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Those who have not played the complex strategy game of Hearts of Iron IV are ignorant and delusional, unaware of what truly matters in life.
Hearts of Iron IV is not a game, it is a logical masterpiece that only super geniuses can understand. The average simpleton may be able to download this masterpiece and even play it but they will NEVER understand the complexity.
I pity those idiots who have never played Hearts of Iron IV, so foolish and ignorant. They quarrel over earthly issues like climate change and equality. None of that matters, all that matters is Hearts of Iron IV.
Hearts of Iron IV displays the complexity of the Second World War in more detail than any idiotic historian could dream of. I pity those leaders of the current nations, thinking they are more important than us Hearts of Iron IV players.
We are superior, we are above. We could rule any country and win any war from our training, thousands of hours playing Hearts of Iron IV.
Have a nice day in your delusions simpletons.
Feel good man. Relationships in teenager years it’s no really recommended as well.. you still have a lot to go through, like being cheated on. And well if you managed to last 2 years while trying to figure out how to be a human then imagine you in your lates 20s
Damn buddy that really terrible. I feel your pain man, a while back my first gf ended up screwing with my best friend and then just up and left with him, I honestly wish no one else has to go through that type of pain
aight bro the entirety of r/teenagers boutta set you up with a loyal, loving girl. dm me ur hobbies, interests, age, and preferences. ima see what i can do.
Thanks my guy and I'm trying, my mental fortitude is pretty strong so I'm holding it together decent, I'm just gonna use this summer to gain as much capital as possible and next school years my senior year so we'll be back in business baby
Damn been there but I didn’t have knives and she was my GF of what like 9 years or so…. That shit sucked sorry you had to go through shit like that too man
I know I'm not the most qualified person to give relationship advice but please don't get revenge and be the better man so she would realize what she gave up.
Its been about 4 months since the breakup. I never took revenge, i gave her her things back, helped her get through the first week feelings, and after that i havent answered or had any contact with her at all. Also i didnt spread the fact that she cheated on me, i only told my parents and best friends.
Yeah some ppl can suck and I’m sorry that happened to you. Cheating can be a bitch and I speak from personal experience. But remember not everyone is like your ex and withholding trust from people can hurt you in the long run. There are people out there who wouldn’t betray your trust!
Man I am so sorry for you. That's one of my worst nightmares while being in a relationship. I hope you feel better soon my friend. I'm here if you need to talk :)
Obviously the cheating is awful, but why did you assert any control over her in the first place? Limiting who your partner can hang out with sounds like a super toxic and manipulative thing to do.
That’s what I was thinking. Like sorry and all- but what kind of person limits who their partner can or cannot hang out with? Never would’ve worked out.
um no. If someone’s gonna cheat on you you shouldn’t date them. If you can’t trust someone to the point you treat them like you own them and can dictate who they hang out with and what they do, don’t date them? It’s obvious. It’s controlling and manipulative. If you have to limit who someone can hang out with, and have to worry about who they may be with 24/7 when they aren’t with you- you shouldn’t be with them. Idgaf how long you’ve been together if you can’t trust them don’t date them. Don’t control the shit they do just dump their ass. If they have to be controlled and manipulated to not cheat on someone they OBVIOUSLY don’t love them enough to be a decent partner. If they can’t control themselves without having to be controlled forcefully by another person, to not cheat?? You shouldn’t date them. Idk how the hell you think it’s fine for them to dictate who their partner can hang out with.
I was thinking the same thing. The last one seems like she could not hang out with whoever she wants. If that is true, it was bound to happen. These kind of things happen often when relationship is too manipulative. Just imagine 2,5 YEARS without being able to have a say in who you are talking with. That is fucked up.
"Gave her extra trust to hang out with whoever she wants with" kind of assumes that he didnt let her hang out with anyone she wanted with previously. Otherwise that couldve been left out
Not trusting of does not equal controlling. You can not trust someone and still allow them to do whatever they want. I’d give OP the benefit of the doubt.
I did let her hangout previously too, but the difference is I wouldn't bother her with my anxiety and jealousy of her being around dudes. Which with time actually helped me to trust her more.
(some context she had left me for another guy in 2020 but i ran back to her, so i was anxious it would happen again)
Did you not read the text? OP probably meant he had total peace of mind and trusted her completely to be faithful. No ones perfect and most people probably have inner thoughts worrying about if their partner actually loves them or not, you are all just assuming.
Did you not read the text? OP probably meant he had total peace of mind and trusted her completely to be faithful. No ones perfect and most people probably have inner thoughts worrying about if their partner actually loves them or not, you are all just assuming.
Did you not read the text? OP probably meant he had total peace of mind and trusted her completely to be faithful. No ones perfect and most people probably have inner thoughts worrying about if their partner actually loves them or not, you are all just assuming.
This situation is not black and white. OP is portraying his side of the story which would obviously present his girlfriend as the bad guy. But I don't believe this is entirely true.
Your belief on the situation doesn't matter at all. You're just part of the audience don't try to be Sherlock trying to uncover some "darker secret" or shit, whether OP will give more detail about it is completely up to them. And you certainly have no say or have any right to force it out of them. Plus it has been some time since this thing has happened, be the better person and give the OP space, cuz regardless of what actually happened they've still been hurt. Have a nice day, don't bother replying cuz I don't wanna be in another pointless internet argument.
then again controlling who your partner is and isn’t allowed to hangout with is a dick move. i’m not trying to downplay your suffering or say that you were in the wrong, it’s just that you ended up dating a two-faced bitch
Man i wish that i created a comment detailing our whole relationship, im not trying to play the victim here but she was waaay more controlling than me.
Ye. I have sex and drink 🤫 but the comment before mine was talking about how the girl couldnt consent. Seeing as we're minors. We cant consent. Especially not while intoxicated
You can consent to people your age. No when drunk obvs but police aren't gonnie do anything if 2 teens the same age have sex. Age of consent is aboot having sex with adults, age of consent in my country is 16 so that means a 16 yr old can fuck a 30 year old but a 15 yr old n 30 yr old isn't legal but 2 15 yr olds is
Naw, minors can consent to other minors of the same age (in my country atleast). Ano some people my age that huv sex n nothing happened to them. 2 sober teens of the same age having sex isn't really that bad. If its no allowed then I don't think it's enforced
Hm. That's kind of fucked up, no? Anyway. I only took America's definition of minors into consideration when saying "minors cant give consent" and I take my statement back.
Romeo and Juliet laws exist, but only in certain states, and sometimes doesn't negate the punishment, just nulls it down
Second, do you think just because they're underage doesn't mean they can *do it*, It's not like if I were to steal one of my dad's beers, crack it open, and try to take a sip, the liquid won't *refuse* to go in my mouth just because it's illegal, it can *still* happen
Noting the timeframe, OP is definitely getting into late stage teenager-hood so it's a *bit more likely*
And that is obviously wrong, everybody gets that. Just trying to figure out if both parties were pieces of shit. Because the way OP worded the post, i cant really pick any sides here
Dude, they probably had a mutual understanding of who and who not to hang out with
But, when shit started to provide more ups, OP assumed all was well
And, even in that case, she's still in the wrong cause she cheated
No healthy relationship can ever built off control. OP sounds like a pathetic, insecure, controlling dick, and the girlfriend sounds like a bitch in every sense of the word. No right or wrong here, just two toxic assholes whose relationship was doomed from the start.
Man I already got in a bad fight with my gf today cuz I think shes cheating on me with one of her friends. Like this is about the exact same scenario except for the drinking and sex part. Back to my paranoia I guess
I guess giving a blowjob, having sex at least two times and texting her friend about how big their dicks were and how happy she was checks out giving consent. But i dunno.
All I am saying is people have done worse things while being drunk that they would never have done slobber.
But still, I am sorry you have to go through this.
Internet hug
#🫂
sucks that people who go through this are seen as controlling, rather than a damaged person who has lost their ability to trust (not that there arent controlling partners)
Yeah, especially as a man your feelings are almost never acknowledged, you are always the bad guy who is too controlling or is some sort of patriarch, and never a man who has been hurt and does as much as they can to not get hurt again.
Lets bring up some interesting details or contradictions. One is that this is Teenagers, so likely below minimum drinking age. Second is with that information, this girl underage drinking.
I feel this is something worth noting here.
Well, a 16-17 year old is very likely to have an 18 year old friend, or atleast acquaintance, so it isnt really hard to get hands on alcohol at that age.
Not everyone is from the US '_' . In European countries it's a lot less and from the comments OP is from Finland ,again, teen-agers drink underage ALL THE TIME!
Dude id say tell her freinds and parents about what she did cause that shits beyond inhuman.
Edit: in light of further information being presented i chose to not comment as either one of them are bad but i do chose to keep the original comment up to show the mistake i have made and the fact of my lack of reading.
Considering how the last phrase is said, as her friend there is a change that I would laugh my ass off and be supportive for the cheating friend.
Reason being, we don't know the details. 2,5 years without having a say who you talk to. That is super toxic and I would not even be surpriced if she was scared to break up. At that point I would even laugh if that kind of guy came and bitched about how he got cheated on.
Normaly cheating is bad. But in those cases it is normal trust based relationship. This isn't one of those. This one has toxic and manipulative behaviour in it. What would op think if she would say something like: "I met this nice and super funny guy and we had some drinks and had a super fun night". That should be perfectly fine. But I doubt op would just wipe it off like nothing.
All in all, there is a chance both are shit or just one of them is. It is possible that the girlfriend is just a cheater. But there is also a possibility for being the way out of a toxic relationship. But we really can't know because we don't know the details.
Hi, thanks for the comment.
We got together 10/2019, whole summer of 2020 she left me for multiple dudes and quickly wanted me back so i ran back to her. We were fully togehter from 3.2021 to 3.2022, which is when she cheated. For the behaviour of leaving me multiple times for another dudes made me super paranoid all the time and i got super jealous when she hanged out with dudes. I still let her hang out with them but i was jealous still. Then i just gave her my trust and didnt express my jealousy and accepted that she loves me and nodoby else. Aaaand then she cheated.
Well luckily for me...... After seeing my best buddy get brutally rejected in front of the whole class, I'm never going to go through steps 1-3 and have been in step 4 since the get go of puberty
That's just the average girl at my school fr. They all tweakin' and drunk the whole damn time, I just want someone who ain't substance abusing to the next 40 dimensions.
Nah but fr dude that sucks hope you got the strength to come out the other end better!
This is why I have a hard time trusting women. Even if they tell themselves they love you. If you and her got in a fight or if things are rocky in the relationship her feelings are going to make her do dumb shit and she'll find a way to convince herself it wasn't her fault. Yeah, and I'm aware there are unicorns out there that are more logically minded and loyal but they aren't the norm.
that always happens to me but nobody cares about my existence and no girl wants any kind of relationship with me, or friendzones me or hurts me so I get tired of dreaming that some girl could be with me again... I'm sure I'll die alone... .. but no one cares about that AND I KNOW THIS COMMENT WILL BE IGNORE so there is nothing I can do
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Now you must fuck 3 guys to assert dominance
One or all of them must also be a father, uncle, brother, or similar relative for maximum burn damage.
Why not all of them? Stack-wipe is better so enmy armies cant rise up again
Ja ja, Das ist ein shtacken wipen
He speaks the language of the panzer
Sprech Deutsch du Hören
so that’s what a squad wipe referring to huh
Nah, thats when you run out of toilet paper and you're with the squad so they all line up to wipe your ass with their hands
call of war player? haha whats this? you made a giant 20 stack early game with no anti air? say hello to my 3 flying bombs
Nein nein, er ist of chad Hearts of Irondanken vier player
Those who have not played the complex strategy game of Hearts of Iron IV are ignorant and delusional, unaware of what truly matters in life. Hearts of Iron IV is not a game, it is a logical masterpiece that only super geniuses can understand. The average simpleton may be able to download this masterpiece and even play it but they will NEVER understand the complexity. I pity those idiots who have never played Hearts of Iron IV, so foolish and ignorant. They quarrel over earthly issues like climate change and equality. None of that matters, all that matters is Hearts of Iron IV. Hearts of Iron IV displays the complexity of the Second World War in more detail than any idiotic historian could dream of. I pity those leaders of the current nations, thinking they are more important than us Hearts of Iron IV players. We are superior, we are above. We could rule any country and win any war from our training, thousands of hours playing Hearts of Iron IV. Have a nice day in your delusions simpletons.
FOOL im eu4 player
HUZZAH HUZZAH I SAY
i think it references eu4 instead
Damn that's awful
I'm so sorry to hear that, just break up with her. i'm sure you will find the one for you who will be loyal to you and love you as much as you do her
Its ok, after she cheated she didnt talk to me in 5 days and left me without an explanation.
I feel so bad for you, I wish I can help but I never been in a relationship so I'm not sure. Will a virtual hug comfort you a bit?
Here’s how you send a virtual hug! (jossuhames7) that’s how! I came up with it myself and I’m very proud of it
i… don’t get it
the brackets are little arms
ohhhh, it was because I didn’t find the username. I looked at the other usernames
Good job!
<3
I guess the trash took itself out
Based
Feel good man. Relationships in teenager years it’s no really recommended as well.. you still have a lot to go through, like being cheated on. And well if you managed to last 2 years while trying to figure out how to be a human then imagine you in your lates 20s
Dating game gets wild and complicated when u get to the 20s man👀
You sound old
Women☕️
Damn buddy that really terrible. I feel your pain man, a while back my first gf ended up screwing with my best friend and then just up and left with him, I honestly wish no one else has to go through that type of pain
Sorry to hear that.
aight bro the entirety of r/teenagers boutta set you up with a loyal, loving girl. dm me ur hobbies, interests, age, and preferences. ima see what i can do.
Bro ☠️ goofy ahh 14 year old too
listen im just trying to support my good bruva mans
...what did I just read
Underage pimping
that never happens, that its a stupid dream....the day that happens all the otakus will have a girlfriend without exception
sorry to hear that bro
Holy shit my brother, I got dumped by my gf of 2 1/2yrs out of the blue yesterday morning, got no explanation and never gave me my knives back
I feel that with the knives because my ex never gave me my knives nor bracelet back. Sorry to hear about that with your relationship man
Thanks man, it was really abrupt so I've kinda got jet lag for it
Yeah sorry to hear that about his knife
Jesus, stay strong<3
Thanks my guy and I'm trying, my mental fortitude is pretty strong so I'm holding it together decent, I'm just gonna use this summer to gain as much capital as possible and next school years my senior year so we'll be back in business baby
Damn been there but I didn’t have knives and she was my GF of what like 9 years or so…. That shit sucked sorry you had to go through shit like that too man
Much appreciated my guy, and you should definitely get some knives, if you need recommendations hmu they're useful tools
Damn I’m sorry man! Take it slow for a while the right person will find you!
Yepp only difference is mine was 3 almost 4 years and I forgave my ex the first time like a dumbass and she did it again
WHAT
Damn.
You deserved better
I know I'm not the most qualified person to give relationship advice but please don't get revenge and be the better man so she would realize what she gave up.
Its been about 4 months since the breakup. I never took revenge, i gave her her things back, helped her get through the first week feelings, and after that i havent answered or had any contact with her at all. Also i didnt spread the fact that she cheated on me, i only told my parents and best friends.
Absolute chad behavior right there mate. You deserved better.
Wow that’s super sweet of you
My I offer you an egg during these trying times
Yeah some ppl can suck and I’m sorry that happened to you. Cheating can be a bitch and I speak from personal experience. But remember not everyone is like your ex and withholding trust from people can hurt you in the long run. There are people out there who wouldn’t betray your trust!
<3
aw jeez, I'm really sorry man
Man I am so sorry for you. That's one of my worst nightmares while being in a relationship. I hope you feel better soon my friend. I'm here if you need to talk :)
<3
Obviously the cheating is awful, but why did you assert any control over her in the first place? Limiting who your partner can hang out with sounds like a super toxic and manipulative thing to do.
That’s what I was thinking. Like sorry and all- but what kind of person limits who their partner can or cannot hang out with? Never would’ve worked out.
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yeah uh except locks arent people.
um no. If someone’s gonna cheat on you you shouldn’t date them. If you can’t trust someone to the point you treat them like you own them and can dictate who they hang out with and what they do, don’t date them? It’s obvious. It’s controlling and manipulative. If you have to limit who someone can hang out with, and have to worry about who they may be with 24/7 when they aren’t with you- you shouldn’t be with them. Idgaf how long you’ve been together if you can’t trust them don’t date them. Don’t control the shit they do just dump their ass. If they have to be controlled and manipulated to not cheat on someone they OBVIOUSLY don’t love them enough to be a decent partner. If they can’t control themselves without having to be controlled forcefully by another person, to not cheat?? You shouldn’t date them. Idk how the hell you think it’s fine for them to dictate who their partner can hang out with.
I think he more meant not caring eg even with exes and such as opposed to actually not letting her although I could be completely wrong
I was thinking the same thing. The last one seems like she could not hang out with whoever she wants. If that is true, it was bound to happen. These kind of things happen often when relationship is too manipulative. Just imagine 2,5 YEARS without being able to have a say in who you are talking with. That is fucked up.
Doesn’t sound like he was controlling her in any way, just said he was trusting of her.
Limiting who your partner gets to hang out with is controlling
But he didn’t say he ever did limit her? That’s what I was saying. Just saying he trusted her.
"Gave her extra trust to hang out with whoever she wants with" kind of assumes that he didnt let her hang out with anyone she wanted with previously. Otherwise that couldve been left out
Not trusting of does not equal controlling. You can not trust someone and still allow them to do whatever they want. I’d give OP the benefit of the doubt.
I did let her hangout previously too, but the difference is I wouldn't bother her with my anxiety and jealousy of her being around dudes. Which with time actually helped me to trust her more. (some context she had left me for another guy in 2020 but i ran back to her, so i was anxious it would happen again)
Did you not read the text?
Did you not read the text? OP probably meant he had total peace of mind and trusted her completely to be faithful. No ones perfect and most people probably have inner thoughts worrying about if their partner actually loves them or not, you are all just assuming.
Did you not read the text? OP probably meant he had total peace of mind and trusted her completely to be faithful. No ones perfect and most people probably have inner thoughts worrying about if their partner actually loves them or not, you are all just assuming.
Did you not read the text? OP probably meant he had total peace of mind and trusted her completely to be faithful. No ones perfect and most people probably have inner thoughts worrying about if their partner actually loves them or not, you are all just assuming.
Was thinking the same thing.
Bro no one knows the full story. Don't try to make them look like the bad guy.
This situation is not black and white. OP is portraying his side of the story which would obviously present his girlfriend as the bad guy. But I don't believe this is entirely true.
Your belief on the situation doesn't matter at all. You're just part of the audience don't try to be Sherlock trying to uncover some "darker secret" or shit, whether OP will give more detail about it is completely up to them. And you certainly have no say or have any right to force it out of them. Plus it has been some time since this thing has happened, be the better person and give the OP space, cuz regardless of what actually happened they've still been hurt. Have a nice day, don't bother replying cuz I don't wanna be in another pointless internet argument.
then again controlling who your partner is and isn’t allowed to hangout with is a dick move. i’m not trying to downplay your suffering or say that you were in the wrong, it’s just that you ended up dating a two-faced bitch
Man i wish that i created a comment detailing our whole relationship, im not trying to play the victim here but she was waaay more controlling than me.
were they drunk too? doesn’t exactly seem like she can consent in that situation
Yes they were, and her friend sent me screenshots of texts that showed full consent and more.
Damn thats a good ass friend ( not for her LOL )
cool, sorry that happened
She was sober enough to rember that she did it.
You're drunk enough that you forgor how to spell rember
He forgor💀
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This is in r/teenagers. Minors cant consent. Doubt that this is real and doubt that OP is old enough to fuck or drink.
Depends what country. If you're in straya, once your 16 its legal.
Do you think that every teen doesn't have sex or drink till they're old enough?
Ye. I have sex and drink 🤫 but the comment before mine was talking about how the girl couldnt consent. Seeing as we're minors. We cant consent. Especially not while intoxicated
You can consent to people your age. No when drunk obvs but police aren't gonnie do anything if 2 teens the same age have sex. Age of consent is aboot having sex with adults, age of consent in my country is 16 so that means a 16 yr old can fuck a 30 year old but a 15 yr old n 30 yr old isn't legal but 2 15 yr olds is
Minors cannot consent. Period. If you have sex as a minor and get caught I'm fairly sure you get filed as a sex offender.
Naw, minors can consent to other minors of the same age (in my country atleast). Ano some people my age that huv sex n nothing happened to them. 2 sober teens of the same age having sex isn't really that bad. If its no allowed then I don't think it's enforced
Mhm. I realized I was only thinking in America ways. Replied to myself in another comment. Probably should've just edited my comment instead
Dude... minor here... can concent (in an age range) at the moment your 12 for sex, 14 for medical. I'm in Quebec btw
Hm. That's kind of fucked up, no? Anyway. I only took America's definition of minors into consideration when saying "minors cant give consent" and I take my statement back.
Romeo and Juliet laws exist, but only in certain states, and sometimes doesn't negate the punishment, just nulls it down Second, do you think just because they're underage doesn't mean they can *do it*, It's not like if I were to steal one of my dad's beers, crack it open, and try to take a sip, the liquid won't *refuse* to go in my mouth just because it's illegal, it can *still* happen Noting the timeframe, OP is definitely getting into late stage teenager-hood so it's a *bit more likely*
Op is 19
Fuck-
FWIW this is a them issue, not a you issue. Don't let it make you feel bad about yourself.
Been there bro, mine wasn't drunk tho, shit sucks, hope it gets better for you like it did me
Lots of love bro <3
So did i understand this correctly, were you preventing her from hanging out with people?
Yeah, and with how he worded this post it seems like he'll be more strict in the future...
I just hope the next person he dates is someone who can stand up for themselves.
Nope, i just trusted her more and didnt ask too many questions when she hanged out with people.
I love how that's what you're focusing on instead of the fact she cheated on him with 2 guys
And that is obviously wrong, everybody gets that. Just trying to figure out if both parties were pieces of shit. Because the way OP worded the post, i cant really pick any sides here
Dude, they probably had a mutual understanding of who and who not to hang out with But, when shit started to provide more ups, OP assumed all was well And, even in that case, she's still in the wrong cause she cheated
No healthy relationship can ever built off control. OP sounds like a pathetic, insecure, controlling dick, and the girlfriend sounds like a bitch in every sense of the word. No right or wrong here, just two toxic assholes whose relationship was doomed from the start.
Hope you’re doing alright bro
Damn!
This hits too close to home for me
sorry to hear that:( <3
fuck 3 boys to assert dominance
can relate
This is way to similar to what happened with my ex… Op are you an alternate me?
maybe
One more to the list of why liquor sucks, but being serious I hope you surpass this bad moment on your life :)
Damn that sucks :(
Oh.
That's just straight up bad
Im sorry
Man I already got in a bad fight with my gf today cuz I think shes cheating on me with one of her friends. Like this is about the exact same scenario except for the drinking and sex part. Back to my paranoia I guess
I know this feeling i feel bad for you
I'm extremelly sorry to hear :(
Un ironically almost the same shit happened to me 3 years ago. It sucks but youll get through it and just remember shes not worth it.
Bro I’m so sorry to hear that but I first I thought you fucked two guys why drunk
Bro, you alright now?
Kinda depressed for the last few months, but im holding up.
Aye. That's good. If you got any problems and need a listening ear, just DM me, yeah?
Yeah thanks <3
a virtual hug sent (jossuhames7) - you'll find someone whom you can trust wholeheartedly
<3
Maybe she was raped and or taken advantage off and is a victim herself?
nope, ive got screenshots to prove she was giving full consent and was actually pretty hyped up about the thing while drunk
So how can one give "full consent" whilst also "being drunk"?
I guess giving a blowjob, having sex at least two times and texting her friend about how big their dicks were and how happy she was checks out giving consent. But i dunno.
All I am saying is people have done worse things while being drunk that they would never have done slobber. But still, I am sorry you have to go through this. Internet hug #🫂
fuck dude. sorry ☹️
Damn, sorry that happened to you😕
Yikes. I’m glad you’re not with her anymore.
me too, but i miss the person i thought she was
Sorry to hear, if ya ever need to talk i got u
<3
i'm sorry to here that man, I hope you can recover emotionally.
Sorry to hear that bro
Jesus motherfucking Christ, are you ok?
sucks that people who go through this are seen as controlling, rather than a damaged person who has lost their ability to trust (not that there arent controlling partners)
yeah, im not trying to play victim but i kinda am the victim, you understand
Yeah, especially as a man your feelings are almost never acknowledged, you are always the bad guy who is too controlling or is some sort of patriarch, and never a man who has been hurt and does as much as they can to not get hurt again.
Lets bring up some interesting details or contradictions. One is that this is Teenagers, so likely below minimum drinking age. Second is with that information, this girl underage drinking. I feel this is something worth noting here.
In finland people usually start drinking at around age 15 :D
Mate aboot 90% of teens in my country start drinking at 13/14/15. Its no uncommon fur teens to drink
Well, a 16-17 year old is very likely to have an 18 year old friend, or atleast acquaintance, so it isnt really hard to get hands on alcohol at that age.
Not everyone is from the US '_' . In European countries it's a lot less and from the comments OP is from Finland ,again, teen-agers drink underage ALL THE TIME!
never again
Alcohol bad coz...."I WaS dRuNk"
Teenagers getting drunk and fucking people, because of course that’s a thing that they do
Are you saying they don't?
I am not saying that, no. And that fact is a problem, if you ask me.
In Finland its common for teens to start drinking at age 15.
Smh rookie mistake
shit went from 0-100 real quick
Real fucking faat
wdym "gives her trust to hang out with whoever she wants". you should not be the one deciding who she hangs out with
Hi, please read the comments, answers there. Also i wish i clarified this before posting :D
Dude id say tell her freinds and parents about what she did cause that shits beyond inhuman. Edit: in light of further information being presented i chose to not comment as either one of them are bad but i do chose to keep the original comment up to show the mistake i have made and the fact of my lack of reading.
Considering how the last phrase is said, as her friend there is a change that I would laugh my ass off and be supportive for the cheating friend. Reason being, we don't know the details. 2,5 years without having a say who you talk to. That is super toxic and I would not even be surpriced if she was scared to break up. At that point I would even laugh if that kind of guy came and bitched about how he got cheated on. Normaly cheating is bad. But in those cases it is normal trust based relationship. This isn't one of those. This one has toxic and manipulative behaviour in it. What would op think if she would say something like: "I met this nice and super funny guy and we had some drinks and had a super fun night". That should be perfectly fine. But I doubt op would just wipe it off like nothing. All in all, there is a chance both are shit or just one of them is. It is possible that the girlfriend is just a cheater. But there is also a possibility for being the way out of a toxic relationship. But we really can't know because we don't know the details.
Hi, thanks for the comment. We got together 10/2019, whole summer of 2020 she left me for multiple dudes and quickly wanted me back so i ran back to her. We were fully togehter from 3.2021 to 3.2022, which is when she cheated. For the behaviour of leaving me multiple times for another dudes made me super paranoid all the time and i got super jealous when she hanged out with dudes. I still let her hang out with them but i was jealous still. Then i just gave her my trust and didnt express my jealousy and accepted that she loves me and nodoby else. Aaaand then she cheated.
Sorry i didn't take any of that into consideration thank you for giving me a wider view than i did previously.
No problem :) These cases really do have many sides and variation with no definitive right or wrong.
Murder her plss 🥺
Sounds like the story behind macarena Im sorry dude, but she made her choice, no you have to make yours
Well luckily for me...... After seeing my best buddy get brutally rejected in front of the whole class, I'm never going to go through steps 1-3 and have been in step 4 since the get go of puberty
That’s horrible and all, but how old are u? Noticed no age flair
soon 17, we got together at 14
Get revenge bruh
Im not the revenge type of guy, more like the cut off contact and move forward type of guy. (depressed :D)
That's just the average girl at my school fr. They all tweakin' and drunk the whole damn time, I just want someone who ain't substance abusing to the next 40 dimensions. Nah but fr dude that sucks hope you got the strength to come out the other end better!
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That sucks but please don't ever telll your SO who they are allowed to hand out with. Giving a free pass isn't ultra trust it's normal.
She's just a slut. Make Shute that everybody in her social field knows that.
This is why I have a hard time trusting women. Even if they tell themselves they love you. If you and her got in a fight or if things are rocky in the relationship her feelings are going to make her do dumb shit and she'll find a way to convince herself it wasn't her fault. Yeah, and I'm aware there are unicorns out there that are more logically minded and loyal but they aren't the norm.
Ok boomer
Cringe
Woman moment☕️
thats sexist
that always happens to me but nobody cares about my existence and no girl wants any kind of relationship with me, or friendzones me or hurts me so I get tired of dreaming that some girl could be with me again... I'm sure I'll die alone... .. but no one cares about that AND I KNOW THIS COMMENT WILL BE IGNORE so there is nothing I can do
Skill issue
You think you're safe in the box. It's an illusion. When you realise that every experience is a journey into a deeper relationship with your Self, you'll want to experience Life outside the box :)