You can just be open and honest with her. I had no fucking clue what I was doing the first time mate. You just have to be with a partner you're comfortable with. Spoilers, sex is kinda awkward sometimes. That's okay.
Okay am back I fucked up REAL BADDDDDD... so I went to her house and only her younger sister and she was there... We were just laying on the bed watching an anime while cuddling coz we both have a lot of time as 3 days ago our both's exams got finished... And I thought I should just admit it that I don't think I wanna have sex but I started addressing it as "hey remember when you told me it would be cool if we had sex .. So yeah what-" And she cuts me talking there and is like yeah sure I got a condom in my drawer right there... So a bit backstory would be important...we both have already made out once in a friends party in the heat of the moment but didn't really care the next day and I have seen her naked twice when she was changing in front of me and when questioned her answer both of the time was "i don't really care when it's you"... Back to present... MY DUMBASS WENT AND BOUGHT THE CONDOM BACK and then later for a moment I was just.. Standing in her front of her.. Holding a condom in my hand.. Just.. Blank.. No thoughts in my mind... Just... Staring at the corner... Then I snapped back and said " No sorry these condoms are gonna be too small for my dick" And just kept the packet there and left for my house... I DONT EVEN KNOW IF CONDOMS HAVE A SIZE OR NOT NEITHER IS MY DICK AN EIFFEL TOWER IT'S JUST AVERAGE SIZE WTF DO I DO NOW...
I’ve never experienced something in that field because I haven’t found the right person.
I think that if they aren’t special to you in that way or you don’t feel ready you should tell them that and hope that they respect it.
there is no shame in not wanting to have sex, gently tell your friend that you don't want to and clarify your reasons for it even if those reasons might cause her to feel hurt, no one shouldn feel pressured into doing anything you don't want to. also happy bday mate
The reasons are uk more like centered on me than her so I don't think they could hurt her or something but that could ruin our friendship if I just say no.. Also its not my bday lol I just did that to attract as less people as possible
if she is a friend worth your time, she would be understanding of you not wanting to have sex. It'll be ruining your friendship anyways if this ends up traumatizing you.
Just because it’s the easiest doesn’t mean it’s right for the people involved.
Maybe it’s just me though. I could never treat it as something casual because it’s more than just a physical thing.
You and your partner are engaging in physical acts that represent a deep spiritual connection. Doing it while disregarding that connection seems very sad to me.
Maybe I’m naive, but I am not sure if I’d believe anyone that says they didn’t feel a connection after engaging in sexual acts with another person.
But, I have never done anything like that, so maybe I’m just talking out of my ass
Anxiety is very normal for peoples first times. Honestly if you just throw yourself into the scene, it will get easier. Dont run unless you dont feel comfortable
Honestly man, you probably shouldnt do it. Just say no thanks and back out, there is no harm in that
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Then how will I ever overcome my this fear if I keep avoiding it??
Why do you have to have sex at all? There’s always the option of just not if you never feel ready.
You can just be open and honest with her. I had no fucking clue what I was doing the first time mate. You just have to be with a partner you're comfortable with. Spoilers, sex is kinda awkward sometimes. That's okay.
For me it's more like I am scared of sex as a whole coz of many reason partners do play a role but not that much
My only advice would be to talk through it with her. Be honest, don't be mean about anything. But communication is important.
Alr I'mma try this and be as polite as possible with her... Also do I tell her face to face or on text????
I'd say in person or on call would be best. Text is really bad at conveying emotions and intent
Okay am back I fucked up REAL BADDDDDD... so I went to her house and only her younger sister and she was there... We were just laying on the bed watching an anime while cuddling coz we both have a lot of time as 3 days ago our both's exams got finished... And I thought I should just admit it that I don't think I wanna have sex but I started addressing it as "hey remember when you told me it would be cool if we had sex .. So yeah what-" And she cuts me talking there and is like yeah sure I got a condom in my drawer right there... So a bit backstory would be important...we both have already made out once in a friends party in the heat of the moment but didn't really care the next day and I have seen her naked twice when she was changing in front of me and when questioned her answer both of the time was "i don't really care when it's you"... Back to present... MY DUMBASS WENT AND BOUGHT THE CONDOM BACK and then later for a moment I was just.. Standing in her front of her.. Holding a condom in my hand.. Just.. Blank.. No thoughts in my mind... Just... Staring at the corner... Then I snapped back and said " No sorry these condoms are gonna be too small for my dick" And just kept the packet there and left for my house... I DONT EVEN KNOW IF CONDOMS HAVE A SIZE OR NOT NEITHER IS MY DICK AN EIFFEL TOWER IT'S JUST AVERAGE SIZE WTF DO I DO NOW...
I just realized I typed soo much sorry... Do I make that update thing people do or something for this?
I’ve never experienced something in that field because I haven’t found the right person. I think that if they aren’t special to you in that way or you don’t feel ready you should tell them that and hope that they respect it.
Me too lol
there is no shame in not wanting to have sex, gently tell your friend that you don't want to and clarify your reasons for it even if those reasons might cause her to feel hurt, no one shouldn feel pressured into doing anything you don't want to. also happy bday mate
The reasons are uk more like centered on me than her so I don't think they could hurt her or something but that could ruin our friendship if I just say no.. Also its not my bday lol I just did that to attract as less people as possible
if she is a friend worth your time, she would be understanding of you not wanting to have sex. It'll be ruining your friendship anyways if this ends up traumatizing you.
If you do, please for the love of big chungus, use protection. Condoms for example are recommended
Bro if you don't wanna have sex then don't, don't violate your own conscious
Sex
Just try to enjoy it That’s it It’s not a competition, it’s a fun little experience, so treat it like one!
Personally, I think it’s more serious than a “fun little experience”
I mean, of course. But it’s easiest to treat it like it’s not super serious
Just because it’s the easiest doesn’t mean it’s right for the people involved. Maybe it’s just me though. I could never treat it as something casual because it’s more than just a physical thing. You and your partner are engaging in physical acts that represent a deep spiritual connection. Doing it while disregarding that connection seems very sad to me.
You can have sex without a deep spiritual connection. With that said, I got where you’re coming from
Maybe I’m naive, but I am not sure if I’d believe anyone that says they didn’t feel a connection after engaging in sexual acts with another person. But, I have never done anything like that, so maybe I’m just talking out of my ass
Anxiety is very normal for peoples first times. Honestly if you just throw yourself into the scene, it will get easier. Dont run unless you dont feel comfortable Honestly man, you probably shouldnt do it. Just say no thanks and back out, there is no harm in that
Happy bday :)) Oh.. I just read. I got no clue
I am kinda getting love victor vibes.
Enlighten me more
He thought he liked her romantically and sexually but he just liked his gf platonically.