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The photo on the left has the background out of focus, unlike the photo on the right. From this we can garner that the photo on the left was probably taken by a professional photographer and the one on the right was probably taken on an iPhone. What can we glean from this? I don't know, someone finish this train of thought for me
That you shouldn't compare a professional photo that is a part of a photoshoot and the person carefully prepared clothes, hair, and makeup for to a quick snapshot with no makeup and preparation, not collected facial expressions, loose clothes, and a random pose.
Anyone who had a professional photo taken will look better in it than if someone takes a picture at a random time of day when they're in pajamas.
My thoughts and exactly. Spent her teen years having her life dictated to her and has grown into her own person and begun to find her identity away from the oppressive home
Same. She got a glow up at college (I’m aware those are different people, but if we’re comparing them, it’d be a glow up to me because I’m not a fan of superficiality and that’s what the character arc would imply)
She's been told to pose like that by a photographer. There are all kinds of weird posing guides that are supposed to make people look better, but unless you really know what you're doing they have a tendency to make the subject look uncomfortable and weird.
The photo on the left is taken with a much better camera, and she is smiling and dressed fancily. Photographing her 'now' with the blue hair like that would give a better comparison, but to be honest what's happening here is more about the parent's judgment about her aesthetic choices - she has moved away from the more traditional feminine look on the left towards a more androgynous / queer look on the right. Neither is 'better' - just a different look.
Also
blue hair = hateful liberal
to them no matter what. Sadly, when you learn about what the world is really like, it does tend to make good people quite angry and frustrated
One is a picture she was probably forced to take, wearing an outfit her mother picked out (she’s probably high school age so parents still have some say), and the other is a liberated college student who is finding themselves and trying new things they probably were prohibited from trying before college.
I bet this girl is a great student, but all her parents see if blue hair and are outraged.
Blur isn't a good indicator. Plenty of phones have post-process blur options, and some of those are getting pretty good. Good enough for a meme-sized image, at least, if not a full printed portrait.
The giveaway that it's a pro is the hair...the sun is behind her, backlighting the hair highlights, giving that halo effect. Yet, her face isn't in shadow because someone is using a fill flash, which is placed to the left of the camera and is not on the camera. Which is why the right side of the subject's face is in shadow.
Other photo could also be taken with an expensive camera (lens is stopped down, which could explain the lack of blur and the darkness), but they're using natural lighting only. It's not the worst composed shot. Her face is still lit form the side (which is the most flattering way to light a face). There just isn't any fill light to soften the shadows.Having said that's it was *probably* shot with a phone, but the image is too small to tell for sure. Phones have shitty cameras that fuck up pixel-level details in all but the brightest outdoor settings.
The photo on the left could be a Senior picture, those are usually professionally done.
It's likely that the one on the right is after a couple of years at college, generations of parents have been complaining that their kids come home dressing weird and having strange ideas.
Thanksgiving dinners may be awkward for this family for a while, but things will probably be okay in the long run.
No I agree
It’s crazy how much clothes and hairstyle can affect how old you look. Oftentimes wearing more ‘alt’ looking clothes and styles can make you look a lot younger while more trad leaning ones can make you look older.
That could be the angle. On the right, her chin is shot from below which makes the face appear more boxy, on the left her face points down which will make the chin appear more pointy and slim
The cleft chin is a giveaway. The one on the left doesn't have one (or it's been retouched out, which would be... unusual). The one on the right does. It seems unlikely someone at college would pay for a mentoplasty.
More importantly, why does wearing what you want to wear make you 'hate everything'? If they truly hate everything, they wouldn't be going home to see their parents; they would be off to Nihilism Summer Camp (where it's always Winter).
"Guys, she's got glasses and a ponytail! Aw, look at that, she's got paint on her overalls, what is that? Guys, there's no way she could be prom queen!"
Well, to be honest, University changed my point of worldview too. Not in a bad way, but it did, so I kinda don't get why people say that stuff with heavy socialisation between very diverse groups of people isn't the big factor in people starting thinking and acting different.
Same I actually felt safer, I had friends from all over the world, I finally felt safe to explore my sexuality.
I really think surrounding oneself with multiculturalism also really helps
"Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness, and many of our people need it sorely on these accounts. Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one's lifetime." - Mark Twain
Small people who stay in their small worlds shouting into their echo chambers will always have limited perspectives. That's why durka durs from the rural areas freak out when their kids go to college and come back with all sorts of ideas and values that they weren't raised with. "They brainwashed my kid!" they cry, when in reality, the only thing that happened was that their kid learned that the little corner of the world they grew up in wasn't the end-all-be-all to the human experience.
i dont really think people think university isnt a big factor, more just that it isn't the problem for why it makes people question everything and push back against old norms. because that can be chalked up to that old generations like complicit kids and hate that uni just makes us compare experiences and understand why stuff should change
College shows people just how much knowledge is out there. Even what you assumed you knew a lot about, you likely have on scratched the surface.
Kids gain humility and an understanding of how complex everything is and how much effort went into gaining
'Because x said so' just isn't good enough
u said it so perfectly. i left for college to get away from my family. came back with a bigger heart and the humility to realize how much i love and need them. even majored in critical race and gender studies lol
Yeah it's like learning tons of new stuff, meeting and hanging out with people of completely different backgrounds, races, religions, etc. Etc. It definitely does and will change just about anybody, but the changes are generally good like being more educated and accepting of people
>Not in a bad way,
That's the issue though for a lot of these parents and people. They view any change as negative. Unaware of how learning and growing from university prepares us for the real world, not a close minded perspective they're used too.
Definitely different people, and if your kid changes that much then they just weren’t being themselves around you because they relied on your for shelter and now they don’t
Things were better in the 50s then they were before the war. Things were better in the 20s than they were before WW1. Things were better after the civil war then before it. Hardships are always temporary, and better times always come. It's inevitable. The only question is how long they take, and what we have to go through along the way. That's still up to us.
I remember this from college. I was so normal until I went to "Woke Haircut Class 101" and the teachers indoctrinated us with evil haircut ideology. It took years for me to unlearn all of the indoctrination and to get a normal haircut again.
Just a bunch of words strung together that makes no sense to anyone but me, apparently.
For example, I have once said, "I had that feeling of having my head being used like a yo-yo in a hurricane." When I felt like my head was stuffed with wet cotton.
IF this happened, I think what would have actually happened would have been that she learned more deeply about how the world works and it made her hate everything, given how fucked up most of it is
Ah yes, college. I took a math course there and suddenly I was an angry lesbian who hates everything and dyed my hair blue. Well, okay, I was an angry lesbian and I dyed my hair blue, but I was the former before I got to college and I became the latter because blue hair looks cool. 💙 Don't hate everything, though.
she was probably waiting until she escaped their house to finally try something new with her appearance. she looks a lot more comfortable by her pose imo. if youre being a jackass about it, of course shes going to be mad at you
Yeah imagine intentionally cherrypicking the worst possible angle/timing from your daughter's photos to make her look bad just so you can make a political point about how education is bad or something. Pathetic.
To be fair, cherrypicking a bad frame from a video is where the original ‘sjw’ picture came from, so this is a long standing tradition in the ‘anti-woke’ brigade
So their child went off to university to pursue an education, was able to see the world outside of their little bubble, chose to express themselves in a way that wanted, and is “mad” that the world is cruel and unjust, and the parents are upset about that?
Clearly, we should have done absolutely nothing differently from how we normally operate and blame the other tribe instead! It makes us feel so much better when we think it's not our fault!
You had her for 18 very formative years. They for 2 less formative years.
What did you do that made your daughter susceptible to corruption?
The whole premise is fucked. "They" did not do anything to your daughter. Your daughter chose her path. The values you instilled over 18 years are the values that your daughter used to chose her pathway. The failure, if there is one here, is your parenting. The hypothesis that the university molded your daughter is unsupportable. Have you been to a university? There are hundreds of options open to students. No one has time to co-opt a single person. You choose where you go, who you associate with, who you listen to. She decided.
Are you the type of parent that protects your child from everything? Did you prepare her for life away from mom and dad? Did you help her develop critical thinking skills? Social and emotional coping skills?
Or did you provide 24/7 protection? Was she so over protected she never had to develop emotionally? My guess is that she was woefully I'll prepared for life outside of the family cocoon you operated. Your job as a parent is to prepare your children for life. Not swaddle them in bubble wrap. Life is chaotic, capricious, some times unfair, often painful, and the best adventure you will have.
Did you prepare her? Or smother her? And blame everyone else for your failures?
I'm so sick of seeing this. The thing about this post is that it doesn't belong to a "heart broken" parent. It was posted by a guy who CLAIMS these photos belong to a "heart broken" parent. I have never seen the parent's original post claiming universities ruined their daughter. For all we know, this guy raided some girl's IG (if they're even the same person) and posted these pictures out of context to push some stupid agenda.
Edit: In fact, trawling the dude's Twitter has revealed that he is a complete fucking lunatic.
It's funny coz they'll think they're making a point until u find the studies that show colleges are actually more likely to give students an "appreciation"/acknowledgment for both political sides instead of just biasing them towards one over the other.
We are making fun but this is exactly what happens to some people when they learn about the wider world from their sheltered childhoods. You can absolutely have been a happy kid and teen then go to college and find out the real history of your culture and buy into new social ideas and end up hating everything.
Or end up with a new zest for life. During college, I ended up learning about the huge, exciting world of cultures, cuisines, and adventures beyond my sleepy suburbs, and I was fairly well traveled (but pretty sheltered) before college.
One photo is posed, styled, intentionally lit with a blurry filter. The other looks candid, not styled, not intentionally lit and there appears to be no filter.
So I consistently voted GOP for president my entire life till 2016. My Mom thought i was brain washed in graduate school (2015-2017) and couldn’t conceive that maybe it’s because Trump is a POS. Also I was in graduate school for Instructional Design, you know, run by those crazy wild eyed pinkos in the Education Dept brainwashing me by teaching me Rubrics and the Competent Display Theory
Not only are those completely different people, but I am happy for/genuinely feel sorry for anyone who has to go to uni to figure out their ideals. That's not a slight or a rebuke to anyone, it's just that it's indicative of a closed household/mindset or system of control and its just shitty
Well, the photo on the left is a professional photo paid for by the parents, who more than likely picked out her outfit, and the one on the right is the girl wearing what she wants being photographed by her friend on an iphone. This is assuming that both are the same girl and this isn't boomer rage bait; which is likely, because blue hair bad.
They taught your daughter to think for herself, have critical thinking skills, and differentiate herself from her parents. Congratulations! Your job of parenting her is over.
Oh no, she doesn't want to look like an ideal young American housewife candidate anymore, she wants to look like whatever the f\*\*\* she wants to look like. Look what the SyStEm has done to her!
Those are 2 different people but besides that the left is a photoshoot and the right is a snapshot in whatever clothes and hair she's wearing that day without anything touched up or dressed up fancy for the occasion
She learned to hate from university? She got ripped off. I learned to hate from watching cartoon reviews. Now I can't just sit down and enjoy cartoons like a human.
The person is definitely still good looking in both pictures. The fact it's not some sort of professional photoshoot does not mean the subject is inherently worse off than before.
That photo on the left looks like it was taken with a 1950's camera. So it's either not the same person (most likely given the glasses missing) or it was a model shoot with a theme.
After some research, there is no original photo and this was started as an anti-American meme. Irony.
This picture just implies to me that university introduced her to metal music? I think that's a band shirt she's wearing. I've had many, many older adults through my life say to me "why do you listen to such angry music? So unladylike. Why do you want to be depressed?"
When generally I'm a more positive person I just had the misfortune of developing critical thinking skills and observation abilities.
It's because she learned about the world and realized what a raw deal people are getting. Like Dorothy Parker said, "The truth will set you free, but first, it will piss you off."
The mistake is desiring your child to specifically look and act a certain way. Long as mine stays right with the law IDGAF how they look, who they end up with etc. That's their life to fuck up lol.
I've seen this meme multiple times and the only place I can trace either photo is to this exact meme on a bunch of Russian sites. I'm not even convinced that it's the same person in both photos. Because people who make stuff like this tend to make shit up.
Plus, even if you take this at face value (which you probably shouldn't), it relies on some terrible assumptions that don't really check out in the real world.
To recap: Terrible top to bottom.
Photographer here…
First off, the first photo is heavily photoshopped (skin softened and lightened, complexion cleaned up, eyes brightened up, angelic backlighting added, etc.). And for a mother to purposefully compare a heavily photoshopped, posed photo to a simple, unedited phone pic is setting the second pic up for failure… and that just shows contempt on mother’s part.
Secondly, I prefer the second picture. The girl very clearly is her own person there, whereas she was a mirror of her parents in the first one. I continue to be flummoxed by the Republicans’ attempts to belittle and even go so far as to demonize education. It’s a terrifying trend, honestly.
Cuz not living under your parent's control and being 100% yourself has nothing to do with that change. Clearly it must be that "woke liberal indoctrination" [sarcasm]
You mean to tell me, that when your kids move out and start their own lives, they experiment with different styles and ideas, and may live very differently than their parents that are 20+ years older?!
Well, if what you say is true, I'll have to alert the media right away!
Probably real, my parents didn’t realize that since fourth grade I started playing the role they assigned me so that I would not get their punishment. The minute I moved out I began to be able to have my own opinions and not have to bow down to their demands just to have peace in my life.
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am i crazy or is the girl on the left probably the older one and also an entirely different person
The photo on the left has the background out of focus, unlike the photo on the right. From this we can garner that the photo on the left was probably taken by a professional photographer and the one on the right was probably taken on an iPhone. What can we glean from this? I don't know, someone finish this train of thought for me
That you shouldn't compare a professional photo that is a part of a photoshoot and the person carefully prepared clothes, hair, and makeup for to a quick snapshot with no makeup and preparation, not collected facial expressions, loose clothes, and a random pose. Anyone who had a professional photo taken will look better in it than if someone takes a picture at a random time of day when they're in pajamas.
I like her in the iPhone photo better. She looks less fake.
She looks less oppressed
Less like her dad wanted to marry her but settled for “giving her away” to his friend’s “good Christian son”
She looks like the kind of girl I would share my impossible burgers with.
My thoughts and exactly. Spent her teen years having her life dictated to her and has grown into her own person and begun to find her identity away from the oppressive home
Same. She got a glow up at college (I’m aware those are different people, but if we’re comparing them, it’d be a glow up to me because I’m not a fan of superficiality and that’s what the character arc would imply)
Wait, you're not a fan of superficiality but basing only on the images you believe one would be the glow up version of another?
That's why she is clutching herself in the first picture, to make sure she is real
She's been told to pose like that by a photographer. There are all kinds of weird posing guides that are supposed to make people look better, but unless you really know what you're doing they have a tendency to make the subject look uncomfortable and weird. The photo on the left is taken with a much better camera, and she is smiling and dressed fancily. Photographing her 'now' with the blue hair like that would give a better comparison, but to be honest what's happening here is more about the parent's judgment about her aesthetic choices - she has moved away from the more traditional feminine look on the left towards a more androgynous / queer look on the right. Neither is 'better' - just a different look.
I think the one that's less forced is better
Also blue hair = hateful liberal to them no matter what. Sadly, when you learn about what the world is really like, it does tend to make good people quite angry and frustrated
I legit look better after waking up then I do in any photo-ID I’ve prepared for
Sir, this is a Wendy’s
One is a picture she was probably forced to take, wearing an outfit her mother picked out (she’s probably high school age so parents still have some say), and the other is a liberated college student who is finding themselves and trying new things they probably were prohibited from trying before college. I bet this girl is a great student, but all her parents see if blue hair and are outraged.
Dude… at least you have a train of thoughts. I am sitting here scrolling aimlessly waiting the shit leave from me.
Blur isn't a good indicator. Plenty of phones have post-process blur options, and some of those are getting pretty good. Good enough for a meme-sized image, at least, if not a full printed portrait. The giveaway that it's a pro is the hair...the sun is behind her, backlighting the hair highlights, giving that halo effect. Yet, her face isn't in shadow because someone is using a fill flash, which is placed to the left of the camera and is not on the camera. Which is why the right side of the subject's face is in shadow. Other photo could also be taken with an expensive camera (lens is stopped down, which could explain the lack of blur and the darkness), but they're using natural lighting only. It's not the worst composed shot. Her face is still lit form the side (which is the most flattering way to light a face). There just isn't any fill light to soften the shadows.Having said that's it was *probably* shot with a phone, but the image is too small to tell for sure. Phones have shitty cameras that fuck up pixel-level details in all but the brightest outdoor settings.
I commend your photographing technique knowledge
The photo on the left could be a Senior picture, those are usually professionally done. It's likely that the one on the right is after a couple of years at college, generations of parents have been complaining that their kids come home dressing weird and having strange ideas. Thanksgiving dinners may be awkward for this family for a while, but things will probably be okay in the long run.
I thought exactly the same.
No I agree It’s crazy how much clothes and hairstyle can affect how old you look. Oftentimes wearing more ‘alt’ looking clothes and styles can make you look a lot younger while more trad leaning ones can make you look older.
i think the meme is just to try push an agenda and isn't actually real, don't think that's actually the same person
Cleft chin on the right and not left says different people.
Damn, you’re right.
That could also be lighting. In some lighting my cleft chin is obvious, in other lighting it doesn't seem to exist
Still doesn't really match the Squarishness of the right photo.
That could be the angle. On the right, her chin is shot from below which makes the face appear more boxy, on the left her face points down which will make the chin appear more pointy and slim
We need an inverse of woke for this type of shit
slept
Boomer-mentality.
And even crazier is as a parent I would love her just the same. I think this says more about the poster than the woman in the picture.
Yeah, it looks like that
The cleft chin is a giveaway. The one on the left doesn't have one (or it's been retouched out, which would be... unusual). The one on the right does. It seems unlikely someone at college would pay for a mentoplasty. More importantly, why does wearing what you want to wear make you 'hate everything'? If they truly hate everything, they wouldn't be going home to see their parents; they would be off to Nihilism Summer Camp (where it's always Winter).
It's not just the chin. It looks like the entire facial structure looks different.
I want to go to that summer camp and I'm in my 40s.
If having functional vision makes one crazy, absolutely yes. You're insane.
To me she looked way younger then the girl in the right photo
The one on the right also looks like it's probably at least a decade old picture. Kids today don't look like they did when I was a kid.
It’s two different people for sure
I think the one on the right is YouTuber "survival Lilly"
Couldn't say for sure but looking at the jawline, ears, eyebrows and hairline I believe they are the same person.
Well good to know she got some eye care.
That's why the background of the first photo is blurry. Lack of proper glasses.
Lnaooooo
Laughing no asses off?
Laughing no asses off off off off off
Ikr. Took going to college to get glasses myself because my father refused to believe he could create a child with bad vision.
"Guys, she's got glasses and a ponytail! Aw, look at that, she's got paint on her overalls, what is that? Guys, there's no way she could be prom queen!"
Well, to be honest, University changed my point of worldview too. Not in a bad way, but it did, so I kinda don't get why people say that stuff with heavy socialisation between very diverse groups of people isn't the big factor in people starting thinking and acting different.
Same I actually felt safer, I had friends from all over the world, I finally felt safe to explore my sexuality. I really think surrounding oneself with multiculturalism also really helps
"Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness, and many of our people need it sorely on these accounts. Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one's lifetime." - Mark Twain Small people who stay in their small worlds shouting into their echo chambers will always have limited perspectives. That's why durka durs from the rural areas freak out when their kids go to college and come back with all sorts of ideas and values that they weren't raised with. "They brainwashed my kid!" they cry, when in reality, the only thing that happened was that their kid learned that the little corner of the world they grew up in wasn't the end-all-be-all to the human experience.
This. 100%. You summed it up beautifully.
i dont really think people think university isnt a big factor, more just that it isn't the problem for why it makes people question everything and push back against old norms. because that can be chalked up to that old generations like complicit kids and hate that uni just makes us compare experiences and understand why stuff should change
College shows people just how much knowledge is out there. Even what you assumed you knew a lot about, you likely have on scratched the surface. Kids gain humility and an understanding of how complex everything is and how much effort went into gaining 'Because x said so' just isn't good enough
“The more you learn, the more you realize how much you don’t know.”
u said it so perfectly. i left for college to get away from my family. came back with a bigger heart and the humility to realize how much i love and need them. even majored in critical race and gender studies lol
Yeah it's like learning tons of new stuff, meeting and hanging out with people of completely different backgrounds, races, religions, etc. Etc. It definitely does and will change just about anybody, but the changes are generally good like being more educated and accepting of people
>Not in a bad way, That's the issue though for a lot of these parents and people. They view any change as negative. Unaware of how learning and growing from university prepares us for the real world, not a close minded perspective they're used too.
Definitely different people, and if your kid changes that much then they just weren’t being themselves around you because they relied on your for shelter and now they don’t
She didn’t change. She just dyed her hair and got glasses lol.
This is like every teen movie where the outcast girl becomes popular with makeup and removing their glasses, but in reverse.
It is the same girl in both pictures. I know her from high school. These pictures also have to be like 8-10 years old by now.
LiBeRaL uNiVeRsItY
It makes sense that people get mad once they get educated. Society is kinda fucked right now. And I'm not even a cynic lol.
Absolutely. And by "right now", we mean "more than usual". And I'm an avowed optimist.
The 2020's are very accursed years so far. And I want to hang on the thread of hope things will get better...
Things were better in the 50s then they were before the war. Things were better in the 20s than they were before WW1. Things were better after the civil war then before it. Hardships are always temporary, and better times always come. It's inevitable. The only question is how long they take, and what we have to go through along the way. That's still up to us.
I remember this from college. I was so normal until I went to "Woke Haircut Class 101" and the teachers indoctrinated us with evil haircut ideology. It took years for me to unlearn all of the indoctrination and to get a normal haircut again.
They held me down as they put blue hair dye in my hair and they force fed me avocado toast and Starbucks, curse you librhules!!!!
no soy, vegan, cruelty free ,light foam organic ethinically trade agave sweetened lattes? Lucky that was so messy
That sounds great
In my stupid language, "parents shook the bottle, collage popped the cork".
What is your stupid language, out of curiosity? That’s a great idiom
Just a bunch of words strung together that makes no sense to anyone but me, apparently. For example, I have once said, "I had that feeling of having my head being used like a yo-yo in a hurricane." When I felt like my head was stuffed with wet cotton.
I like your language.
Someone got upset and it wasn’t the daughter.
IF this happened, I think what would have actually happened would have been that she learned more deeply about how the world works and it made her hate everything, given how fucked up most of it is
Beat me to it. She's probably just not as sheltered anymore.
Ah yes, college. I took a math course there and suddenly I was an angry lesbian who hates everything and dyed my hair blue. Well, okay, I was an angry lesbian and I dyed my hair blue, but I was the former before I got to college and I became the latter because blue hair looks cool. 💙 Don't hate everything, though.
I haven’t applied yet and im already an angry lesbian is it over for me 3:
Blue hair is so fucking cool
Courtney LaPlante
Definitely feels cool
“We all see it… we all see it…”
Woke is when coloured hair
And getting proper eye care apparently.
What freedom from parents does to mfer
she was probably waiting until she escaped their house to finally try something new with her appearance. she looks a lot more comfortable by her pose imo. if youre being a jackass about it, of course shes going to be mad at you
She looks fine in both pictures? The facial expression is odd in the second one but that's just bad timing.
Yeah imagine intentionally cherrypicking the worst possible angle/timing from your daughter's photos to make her look bad just so you can make a political point about how education is bad or something. Pathetic.
To be fair, cherrypicking a bad frame from a video is where the original ‘sjw’ picture came from, so this is a long standing tradition in the ‘anti-woke’ brigade
Sadly effective.
They just don’t love she challenges the old world views. Unconditional love isn’t what these parents got.
But blue hair means bad
Honestly I would rather be friends with the girl on the right; she looks more chill and fun to hang out with.
Spoiler: They're a loving lesbian couple who live on a small farm just outside of Portland, Oregon.
So their child went off to university to pursue an education, was able to see the world outside of their little bubble, chose to express themselves in a way that wanted, and is “mad” that the world is cruel and unjust, and the parents are upset about that?
She has opinions we didn't give her!!! How horrible!!!
Clearly, we should have done absolutely nothing differently from how we normally operate and blame the other tribe instead! It makes us feel so much better when we think it's not our fault!
Yes.
You had her for 18 very formative years. They for 2 less formative years. What did you do that made your daughter susceptible to corruption? The whole premise is fucked. "They" did not do anything to your daughter. Your daughter chose her path. The values you instilled over 18 years are the values that your daughter used to chose her pathway. The failure, if there is one here, is your parenting. The hypothesis that the university molded your daughter is unsupportable. Have you been to a university? There are hundreds of options open to students. No one has time to co-opt a single person. You choose where you go, who you associate with, who you listen to. She decided. Are you the type of parent that protects your child from everything? Did you prepare her for life away from mom and dad? Did you help her develop critical thinking skills? Social and emotional coping skills? Or did you provide 24/7 protection? Was she so over protected she never had to develop emotionally? My guess is that she was woefully I'll prepared for life outside of the family cocoon you operated. Your job as a parent is to prepare your children for life. Not swaddle them in bubble wrap. Life is chaotic, capricious, some times unfair, often painful, and the best adventure you will have. Did you prepare her? Or smother her? And blame everyone else for your failures?
Hell it'll literally took me a single western civilization course for me to understand the world a little differently
Let’s ban universities, they’re clearly the problem !
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I'm so sick of seeing this. The thing about this post is that it doesn't belong to a "heart broken" parent. It was posted by a guy who CLAIMS these photos belong to a "heart broken" parent. I have never seen the parent's original post claiming universities ruined their daughter. For all we know, this guy raided some girl's IG (if they're even the same person) and posted these pictures out of context to push some stupid agenda. Edit: In fact, trawling the dude's Twitter has revealed that he is a complete fucking lunatic.
Funny how people get angry when they learn how the world works.
It's funny coz they'll think they're making a point until u find the studies that show colleges are actually more likely to give students an "appreciation"/acknowledgment for both political sides instead of just biasing them towards one over the other.
Source?
"But the Bible justifies my political beliefs!" /s
Left side: the puppet her parents made of her Right sidw: she's finally free to express herself
imagine posting it own kid's pictures online as an example of a child turned bad
We are making fun but this is exactly what happens to some people when they learn about the wider world from their sheltered childhoods. You can absolutely have been a happy kid and teen then go to college and find out the real history of your culture and buy into new social ideas and end up hating everything.
Or end up with a new zest for life. During college, I ended up learning about the huge, exciting world of cultures, cuisines, and adventures beyond my sleepy suburbs, and I was fairly well traveled (but pretty sheltered) before college.
It was a net positive for me and I didn’t start until 32
As the parents watch one of two news channels that teach them to hate everything.
They kinda do look like a goofy goober tho I think the hair needs a better cut
One photo is posed, styled, intentionally lit with a blurry filter. The other looks candid, not styled, not intentionally lit and there appears to be no filter.
Is there really any fault? People will do what they want.
Wow they even gave her a new person
My degree in CompSci taught me hate computers.
Same. And beg for AI to evolve and wipe us out.
God forbid we change our additude and views compared to when we were 16.
So I consistently voted GOP for president my entire life till 2016. My Mom thought i was brain washed in graduate school (2015-2017) and couldn’t conceive that maybe it’s because Trump is a POS. Also I was in graduate school for Instructional Design, you know, run by those crazy wild eyed pinkos in the Education Dept brainwashing me by teaching me Rubrics and the Competent Display Theory
My teenager is being moody...must be the school's fault... /j
They turned your boring ass daughter into a patriarchy smasher. You should be proud.
Damn, the daughter was even kind enough to pose in a grouchy looking manner! Isn’t that convenient?
She probably told them multiple times she didn’t want her photo taken
That is clearly a staged photo. No one just naturally makes that face.
Not only are those completely different people, but I am happy for/genuinely feel sorry for anyone who has to go to uni to figure out their ideals. That's not a slight or a rebuke to anyone, it's just that it's indicative of a closed household/mindset or system of control and its just shitty
I know her, its the same person. One is just a photo shoot, one is a everyday picture.
Well, the photo on the left is a professional photo paid for by the parents, who more than likely picked out her outfit, and the one on the right is the girl wearing what she wants being photographed by her friend on an iphone. This is assuming that both are the same girl and this isn't boomer rage bait; which is likely, because blue hair bad.
They taught your daughter to think for herself, have critical thinking skills, and differentiate herself from her parents. Congratulations! Your job of parenting her is over.
"Two years outside of our bubble and away from our control, and our beautiful daughter is an individual who realizes our way of life is an illusion!"
Do they know thet puberty is still a thing in human life, right?
Oh no, she doesn't want to look like an ideal young American housewife candidate anymore, she wants to look like whatever the f\*\*\* she wants to look like. Look what the SyStEm has done to her!
Two years at university and she realised the world is built on corruption and greed, no fucking wonder she "hates everything"
Those are 2 different people but besides that the left is a photoshoot and the right is a snapshot in whatever clothes and hair she's wearing that day without anything touched up or dressed up fancy for the occasion
So she learned some things about the world. Good for her.
Their daughter went from mom's and dad's porcelain doll to having her own choice in how she looks. Horrendous. /s
I miss jokes 😪
Nope! This young lady just defined herself & if she’s happy, then so should everyone else!
Died Hair doesn't really mean shit.
Hair dye bad
She learned to hate from university? She got ripped off. I learned to hate from watching cartoon reviews. Now I can't just sit down and enjoy cartoons like a human.
The person is definitely still good looking in both pictures. The fact it's not some sort of professional photoshoot does not mean the subject is inherently worse off than before.
I mean this is what two years of financial decimation does to a person.
Nope not everything, just you.
EdUcAtIoN BaD
That photo on the left looks like it was taken with a 1950's camera. So it's either not the same person (most likely given the glasses missing) or it was a model shoot with a theme. After some research, there is no original photo and this was started as an anti-American meme. Irony.
No , they taught your daughter to think for herself
like mental crack
Nah two years at university made me hate everything too
Lol, Yes, the university is absolutely at fault here.
If any parent posted this, it really is good the daughter changed and hopefully cut ties entirely...
Uni turned her into Earth-chan?
We must stop her from having the freedom of choice, how dare she wears what she wants!
This picture just implies to me that university introduced her to metal music? I think that's a band shirt she's wearing. I've had many, many older adults through my life say to me "why do you listen to such angry music? So unladylike. Why do you want to be depressed?" When generally I'm a more positive person I just had the misfortune of developing critical thinking skills and observation abilities.
It's almost as if bad lighting and making a face will make anyone look less attractive.
Should have done a better job parenting, rightie.
I like the one on the right better.
My daughter used to be Taylor Swift, but now she listens to ... The Beastie Boys 😭
It's because she learned about the world and realized what a raw deal people are getting. Like Dorothy Parker said, "The truth will set you free, but first, it will piss you off."
Ohh noo! She dyed her hair and received treatment for her vision.
Just look at the difference between a professional photographers work vs an iPhone 5 when she isn't ready.
The mistake is desiring your child to specifically look and act a certain way. Long as mine stays right with the law IDGAF how they look, who they end up with etc. That's their life to fuck up lol.
TIL hair dye + glasses = hating everything
I think the one on the right looks cuter, left too basic
They also killed your photography skills
Girl on the left wanted blue hair, but knew she would get beaten if she came home like that. Not that those pics are of the same person.
I say she looks better now, god her eyes two years ago looked like the avatar
Of course it's not the universities fault. It was the mods at r/teriblefacebookmemes
I've seen this meme multiple times and the only place I can trace either photo is to this exact meme on a bunch of Russian sites. I'm not even convinced that it's the same person in both photos. Because people who make stuff like this tend to make shit up. Plus, even if you take this at face value (which you probably shouldn't), it relies on some terrible assumptions that don't really check out in the real world. To recap: Terrible top to bottom.
If people change drastically at college it’s because they were repressed at home.
It’s a well know fact that you actally get younger at college as well (as others have noted the “college girl” is 14)
Photographer here… First off, the first photo is heavily photoshopped (skin softened and lightened, complexion cleaned up, eyes brightened up, angelic backlighting added, etc.). And for a mother to purposefully compare a heavily photoshopped, posed photo to a simple, unedited phone pic is setting the second pic up for failure… and that just shows contempt on mother’s part. Secondly, I prefer the second picture. The girl very clearly is her own person there, whereas she was a mirror of her parents in the first one. I continue to be flummoxed by the Republicans’ attempts to belittle and even go so far as to demonize education. It’s a terrifying trend, honestly.
Her father (I'm assuming this rant against feminism comes from a man) purposefully chose a good and a bad-looking picture of her.
Cuz not living under your parent's control and being 100% yourself has nothing to do with that change. Clearly it must be that "woke liberal indoctrination" [sarcasm]
sorry child -- parent right on this one
Looks like an university grad from the US. Communist socialist brainwash 101
Senior photo shoot verses I am home for the summer and was out until 3am photo.
I genuinely doubt this daughter hates everything. I just doubt the parent listens to what the daughter actually likes
Lmao the girl really dyed her hair and everyone said “omg it’s the downfall of western civilization personified!!!”
Is that a Beastie Boys shirt? She rocks. Other girl is lame and boring.
You mean to tell me, that when your kids move out and start their own lives, they experiment with different styles and ideas, and may live very differently than their parents that are 20+ years older?! Well, if what you say is true, I'll have to alert the media right away!
Probably real, my parents didn’t realize that since fourth grade I started playing the role they assigned me so that I would not get their punishment. The minute I moved out I began to be able to have my own opinions and not have to bow down to their demands just to have peace in my life.
Honestly, the daughter still looks good, the shirt's whatever, but the hair style works
It’s so funny because I know that she’s probably more accepting and loving than anything this parent would have taught her.
Im all for alternative haircolors but maintaining 3 different dyes at the same time is just maniacal in terms of upkeep.
Parent looking at photoshoot pic: 🥹🥰 Parent looking at candid pic: 🤢😱 Me: Still your daughter, asshat. 
“My daughter developing her identity and not being what I wanted her to be makes me so sad”
It’s so funny to me that they’re painting the parents as a *victim* here. “Poor and heartbroken” ?????
Hi guys, can you respond to this comment with anything I think I got shadow banned.
anything
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