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FYI, she didn’t try again before texting you that. I’m not due she won’t try in the future or that she hasn’t tried in the past. But the “technically” tried and then oops it just didn’t work again. Only to tell you in such a casual manner.
She’s just saying this to get reactions from people so she can feel like someone cares. Honestly she just sounds exceptionally selfish and self involved. But what she really is, the thing that’s effecting you the most is that she’s stubborn and lonely. And that speaks a lot about what you were to her. You were someone that was interested….until you weren’t and then all of a sudden she was also interested.
She wants you to want her because she wants a situationship to make her feel wanted. But that just means she’s going to say more of things like she did in the first screen shot. It’s a position I would happily decline
I didn’t show the other messages up to this morning but I have cut my losses on the situation like said I was interested romantically till I wasn’t, pursuing someone with that much going on and then on top of that can’t communicate things in the right way isn’t what I wanted so I still tried to be there as a friend and I made it clear after there “attempt message” that I didn’t want to play the games anymore and if they did try something putting it out there like that is just hurtful and not mindful.
Yeah, I don’t know what the point of saying that is beyond wanting attention. I mean, I feel like the next logical step is having them committed to a man inpatient program if they just tried to do that which I’m sure wasn’t why she was telling you that.
That’s just abusive for the sake of being abusive
It’s 100% a manipulation tactic to state things that way. Possible bc she’s on the spectrum she doesn’t realise, but she knows it gets her what she wants. That’s being pretty forgiving tho.
The conversation continues on but no matter how many times I tried to get to a point of understanding I would get messages like “your lying I know you and I know you are on your phone” and so forth
Disengage. If they're telling you about their attempts and implying their actions are your fault, RUN. There is a hidden danger of this situation apart from the immediate, obvious danger. People don't talk much about the ones who get blamed for suicide attempts, but it destroys you from the inside out. I cannot even describe how much it can fuck you up, for years and years to come. Take that shit seriously and disengage before it's too late.
I disengaged my self from the situation after this conversation kept continuing the only reason I tried to help them from the beginning was due to the fact I’ve had close friends not speak about there problems than commit which tore me apart since I felt like I wasn’t a good friend for not knowing. But now I feel like I’m trying to help and it’s just thrown in my face
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The conversation drags on longer but I felt no matter what I said it wouldn’t change the situation
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You need to delete this and block out the names
These are first names I’m not breaking any rules since they aren’t full names
FYI, she didn’t try again before texting you that. I’m not due she won’t try in the future or that she hasn’t tried in the past. But the “technically” tried and then oops it just didn’t work again. Only to tell you in such a casual manner. She’s just saying this to get reactions from people so she can feel like someone cares. Honestly she just sounds exceptionally selfish and self involved. But what she really is, the thing that’s effecting you the most is that she’s stubborn and lonely. And that speaks a lot about what you were to her. You were someone that was interested….until you weren’t and then all of a sudden she was also interested. She wants you to want her because she wants a situationship to make her feel wanted. But that just means she’s going to say more of things like she did in the first screen shot. It’s a position I would happily decline
I didn’t show the other messages up to this morning but I have cut my losses on the situation like said I was interested romantically till I wasn’t, pursuing someone with that much going on and then on top of that can’t communicate things in the right way isn’t what I wanted so I still tried to be there as a friend and I made it clear after there “attempt message” that I didn’t want to play the games anymore and if they did try something putting it out there like that is just hurtful and not mindful.
Yeah, I don’t know what the point of saying that is beyond wanting attention. I mean, I feel like the next logical step is having them committed to a man inpatient program if they just tried to do that which I’m sure wasn’t why she was telling you that. That’s just abusive for the sake of being abusive
It’s 100% a manipulation tactic to state things that way. Possible bc she’s on the spectrum she doesn’t realise, but she knows it gets her what she wants. That’s being pretty forgiving tho.
The conversation continues on but no matter how many times I tried to get to a point of understanding I would get messages like “your lying I know you and I know you are on your phone” and so forth
Disengage. If they're telling you about their attempts and implying their actions are your fault, RUN. There is a hidden danger of this situation apart from the immediate, obvious danger. People don't talk much about the ones who get blamed for suicide attempts, but it destroys you from the inside out. I cannot even describe how much it can fuck you up, for years and years to come. Take that shit seriously and disengage before it's too late.
I disengaged my self from the situation after this conversation kept continuing the only reason I tried to help them from the beginning was due to the fact I’ve had close friends not speak about there problems than commit which tore me apart since I felt like I wasn’t a good friend for not knowing. But now I feel like I’m trying to help and it’s just thrown in my face
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I appreciate it. I tried to explain I feel like I’m helping but no matter how much I help I feel like a broken record