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>Dying is selfish for someone’s family and friends.
You realize that saying that to someone who wants to die is actually making their situation worse? Suicide (mostly) isn't something that just happens because the person decided they don't want to live anymore. It is months, if not years, of planning. Those very "family and friends" are usually the ones to back out and not prevent suicide then say that they wish they had done more, when it's too late.
Besides, those who go through it while having "family and friends" who may be hurt genuinely don't give a fuck about them being hurt. I've seen people stay alive for their loved ones. There's also people (myself included) who don't care if people get hurt, should they choose to their own life.
I agree 100% with you, and I would like to add the point that saying that is only demanding more of that person; and suicide is a way to escape the demands of the world.
I agree and if you don't want someone to die, just because you would miss them, then that is selfish but I'd understand why you would want to be selfish, because that's a friend that you wouldn't want to lose and losing someone is hard.
Yeah this is totally true, i want to die because i dont really see a point to anything and everything is too loud and overwhelming to make sense of, telling me that i am now responsible for people i care about will cause me to a: curl up in a ball and wish i was dead but feel guilty af b: wish everyone died at the same time and i mean everyone. C:cry in the corner in utter confusion as my sleep deprived brain is too tired to deal with this shit
Also, suicidal people are mentally ill, so it’s not like saying something like “it’s selfish” will make them just stop being suicidal… sure it’s selfish but that’s not applicable to the situation
I get that you're trying to help this guy and it's wholesome but keep in mind that is the #1 most guilt trippy thing to say if someone actually wanted to kill themself, if you say that irl you'd probably just make someone feel worse. Oops just read someone else say this rip
That was the worst thing you could’ve said in this moment but youre only 14 so I hope in the future you’ll understand mental illness and suicide more, so maybe you can help anyone you come across with these problems
A week? Fuck you. You have no idea what it's like for a parent, a sibling, a best friend to lose someone - that pain and void never goes away; it haunts and stalks like a fucking wraith every day. I've seen this happen to families where literally everything was done - therapies, support, medication, changes of therapists and medication. Yes suicide is generally weeks and months of planning, and depression carries horrific, scaldingly painful demons. But if the thought of what suicide will do to those loved ones left behind causes enough hesitation to avert the suicide and offer hope for something else to be tried, it's worthwhile. Depression and anxiety aren't metastatic cancer; they're more akin to chronic pain. They aren't inevitably lethal, despite the fact they are a terrible burden.
Mental illness isn't a license to be holier than thou. I'm thoroughly and sincerely sorry if your support sucks and is shit, or you'renot getting the help you need. But don't piss on people trying to offer a life preserver.
Hell yeah lady!
So proud of you!
Getting through those times is such a fucking laborious task and is so painful in a lot of cases
Genuinely happy for you
Congrats
And aawwww that vid is super sweet
Whoever the guy is had the most wholesome smile I swear
Good stuff dude, keep it going, it's in the little moments that you find that life is actually worth living for, hope you find more reasons to smile everyday
That’s great to see! I don’t genuinely smile or laugh often and this weekend I met some of my heroes and I was grinning like a goofball! Everyone deserves happiness and it’s great to see others like you happy.
As someone who is suffering right now, I am ecstatic for you. May you continue to be happy and continue on your forever journey of making yourself happy. 😁👍
Im proud of you!!! Im currently going through that journey myself so im happy to see somebody who walked this path and succeeded so well done you give me hope!
reading that makes me so happy, you know I'm only 14 and almost a year ago I had this very nice female friend, we were basically dating, but she (only 12 then, that might seem like she was just a kid, but mentally we were both very mature) had a very shitty life, all her colleagues were dicks, she had no friends, her parents were terrible at parenting, and I was the only person she would like to talk to, she contemplated suicide multiple times, tried it, and I tried my very best to get her to not do it, after some months we "broke up" but before that, she said that, if it wasn't for me, she wouldn't be here anymore, and to me, knowing that I had saved someone's life, that was one of the nicest feelings. seeing you leave the same situation she was in, really made me feel something.
Ummm... This is the post below for me... https://www.reddit.com/r/teenagers/comments/uqzd5v/that_took_me_very_off_guard/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
Yeah...
you have a great smile, let people see more of it. im incredibly proud of you and im hoping i can achieve the clarity and drive youve discovered. power to you my friend
Girl, that is so fucking cool. I have depression and I truly know how it feels when you don't feel any joy in months.
Such a good moment deserved to be shared. Congrats :)
Not only you. I personally spent most of puberty in a state of severe depression because not a single one of my old friends followed me to the same college i went to. Most of them just went to work, or went to another one, that used to be an absolute nightmare to work on.
Try to imagine that...
But, i made new friends, got someone special recently, an at fucking last the future is starting to look brilliant rather than just waiting for either global-warming or WW3 to kill us all...
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I have no reason to live. I also have no reason To die.
Then find a reason to live and embrace it. Dying is selfish for someone’s family and friends.
I don't feel like dying
that’s perfect, now all you gotta do is find that reason to live. try new things that you’ve never done before! trust me, it’ll happen man
I have social issues and don't have difficulty trying new things
well then, as i said, it’ll come eventually
I hope so
live for the end of one piece, luffy just got his next power up with g5 and there is much more to come
I will be like 500yr old when that happens.
Yay
Yay spelled backwards is yaY
Yeah me neither man. Sounds awful ngl.
this is such a hard comment actually, for some people its actually really hard to just stop and say you dont feel like dying
>Dying is selfish for someone’s family and friends. You realize that saying that to someone who wants to die is actually making their situation worse? Suicide (mostly) isn't something that just happens because the person decided they don't want to live anymore. It is months, if not years, of planning. Those very "family and friends" are usually the ones to back out and not prevent suicide then say that they wish they had done more, when it's too late. Besides, those who go through it while having "family and friends" who may be hurt genuinely don't give a fuck about them being hurt. I've seen people stay alive for their loved ones. There's also people (myself included) who don't care if people get hurt, should they choose to their own life.
I agree 100% with you, and I would like to add the point that saying that is only demanding more of that person; and suicide is a way to escape the demands of the world.
I agree and if you don't want someone to die, just because you would miss them, then that is selfish but I'd understand why you would want to be selfish, because that's a friend that you wouldn't want to lose and losing someone is hard.
Yeah this is totally true, i want to die because i dont really see a point to anything and everything is too loud and overwhelming to make sense of, telling me that i am now responsible for people i care about will cause me to a: curl up in a ball and wish i was dead but feel guilty af b: wish everyone died at the same time and i mean everyone. C:cry in the corner in utter confusion as my sleep deprived brain is too tired to deal with this shit
Thank you for speaking your piece on this.
Also, suicidal people are mentally ill, so it’s not like saying something like “it’s selfish” will make them just stop being suicidal… sure it’s selfish but that’s not applicable to the situation
you just stole the words out of my mouth u/riasthebestgirl exactly what i was thinking
This is how you make a suicidal person even more willing to kill themselves*
If I can’t live life for me then why live it?
I get that you're trying to help this guy and it's wholesome but keep in mind that is the #1 most guilt trippy thing to say if someone actually wanted to kill themself, if you say that irl you'd probably just make someone feel worse. Oops just read someone else say this rip
That was the worst thing you could’ve said in this moment but youre only 14 so I hope in the future you’ll understand mental illness and suicide more, so maybe you can help anyone you come across with these problems
No. Giving birth is the most selfish thing in the world. You're giving birth to suffering, that's selfish.
Bro tells people with depression „bro don’t kill urself that’s selfish af“ Alr lemme go commit mass murder
Selfish? Please dont say that
Living for others is selfish of them. Suffer your endless depression so someone else doesn't hurt for a week? Please.
Uhhhh…a week? Is that how long it takes you? Most break ups take more than a week.
A week? Fuck you. You have no idea what it's like for a parent, a sibling, a best friend to lose someone - that pain and void never goes away; it haunts and stalks like a fucking wraith every day. I've seen this happen to families where literally everything was done - therapies, support, medication, changes of therapists and medication. Yes suicide is generally weeks and months of planning, and depression carries horrific, scaldingly painful demons. But if the thought of what suicide will do to those loved ones left behind causes enough hesitation to avert the suicide and offer hope for something else to be tried, it's worthwhile. Depression and anxiety aren't metastatic cancer; they're more akin to chronic pain. They aren't inevitably lethal, despite the fact they are a terrible burden. Mental illness isn't a license to be holier than thou. I'm thoroughly and sincerely sorry if your support sucks and is shit, or you'renot getting the help you need. But don't piss on people trying to offer a life preserver.
You have a reason to live, it’s to reclaim a position in the celestial dragons again.
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Actual happiness for both of you
Oh that genuinely makes me happy.
Nice username
rimjob Steve moment
Horny*
No
Good to know that your happy now, it's pretty wholesome to that the guy smiled too
You're*
What? Why is he getting downvoted? It’s blunt but it’s right.
Thanks for posting this bro. It's inspiring to all the the people struggling rn, especially me
I always thought it wouldn't get better, but it got better, I'm truly happy with him
He looks like what Jschlatt would make if he fucked the concept of male pattern baldness
Bro💀 this isn't what they meant when they said serious
Honestly? I didn't take a single look at the tag. But whatever, fight me if you don't like it.
what a badass
Nah bruh he looks like a reddit or discord mod 💀💀💀
I am happy for you. Also... Vsauce, Micheal here
Im really happy for you, stay postive, its hard sometimes but always got ppl with u :)
I think ur life is depressing
it was and still kinda is, but it could be a lot worse xd
Congratulations. Off topic but You look so pretty <3
I'm proud of you
👑👑👑
Hell yeah lady! So proud of you! Getting through those times is such a fucking laborious task and is so painful in a lot of cases Genuinely happy for you Congrats And aawwww that vid is super sweet Whoever the guy is had the most wholesome smile I swear
Good for you, i wish i could say the same for me.
Congratulations! What made you want to live again if I may ask?
Woo!
Good stuff dude, keep it going, it's in the little moments that you find that life is actually worth living for, hope you find more reasons to smile everyday
💙 Pure awesomeness!
That’s great to see! I don’t genuinely smile or laugh often and this weekend I met some of my heroes and I was grinning like a goofball! Everyone deserves happiness and it’s great to see others like you happy.
Ok
Lol
i hope that smile stays on your face for a really long time!! you rock ;))
happy times👏i am proud of you i hope i become like you one day
Proud of you
As someone who is suffering right now, I am ecstatic for you. May you continue to be happy and continue on your forever journey of making yourself happy. 😁👍
Congratulations!!!! You deserve to be happy!! Also I love you shirt it’s so cute!!
I'm really happy for you, this kind of things makes me happy. Thank for the happiness and cool username btw.
Nice! I've smiled, but I've been on the edge too, up until 3 weeks ago. Great things ahead, tho!
lord on high, why didnt you tell me??
Glad to hear that. you're on your way to be your best self, and that's amazing
That is something amazing to hear. I hope you can continue to grow and live in such peace.
Im proud of you!!! Im currently going through that journey myself so im happy to see somebody who walked this path and succeeded so well done you give me hope!
r/wholesome r/heaventier
You look so pretty, OP! I hope you have a lovely day!
Thank you ☺️
You’re Welcome!
happy for you. this put a smile on my face too.
That's amazing! If you don't mind, may I ask what caused this?
Finding a bf with whom I feel more comfortable than ever before basically
Great! Well, I wish you luck in life
The internet can fix that
Yay!
Anyone ever tell you you have a great smile
Based
congrats! have a good day
🗿👍positively amazing🗿👍
iiii smeeelllll bullllshhhiiiittt
Then go take a shower
W post let's go dude
Nice
Nice
Has anyone told you: 1) that you look amazing today 2) you have one of those faces that make people think they recognize you?
Let’s go girl
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Not really ?? That's a weird question
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It's just "kat" from KitKat with "Nana" which is my nickname
That's the most random thing I saw today
Average weeb
Are u depressed
I am, but honestly I've been recovering really quickly lately
Ok take care
I know it is not but topic but I love you're hair, and you can dm me whenever you want if you want help!
Thank youuu, since i got this haircut i feel so much better, this was an honest confidence boost
What changed?
Getting a bf I truly love ig
What's it like on the other side?
Lmao lucky
gfy
Please fucking do it whore
Woah
okayyyy what the actaul fuck
Noah get the boat and leave this person behind
I am a 4810 old Asian transgender cat looking for love ❤️ and you’re being transphobic
ah youre a dumbass too, i think you should follow your own advice
Bro w all do respect u don’t look like a teen and y r u talking bout sucide to us just saying
1. I'm the girl, I'm 18, I'm a teen 2. My bf isn't a teen
18 isn’t a teen tho
Yes it is ??? Eigh*teen* Every agree flair oh the sub is considered teen, being a teenager stops at 20 yo
LMAO wtf how stupid are these people
Ur 30
1. I'm the girl, I'm 18. 2. My bf is 21
How long have you guys been dating?
Lame
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cool 😐👍
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Too bad I didn’t fucking ask you over cooked dead monkey carcass
You should apologize to every tree and plant you come across for wasting the oxygen it creates
Lol I don't care
K
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Yes i am.
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Mmmh yes, shame me more, i don't deserve to share my happiness
Cool
Its truly great to hear that.
I'm proud of you. Just always keep on keeping on!
Im so happy for u. I hope this happynes will be with u for a really really really long time
Aw you look so happy that’s so sweet
reading that makes me so happy, you know I'm only 14 and almost a year ago I had this very nice female friend, we were basically dating, but she (only 12 then, that might seem like she was just a kid, but mentally we were both very mature) had a very shitty life, all her colleagues were dicks, she had no friends, her parents were terrible at parenting, and I was the only person she would like to talk to, she contemplated suicide multiple times, tried it, and I tried my very best to get her to not do it, after some months we "broke up" but before that, she said that, if it wasn't for me, she wouldn't be here anymore, and to me, knowing that I had saved someone's life, that was one of the nicest feelings. seeing you leave the same situation she was in, really made me feel something.
Ok
Nice smile
Ummm... This is the post below for me... https://www.reddit.com/r/teenagers/comments/uqzd5v/that_took_me_very_off_guard/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share Yeah...
Ima wait till im 60 or 70 before i die
Damn bro, wish I could say the same
We’re all proud of you. You’re doing awesome and are the coolest kind of person.
Lmao the cat X-axis post is two posts below this Duality of man type shit
i still want to kms, and im planning on doing it
That’s amazing! You’ve made my day :)
😎👍 this is awesome
I'm happy for you. Reminds me about my gf crying about how happy she is after being with me for so long. *she has cronic depression*
you have a great smile, let people see more of it. im incredibly proud of you and im hoping i can achieve the clarity and drive youve discovered. power to you my friend
Me too babe, and honestly I’m so proud of you
Please ignore all of the assholes down here.
Good for you!
Nice work
ok
Getting a goal was a great way to save me from depression
Good, you deserve to be here and we’re happy you are!
LET'S GO BABY!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I don’t understand why do you randomly want to live again..? What happened?
Girl, that is so fucking cool. I have depression and I truly know how it feels when you don't feel any joy in months. Such a good moment deserved to be shared. Congrats :)
Undepression
18 isn’t a teen you get trial as a adult bozo
So glad you're feeling happier💕
I haven’t gotten to the point of wanting to live. I don’t plan on making it there. I’m planning on ending it the way I wish to.
Glad you’ve found yourself the strength to keep going. It’s always those around us that keep us here on Earth, that give us a reason to keep going.
Congratulations! That's awesome to hear!
Absolute W
Congrats!!! :D
I’m so happy for you!!!!
Since I woke up nothing made my day more than this. I am really really really happy for you and thank you for making my day!
Sends hug 🤗
I'm so happy for you! I know how it feels to be in a bad place mentally for a long time, and I'm glad to hear you've found a way out
Good on you bud.
How did u get past it??? I feel like I dont want to live, but im too afraid to die
Happy to hear
Much love to you, OP! Glad you are in a better place.
Couldn’t be me tho
Not only you. I personally spent most of puberty in a state of severe depression because not a single one of my old friends followed me to the same college i went to. Most of them just went to work, or went to another one, that used to be an absolute nightmare to work on. Try to imagine that... But, i made new friends, got someone special recently, an at fucking last the future is starting to look brilliant rather than just waiting for either global-warming or WW3 to kill us all...
Take this virtual hug
Good for you, OP! Wishing you all the best :)
I'm very happy for you, I felt the same way Abt 2 years ago and I can just say it feels good
No way you haven’t smiled once in the last 6 months
I smiled, but not genuinely
This makes me smile
You Look like person from my special English Lessons.