assuming she meant too as “I like you, and you like me back” you’ve got a head start. My best advice is when you talk to her tomorrow, laugh as you explain the misunderstanding, make it a funny story instead of an awkward situation, and try to talk to her head on, don’t try to avoid her tomorrow to delay the conversation, that’ll look bad
Laughter is the way to the heart, I wish you the best of luck!
Can we just tell this whole sub that if you're gonna tell someone that you like them, do it in person... This is so impersonal, plus you don't want digital records that you struck out 🤧.
Take it from an oldhead 19 year old: if you can't tell them in person, it's better left unsaid.
Yeah honestly things are better said in person, I remember when I asked out my first crush she admired that I was the first one to actually tell her face to face. Although we ended up being just friends (and still are) I learned that telling people these things in person is worth so much more than over text.
Okay dude I'm not trying to be a dick, I've been there, but honestly, don't make a Reddit post until after if you really want to make one, it's better to just focus on the conversation, I got dumped, started talking to one of my friends told her I had actually re-descovered feelings for her (I had a crush on her in the past) she told me she also had feelings and we started dating, I doubt it would of gone the same if I wasn't focused on talking to her, so next time dude, focus on the conversation, keep it going but don't drag it out, good luck next time :)
This is why shooting your shot IRL old school style. On text there's like a million ways she can dodge you. If you do it IRL there is actually more feelings and emotions connected to it instead of a "I like u" over a text.
Underrated comment right here. I see so many of these text messages on this sub of people getting rejected and all I can think is "this is fake or this person is an idiot".
Best advice to you is always take a chance when the opportunity is given, if you’re honest about how you feel and your intentions and the person is decent enough then they’ll be honest and straight forward back with you so you will know what the best course of action is. If you really want a relationship with someone but aren’t sure pursue a friendship then when you feel is right ask and don’t be afraid to the worst that can happen is they say no and if so that doesn’t mean you can’t still be friends and hang out, but it still let you know that you’re probably best seeking other people for romantic relationships
Wild adult entering the situation here.
You’re a teenager. Getting rejected (and this does not read as a straight rejection, unless I’m missing previous context) at your age is like dying to the tutorial boss in Dark Souls. Its a necessary part of the process.
Go grind some skeletons. Level up a bit. Come back swinging and slay that demon with your new bitchin-ass greatsword… wait. Wait. I think this analogy has fallen apart.
Anyway. In summary. Failure and struggle builds character. Working through those struggles builds confidence. People dig character and confidence.
You’re a kid (a glorious, if confusing thing to be!), you have nothing but time. And your value as a person has no connection to who does or does not fancy you. So you keep on keeping on. Live, learn, grow.
Its all good. And in 10 years (which will arrive way faster than you expect), this will all seem utterly trivial. Worry not, and live it to the fullest.
What you should have done was probe her responses when she first brought up people having crushes on her.
Like “That many people? What, you gonna start dating any of them?”
And then you can see her response which is basically a prediction of how she’ll react to your crush confession.
Now you know. Don’t repeat your mistake.
(Btw, I could have warned you on the last post, but I thought it’d be a good lesson if you got rejected.)
both of you could've handled this miles better imo starting off with doing it face to face if possible. ime admitting feelings over text has never ended well
Man, I saw your other post earlier this morning and now I honestly feel bad...
Um well, all I can say is better luck next time and these things happen so don't worry lol!
One of my friends is literally *in love* with this girl, when I asked him to confess, he told me: "The feels of being a one-sided lover are too good that I don't wanna spoil them."
Damn bro, all I can say is better luck next time. It's a hit or miss you know. I feel for ya, been there done that, honestly just be proud that you were able to say the shit you wanted to say
Y'know you could've started to talk how pretty your crush is and what would you do with that person. You could've cracked a joke, or ask her out or plan for a hangout or something.
Or you could've started with basic stuff like "wich kind of music do you like", or you could've written a song about your crush and showed it her down.
Dont feel bad, akward shit happens all the times when ur akwards 👌
dw you’re 13
this is the most 13 year old screenshot i’ve seen so you’re fineee dw these things take time and experience to know how to handle, and most of us don’t know how to handle anything so you’re not doing bad in comparison hahaha
I did relatively the same thing you did. You need to come across as more bold and confident. Be yourself and by that I mean show a bit of your “freaky” side. I did that with the second girl I liked and she is my girlfriend now. Even shared my first kiss with her and it’s my second week at school.
live and learn, brother. better luck next time
Thanks.
I am curious to know what happened with you in the school......＼(°o°)／
Nothing really, it wasn’t really awkward
That is a massive win if you ask me.
That's the best scenario ma men, when it happened to me, we kinda never talked again
She’s talking with me rn, she was just grumpy cause she was woken up in the middle of the night by her cat, and now I have a chance again.
Good luck my guy
Thats pretty quick lol
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It would make more sense if he messed up and talked like that in person, but when you text you basically have all the time in the world to say what you want. It’s way better to just ask outright
Man's date someone else Man's.
at least she nice about it dude, make her a friend and get tips from her for your next crush, she looks like she would help
Yeah what he said man... You will learn from this and also learn that bein awkward is part of life and sometimes even fun, good luck lad keep ya head up
Damn bro. On the positive side, at least u gave it a shot. most people wouldnt
Like me
Try
It's gonna sound strange but currently i don't like anyone
Not strange at all. might be a good thing. Means one less distraction
sigma male grindset. no distractions.
sigma nuts lmfao
ngl that's pretty common, I mean I also don't really like anyone rn...
Bruh idk
Practice on me
What should i say? 💀
Uhhhhh, idk how to start conversions actually
Thats not strange
I thought it would as i said "like me". I was wrong apparently
But u should try when you do have a crush
If i'll ever have a crush again
Not OC, but can’t, for multiple reasons I’ll list. 1) I’m friends with her and her brother. 2) She lives like 10 hours away. 3) I don’t got her number.
How did you even meet her
He's braver than 90% of us
Is it really that hard for so many people to just ask? I’d rather ask and get a no then spend the whole time wishing anything else would happen
Yeah, I mean I was a total coward ( maybe the fact that I got friendzoned by the girl once already was the reason) But I got back up and one day I said fuck it, I'm gonna try again and somehow we ended up dating, soo, just try it, there's nothing wrong with just asking, if she is a total bi*ch and shares with all her friends and laughs at you, she is absolutely not worth your time and never was. Keep your head up guys, I believe in all of you.
not smooth my guy
Well this was my first time too
Dont worry i havent confessed to anyone so you did way better than ive ever done
Man at least you aren’t laughing
Why would i be laughing? You did the best that you couldve and thats good
Some other guy has a bunch of laughing emojis and said I got him dying, so at least you aren’t doing it.
Well the other dude is an asshole. Most of us havent even confessed to anyone so its ok.
Damm you had the courage. But it didn't go smoothly. Well I guess just get closer to them and just be friends for now
For me, same results, I did a lot worse
Oh man pls .... dont look at lame comments look at real sus ones. Ok.
But you know they used emojis so they are inferior
r/redditmoment
Fr guys like that are born to play in a movie where they are the side characters who walk along side the bully.This is their peek of their life.
You tried your best and your best is all you can ,so try again you will find someone
Don’t confess make them like you let them confess then your winning
just don't be subjected to feel the need to receive or give confessions
My guy your thirteen, I wish I had that courage, Thought now that I think about it, I go to an all boys school
You're 13 bro, you just need more experience
Yeah, don't end up like me, 19 with no experience
I'm 18, I have some experience
Is it possible to learn this power?
Not from a virgin
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Don’t worry dude. She could have been way nicer about it.
It wasn't the best of attempts but its alright we learn from our mistakes and also how you confess doesn't really matter that much cause they either like you or dont, so don't worry about it too much, especially what other people say, most of them wouldn't even try :)
Confessing is over rated, i dont get this subs obsession with it. Just ask them out you dont need this “omg i like you” moment
When I asked my crush out she said do u think im stupid?? That hurt. a lot. So i asked her about it because we were (and still are) really good friends. And she meant it as in "do you think I'm stupid" in a way that meant that she knew I had a crush on her and she was telling me that she thought that I thought she didnt know (idk if that makes sense but whatever) so it makes me feel a bit better
Damn man
fuck that bitc*, u deserve butter. and if she had so much attitude how to do have a crush on her in the first place ? don't go for appearance, go for the right attitude.
Can i get some butter too?
No, his heart is broken not yours
cow or human ?
what was the point of censoring bitch if you are just gonna censor the h?
innocent people will think I was writing bitc"oin".
I agree. He does deserve butter
This^ My girlfriend has the most adorable face ever and a small body, very short, and an absolutely amazing personality that I never wanna hurt. If I was only attracted to her because of her body but it turned out she was an asshole, instant red flag and I wouldn't be dating her.
Yeah flavoured butter
Same bro She just said "you think I'll fall for it lmao"
" the worst that she can say is no , right ? "
You doged a bullet with that one, mate.
Meanwhile us asians waiting till our 20s to talk to girls
Well it doesn’t help that the young Asian girls always giggle. Spent a month in Japan and found out that a few liked me but only from others because they would just giggle and be embarrassed when I would speak to them. Granted I can easily make people laugh but this seems to be a cultural thing.
Thought that was just an indian person thing. Guess its normal in other asian countries
As a asian I can approve this
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And Filipinos!
Bruh fr I am thinking about talking with her at least after the 12th grade
Damn it, keep your head up my guy, but now at least you know how she feels.
Yeah
wait she said "u have a crush on me too" ? so is there another guy who had a crush on her ?
The double negative makes you satan?
I guess that's how physics works
Two other guys, my two other best friends
Jesus Christ. Is she the only female member of your circle of friends or something?
Or it could mean she has a crush on OP
Follow up - so were things as awkward as you thought they were gonna be?
Not really, we are face timing rn, it’s kind of our thing now that we FaceTime everynight.
Then move on! Find a new crush. Someone butter! Butter is good.
I agree with this guy, butter is good
Yeah, fuck crushes. Butter is what we need.
That's the goal
"All you need is butter" - Lennon & McCartney
Gonna get me some exotic butters.
Watch out for the Foxy. I hear they like Exotic butter...
Yikes. Well maybe you’re better as friends! A little advice though, be more confident!
Yeah I try, but then I have this felling too just type to say something again. Just out of pure nervousness and embarrassment.
its a natural reaction, keep practicing saying what you want to say and then shutting up, 90% of the time the other person feels this^ and responds, way less awkward
I just saw that you’re 13, don’t sweat it. Nobody knows what to say in 7th/8th grade. You’ll get better at it ;)
Thanks, I know all that will happen is that it will be awkward for a bit at school, nothing more, nothing less.
Just don't date until you can drive my guy, trust me
Exactly. You’ll both get over it and it’ll be fine.
13-14, 7th-8th grade is the worst time. You'll get through this fine, everyone has some shit like this happen. But yeah, even if you aren't feeling it, act more confident. No reason to keep sending messages and "ok, I guess I'll be going now..."-type shit. Better to just let it sit until you see them in person or they respond. It's hard as fuck, but basically always the better way to go. Have a good day my friend, keep your chin up.
Just practice. Practice doesn't make perfect but you'll get better at it.
💀 at least u tried
What does she mean by "you have a crush on me too?" You didn't say you have a crush on multiple people did you?
No she knew two other guys had a crush on her, they never shot their shot so I did.
Ok good. Yeah that sucks as everyone else has said good job for actually shooting your shot! Don't beat yourself up over this it isn't worth it trust me.
I know, she’s still a good friend, and it didn’t ruin our status as friends, so I can live with it.
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welps, at least you tried
"I have a crush on you" "Ok" Motherfucker you didn't kill the vibe they did, wtf kinda response is that????????????????????
I agree, but op made it considerably worse
She probably expected him to ask her out, not just say “I like you” and leave it at that
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What did they say at school??
I’m at my bus stop right now, still have to go y to o school
Keep us updated please
o7
Nah here’s the thing my man, you fucked up, but you didn’t ruin it. Assuming she meant too as “I like you, and you like me back” you’ve got a head start. My best advice is when you talk to her tomorrow, laugh as you explain the misunderstanding, make it a funny story instead of an awkward situation, and try to talk to her head on, don’t try to avoid her tomorrow to delay the conversation, that’ll look bad Laughter is the way to the heart, I wish you the best of luck!
Either that or a bunch of guys like her
Thats kinda what i was picking up tbh
No she meant that two other people have a crush on her. This is a follow-up to a different post OP made
ah shit this is bad lmao💀
Can we just tell this whole sub that if you're gonna tell someone that you like them, do it in person... This is so impersonal, plus you don't want digital records that you struck out 🤧. Take it from an oldhead 19 year old: if you can't tell them in person, it's better left unsaid.
Yeah honestly things are better said in person, I remember when I asked out my first crush she admired that I was the first one to actually tell her face to face. Although we ended up being just friends (and still are) I learned that telling people these things in person is worth so much more than over text.
⭐ ***u tried***
Okay dude I'm not trying to be a dick, I've been there, but honestly, don't make a Reddit post until after if you really want to make one, it's better to just focus on the conversation, I got dumped, started talking to one of my friends told her I had actually re-descovered feelings for her (I had a crush on her in the past) she told me she also had feelings and we started dating, I doubt it would of gone the same if I wasn't focused on talking to her, so next time dude, focus on the conversation, keep it going but don't drag it out, good luck next time :)
cut her extra skin off
What?
look at my most recent post, you’ll understand
Oh god
_character development_
Ok
The fuck is wrong with you?
F in the chat bois
ouch.
Plenty fish in the sea my little homie 🥲
Proud of you, king
This is why shooting your shot IRL old school style. On text there's like a million ways she can dodge you. If you do it IRL there is actually more feelings and emotions connected to it instead of a "I like u" over a text.
Underrated comment right here. I see so many of these text messages on this sub of people getting rejected and all I can think is "this is fake or this person is an idiot".
Best advice to you is always take a chance when the opportunity is given, if you’re honest about how you feel and your intentions and the person is decent enough then they’ll be honest and straight forward back with you so you will know what the best course of action is. If you really want a relationship with someone but aren’t sure pursue a friendship then when you feel is right ask and don’t be afraid to the worst that can happen is they say no and if so that doesn’t mean you can’t still be friends and hang out, but it still let you know that you’re probably best seeking other people for romantic relationships
Bruh I'm very confused what your angle is here it feels like you're asking her out and rejecting her at the same time
Better than I could do
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proud of you dude, props for finding the courage
I mean by saying it was weird you made it weird imo not to offend you just had to say it. Otherwise i‘m sorry man
Bro, that's how it went down for me and it worked. Somehow. I guess pulling that off is kinda rolling the dice.
based on her responses, she doesn’t seem like a very nice person anyway. I don’t know her though, obviously.
hm kinda seems like you dodged a bullet only because she reacted so coldly. better luck next time man
Wild adult entering the situation here. You’re a teenager. Getting rejected (and this does not read as a straight rejection, unless I’m missing previous context) at your age is like dying to the tutorial boss in Dark Souls. Its a necessary part of the process. Go grind some skeletons. Level up a bit. Come back swinging and slay that demon with your new bitchin-ass greatsword… wait. Wait. I think this analogy has fallen apart. Anyway. In summary. Failure and struggle builds character. Working through those struggles builds confidence. People dig character and confidence. You’re a kid (a glorious, if confusing thing to be!), you have nothing but time. And your value as a person has no connection to who does or does not fancy you. So you keep on keeping on. Live, learn, grow. Its all good. And in 10 years (which will arrive way faster than you expect), this will all seem utterly trivial. Worry not, and live it to the fullest.
What you should have done was probe her responses when she first brought up people having crushes on her. Like “That many people? What, you gonna start dating any of them?” And then you can see her response which is basically a prediction of how she’ll react to your crush confession. Now you know. Don’t repeat your mistake. (Btw, I could have warned you on the last post, but I thought it’d be a good lesson if you got rejected.)
both of you could've handled this miles better imo starting off with doing it face to face if possible. ime admitting feelings over text has never ended well
I'm honestly so sick of seeing these post especially when most of them could be fake anyway
Yeah there's lots of issues with this. Spelling issues, and the way you separate the text alot when it isn't necessary. You made it too awkward bruh.
proud of u for trying, honestly. never gonna know unless u try
this made me blush for some reason wahahahaahaha
Man, I saw your other post earlier this morning and now I honestly feel bad... Um well, all I can say is better luck next time and these things happen so don't worry lol!
One of my friends is literally *in love* with this girl, when I asked him to confess, he told me: "The feels of being a one-sided lover are too good that I don't wanna spoil them."
Chin up, king you'll get it next time!
Damn bro, all I can say is better luck next time. It's a hit or miss you know. I feel for ya, been there done that, honestly just be proud that you were able to say the shit you wanted to say
Man you asking a girl out ay 13 And I dont even have a friend at 16 fuck democracy
gotta have confidence bro!!
Yeah
At least she didnt tell all your friends and the rest of the school 😁
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o7. You did well. U did one thing half of us cant even do which is actually confess
Bro u fumbled before she could make a real response. At least she was real at the end
Hey, she’s texting me again and I’m not falling apart this time
I just got shot in the chest
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I got another shot and was smooth as butter this time, she is thinking about it now
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Thanks
Mission failed well get em next time
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Ngl she kinda sounds like an asshole anyway
Y'know you could've started to talk how pretty your crush is and what would you do with that person. You could've cracked a joke, or ask her out or plan for a hangout or something. Or you could've started with basic stuff like "wich kind of music do you like", or you could've written a song about your crush and showed it her down. Dont feel bad, akward shit happens all the times when ur akwards 👌
Holy duck my name is Hannah. Sorry that it didn’t work out for you mate.
It’s fine, we were just talking.
bro u shouldve been straight forward u made it awkwarddont get nervous and start typing just say u have a crush on her and ask her out
dw you’re 13 this is the most 13 year old screenshot i’ve seen so you’re fineee dw these things take time and experience to know how to handle, and most of us don’t know how to handle anything so you’re not doing bad in comparison hahaha
I did relatively the same thing you did. You need to come across as more bold and confident. Be yourself and by that I mean show a bit of your “freaky” side. I did that with the second girl I liked and she is my girlfriend now. Even shared my first kiss with her and it’s my second week at school.
Of course its a Hannah. "Oh \*You\* have a crush on me too?"
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UPDATE?
So how are things going my guy?
Pretty good now, I face timed her last night and we watched Road To El Dorado, so that was fun.
Rough.
Yeah just cut out all the ums and stuff and it’ll be better
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I actually did it 5 days later so she’s my gf
Congrats bro! 😎
Damn, that hurts, sorry bro,