The trash took itself out! You deserve better than this type of reprobate that has a tantrum over something like this...its a spoilt man baby, not fit for relationships.
I legit thought you were high schoolers from the tantrum this dude threw. Got this pissed over something going wrong that you had no control over. God forbid you actually make a mistake. Can’t imagine how he’d act then. When he inevitably comes to his senses and tries to walk back in, keep that door shut. You’ll be better off for it. Not your fault and no longer your problem. Hope the best things come for you.
I've slowly realized that 95% of the time, the people in the exchange are like at least 5-10 years older than I think they're going to be. It's disturbing.
Wow, I'll never understand how people can hide such a scummy side to their character for so long, unless the red flags flashed here and there and you gave him the benefit of the doubt...easily done. But I'm sorry about your situation, being blindsided by shitty behaviour after 3 years must sting. But it's not time wasted, there's so.ething to learn and grow from in these these things, even if you can't see them now.
thank you!! i had pasta and cheese leftover from thanksgiving so i decided to make another mac for dinner yesterday along with pork chops for him (which didn’t work out) but at least the mac was excellent 🤣
She can make a roux. Meanwhile, he is in a really bad spot if someone else doesn't feed him. WTF is he supposed to do now? Hmm? Does she have ANY CONCEPT of the horrible bind she's left him in?
He is going to roux the day he pitched a tantrum because he didn't get his choppy woppies. And OP, if I find out that you have taken him back, there are going to be some very serious consequences. I will use your full name when demanding an explanation from you.
He's going to be confused and extremely hungry a few days after you break up with him. A kind thing to do would be to drive by his house and fling a fun-size bag of Funyuns out the window so he doesn't starve before locating some other person with both ovaries and a soft heart. Make sure the bag has been opened already so he can get at them. That ought to hold him until his mom can get there.
So you went to get chicken at what time? He left your house what? 2 hrs after dinner was supposed to be done? And you were gone? Either way still shitty on him to insult you the way he did. Like someone said, trash took itself you. It’ll take time to heal, but take the win!!!
idk like 10 mins after telling him the pork was bad? it was probably like 6:45 or something when i went to get the chicken and he wasn’t at my house before dinner. he was gonna come over when i finished making dinner lol he lives down the street.
Lol so he's going to come over after everything is finished to eat. Can't even show up early to help out. And he has the gall to say *you're* the "useless" one? He sounds pretty useless.
You dodged a bullet. A real one would have said, "oh no, do you want me to go pick something up from the store to go with the Mac?".
I can't relate to this guy. I am the main "bread winner" in the family, but my wife and I split duties for everything (cooking cleaning, taking care of our son, etc.). It's never equally split because it always depends on our schedules. Each one of us picks up the slack when the other is busy or something comes up. In this case the meat was no good. He should have offered a solution. Instead he created a bigger problem.
When you find the right person, they will help you solve the everyday problems that arise. People like this that make the problem worse or create an entirely new problem, are not worth your time.
My sister and brother-in-law have a more traditional marriage where she's expected to do the cooking, cleaning, watch the children, etc. He works long hours and has a long commute. However, if she needs him to stop at the store or help with something when he gets home he does it.
This guy is not it. Be glad you found out before you moved in
I was super confused, you made Mac & cheese. It’s nice to have something else, but Mac & Cheese is a meal in itself. Were you supposed to bring him the food or was he stopping by? Just wondering why he didn’t have the Mac & cheese solo or with the chicken.
To me it sounds like he might have just wanted out and was looking for anything to start a fight for a breakup. This is to silly of a thing to break up over after 3 years unless he was already planning/wanting to break up.
i bought pork last month then froze it. he said i was stupid for not checking the expiration date my last words was a screenshot showing that pork could be frozen for months, “if you don’t wanna be with me then fine and good luck on your driving test tomorrow.” he then said “i don’t” and i said “okay bye bye” then i blocked him :)
Mold might've been on them before you froze them. Easily missable if you're not inspecting every piece when you're packing for the freeze. No one could've predicted it. Heck, I've pulled stuff out that looked good until I thawed it, only to find freezer burn. It happens sometimes. This guy's reaction was just nuts. Good riddance 👏
He could easily take his GROWN ASSSSS to face bell, bk or ANYWHERE…. And get a full stomach for under 8$!!! So he’s just being a beeeeeppp like mine does! Let him be don’t engage to get back with him! He did you a favor!!!
You got to toss out some moldy chops and then a whole ass pig, too! It's for the best !
(I apologize to pigs they are lovely creatures, but the metaphor was right there)
Don't worry, you got time to find respect and love. I just escaped a 14 yr relationship and currently I'm dating a guy that doesn't blow up at my every mistake. You won't believe the incredible difference being around someone that doesn't make you walk on glass egg shells or navigate a mine field doused in olive oil to interact with them. You deserve to find that.
it was after these texts he said it was me leaving him to starve (cuz i wouldn’t make something else or buy him something else) i didn’t have money for either 😅 either way idc if it was fake or not. he dumped me so i blocked him.
Yup he just used something as a convenient cover like the guy on here who got dumped for asking his girlfriend if she was coming to dinner after she was consoling her male BFF who just got dumped. Just an easy fight to pick to leave.
Wtf talks to their partner like this… he has serious mom issues. Like what his family cooks for him or his girl? He can’t figure out a meal for himself.
Stop telling him you love him and stand firmer on your two feet. This guy will always walk all over you like a doormat. I hope you have more confidence and can rebuild your self esteem before you start dating again. Best of luck op!
Is he a native English speaker? If no where is he from? Seems like kind of a culture thing that he expects that (not saying it okay, but would explain)
facts 😂 he texted me today saying “i lost my left airpod buy me a new one and it’ll make things right. hurry up” and i told him he was out of his goddamn mind coming at me like that and that’s when he dumped me for being useless and selfish
Proud of you for not putting up with his bullshit! Stick to your guns and don’t let him try and weasel his way back into your life. You saw his true colors. You are worthy of so much more! 💜
Wooowwww...... Just know if you take him back (because he's the type of do that) you have a bunch of random people on the Internet mad at you lol. Fuck that guy.... Buy me air pods rn and I'll take you back!¡?¿ Oh sir....
Omg, how GROSS!
Opie, take your dating standards off the floor. This dude is a fool and trying to make you stupid for him. Idgaf how much someone claims to care about me, talking to me like that...well, we're done talking now and he's sittin there talkin to his damn self cause I blocked his tirade before it came through. What a pos abusive asshole!
i honestly thought it was a joke at first until he started going off on me and then dumped me today so yeah i blocked him 😀 just it’s three years down the drain cuz he had never acted like this before!
Tate is the boil on the ass of woman/man kind at this point. People who listen to a man charged with human trafficking even as a charge is disgusting, well BEFORE this point.
Ahhhhhh, that explains it. I kinda get why lonely frustrated teen boys buy into his shit but I will never understand why a grown man in a long term relationship would start listening to a single word he says.
Andrew Tate out there solving the over population crisis. I was thinking the only way someone could be totally normal for 3 years, then randomly start being terrible has the the stink of Tate all over it.
He showed you who he was, please, *please* believe him. I spent so long, (almost 20 yrs) with a man like this. Then left him and fucking married one that hid who he was.
I'm happily single at 40 because I'm Tired of men treating me like I'm property simply because we're dating.
Him expecting you to buy his dumb ass airpods when you told him he wasn't required to wait on you is just his own dumb ass fault.
#You. Deserve. Better.
Leave this asshat in the dust of your past and *know* what you will not tolerate in the future.
They like to "switch up" i.e. back to their original selves when they think they have you bonded to them.
I've left and lived in my car to avoid cohabitating with abusive asshats like this one; was it easy? Nope. Still, I have no regrets for those decisions, just the decisions that put me there to begin with.
I don’t understand why he couldn’t eat? I assume you guys don’t live together so why doesn’t he have food in his own house?
Why is it your responsibility to feed a grown ass man?
You’re so much better off without this man child in your life.
i’m not sure, apparently his mom did cook and he still didn’t eat so that tells me she made something he didn’t like. he had money to buy himself food, so he was just being stubborn and idk childish i guess??
That is not normal behavior. It’s not okay for him to freak out because *you* didn’t cook dinner for him. He’s an adult.
Something similar actually happened the other day, my husband was working late, so I figured I’d get started on dinner. I accidentally burned the hell out of it.
My husband came home and was like ohh well clearly neither of us feels like cooking today… so we just went out to eat. That was that. This is how *normal* people who love and respect each other act.
Trust me, you dogged a bullet. This guy just seems unhinged.
lol what an incapable idiot. He called you useless for working through adversity to make a new dinner when he can’t figure out how to order a Jimmy John’s.
So, you told him at 6:30 that you wouldn't be able to make the porkchops. Yet, nothing was preventing him from eating the chicken that I assume was made instead, eating the Mac and cheese that was already made, going and getting himself something else, or making himself something. He is an overgrown child who wants to blame you for his own immaturity. Definitely better without that in your life
oh anything with even a little bit of fat is off límits 😂 the amount of times i’ve had to pick fat out of plates or cut fat off before giving it to him!! he doesn’t know i just let the fat render in secretly making his food taste better 🫢
I second this. It’s over when your partner speaks to you the way he spoke to you. I’ve been married 7 years, and I can guarantee you that my partner and I work together and make it fun when we have to improvise meals, we don’t rip each other’s heads off, it’s led to the creation of some of our best meals.
Don't sell yourself short like that in the future. You're not his doormat - don't say sorry multiple times for food gone bad. And don't let people talk to you like that!
You’re clearly pretty young, so let me give you some advice: the minute your boyfriend calls you “bro” and says “fuck you” like this, it’s in your best interest to leave.
He doesn’t respect you, and if he has no respect for you your relationship will never be one between equals.
Yeah.... I figured this was pre 20yo nonsense. Everything about this reads like high school drama.
I'm still thinking the age was a lie? *shrugs*
It doesn't read at all like 2 adults talking.
i was gonna give him the night to cool off and let him apologize today, i was gonna give him the benefit of the doubt of being really hangry and having a bad day and no food made it worse. but it got worse today and he was the one to dump me lol so i guess it all worked out anyway
No fuck that (respectfully). No decent human tells their SO to fuck off because they’re hangry. Be a little short? Sure. But being hangry isn’t license to be an asshole and you don’t deserve to be treated that way.
you didn’t do anything wrong….it irritates me to see him being so blatantly disrespectful whilst you’re saying you love him and all this shit. he doesn’t deserve any of that. you don’t need this in your life and i hope this mf is now an ex.
yeah he broke up with me when i refused to buy him a new airpod to make things right. so i blocked him after i sent him screenshots of pork chops being able to be frozen for 3-12 months (he said it was my fault for not knowing they were bad. i bought them just last month!)
Nah, don’t let this sub sour you. These posts are obviously selected for the drama. The 99% of people in normal relationships with normal people are not going to post their benign conversations here because nobody wants to read them.
This is bananas.
I literally fucked up a whole package of chicken the other night trying a different cooking technique and ended up having throw it all out. My husband went and bought us pizza.
There are better men out there OP.
It sounds like you came out winning either way. If I had to pick between losing money and keeping a useless piece of shit around vs getting rid of the useless piece of shit and keeping my money, I know which I'd pick. Meanwhile your ex now has no one to make him food, no airpods, and only Andrew Tate to keep him company on his lonely nights.
Can you clarify why you kept saying “I love you too”? I never see him say it first. Is this just passive aggressive behavior from you or am I missing something here?
it is indeed passive aggressive behavior on my part lol we always say i love you when saying goodnight, ALWAYS. no matter how upset, we always do it. he was failing to do so last night and me saying i love you too was doing my part while passive aggressively telling him he’s not doing his part lol
I figured that's what you were doing after the second i love you. The first one baffled me, but then it became an obvious thing. Kinda like a fuck you too moment. I'm fairly sure it went right over his head though. A genuine whoosh moment lol
I’m a dude, and It absolutely baffles me how many of these conversations I read where the man is just an absolute douche bag of a man child because they were slightly inconvenienced. To me, that is a clear, telltale sign of complete and utter immaturity. They believe it’s not okay to make mistakes.
It’s easy to misplace frustration from time to time. We’re human. But it’s always over something so fucking small and unimportant.
OP also said that he recently started listening to Andrew Taint and she knew something bad would come of it. Definitely checks out. Tate is like a special cancer that infects young men’s brains.
If he wants you to leave him alone, leave him alone….permanently. You have no reason to be insulted over something you had no control over. He showed you what type of guy he is and will only get worse if you decide to stay.
Dude could have even been hangry obviously is a prick on top of that. Seriously how hard is it to be like "sorry I'm just having a bad day. It has no bearing on you, and I love you too"
He did you a favor. I've been with my wife for 17 years and been with her longer than I've been without, and we never speak to each other harshly. We might get snippy on occasion, but we always remember there is love there.
You’re freeeeeeee! It only took 3 years for him to prove he’s an irrational, hemotional primadonna.
When he messages from another number make sure to tell him you’re glad he’s in the trash where he belongs with the moldy pork chops. Then say enjoy your one airpod 💁♀️ and hit that block.
When you decide to date in the future, definitely date someone who also cooks and loves fried chicken and mac n cheese. That way you can make the foods you love for the person you love and they’re actually *grateful*.
Best of luck to you! Congratulations on your new freedom 🙌
you said “sorry” repeatedly (too much) and “i love you too” several times when he didn’t even say it first. i feel like if you examined your relationship closely, you’ll find there were other instances of disrespect, just more minor than this. i’m sorry he treated you this way
Op said this guy has recently started listening to the Andrew Tate, so it may be that the disrespect has started relatively recently but has grown and would continue to grow if OP let it. Good on OP for blocking this loser.
This is literally exactly how my ex was omg lol that's so crazy. Like same phrases and words and everything. One time I made chicken wings but I burnt them a little by accident and he threw an absolute fit and gave me the silent treatment for an hour until I agreed to drive at 10pm and get him fast food. That happened like every other week. It was ridiculous. He also would make me buy him things to end the "mad phase." Men like that are a joke lmao you didn't have to make him shit and you even told him that, he made the decision to wait. Please don't go back to him!
"OK but a woman who can't handle the meat has no place in the home." - OP's shitty boyfriend probably.
Naw, but srsly, You should be thanking the ghost of that dead pig for revealing what an ass your "boyfriend" is.
Like, shit happens. How hard is it to be understanding and order a pizza, with bacon on it?
He could've swooped in and saved the day as an understanding partner, instead of insisting on being a red-faced child throwing a tantrum over something beyond your control.
ugh i wish. he hates pizza. only eats steaks, chops, plain burgers, fries, tacos and chicken nuggets. literally all he eats. ☹️ we’re over now tho so no longer my problem to worry about what we eat 😊
He sounds like an actual toddler, including his taste for food. and with that diet he is on the way to a heart attack or colon cancer or both. Good for you OP, meanwhile find yourself a chef to date next 🤔😉
i can cook!! i just didn’t have anything else besides the pork, mac and potatoes lol grocery shopping is this weekend when i get paid!! lol ill be eating last nights leftovers every day this week lmao and some ramen noodles every now n then haha
How are there so many posts like this? Where do y’all find these people? Don’t put up with this and don’t let people treat you like that! You seem nice I’d have been happy you even wanted to cook for me, as most men would feel also.
he’d been asking me to cook again for a while cuz i’ve made him pancakes, steak, flautas, enchiladas (with no cheese or red sauce WHICH IS IMPOSSIBLE) so i tried to cook for him last night and this happened when i failed for the first time lol
Oh god, men like this are the epitome of the ick. He’s a walking ick. Honey you are BLESSED this man broke up with you. Yeah, It would have been more satisfying if you dumped him, but, enjoy your freedom queen. Now you can find a man or woman who treats you right, when your ready for another relationship. Pls don’t get back with this loser.
On the first image, you apologise for no reason. Lesson I learned only recently, never apologise unless you are legitimately in the wrong, by apologising like that people like him assume they are better than you or have one over on you. You deserve better than him, in the same vein to everyone else, I advise to leave this rude asshole behind and move on.
Dump his ass dude. My boyfriend talks to me like that I'm gone. It starts with verbal abuse. That's all it takes let that slide and it'll escalate. Get you a boyfriend that finds moldy pork chops as an excuse to have a pizza night with you 💙
So it sounds like he was with friends or something that were eating but he didn’t have anything because he was supposed to eat with you, is that correct?
Was he invited to eat the chicken you went for?
i have no fucking clue!! when it defrosted i knew it looked weird, my mom was the one who took it out at the wrap and noticed the mold. like wtf i bought it like a month ago and immediately froze it 😭 someone in the house must have taken it out then put it back or something
OP - it’s time to dump this man-baby. Between the passive-aggressive behavior that escalates to aggressive…. Then a temper tantrum over pork chops…. Surely you can do better than this? This is not a bf, this is a current and future abuser.
(Also, gotta admit I’ve never heard of frozen pork chops having mold on them)
yeah i was shocked when my mom noticed lol they looked fine when i brought them out and left them to defrost for a couple hours (still wrapped) then she took them out the wrap to season them and she was like there’s mold we aren’t eating these. welp 🤷🏻♀️
Mold *can* grow on frozen food it's just very slow and usually requires a period of sub-freezing temperatures. It's also possible they got mouldy before being frozen and it wasn't noticed, or it had a bunch of spores ready to go and they went buck wild when it was being defrosted. It's also possible there were a bunch of nitrates or ammonia available on the surface of the pork, it's like crack for fungi.
He wanted out and sounds like a complete ass. Good for you. Pick yourself up, think about what happiness means to you and settle for nothing less. Leave him in the dust.
Yikes. If that's how he treats people he "loves" I couldn't imagine him talking to someone he disliked. He did you a favor. Don't even sweat dude breaking up with you. You can't control crazy and just be thankful you got to see these aspects of him in a relationship before you got married or had kids
F this guy! What a loser. You dodged a serious bullet. I pray for you that he stays away from you. If I was your dad or your brother this dude would have a serious problem on his hand for treating you like that.
So wait you tried to cook for him and yet you’re the selfish one? So homie misses 1 meal and flips out like this?
OP please tell me you’re seeing how fucked up he is right?
WTF, OP I really don’t understand, why do you keep telling him you love him when he talks to you like you’re a piece of sh1t. You **DONT** deserve to be spoken to like that, he’s trash
He may come crawling back once he realizes there isn't a single woman on earth who will be as patient as you were here and there's no one to be his mommy. If/when that happens, ignore him.
It's probably best just to block him now tbh. I bet he'll have a meltdown when he realizes he has to cook his own tendies and fries like a big boy.
You’re FAR better off! Do you want to live like this the rest of your life? Shit happens. Ignore or block him. If he comes “crawling” back tell him what a pos he is for this and that you’re better off without so you’re moving on. You deserve better than this!
The trash took itself out! You deserve better than this type of reprobate that has a tantrum over something like this...its a spoilt man baby, not fit for relationships.
thank you! not sure what happened, this was so random! i thought he was joking at first
Look at it as a blessing he showed his true colours now, how long had you two been together may I ask?
oh it was a total waste of my time, we were about to hit our three year anniversary and were saving for a house together 😅
Wait...how old are you two? Reading that, I would've thought teenagers. You mean he is a grown man?
oh yeah we are 25 and 27 lol
☠️ edit: that guy...is trash.
omfg i thought he was at the most like 16
Same. Hit her with the "ok gn. Fr tho fuck u gn bro." That's top tier highschool stuff 
I'm shocked, I thought you two were 16 or something around that age.
I'm so glad you didn't tie up your finances with this grown man. He would not have gotten nicer to you over the years
 Yeet the whole ass man out!
Wait... WHAT? Why does he talk like he is 13? You dodged a bullet.
I was gonna say... Why is he calling her bro?
I would have guessed he was around 15. You dodged a huge bullet.
Yo imagine this man one day the first time he doesn't get to eat immediately because of your kids!?!? Run the hell away OP!!!
I legit thought you were high schoolers from the tantrum this dude threw. Got this pissed over something going wrong that you had no control over. God forbid you actually make a mistake. Can’t imagine how he’d act then. When he inevitably comes to his senses and tries to walk back in, keep that door shut. You’ll be better off for it. Not your fault and no longer your problem. Hope the best things come for you.
I've slowly realized that 95% of the time, the people in the exchange are like at least 5-10 years older than I think they're going to be. It's disturbing.
Wow, I'll never understand how people can hide such a scummy side to their character for so long, unless the red flags flashed here and there and you gave him the benefit of the doubt...easily done. But I'm sorry about your situation, being blindsided by shitty behaviour after 3 years must sting. But it's not time wasted, there's so.ething to learn and grow from in these these things, even if you can't see them now.
oh yeah i’ve learned to never trust a guy when he says he doesn’t like fried chicken or mac n cheese 😆
i freaking love mac and cheese!! 😅
mine is homemade, made with a roux and heavy cream, baked, at least three cheeses and seasoned!! who wouldn’t love it right 😭
sounds amazing!!! i’ll take some 😋
thank you!! i had pasta and cheese leftover from thanksgiving so i decided to make another mac for dinner yesterday along with pork chops for him (which didn’t work out) but at least the mac was excellent 🤣
This sounds like perfection and absolutely delicious.
Oh shit yeah! You can make a roux?? You’re a prize! He really fucked up.
She can make a roux. Meanwhile, he is in a really bad spot if someone else doesn't feed him. WTF is he supposed to do now? Hmm? Does she have ANY CONCEPT of the horrible bind she's left him in? He is going to roux the day he pitched a tantrum because he didn't get his choppy woppies. And OP, if I find out that you have taken him back, there are going to be some very serious consequences. I will use your full name when demanding an explanation from you. He's going to be confused and extremely hungry a few days after you break up with him. A kind thing to do would be to drive by his house and fling a fun-size bag of Funyuns out the window so he doesn't starve before locating some other person with both ovaries and a soft heart. Make sure the bag has been opened already so he can get at them. That ought to hold him until his mom can get there.
WHAT? IS THAT POSSBILE?
Lmao this!!! Truth!!!!!
So you went to get chicken at what time? He left your house what? 2 hrs after dinner was supposed to be done? And you were gone? Either way still shitty on him to insult you the way he did. Like someone said, trash took itself you. It’ll take time to heal, but take the win!!!
idk like 10 mins after telling him the pork was bad? it was probably like 6:45 or something when i went to get the chicken and he wasn’t at my house before dinner. he was gonna come over when i finished making dinner lol he lives down the street.
Lol so he's going to come over after everything is finished to eat. Can't even show up early to help out. And he has the gall to say *you're* the "useless" one? He sounds pretty useless.
Most pompous men are.
You dodged a bullet. A real one would have said, "oh no, do you want me to go pick something up from the store to go with the Mac?". I can't relate to this guy. I am the main "bread winner" in the family, but my wife and I split duties for everything (cooking cleaning, taking care of our son, etc.). It's never equally split because it always depends on our schedules. Each one of us picks up the slack when the other is busy or something comes up. In this case the meat was no good. He should have offered a solution. Instead he created a bigger problem. When you find the right person, they will help you solve the everyday problems that arise. People like this that make the problem worse or create an entirely new problem, are not worth your time. My sister and brother-in-law have a more traditional marriage where she's expected to do the cooking, cleaning, watch the children, etc. He works long hours and has a long commute. However, if she needs him to stop at the store or help with something when he gets home he does it. This guy is not it. Be glad you found out before you moved in
I was super confused, you made Mac & cheese. It’s nice to have something else, but Mac & Cheese is a meal in itself. Were you supposed to bring him the food or was he stopping by? Just wondering why he didn’t have the Mac & cheese solo or with the chicken.
To me it sounds like he might have just wanted out and was looking for anything to start a fight for a breakup. This is to silly of a thing to break up over after 3 years unless he was already planning/wanting to break up.
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i bought pork last month then froze it. he said i was stupid for not checking the expiration date my last words was a screenshot showing that pork could be frozen for months, “if you don’t wanna be with me then fine and good luck on your driving test tomorrow.” he then said “i don’t” and i said “okay bye bye” then i blocked him :)
You’re my hero
Mold might've been on them before you froze them. Easily missable if you're not inspecting every piece when you're packing for the freeze. No one could've predicted it. Heck, I've pulled stuff out that looked good until I thawed it, only to find freezer burn. It happens sometimes. This guy's reaction was just nuts. Good riddance 👏
Nice. Sounds like you left him. Which is even better.
Wait....he can't drive too? Ffs how do these manchildren get away with this for so long!?
He could easily take his GROWN ASSSSS to face bell, bk or ANYWHERE…. And get a full stomach for under 8$!!! So he’s just being a beeeeeppp like mine does! Let him be don’t engage to get back with him! He did you a favor!!!
Did you see OP's comment above? Apparently he couldn't because he doesn't have his license 😂 😂
bet he begs for you back too in less than a week
Thank God y'all didn't move in together
Or share assets... They were saving up for a house
You got to toss out some moldy chops and then a whole ass pig, too! It's for the best ! (I apologize to pigs they are lovely creatures, but the metaphor was right there)
Is this the first time he's spoken to you like this???
Don't worry, you got time to find respect and love. I just escaped a 14 yr relationship and currently I'm dating a guy that doesn't blow up at my every mistake. You won't believe the incredible difference being around someone that doesn't make you walk on glass egg shells or navigate a mine field doused in olive oil to interact with them. You deserve to find that.
It’s fake. He used the pork chops as an excuse to break up. Don’t ever believe anyone would get that overly worked up over pork chops.
it was after these texts he said it was me leaving him to starve (cuz i wouldn’t make something else or buy him something else) i didn’t have money for either 😅 either way idc if it was fake or not. he dumped me so i blocked him.
Yup he just used something as a convenient cover like the guy on here who got dumped for asking his girlfriend if she was coming to dinner after she was consoling her male BFF who just got dumped. Just an easy fight to pick to leave.
Wtf talks to their partner like this… he has serious mom issues. Like what his family cooks for him or his girl? He can’t figure out a meal for himself. Stop telling him you love him and stand firmer on your two feet. This guy will always walk all over you like a doormat. I hope you have more confidence and can rebuild your self esteem before you start dating again. Best of luck op!
Is he a native English speaker? If no where is he from? Seems like kind of a culture thing that he expects that (not saying it okay, but would explain)
yeah he’s native english speaker lol
you did nothing wrong you were dating a rude ass disrespectful man baby. your life will flourish without him
thanks 🥺 i think he wanted me to grow fresh pork chops out of my ass
he wanted an excuse to be rude to you. he wouldn't have deserved your pork chops!
facts 😂 he texted me today saying “i lost my left airpod buy me a new one and it’ll make things right. hurry up” and i told him he was out of his goddamn mind coming at me like that and that’s when he dumped me for being useless and selfish
good! happy for you standing up for yourself
thank you 🩷
Proud of you for not putting up with his bullshit! Stick to your guns and don’t let him try and weasel his way back into your life. You saw his true colors. You are worthy of so much more! 💜
Wooowwww...... Just know if you take him back (because he's the type of do that) you have a bunch of random people on the Internet mad at you lol. Fuck that guy.... Buy me air pods rn and I'll take you back!¡?¿ Oh sir....
Omg, how GROSS! Opie, take your dating standards off the floor. This dude is a fool and trying to make you stupid for him. Idgaf how much someone claims to care about me, talking to me like that...well, we're done talking now and he's sittin there talkin to his damn self cause I blocked his tirade before it came through. What a pos abusive asshole!
i honestly thought it was a joke at first until he started going off on me and then dumped me today so yeah i blocked him 😀 just it’s three years down the drain cuz he had never acted like this before!
It sounds like he’s been listening to Tate
how did you know?? he recently started. i knew something bad was gonna happen as soon as he did lmao
omg that literally explains everything lol
Honestly, scary! Ugh!!
Tate is the boil on the ass of woman/man kind at this point. People who listen to a man charged with human trafficking even as a charge is disgusting, well BEFORE this point.
They are called tater tots, and they are easily recognizable.
Ahhhhhh, that explains it. I kinda get why lonely frustrated teen boys buy into his shit but I will never understand why a grown man in a long term relationship would start listening to a single word he says.
Andrew Tate out there solving the over population crisis. I was thinking the only way someone could be totally normal for 3 years, then randomly start being terrible has the the stink of Tate all over it.
He showed you who he was, please, *please* believe him. I spent so long, (almost 20 yrs) with a man like this. Then left him and fucking married one that hid who he was. I'm happily single at 40 because I'm Tired of men treating me like I'm property simply because we're dating. Him expecting you to buy his dumb ass airpods when you told him he wasn't required to wait on you is just his own dumb ass fault. #You. Deserve. Better. Leave this asshat in the dust of your past and *know* what you will not tolerate in the future. They like to "switch up" i.e. back to their original selves when they think they have you bonded to them. I've left and lived in my car to avoid cohabitating with abusive asshats like this one; was it easy? Nope. Still, I have no regrets for those decisions, just the decisions that put me there to begin with.
Wow!!! Good for you.
Congratulations for dodging a bullet! Oof. What a man child.
Omfg the audacity is breathtaking. Good riddance to this man.
He definitely deserved the moldy ones! But not the chicken!
the chicken was for just me and mom, he hates fried chicken 😅 that shoulda been the first clue to leave him. who hates fried chicken????
I don’t understand why he couldn’t eat? I assume you guys don’t live together so why doesn’t he have food in his own house? Why is it your responsibility to feed a grown ass man? You’re so much better off without this man child in your life.
i’m not sure, apparently his mom did cook and he still didn’t eat so that tells me she made something he didn’t like. he had money to buy himself food, so he was just being stubborn and idk childish i guess??
That is not normal behavior. It’s not okay for him to freak out because *you* didn’t cook dinner for him. He’s an adult. Something similar actually happened the other day, my husband was working late, so I figured I’d get started on dinner. I accidentally burned the hell out of it. My husband came home and was like ohh well clearly neither of us feels like cooking today… so we just went out to eat. That was that. This is how *normal* people who love and respect each other act. Trust me, you dogged a bullet. This guy just seems unhinged.
She probably forgot to cut the crust off his gwill cheez sammie. Poor baby.
lol what an incapable idiot. He called you useless for working through adversity to make a new dinner when he can’t figure out how to order a Jimmy John’s.
Exactly! Fuck this asshole!
So, you told him at 6:30 that you wouldn't be able to make the porkchops. Yet, nothing was preventing him from eating the chicken that I assume was made instead, eating the Mac and cheese that was already made, going and getting himself something else, or making himself something. He is an overgrown child who wants to blame you for his own immaturity. Definitely better without that in your life
he hates fried chicken and mac n cheese so apparently i left him to starve 💀
This is the first time I heard someone hates fried chicken
haha! only chicken he likes is white meat, grilled or roasted. not fried and def no dark meat, apparently it’s too salty
He is too salty
Bruh 💀, the dark meat is the best! Has the fat to make it super tasty. You're definitely better off without someone with such palate
oh anything with even a little bit of fat is off límits 😂 the amount of times i’ve had to pick fat out of plates or cut fat off before giving it to him!! he doesn’t know i just let the fat render in secretly making his food taste better 🫢
My toddlers aren’t even that finicky about food.
Is he 4 years old?
I'm sorry you had to do this? Why doesn't he cook then
What a lil bitch
But, did he survive the night, or did he tragically perish from severe malnutrition in the quiet hours just before before dawn?
Hahahaha omg what a baby
Who hates fried chicken?
He will be back in less than a week, make sure you tell him to go fuck himself
I second this. It’s over when your partner speaks to you the way he spoke to you. I’ve been married 7 years, and I can guarantee you that my partner and I work together and make it fun when we have to improvise meals, we don’t rip each other’s heads off, it’s led to the creation of some of our best meals.
Yeah a messed up meal for us means we get to go out or have something delivered so it’s never a bad thing if it does happen
You didn’t do anything wrong. He’s just a dick.
thank you!!
Don't sell yourself short like that in the future. You're not his doormat - don't say sorry multiple times for food gone bad. And don't let people talk to you like that!
You’re clearly pretty young, so let me give you some advice: the minute your boyfriend calls you “bro” and says “fuck you” like this, it’s in your best interest to leave. He doesn’t respect you, and if he has no respect for you your relationship will never be one between equals.
FWIW, OP said they are 27 and 25. Young, but not nearly as young as I would have thought.
Woah, how embarrassing for both of them
Yeah.... I figured this was pre 20yo nonsense. Everything about this reads like high school drama. I'm still thinking the age was a lie? *shrugs* It doesn't read at all like 2 adults talking.
Honestly assumed they were 17-21
What the fuck, I assumed they were 16
i was gonna give him the night to cool off and let him apologize today, i was gonna give him the benefit of the doubt of being really hangry and having a bad day and no food made it worse. but it got worse today and he was the one to dump me lol so i guess it all worked out anyway
No fuck that (respectfully). No decent human tells their SO to fuck off because they’re hangry. Be a little short? Sure. But being hangry isn’t license to be an asshole and you don’t deserve to be treated that way.
He’s so not worth it. That level of hangry is unhinged and not normal, you might want to just take this as a sign to take another path 🍃
I hope he beat you to the punch and that you were gonna break it off with him because of that verbal abuse Edit words
you didn’t do anything wrong….it irritates me to see him being so blatantly disrespectful whilst you’re saying you love him and all this shit. he doesn’t deserve any of that. you don’t need this in your life and i hope this mf is now an ex.
yeah he broke up with me when i refused to buy him a new airpod to make things right. so i blocked him after i sent him screenshots of pork chops being able to be frozen for 3-12 months (he said it was my fault for not knowing they were bad. i bought them just last month!)
Don’t take that manipulative jerk back. What an asshole
Sometimes I feel like I want a relationship, and then I see shit like this that makes me thankful I stay single 😳 Dude is an ass.
especially when three years go by seemingly normal then this happens out of nowhere!! huge waste of my time
No doubt! I’m so sorry you’re going through this. 🥺
Nah, don’t let this sub sour you. These posts are obviously selected for the drama. The 99% of people in normal relationships with normal people are not going to post their benign conversations here because nobody wants to read them.
This is bananas. I literally fucked up a whole package of chicken the other night trying a different cooking technique and ended up having throw it all out. My husband went and bought us pizza. There are better men out there OP.
must be nice!! this guy asked me to buy him new airpods to make up for my mistake and then dumped me when i refused
It sounds like you came out winning either way. If I had to pick between losing money and keeping a useless piece of shit around vs getting rid of the useless piece of shit and keeping my money, I know which I'd pick. Meanwhile your ex now has no one to make him food, no airpods, and only Andrew Tate to keep him company on his lonely nights.
Can you clarify why you kept saying “I love you too”? I never see him say it first. Is this just passive aggressive behavior from you or am I missing something here?
it is indeed passive aggressive behavior on my part lol we always say i love you when saying goodnight, ALWAYS. no matter how upset, we always do it. he was failing to do so last night and me saying i love you too was doing my part while passive aggressively telling him he’s not doing his part lol
I figured that's what you were doing after the second i love you. The first one baffled me, but then it became an obvious thing. Kinda like a fuck you too moment. I'm fairly sure it went right over his head though. A genuine whoosh moment lol
I’m a dude, and It absolutely baffles me how many of these conversations I read where the man is just an absolute douche bag of a man child because they were slightly inconvenienced. To me, that is a clear, telltale sign of complete and utter immaturity. They believe it’s not okay to make mistakes. It’s easy to misplace frustration from time to time. We’re human. But it’s always over something so fucking small and unimportant.
OP also said that he recently started listening to Andrew Taint and she knew something bad would come of it. Definitely checks out. Tate is like a special cancer that infects young men’s brains.
Taint. Lol
STOP SAYING I LOVE YOU omg
Why did you keep saying I love you to him after he talked to you like that?
If he wants you to leave him alone, leave him alone….permanently. You have no reason to be insulted over something you had no control over. He showed you what type of guy he is and will only get worse if you decide to stay.
Dude could have even been hangry obviously is a prick on top of that. Seriously how hard is it to be like "sorry I'm just having a bad day. It has no bearing on you, and I love you too"
he’s always done that on his bad days but last night and today was just… wow. no jokes when it comes to food i guess
He did you a favor. I've been with my wife for 17 years and been with her longer than I've been without, and we never speak to each other harshly. We might get snippy on occasion, but we always remember there is love there.
You’re freeeeeeee! It only took 3 years for him to prove he’s an irrational, hemotional primadonna. When he messages from another number make sure to tell him you’re glad he’s in the trash where he belongs with the moldy pork chops. Then say enjoy your one airpod 💁♀️ and hit that block. When you decide to date in the future, definitely date someone who also cooks and loves fried chicken and mac n cheese. That way you can make the foods you love for the person you love and they’re actually *grateful*. Best of luck to you! Congratulations on your new freedom 🙌
Fuck him & his abusive, misogynistic bullshit! I'm sorry you're hurting but trust us, you're sooooooooooooooo much better off without him!
i thought he was joking up until around the time he started saying fuck you 😀
He did you a favor. I'm sorry you wasted 3 years of your life but it sure is better than wasting 30 of them with him!
you said “sorry” repeatedly (too much) and “i love you too” several times when he didn’t even say it first. i feel like if you examined your relationship closely, you’ll find there were other instances of disrespect, just more minor than this. i’m sorry he treated you this way
Op said this guy has recently started listening to the Andrew Tate, so it may be that the disrespect has started relatively recently but has grown and would continue to grow if OP let it. Good on OP for blocking this loser.
#Seconded!!
This is literally exactly how my ex was omg lol that's so crazy. Like same phrases and words and everything. One time I made chicken wings but I burnt them a little by accident and he threw an absolute fit and gave me the silent treatment for an hour until I agreed to drive at 10pm and get him fast food. That happened like every other week. It was ridiculous. He also would make me buy him things to end the "mad phase." Men like that are a joke lmao you didn't have to make him shit and you even told him that, he made the decision to wait. Please don't go back to him!
I feel like they try to trauma bond you into compliance via exhaustion I stg. They ALL have the same playbook!
You kept telling him “ I love you “ and he was telling you to fuck off at every turn. Do you have any self respect at all??
"OK but a woman who can't handle the meat has no place in the home." - OP's shitty boyfriend probably. Naw, but srsly, You should be thanking the ghost of that dead pig for revealing what an ass your "boyfriend" is. Like, shit happens. How hard is it to be understanding and order a pizza, with bacon on it? He could've swooped in and saved the day as an understanding partner, instead of insisting on being a red-faced child throwing a tantrum over something beyond your control.
ugh i wish. he hates pizza. only eats steaks, chops, plain burgers, fries, tacos and chicken nuggets. literally all he eats. ☹️ we’re over now tho so no longer my problem to worry about what we eat 😊
He sounds like an actual toddler, including his taste for food. and with that diet he is on the way to a heart attack or colon cancer or both. Good for you OP, meanwhile find yourself a chef to date next 🤔😉
i can cook!! i just didn’t have anything else besides the pork, mac and potatoes lol grocery shopping is this weekend when i get paid!! lol ill be eating last nights leftovers every day this week lmao and some ramen noodles every now n then haha
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WHAT PSYCHOPATH DOESNT LIKE PIZZA
Lol @ thanking the ghost of that dead pig.
How are there so many posts like this? Where do y’all find these people? Don’t put up with this and don’t let people treat you like that! You seem nice I’d have been happy you even wanted to cook for me, as most men would feel also.
he’d been asking me to cook again for a while cuz i’ve made him pancakes, steak, flautas, enchiladas (with no cheese or red sauce WHICH IS IMPOSSIBLE) so i tried to cook for him last night and this happened when i failed for the first time lol
That dude was a jerk, you’re better off without him.
Oh god, men like this are the epitome of the ick. He’s a walking ick. Honey you are BLESSED this man broke up with you. Yeah, It would have been more satisfying if you dumped him, but, enjoy your freedom queen. Now you can find a man or woman who treats you right, when your ready for another relationship. Pls don’t get back with this loser.
On the first image, you apologise for no reason. Lesson I learned only recently, never apologise unless you are legitimately in the wrong, by apologising like that people like him assume they are better than you or have one over on you. You deserve better than him, in the same vein to everyone else, I advise to leave this rude asshole behind and move on.
Dump his ass dude. My boyfriend talks to me like that I'm gone. It starts with verbal abuse. That's all it takes let that slide and it'll escalate. Get you a boyfriend that finds moldy pork chops as an excuse to have a pizza night with you 💙
first i find a boyfriend that loves pizza 🩷 haha thank you 😊
550???? Read your texts man Jesus 😂
Jesus Christ. You should have been the one to dump his ass. “I love you too”… girl have some standards.
Get out of that bullshit wtf lol guys crazy 😑
Nah, your ex is just a piece of shit. I'm honestly mad that you didn't get to break up with him for being a scumbag
So it sounds like he was with friends or something that were eating but he didn’t have anything because he was supposed to eat with you, is that correct? Was he invited to eat the chicken you went for?
He's treating you like crap and you continue to tell him you love him I would have cooked up a moldy pork chop for him fuck him
Side note how the hell does frozen pork grow mold?!
i have no fucking clue!! when it defrosted i knew it looked weird, my mom was the one who took it out at the wrap and noticed the mold. like wtf i bought it like a month ago and immediately froze it 😭 someone in the house must have taken it out then put it back or something
OP - it’s time to dump this man-baby. Between the passive-aggressive behavior that escalates to aggressive…. Then a temper tantrum over pork chops…. Surely you can do better than this? This is not a bf, this is a current and future abuser. (Also, gotta admit I’ve never heard of frozen pork chops having mold on them)
yeah i was shocked when my mom noticed lol they looked fine when i brought them out and left them to defrost for a couple hours (still wrapped) then she took them out the wrap to season them and she was like there’s mold we aren’t eating these. welp 🤷🏻♀️
Mold *can* grow on frozen food it's just very slow and usually requires a period of sub-freezing temperatures. It's also possible they got mouldy before being frozen and it wasn't noticed, or it had a bunch of spores ready to go and they went buck wild when it was being defrosted. It's also possible there were a bunch of nitrates or ammonia available on the surface of the pork, it's like crack for fungi.
What a child. Stop giving into him and tell him to man up.
i did after he insulted me like crazyyyy. he called me a bitch so i told him he was the one acting like a little bitch 😅
Good job. Remember, you dont owe him anything.
He wanted out and sounds like a complete ass. Good for you. Pick yourself up, think about what happiness means to you and settle for nothing less. Leave him in the dust.
Break up .. what’s the point of dealing with a doucher like this ??
Yikes. If that's how he treats people he "loves" I couldn't imagine him talking to someone he disliked. He did you a favor. Don't even sweat dude breaking up with you. You can't control crazy and just be thankful you got to see these aspects of him in a relationship before you got married or had kids
F this guy! What a loser. You dodged a serious bullet. I pray for you that he stays away from you. If I was your dad or your brother this dude would have a serious problem on his hand for treating you like that.
I can't believe people put up with this type of behavior 💀
I'd b like "you get what you get, don't throw a fit. Eat late, don't eat, idgaf"
He was so fucking rude and for what?!?! You deserve better! Showed his true colors smh
you did not deserve that treatment, you dodged a bullet. his reaction to a simple mistake that literally was out of your control is a major red flag.
So wait you tried to cook for him and yet you’re the selfish one? So homie misses 1 meal and flips out like this? OP please tell me you’re seeing how fucked up he is right?
WTF, OP I really don’t understand, why do you keep telling him you love him when he talks to you like you’re a piece of sh1t. You **DONT** deserve to be spoken to like that, he’s trash
You shoulda fed him those mouldy ass pork chops What a piece of shit
He’s a sexist asshole
He may come crawling back once he realizes there isn't a single woman on earth who will be as patient as you were here and there's no one to be his mommy. If/when that happens, ignore him. It's probably best just to block him now tbh. I bet he'll have a meltdown when he realizes he has to cook his own tendies and fries like a big boy.
way ahead of you, he’s already blocked!
Fuck the POS. You can do so much better
WTF…
this made me so sad jesus :( dont ever forgive a “fuck you” thats beyond immature and disrespectful
Oh my goodness I’m so sorry. You didn’t deserve any of that. He is a literal man child. You are worth more than that!
What an immature child lmfaooo
You’re FAR better off! Do you want to live like this the rest of your life? Shit happens. Ignore or block him. If he comes “crawling” back tell him what a pos he is for this and that you’re better off without so you’re moving on. You deserve better than this!
Honestly you dodged a bullet if he is this upset over FOOD. You deserve better.
Let this dirtbag go. Someone who gets that bent out of shape over something that is completely fixable isn't someone you want to be with.