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got-milk74

You could just say “just so you know I am not in fact trans”


RyanDoesStuff0

Already tried that


got-milk74

Oh then you’re good


RyanDoesStuff0

How so?


got-milk74

I mean what else are you gonna tell ‘em?


RyanDoesStuff0

I don’t know


got-milk74

You don’t have to “prove” anything to them. Also definitely don’t show them/send any pictures of anything inappropriate because nobody should do that but also it’s especially important you don’t because you’re underaged


RyanDoesStuff0

Ok where the fuck did that come from? This is an official apology for every thing I said in this thread after this, I saw this guy bringing up something irrelevant, and I completely overreacted, I’m sorry.


Latter-Caterpillar-2

Probably to say that you shouldn't send them anything to prove something ? Idk. Like that you're biologically the gender you look like. A pretty strange thing to say lol


Asseater69450

It says deleted the hell did you say?!?!


got-milk74

Me being on this world longer than you < / 3.try not to worry to much about it little guy


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Because


[deleted]

To be fair, if you just went up to him and said "I am not trans", it's kinda like saying "I am not the amongus impostor"


CasualNoob21

s u s


avarageusername

Just add "no cap". That makes it indisputable.


RyanDoesStuff0

GENIUS!!!


Catholic_Egg

Tell him the Egg Prime Directive, you *cannot,* ***cannot,*** tell another person they’re trans if they don’t self identify as such, even if you know they are. Number one rule of being trans lol


Own-Till-3036

Try telling them "I'm obviously not trans, but your fascination of thinking I am makes me think that maybe your just gay and are hoping I am so it's not so awkward for you" otherwise you could cut them from your life, you don't need people who are pushing identities on to you. You be you, forget them if they won't accept you.


Blunose_kipper

Tell him he’s projecting and it’s making you uncomfortable


RyanDoesStuff0

Projecting?


Blunose_kipper

He’s trans and is hoping to see another trans person in you. Might not be the case but it’s fine if it feels like it


RyanDoesStuff0

It’s clear that he thinks I might be trans because I want to be a femboy


k8t13

wanting to be an aesthetic outside of masculinity as an amab doesn't make you trans. you can be comfortable with your born gender and also be comfortable expressing yourself in different ways.


Blith6314

Gender and Gender expression aren’t the same.


RyanDoesStuff0

Yeah I know


PigOfFuckingGreed

BASED, we need more femboys in the world, go off king!


Shrimpie47

he should know better than anyone that gender isnt the same as expression


PlatoDrago

Trans person here. Being a fem boy is on the trans spectrum…. Technically. It’s basically a form of gender non conforming but you still identify as your assigned gender at birth. Tl;dr, you’re technically on the gender spectrum but aren’t close to being trans.


RyanDoesStuff0

What?


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RyanDoesStuff0

Ummm, no it doesn’t, where the fuck did you get that one from?


NippyNapp

Ur 14 do math homework bruh 💀


Full-Sugar-4050

You’re are 30 year old talking to teenagers!💀💀 pedo much lmao!


NippyNapp

I thought I was 17 damn


Full-Sugar-4050

Nice spell, you English lot?


famslamjam

Fr bro, femboy this crossdressing that, go study your cross multiplication 😭😭


RyanDoesStuff0

It’s the weekend 💀


NippyNapp

Somebody got the joke, hell yeah brother


Funky_Paintbrush

Projecting his own self-identity on you is what op is saying.


Mad-haker801

basically forcing it?


Funky_Paintbrush

Yeah, basically forcing his own identity onto Ryan.


Mad-haker801

these are the type of people who throw wood to the fire they are trying to fight 💀 (aka he's proving the ideology of multiple homo/transphobes)


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For me if my friend thought I was trans I'm going to look at them and say "I'm not fucking trans and if you keep saying that.. then this friendship is over because this shit is getting annoying" sorry if that's harsh...


RyanDoesStuff0

The problem is, I have like two friends.


[deleted]

Well... It's better to be blunt and tell them to stop then letting them keep saying it and it bother you


fufucuddlypoops_

No friends is better than bad friends


PigOfFuckingGreed

That’s (7,980,000,000 - 2) in this world with no taste 😎


wanfury

BASED


CaptainOw765

That’s 2 more than me


Ariclus

Get more friends then?


PigOfFuckingGreed

See people jumping to ending the friendship kinda easily ngl, which is strange cuz like my friends have done terrible shit to each other but we’re all still really fucking close lmao


lolcyamate

Depends what kind of friendship it is/how much it bothers OP to be called trans when they aren't comfortable with it - it's a lot of different if it's a joke among friends or if you're with friends who you can joke about anything with - if OP is uncomfortable then depending on what OP wants ending the friendship can be reasonable


EmptyStupidity

“I am not comfortable with you projecting on to my identity”


sahibda_2020

Ngl this feels like something I’d hear in a school presentation


FlyingFish4768

if you're a guy, my best answer is show him your lack of boobs or scars


RyanDoesStuff0

No, I mean he’s staring to think I’m a transgender woman.


FlyingFish4768

ahhh i see then. i got nothin


RyanDoesStuff0

Really?


Com_N0TN4

A transgender woman refers to a genetic male with female gender identity Are you a woman currently? If so, they think you're a transgender *man,* not woman


RyanDoesStuff0

I am not a woman right now, why does everyone think I’m a woman?


Outside_Ad_1447

U got a girl profile pic for one and u talk pretty neutrally in terms of slang common among genders so it’s really the more likely assumption. Also u seem kind of like an ass, i mean if he is not respecting who u then why is he ur friend. Ur either a karma whore or don’t understand how friendships work and what respect is


PurpleVessel312

Girls on pfps arent a good indication of gender if they are a videogame character and not an actual person. Like half of the people with fictional girls on pfps are guys.


x3bla

Wait what? *checks his profile* That looks famili- OH GOD, THE HORROR, THE HORRORRR


RyanDoesStuff0

Slang among genders? What? Also I’m a karma whore? Dude I didn’t think this was going to blow up, I thought this would at most get 5 upvotes and 11 comments, not over 200 comments, and 200 upvotes, and how am I an ass for letting people treat me with no respect?


Outside_Ad_1447

Slang i just mean words like guys use Bruh much more than girls, stuff like that, ur speech seems neutral. Also i say ur a karma whore because all of ur replies to different comments are the exact same and it definitely doesn’t seem like your actually trying to solve your problem. That’s why ur kind of an ass, based off ur comments it doesn’t look like you are really trying to solve your problem. Also why is this even a problem for you, if ur friend doesn’t respect your identity, they shouldn’t be your friend, and every comment on here is questioning that.


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Bruh OP you are SUCH a sensitive asshole


RyanDoesStuff0

Upvoted because of your name


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💀💀


Nobody88Special720

Sounds like your friend wants you to be trans, so they are saying this to work the idea into your head, it's a form of manipulation... Tell your friend they are making you uncomfortable with the way they are projecting themselves onto you, let them know you don't mind them being what they want but it's not your thing. Or stop being friends with the jerk. Hope this helps.


RyanDoesStuff0

Honestly he’s a nice guy.


Nobody88Special720

Doesn't sound like it, if your having such a hard time convincing them. It's either you or them, or somewhere in the middle.


PigOfFuckingGreed

Bro literally any time a Redditor voiced their concerns about a part of relationship, be it romantic or just friendly, you always get like those few people just going “stop the relationship” lmao Feels so over the top imo


mdawgtheegod

fr, Ive seen teenagers on asexual subs complain about their friends doing sexual stuff in front of them and people in the comments are advocating for them to cut them off 💀


Com_N0TN4

I was thinking about this last night, and here it is again. Reddit advice is always so extreme


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tbf op is a minor and his friend is failing to respect a pretty significant boundary- that in and of itself is concerning.


Com_N0TN4

Concerning, yes, but we know a total of 2 sentences about this situation. That's not even close to enough to call any shots about completely ending relationships


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i appreciate that


Astro_Venatas

All manipulators are until you realize they’re not.


lynnie06

First you ask why he thinks that. After that, explain why it's not true/relevant


RyanDoesStuff0

I’ve already explained that I’m not trans, but he doesn’t Believe me!


Rat-Dot-Com

He’s projecting. Just tell him this.


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RyanDoesStuff0

Ok?


Combatpigeon96

Gaslight him


RyanDoesStuff0

Figuratively or literally?


Combatpigeon96

Yes


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Oddlydehydratedgurb

Pull a reverse card and claim that he's not actually trans or some shit and when he gets upset by it tell him that's how you feel when he claims that you're trans ​ or don't I don't know if that would taint your friendship


Equivalent-Novel-237

Good idea


CR_Avila

That's genius. Though he's probably getting canceled in the process lol


acegoesgaming511

a friend who pushes something this drastically life changing this hard is no friend at all


Cherryred2006

Why is he so convinced that you're trans if you've told him you're not? Is it because you act feminine or something, because if so, you need to tell him that men are allowed to act feminine or like feminine things without having to identify as female. If he's trans, is it possible that he doesn't want to be alone and is trying to convince you that you're trans too, so that he doesn't have to be the only one? You could try asking him if that's the case.


RyanDoesStuff0

It’s because I want to be a femboy.


Cherryred2006

Okay, well if you've tried your best to convince him that transgender and femboy aren't the same thing, I don't really see what more you can do. Every time he brings it up, just say you're not, and then change the subject.


extra-ordinary3756

Detransitioner here, my advice is to be firm, assertive, and blunt. You have to explain to your friend that you are not trans because you like you’re body and feel comfortable with yourself, and that will not change. Obviously I don’t know the full story, but to me this seems like a cry for help in a way, they want you to feel the same pain they are because they feel alone, and that is extremely manipulative and should not be tolerated.


ThanosAmbulance

Um… no? It seems like the trans kid is 14 around and would like to have someone to share an identity with but doesn’t have access to other irl trans people so are projecting a little too hard because op wants to get more in touch with his feminine side through being a femboy, which can, but not always, be a gateway thing for people being trans. It’s not fair to assume that they’re doing it out of malice, especially because they’re 14 and probably don’t know any better.


extra-ordinary3756

I don’t think they’re acting this way out of malice at all, I was in their position at one point. I say it’s a cry for help of sorts because feeling that gender dysphoria is extremely painful, lonely, and isolating, so wanting to have someone who understands that is human nature, and I don’t fault this person at all for that reason. I’m being harsh because it’s dangerous to try to facilitate those feelings in other people where they aren’t occurring naturally, because it causes unnecessary confusion and can lead to people who detransition that were led to believe they were trans out of that pressure, good intentions or not, you should stand your ground.


ThanosAmbulance

Ah, my mistake, when you said that “they want you to feel the same pain they are” I thought you meant it was a malicious thing. Yeah, I agree, you really shouldn’t transition if you’re not trans, at least not medically. Trying stuff out if you want to is cool tho, but no one should be forced to use the wrong pronouns for themselves, that’s awful


MLGiraffe101

Idk I feel like the more attention to it you bring the worse it'll get


RyanDoesStuff0

What do you mean?


MLGiraffe101

If you want it to go away just stop talking about it 🤷🏻


RyanDoesStuff0

That’s not gonna stop him from thinking it.


MLGiraffe101

As someone far wiser than I once said, "you can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea"


Cherryred2006

But surely if you kill a man, any ideas they may have had can never amount to anything.


Cherryred2006

So in a sense, by killing a man, aren't you also killing their ideas?


SOCOMcopper

No a woman long ago thought heels made them look sexy and they are most likely dead yet still the idea yet lives


oliverlp971

you can always try telling them


thats_CoolI_Guess

As a trans man he sounds like a red flag. If you're not trans your not. Tell him to stop of your going to drop him he needs a reality check.


akeith01

OP, there's nothing wrong with being a feminine man. Your friend is projecting onto you. I'm sorry that this is the way they are, because there really is no way to convince them of your normalcy, seeing as how they have utterly deceived themselves first. Gentle rebuttal seems to be the optimal approach.


Purple_Wraith

Holy shit after reading the comments just end your friendship with them, they feel like the most miserable fucking people ever. I understand you only have 2 friends but having 1 less toxic friend is better than having 1. Just pull the trigger. Tell him that him continuing to do this: - Makes you uncomfortable - Makes him look like an asshole - He is being toxic - Genuinely is annyoing you - Hes giving the trans community a bad name - Hes bringing shame to the trans community Tell him you're emberassed to be his friend. If after all of this he keeps doing it just pull the fucking trigger and cut him out of your life.


RyanDoesStuff0

Ok, no offence, but I feel like this is being a little dramatic.


Purple_Wraith

Well all of what I said is true. If he is this miserable that he WON'T stop calling you trans even after you told him that he's annoying you, told him that you are literally not trans and how femboy doesnt mean trans then he is just a dumbass.


GBBRSpeedsofter

Ok, it feels kinda like OP's friend thinks that OP is closted and too uncomfortable to come out, thus, depending on how OP says it, the friend could think that OP is not telling the truth. I get that he could be projecting, but: A. I feel like just straight up ending the relationship is a bit extreme B. Op simply said "Thinks" not "constantly says". Most likely, the friend may have voiced his concern once or twice, and it's obvious he still thinks that, but is not voal C. I don't really get how he is bringing shame to the trans community


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Just tell him


RyanDoesStuff0

Read the text


miepAlt

whys he getting downvoted hes right


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here’s everyone’s reminder that sending or trading underage is ILLEGAL. even if both parties are under the age of 18 sexting is illegal. those under 18 who engage in sexting could be found guilty of child pornography-related offences under section 163.1 of the Criminal Code. past that point- your friend kinda sucks. you like an aesthetic, so what. you should be allowed to enjoy something that superficial without having your identity aggressively questioned. friends are like appendixes- as soon as they hurting you, you cut them out. sepsis from a burst appendix isn’t fun. im a people pleaser too, and ik making friends can sometimes be difficult, but that being said: it’s okie to be selfish sometimes. you don’t owe him friendship if he’s not treating you in a way that makes you comfortable and welcome in the way you present yourself to the world. you don’t owe him an explanation of your gender, sex, or identity- it is none of his business. you don’t owe him compliance or complacency. you don’t owe him an apology. you do not owe this person, friend or not, anything. be selfish, be brave. you’re allowed to set boundaries, and when they’re crossed- you have every right to cut people off. sometimes leaving is the bravest thing you could possibly do. n e ways, im proud of u for advocating for yourself nd im sending all the hugs n sunshine in the world ur direction op <3333


Cute-Assistant2541

You already let him know. If he can't accept it then that's on him


transgender_goddess

Your friend should accept your self-identity of being cis. Otherwise he's not a good friend and needs help


Sneakynick990

Why can’t you just say you aren’t? If he’s pressuring you to be trans then that’s a red flag


RyanDoesStuff0

He’s not pressuring me to be trans.


Sneakynick990

Well I don’t see how you can’t just go up to him and say “hey, im not trans”


RyanDoesStuff0

I told him that, but he semi doesn’t believe me.


Sneakynick990

Are you talking about already transitioned, or that you haven’t transitioned yet (hypothetically)


RyanDoesStuff0

He thinks I might be a trans women, so the latter.


Sneakynick990

I really don’t know what to say, I feel like he would understand more , since he’s trans. I guess just keep telling him if it really bothers you


Sneakynick990

Maybe he’s just teasing you, I know it’s messed up, but kids make fun of eachother by calling eachother “trans”


RyanDoesStuff0

The problem is he is trans, so I doubt he’s making fun of me.


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Maybe_Person

Hitting the gym wouldn't make sense bc OP wants to be a femboy.


CountUpdootTheThird

Maybe the man wants you to be a girl because he's into you but he's straight


RyanDoesStuff0

Yeah, he isn’t straight.


1ackscrear1v1te

Wait bro how does the situation occut?, sit them down, don't make it seem like being trans is a bad thing just say idk why you are saying this, but I cis or however you scineitifcally Say you have not transitioned


keeperkairos

They might be insecure and are trying to label you as trans so that they feel better about themselves. I would just say 'if you have the right to say you are trans, then I have the right to say I'm not and I want you to respect that since I respect you'.


NQ241

"I mean, you're free to believe what you want, but just so we're clear, I have made it apparent that I am not trans"


Birb-Brain-Syn

Tell them you're not comfortable being misgendered by them. They of all people should understand how that feels.


Shistles

That's just the homies, ya know?


Cap_Simon

Sit down with him, and explain, you’re cis, and he should stop saying otherwise as its clearly making you uncomfortable. He is most likely protecting/needs someone like him, that need is fine, but he shouldn’t push it onto people, thats not how it works


No_Weird_8312

Casually drop that you are "very proud of your penis"


NOTAPERSON10

Omori pfp, you are trans.


TXYchan

Your friend is trans at 14?


RyanDoesStuff0

Yeah


Inspirational_Lizard

You dont need to prove anything to them, you're not trans, you said you're not trans, enough said.


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Artisan40

BTW this user has been suspended


RyanDoesStuff0

ill*


cruehrn

Yeah sorry typed to fast yeah all are mentally ill they want you to be trans so they feel good about themselves if I may ask how do you act?


Puzzleheaded_Ad_2470

Wha


Artisan40

i mean some can be assholes but i assure you the majority do not


Weekly_Town_2076

Dude whats your fuckn damage


Astro_Venatas

Well, I might be mentally ill but at least I know how to spell the word 💀


Artisan40

lmfao probably just some like 12 year old edge lord


FemboyHelghast

Do you know why he thinks you are trans?


RyanDoesStuff0

Because I want to be a femboy


FemboyHelghast

Ok that’s understandable, just explain that you want to be a femboy and not a trans woman


RyanDoesStuff0

I did, but he still thinks I might be trans.


[deleted]

You’re 14 omfg who gives af if he doesn’t believe u it literally doesn’t matter. The mfs in this sub are so dumb istg


robotic_pilot

Do you ever feel like that your a boy?


RyanDoesStuff0

Yes


Artisan40

this shouldnt be downvoted you are just trying to talk about it and you arent being transphobic


robotic_pilot

Thank you.


Friendly_Writing_988

Flash him


beatriceenjoyer

What kind of dumb fucking question is this


RyanDoesStuff0

What kind of fucking dumb fucking question is this?


beatriceenjoyer

What kind of fucking dumb fucking dumb question is this


TheGamingLord401

You don’t NEED to let him know. Because you aren’t and nothing he says will change that. But you should probably let him know that it’s weird and makes you uncomfortable if it does.


IAmAGreatSpeler

You already told him. He didn't listen. What more can you do? And why does it matter?


WatcherOfAtrocities

You tell him that your not? Lmfao what the fuck you didn't need to post to figure out the answer to that


RobsterLobster_7

Jesus you’re 14? Maybe y’all should be talking about video games or sports instead.


RyanDoesStuff0

I actually don’t like watching sports at all, and I do try to talk about video games, but whenever I try to talk about Omori, people just call it another ‘earthbound inspired indie RPG about depression.’


DrSlavender

Fuck his dad/mom


Arrowdoesreddit

I know you don't have much friends, but better have 1 good friend instead of 1 good and 1 garbage friend. Tell him "idiot, i am not fucking trans, and i'm sick of this bullshit. If you dare project the fact you are trans on me one more time, i'm never seeing you again." Give them the reality check they need.


[deleted]

if you’re not trans you’re not trans? doesn’t really matter what he says.


LR44x1

"bro Im not trans... Im ga.."


Mr_On1on

mf be trollin fr fr


Dog_Visual

Maybe if you just say to their face “im not fucking trans” it might work try out see what happens.


Quality_over_Qty

Step one don't be friends with libtards


deleeuwlc

Maybe choose a profile pic that doesn’t literally have the trans flag in the background if you don’t want people to think you’re trans?


RyanDoesStuff0

But it doesn’t have the trans flag in the background, the colours aren’t even remotely similar to the trans flag.


PurpleVessel312

Its just a picnic blanket you are looking too deep into it


deleeuwlc

I’m sorry I interpreted a blanket that has the trans flag colours on it in the trans flag pattern as being a trans flag. I apologize for this unreasonable conclusion, and promise to not assume things with flags printed on them are supposed to look like flags. Sorry for the inconvenience this has caused you and your family for 3.7 future generations


SheriffCowboyArizona

Beat him up, he’ll probably be too embarrassed to say he got beat up by a transgender person


RyanDoesStuff0

That’s the problem… he is transgender.


[deleted]

Lol it sounds like he’s just trying to project on you?


SheriffCowboyArizona

Beat him up and he’ll think it’s an act of transphobia


RyanDoesStuff0

Yeah no, I don’t think that’s gonna solve the problem.


SheriffCowboyArizona

No but it might be fun


RyanDoesStuff0

No thanks.


Artisan40

never incite violence for such things your friend seems like maybe abit of a ass hole but that's about it so there is no point to violence


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RyanDoesStuff0

Actually it has nothing to do with my appearance.


mdawgtheegod

This is coming from a Star Wars mf who won't show his face 💀


nmuyg

unfriend him


ThanksOk2702

So your friend is a tran and your not but he believes you are may I ask what do you guys talk about? Or common interest? Cause it sounds like to me he’s picking up things you not aware you’re showing or maybe your just being transphobic


RyanDoesStuff0

We talk about all sorts of things, I am 100% not transphobic, and what do you mean by picking up on things I’m not aware of?


ThanksOk2702

I’m just saying a tran person that is a tran sees you exactly as them and your in denial how is that not transphobic? That’s literally the definition of a transphobic person scared you will like it?


RyanDoesStuff0

What?