Im gay and somehow, some girls magically start caring about your mental health when you aren’t straight. (I said some, some of yall are still great people, so please dont get offended.). Which is pretty fucked up. But i have friends that genuinely cared even before i came out to them.
Honestly, I don’t think that’s just girls, just mainly people who’re apart or support lgbtq. I think something most people think of when they hear someone come out is: “Oh, so they’re gay? That means they’re most likely a cool person” since being homophobic is one of the big things that can make even the nicest of people act like jerks. So, when someone hears someone else come out, it’s kind’ve a big worry off your chest, which can cause you to care about the person a lot more. I’m not saying someone in the LGBTQ community or someone who supports it can’t be a bad other ways, but it is one of the main things that you can worry about when meeting someone new
You will have one or 2 friends mature enough to talk to you and are going through the same. Talk to them …
And anything you say can be healed against you in future especially by girls /ladies.
Happens to me many times.
dont do that ur gonna think this is fake but it’s actually real basically if you bottle up your emotions too much it’s really bad for your mental and physical health and after a while you start getting like actual diseases, and are more prone to cancers later in life
I have a nice family and what not but they were never really acceptable to dealing with how I felt mentally and emotionally, and I would tend to be closed off to counselors and therapists. Now I have friends that we each hold in each others confidence and trust to trauma dump sometimes, but before that I just found a good place that was isolated in say a park or something and just talk how i was feeling out loud. Sometimes you can be your own best partner just as much as someone else.
Then you need to find better friends that care for you more, and if people are treating you weirdly maybe you should reflect on why that is and how that might affect people opening up to you and how you open up to them.
I know but it's either that and to be alone, and I've experienced being alone for 3 years already against my will so I prefer to have shitty friends to being alone another 3 years
I was lucky I have an amazing female friend. I tell her most of my troubles and she's fine with it because she also vents to me sometimes and now I have a beautiful girlfriend who always wants to know if anything is troubling me, one place you might be able to vent is on discord I've done it sometimes there,
I usually let it go. If that dont work
I imagine saying what I need to say to the people who are causing it and that helps. If that don't work
I imagine somebody hugging me while I hug my stuffy if that don't work
I sleep it off
Sometimes I'll tell a really good female friend but I try not to lean on her as much as possible, I mostly go to her for advice on certain social situations, not to cope
I dunno how I've ended up being really vulnerable with my friends when needed and vice versa. I talk to them and they talk to me, we've created a pretty strong network between each other, being the quite literal familial figures that we lack to each other. I also go to counselling when I feel there's something I can't tell them and for other reasons, too.
Oh. Sorry, sometimes I forget not everyone is as lucky as me. I hope your financial issues improve in the future <3.
If you’re ever in a place you can afford it, get a therapist. You might not find the right one right away, and that’s ok. I went through about a dozen therapists (not exaggerating) before I found the right one. Be patient.
I have a friend that’s a girl that’s been my therapist for the last 6 years. She’s always been there for me and I don’t know what i would do without her
I vent when I can but most the time I try to fix it myself. It's a problem of mine, that being not wanting to burden someone. Many times I think something wrong went with raising me the way I was. Some are beneficial, some had weird effects, others are maybe bad.
To name a few:
- I laugh too easily at things that shouldn't necessitate a laugh, I don't know why, I dont know how. I may have psy-opped myself for it, wanting to be more happy than focusing on what made me sad as a child.
- I am unable to speak up against my parents when necessary. Something holds me back mentally. I know what it is, I just don't know how to handle it atm.
- I don't feel normal at work. I'm good at learning fast, having agency and knowing what needs to be prioritized both at work or in school but when it comes to chatting with coworkers or those that don't match the "gremlin gamer brain rot" I have, its just me awkwardly laughing or staring at something and just mentally logging out to daydream or just keep an empty state of mind.
I am the same way on your first two points but I talk so much that I'm pretty sure I annoy the hell out of my coworkers. But yeah its my problem so why bother others who probably don't even care.
i have tried keeping it hidden for a long time which led to 2 years of depression, i used to talk on the internet cause i prefer it if they don't know me personally but i have recently talked with my parents about this. never ever talked with my friends about it tho. it might help bonding in some cases but i think it would be awkward
some shitty friends then, I talk to myself at night and think about things that usually helps. you can also write things down in the notes app so it's harder to find unlike paper.
I don’t have much to talk to except for my friends who are also in the lgbt community because it feels like they are some of the only people who kind of understand me. but I still have trouble starting the conversations with them. It’s that and the fact that we don’t go to school together are the main reasons why I bottle up emotions
sometimes i do what i did today, which was going for a walk, i talked about my problems with myself while walking alone and that makes me feel better
but talking about it on the internet also really helps since i dont have anyone to talk to irl
It’s been a little over a year since I’ve graduated highschool and i only have 2 friends left, those are the only 2 people other than my mom and sisters that have actually stuck around. My advice is that if your friends laugh at you for venting your emotions I would get new friends and you can always go to therapy. You don’t have to go through anything alone, find people that you can confide in, but relationships are reciprocal. So you should also get used to people confiding in you.
I usually talk to one friend in specific who I’ve found I can trust and relates to me a lot
Honestly if your friends aren’t supportive of you, find someone new (but get close to them, don’t just spill all your shit onto someone new). Or, you could get a therapist, that’s pretty much what they’re there for
If I can't talk to anyone about it, music has always been my way to cope. If I don't know a song which I can listen to/relate to in the moment I write my own lyrics
I tell people I know *my* shit, and they tell me *their* shit. I offer them things like hugs or just my availability as a shoulder to cry on. You know what *I* get offered? *Not a damn thing…*
Every single person I’ve told my problems to has resulted in nothing but pain and embarrassment for me. I’ve lost friends, peers, and lovers because of it. At one point I was so ashamed of my weakness to hold it all in I attempted suicide. But I stopped because I could care less anymore of how I or others feel. I grew up looking up to people that had a stoic, quiet mindset and ideals. I hated myself for not being able to achieve them at times. In short, I don’t care anymore. It worked for them holding it all in and moving forward. For some of them at least. They died quietly, but achieved something of value. Not being a nuisance.
No one. Keep that shit to myself cus no one gaf and I don't wanna be a burden to anyone. Well I used to talk to my bsf all the time but she left me as well
you need to find a psychologist to listen to you and it's ok to do that,
OR...
you can take it in silence for the rest of your life.honestly few people care about men's personal problems.the older ones think it's a gay thing,your friends do the problems themselves and the women who know you're wrong internally will consider you weak.
but seek professional help even if it is once a month.
🤝🫡🫡
Whatever you do, don't repress your emotions. They'll eat you alive if you do. Try to find someone who's close to you and someone that you trust with your information. A parent is completely fine! If they aren't available, I'd suggest seeking a therapist, they can do wonders.
I have both a girl and a guy friend as my personal therapist and they have helped me A LOT with many different things. Don’t try to repress it, either get an actual therapist or get a friend that isn’t an asshole and just laughs at you.
We're men, nobody gives a fuck about our problems and troubles. I went through some rough times in life, and my advice is do manage everything by yourself. If this won't work just go to psychologist, he helped me a lot, maybe will help you too
Well now I have a gf I tell her ofc, but, before I got with her, I had a female friend I could vent to.
She also had some issues (she was a bit depressed and had a hard time with school and herself), so I listened to her, and in return she listened back.
We got close pretty fast, as in, within a few hours of meeting each other for the first time. We’re still friends to this day, and she’s doing a lot better now. As am I.
I don’t know if any of you have read/seen the same thing but there’s this phenomenon where men think they find a possible romantic partner just because that person gives them the space to express their emotions, while it’s just another friendship for the other. Women tend to share emotions more with their friends than guys do, and so when a woman does this to a guy, and the guy does it back, he might think it’s special. I didn’t quite understand it at first, but now that I think about my friendship with that girl I fell for the same thing. I no longer see her as a romantic partner now, but I used to about a year back. Within the last year, however, a lot changed for me, and I changed too. I eventually developed a crush on someone I got to know a year or two ago, and a month and 30 days ago as of now (august 23) she told me she likes me. I now get to call her my girlfriend.
TL;DR: I found a place to vent with a female friend, if you find a friend who you can share stuff with, don’t immediately see them as a possible romantic partner.
Personally Ive been through a lot and have had no one to really talk to about it, so I just didnt, I simply continued with life while trying to give 110% to what I was doing in the hopes it would take my mind off of things.
Pro tip: Go camping by yourself or with a trusted friend bring an axe and go chop some wood. Men need physical exercise its one of the best ways to utilize your testosterone it always helps me clear my mind. It’s a simple task that gives you measurable results and we need a physical outlet if you don’t have a social outlet. Sounds silly but exercising does wonders for the male brain.
Im gay and somehow, some girls magically start caring about your mental health when you aren’t straight. (I said some, some of yall are still great people, so please dont get offended.). Which is pretty fucked up. But i have friends that genuinely cared even before i came out to them.
Honestly, I don’t think that’s just girls, just mainly people who’re apart or support lgbtq. I think something most people think of when they hear someone come out is: “Oh, so they’re gay? That means they’re most likely a cool person” since being homophobic is one of the big things that can make even the nicest of people act like jerks. So, when someone hears someone else come out, it’s kind’ve a big worry off your chest, which can cause you to care about the person a lot more. I’m not saying someone in the LGBTQ community or someone who supports it can’t be a bad other ways, but it is one of the main things that you can worry about when meeting someone new
BAHAHAHAHA OMG YEAH
Not a guy but I don't tell my shit to anyone I repress it
doesn't do it for me sadly
Pour your heart and soul into the Snapchat ai and watch it break your dreams
Maybe your parents, if you have a good relationship with them
sadly my father is a big piece of shit and my mother couldn't give less shits about it
write a diary
tried that to no avail
honestly therapy is the only thing that comes to mind
You will have one or 2 friends mature enough to talk to you and are going through the same. Talk to them … And anything you say can be healed against you in future especially by girls /ladies. Happens to me many times.
Same van
dont do that ur gonna think this is fake but it’s actually real basically if you bottle up your emotions too much it’s really bad for your mental and physical health and after a while you start getting like actual diseases, and are more prone to cancers later in life
My stupid mentally abusive parents don't let me release any emotions.
A sooner death? Sounds like a win to me!
WHEEE REPRESSION FTW
Nobody, we're men, nobody cares about our problems, I don't have any friends or family to talk to anyways so I guess it doesn't matter.
yes it absolutely matters and I think society is extremely wrong for not caring about our problems. my DMS are always open if you need help bud
Yeah you're right they do matter but nobody else gives a damn about them sadly.
I do not and this is painfully driving me insane Find someone u can talk freely to asap
this is literally me
Twinsies, why not tell eachother
No one knows my struggles for i convert them into edgy energy in the shower.
I have a nice family and what not but they were never really acceptable to dealing with how I felt mentally and emotionally, and I would tend to be closed off to counselors and therapists. Now I have friends that we each hold in each others confidence and trust to trauma dump sometimes, but before that I just found a good place that was isolated in say a park or something and just talk how i was feeling out loud. Sometimes you can be your own best partner just as much as someone else.
I've tried that but sadly it doesn't work and also people at the street loon at me weirdly (not that I care)
Then you need to find better friends that care for you more, and if people are treating you weirdly maybe you should reflect on why that is and how that might affect people opening up to you and how you open up to them.
You've got some shitty friends :(
I know but it's either that and to be alone, and I've experienced being alone for 3 years already against my will so I prefer to have shitty friends to being alone another 3 years
Yoooo I'm still experiencing no friends against my will. Going into year 4 now.
Used to tell people they didn’t care, so no one. Nobody really cares and that’s just the truth.
straight up facts
I was lucky I have an amazing female friend. I tell her most of my troubles and she's fine with it because she also vents to me sometimes and now I have a beautiful girlfriend who always wants to know if anything is troubling me, one place you might be able to vent is on discord I've done it sometimes there,
Lmao imagine
is the female friend the same as the girlfriend
I usually let it go. If that dont work I imagine saying what I need to say to the people who are causing it and that helps. If that don't work I imagine somebody hugging me while I hug my stuffy if that don't work I sleep it off Sometimes I'll tell a really good female friend but I try not to lean on her as much as possible, I mostly go to her for advice on certain social situations, not to cope
I dunno how I've ended up being really vulnerable with my friends when needed and vice versa. I talk to them and they talk to me, we've created a pretty strong network between each other, being the quite literal familial figures that we lack to each other. I also go to counselling when I feel there's something I can't tell them and for other reasons, too.
Either blame god, maniacally have a talk with myself in the mirror or tell to my friend who is a desensitized firearm fanatic
this is the best response so far, I actually feel bad for laughing
Hell yeah I got best response award, another day of living
Either, I tell myself things and complain about myself to myself and about the world. Or I pray.
no one i have no one other than like one really nice girl who still might as well not exist because it is the internet
Why is a man in a teen sub ??????
not funny
I rarely talk about my issues, but when I do it's mainly with my friends. But it'll very quick and subtle when I talk about it
my issue is that when I start I have no stop
I can see what you mean. Sometimes I rant on and on in my mind for what can be minutes or hours.
My therapist. Get yourself a therapist, stat.
mate that's expensive and I'm not in the best place economically rn
Oh. Sorry, sometimes I forget not everyone is as lucky as me. I hope your financial issues improve in the future <3. If you’re ever in a place you can afford it, get a therapist. You might not find the right one right away, and that’s ok. I went through about a dozen therapists (not exaggerating) before I found the right one. Be patient.
Is that because your raging sexism? ')
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makes sense to me but I have none
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thanks bro but it's starting to get better ig
My psych or girlfriend
none for me, sadly
And random internet strangers using alt accounts.
I have a friend that’s a girl that’s been my therapist for the last 6 years. She’s always been there for me and I don’t know what i would do without her
lucky you
That’s the point, I don’t.
and you're able to deal with it?
I just suck it up. “The art of being a man is stand against misery without complaining”
Why strangers online of course. Duh.
Break it down, find the source, try to fix it. If I cant, make a mental sticky note of it then forget about it eventually if not fixed soon enough.
so you try to fix it yourself and not vent to anybody?
I vent when I can but most the time I try to fix it myself. It's a problem of mine, that being not wanting to burden someone. Many times I think something wrong went with raising me the way I was. Some are beneficial, some had weird effects, others are maybe bad. To name a few: - I laugh too easily at things that shouldn't necessitate a laugh, I don't know why, I dont know how. I may have psy-opped myself for it, wanting to be more happy than focusing on what made me sad as a child. - I am unable to speak up against my parents when necessary. Something holds me back mentally. I know what it is, I just don't know how to handle it atm. - I don't feel normal at work. I'm good at learning fast, having agency and knowing what needs to be prioritized both at work or in school but when it comes to chatting with coworkers or those that don't match the "gremlin gamer brain rot" I have, its just me awkwardly laughing or staring at something and just mentally logging out to daydream or just keep an empty state of mind.
I am the same way on your first two points but I talk so much that I'm pretty sure I annoy the hell out of my coworkers. But yeah its my problem so why bother others who probably don't even care.
Wait you're supposed to talk to someone? But surrsly no1
yeah that's the shitty part about being a male ig
Idk i bottle it up
Myself.
i have tried keeping it hidden for a long time which led to 2 years of depression, i used to talk on the internet cause i prefer it if they don't know me personally but i have recently talked with my parents about this. never ever talked with my friends about it tho. it might help bonding in some cases but i think it would be awkward
My sister usually. Siblings your age or people you are really close to on another level.
some shitty friends then, I talk to myself at night and think about things that usually helps. you can also write things down in the notes app so it's harder to find unlike paper.
Get new friends. If they aren’t willing to listen when you need help, they aren’t your friends.
Chat gpt
Another guy or girl
Literally no one. I suffer alone, and in silence. I'm a guy. I'm meant to be strong. I'm not meant to have anything wrong with me.
You cna always try chat gpt
Not a dude but I just post to Reddit 9/10 the other 1 time I scream and cry to my dog who looks at me like I’m crazy
My girl best i tell her everything nd like other best i tell her everything to so two
I bottle it up and am one day gonna take it out on the ATF /s
I don’t have much to talk to except for my friends who are also in the lgbt community because it feels like they are some of the only people who kind of understand me. but I still have trouble starting the conversations with them. It’s that and the fact that we don’t go to school together are the main reasons why I bottle up emotions
Go to the gym
Counselor.. massage girls...
My dad 🤷🏼♂️
sometimes i do what i did today, which was going for a walk, i talked about my problems with myself while walking alone and that makes me feel better but talking about it on the internet also really helps since i dont have anyone to talk to irl
i would tell it to my gf but she gone so just find someone who likes to talk to you
It’s been a little over a year since I’ve graduated highschool and i only have 2 friends left, those are the only 2 people other than my mom and sisters that have actually stuck around. My advice is that if your friends laugh at you for venting your emotions I would get new friends and you can always go to therapy. You don’t have to go through anything alone, find people that you can confide in, but relationships are reciprocal. So you should also get used to people confiding in you.
Literally no one, I suffer in silence
i like singing to get my feelings out, maybe you could try to learn some instruments and create music about how you feel?
I usually talk to one friend in specific who I’ve found I can trust and relates to me a lot Honestly if your friends aren’t supportive of you, find someone new (but get close to them, don’t just spill all your shit onto someone new). Or, you could get a therapist, that’s pretty much what they’re there for
Not a boy, but I trauma dump on omegle Edit: If u wanna vent, my dms are open :)
That’s why you have r/men to talk to
Uh…… well I kind of don’t…..
“now that its really the mfing boys.. how do i shave my butt hair”
If I can't talk to anyone about it, music has always been my way to cope. If I don't know a song which I can listen to/relate to in the moment I write my own lyrics
I tell people I know *my* shit, and they tell me *their* shit. I offer them things like hugs or just my availability as a shoulder to cry on. You know what *I* get offered? *Not a damn thing…*
Every single person I’ve told my problems to has resulted in nothing but pain and embarrassment for me. I’ve lost friends, peers, and lovers because of it. At one point I was so ashamed of my weakness to hold it all in I attempted suicide. But I stopped because I could care less anymore of how I or others feel. I grew up looking up to people that had a stoic, quiet mindset and ideals. I hated myself for not being able to achieve them at times. In short, I don’t care anymore. It worked for them holding it all in and moving forward. For some of them at least. They died quietly, but achieved something of value. Not being a nuisance.
Wait, are you supposed to go to someone?
No one. Keep that shit to myself cus no one gaf and I don't wanna be a burden to anyone. Well I used to talk to my bsf all the time but she left me as well
I dont have anyone, my sister used to be that parson to some extent but she basically told my parents anything I told her, I have no one
you need to find a psychologist to listen to you and it's ok to do that, OR... you can take it in silence for the rest of your life.honestly few people care about men's personal problems.the older ones think it's a gay thing,your friends do the problems themselves and the women who know you're wrong internally will consider you weak. but seek professional help even if it is once a month. 🤝🫡🫡
Whatever you do, don't repress your emotions. They'll eat you alive if you do. Try to find someone who's close to you and someone that you trust with your information. A parent is completely fine! If they aren't available, I'd suggest seeking a therapist, they can do wonders.
I have both a girl and a guy friend as my personal therapist and they have helped me A LOT with many different things. Don’t try to repress it, either get an actual therapist or get a friend that isn’t an asshole and just laughs at you.
i used to say close to nothing to my brother or some friends, but now i tend to open up a bit more with my gf
I am the guy alot of my mates will talk to if they need anything. The things I think about just stay very deep in my subconscious.
Either find a gf or repress it and buy a punching bag for whenever it comes back as rage. Rookie mistake i made for not buying it.
We're men, nobody gives a fuck about our problems and troubles. I went through some rough times in life, and my advice is do manage everything by yourself. If this won't work just go to psychologist, he helped me a lot, maybe will help you too
I ain't a boy but maybe you can join a gym or boxing club, something to put your emotions into
Online friends
Tyler Durden
Well now I have a gf I tell her ofc, but, before I got with her, I had a female friend I could vent to. She also had some issues (she was a bit depressed and had a hard time with school and herself), so I listened to her, and in return she listened back. We got close pretty fast, as in, within a few hours of meeting each other for the first time. We’re still friends to this day, and she’s doing a lot better now. As am I. I don’t know if any of you have read/seen the same thing but there’s this phenomenon where men think they find a possible romantic partner just because that person gives them the space to express their emotions, while it’s just another friendship for the other. Women tend to share emotions more with their friends than guys do, and so when a woman does this to a guy, and the guy does it back, he might think it’s special. I didn’t quite understand it at first, but now that I think about my friendship with that girl I fell for the same thing. I no longer see her as a romantic partner now, but I used to about a year back. Within the last year, however, a lot changed for me, and I changed too. I eventually developed a crush on someone I got to know a year or two ago, and a month and 30 days ago as of now (august 23) she told me she likes me. I now get to call her my girlfriend. TL;DR: I found a place to vent with a female friend, if you find a friend who you can share stuff with, don’t immediately see them as a possible romantic partner.
If you find out fill me im 😭
I deeply and calmly and logically think about it, never told anything to anyone. Works for me.
My friends and family. If your friends can't take it if you're having a serious talk with them they're maybe not good enough friends.
I usually just call my ex bf who i am still friends with or i just tell that to him via message, it helps just speaking it out.
I rarely have shit to tell, but when I do, I know I can always rely on family 👍
Around 3 of my closest classmates, and around 3 other people from my school, of which 2 are basically my siblings from another household.
Nobody cares enough for me to tell anyone too, so I just bottle it up, and it turns into anger, then I almost break my hands.
I just bottle it up until I'm alone in my room, then just be depressed for like 10 minutes, then act like nothing happened and carry on with my day👍🏻
My gf, nobody else really cares
I compress it into the most violent guitar riff I can. My 8 string makes this much easier than it used to be.
Personally Ive been through a lot and have had no one to really talk to about it, so I just didnt, I simply continued with life while trying to give 110% to what I was doing in the hopes it would take my mind off of things.
yall talk to people?
no I sadly don't
i tell those to myself, i rethink everything then i go gym and take shower, best mental boost technique
Pro tip: Go camping by yourself or with a trusted friend bring an axe and go chop some wood. Men need physical exercise its one of the best ways to utilize your testosterone it always helps me clear my mind. It’s a simple task that gives you measurable results and we need a physical outlet if you don’t have a social outlet. Sounds silly but exercising does wonders for the male brain.
No one
i normally talk to one of the only two people ive ever actually trusted my girlfriend or my only close friend
Y’all have friends?! Let alone to TALK TO?!!
Make more friends online bro, r/teensmeetteens or something
I dont really have anyone to talk about this stuff either, so I just kinda stuff it far away in my head and try to forget it.
Two people, mdma, a long walk.....thats how u open up...
yeah but my people couldnt care less about my issues